The Addicted Mind Podcast

In this episode of The Addicted Mind Plus, hosts Duane Osterlind and Eric Osterlind explore the transformative power of routines in recovery. They discuss how establishing a daily routine can bring stability to the chaotic early and mid-stages of recovery, and how it can even benefit long-term wellness. By setting a routine, individuals can reduce anxiety, improve sleep cycles, and create a positive structure that supports their goals. The hosts also debunk common myths about routines and provide practical tips to overcome roadblocks. Whether you’re just starting your recovery journey or looking to strengthen your long-term stability, this episode offers valuable insights and actionable advice. Download the eBook “Stability Routine for Early Recovery: Transforming Chaos into a Safe Daily Routine” Key Topics Importance of setting a daily routine in recovery Debunking myths about routines being boring and rigid Simple steps to start a routine and keep it flexible Addressing roadblocks like negative self-talk and burnout The role of accountability in maintaining a routine Key Moments 1. [00:01:00] - Introduction to the topic of routines in recovery 2. [00:02:00] - Definition and benefits of a routine 3. [00:03:29] - The importance of a morning routine 4. [00:05:30] - Debunking myths about routines 5. [00:08:56] - Flexibility and simplicity in routines 6. [00:11:00] - Overcoming roadblocks in setting routines 7. [00:13:47] - The importance of accountability Link: https://addicted-mind.ck.page/5c1c8cf147 Follow and Review: We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast. Supporting Resources: If you live in California and are looking for counseling or therapy please check out Novus Mindful Life Counseling and Recovery Center NovusMindfulLife.com We want to hear from you. Leave us a message or ask us a question: https://www.speakpipe.com/addictedmind Disclaimer Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Fifteen years sober and radiating resilience, Dr. Samantha Harte joins Duane to recount her transformative journey through the depths of addiction to the shores of recovery. With raw honesty, she opens up about the emotional wreckage in her wake, and the intense pressures that drove her to seek healing. Her story, illuminated further in her book "Breaking the Circuit," serves as a beacon of hope and a guide for those seeking to rewire their lives for joy in the aftermath of trauma.  Samantha bravely shares the complexities of mending a marriage scarred by infidelity and the personal demons of dependency. Duane’s reflections on solitude and the path to self-soothing weave through the conversation, highlighting the vigorous inner work required to heal the wounds of self-abandonment. Samantha's voice underscores the potent necessity of forgiveness, not only towards others but starting within – as we navigate the delicate process of rebuilding trust and fostering genuine self-compassion.  This episode isn't just an exploration of the recovery landscape – it's a deep acknowledgment of the human struggle against guilt, shame, and the inner critic that so often hinders our progress. Additionally, Samantha’s perspectives on motherhood and the evolving journey of sobriety, especially among Gen Z, offer a fresh take on the traditional 12-step program, inviting listeners to harness their pain for a higher purpose. Join us as we chart the challenging yet rewarding expedition from the throes of addiction to the light of self-discovery and authentic living. In this episode, you will hear: Overcoming trauma and finding recovery Finding faith in recovery through sponsorship Confronting the reality of addiction Struggling with authenticity and self-abandonment Navigating adversity and soul care Follow and Review: We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast. Supporting Resources: https://www.drsamanthaharte.com/ NovusMindfulLife.com Episode Credits If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Emerald City Productions. They helped me grow and produce the podcast you are listening to right now. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com Let them know we sent you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of The Addicted Mind, hosts Duane and Eric Osterlind explore the profound connection between grief and addiction recovery. Using Elizabeth Kübler-Ross' five stages of grief—denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance—they discuss how these stages apply to the emotional process of giving up an addiction. Many people don't realize that overcoming addiction involves grieving the loss of the substance that has been a significant part of their lives. By understanding and embracing these stages, individuals can move more effectively through their recovery journey. Tune in to learn how recognizing and processing grief can lead to a deeper sense of acceptance and a more fulfilling life in recovery. Download here “NAVIGATING GRIEF AND LOSS IN RECOVERY” Join us and register for our Q&A Deep Dive session here. Key Topics The five stages of grief and their application to addiction recovery The hidden grief of giving up addiction Emotional challenges and identity loss in recovery The non-linear nature of the grief process Tools and support for navigating grief in recovery Key Moments 1. [00:01:00] Introduction to the topic of grief in recovery 