Life Can Change In A Moment

oday we have two special guests in studio. Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon is a clinical assistant professor in the Department of Psychology at Northwestern University and a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University. In addition to writing articles and chapters for leading academic journals and books in the field of marriage and family, she is the author of the book Loving Bravely: Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want (New Harbinger, 2017). Her second book, about sexual self-awareness, Taking Sexy Back: How to Own Your Sexuality and Create the Relationship You Want, will be published in February 2020. MD Dr. Pari Ghodsi, MD is an obstetrics & gynecology specialist in Northridge, CA. She is a board certified and active Fellow of the American College of Obstetrics and Gynecology.Dr. Pari loves to write and speak about women’s health and issues in a relatable way. She brings a unique touch when educating, often sharing her own experiences as a woman.   We talk through a variety of mens and womens sexual health issues and try to find a common ground for the battle of the sexes.         

Sarah Sunshine is in studio talking about how she planned an executed  her solo travels around the world. She brought some costumes For both of us to wear which really brought the energy in the interview to another level. 

Tyler Capen Ramsey is a Los Angeles–based artist known for his performance art, his "drip painting" of shoes for company Toms Shoes and for painting only with his fingers, rather than with brushes. Tyler Ramsey, the producer of “Survivor: Gabon,” recently revealed that he was fired from the competition show -- for falling in love. Ramsey opened up to explain how he met his future wife, Jacquie Berg, and subsequently got fired. Berg was a contestant on the 2008 “Survivor” season, “Gabon,” when she met “the love of her life,” Ramsey. “[Jacqui] was a contestant, and I used to be a producer,” Ramsey explained of how their paths crossed. But how does one get fired for “falling in love"? According to the producer, it was because the show had only one rule: Don’t mess around with the contestants.  

Tyler Capen Ramsey is a Los Angeles–based artist known for his performance art, his "drip painting" of shoes for company Toms Shoes and for painting only with his fingers, rather than with brushes. Tyler Ramsey, the producer of “Survivor: Gabon,” recently revealed that he was fired from the competition show -- for falling in love. Ramsey opened up to explain how he met his future wife, Jacquie Berg, and subsequently got fired. Berg was a contestant on the 2008 “Survivor” season, “Gabon,” when she met “the love of her life,” Ramsey. “[Jacqui] was a contestant, and I used to be a producer,” Ramsey explained of how their paths crossed. But how does one get fired for “falling in love"? According to the producer, it was because the show had only one rule: Don’t mess around with the contestants.  

Shouvik Banerjee, Averpoint Founder    This week's guest is a very good buddy of mine, Shouvik Banerjee.  Stanford grad, Harvard Public Policy guy.  After a career in solar, he was inspired to found Averpoint.com, a movement hoping to inspire truth and facts in the public discourse by facilitating citations, check it out the website.  Shouvik can both code, and discuss politics.  Brilliant and a very good man, I'm lucky to call him a friend and enjoy talking about how we want to make the world a better place. Before we shot the episode, he told me that 2 things came to mind when he thought about life changing moments, but he didn't think they were related.  "They're related," I told him.  "Without a doubt.  And on the show, we'll discover how."  And boy were they.  Great episode, especially for all of us former athletes who grew as people during their sports careers (I know I did).  Check out his company Averpoint, their website, and SUBSCRIBE and RATE this podcast.  

Sarah Sunshine is in studio talking about how she planned an executed  her solo travels around the world. She brought some costumes For both of us to wear which really brought the energy in the interview to another level. 

Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon is a clinical assistant professor in the Department of Psychology at Northwestern University and a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University. In addition to writing articles and chapters for leading academic journals and books in the field of marriage and family, she is the author of the book Loving Bravely: Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want (New Harbinger, 2017). Her second book, about sexual self-awareness, Taking Sexy Back: How to Own Your Sexuality and Create the Relationship You Want, will be published in February 2020. Dr. Solomon maintains a psychotherapy practice for individual adults and couples, teaches and trains marriage and family therapy graduate students, and teaches the internationally renowned undergraduate course, “Building Loving and Lasting Relationships: Marriage 101.” Dr. Solomon is a highly sought-after speaker who works with groups like United States Military Academy at West Point, Microsoft, and The American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy, and she is frequently asked to talk about love, sex, and marriage with media outlets like The Today Show, O Magazine, The Atlantic, Vogue, and Scientific American.

Tricia Nelson is an internationally acclaimed author, transformational speaker and emotional eating expert. She has been featured on dozens of radio and television networks, including FOX, NBC, CBS, KTLA and Discovery Health. Tricia has successfully helped hundreds of people overcome a variety of eating disorders and addictions. Born and raised in Concord, Massachusetts, Tricia’s own struggles began in early childhood, where she attempted to cope with life’s stresses and emotional pain by overeating and other destructive behaviors. Continuing into adolescence, she began binge drinking, and eventually gained more than 50 pounds. After years of experimentation with 12-step programs, therapy and self-help books, Tricia finally hit a spiritual and emotional bottom. Tricia attended Amherst College and began her career working at the Seattle Art Museum. While in Seattle she began working with spiritual healer, Roy Nelson (who would later become her husband), who helped her recognize and heal the root causes of her addictions. By creating a lifestyle steeped in positive self-care, self-love and improved self-esteem, Tricia was able to stop drinking and overeating. She has maintained a fifty-pound weight loss for close to 30 years now. Tricia has spent the past three decades studying the addictive personality, and shares her findings in workshops and retreats both in person and online. Many doctors, psychologists and other health practitioners benefit from her insight about what drives people to overeat and how to stop. Tricia’s new book, Heal Your Hunger: 7 Simple Steps to End Emotional Eating Now, is available through Amazon.

Take a mental break from corona and join me today at 2pm Cali time (4pm KC time) on youtube (link below) for a discussion on gut health with the world's leading researcher on the microbiome, Dr Mahmoud Ghannoum.  I will be chatting live during this PREMIERE of episode 28 of LIFE CAN CHANGE IN A MOMENT.  We get into.   Is dairy good for gut health?  What about red meat, vegetables, donuts and fiber? What is the difference between prebiotics, probiotics and postbiotics? What is the best kind of nut for gut health? How stress, sleep and exercise affect the gut. Is Autism caused by bad gut health? Is a poop transplant for real?  (yes).  How does it work, and how might it model future new therapies? How transplanting skinny gut microbes to the obese can result in weight loss. What is biofilm, and how did it's discovery save lives?   Also available on Apple Podcasts, and many places you listen to podcasts.

Ben Gleib was named by TBS one of the "funniest comedians working today."   He’s host, head writer, and executive producer of the Emmy nominated "Idiotest" on NETFLIX. The hit comedy brain teaser game show originally had four seasons & 210 episodes on Game Show Network, and was their most watched original.   For 7 years he was one of the stars of “Chelsea Lately" on E! with over 100 appearances on the round table!   He currently can be seen in the “Jay and Silent Bob Reboot” movie, along with Kevin Smith, Jason Mewes, Chris Hemsworth, Ben Affleck and Matt Damon. Recently he pranked David Beckham on “The Late Late Show with James Corden“ which got 27 million views.   His hilarious hour-long standup special “Ben Gleib - Neurotic Gangster” which premiered on SHOWTIME is currently on AMAZON PRIME.   Gleib is also the first comedian to ever live stream a full headline set on Facebook Live, doing it in 8 straight cities on his 2016 tour, 100% improvised, getting almost 4 million views. His act is full of unique material, but he's also one of the best at crowd work, making it all up on the spot.   He hosted with Olivia Munn the “Telethon for America”. Gleib also created it, executive produced, and was head writer. It featured celebrities such as Natalie Portman, Charlize Theron, Chelsea Handler, Jane Fonda, Constance Wu, Amy Schumer, Jessica Alba, Judd Apatow, Hasan Minhaj, Adam Devine, Aisha Tyler, Pete Davidson, Ray Romano, Julia Louis Dreyfus, and over 80 others. It was the first telethon ever with the goal of raising zero dollars. Reinventing the telethon for the digital age, instead the non-partisan telethon took pledges to vote in 2018 midterms, aiming to create historic turnout, which was achieved!   Trying to offer an out-of-the-box option for the country, and seeing comedians win elections around the globe, he just concluded a run for President of the United States in the 2020 election, finishing after almost 8 months in the race, as the 15th highest fundraising active Democratic campaign. Despite this, he wasn’t able to qualify for the debates so the campaign ended. During the run he spoke at events alongside the front-runner candidates, campaigning in 13 states and territories including multiple trips to Iowa and New Hampshire, Puerto Rico on the 2-year anniversary of Hurricane Maria, was arrested protesting corruption at the capitol building in DC, joined immigration protests, LGBT parades, and stood proudly with the teachers on the picket line in Chicago. His campaign was covered by Larry King, the Des Moines Register, and countless others. Videos and information can be seen at Gleib2020.com   As an actor he just guest starred on “American Princess” an hour dramedy from Jenji Kohan (Orange is the New Black, GLOW.)   He was a regular on "The Today Show" with Kathie Lee and Hoda, with over 25 appearances, and you may have seen one of his appearances on "@Midnight with Chris Hardwick" on Comedy Central, or as a correspondent on ”The Arsenio Hall Show”.   He has toured sold-out arenas all over North America with both Chelsea Handler and Dane Cook, and has been headlining comedy clubs around the world since 2007. An accomplished voice over actor as well, Gleib is one of the stars of Kevin Smith's "Jay and Silent Bob's Super Groovy Cartoon Movie," is the voice of Marshall the Sloth in "Ice Age: Continental Drift," and voices Dali in "The Book of Life" starring Channing Tatum.   Esquire once called him one of “Six comedians who could be comedy’s next big thing.” The other five were Aziz Ansari, Patton Oswalt, David Cross, Demetri Martin, and Flight of the Conchords.

Since September of last year, I've interviewed 25 different guests about their biggest experiences.  This week, it's time I talk about one of mine--the accident.  In high school, I almost died in a serious car crash.  Helicopter life flight, emergency surgery, external fixator, weeks in the hospital, had to learn to walk again--the works.  This week in the show, I talk about it in detail.   In the episode, we cover:   The details of the car wreck. Rehab and recovery What the worst pain of the whole thing was Why I said i would never take pain meds again The emotional and psychological effects that trauma had years later What EMDR is, and my experience with it How my own experience led me to eventually do this show, Life Can Change In A Moment.   Reliving and sharing this story with you hasn't been easy.  Reopened some old wounds.  And going public about it has made me want to puke more than once this week.  But we talk about important stuff, and I feel compelled to bring it to you.

This week, I bring you the legend of Trek Kelly.  After running a successful marketing business and art gallery on Abbot Kinney, Trek decided to disappear.  Who does this? What does that mean? What was this crazy man thinking?   Trek's journey covers the following:   Live Your Bucket List Now: How Keeping Death Close Energizes Your Life The History of Abbot Kinney, Venice Beach, CA, and Why Trek Kelly Disappeared Why A Stranger Picked 12 Countries for Trek to Travel to     Animal instincts Return When You Live Alone in the Desert for A Year     What Is Scarier Than Death, No Toilet Paper Enjoy LB   Week's hashtags #Doctor #Host #Moments #Podcast #Show #Legend #Adventure #Life #Death #Thunder #TrekKelly     Show Notes ● [00:55] We have a great guest for you today, Trek “Thunder” Kelly, an adventure expert. As an artist, he learned early in his enjoyment in art is to live it. He lives his life in a way that is a story that’s interesting to him. So, he has something to look back, and he has chapters that laid out ahead of him as well. He recently wrote the ending of his life. He knows exactly where he is going to, and that gives him a lot of peace. ● [3:00] Trek knows where he is going to be and probably decides when he will die. Trek said that when it’s time, he is going to sit on a cliff while watching the sunset, smoke a doobie and put a blanket over him and just let it go. His parents traveled internationally as a kid. They didn’t take him, but certainly, he got curious about the world in the early ’20s and started travelling. He got out of college, moved to Venice beach, started working at a movie studio, and became an artist. At 39 he decided that he is going to disappear and told his friends and family that he’d be gone for 2 to 5 years. He sold nearly everything he owns and travelled the world. ● [5:00] He had a stranger choose twelve countries and spent a month in each country. Trek spent alone in the desert and then saw people twice a month when he gets supplies. But he wanted even more isolated, so he figured out his caloric needs and bought enough canned foods to sustain him for the rest of the year. He didn’t have a tent, a flashlight, or a fire. He lives out there for the rest of the year. For him, it was a gift to be able to do that, and in the third year, he bought an old van and drove around America. ● [7:36] One thing that Trek would recommend to people was to travel with inspiration or have meaning to you for a whole year. Because when you travel for a year or more, you interface with the world in a much more efficient and direct manner especially if you are alone. ● [9:33] Dr. Larry was wondering how these experiences changed him. Trek said that he becomes even more confident. The more world he sees, the more knowledge he gains. The more he understands the knowledge that he doesn’t have, and being older, he understands that life is coming at you pretty quickly. Americans keep death far away, but it’s important to keep death very close because death allows you to prioritize. It is not something to fear, it is something that energizes you to make the right decisions because we didn’t know when it would come. You should outline yourself like a bucket list and start knocking those off. ● [11:40] Trek believes in reincarnation because reincarnation doesn’t necessarily mean that there is life after our body dies. We can reincarnate in our lives many times. He lives three different lifetimes in those years. If you realize that change is constant, not only can we reincarnate in our own lives, but we can have power over what that reincarnation is. It can give us strength in decision making. ● [13:30] Trek graduated from UCLA. He wanted to do something fun. He applied to Columbia Pictures and got a job in the Marketing department. Working there for a year, he saw where the money was going and decided to create his own company. He left and started a promotional advertising company and immediately got orders from major studios. He makes a lot of money at that age without a lot of effort. Trek said that life has the confidence to do what you want to do and have to follow through. One day he bought a canvas and started painting and enjoyed it. He’s making enough money to have a gallery in Abbott Kinney, so he runs his advertising company out of the gallery. ● [15:40] At Abbott Kinney, he was one of several vendors that started the first Fridays around 2005. Back then, it was more focused on the stores, and they had all parties, and people could buy discounted things. For him, it was a perfect collision of creativity and the beach that California has to offer. ● [18:00] Trek said that change is going to happen. You can be flattened by it, or you can be part of it, so if there’s something you want to change, then you become part of that shift. For 16 years, he has had his company and art gallery. Dr. Larry asked him when did Trek get to the point that it was time to change it. Trek grew up on survival stories that his father told him as a kid, from Hugh Glass to Admiral Byrd. He also grew up reading Tarzan books that brought him the idea to be adventurous so he felt like he is done LA to the extent that he can. ● [20:36] The best thing to do when you decide is to announce it. Because you will be forced to be responsible for it when people start to believe it and you don’t want to let them down. Trek travels without contact with almost anybody for years. They didn’t know where he was. Dr. Larry thinks that the average person would want to get away but still want contacts of people close to them, so this is a very foreign idea for him, the disappearance part. ● [22:15] Trek said that there is stupidity in it, but there’s also a power in knowing that you are at the end of the line. If you are on the edge, you will be alert, aware, and alive. When you make it pass death a lot, it makes you feel strong and powerful. It makes you potentially risk your choices. Trek thinks that meaningful and driven travel is important. We, as humans, are meaning, driven creatures. We need to feel value, a direction, or a goal to feel more stable. ● [25:00] Trek decided to ask a stranger for the 12 countries he will travel to. So, he went to Jerusalem on the summer solstice. While in Old Jerusalem, no one looks at him until a beggar taps him on the back. He thought to himself that this was the stranger he would ask about the 12 countries. He has been to some of the chosen countries, but for him, when you make this choice, you can’t cheat. When you make this decision, you have to go through with it; otherwise, it taints everything else that you do. ● [27:11] Trek arranged the countries when he got back to the hotel room. The order of the countries was Bhutan, Papua New Guinea, Australia, Cambodia, Namibia, Mauritania, Germany, Finland, Brazil, Ecuador, El Salvador, and Haiti. After ordering the countries, he needs a reason why he is doing this, so he remembered the two keys on the ground while he was with the beggar. He decided to use keys as a totem. He will give a key to someone in each country that is meaningful for him or an amazing person in some way. ● [29:01] The two countries that the stranger didn’t choose that he wanted to go to were India and China. Trek flew to China and did the same thing in Jerusalem; he saw a kid that speaks in English. The kid leads him to an antique store, the kid chooses six keys of the Han dynasty. He went to India and asked an older man to choose six keys for him. The old man went to a store near Mother Theresa's tomb that has piles of keys. The old man spent three hours trying to find the six keys. Now he has 12 keys and a quest, so he bid goodbye to everyone on the internet, then he flew to Bhutan. ● [32:30] One of the other things Trek wanted to do was to find some people who don’t have long to live. He wants to make them a list of all the things that they want to do, and he was going to spend the next year living their dreams, and they will be connected on social media to send them videos and pictures. ● [34:46] Dr. Larry believes why Trek needs a year to spend on the desert. He said that when he was one of the mountains in Bhutan, he found an isolated house across them, and at the bottom, there was a town. His guide told him that a hermit lives up there for 15 years, and that challenge him to stay long in the desert. ● [37:25] Imagining the adventure of Trek. A lot of people would feel anxiety. It works for him because he loves meeting new people and being alone. He looks at the potential obstacles that he was going to deal with, whether it’s emotional, mental, or physical, and then anticipated it. That’s why he took a vow on silence in the desert. ● [39:00] Trek didn’t feel fear. That is probably another fault of his that would get him in trouble one day. But he has discretion more than fear. He thinks about what his options are when he is in dangerous situations. Travelling the world, he learned a lot of travel hacks and survival hacks. You can read about them, but the things that he thought that he learned were very different from the things that he experienced. ● [42:32] Once he knew that letting faith determine things worked, he went to the area of the desert. He started asking people of Navajo reservations if anybody had a Hogan. Trek was in Monument Valley of Southern Utah and Northern Arizona, a very desolate area in terms of population. He found a family that has a Hogan, he can live there, but they want him to take care of their sheep. ● [44:15] Trek took care of the flock of sheep and lived there. But he wanted more absolute isolation. That is why he figures out his caloric needs. When someone told him that there was a place out there that he could go, he found the place and one day he packed his stuff and went to the desert. Trek said that when you peel civilization away, you will realize how much your behavior is instinct. ● [46:47] Trek’s opinion about religion is that as anima

