LOVE AT HOME

UPDATED episode 1: The bucket We lose our power when we believe that others can fill or take from our emotional buckets. We know that we are "agents to act and not to be acted upon" and as such we can learn to take responsibility for our own buckets.

How often do you find yourself saying, "this is so hard!" Sometimes in life we have to have to do hard things and hate way we approach it makes a huge difference in our lives and what we create for ourselves. Tune in today to hear two questions to ask yourself when those "this is so hard" times come up for you.

Every single one of us struggles with something. We each have our own unique trials and "pain" that we're experiencing but sometimes, a lot of the time, we minimize our pain. We tell ourselves we shouldn't feel that way because it's not as "big" as others but this doesn't diminish what you're feeling. Today I want to bring to light that the pain you are feeling is REAL. It is valid and it's worth looking at.

Why is saying NO SO. STINKING. HARD? Saying no is an important skill to learn so that you can show up genuine in your relationships without fear and seeds of resentment blooming. When you can master this skill of saying no you can live a true authentic life full of love, for them and for you! On this episode I teach you why it's so difficult and how you can overcome that. I share with you an easy way to say no and still be able to not only keep those friends but also help the friendship to thrive on a deeper level.

Today, I want to introduce a concept of unconditional love. Simply put, unconditional love is LOVE without condition. It’s loving without expecting the other person to do anything. It’s loving without NEEDING them to be a certain way, to show up a certain way, to do a certain thing, to be there for you, to talk to you, to listen to you, to follow you, to agree with you, right? There are no conditions when we talk about unconditional love. Love feels the best. When you feel loving you show up as your best self. Your choices reflect your best self and you end up creating more love. I invite you to try it out, to make an effort to love unconditionally today, see how amazing it feels. Hop on over to the podcast and listen in.

In today's episode I teach you what self-confidence IS and what it is NOT. I teach you that you don't have to go out and DO anything, that you don't have to BUY a single thing, or lose a single pound. You don't have to look a certain way, or have any kind of a degree or status. You, just as YOU are right now, without having to change your circumstances CAN learn how to become a confident person. How different would your life be if you had rock solid confidence? Ready to dive in and learn more?

When you think about your life, your past, your story we tend to reside on one of three levels. Tune in this week to find out which level you're currently on, which level offers you the most freedom, and which level you WANT to be on. LOVE AT HOME, the podcast with LDS Life Coach Hannah Coles

We all have a past. The question is, is your past weighing you down? Do you allow your past to define you? Do you define others from their actions or inactions of the past? In this episode we explore what the past IS, how you can DROP limiting beliefs that stem from your past experiences, and how to move FORWARD no matter what happened to you. Join me today on LOVE AT HOME.

This week I walk you through the essential concept of learning to take responsibility for EVERYTHING in your life because when you take responsibility for it, it's yours, yours to change, yours to up level, yours to do with as you please. Doesn't that sound better than blaming others and WAITING for them to fix it? Listen in.

We're too obsessed with HAVING things instead of the process of getting them. We want the house, the clothes, the friends already without having to work for them. We want the song already learned, the grade already an A, the relationship perfect but we don't want to wade through the middle to get there. We get impatient with ourselves and frustrated that we're not there "YET". It's exhausting and expends a lot of energy. This week learn to LOVE the process instead of solely focusing on the PRODUCT.

Sometimes it can seem like other people "made" us mad or "made" us upset. We can be having a fantastic day and we talk to one person that is angry and now you're angry. It feels like they "made" you upset because you weren't upset before and you are now. But the biggest and scariest problem with this belief is that you don't have control over how you feel. You never know what kind of a day you're going to have because who knows who you'll meet and what mood they'll be in. In this episode I'm going to talk to you about a concept called, Mirroring Emotions. I'm going to teach you how to feel how YOU want to feel even if others are angry, upset, or negative. You do have control. You have ALL your power. Listen in to learn more.

As we go about our lives we're only given little fragments of the whole picture. We get looks, we get words in conversations, but we don't get the full story. We don't know what's behind their words, their looks, what their motives are so we start telling ourselves a story. We fill in the blanks. We are master story tellers and sometimes - a lot of the time we get ourselves into all kinds of trouble with the tales we tell. In this week's episode learn how to separate what's real - what's FACT vs what's fiction and how to spin your interpretation in a way that ultimately serves you.

It's Christmas season and there's a lot of thoughts around gift giving. Did we make sure to get Grandma a gift? We try and think about what they would like - but today's episode is a little different. I want you to turn inward and ask yourself what you really want. I'm not talking about a new pool or a new car - I'm talking about what you really, really want, to feel loved, connected, confident, understood, secure, joyful, and complete. Ready to give yourself the gift you really want?

When most people hear the word December they quickly think, Christmas but when I hear the word December I think GOALS! On today's podcast episode I share why I start my 2019 goals, my focus word, and my annual overall check up in DECEMBER. It's a great system to adopt. If you want to have a great year, start by having a GREAT DECEMBER! Listen in to hear why

This week on the podcast I share my GO TO tool when I need a quick emotional makeover. Practicing this tool will CHANGE you. You'll be amazed at how quickly your frown will be turned upside down when you practice this tool deliberately and openly. Go check it now!

Why is it that you could be having an amazing day and then one person makes one negative comment and the whole day is ruined? Even if everyone else that day complimented you and said wonderful things, we're still prone to focus on that ONE comment! This week on the podcast I introduce a term called the Negativity Bias that explains why we're more sensitive to the negative and why those moments tend to stick around so long.

This week on the podcast I'm bringing you why it's so devestating when people or even just one person doesn't like us. I talk about why we feel like we NEED to liked in the first place, what we make it mean when they don't like us, and how we can be okay with letting others be themselves always - even if that means they don't like us.

Most of us don't identify as a victim yet find ourselves frustrated and feeling stuck either with people or other circumstances. In this episode I uncover the "dirty dozen". Ways we put ourselves in victim mentality, why it's a problem, and how you can set yourself free.

There are three types of roles we portray in our lives: The Giver, The Taker, and the Matcher. We all think (or would like to think) that we're givers. Giving feels so good but more often than not, we fall into the category of the MATCHER. Listen in to see if this fits you, how it shows up in your life, and what this means for you and what kind of life you're creating for yourself and your family.

Every single human being has needs but more often than not we expect these needs to be filled by another human being. This belief gets us into a world of trouble, pain, and frustration because we can't control what other people will or will not do. In this episode I teach you the difference between wanting and needing and then how to make sure you get everything you need - always, without having to rely on any on else or their agency.