2. [00:02:00] Discussion on the grief of giving up an addiction 3. [00:04:00] Explanation of the five stages of grief 4. [00:06:30] Deep dive into the anger stage and its impact 5. [00:09:00] Exploring the depression stage and identity loss 6. [00:11:30] Moving towards acceptance and its significance in recovery 7. [00:14:10] Announcement of the worksheet and deeper dive session Follow and Review: We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple ‘+’ in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast. Supporting Resources: If you live in California and are looking for counseling or therapy please check out Novus Mindful Life Counseling and Recovery Center NovusMindfulLife.com We want to hear from you. Leave us a message or ask us a question: https://www.speakpipe.com/addictedmind Disclaimer Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When the cheering crowds and the stadium lights fade, what remains for a former NFL superstar? Dominique Easley’s meteoric rise to football fame was rivaled only by the depth of his personal struggles. From Staten Island to the heights of Super Bowl victory, Dominique's narrative is a stark reminder of the thin line between professional success and personal turmoil.  On this episode, Duane speaks with Dominique who shares his powerful journey through addiction, mental health battles, and a profound spiritual awakening. This episode offers an unflinching look at the burdens of public perception, as Dominique candidly discusses the significance of embracing vulnerability and the transformative impact of spirituality on his life. His conversion to Islam during his NFL career marked the beginning of an intensive internal quest that challenged him to confront intergenerational trauma and seek healing. Dominique's willingness to share his story opens up a much-needed dialogue on mental health awareness, especially within the black community – emphasizing empathy and honest communication as pathways to understanding and resilience.  Dominique also delves into the complexities of navigating racism in America, reflecting on his transition from the diversity of New York to the overt bigotry he encountered in the South. His experiences, shared with raw authenticity, not only chart a path of personal growth but also offer valuable insights for listeners grappling with similar issues, underscoring the importance of treating others with thoughtful consideration and respect. In this episode, you will hear: Struggles with mental health and addiction Transformation through football passion Struggle with success and isolation Breaking the cycle of generational trauma Impacts of systemic racism on individuals Follow and Review: We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast. Supporting Resources: https://www.instagram.com/easie91  NovusMindfulLife.com Episode Credits If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Emerald City Productions. They helped me grow and produce the podcast you are listening to right now. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com Let them know we sent you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of “The Addictive Mind Plus,” hosts Duane and Eric Osterlind dive into the transformative power of the Three Circle Plan, a vital tool for those battling both substance and behavioral addictions. They discuss the importance of defining sobriety, identifying risky behaviors, and incorporating positive activities into daily life. By creating a clear and personalized plan, listeners can navigate their recovery journey with greater clarity and confidence. The episode also highlights the launch of a new course designed to help individuals create their own Three Circle Plan, providing step-by-step guidance and support. Get the Course -> Circles of Sobriety: Mastering Your Recovery With the Complete Circle Plan Key Topics Understanding the Three Circle Plan for Addiction Recovery Defining sobriety with the inner circle (red zone) Recognizing warning signs in the middle circle (yellow zone) Incorporating positive behaviors in the outer circle (green zone) Adding a relational component with the fourth circle (blue zone) Timestamp [00:01:00] Introduction to the Three Circle Plan [00:03:00] Defining sobriety with the inner circle [00:07:26] Recognizing warning signs with the middle circle [00:10:04] Incorporating positive behaviors with the outer circle [00:13:58] Importance of writing down your plan [00:15:08] Introducing the fourth circle for relational impact [00:16:46] Details about the new course on creating a circle plan Follow and Review: We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple ‘+’ in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast. Supporting Resources: If you live in California and are looking for counseling or therapy please check out Novus Mindful Life Counseling and Recovery Center NovusMindfulLife.com We want to hear from you. Leave us a message or ask us a question: https://www.speakpipe.com/addictedmind Disclaimer Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How does one confront the silent battles of sex addiction within the LGBTQ community? Brandon Simpson, an associate marriage and family therapist from Novus Mindful Life Institute, joins this conversation to unravel this complex issue, sharing not just professional insights but personal experiences as a gay man. Together, Duane and Brandon shed light on the intersection of intimacy and identity, especially the uphill struggle against a heteronormative bias in therapy that too often overlooks the nuances in gay relationships. Get a glimpse of the shadows where shame and sexuality intertwine, offering a beacon of understanding for those navigating these often-misunderstood waters.  