This week’s guest is Kim Wyman, a friend of mine, registered dietitian (RD) with a Masters in Public Health (MPH), who specializes in eating disorders.  Whose house burned down in the Woolsey Fires of LA in Nov 2018.  She’s been living in a van since, and hasn’t been happier.  This episode was soooooo good and inspiring.  Great stuff on healthy nutrition and getting deeper with eating disorders, and about loss and rebirth in the spiritual life.   In it, we cover the following:   -What Really Matters About Nutrition: Dietitian Cocktail Party Conversations -How We Use Food to Feel Better -Does Your Healthy Diet and Exercise Make Your Miserable?  How to Connect to Movement to Be Happier. -“Kim, why don’t you live in a van?” -Spiritually How to Experience A Life Changing Moment -How Kim Grieved When Her House Burned Down in the Fires #Doctor #Host #Moments #Podcast #Show #VanLife #Fires #NaturalDisasters  #Dietitian #MPH #Nutrition #Spiritual #Connection  #EatingDisorders #Anorexia #Wellness #Happiness #Healthy   Show Notes ● [1:07] We have a great guest for you today, Kim Wyman, a dietitian and has a Master's in Public Health. ● When Kim was finishing college, she was interested in preventive medicine. Someone told her that it is not the way to go to the MD route and told her to explore public health. She showed up for graduate school on the doctor's course towards public health, and she picks nutrition as her major. ● [3:22] When you are in public health, you can do women's and children's health. Nutrition is a specialty, so she chose it. When Kim tells people that she is a dietitian, they tend to ask about their diets. They asked about Keto and intermittent fasting. She honestly said to us that it is a boring conversation for her because what matters is we know about nutrition or Keto diet. Still, it is the applied action and relationship to how we meet our needs that matters. ● [5:00] If you have a breakdown and how your ability to meet your needs, like you say you don't deserve, then you're going to have a hard time in grading care. How you feed yourself is the direct basic need and immediate action of care. Disorders around food are usually disorder of self. ● [7:00] In the late '90s, most of her clients were gays with HIV who had lost partners or friends. Dealing with loss and trauma, Kim thought that she's going to specialize in HIV. What happens with eating disorders primarily is that food becomes a way to regulate disruptions or emotions to make them feel better. ● [9:46] Kim said that the menu could adjust things. If you look at someone with anorexia, they're usually talented, very functional, or they might be the envy of everybody else in the room. Still, behind the scenes, they're driving themself almost to death with how they are strict about the food or walking twelve hours at night. They go to regulate a need, and it's kind of starting to take over. It could start with someone just going on a diet and if that temperament is there, it could end badly. ● [11:08]Kim said that sometimes diet conversations could be a little tricky because sometimes the information could be bad for them. You don't know all the time who that person is or what they're dealing with that's why it's an emotional peace and you have to understand them and their needs. ● [14:11] Dr. Larry asks Kim how do we reconcile meeting our needs and enjoying foods with obesity and all of the medical problems that come with all of this. Kim said that in our medical culture, they don't have time to explore the life of an obese person. They look at the labs, weight and tell them to reduce their food. It seems an easy fix on the surface but if you're looking at the environment, the stress level of that person, there are so many things that contribute to specifically diabetes and heart disease. ● [16:46] When someone comes to Kim and wants to lose weight, there is a typical approach that she would take but she has to be really careful of what else is happening to them. Kim honestly told us that if she works with an actor who needs to get ready for a role, it's just business. Their body is their business. Kim had worked with one actor that was suffering from an eating disorder, but there's a string edge, and she couldn't help because of the pressure that was going on. ● [19:00] There's a way to be in a relationship with having permission to have satisfaction and to feel a connection to the food you are eating. There is a real basic truth that the more from the “ground, cared” food is going to be better in our system than something that is highly processed. The intention is not to care, the intention is mass production and profiting. ● [21:43] Cooking a meal and having the time to do that and nurturing yourself and having that relationship fundamentally will experience different in the body than running in your car, eating a burger on the way to somewhere else. Taking the time and letting your body be nourished, allowing something to be honored and appreciated, that's a different reflection towards self. Feeling good is an indicator that you haven't stressed yourself, so overeating doesn't feel good. You have to disconnect in your natural body state and feel bad. ● [23:20] Slowing down while eating or preparing the food, you'll stay connected to the experience. There's so much disconnection from everything in our culture. That relationship to care is an intimate relationship to self. There is so much disconnection that we don't internally feel what we're doing, and it translates to movements too. Kim said that nobody in the blue zones that exercise extremely. Movement is really necessary and being active is also necessary but how we do it is also important. ● [25:44] If Kim misses yoga, she doesn't feel the natural elasticity of her body, so movement is necessary to feel good. You can also go to the gym and be on a diet and look great. It's not a matter if you can't do it and be healthy, but are you happy? ● [27:25] Talking about people who don't exercise, Dr. Larry remembered Bill Barata, a ninety-eight years old farmer who is a farmer and never exercised before. Kim explains the Maslow's hierarchy, a pyramid and on the bottom is basic needs. You can't get to the next level until you meet your basic needs, and on the top is self-actualization. ● [29:03] Self-actualization is when you're in the flow. We can't multitask very well, but when you're in the flow of something, you almost lose time. Being a farmer like Bill doing his task and that probably the antidote to stress because you're activating all connections to self. Stress distracts from our connection to ourselves and distract your ability to be in the flow. ● [31:45] Kim has many different moments in her life but the most dramatic one was when her house got burned down by the Woolsey fire. At that moment, she was possession less and homeless. She got out with her dog and a little go bag because she thought that she's going back when they have to evacuate. ● [33:00] The wind is something wicked on that day. In California, it's not just a breezy day. Its gale force 70 mph to 80 mph winds that would be qualified for a firestorm. She knows a person that works with search and rescue that called to inform her that there was a fire, but it's 20 to 30 miles away from them. He told Kim to pack a bag just in case they have to evacuate. ● [35:00] Kim's twin sister called her to know if she's going to be okay. Her sister is more anxious than she was and told her that she's not going to sleep if she doesn't leave. Kim went to her friend's house to evacuate; at that night they were focused on the news. When she woke up, she got a call from one of her colleagues at work and found out that the fire was getting close to her place, and she still thought that the fire wouldn't get to her house. ● [37:00] When she saw on channel two that her house was on fire, that's when she finally drops. Five hours after that, her friend snuck back in and called her that their whole street was gone. Her house was gone and her place of business was also affected so they were shut down. ● {39:00] Luckily, there are places for her to land, so many people don't have anywhere to go. When she went on their family trip to Kauai, Kim was thinking of her mortgage and trying to find rent in L.A. She still needs to pay the mortgage even if her house got burned down. It was really hard for her because of how much attachment she had on her space. She's trying to find something that would fit too, but it wasn't coming through. ● [41:00] When Kim was in Kauai, her sister asked if she could live in the van and then showed her a couple living in a cute van. Kim said that she can live in that van. She emailed the couple and told her story but it will take a long time to finish the van. Luckily, the very van that her sister showed was offered to her. She buys the van, quit her job and hit the road. ● [43:08] Kim got a referral and has clients all over the west coast and Canada all year and totally changed her life. She travels, climbs mountains and minimizes everything in her life. She's gone from worrying about a lot of corporate stuff or the renovation of her house, and now she's not thinking any of it. ● [45:32] Kim thinks when there is a life-changing moment, it is how you choose to experience it. You can get stuck in the perception of loss and how it happened to you versus how it happened for you. Kim said that loss is just a massive spiritual game- changer if you want to be available to know how to receive it. ● [47:00] Kim has an accessibility to do things that she loves like cooking from the road, finding little places along the way. Places that people still have connection to the food. She has some crazy experiences, connecting to our culture and also finding the variances of it and being able to feel more intimate connection to people, places and food. ● [49:00] It is sad for Kim to lose all those little things that would connect

This is my friend Jack.  Dr Jack Song.  We went to residency together many moons ago, I've known him for almost 14 years.  To me, he's one of the people who have always believed in me, which has meant a lot in the ups and downs of this old life.   This week's episode is titled "When A Doctor Becomes a Patient," and it inspired me.  Jack talks about his experience with Ulcerative Colitis, his diagnosis, the complications, the ups and downs.  And ultimately, how it has affected how he practices medicine, and how he lives his life.  Gets me a little emotional now to write about this one, about my good friend.   In the episode, we discuss: -What is Ulcerative Colitis, and how is it different from IBS (Irritable Bowel Syndrome) -How Jack's symptoms went undiagnosed for years, and how he finally got the diagnosis. -How becoming a patient changed Jack as a doctor -The moment Jack learned he may have a terminal condition. -How that changed the way he lives his life, and what he values -Why Jack says I am a terrible patient -Dealing with dismissive doctors -Suffering, the practice of empathy, -Living life according to what's important, the meaning of life -How me and Jack are going to run the Amazing Race -How Jack did an Ironman Triathlon with food poisoning Bio below: I’m a father of but one son; a husband of but one wife. I work as a doctor in the largest private medical group in the world, living in one of the wealthiest parts of the US. And I dream of one day moving to a place where I’m the only doctor for 100 miles and the people there pay me for my services with a roasted chicken, a necklace made out of shells or a kind word of gratitude. I have no social media presence that needs disclosing and I have nothing to promote. #Doctor #Host #Moments #Podcast #Show #Patient #Empathy #Meaning

Shannon is a media trainer and on-camera instructor who specializing in TV hosts, influencers, and experts. She has had clients on the Today Show, The Doctors, HGTV, Hallmark, WE, DIY, Entertainment Tonight, QVC/HSN, talk shows, news appearances, morning shows and more. Shannon has been working on both sides of the camera for over a decade. As a host/spokesperson, her extensive credits include Keurig, Jenny Craig, Office Max, Chewy.com, Aerobed, and many more. She recently released her first book in July 2019, “The Ultimate On-Camera Guidebook for Hosts, Experts, & Influencers”.

I met TK Nguyen at CHS earlier this year, and was inspired by how he went from owning his own pharmacy, and dispensing too many pain pills (opiate crisis) to developing his own pain cream to help people get off pain pills.  I invited him on the show to tell his story, and moment. And this episode is not without some excitement (his pharmacy was raided by the DEA), some agreements (the overuse of opiates for chronic pain and needed alternatives), some disagreements (energy healing and placebos versus pseudoscience) and   In this episode we cover: Why TK quit corporate pharmacy, how he felt compromised managing corporate pharmacy. What smart business practices he did to build his own pharmacy from the ground up How multiple DEA raids and opiate crisis politics ended his pharmacy How his wife’s temporary paralysis inspired his pain cream (and my MD explanation of what happened) Possible medical explanations of paralysis, including discussion of psych causes (conversion disorder), complicated migraines, Todd’s paralysis (temporary paralysis after a seizure), spnial cord transection. Mind body, the placebo effect, energy medicine, pseudoscience and relief of pain Fight or flight cycle, stored traumatic memory, 

I met Carina through Trek (a legend you will meet in a few weeks closer to the end of Season 1 of the show), and he said you’ve got to have her on the show.  He was right. Born in St Croix, Virgin Islands, the youngest of 9 children, she’s a Children’s Book Author and into tech, and works with sustainable Christmas Trees. So what is the process of kidney donation?  What did Carina have to do once she decided to get checked.  First, she had to be evaluated to be a match, which involved first basic blood typing (A positive, B negative), and then additional antigen “matches.”  Then she had a psychological evaluation, which, someone has to be competent, able to freely make this decision of sound mind, not mentally ill. And also, I imagine stable enough to handle surgery and the loss of a kidney, understand the risks, etc.  Then further testing of her own medical conditions. You wouldn’t want to transplant a kidney from someone with cancer, HIV, Hepatitis C, etc or you would be giving the recipient a new disease. She was scanned, I assume to rule out cancer. She spoke of having a reaction to contrast that is injected in the IV, the contrast helps the radiologist to see organs light up better, and mild reactions are common and not a big deal.  After appropriate psychological and medical testing, including matching, the surgery is scheduled.  