The weight of homophobia on the shoulders of gay men can be crushing, driving many towards sex as a coping mechanism and, potentially, into the throes of addiction. This candid discussion with Brandon uncovers the layers of this reality, diving into the internalized homophobia and the consequent shame that propels an individual into the depths of secrecy. They also tackle the daunting world of dating apps like Grindr, dissecting their role in the complex search for meaningful connections amidst a culture saturated with sexual expectations – a conversation that's as revealing as it is necessary for anyone yearning to grasp the full picture. This episode is not just an examination of the challenges faced by the gay community, but it also celebrates the courage it takes to set boundaries and the transformation that comes with self-discovery. By sharing stories of resilience and change, this episode underscores the importance of supportive networks and the quest for alignment with personal values. It's a conversation that doesn't just affirm the experiences of individuals within the LGBTQ spectrum but also champions the journey towards a more authentic and fulfilling life. Join today’s discussion to affirm the beauty of personal truth – in a world still learning to embrace the full spectrum of human connection. In this episode, you will hear: Challenging heteronormative standards in sex ed Internalized homophobia in the LGBTQ community Navigating stereotypes in gay therapy Navigating pressure in LGBTQ community Navigating friend group boundaries Follow and Review: We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this engaging episode of "The Addictive Mind Plus," hosts Duane and Eric Osterlind explore the transformative concept of meaning-making. Following up on their previous discussion about values, this episode dives deeper into how understanding and aligning with our deepest values can energize our life's journey. The hosts discuss practical strategies from dialectical behavior therapy and insights from Thomas Marra to illustrate how individuals can reshape their lives around what truly matters. Whether you're battling addictions, anxiety, or just seeking deeper fulfillment, this episode offers valuable insights into overcoming life's psychological hurdles through intentional living. Download: THE CREATING MEANING MAKING WORKSHEET Key Topics Integration of Values and Meaning: How values serve as a compass and meaning provides the momentum. Role of Meaning in Mental Health: Exploring its impact on recovery, anxiety, and depression. Strategies for Meaning Making: Practical approaches to integrate meaningful actions into daily life. Challenges to Meaning Making: Common obstacles like fear and disapproval, and how to navigate them. Empowerment through Meaning: Using meaning making to lead a more intentional and satisfying life. Timestamps [00:01:00] Introduction to Meaning Making [00:02:00] How Meaning and Values Interact [00:05:00] Meaning in Relation to Mental Health (Addiction and Depression) [00:08:00] Practical Strategies for Applying Meaning [00:10:00] Discussing Supreme Concerns and Everyday Integration [00:13:00] Overcoming Obstacles in Meaning Making [00:15:00] Conclusion and Resources Follow and Review: We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple ‘+’ in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast. Supporting Resources: If you live in California and are looking for counseling or therapy please check out Novus Mindful Life Counseling and Recovery Center NovusMindfulLife.com We want to hear from you. Leave us a message or ask us a question: https://www.speakpipe.com/addictedmind Disclaimer Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Struggles with alcohol and depression are narratives many may find familiar, but not everyone's story is a journey through the eye of the storm to a place of hope and healing. USMC veteran Jesse Carrajat, our esteemed guest, brings to light his transformation from a high-flying corporate executive to a beacon of wellness through his ventures, Altum Fitness and the Live Deep podcast. His candid conversation unveils the hidden battles against addiction and mental health challenges that he, like many, has faced, and the pivotal moments of clarity that steered him towards sobriety and a profound dedication to helping others.  