I was honored for Dr KellyAnn Petrucci ND to join us (you and me) on the show this week.  She’s a big deal. On Dr Oz all the time, PBS, she’s written 9 NY Times Best Sellers, founded the bone broth movement--very successful as a doctor (Naturopath) who has gone public.  She comes on the show to talk about her new book Cleans and Reset.   I met KellyAnn at Michael Fishman’s CHS in Spring of 2019, we were sat next to each other at a dinner randomly, and hit it off instantly, becoming good friends.  She’s got an energy about her. And is mesmerizingly charismatic--consider yourself warned.   But I was a little uneasy about this episode because frankly--I don’t believe in bone broth and cleanses.  And detoxes. And toxins. And she’s big into that. Am I going to be able to keep it together, have a respectful conversation with someone I disagree with?  Or is it all just going to go straight to hell, and I lose a friend? You’ll have to tune in tomorrow and see how it went. We also discuss:   *How success and being a workaholic led to her own burnout and health issues. *What underlies and drives so many of us professional achievers (self worth, and sometimes, lackthereof) * Did KellyAnn have imposter syndrome * How you health is affected by relationships, success, self love, self worth * Did she convince me about bone broth and her new cleanse? * How we numb ourselves (with work, alcohol, sex) to cope with unhappiness and underlying difficult emotions     Guest Bio: Dr. Kellyann Petrucci came to realize the ancient power of collagen and bone broth to heal the gut and slow aging while studying biological medicine at the Marion Foundation and Paracelsus Clinic, Switzerland. By focusing her practice on a lifestyle that stops and reverses inflammation, Dr. Kellyann is able to help patients and readers reduce dangerous belly fat to become slimmer, younger, and healthier   Show Notes ● [1:20] We got an incredible guest for today, Dr. KellyAnn Petrucci, the creator, and founder of Bone Broth Movement. KellyAnn was so proud because after her show hit PBS, we can see Bone Broth companies over the country because she knows how it transforms and helps people’s lives. She was grateful for that opportunity. She also wrote a book called "Bone Broth Diet". ● [3:35] Dr. Larry and Dr. KellyAnn knew each other from CHS. KellyAnn was always open and sharing stories with Dr. Larry. ● Dr. KellyAnn's life-changing moments happened on a flight from L.A. back to New York. A change of events leads Dr. KellyAnn telling a passenger next to her that she was about to pass out. The next thing she remembers, she was at the back of the plane with a bunch of airline staff putting ice around her head and neck. ● [5:01] She always taught people to stay connected to their mind, body, and spirit, yet here she was in a situation where she's ill. There was a physician that came on board that cared for her the whole flight and told her that she was burnout and if she won't do anything about it, it's going to be bad. ● She is a doctor that studied in New York. She studied European Medicine at Swiss Paracelsus Clinic in Switzerland. Dr. Thomas Rau, who is a world-renowned physician, taught her almost everything. She knows about really caring for patients, allowing the body to heal itself. He taught her not to be afraid of the body’s power to heal itself, yet she pass-out in a plane. ● [7:00] Dr. KellyAnn wants to tell everyone that we can't allow our self to disconnect with our body. We do that because we take care of everything and everyone. She said that we have a power within us. We can leak that power, but if you allow yourselves to constantly leaking this power, we drain. Dr. KellyAnn wants to stop all who are watching to take a moment and ask ourselves if we are connected to our mind and body. ● [9:01] This energy is vast and powerful. We have to learn how to harness it and what to do about it. We do that by awareness. It is by being aware of the simple things that we may not think about. Things like the people around us. We have to be very careful of the people we allow into our orbit. We have to allow different orbit around us. There is a group that we trust beyond all measure, and there was a group that is acquaintances. There is that group that we have to keep our eyes on. And there are people that we don't allow into our orbit. To mature in life, we have to know which orbit to put each person you meet, because what we don't want is that continual, residual drain. ● [12:00] success for her now is different than it was two years ago when the plane incident happened. Two years ago, she was not in peace. She is always looking at the next step. She lacked love for herself. We are born with that and overtime when we have experiences that sometimes others taught trust upon us, and we don't get rid of those thoughts. Now when she has a thought and knows that it doesn't serve her greater good and those around her, she will cancel it immediately and this little thing will keep her from burnout ever again. ● [15:00] Dr. KellyAnn talks about how alcohol affects her clarity and height awareness. She cut out alcohol about six months ago. KellyAnn thought that she was not going to drink because she wants to see what other things that keep her where she doesn't want to be. She realizes that alcohol is one of them, so she let that go and all of a sudden, she realizes that she was getting more clear and a sense of clarity. ● [18:00] With success, we got a lot of opportunities. We have to be aware of the things we are saying yes all the time. That's the whole thing with alcohol when you pop a cork a lot more the next thing you know you are in different events and resorts that are slowly draining your energy. There was an adage that "saying no is as powerful as saying yes". In KellyAnn's instance, that was true. She was doing a lot of running around, she's doing too much, and it got her, and now she is making sure that it will not happen again. ● [20:00] Being a public person is not KellyAnn's focus, her focus is always learning and understanding how the body works and what she can do to enhance all that happens in the body in the best way. So she started seeing patients. Dr. KellyAnn studied ancestral medicine to know what is best for our DNA. That's when she came up with the idea of Bone Broth. ● [22:45] Dr. KellyAnn combines Bone Broth with intermittent fasting, and that's where the magic happens for a lot of people particularly a lot of women who were struggling so hard to lose weight and couldn't do it. She put people in a program where they have bone broth during the day, a couple's day a week and just one meal at night. They were very comfortable. They didn't have the cravings, crashes, and they didn't feel weak or deprived. ● [26:00] Dr. Larry asks KellyAnn if the bone broth is plausible. She said that it has minerals and a great form of protein. It is an anti-inflammatory food. It warms people down to the soul, but if it is plausible she didn't care, the bottom line is, it gets results and transform people to the greater good. A lot of people use a powdered broth but KellyAnn prefers the liquid for her. ● [29:00] Dr. Larry asks her why is the incident in the plane cause KellyAnn to write her book. It was a hard time for her; then she realizes that she needs to change and help others. She thinks she was numb and viciously unhappy. Since then, she does a lot of work to train her mind so it will not happen again. ● [31:18] Dr. KellyAnn said that we numb ourselves in many different ways. Work is one of them, sometimes its alcohol. Sometimes it is gambling or sex. There are a million ways that we develop addictive personalities to deflect. She thinks she is deflecting a lot of things that are going on internally with her life. We can't bury things and we have to face them because these emotions are tearing our bodies. ● [34:23] Life and success are interesting because when you first achieved success, everybody wants to help you. You will get to a certain place that they want to destroy you. Dr. KellyAnn found herself in a situation where she doesn't feel that the people around her were well-intended; this can only happen when you don't have the self-worth that you have. The most important thing in life is to know your worth. ● [36:00] If things going on in your personal life and you don't have a tight shift, it is tough to go out to the world and feel that safety or feel that nurturing. We can't ignore it, and we have to clean up. A lot of people that you see even in work have negative forces around them that can take you down. ● [38:15] Dr. Larry shows Dr. KellyAnn's book called "Cleanse and Reset". Dr. KellyAnn revolutionizes the idea of cleansing. For Dr. Larry, it is an idea to quick-fix things like obesity. ● [41:35] Dr. KellyAnn said that the process of transformation is becoming aware. These little tips and programs and the personal story in the book that you can live through and learn from. She wants to be an example for them. This is not following every step; people want to know what to do, so KellyAnn gave them what to do. ● [43:00] There are many people who crash their diet and get back again to the first step. That is why Dr. KellyAnn's program is consists of real food that we can have in our diet or put in our eating every day.

This week on the show, I'd like to introduce to you Rachael Markarian, dancer, actor, master teacher (full bio below). I met Rachael through last week's guest Bethany Londyn, at Bethany's book launch (I'm learning about networking here, guys). She had great energy and passion, and a message to share, so I'm excited to bring her to you this week. Episode drops Tuesday on Apple Podcasts and my Youtube channel, follow the link in the bio. (Insert bio). #Doctor #Host #Moments #Podcast #Show #Dancer #Master #Actor #Rejection #Success #Audition ​ ​ Originally from Boston, Rachael resides in Los Angeles with a versatile and successful career in the Entertainment Industry. Rachael was introduced to the arts at a young age, taking up dance to correct an innate handicap she had with her legs. After falling in love with it, she attended a Performing Arts High School immersing herself in dance, theatre and music. As a teenager, Rachael trained at some of the most prestigious schools in New York City, solidifying her dream to pursue a career in Entertainment. She then attended Oklahoma City University as a Theatre & Dance Performance Major. Since moving to Los Angeles, Rachael has been in over 30 Films, TV Shows & Commercials, ranging from Co-Stars, to Guest Stars, Recurring, Supporting and Lead roles. Some of her Film & TV credits include Top Gun: Maverick, The Morning Show, Dollface, Legion, Glee, True Blood, Rush Hour 3, Gilmore Girls Revival, Mascots, How I Met Your Mother, CSI, Dr. Ken, No Strings Attached, Microsoft, Target, Chevy, Farmer's Insurance, H&M and many more. ​ . She's the proud owner of the In-Studio Intensive, The Dancer's Edge As a well-respected Master Teacher who travels both domestically and internationally, Rachael is passionate about sharing her love for dance and educating young artists about the importance of a healthy mindset in preparation for the Entertainment Industry. She hopes to encourage others to pursue their dreams and feel empowered by their ability to do so.   Show Notes [1:10] We have a wonderful guest for today, Rachel Markarian, an actress, dancer, and Master teacher. Master Teacher is somebody who had a very lucrative or versatile career as a dancer that works in multiple areas and is now sharing the knowledge and that passion to other generation. Rachel is now teaching for 6 or 7 years. She has a convention that is like studios from all across the world and has 200 children in her classes. [2:15] The convention Rachel teaches was called “Energy Dance Project”. They are in the 10th season this coming 2020. This will be Rachel’s 2nd full year with them. They teach the kids what is a professional dance world looks like, and they compete for awards, scholarship money, and all the stuff in their studios. [4:17] Rachel is one of the 15 Master teachers on her convention. Rachel can teach the children lyrical dance, jazz or hill class. She is very versatile, she is not the kind of teacher who teaches specific dance type. Rachel said that dance is so subjective and it’s great for younger dancers to be exposed to Master Teachers because everybody has a different perspective and different style. The more they can expose themselves to that, the better and stronger they’re going to be as an artist and as a human being because they teach beyond steps and choreography. In Rachel’s class, she teaches a deeper understanding in what they are doing. [7:14] Rachel is from Boston, she studied at Oklahoma. During her semester off, she goes to LA to train and tries to audition and work. Oklahoma City had a really good musical theater department so she was able to do her acting, her music, and dancing. She went to a performing arts high school so it’s like a perfect fit for her and she like the slow-paced. [9:00] In between of her summer, off Rachel lost her father. She was 18, so that put everything in perspective and she thinks what she’s going to be and what she will be doing so she decided to move to LA. For nine months, it was a huge struggle for her. She worked hard to save for money before going to LA but it wasn’t enough and she wants to only work on her industry. In 9 months of auditioning and hoping her money would last, she had only $6.86 on her bank account and her rent was due and there was an audition for a tour. There were like 400 girls at the audition and they only needed two and thankfully, Rachel and her roommate were chosen out of the 400 girls. That was the moment were Rachel’s career change.  [12:31] Most of her 20’s was all direct booking which is the choreographer. The director calls her agency and asks her if she’s available. Rachel thinks that it is good because if you can work with a handful of choreographer you worked with multiple times, that’s all you need to constantly work because if they work all the time and they trust you and you deliver for them and you are right for the job, they will keep asking for you to come back. [14:00] Rachel said that if your work is defining you and you are not getting the result that you want at work, that’s a really dangerous road to go down especially if you love what you do. So if you are not going to do that anymore, it’s heartbreaking. It is a hard balance but it is important because you will lose yourself or you will be discouraged and you’ll quit. Rachel was very naive, the idea of not working out for her never cross her mind. She said that this is what she trained for her whole life. This is the only thing she wants to do therefore she is going to be successful. However, she did not think what it is going to look like but she will do everything she can do to make her dreams become a reality. [17:00] She said that mentality is very important; it is not being conceded. It is not thinking that you are better than them; it knows what you will bring to the table. In an audition, Rachel will do her best she can. If she is right for it, she’s hopefully booked for it, and if she doesn’t, it’s either she fell short in some way or it wasn’t the right type. She can’t control types that they are wanting but she can’t change her height, her hair or ethnicity so having an understanding of your self, your worth and knowing not to take it personally is truly half of what this is about. [20:02] A lot of older dancer used to tell Rachel that rejection is protection. That God is protecting her from that job, or that experience or rejection is a redirection. That she is supposed to be available for something else. Especially now that she is an actress, rejection is on a much deeper level than dancing. [22:00] Dr. Larry shares his experience in medical school acceptance. It is like the worst thing ever for him, but the difference is once you get in, that’s it. There’s other stuff, but its not a continual audition every week or month. Imagine going into a job interview multiple times a week. That’s what Rachel career for all these years. Rachel is very thankful that she had a nice career when she was a dancer but when she was transitioning out of dancing and her passion is shifting into acting, she was not getting results the same way when she was a dancer. [24:00] She needs to start from the ground at 30 years old when all this other actress had been building their resumes since they were 16. In times when Rachel is questioning herself, thankfully she had a coach that told her not to allow anybody to dictate her path. You decide what your heart sings for. Then she thought that this is the road and she will saddle up and go. She goes out with nature, changed her environment, writes her journal, understands that life is bigger than this and she is still doing it. This is why she tried to instill this when she was teaching. [27:37] Rachel remembers in the 400-girl audition that she felt confident and that she also felt the pressure because she needs to pay her bills. If she didn’t get this job, she would probably try to get a side job at a studio teaching or something. Rachel was used to being one of many auditioning for something so when she is going for an audition, she was focus on remembering the choreography and the thing that will make her stand out. That moment you will grab the client’s attention. [29:41] Rachel always tells her students that the first 4 to 8 counts of their audition is the most important because it’s when casting or the directors are going to decide on whether or not to watch you. You don’t overdramatize something, but there is the little thing that you can deal and a lot of it has to deal with eye contact and confidence. Rachel said that it’s simple just to make them uncomfortable but there is a sense of essence that comes over you with true confidence like “I have something that you want”. [32:50] The 400-girl audition was for the tour with a Latin artist name Chayanne. He was like the Michael Jackson of the Latin world. Dr. Larry remembers one of Chayanne's song was “Torero,” and Rachel was one of the dancers. She works with Chayanne for two years. All of Rachel’s tour was mostly in South America and in Europe. They spend a lot of time in Spain. Rachel loves to travel but after her third tour, she stops. [35:10] Doctor Larry and Rachel talk about anorexia and body issues in dancing. Rachel has a company and they travel a lot of studios around the world and she always does a Q and A with parents and teachers. She often gets a parent asking about the weight. She said that they have to feel healthy and also they have to take care of their bodies in a healthy way. They have to eat nutritious food and work out so that when they dance, they will not get injured. [37:29] Rachel struggles in college because their grade was dependent on their weight. If they didn’t hit the number on a scale, they would lose their scholarship or their grade was affected. Their reasoning is they have to be fit and when they get into the professional world, they can’t be overweight but the downside of that is when Rachel saw that they are not qualifi