Amidst the sweat and tears of rebuilding a life marred by trauma, Jesse's tale is one of reclamation, of a spirit once dulled by the weight of responsibility and the grip of substance dependency. He shares the intricacies of navigating life's roles – be it as a husband, father, or business leader – while locked in a duel with personal demons. His commitment to turning the tide, leaving behind a lucrative career to foster a community-focused approach to recovery, resonates as a testament to the power of faith and the unwavering resolve to pursue well-being. As we unpack the science behind Jesse's fitness protocols and his philosophy on life, we reveal the transformative power of combining physical health with emotional support. Hear how Jesse's passion for fitness and his commitment to building a strong, supportive community are key to his recovery strategy, offering a beacon of hope for those navigating the complexities of addiction and mental health challenges. In this episode, you will hear: Jesse's journey from serving in the Marine Corps to becoming a fitness mentor Struggle with addiction and how he found sobriety The role of fitness in his life transformation and recovery process A unique approach to wellness, combining military experience with fitness knowledge Applying lessons and discipline learned from the Marine Corps to personal life Redefining life and wellness through the lens of sobriety and fitness Follow and Review: We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast. Supporting Resources: www.altumfitness.com NovusMindfulLife.com Episode Credits If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Emerald City Productions. They helped me grow and produce the podcast you are listening to right now. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com Let them know we sent you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Join hosts Duane and Eric Osterlind in this enlightening episode of "The Addicted Mind Plus," where they explore the vital role of values in achieving a harmonious and fulfilling life. Understanding and defining your values is likened to setting a rudder on your life's boat, guiding you through the storms of stress, guilt, and dissatisfaction that come from living out of alignment with your true self. The conversation dives deep into how values serve as a North Star, aiding those in recovery or anyone seeking stability to make intentional, value-driven choices rather than reactive ones. This episode is essential for anyone feeling stuck or purposeless, offering practical advice on defining and realigning with what's truly important. Download the worksheet: Building a Life & Recovery Guided by Your Values Worksheet Key Topics - The importance of knowing and aligning with your personal values - How values act as a guiding light in life, preventing feelings of meaninglessness - The dynamic nature of values and the need to reassess them over time - Common pitfalls when values are unclear or unexamined - Practical steps for identifying and living according to your values Key Moments - [00:01:00] Introduction to the importance of values in life - [00:02:00] Discussion on how misaligned values can lead to life dissatisfaction - [00:04:00] The benefits of living a value-driven life in recovery - [00:06:00] How emotional reactions can derail us from our value system - [00:09:00] Strategies for defining and aligning with personal values - [00:11:00] The impact of values on decision-making in various life areas - [00:14:00] Conclusion and resources for further exploration of values Follow and Review: We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple ‘+’ in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast. Supporting Resources: If you live in California and are looking for counseling or therapy please check out Novus Mindful Life Counseling and Recovery Center NovusMindfulLife.com We want to hear from you. Leave us a message or ask us a question: https://www.speakpipe.com/addictedmind Disclaimer Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When life presented an unexpected challenge that shook the foundations of Eric’s world, it was the principles of martial arts that enabled him to regain stability. Duane is delighted to introduce Eric Fisher, a certified counselor and martial artist based in Calgary, AB Canada. In the episode, they delve into how the discipline of martial arts can serve as a formidable ally in combating addiction and as a valuable resource for promoting mental wellness. Eric recounted his transformative journey, illustrating how the balance, discipline, and self-respect he cultivated through martial arts formed the cornerstone of his approach to counseling. Strap on your mental gi as we unpack the metaphorical power of martial arts in grappling with recovery. Eric walks us through the concept of 'thundering uncertainty,' viewing addiction as a formidable opponent and utilizing 'five swords' – affirmations to defend against the battle of addiction. Eric also discusses his application of martial arts in his therapeutic work, where the dojo becomes a training ground not just for physical agility but for emotional resilience.  The parallels between sparring and facing the challenges of recovery reveal a narrative of growth that extends well beyond the mats. For those looking to harness self-mastery and mental wellness, this episode is a testament to the profound impact that the warrior's path can have on the road to healing. In this episode, you will hear: Martial arts in addiction treatment Preparing for uncertainty in martial arts Overcoming introversion in martial arts Writing a book on recovery techniques Follow and Review: We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast. Supporting Resources: https://www.recoveryartscounselling.com/ NovusMindfulLife.com Episode Credits If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Emerald City Productions. They helped me grow and produce the podcast you are listening to right now. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com Let them know we sent you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this vital episode of "The Addicted Mind Plus," Duane and Eric Osterlind dive into the critical topic of relapse prevention and planning. They stress the importance of being proactive rather than reactive when it comes to maintaining sobriety. The duo discusses how a well-thought-out relapse plan can significantly reduce the overwhelming feelings of anxiety and defeat that often accompany recovery. They also emphasize that making a plan during moments of clarity and health is essential. By incorporating practical strategies, such as identifying triggers and outlining coping mechanisms, listeners are equipped with tools to navigate challenging situations effectively. This episode is not only a guide but also an encouragement for anyone struggling with addiction to take control and prepare for the future. Download The Relapse Prevention Planning Worksheet Key Topics The critical importance of a relapse prevention plan Identifying and preparing for triggers The role of emotional and situational awareness in relapse Strategies for immediate response to cravings Building a support network as part of the relapse plan Key Moments [00:01:06] Discussion begins on the significance of relapse prevention. [00:02:22] Explaining the high risk of relapse and the best time to prepare. [00:03:15] The proactive benefits of planning are discussed. [00:06:32] The value of a support network in relapse prevention. [00:10:00] Detailed guidance on creating a personal relapse plan. [00:16:48] Conclusion and resources for listeners to create their own plan. Download link for show notes:  https://addicted-mind.ck.page/5c8f6968ca Follow and Review: We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple ‘+’ in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast. Supporting Resources: If you live in California and are looking for counseling or therapy please check out Novus Mindful Life Counseling and Recovery Center NovusMindfulLife.com We want to hear from you. Leave us a message or ask us a question: https://www.speakpipe.com/addictedmind Disclaimer Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover the transformative journey of overcoming addiction with Cesar Wurm, author of "The Powers of Addiction: Finding Freedom in Acceptance and Recovery." This latest episode delves into Cesar's raw and personal struggle with alcoholism, a battle intensified by the loss of his mother and the pressure of emotional stoicism in his family.  The story unfolds as he recounts a relapse marked by deception at a go-karting event, highlighting the depths of his secret life. Yet, it's through embracing acceptance that Cesar charts a course toward healing, underlining the profound impact that sharing such deeply personal experiences can have on both the speaker and the listener.  Cesar's narrative isn't just about the clutches of addiction; it's also a testament to the power of support and the hard-won victories along the road to recovery. He talks openly about the skepticism he initially held towards groups like Alcoholics Anonymous and the daunting nature of lifelong sobriety. However, it was a heartfelt conversation with his wife that ignited a crucial turning point, one that would lead him to accept his reality and begin the journey of honest healing. Tune in as he sheds more light on self-pity's dangers, honesty's healing potential, and the transformative effect of acceptance. In this episode, you will hear: The depths of self-deception Recognizing and breaking generational trauma Mutual acceptance and courage in recovery Journey to empathy and recovery Overcoming fear to share stories Follow and Review: We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast. Supporting Resources: https://cesarwurm.com NovusMindfulLife.com Episode Credits If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Emerald City Productions. They helped me grow and produce the podcast you are listening to right now. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com Let them know we sent you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you making changes but feeling stuck in your recovery journey? It could be because you're focusing on first-order changes. These are the surface-level adjustments we make – quitting a substance, changing routines – but they don't address the root of the problem. That's where second-order change comes in. This is about digging deeper into your anxieties, past traumas, and the underlying beliefs that drive addictive behaviors. It's a transformation, not just a tweak. Think of it like this: first-order change is running on a treadmill – you're moving, but not getting anywhere. Second-order change is taking the exit ramp and finding a new path.   Second-order change is the key to lasting recovery. So how do you get there? This episode breaks it down and helps you figure out where you might need extra support along the way.   Download: FIRST-ORDER CHANGE VS. SECOND-ORDER CHANGE Key Topics What first-order change is and why it's important early on Second-order change and how it leads to lasting recovery Examples of each type of change How to start that deeper, second-order work The value of therapy or coaching for this transformation Key Moments [00:01:00] – The treadmill trap: Why some changes feel pointless [00:03:00] – Beyond willpower: What if just stopping isn't enough? [00:05:00] – Real-world examples to help you identify your type of change [00:08:00] – When is enough, enough? How to recognize you need deeper work [00:10:00] – The scary (but worthwhile) path to second-order change [00:14:00] – "I can see it in them": Signs you've done the deeper work [00:17:00] – Your action plan: Next steps for leveling up your recovery Follow and Review: We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple ‘+’ in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast. Supporting Resources: If you live in California and are looking for counseling or therapy please check out Novus Mindful Life Counseling and Recovery Center NovusMindfulLife.com We want to hear from you. Leave us a message or ask us a question: https://www.speakpipe.com/addictedmind Disclaimer Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When healing takes center stage, hope is never far behind. Dr. Mark Lasko joins Duane as they step into the conversation space with a heart full of empathy and a wealth of knowledge on the intricate dance of addiction treatment and recovery. Mark’s journey, touched by the struggles of addiction within his own family, has fueled a passion that's evident as we navigate the subject of client-focused care. Mark's insights, derived from his hands-on experience in the criminal justice system, bring to light the deep-seated connection between addiction, family dynamics, and societal impact. He candidly shares how nurturing one person's path to wellness can send waves of healing throughout entire communities – reshaping not only individual lives but the societal fabric as a whole. In our conversation, we explore the Samaritan Recovery Community's mission, where personal connection and community engagement are the cornerstones of healing. Mark and Duane discuss the importance of creating environments that foster long-term recovery, emphasizing the role of alumni networks and monthly client gatherings. These touchpoints form the heart of a compassionate community-based approach, demonstrating that the path to sobriety is about so much more than abstaining – but about finding one's place in the world and forming meaningful relationships. In this episode, you will hear: Client-focused care in addiction treatment Compassionate community-based recovery approach Building compassionate communities in recovery Providing evidence-based care in therapy Barriers to success for homeless individuals  Follow and Review: We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast. Supporting Resources: Samaritan Recovery Community: https://samctr.org/ NovusMindfulLife.com Episode Credits If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Emerald City Productions. They helped me grow and produce the podcast you are listening to right now. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com Let them know we sent you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Join hosts Duane and Eric Osterlind as they explore the profound impact of internal dialogue on recovery and mental wellness in this insightful episode of the Addicted Mind Plus. Discover how the words we tell ourselves can either hinder or help our journey toward healing. Learn practical tips on reshaping self-talk to foster resilience, overcome addiction, and enhance overall well-being. Whether you're looking to break free from negative thought patterns or simply seeking a mental boost, this episode offers valuable insights into the power of language in shaping our lives. Tune in to empower your path to wellness, one word at a time. Key Topics: The significant role of internal dialogue in recovery Differences between thoughts and internal monologues How changing language can alter emotional responses Common myths about self-talk and how to overcome them Practical tips for reshaping narrative to support mental health Key Moments: [00:01:00] Introduction to the power of language in recovery [00:02:01] Discussion on internal monologues vs. abstract thoughts [00:04:00] The influence of internal dialogue on emotional regulation [00:06:00] Examples of how self-talk can reshape personal narratives [00:09:00] Addressing myths and misunderstandings about self-talk [00:12:00] Strategies for changing internal narratives effectively [00:16:00] Closing thoughts and resources for further learning Follow and Review: We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast. Supporting Resources: If you live in California and are looking for counseling or therapy please check out Novus Mindful Life Counseling and Recovery Center NovusMindfulLife.com We want to hear from you. Leave us a message or ask us a question: https://www.speakpipe.com/addictedmind Disclaimer Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this exciting episode of Addicted Mind Plus, hosts Duane and Eric Osterlind dive into the fascinating world of the Johari Window, a powerful tool for enhancing self-awareness and understanding in relationships. They explore how this simple yet profound model can illuminate the various aspects of ourselves—what we know, what we don't know, and what others see in us. From discussing how to navigate personal blind spots to the significance of revealing hidden strengths, this episode is packed with insights on improving communication, recovery, and personal growth. Whether you're on a quest for self-discovery or aiming to deepen