Ever had a moment when you learn something or have an epiphany, and if you would have learned it a decade ago, it would have saved you so much pain?  This week, Bethany relates the moment that she was doing an exercise in eye contact and was learning how to trust herself and her intuition by connecting to her body.  What pain in life would it have saved her, had she had this realization before?  Listen to her moment and more, as her episode of "Life Can Change In a Moment" is live today on Apple Podcasts and my Youtube Channel.   Bethany is all about Body Intelligence and teaching how to achieve results through listening to the conversations of the body. She's an advocate for her clients, always putting them first and co-creating the change necessary to support a shift towards their highest and best. She's been internationally recognized and interviewed for her products and articles gone viral on MindBodyGreen, ThriveGlobal, YogaJounal, talks at Businesses & Universities such as University of Southern California, has a best seller, and another book on the way. Bethany's certifications include Transformational Workshop Facilitator and ThetaHealing(r). She has also studied multiple change modalities such as EmotionCode, BodyCode, HumanDesign, NLP, Reiki, FengShui, along with what comes to her naturally. Whether it's one on one or a group talk, Bethany aligns you to your truth and core allowing for infinite possibilities to unfold. Show Notes [1:00] Our Guest for today is Bethany Londyn, an alignment Catalyst. We are going to talk about her book. A catalyst is one who ignites passion, whether it was for business or relationship. It's about creating passion and finding purpose, but also there is an alignment for our goals, and its process is in Bethany's book. [3:45] Some of its processes are listening to our bodies and finding out what is the alignment because some goals are way too high and it's not we can't have them, but we have some shift and tweak to it.  Through the book, Bethany is teaching us to know what is our yes, what is our truth and what is our no. Doctor Larry remembered it at Bethany's book launch. Dr. Larry's no is on his lower part of his body, and he feels like he is rooted like planted on the ground holding his space like NO! And his YES are different. It's a little higher, somewhere open, it's like it's in his upper body. [5:40] Doctor Larry demonstrates how to feel the NO in our body with the help of Bethany. Doctor Larry feels something in front of him. Bethany said that NO feels heavy and constricted. Bethany took two years to understand her YES and NO through her body. Her left side will clinch for a NO, and on her right side, it will clinch for a YES. [7:50] Bethany said that we can do this in our home while standing and saying yes and no we might feel our body lean to the right, lean to the right, lean forward, lean back. A lot of people lean forward for a yes and backward for a no, so our body is always talking to us. Bethany tells a story of her business manager that has a million-dollar opportunity meeting and everything on her manager's head wanted to say yes. Still, his body feels nauseous, it was giving signs of no, and he said no to the great opportunity and thought that he was an idiot, but three days later he got a.call for another business deal that even grander, better company and it was a yes. [10:00] Doctor Larry thinks that its important to recognize that our mind has its own agenda, the way it works and our guts have one too and we put them together and listen to them. Bethany said she had health issues when she had the awakening. She realizes that the start-up that she was working on cause her health issues. When she went to the doctor at the age of 30, she found out that she couldn't have kids. After doing a silent workshop where she got align with her body, she realizes that when she starts working at the company all she feels is heat that she was not paying attention to, and that was a no. [12:27] Doctor Larry asks Bethany how she ends up numb at 30. Bethany said that her divorce is a part of it because she was a compartmentalizer. Bethany was raised hardcore Catholic and thinks that a lot of statements she makes even in the service are taking her power away. There were things in the Catholic religion that she loves but also there are things that she doesn't. She thinks that there is a lot of guilt and a lot of shame and judgment. [14:00] Bethany's life coach help her realize that she was not paying attention to her body. Her coach made her listen to yoga nidra, and that helps her to pay attention to every point of her body which she was not aware of. That's why for Bethany, it was so powerful because so many people are not getting information from their bodies. [16:37] Bethany was very good at metaphors, instead of saying that she was not comfortable working at her computer she will say that she was walking through lava. Doctor Larry literally imagined burning lava that's where Bethany explains how our minds will make something up out of something, so it's easy to pay attention to our body to get a yes and a no. [18:30] Bethany's moment that was related to her book was when she was participating in an activity involving eye contact. She realizes that's if she has done this exercise, she will not marry her ex-husband. Bethany tells a story when her ex-husband walks by her, and when her ex-husband put his arm on her back, she cringes. If she listened to her body at that time, it was a 100% no.  [21:25] Because of the eye contact activity that Bethany participated in, she realizes that her feelings towards the yes or no of our body are true. That's why it took her two years to figure out the concrete of yes or no because of the trust that this was legit. [23:50] In an interview or meeting somebody for the first time, it takes 0.9 seconds to develop a response. At that moment, our brain filtering all of our information to create a different reaction than the first initial reaction. When Bethany visits highschool, she told the students that she wouldn't say to a thing and wants them to tell her what's her personality and what she's doing and everything they said was true even work stuff. [28:50] Bethany's other intuition experience is when she was on real state start-ups, she doesn't know what's her first response was but she know that she had a lot of excitement with it similar to her ex-husband so a lot of times, excitement can be overridden and if it's like covering something up, so it's important to get grounding to meditate and to feel through into the excitement.  [30:58] Bethany talks about her experience when she goes to a talk by Eddie Lucas and what about he describes a tree is one of Bethany's healing practices that she does with people. He talks about the light coming through branches into our body in grounding us and it sinks it to the earth which ground us every single day, every step that we take we are supported by this earth that we walk on. [34:00] Doctor Larry has another view of grounding concerning diabetic people, they can't feel because of neuropathy, but they can check their feet so that they can become aware of what is going on to their body. Doctor Larry is worried because there are so many people are not listening to their bodies. [36:45] Bethany said that for diabetic people that can't feel their feet, she's sure that they still need signals, it could be to the right, left at the back or forward because it was very small movements because at first Bethany won't believe she was feeling it and it hit her. [39:14] Doctor Larry shows the art piece that Bethany brought. Doctor Larry said that if there is an artist on our guest, they can bring their art piece and tell us about it. Bethany started arts when she was 20, and she loves it, and it brings her so much joy. She explains that her work is always grounded with a theme and intention. And when her art bought by the client, then they are bringing the energy with them and placing it on their home or business. The piece that Bethany brought was called "Let there be light", we can check her art at londonsart.com. [42:10] Doctor Larry shows Bethany's book called "Get Aligned Now". The art behind the book was digitally painted by Bethany herself. She had no idea until someone pointed out that her cover is very similar to "The Power of Now" by Eckhart Tolle and they both have now on the title. [45:12] Doctor Larry and Bethany do an excerpt from the book. It says, "notice your energy levels after fueling your body with stillness". Bethany said that stillness is in different ways, it could be with the tree, it could be while painting or dancing but at the end of the day the stillness is in our minds so that we can listen to the rest of our body. [48:00] Page 23 of the book "In your current life is there's a situation that makes you feel icky inside." Doctor Larry remembers his sister used to say that when it's not the right person, you will feel the ick. Bethany said that if your feeling icky, if your feeling frustrated, angry, anything negatives you're not in alignment, and it's time to take time to paying attention to it and figure out why we are feeling this. [50:30] Bethany said that as natural humans we want to blame everything to everyone else but no, we have a part on it and figuring it out now what is our truth in the situation, so if you are feeling icky we can pinpoint it and we will know why is that really driving this emotion out of us. [52:30] Doctor Larry talks about his experience at Bachelorette and doing interview he said that he would tell everything, but he's not talking about his mother, at Doctor Larry mind he wants to pleased the guy, but suddenly he was asking questions about Dr. Larry's mother, and immediately Dr. Larry feel something awful from his guts but his brain did not alight with it. [54:55] Bethany wants to call her book "Body Intelligence" because ever

This week on the show, we bring you the next Judge Judy, retired circuit Judge Mary Ann Chrzanowski.  I met her through Dr Judy Ho, who did the show earlier this year, Judge Mary and Dr Judy worked together on the tv shows The Doctors and Face the Truth.   Scary Mary, as she called herself to me, is a retired circuit judge from Michigan.  I found her moment to be inspiring and unique. [1:10] Our guest for today is Judge Mary Chrzanowski. She works together with Doctor Judy Hoe in a television show. Doctor Judy Hoe recommended Marry to guest at our show. Judge Mary is a retired circuit judge from Macomb County, Michigan. She presided over a variety of cases like major felony cases, divorce cases and civil cases. [3:22] Judge Mary’s year of experience was seen so much in divorces. She saw good people at their very worst in criminal cases. She saw bad people at their very best. Mary cried when she remembered the cases and the victims; it was very traumatic. Mary loved being a job but she felt burned out. She applied for a job as a Federal Administrator Law Judge working for the Social Security Department for only nine months because she can’t tolerate sitting in a room revealing medical records 8 hours a day. [6:30] Mary’s moment is when her cousin, who is also a judge told her to become a lawyer and become a judge. So she went to a courtroom and watched them. After that, she told herself that she wants to be a judge. At the age of 18, there no stopping her. She finished college in 3 years and went to law school. Mary failed the bar 3 times and when she passed the bar, she ran for the judge at 28 years old. She lost but nothing can stop her dreams. After two years, she ran again and won. [9:00] At the age of 30, Mary was elected and took her office at 31. She enjoys being a judge for 24 years. Nothing gets easy for her. When she was studying, she studied hard to get what she wants. When she gets confused, she always thinks of her career in the future. [11:20] The judge that she watches at that time was her cousin Robert Chrzanowski. In that courtroom, was planted some seed almost like a switch for Mary that set her track to become a judge. But unfortunately, you have to be an attorney first before becoming a judge. The law in Michigan says you have to be an attorney for five years before becoming a judge. There was no law like that when Mary initially run. [14:20] Mary thought at that time was the ability of the judge to help people change their lives. Until now, Mary still gets e-mails and Facebook requests wanting to be her friends because she saves them by giving them direction in life. Mary loves the criminal aspect of her job because she can give them direction and hopefully save their life. Mary said that most criminals need structure. They need direction. They need somebody to motivate them. [16:48] In her courthouse, one of their judges said everybody needs a high school education. Everybody needs that structure. Everybody needs to be proud of an accomplishment. Mary did not forget that and integrated it herself. [17:40] Mary can save people, especially on drug addiction cases because she was an alcoholic before. She can relate to people and understand the issues in addiction. It enables Mary to do a great job. They have drug courts where Mary enjoys which is a specialized court where they get people in and give them attention to help them with their issues. [20:30] Mary said that our judicial system and our criminal justice system is one of two things. It should be both rehabilitation and punishment. If we don’t rehabilitate them and purely punish them, we are going to come back in through the revolving door. That is happening right now because there was no money to rehabilitate, the way people should be rehabilitated. Mary said that employers should give a convict a chance to get a job. [24:00] The hardest part of Mary’s job was to put people in jail, but we don’t have alternative ways for that. That is why Mary said we need to start treating addiction because the majority of the cases are because of addiction issues. Most of their addiction came from their environment and trauma. One day, Mary encountered a young man in court because of drug selling. She found out that there was no record of abuse in his family. His parents asked Mary what they do wrong because they raised him well and gave him the best education. Mary doesn’t know to answer. [27:00] Judge Mary is not favored on drug legalization. She believes that we need some control because things will get out of hand. Mary believes that marijuana can help certain people, but is also concern about smoking marijuana while driving; it can affect your reaction time. [29:40] Judge Mary experience DUI arrest and almost killed her mother in a vehicular accident on Christmas eve two months after she became an attorney. At the age of 18, Mary was an alcoholic and she stopped drinking at the age of 40. She stopped drinking when her mom died and realized that the person who really loves her isn’t there anymore. [33:11] Mary stopped drinking and got obsessed with bicycling. That’s when she knows that she was done with alcohol. Mary replaced alcohol with bicycling. When she can’t bike in the winter because she lives in Michigan, she goes to the gym to bike. Now she also walks at the beach in Florida. [35:00] Mary was close to her mom. Her father died when she was 4.  She has four brothers who were older than her. Another reason that Mary drinks are because of her responsibility in the family. She had a great guy but her mother hated him because her mother was afraid to lose her. She decided that she does not want to live her life according to her mother’s life. She felt sorry for that. [37:00] Mary said that they are not perfect people. When they go to the bench, they bring a lot of stuff. All of the emotions that she can integrate into deciding cases and in people’s lives. Mary internalizes the case in front of her and relates it to what she experienced in her life. At the age of 16, she saw two dead men lying in front of their house. These experiences made Mary a better person and a judge. [39:00] Mary talks about a man and woman who broke in her home. She could call the judge but she did not do anything. She went into the hearing like everyone else. She said to the judge that she doesn’t want to put them in prison. She just wanted her stuff back. Mary did not get any of her stuff back but she hoped they appreciated that she did not put them in prison. [40:45] Mary retired as a circuit judge in 2016 and 2017 on her federal job. Mary stopped drinking in the same year her mother passed away. It is also the year when her brother was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. After 15 months, her brother died. In the past year, she lost her other two brothers. Fortunately, Mary has a strong will and did not go back to drinking. [42:13] For people who have an addiction, Mary said the first thing you have to recognize is that you have a problem and wanted to get help. You do it for yourself and not for your children or spouse. People should know that they can’t go back and if they had a relapse, it’s not the end of the world. They should pick up themselves and do it all over again until they get rid of it. [45:00] Judge Mary learned to deal with the difficult things she saw when she was a judge. She said that she has to put it on a shelf and leave it right there because there are more cases she has to deal with. Mary did not know how she does it but she was able to do it. It took her years before she developed the habit. Mary said that we need to look at judges who are suffering from PTSD. She did not think that it will happen to her. [47:07] Mary had a case of a young woman who got abducted and got killed on a trail. When someone asked her to join a fundraiser that she needs to walk to earn money, she joined. While walking alone, the case of the young woman come back at her and all of a sudden she got scared and never thought that it would happen to her. [49:00] Mary retired because she felt burned out. She was doing 25 to 30 cases a day, taking guilty pleas all day long. She had probation violators coming in and got tired. She wanted to change and thought that being an Administrative Law judge will help her and it did.  Mary felt she was fortunate to be interviewed by Lester Holt. She has a featured story in Dateline. Dateline NBC did a documentary. They followed Judge Mary for three months. They followed 3 or 4  of Mary’s drug court candidates and how the drug court changes their life. It was called Scary Mary Presiding. Mary was very flattered because Lester Hoft will only interview 3 or 4 people a year. The next thing she knew,  she was contacted by Stage 29 which is Dr. Phil. They asked her to come out and be on The Doctors and eventually get her own show. [51:34] Mary loves being on the show because she can say what she really wants to say, not like on the court. If Mary would have a show, it will be “Face The Truth,” where they will bring people with addiction issues, and in the end, they will give them rehab and put them on the right road. That’s what Mary wants to do in her life. [55:15] Mary wants to keep helping people recognize that there is a life out there. She wants to give them a chance. But these people should realize too that they are the only ones who can make the changes. Mary's message to the people who’s dream is to be judge, is never to let anybody tell you that you can’t do it. Because many people told Mary that she would not be elected and that she will not going to make it. [57:05] Mary was independent, and our judges don’t belong to any political party. In Mary’s mind, it is very special. She represents all the people, not just the democrats or just the republicans. Mary votes for the person, not the party lines. She votes for the person who is best for her. It puts Mary to quandary because she was thinking of running for prosecuting attorney a

I’d like to introduce to you a new friend of mine, Matt Wallerstein, I met him at a dinner in LA, we hit it off right away, respect.  This week, my interview with him makes me ask you the following question:   Can you have both?  Or do both, in this case?  Maybe a day job to pay the bills and a passion project on the side.  This week’s guest, Matt Wallerstein, Esq, is a lawyer during the day and a musician at night, and I find how he does both inspiring to a more fulfilling life for those of us who want more than our day job provides, without plowing into the burnout that simply having 2 jobs would lead to.   This week we cover: *Why Matt is lawyer by day, musician by night. *How your day job and passion project can synergistically balance each other *That Matt wrote, directed and starred in his own Indie Movie in law school. *How to play the law school game *Matt describes the unique musical creative he shares with his band partner *What 2 things entertainment law contracts all come down to…(I’ll give you a hint, money and …) *How Netflix has changed the world Matt practices law in     Show Notes [1:30] Our guest today is Matt Wallerstein, an entertainment lawyer, and a musician. Matt and Larry met at the meeting of the master’s dinner. He participated in one of the branches and now working at the bar for fun. [2:50] Matt represents writers, producers, directors, and actors in the entertainment law side and on the music side, he plays keys, singing and songwriting project called Kingdoms. He also does some solos and a project called Vanity Shades which is also the name of his Instagram account. Matt makes time for both music and law. He always finds time for the things he has a passion for. When he finishes a day as an entertainment lawyer, he goes to the studio with his bandmates and has a wonderful creative session that allows him to both decompress from entertainment law stuff and have a beautiful creative outlet. [7:07] Matt's creative path was always been there when he was at school at USC. He was a screenwriter and he was represented by one of the biggest talent agencies in town, CAA. It helps him in scripts, putting actors and directors and everyone in place. With that, he thought that he was going to be a writer. Matt went to GW in DC and in his first semester, the 9/11 attack happened. He did not come home after that but he was a freshman across a country from his home, Los Angeles. [9:20] Matt said that we are sincere when he saw the Notre Dame football on our Instagram. Matt was a USC hater, he saw three Heisman trophy winners: Carson Palmer, Reggie Bush, and Matt Leinart. [11:15] Matt was an American literature major which was not his emphasis. He went to entertainment law because his dad was also an entertainment lawyer for over forty years. When Matt was a club promoter and going every night, he feels he is not positively channeling his energy. It was fun, but he thinks that it is a social life masquerading as a job so he takes all spare time to write more screenplay. He was about ready to produce and direct an act when his parents called him one day to send him to law school. [14:10] Matt was in entertainment for ten years now. He went to law school at the age of 22 and finish at 25. The movie project he and his group made was called the Diet Life and he thinks he has the only copy of the movie. The movie has won the 2009 Bel Air Film Festival. [16:44] Matt did not find it difficult to make the movie while he was in law school. He felt that it was very natural. He was the trainer guy and co-directed the movie with his friend. He said that in law school, your entire grade is mostly weighted towards the finals. In the two hours test at finals, he figures it out and studies two weeks before the finals and passed. [19:50] Matt said that the law school is just general knowledge and once you start in your field that’s when you gain the actual expertise. [22:00] Matt’s moment was when he woke up one morning and got a message from his friend inviting him to play the keyboard at their band called Pierce The Arrow. They will open up for Martha Davis and The Motels at Lake Arrowhead and he accepted it. [24:00] That week when he accepted his friend's offer, he went to the place every night to learn all the songs. He performed before but never played piano in front of many people and suddenly he was asking to play in front of thousands of people. Also, the Vanderpump rules are going to shoot and he has only one-week preparations. This laid the foundation for the two-person project he was doing right now. [27:03] Matt and one of his friends Brayden went to the manager’s place before the show. They experienced a foggy, crazy winding path and all his nervousness was gone and he felt the show was going to be a breeze. [30:00] The anticipation is so intense before the show but once Matt steps on stage, hearing all the applause, the preparations he made and the nervousness went away. Larry is impressed that Matt is very calm in that situation. [32:40] After the show, Matt did not realize at first that this is a thing for him and it took a bit longer before his idea to catalyze that he should be the one writing songs and having more ownership over the project. [34:30] After the show, the producers of Vanderpump rules an American reality television series says it was a very cool segment and wants to make it on a larger scale. Matt has a house at Westwood and they decided that they were going to throw an enormous Memorial Day party at his place. [37:00] After the party at Matt’s place, they went almost completely on-hold because they didn’t know what their next step. After a few months, Matt and Brayden decided that they did not necessarily want the politics of being involved in a reality show.  They want a band that has many parts and that’s when they broke off and form their two-piece band. [39:23] Matt feels awkward when they broke off from the Pierce The Arrow band because he was the new member and he takes as their vocalist. The reality tv show didn’t help because all the footage at the party never aired which part of the reason there was a band problem. [41:30] Matt did not know how good he had it with Brayden until they had a little rift three years ago. He tried collaborating with other people and he realized that it was not working as he experienced with the five-piece band. [45:30] They need to come up with a name for their project and they were debating over “Infinity Pool” and “Kingdoms”. They mutually decided to pick “Kingdoms” because it was easier to say and grander and has some staying power. [47:55] Matt’s favorite song that they released last month was Senses by Kingdoms. Their next show might be coming in early 2020. We can follow their band at Kingdoms Universe on Instagram and we can follow Matt at Vanity Shades on Instagram. [50:00] Matt did not want to let go of being an entertainment lawyer. He just loves the intellectual side and problem-solving part of his law job. He feels that it was so interpersonal as figuring out creative solutions to business problems. Entertainment law is a very small subset of law and practically only exists in Los Angeles and a little bit in New York. The focus of Matt’s firm was television and films and mainly the core has been the writer, executive, producer in televisions and sometimes actors and actresses. Matt can relate to them for being a musician himself. [53:00] Matt said that the two most emotional issues in any deal that he does for someone, are the money and the credit. So if the money is not there the credit becomes the utmost importance. The highest level of a producer on the television show is the executive producer, but the highest level of a producer in a movie is produced by or the producer's credit. [54:34] Matt talks about how Netflix set off a domino effect because almost all the big studios gave their content as an extra monetary source and now used their content to build up their platform and make their originals. So now the big studios will release their streaming services. [57:00] Matt talks about the buyers especially the tech companies. The entertainment is not their core business. In making deals with them, there is a little bit of learning curve because they did not know the custom and practice in the entertainment industries. Matt finds it very difficult because there are more deals to be made.

Gabrielle Glancy has been an entrepreneur since the age of four when she sold stickballs for ten cents less than cost back to the boys who had hit them onto her grandfather’s roof in Sea Gate, Coney Island, where she grew up. Just before founding New Vision Learning, at the height of the dot com boom, Ms. Glancy invented Facebook (before there was a such a thing) and called it Townsquare.com. The founder of Ebay, whose daughter she had helped get into Williams, told her it was a brilliant   Show Notes [2:00] Today's guest is Gabrielle Glancy, a College Admissions Guru. She took a course in graduate school talk by Grace Paley, a famous short story writer who wrote the book called Enormous changes at the last minute. Grace had four miscarriages, and when she was 47 after her last miscarriage, she decided to adopt a child from Guatemala. When she's taking care of the child, she thought she has a sleep deprivation due to constantly feeling to pass out. [5:00] Grace is a pre-med English major. Her passion is writing, but she has a writer's block.  When she goes to a neurologist due to her illness, it didn't help her, and she went to an alternative functional medicine doctor named Chris Kresser and told her to check her poop. It turns out she had a raging parasite from Guatemala. [8:45] It took her two years to recover from internal parasites while taking care of an infant and working. Before she got sick, Grace was an AP and English teacher for mostly very smart students, she loves teaching, but the salary was not enough. [12:39] When she was on a stationary bike, she saw people around her becoming quite successful, she loves teaching, but the salary is not enough at that time Grace decided that she can't go on like that. She started reading because she realizes that she has a block that stops her from being successful. [15:14] In three months, Grace overcame the block, and she went from $35000 a year to $35000 a month or more. When Grace overcame the block, all the steps to become successful are crystal clear to her. [18:00] Marco, a child adopted by Grace from Guatemala, drive her to earn more for their survival needs. Grace never married and a single parent, so she hired a nanny for Marco right at the beginning, and it's expensive and realizes that she needs more money to support her son. She is always happy with her work, but it wasn't enough to support them. [22:00] Grace admitted that she was a lesbian, but when she's on Israel because of her job, she met a man named Cottee that broke her friend's heart. They become very close, and after six weeks, Grace accepted Cottee and eventually got pregnant. [26:30] She got a problem telling her friend that she was pregnant. Cottee asked her to marry him, and Grace said that she will think about it and want to be with a woman. Grace was 38 years old when she got her first miscarriage. [30:42] Grace felt devastated because she wants to have the baby even though she doesn't marry him. Grace wanted to be a mother and got four IVF and went to Romania to get eggs. [33:30] Grace got postpartum every year, and after the fourth one, she wants to kill herself. The fourth miscarriage of Grace was dangerous because it was ectopic, and she realized that it's enough. She took a loan from her house to adopt a child. Grace let go to give birth because of life and death experience, and she spends $175,000 to get pregnant. [36:27] Grace felt amazing for being a mother, she felt that once she had him, he is worth all the baby that she lost because he is the baby she needed to have. She remembers calling her mother that she wants to end it all that she will not get pregnant. The third time when she got pregnant with triplets and felt really hard because of miscarriage. [38:36] When she brought home baby Marco from Guatemala, she didn't know what to do, one time when she and her partner went to an art show, they forgot the baby home. Grace enjoyed being a mother. Marco was two and a half years when Grace started her recovery, and she has a lot of debt. [41:20] The block that Grace was feeling was like a dam that has flowing water. She helps people to break those blocks. It's like you want something but something stopping you. Grace thinks that she got the blocks from not surpassing her father in some way. [44:01] Grace said that the most important thing is in place, which is there's no blocking my way, and nothing is going to stop me. Grace makes a visual representation of the block and moving out of the way, then what needed to happen next revealed itself.  [45:46] When Grace removed her block, the first thing she did was to quit her day job. Grace didn't ask herself a question where she will get money after quitting her job. It was like she was driven to do this thing. [48:10] The three things to do to get into college was to do really well at school, figure out what you want, where you want to go, and the golden key to college admission is the essay because that's where they meet you, that's where they shake your hands. Grace leads the students to write without preconceived notions of what the essay is going to look like, what they're supposed to write about. [51:00] The book "Unstuck" is about removing the block. Grace said being on admission was the most boring job on her life, she got to reject 28000 essays of students, she said when you are writing an essay you got to write first think later. Grace asked her students to write five moments of their life in a worry-free zone and rearrange the sentences. [54:00] Grace has a student that fight her the whole time and convince him to write a free write For his essay, the kid writes about the potential lifeguard watching a video about the pool accident, and they arrange it together to make an essay. The lesson was so beautiful; he said: "you can't save everyone from drowning."  [58:30] Grace ask them what five significant moments that change their life; they free write it and stitch it together to make the essay. idea, but that to generate revenue, she would need to sell ads. Selling ads seemed like selling out, and so she founded New Vision Learning instead. As a teacher, educational consultant and college counselor, for nearly thirty years, Gabrielle Glancy has been in the business of helping students find and realize their dreams. Not only has she helped countless students find a way to harness their strengths to overcome their challenges — to learn how to learn — but as Director of New Vision Learning, she has helped thousands of students — all over the Bay Area, New York City, Los Angeles, across the U.S., and all over the world, locate and get into the colleges of their dreams.  Over the course of her career, she has worked in admissions three separate times at three different and highly respected colleges and universities.  She knows exactly what it takes to get in and that helps her every day as she guides students through the college application process. She has taught at some of the most prestigious secondary schools, colleges and universities in the world including The University of San Francisco, New College, Lang College, The New School for Social Research, Saint Ann’s School for Gifted and Talented in New York City, Crystal Springs Uplands School in Hillsborough, California, The American-International School of Israel, The American School in London, and Villanova Prep, where she helped foreign and American students abroad (including boys from Eton and St. Paul’s in London) prepare for the SATs and apply to college. For the past several years, she has been Series Editor of Best College Essays 2014, 2016 and 2018. And she has authored THE book on writing college essays called The Art of the College Essay, one of the bestselling books on the subject. Her next book, UNSTUCK, which helps students free themselves from writer's block, will be released this September.  Gabrielle Glancy has been awarded Teacher of the Year by the National Association for Teachers of the ARTS, and won the European Council of Independent School’s prize for educational writing. Her essay, “The Best You Know How to Be” was published in their journal. She is also a widely published writer. Her work has appeared in The New Yorker, The Paris Review and The American Poetry Review. She has been featured on NPR and in USA Today.

For Dr Frankie, our PsyD professional matchmaker starts by sharing the moment her mother attempted suicide and was in a mental hospital for bipolar.  As we are frequently seeing on this show, the midst of life turmoil often leads to our biggest moments—her first of what would become a career of matchmaking and making people happy—none other than her very own father!  This one is worth listening to.   Dr. Frankie Bashan is a renowned relationship coach and dating expert. She is a licensed clinical psychologist with over a decade of experience working with couples and individuals and specialized training in the field of trauma. She possesses a unique combination of formal training, innate emotional intelligence, and communication skills that allow her to help couples struggling with relationship issues of all kinds. Dr. Frankie is the CEO & Founder of LittleGayBook.com, which focuses on personalized matchmaking for lesbians and bisexual women, and has successfully connected couples across the United States for the last decade. Her latest venture is as CEO & Founder of LittleBlackBookMatchmaking.com, specializing in personalized matchmaking for heterosexual singles. Dr. Frankie’s coaching is based in the San Francisco Bay Area, but clients can access her services via Skype/FaceTime/Zoom from around the globe. You can follow Dr. Frankie on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook.   24:00-28:00 What really matters when picking a romantic partner?   29:11-31:35   Does online and app dating work?   23:09-33:44  How Dr Frankie got burnout doing ER trauma work   34:54-38:51 How to coach yourself with positive self talk through your fear when changing careers   41:45--46 "It's a big waste of time."  Why Dr Frankie doesn't believe in online dating for herself or her clients.   4601-4813 How to DTR (Define The Relationship): How a dating expert would have this conversation.   5007-5515 The challenges of dating for a matchmaker's own love life.   5458 - 5553  What to say to freak someone out on the first date. (funny clip)

Sex workers, open relationships, attachment, intimacy. What would you guess the average porn star talks about in therapy? I had no idea, but we discussed that this week on the show.  Fascinating. Also—Let me tell you what I like about Dr. Amie Harwick’s  moment this week.  She had to stop drinking, not because of alcoholism, but because of a medical condition. In the episode she talks about the numerous benefits to her when she stopped drinking. Her social life changed, and got better. She took better care of herself and her sleeping, she had better energy. All these benefits that even though she wasn't an alcoholic, alcohol was negatively affecting her life. She opens up and talks more about it on this week's episode of Life Can Change In A Moment. Her bio is below. Dr. Amie Harwick, MFT is a licensed marriage and family therapist and sex therapist. She practices in private practice in West Hollywood, CA. Dr. Amie is the author of The New Sex Bible for Women, an international speaker, and if often on tv as an expert in mental health and sexuality. Show Notes [1:00] Dr. Amie Harwick, a Ph.D. Marriage and Family Therapist, and a Sex therapist. When she quit drinking, her life directions change a lot just by making a particular change. [3:40] She slowly realizes that her directions went well when she stops drinking; she also experiences just holding a drink not to bug her by others. She replaces alcohol with one or two cups of coffee a day. [6:50] Dr. Amie needs 3000 hours of interning before she got her license after a master's degree, and it took her for five years. While on graduate school, she also works as a bartender, a performer in a circus, a dancer, a clown, and she also eats fire. [9:00] Dr. Amie explains how she trains to eats fire with professionals. She uses duvetyn, fire extinguisher, and camping fuel with fire safety personnel. She explains that the fire goes up while putting in your mouth and close it but don't breathe in. [12:50] When she quits drinking, she chooses to date that is not alcoholic or likes drinking. She spends hiking and exercising a lot and avoids nightlife, she also loves sleeping and goes to art galleries instead of going to a bar. When she had a client, she always asks about their eating and sleeping, and many of them have sleep deprivation. [16:10] Dr. Amie is a marriage and family therapist and a sex therapist and has a Master's degree in Clinical Psychology.  [19:00] Amie is also interested in Forensic Psychology, but she realizes that she will not enjoy it in a lifetime, so she wanted to be a therapist specializing in sexuality to help people build self-esteem and self-acceptance and education. Many of her clients are related to gender identity, sexual orientation, and how that impact relation around them not always sex addiction that many thoughts. [22:00] Amie said that it is important to seek additional training and education to call yourself an expert in any specialty, so she got her Ph.D. in Human Sexuality and finishing the 3000 hours interning. She also speaks, writes, and videos to educate other people. She saw a lot of posting in social media about people self-diagnosing, psychology disorder to market a book or an idea. People who are Googling their sickness didn't meet the criteria because of anxiety. [27:20] Dr. Amie works with the non-profit called Pineapple support that subsidizes fee the sex workers and performers adult industries, their typical problems are about managing stress anxiety related to changing laws, telling their family members. [30:00] Some of her clients are adult performers or sex workers that have stress related to their bank accounts being shut down because of their jobs, and some clients have a problem in a relationship. [33:06] Sex workers have problematic things and also have benefits; Dr. Amie did not force her clients to stop their jobs related to sex. She said that's people's choice, freedom and responsibility to do that. [35:50] Dr. Amie rescue a cat and change her life a lot, she dresses him in costume and has Instagram, She thinks that having the companionship of having an animal feels good, she has a client that got a hamster, and it's a life-changer for him. [38:20] Many don't share their problems with others; in therapy, they can share everything and stays in that room. In this time, many people judge other people, shaming others; being cautious of what we say to others will be extremely helpful in society. While online we saw many of judging and criticizing others, Amie said that's why we need to go offline a bit.  [41:20] Dr. Amie talks about to her clients that changing what they follow, what they engage in, and related to what you care about instead following accounts that are people you compare yourself to or information that makes you angry.  [43:30] Amie said that open and honest communication and making time for intimacy and closeness would build attachment and atonement, which are the things that keep relationships together. Dr. Amie highly suggests the book Attached to identify the attachment style that would be best for you. [47:00] Secure partners are typically the best options for an anxious person, but that doesn't make them the good ones. If you in love with the anxious person, all you got to do is to check one another, more communications. The reality is the opposite doesn't attract. Birds of the same feather do flock together. We attracted to people that match our value system. [50:05] Dr. Amie recommended a book called 8 Great Dates by John Gottman, who is one of the best relationship therapist researchers. [51:00] Dr. Amie talks about open relationships and monogamy and thinks both are possible. Her clients with an open relationship are doing it for a long time and much easier to work with than monogamous people who are louder, argue, and more aggressively, she saw in her practice. [54:00] Dr. Amie recommend to do a lot of research, talk a lot of people, join a support group, and see a therapist before going to open relationship. In open relationship scheduling is a difficult task; a lot of poly couples with kids have help from a secondary partner to babysit while the primary partner goes on a date. [56:30] Dr. Amie talks about intentional intimacy or plan sex, it's great to have romantic sex, but in reality, when you are in a relationship sometimes, you’re not going to match up.  [58:17] Dr. Amie said that intimacy doesn’t necessarily have to include sex or sexual activity. [59:15] The new sex bible for women is a book wrote by Dr. Amie Harwick.      

Have you ever wished you could do more?  You see suffering in front of you, but you don’t have the knowledge or skills to make a difference?   Dr Judy Ho shares an emotional moment that drove her to get her Phd in psychology, ultimately so she could become someone much more able to help. [1:00] Dr. Judy Ho is a Forensic Psychologist; she appreciates the value of time. [3:00] Judy’s life-changing moment that leads to her career when she was a teacher aide, a child wants her to be his mom and touched her heart. [6:55] Judy did a double major in business and psychology; she was more interested in psychology than business because she wants to understand the human mind. [9:00] Judy believes that there are people who were born evil no matter what environment and love you give on them; they don’t respond.  [12:00] Judy got more interested in psychology when she was in high school mentoring younger kids, she realized that just being there is a massive thing for them. [13:55] She felt motivated to get a degree to help the kids. [15:20] After she graduated, she got into a combined program of the Department of Psychiatry and Department of Psychology and got her Ph.D. degree in clinical psychology. [19:00] The generation right now is fast-tracking everything. She believes it takes time to be an expert on something. One of her favorite Malcolm Gladwell, quotes “you have to have 10,000 hours in a subject to be an expert. [23:15] There was always a get rich quick theme, but she believes in hard work like her parents. [26:44] The goal of cognitive behavioral therapy is you become your own therapist over time. You learn these tools, and then you build resilience and know what to do next. [28:30] One of the useful tools from cognitive-behavioral therapy is assessing the situation more realistically and the emotion regulation aspect that tells what to do if your anger is rising up. [31:25] Somatic experience is a humor therapy that focuses on your physiology because when we have traumas or negative patterns, they got stuck in our bodies somewhere because we stop ourselves on allowing the natural process to occur like crying and yelling. For example, as a doctor in the ER, I can’t cry in front of a dying patient. [35:55] She loves somatic therapy because it does not require people to restate their trauma in treatment, not like EMDR and other therapy. EMDR is eye movement desensitization and reprocessing therapy that involves recollection of the actual trauma. [39:15] Judy thinks that mind and body dualism is a thing in the past because there is such a deep connection there. For example, in cancer patients that you have a more positive outlook on your future helps with your treatment. [42:00] Dr. Judy Ho also run every day because she knows the positive benefits of it, if she didn’t exercise in the morning, she was very irritable. [44:25] Judy wrote her book Stop Self-Sabotage because she saw many people, successful people still self-sabotaging in one area of their life. Others have a good career and health but failed in a relationship but ignored it. [47:50] Most people are not aware of sabotaging themselves selves, but they can access it because thought precedes every feeling and action. Thought, Feeling, Action is a linear process, and people don’t realize it because an average person has about 15 thousand thought a day. We take those negative thoughts out of automatic mode then we take actions on it. [50:30] Judy said after you notice the thought and start to feel something, once you realize the patterns, then you can do something about it. In the book, she talks about three basic categories of techniques that you can use, and one of that is routinely questioning your thought. [52:35] Once you start to question your belief, then the next step is, can you change that thought to be more reflective of what is happening by simply using the yes. But, yes acknowledging the bad of the situation and acknowledging something going right because people are often negatively thinking all about the bad. [54:00] Judy’s other technique is called labeling; the thought is there, but it does not mean to affect your actions or how you feel. If you have a negative thought, you add a little clause in front of that, and the clause is “I have a thought that.” She has a patient who is constantly saying, “I’m a loser” to himself, and she said what if your thought was “I’m having a thought that I’m a loser,” the negative thought separated from him. [56:09] People have very black and white thinking when it comes to their health and exercise. Having a set of plans in advance when you miss your diet and exercise by using if’s and then, for example, If I’m stress in the ER and I see a bunch of cookies in the breakroom, then I eat one of them and get back to work quickly. [59:00] Dr. Judy Ho is not self-sabotaging now because she was very aware of it, but in her earlier life, one of her self-sabotage things is procrastination, but it made her better.

We are the sum of all moments in our life. Is it one moment that stands out that we can say, “This is why I am who I am,” or is it all those moments stacked up? Ruben had always had the athlete mentality of competition and that comes into all areas of his life. Exercising and training are the ways he eliminates stress in the morning. [4:00] Ruben is more goal-oriented than task-oriented. It’s good to know that you can put in effort and see results at the end of the day. [5:25] Ruben graduated with a degree in Exercise Science and he was doing tours of hospitals when he had the thought, “Did I want to be fat, bald, with $35,000 in debt and try to work out of that hole?” He met a guy who offered to get Ruben into real estate and he made $18,000 in his first month. He never looked back. [7:00] Ruben started in the mortgage industry and eventually branched out into real estate, then went on to buy properties and own over a million dollars in assets. Then 2008 happened. [8:40] When you are in your 20’s and making money in Los Angeles, you’re taught that what you have is how you measure success. Now Ruben operates differently and focuses more on the legacy he’s going to leave in the world. [9:40] Ruben witnessed plenty of fraud in the business but he ran his business over board. When everything started to crash, he began burning through his savings to cover his payroll and debts. Ultimately, Ruben had to declare bankruptcy in 2009. During that time he realized that he didn’t need fancy watches and shiny objects to define himself. [12:20] Ruben could have gone down the path of the victim but he chose not to. He knew he could succeed so he chose a different road. He was disenchanted with real estate and the shady practices and ended up in financial services. [15:40] Ruben went from one difficult self-employed commission sales position to another one. He did well initially, but he felt like he was in just another rat race and not happy about what he was doing. [17:40] One of the connecting factors that Ruben has had in everything he’s done in life is people. Pain points are how we adjust, grow, and evolve. While working in the financial services industry, Ruben realized that he was unhappy and depressed and needed to make a change. His friend invited him to an emotional intelligence workshop, which lead to Ruben’s life changing moment. [20:30] During this time in Ruben’s life, he was open to finding a solution. It was during this workshop that Ruben was doodling an image that would later become his first mural. It started out as Beautify Lincoln, which later became Beautify Earth. [22:00] Ruben didn’t realize at the time that the premise of the mural would later become the foundation for his work. Ruben knew how he was feeling at the time and he wanted a reminder that would help him shift how he was operating. [24:00] We are all mirrors of each other. Ruben realized that if he needed to see that message, someone else probably needed it too. He started thinking about what he needed to see and started making those messages with the faith that others needed it as well. [25:20] We have the opportunity to choose. Only we can make ourselves happy. We get to take responsibility for everything and not pass that off, and ultimately when you love you, that’s life. That’s when everything happens. You have got to love yourself to be able to do everything you can do for the world. [25:50] Own all your flaws, and all your skills. Part of how you love yourself is allowing others to give back to you. A good exercise is to write yourself a love letter. [27:30] Be open to other opinions and thought processes without judging. Realize that every single person is trying to do their best with the information they have at that moment. [28:55] Ruben had always been drawing and painting, but being an artist was never really part of the plan. [31:20] Ruben is trying to elicit an emotional reaction from people with his work. He grabs attention with color as a way to draw someone in. He pulls his inspiration from the emotions he feels himself and then puts that into his art. [34:30] Sometimes it’s hard for people to hear a message they need to hear and art is a way into people’s hearts. [36:05] At the time he created the first mural, Ruben was still working in the financial services industry, and being in both lead to him being mediocre at both. It took him having a conversation with himself and committing to the artist’s path for him to leave the services business. [39:00] He found success in all the other things he had put his mind to, so Ruben just had to shift his mindset and believe that he could also be successful as an artist. He started out slowly by connecting with people who had enjoyed his work. [41:00] What you’ve got to realize is that you have to stay true to your purpose and play the long game. When you play the short game you often sacrifice the exact thing that will lead to long-term success. You don’t have to be a “classical” artist, there are plenty of ways you can approach success. [44:15] One of the things that Ruben stills struggles with is self acknowledgement. Every project is special and unique with different impacts, but there were two that stood out. [47:50] One particular project focused on financial literacy which was something that really connected with Ruben. It was centered around goals and dreams and allowed kids to visualize their dreams and paint them into the mural. Another major project involved painting a mural inside of a prison. [53:00] Ruben is working on expanding his brand and building out his startup, essentially the AirBnB of murals. He’s taking what he learned with the non-profit and connecting artists so they can share their voice. [54:15] Aside from beautifying the marketplace, Ruben is focused on building out the community around his brand and changing mindsets. One of the things that drives Ruben is the belief that you have to aim for the stars.     Follow Ruben, join the movement of living through love. RubenRojas.com@RubenRojas on Instagram@RubenRojas on TwitterRuben Rojas on YouTube

To go back to Caroline’s moment we have to go back 20 years. Caroline grew up in the deep south and at the age of 15 she found a book which completely changed the way she looked at food. Her grandmother’s death due to food related disease really set her life on the path that she currently walks. [2:50] Like a lot of girls, Caroline was trying to understand what she had to eat in order to be her best self. At the age of 15, she ate like most of her peers, which is to say lots of fried food, meat, dairy, and cheese. [3:55] A family friend had stayed at the house around that time and left a stack of books on the kitchen table after leaving. It was one of those books that transformed the way Caroline perceived dairy products and their connection to diseases that many people suffer from. [4:50] In the 90’s the dairy lobby was responsible for some very persuasive commercials targeting young boys and girls. Marketing is a powerful tool but it can also be misleading. [7:30] The book referred to milk as bovine slime and interspecies adult breastfeeding. Caroline dug into the claims of the book and did some research, which revealed some very disturbing facts. [9:45] Animal agriculture is one of the biggest contributors to greenhouse gases and not only is dairy not good for us, it’s disease promoting. Learning about the dairy industry set off Caroline’s identity as a plant based eater. Removing dairy from her diet had immediate positive impacts on her health and energy. [11:00] Feeling like she was eating in line with her values was one of the most powerful moments in Caroline’s life. [11:40] Being a teenage girl is the US is harder today than it was in the past. Social media puts a spotlight on us that didn’t exist before and tends to amplify the small things that don’t mean much once you have more life experience. [14:15] There is a difference between plant based and being vegan, Caroline started out on the plant based path but has since moved closer to the vegan paradigm. [15:25] The LA Vegan Fashion Show highlights the issues in the fashion industry that are shared with the food industry. The fashion industry is one of the biggest polluters to the planet outside the food industry, but that fact isn’t very well known. [16:55] Vegan fashion is focused on removing the animal products used in many different types of garments. It’s interesting that we as a society decide which animals are okay to wear, which animals are okay to eat, and which animals we love. As westerners we don’t believe it’s okay to eat dogs, but it’s common in other parts of the world. [19:10] Caroline looks back on her grandmother’s death with a mix of sadness and gratitude, because without a hard experience something may not ignite within you. A few years after reading the book that changed her life, Caroline’s grandmother was diagnosed with stomach cancer. [20:20] We now conclusively know that meat causes cancer, and stomach cancer has been linked directly to processed meat. What we feed our body, that’s what we become. Watching her grandmother waste away from stomach cancer affected her greatly. [23:35] Caroline remembers thinking that her grandmother’s food choices lead to her diagnosis and eventual death. It wasn’t her grandmother’s fault, but if she could prevent someone else from suffering the same way she could. Food wasn’t originally going to be her career but the mission felt too important and Caroline wanted to use her energy helping people. [26:10] Losing someone close to you at such a young age is very traumatic but some of the hardest things in life become the reasons for who you are today. [27:30] There is a myth that eating vegan is more expensive but that’s not true if you have a little knowledge about how to cook and what to buy. [28:30] Food activism wasn’t Caroline’s first step. She originally started out as a journalist which is where she really learned to question and challenge authority, and that ties in directly to her food activism. Even while working as a journalist Caroline felt the pull towards what she really cared about. [32:30] Carolines relates a story of when she was a rookie journalist and working on a morning show during the Christmas season where she was elbow deep in macaroni and cheese. [36:15] Society may not have been ready for a plant based diet or vegan eating 15 years ago but the world has changed. There are a number of plant based food alternatives available in fast food restaurants that just didn’t exist back then. [37:05] That moment was another pivot point in Caroline’s life. From there she transitioned her career and her life from South Carolina to California to pursue her mission as a food activist. [39:00] It wasn’t the easiest transition, it took time to establish her new life. Caroline recalls how out of place she felt in South Carolina eating food different from everyone else. She remembers finding places to eat alone just so she wouldn’t have to deal with mean comments from the other kids. [41:00] To social media’s credit, influencers have normalized the plant based diet for much of society and highlighted the issues going on in the food industry. It’s very interesting seeing people transition away from the traditional American diet to more plant based foods. In many ways it’s very vindicating. [43:00] Caroline’s activism grew out of a root of loving animals but veganism is as much about helping humans as well as animals. People are affected by the food systems too by the diseases that become more prevalent due to our diet. [45:00] A recent study has found that the number one cause of death is no longer smoking, it’s food. [45:20] Caroline started her new life as a food activist by moving to San Francisco and going to events and meeting people. She got work in a vegan food production startup and after five years she pivoted into becoming a growth consultant. She now helps other companies in the plant based food space grow their business. [48:55] Currently the government is subsidizing disease promoting food, the question is why? [50:15] The Game Changers is a new movie debuting on Netflix that is disrupting one of the biggest myths associated with being an athlete. In many ways athletes can get a competitive edge by switching to a plant based diet. [55:45] One of the messages in the film is “what are you going to do with your strength and your power? What does it mean to be a man?” The movie really explores the way meat is tied to masculinity and how it’s harming us. [57:20] The food industry is using the same playbook that the tobacco industry used in the past to convince people that what they are selling is not only safe, but good for you. [59:20] Game Changers became the fastest selling documentary on iTunes in only 9 days. [1:00:40] Based on a discovery in Turkey, we know that some of the strongest athletes in history, the Roman gladiators, ate a primarily plant based diet. [1:01:15] While the film was being made, James’s father had a heart attack and that became another facet of his journey. Everything stops when someone you know gets sick, and the story became about trying to save his father’s life while also healing his own body. [1:03:25] Some of Caroline’s favorite foods include Gardene meatballs and other relatively simple staples like lentils. When someone asks what she has had for a particular meal, it’s usually the same as someone else with a few changes from meat to plant based protein. [1:06:15] People always say that cheese is hard to give up, and it’s true because milk has an opioid in it. People are literally addicted to cheese, but there are tons of plant based alternatives available now. If that’s the case it’s okay to be a vegan and eat a little bit of cheese when you want to. It’s not about perfection, it’s about progress.      @CarolineVLove on Instagram@LoveSuitsYou on Twitter

Danielle is the granddaughter of the Apollo 14 astronaut Stuart Roosa. Being the granddaughter of a famous astronaut lends itself well to Danielle’s current job producing a television show about going back to space. [4:45] Danielle’s moment occurred while she was in college. She was feeling lost and miserable going to U of A when she saw a sign that encouraged her to transfer schools. Because she decided to go for it, she got into the University of Massachusetts Amherst and that lead to her getting an internship at NASA. Everything hinged upon the green sign she found that convinced her to take a chance at a different life. [7:40] Going to college was never really an option for Danielle even though she felt that her strengths didn’t really lie in standardized testing. At the time, the first few years of college were very difficult for her. [11:25] Sometimes when you’re the most lost, you don’t know that you’re lost. Seeing the green sign actually revealed how Danielle was feeling about her situation at school. The exchange turned into a permanent transfer after Danielle realized that the freedom at her new school was what she was looking for. [14:40] A big part of Danielle’s new life was being a part of the drumline. She practiced for six hours a day as part of one of the best drumlines in the country. [16:30] The internship at NASA opened every door in Danielle’s life from that point on. Her mom insisted on doing an internship and lucky for her, Danielle’s mom had connections within NASA that got her in. [17:55] Danielle loves studying communication. You can have the biggest disagreement with someone and it’s usually because you’re just not understanding each other. A lot of conflict occurs because people are sticking to their form of language instead of communicating in a way that other people will understand. [19:30] Because of Danielle’s naivete and ability to communicate, her career at NASA got started off on the right foot. She walked into the administrator's office and basically told him that she wanted to learn from him and help, and because of that, she had all sorts of opportunities to write his speeches and work on interesting projects. This was the first time where Danielle felt like she was worthy of success. [21:40] Being in NASA was the closest she ever felt to her grandfather. He died when Danielle was 2. He grew up as a poor boy in Oklahoma but was exceedingly smart. Being in NASA was a way to connect with her history. [25:15] After NASA, Danielle’s next internship was at MTV which she disliked quite a bit. She remembers her first day at MTV vividly and the backstabbing nature of the work there. [28:30] After MTV and a stint at a premier company in London, Danielle moved to Los Angeles to become an actress. Danielle went back to her college for her walking ceremony after graduating early and moving away and it was there that she met Jim Keyes, the former CEO of Blockbuster and 7-11. That chance encounter lead to Danielle pitching Jim on a show about going back to space. [33:30] They assembled a large team of Dallas entrepreneurs and former astronauts to endorse the project, but fairly quickly ran into trouble. She had a lucky meeting that lead to Danielle finding the producer they are working with now. [36:35] The show is modeled on the Amazing Race, it’s a series of challenges where competitors compete to win the ultimate prize of going to space. [38:10] Looking back at all the crazy and frustrating things that have happened in her life, Danielle is proud of herself. She got hurt but she didn’t fall down, she kept going. Don’t listen to the negative things that people say about you, whoever takes the time to bully you online isn’t worth paying attention to. [41:25] Recognize that that kind of thing is a very small moment in your life and there is much more than what the bully is saying. Not everyone thinks that about you, and the ones that matter definitely don’t think that way. People are generally very nice in person but behind the computer screen, they can be very cruel. [43:10] If you’re going through that, understand that this is a moment of weakness for someone who is very sad. Take the long term approach, stick to who you are and what’s important to you and you’ll be fine.      www.backtospace.com@backtospace_ on Instagram@danielledallas on Instagram@BacktoSpaceLLC on Facebook@DanielleDallasRoosa on Facebook

Keri is currently hosting the longest running open mic in Los Angeles. She hosts the singers that perform on stage and helps ensure the crowd is having fun and sticking around. She took over the gig more than 10 years ago. [2:45] Keri came from a background where she didn’t do much of anything on the spur of the moment, but she had always wanted to live in New York. After having serious panic attacks for some time, she packed everything up and moved there, where she met a trapeze artist and within 6 months married him and began travelling with the circus. [4:00] Keri went to college for years with a friend who turned out to be from a family of trapeze artists. When she first encountered the circus, she quickly fell in love - not only with Richie, the trapeze artist, but also the whole lifestyle. [7:15] Keri describes the moment she met Richie as not quite love at first sight, but something along those lines. [8:40] Keri knew there was something special with Richie right away, but she had always wondered how much of their relationship was because of her falling in love with the circus as well. Seeing Richie and his family perform basically sealed the deal for Keri. [12:50] When Keri had moved across town she found herself in a situation that wasn’t what she had in mind when she first made the move. She was extremely lonely. It’s possible to see hundreds of people each day in New York without ever saying hello. She was on the brink of returning home to Florida when she met Richie and it just seemed like an opportunity that she couldn’t pass up. [16:00] Surprisingly enough, Keri’s parents were supportive of her choice of being with Richie and spending time with the circus. It turned out that, contrary to popular belief, not all circus performers travel all the time. [19:40] Keri didn’t really settle down until the birth of her son. In a lot of ways she got the best of both worlds traveling with the circus, a familiar living space and a unique landscape everyday. [21:00] Keri never really performed in the circus, although she did give the trapeze a shot. Once she accomplished her goals, she decided she didn’t need to keep it going. Her son is now working in a show in Las Vegas as a trapeze artist himself. [24:00] The circus has evolved, the classic circus with animal performances are pretty much extinct, but there are still shows traveling the world today. [24:45] If Keri hadn’t run away to the circus, she imagines herself working at a department store somewhere in Florida. Being in the circus, Keri had to embrace change and she would never have eventually moved to California and landed her job as a literary agent. [27:20] Keri recalls a time when Tom Cruise came to the Big Apple Circus and was invited to try the trapeze out. In many ways, being in the circus was being a part of a large extended community/family. [30:45] Keri no longer seeks change, but she accepts it. Life changes and there’s not much you can do about that. [32:00] Keri and Richie turned out to be quite different, especially once Richie’s brother was no longer traveling with them. In many ways they were both quite different in terms of personality and that wasn’t obvious until several months into the marriage. [34:35] Keri knew her life in Florida was not the life she wanted, and intuitively knew that if she returned to it she wouldn’t be able to escape. Avoiding Florida and not doing the same old thing was a major component of her decision to leave. [38:35] Keri describes the emotions and experience of meeting Richie for the very first time. There was something about him that was vastly different from anyone else she had met until that point. [42:10] The charisma of the family the first time Keri saw their performance was the moment that sealed the deal for her. That was what had sent her on the path that would lead her to California and her future career as a host.     kerikelsey.com@kerikelsey1 on Instagram@KeriKelsey on Twitter

Bill Baratta was born in Madura in the center of California on April 20, 1921. He recalls his youth when the town wasn’t as large, there was a single police officer, and the roads were dirt instead of asphalt. He contracted encephalitis in his freshman year and was lucky to survive. [8:20] It took a long time for him to recover from the illness, but it was essentially the end of his formal education. Shortly after Pearl Harbor, Bill and his friends volunteered for the Air Corps in order to contribute to the war effort and were enlisted. To get into the Corps, Bill had to lie about his prior illness, which came back to bite him a bit. Lucky for him, he’s charismatic. [12:25] He found himself bouncing around 12 different bases all over the United States. A lesser known fact is that if you were a pilot in the Air Force and completed 25 missions you were sent home. Eventually his superiors agreed to send Bill to Colorado to learn armament, basically everything to do with the firepower on an airplane. [16:00] Bill was chosen out of his class of 50 to go to Yale to learn how to become a technical officer and receive a commission, but because he wanted to fly so much he turned down the offer. Bill wanted to serve and no one was going to tell him otherwise. [18:10] Times have changed. Bill remembers a time when we had a love for people and the sense of brotherhood serving together in the military. [20:30] When the war ended, Bill was on an island in the Pacific and word spread very quickly. Instead of taking the more common route home, Bill was told to find his own way back to California. In many ways, his tour of service was anything but ordinary. He actually hitched a ride from a couple all the way from Sacramento. [23:50] Bill married his first wife after returning from the war and was married to her for 16 years. He found out later that she was cheating on him, and at that point they separated. After separating from his first wife, Bill reconnected with another girl that he had known earlier. He ended up with her for the next 43 years. She became the love of his life. [33:10] Bill learned that Donna had been following the news of his separation very closely. He managed to ask her out for dinner one night and that was when he got the clear signal that she was interested in a relationship. Years later, Donna told Bill that she had never stopped loving him even though he dumped her originally years before. [37:30] One of the secrets to Bill’s longevity is never abusing alcohol and avoiding unnecessary medication. He has stayed active throughout the years. He keeps moving and makes sure that he eats a nutritious meal that he cooks himself every day.

Prior to being a Navy Seal and leading an exciting life going around the world, Kaj was an ocean lifeguard in Santa Cruz. He left the Naval Academy and wasn’t really sure what to do with his life, but he had always had an affinity with the water so being a lifeguard seemed like a good choice. He later went back to the Navy and applied to become a Navy Seal officer, but it took a particular experience on the beach before his application was accepted. [9:50] Kaj was lifeguarding on the beach in the middle of the summer when he saw an emergency vehicle driving on the sand. A car had just driven off the end of the pier, so Kaj and a few other lifeguards started trying to dive down and find the vehicle. [12:20] The water was at least 30 feet deep at that point, so only Kaj and one other lifeguard were able to reach the bottom and locate the car. Kaj spent several minutes trying to pull the man out of the vehicle and eventually succeeded, but even though the man made it to the hospital after being revived, he later died as a result of the lack of oxygen. [16:45] Kaj and the other lifeguards were celebrated as heroes, and he included it on his following application to be a Navy Seal officer. It had just been enough to have his application accepted and for the Navy to take a chance on him. [19:15] One of the big lessons that Kaj learned was that if you want to be of service to others, you have to train for incredible situations. If you are not performing at your peak potential, there can be dire consequences. [20:00] If that moment hadn’t happened, Kaj isn’t certain where he would be today. Navy Seal training is considered the hardest military training in the world, and he found that having no other options gave him a lot of motivation to stay in the program. [21:30] Hell week is the hardest part of the training. It basically consists of getting 2-3 hours of sleep over the course of five days while going through intense physical training. It’s the closest the military can get to the fatigue, fear, and pace of combat. It’s not meant to torture people, it’s designed to weed out people who will break under pressure when it matters most. [23:00] Medicine and the military are in the process of working on the approach to training and discipline. Especially with combat and life or death situations, we need a crucible that people can go through which proves that people can handle the reality of combat. [26:20] There were multiple lessons that Kaj learned from rescuing the man in the car. At that point, he had not seen death close up and you never know how you’re going to react to that kind of situation. He found he was able to do what he was trained to do under pressure which obviously helped in real combat situations. [29:00] Sometimes these life changing moments happen and we can miss them. Sometimes they call for contemplation and sometimes they call for action. You have to be able to recognize the key critical times in your life that have the potential to change your whole future. [30:30] Performance matters. There is an amount of fatalism in the world, but when it comes to medicine, the job is to specifically intervene in someone’s life and potentially save them. [32:15] Kaj found that he performs his best in the service of others. That’s the main lesson he learned from his life changing moment. It’s easier to get out of bed every day and put in the work if you’re doing it for a higher purpose or something other than yourself. [34:00] Kaj left active duty in 2005 and is now in the reserve community. Kaj is now a plank owner, a Navy term for being a founder. He was on the first team in SOC Africa to support the Seals in that region. The third leg of Kaj’s endeavors, beyond his business, is philanthropic and geared towards supporting the families of Seals that have lost their lives in combat.     @kajlarsen on Instagram@kajlarsen on Twitter@kajlarsenSEAL on Facebook

After knowing Kai Brown for only a few months, Dr. Larry had experienced a break up that Kai had helped him through. Kai and Debbie Nova came together to create a song that captured something they were both looking for and really resonated with Dr. Larry. [5:15] Kai moved to the US from Australia in 2005 with only a suitcase and a guitar. He landed in Dallas and was lucky enough to find a mentor that helped him develop into the musician he is now. [7:20] Prior to moving to the states Kai was in a band that fell apart. They had jobs and girlfriends and other commitments so they weren’t willing to take the chance that Kai was. One of Kai’s goals was to surround himself with some of the best musicians in the world which was why he traveled to the US. [8:30] Before writing the song Kai moved to California with his girlfriend and fell in love with the area. He lived for a couple of years in San Diego and then moved to Los Angeles, eventually making his way to Venice. As an artist, you are trying to reinvent yourself all the time, being around like-minded people is crucial to the process. [10:45] Debbie came into the picture through some mutual friends and they started to explore the writing process. Writing a song with someone can basically be impossible if there’s no chemistry between them, but with Debbie, the flow clicked almost immediately. They ended up creating that song the first time they met in only two hours. [14:30] Kai grew up with American folk rock music whereas Debbie has more of a Latin vibe. The song they wrote together was a fusion of both styles that wouldn’t have been possible with just one perspective. Kai tried recording the song on his own but quickly realized that it wasn’t working without Debbie. [18:30] Debbie had already found success in Costa Rica so when the song started getting some traction it ended up on the radio there with people assuming it was her new single. After climbing the charts to the number one song in Costa Rica Kai invited Debbie to his shows and they started singing the song together. [20:50] Music is the fabric that is the connection within our culture, it means so much to people in so many different ways. Going to Costa Rica and seeing the way their song had impacted people’s lives helped him realize how powerful music can be. Music is a universal language that touches people in a way that’s not possible with basic communication. [21:30] The success of the song was an affirmation of his journey. Up until that point, Kai wasn’t sure he had done the right thing in pursuing his dream of music. He realized that making a difference and connecting with people is one of the most special experiences you can have in your life. [22:40] A lot of the creation of the magic in songwriting is staying out of your own subconscious. For Kai, the lyrics meant something along the lines of holding the people you love close but also stepping out of what’s comfortable to find new homes. The subconscious is powerful if you can get out of the way. It’s also impossible to control, you just have to show up. [27:30] You should be creating whatever it is that’s yours because it’s your calling and passion, not because you want to chase likes and public approval. The punk rock ethos of dedication to the craft for the sake of the craft has been central to Kai’s life. [29:20] Kai tries not to attach anything to his music beyond intention. The success of the song was due to good timing and luck, not because it was planned that way. Your job as a creative is to make people’s lives meaningful, attaching success to it is the wrong reason. If you are connecting who you are to whether or not people like what you’re doing, you’re going to have a pretty disappointing life. [32:35] Kai started playing music because it was something he loved, but somewhere along the line, it started to feel like a job. When iTunes and Spotify came around he couldn’t make a living with his music anymore. He loved music too much to grow to hate it, now he has a business creating embroidered denim jackets. [40:00] Sometimes we ignore signs when they come to us because we are dogmatic about our identity. It took time for Kai to realize that he can be more than just a musician. Fast forward to today, there are plenty of artists that are multi-disciplined and have multiple streams of income. [42:20] Kai had to change his limiting beliefs about who he was. He had to understand that the way we communicate and how technology has changed society meant that he could be more than a one-dimensional person. He also had to realize that just because he was transitioning from something, that didn’t mean that he was a failure. Kai performed his last show for the Dalai Lama which was very appropriate for that moment in his life. [45:10] To learn his new business Kai took the same mindset he had with his music and packed up his life and moved to Seattle. He found a mentor with an understanding of what he was trying to do and now, a few years later, Kai has a thriving business making denim jackets for people. [47:30] American vintage clothing was a unique time in American history. Clothing is not manufactured the same way today, which is one of the reasons that Kai works so much in Japan. The Japanese are very focused on quality and also happen to be obsessed with vintage American denim. [48:50] Kai has a mission to create beautiful things for people who will appreciate them and are interested in them. The most precious thing we have is time, which is why Kai tries to buy himself as much time as possible. [49:45] For Kai his biggest challenge is balancing between work and life and knowing when it’s time to step away. [50:45] Kai is working on several projects for Japan at the moment, putting together some new music as well as a design podcast that will be launched in the next year or so.     All My Relations @allmy_relations on InstagramTake Me To Your Heart

Brittney had been a sugar addict as a child, even back then she was exhibiting addictive behavior. Her first alcoholic drink was in junior high and around that same time she started feeling like she was bigger than her peers. She clearly recalls her first drink and the experience she had of finding her tribe. [6:25] Brittney was a binge drinker and one of the troubles with alcoholism is that once you take a drink you don’t know what’s going to happen next. For Brittney, that meant being unable to stop herself from continuing to drink further. [7:25] Alcoholics are often self-medicating their anxiety. Dr. Larry recalls a man that described the effect as “making him feel normal”. For some people, alcohol can be a way of shutting off the negative voices in their heads. [9:15] Brittney got herself into a repetitive cycle of drinking and then fixing the mistakes she made while blackout drunk. By the time she got to UCLA, Brittney’s imposter syndrome got even worse and so did her subsequent binge drinking. [11:50] After graduating college and moving to Los Angeles, there was a moment where she woke up from another blackout and felt that she was done with the experience. Her life-changing moment happened a month later after having not had a drink for the past 30 days and falling off the wagon. It got to the point where the effect of the drinking was considerably worse than the anxiety she was trying to relieve. [14:00] Brittney’s last night of drinking was after she was rescued by people who had found her passed out in the show. She decided that she didn’t want to risk death or be a person that wakes up in random houses anymore. She could no longer deny that bad things happened when she drank. Since that day, Brittney has been free from alcohol and has been for the past ten years. [18:10] The reason that experience was the one that created a lasting change is because Brittney got honest with herself and found a mentor and support group that helped her feel understood. [19:15] Being honest and doing spiritual work is how Brittney continues to stay sober. Having a support group where she could share her experiences was very important as well. She noticed that when you take away the drinking, you find that the people you consider friends aren’t actually friends and you have far less in common. [21:20] Your life greatly improves once you stop blacking out. Alcoholism is a disease of self-obsession and it’s a cure to constant self-doubt, at least temporarily. Once she stopped drinking alcohol, Brittney was able to work on herself in a way that removed her self obsessions that were causing the problems in the first place. [23:45] Developing early and getting attention from men was a major influence on Brittney’s issues with her body. [25:20] Brittney naturally found herself associating with fraternity guys and bro culture because it easily facilitated her continued drinking. [26:20] Alcoholism is progressive, so the longer it happens the worse the effects become. Having other people in her life who are also alcoholics allowed her to see what her future looked like if she continued along that path. If alcohol is your core motivation you can never really be present with other people. [28:00] If you don’t address the pain that you were avoiding when you were drinking when you become sober, your negative emotions manifest in other ways. For Brittney that meant food. For the first six months, she worked on her behavior without doing the internal work and she found herself unable to control her eating. [31:40] Brittney became so ashamed of her eating habits that she would pretend that she was ordering for multiple people. Binge eating and alcoholism share one common trait, where your shame encourages you to be alone and to hide your behaviour from yourself and others. [34:30] Medicating her anxiety was the common denominator in both addictions. She gained over 70 pounds in the first year and found herself trying a variety of crash diets to mitigate her weight gain. [37:25] Brittney’s second moment occurred when she visited her mom and saw she was obviously shocked and sad at the state of her daughter. It was then that she realized that if she continues eating like that she was going to end up drinking again. She tried one more crash diet and lost 40 pounds in 40 days, and then she gained it back in two weeks. Standing on the scale and seeing that all the weight had come back was her rock bottom when she realized she had to accept that she wasn’t in control. [40:15] Being honest was the only way forward. Brittney started working with a nutritionist and writing down everything she ate. It was a long process but she gradually started eating a healthier diet. [42:00] The intensity of the binges has changed drastically. Now it’s more about the behavior of what triggers a binge rather than what gets eaten. The food journal led to a discovery that changed everything. Brittney noticed that as long as she ate a minimum number of calories she didn’t feel a desire to binge eat. [45:30] Honesty was the foundation for Brittney’s weight loss and understanding what her triggers were. Certain foods, and stress and anxiety were frequent issues that she’s learned how to minimize. She also found that by eating healthier, nutrient-dense foods her anxiety level was also drastically reduced. [48:10] Pro tips: stay hydrated. A lot of the time we feel hungry we’re actually thirsty. Make your food colorful. If you want to eat a certain food, as long as it isn’t a triggering food, go for it. Be kind to yourself. [49:10] Find someone you can be truthful with what is actually going on. We usually want to keep up appearances with everybody, but do you want to save your face or do you want to save your butt? [50:45] You can have freedom with food if you do the work. If you don’t deal with the root of the stress or anxiety you will always go back to your addiction to deal with it. [52:00] When Brittney first started competing in bodybuilding competitions, she was doing it as a diet, not as a sport. It was a way of forcing herself to stick to the regimen. Now it’s become a goal in itself. [54:40] Social media has been a helpful tool for Brittney to feel support for her journey but to also help support others. It can give you a sense of purpose and a record of what you’ve accomplished. [55:40] Brittney doesn’t want people to suffer because of the cultural pressure to look a certain way. She wants women to feel empowered and in control of their body and how they feel about themselves. [56:30] Brittney would recommend that one way men can help is if they compliment women for something other than their body.     Follow Brittney on Instagram @BrittneyCarbone for all things fitness, mindset and good vibes!@BrittneyCarbone on Twitter@brittney.carbone on Facebook

Pari is an OBGYN and her work mainly consists of delivering babies. As an OBGYN she is often dealing with dire situations where there is not just one patient, but two. Most of the time the work is great, but when it’s bad, it’s really bad. [3:10] Many people are moving away from giving birth in a hospital in favour of having home births, but based on Dr. Pari’s experience the risks inherent in giving birth at home aren’t worth it. [3:35] One of the things that drew Dr. Pari to her specialty is that people actually like going to see their OB. When a woman is pregnant she’s excited and motivated, being pregnant can be the moment in someone’s life that inspires a drastic positive change in behaviour. [4:55] 50% of pregnancies are unplanned so no matter which side of the equation a person falls on it’s an exciting time. [5:30] For Dr. Pari, being part of the birthing experience is very humbling. Childbirth is an intense and emotional experience for everyone involved, even when you’re the doctor and have delivered tons of babies. [6:45] Dr. Pari tries to go into every delivery with the worst case scenario in mind so that she’s prepared. It’s a fine line between being confident and being arrogant or reckless. [8:25] Dr. Pari’s moment involves a patient she had five years ago. It was her first pregnancy and everything seemed to be going well when she went into labor spontaneously. Even then things were going fine until suddenly the baby’s heartbeat crashed. This lead to her requiring an emergency C-section and a difficult moment where the life of the baby hung in the balance. [15:30] In situations like this, doctors tend to rely heavily on their training and do much of the work by rote. It’s once the intervention is over and the adrenaline goes down that the emotions start to make an impact. [20:20] Whenever a birth doesn’t go smoothly, there is always a concern about whether the doctor missed something, especially since the consequences of lack of oxygen early on can affect them their entire life. [21:55] As doctors, it’s possible to do all the right things and for something to still go wrong. It’s important for society to realize that despite the technology we now have, doctors can still make mistakes and things can still go wrong even when they don’t. [25:00] A bad outcome or even just the fear of a potentially bad outcome is a heavy weight to carry. The worst case scenario for Dr. Pari is that a mother and her baby could both die, that’s the kind of consequence most people can’t fathom and will never encounter in the professional career. [27:30] Perfectionism is a burden that burns doctors out. Because of the military nature of the training and the hierarchy of the system, doctors become stoic about what they do and don’t generally share their feelings about their work. [29:15] If a patient dies during a doctor’s shift, they can’t take the time to process what had happened. They have to press on because the waiting room doesn’t just go home. [30:35] After Dr. Pari’s experience she realized a little more vividly what was at stake with her job. Up until that point, she hadn’t had a seriously bad outcome, so it made her consider how long she would be able to work in her field. [33:15] What people don’t understand is that maternal mortality is still the number one cause of death of women worldwide. Dr. Pari is strongly against home deliveries even in the case of healthy pregnancies, specifically because of the experiences she has had. [36:30] A person’s gut feeling and visceral understanding of something is determined by three things: the first imprint, the most impactful thing, and the most recent thing. For hospitals that generally means illness and death. That is why people think of home births differently than they do about giving birth in the hospital. [39:10] 1 in 4 pregnancies will need a C-section for one reason or another. Many of the times that people are doing home births they are also doing more risky things that they would be advised against at a hospital. [41:45] Miscarriages are surprisingly common, up to 50% of pregnancies end in a miscarriage. In the event of an early miscarriage, it doesn’t mean that the woman won’t be able to have a healthy pregnancy. The further along in the pregnancy the loss is, the harder it becomes. [46:50] If you feel like medicine is your passion and you’re ready for the long, hard road then go for it. Whatever specialty you go into, make sure you are okay with waking up at 3 in the morning to do whatever it is that specialty does. [48:45] Dr. Pari’s big why is to help women with their health, but also to empower them with knowledge about their own bodies so they can partake in the healthcare process. [49:20] Having a work-life balance is an important realization that Dr. Pari had when she transitioned away from having a private practice. Sleep is a constant challenge for her since it’s the basis for pretty much everything we do. [51:10] What to Expect When You’re Expecting is a book that Dr. Pari recommends to her patients as a good reference resource. In terms of life experience, Living Boldly by Brene Brown is one of her favorites. [52:45] Bucking the trend, Dr. Pari wouldn’t want to offer advice to her younger self because she feels that everything that has happened in her life so far, good and bad, came at the right time to make her who she is today.     doctorpari.com@doctorpari on Instagram@Pari_MD on Twitter

There aren’t a lot of people focusing on men’s health beyond general fitness. The number of messages out in the wild can be very confusing for the average guy. [3:15] Doctors are trained to focus specifically on one chief complaint of their patient, and that’s the recipe that Dr. Myle’s followed for the majority of his career. That changed after working with one of his chronically unhealthy patients that was always resistant to changing her problem behaviors. [7:35] “It’s about what matters to you, not what’s the matter with ” [7:45] If you connect the dots to what matters to people, that creates powerful changes in their behavior. [8:50] By changing the focus from abstract numbers that mean nothing to the patient, Dr. Myles was able to help his patients understand the impact of their actions and how they can get healthier, but also why they should try. [10:30] We have been going about health all wrong. People aren’t going to get healthier for reasons that their doctor came up with. They don’t care and don’t have the training to know why those reasons are important. [11:00] Dr. Myles initially went into med school to work with people in an intimate way. He was actually an Economics major, but after a quick internship realized that he wanted something else. Problem solving with people about their problems was what he was looking for, and that was where he became disillusioned by the training. [13:20] Eventually, this led Dr. Myles to work with Doctors Without Borders. He tried to change his approach so that it would be more about what matters to the patient instead of what’s the matter with them, but he kept getting pushback from the administration. He went to get a Masters of Public Health in order to improve the system and better align it. [16:25] Dr. Myles realized that if the system wasn’t going to change and he was trained to deal with seriously sick people, then he should go to a place where there were seriously sick people. This led him to work in a conflict zone in the former Soviet Union helping people with multi-drug resistant tuberculosis. [18:30] Noticing the difference between patients in New Jersey and the Caucuses led Dr. Myles to his second moment of realization. The lifestyle and the faith of the people in the conflict zone allowed them to be much healthier, relatively speaking, than the North American patients. [21:00] Health is more than just medicine, it’s about everything that contributes to your health including exercise, diet, and a support system. [21:50] Dr. Myles is now focused on an optimal health program where it’s more like being a coach. He helps people achieve what they want out of life and mitigate the health risks that may get in the way of those goals. [23:40] He started out exploring the world of integrated medicine by training himself and going to conferences, but he also did a fellowship at the University of Arizona. [24:45] Dr. Myles’ average patient is between 30 and 65. He helps his patients identify what their goals are and the six impact points that affect those goals. Sex and sleep are major issues that many of his male clients need help with. [29:40] A lot of the issues with sleep hygiene revolve around screen time and not being in front of screens before you go to bed. The data shows that over 85% of people need 8 to 9 hours of sleep a night. When you’re sleep deprived, it affects your body’s hormones and nearly every area of your life. [31:20] Integrated medicine is fundamentally about getting your health foundation right. Dr. Myles’ new project is essentially about helping men figure out what to work on next and avoiding overwhelm. [33:25] Having a clear sense of purpose adds seven years to your life expectancy. [34:25] Dr. Myles’ next project is an online workshop where guys can come on and explore diet, sleep, and exercise. He also has a new book that will be coming out in January 2020 called Optimal Men’s Health. [35:15] It’s hard to be a man in 2019. Dr. Myles relates a story of a Brene Brown book signing and how different it is for men in dealing with shame and emotions. The question is how do we behave as men and be powerful and respected, while also respectful? [39:20] There are parts of masculinity that cause men problems. For example, men enduring health problems silently and dying needlessly. [40:10] Most women still want men to make the first move and be assertive, but that’s become a gray area as to what’s acceptable. This is affecting men physically and causing a fair bit of stress and anxiety. There currently is no Brene Brown for men. [42:10] Dr. Myles’ motivation is to make a difference in a unique way. He wants to be able to help people understand how important their health is in accomplishing their goals. Helping people feels great, but it’s always a challenge because there are always more people out there who need help. [47:50] Dr. Myles’ father had his first heart attack at the age of 39, so heart disease and helping people avoid it is a big part of his program. That was also a big influence on him early on because both his parents changed their lifestyle and that is one of the major reasons why his father is still around at the age of 87. [49:40] Diet is confusing and largely individualized. It depends on your goals and your risks. If your goal is to lose weight, build muscle, or prevent neurological disease you should be on keto. If your goal is to prevent heart disease, you should be on a plant-based diet. Intermittent fasting is a solid option for some people. [51:50] Losing weight and building muscle at the same time is the holy grail of lifestyle. If your hormones are off, you won’t be able to do either. For guys, one thing that will make a big difference is to avoid eating after dinner. [53:00] If Dr. Myles were to take his own quiz, he’s sure that sleep would be his issue. He typically gets between 6 and 7 hours of sleep, but he’s working on it. Tracking sleep is a good way to understand what the problem is, like keeping a sleep log. His second major vice would be sugar because, in his words, he could “eat birthday cake every day.”     Complete Dr. Spar’s Men’s Health Quiz or text the word quiz to 323-310-5223 www.DrSpar.com @drspar on Instagram@drspar on Twitter@MylesSparMD on Facebook

Season 1 launches 9/3/2019. 

Tricia Nelson is an internationally acclaimed author, transformational speaker and emotional eating expert. She has been featured on dozens of radio and television networks, including FOX, NBC, CBS, KTLA and Discovery Health. Tricia has successfully helped hundreds of people overcome a variety of eating disorders and addictions. Born and raised in Concord, Massachusetts, Tricia’s own struggles began in early childhood, where she attempted to cope with life’s stresses and emotional pain by overeating and other destructive behaviors. Continuing into adolescence, she began binge drinking, and eventually gained more than 50 pounds. After years of experimentation with 12-step programs, therapy and self-help books, Tricia finally hit a spiritual and emotional bottom. Tricia attended Amherst College and began her career working at the Seattle Art Museum. While in Seattle she began working with spiritual healer, Roy Nelson (who would later become her husband), who helped her recognize and heal the root causes of her addictions. By creating a lifestyle steeped in positive self-care, self-love and improved self-esteem, Tricia was able to stop drinking and overeating. She has maintained a fifty-pound weight loss for close to 30 years now. Tricia has spent the past three decades studying the addictive personality, and shares her findings in workshops and retreats both in person and online. Many doctors, psychologists and other health practitioners benefit from her insight about what drives people to overeat and how to stop. Tricia’s new book, Heal Your Hunger: 7 Simple Steps to End Emotional Eating Now, is available through Amazon.