your connections with others, this episode offers valuable strategies to expand your open area, embracing both the visible and hidden parts of your identity. Download: The Johari Window Worksheet Key Topics: The basics and importance of the Johari Window in self-awareness. Strategies for exploring and expanding the open area of the Johari Window. The role of recovery communities in identifying and addressing blind spots. The impact of self-awareness on personal growth and recovery. How to safely navigate the hidden and unknown areas of ourselves. Key Moments: - [00:00:00] Introduction to the episode and significance of the Johari Window. - [00:01:34] Explanation of how self-awareness affects decision-making and relationships. - [00:02:46] The Johari Window as a tool for recovery and growth. - [00:03:46] Detailed breakdown of each quadrant in the Johari Window. - [00:07:29] Discussing the hidden area and its impact on personal and relational dynamics. - [00:11:03] Exploration of the unknown quadrant and its mysteries. - [00:14:06] Conclusion and resources for applying the Johari Window to one's life. Follow and Review: If you haven’t yet, we’d love for you to follow us. Click that purple ‘+’ in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review,” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second, and it helps spread the word about the podcast. Supporting Resources: If you live in California and are looking for counseling or therapy, please check out Novus Mindful Life Counseling and Recovery Center NovusMindfulLife.com We want to hear from you. Please leave us a message or ask us a question: https://www.speakpipe.com/addictedmind Disclaimer Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Join us as Emmy award-winning writer and director Topaz Adizes unveils the art of creating deep, human connections through conversation. In this discussion, Duane sits down with Topaz who shares his journey with the documentary series {The And} – revealing how authentic dialogues between various pairs, from family members to romantic partners, can transform our understanding of communication.  By spotlighting the powerful effect of listening and the role of the listener, we're invited to explore how true connection can serve as an antidote to addiction, providing methods to cultivate meaningful relationships even in the face of past trauma. Listen in as we further discuss the changing landscape of human connections in our tech-driven era, contemplating whether the emotional experiences of love and connection have shifted with the rise of digital communication.  From documenting intimate conversations with couples to the implications of technology on relationships without physical proximity, this episode offers insights into using technology to strengthen bonds. Plus, we examine the importance of process over solutions in couples therapy, highlighting the significance of couples engaging directly with each other to foster a neurobiological need for connection. Tune in for an enlightening conversation with Topaz that could change how you approach communication and connection in your life. In this episode, you will hear: Deep human connection through conversation The evolution of human connection Couples therapy through connection practice Follow and Review: We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast. Supporting Resources: https://www.topazadizes.com/  NovusMindfulLife.com Episode Credits If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Emerald City Productions. They helped me grow and produce the podcast you are listening to right now. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com. Let them know we sent you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to an eye-opening episode that could change how you face life's big moments. Today, we're exploring the idea that when you hit a tough spot, you actually only have four choices. Sounds simple, right? But it's a game-changer. Imagine feeling stuck, like you're at a crossroads with no clear direction. It happens to all of us. We overthink, get overwhelmed, and just feel more and more stuck. But what if you could see your options clearly and make a choice that really fits? We dive into solving the problem, changing how you see the problem, accepting what's happening, or, yes, even choosing to stay stuck for a bit. These options can lighten the load of decision-making, giving you a clear path forward. It's not just about the tough times; it's about knowing you have the power to choose your next step. So, ready to see what those four choices are and how they can help you? Let's get into it! Download the worksheet: THE FOUR CHOICES CHEAT SHEET: NAVIGATING LIFE'S CHALLENGES Key Topics: - The concept of having only four choices in problematic situations - Strategies for effective decision-making and problem-solving - The importance of changing perception and acceptance - The role of self-compassion in choosing to stay miserable - Practical tools and frameworks for applying these concepts in real life List of Key Moments: - [00:01:25] Introduction to the four choices concept - [00:03:24] Discussion on decision paralysis and overcoming challenges - [00:04:18] Deep dive into solving the problem - [00:07:09] Changing our perception of the problem - [00:09:06] The difficult choice of acceptance - [00:11:09] Exploring the choice to stay miserable - [00:13:57] Summarization and resources for listeners Download the worksheet: THE FOUR CHOICES CHEAT SHEET: NAVIGATING LIFE'S CHALLENGES Additional TAM+ episodes that support this episode. Episode 6 : Unstuck Your Thoughts: 7 Cognitive Distortions Sabotaging Your Recovery Episode 9: Embrace the Now: How Radically Accepting Reality Can Transform Your Life Supporting Resources: If you live in California and are looking for counseling or therapy please check out Novus Mindful Life Counseling and Recovery Center NovusMindfulLife.com We want to hear from you. Leave us a message or ask us a question: https://www.speakpipe.com/addictedmind Disclaimer Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Struggling with love and sex addiction can feel like an isolating battle, but this recent conversation with Lacy Bentley and Heather Cronemiller casts a ray of hope on this often-shadowed topic. Lacy, a relationship and recovery coach, and Heather, a seasoned therapist, join Duane to shed light on their personal journeys and their book, "Going Deeper for Women: How the Inner Child Impacts Your Love and Sex Addiction." Their stories are a testament to the power of understanding the inner child in forging a path to recovery. By intertwining their professional insights with the raw reality of their experiences, they offer listeners an intimate look at overcoming addictive behaviors in relationships.  Attachment wounds can create a labyrinth of confusion in our adult lives, often surfacing unexpectedly in the therapeutic setting as erotic transference. Lacy and Heather guide us through understanding attachment styles – secure, anxious, avoidant, disorganized – and their influence on our relationships. This discussion navigates the delicate terrain of arousal, the misinterpretation of kindness, and the critical role of a therapist's boundaries. It's an exploration of the human craving for connection juxtaposed with the fear of intimacy, offering a compass for those seeking to understand the complicated dance of closeness and retreat. In this episode, you will hear: Exploring inner child impacts on addiction Love and sex addiction gender differences Understanding attachment in therapy Understanding the Inner Child Model Systemic disempowerment in gender and culture  Follow and Review: We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast. Supporting Resources: Going Deeper for Women: How the Inner Child Impacts Your Love and Sex Addiction: https://www.amazon.com/Going-Deeper-Women-Impacts-Addiction/dp/B0CQB42TR1  NovusMindfulLife.com Episode Credits If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Emerald City Productions. They helped me grow and produce the podcast you are listening to right now. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com Let them know we sent you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of "The Addicted Mind Plus," hosts Duane and Eric Osterlund dive into the power of a curious mindset in recovery and emotional stability. They explore how curiosity can shift our nervous system from fight-or-flight to rest-and-digest, leading to less stress and more emotional resilience. The discussion covers the simple yet profound ways asking questions about ourselves and the world can open up new possibilities and foster a fulfilling life. By embracing curiosity, we can improve memory, creativity, and even our ability to age well, while developing the grit necessary for recovery. Whether you're struggling with recovery or seeking a more satisfying life, this episode offers actionable insights and encouragement to start asking more questions and embracing the unknown. Get The Online Course: The Curiosity Blueprint for Addiction Recovery: How to Harness Your Curiosity and Achieve Emotional Stability in 5 Easy Steps https://addictedmind.mysamcart.com/checkout/the-curiosity-blueprint?coupon=tam11 Key Topics: - The role of curiosity in shifting the nervous system toward wellness - How curiosity can lead to less stress and more emotional resilience - The relationship between a curious mindset, grit, and successful recovery - Overcoming myths and challenges in cultivating curiosity - Practical steps to foster curiosity for improved mental health and recovery Key Moments: - [00:00] Introduction to the episode's focus on curiosity in recovery - [02:04] Explanation of curiosity and its impact on the nervous system - [04:24] The benefits of curiosity for emotional and mental wellness - [07:37] The association between curiosity, grit, and recovery success - [09:43] Overcoming challenges and embracing emotional vulnerability through curiosity - [11:55] Debunking myths about curiosity and its importance - [14:30] Closing thoughts and resources for further exploration Get The Online Course: The Curiosity Blueprint for Addiction Recovery: How to Harness Your Curiosity and Achieve Emotional Stability in 5 Easy Steps Follow and Review: We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple ‘+’ in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast. Supporting Resources: If you live in California and are looking for counseling or therapy please check out Novus Mindful Life Counseling and Recovery Center NovusMindfulLife.com We want to hear from you. Leave us a message or ask us a question: https://www.speakpipe.com/addictedmind Disclaimer Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices