Reframe & Reclaim with Dr. Jordan Fairley

I've kept it a secret for 9 months and i'm ready to share it with the world. I'm a DAD!  Dr. Lance von Stade came up with the idea of interviewing me, to take a snapshot in time of what my hopes, fears, values, wishes, intentions, expectations are BEFORE having a baby.  This is recorded 6 days before our baby's due date.  My wife and I decided to not make any social media posts, we only told friends and family. Now I get to share it with all of you, if this podcast was posted, it's because we have a baby! We go deep into what my fears are, what fatherhood role models would I like to emulate, what are my intentions for for the birth process, who do I hope my child becomes, who do I want to be for my child.  This is a very conscious step into setting the intention for "Conscious Fatherhood"  I'm very happy to share this with you.  Thank you Dr. Lance von Stade for facilitating this interview. 

We try to work hard, we show up for others, we maintain good values and habits and yet still we feel frustrated, annoyed, fearful, or disappointed in our life. When things don’t go the way we planned or other people continue to let us down; it’s often because our expectations are not being met. So what can we do? First, I believe it’s important to understand the difference between INTENTIONS AND EXPECTATIONS And second, if we can get in the habit of SETTING CLEAR INTENTIONS we will be more in charge of our life, rather than just reacting to how life happens to us. To put it simply INTENTIONS are structure and direction of the energy and actions we put out into the world; and EXPECTATIONS are the thoughts, hopes and wishes that we attach to the energy we put out. Ie. what we hope happens. Whenever we feel disappointment, it is often because we are attached to the desired result, the expectation. Though the reality is we DON’T HAVE CONTROL over the actions of others, we can’t control things outside of ourselves, other people, or our surroundings. What WE DO HAVE CONTROL OVER is our own intention, our own actions, inactions, thoughts, and presentations to the world. So, what are your intentions? How are you starting your day? Can you relinquish your expectations?

How to Cultivate Your SUPERPOWER of Introspection for Greater Mind-Body Connection  With Dr. Lance von Stade, owner of Golden Gate Chiropractic Center in San Francisco CA, Co-Founder and Lead Facilitator of Kairos Training Culture, CEO of Athlete on Purpose. If you are looking to support Men’s Mental Health with Project 13 Movember Fundraiser you can find more information at https://www.project13gyms.com/ and https://us.movember.com/ 5:40 How Dr. Lance developed from being known as the expert in Movement and Human Performance to now being sought out as a speaker on Non-Violent Communication, and Trust. The Ladder of Physical to Emotional Awareness: When the quality of your movement is no longer the rung of the ladder of health you are climbing, when you know how to move, eat, recuperate and your needs for safety and sustenance are met, then you can become more aware of how you talk to yourself, how present you are, and the feelings you experience on a daily basis. 11:40 How do you start to cultivate an experience of asking the question, “How are your physical ailments affecting your life?” The Advocacy Process for Understanding the Connection Your Emotional and Physical Body­­: Most people tend to put others before themselves; so how can we advocate for others. 1. What is on your mind right now (physical body)? 2. How is that starting point related to areas above or below that? 3. Have you noticed how your body changes shape in different emotional states? (sad, boastful, fear, etc) 4. Do you notice that when you are in different emotional states that these physical ailments are different? 5. Are the loads of stress in your life contributing to the life you want to live? 6. Notice are the loads of stress in your life matched by the quantity and quality of your recuperative strategies. If not, you will suffer symptoms. 17:45 How you can connect the dots between physical and emotional needs; and distinguishing the difference between self and emotional states from others. Non-Violent Communication https://www.amazon.com/Nonviolent-Communication-Language-Marshall-Rosenberg/dp/1892005034 21:00 Do I Even Care? Resources: Crucial Conversations Motivational Interviewing 25:00 Introspective look at YOUR observations, feelings, needs and requests 25:40 The SUPERPOWER of introspection Are you able to notice that your state changes, and immediately react, or notice the state change as a stimulus itself, and choosing how you want to react. 29:00 How do you start to cultivate greater introspective to notice what you are noticing. Book: A New Earth by Ekhart Tolley 1. Stimulus 2. Story 3. Are you aware that you are the observer witnessing that you are the entity creating the story? Connect with Dr. Lance von Stade www.drlancevonstade.com www.drlances.blog drlancevonstade@gmail.com IG: @drlancevonstade

You're probably a lot like me, in that you are seeking an even greater life experience, you want to create a change in the world, and you love to create things that serve humanity.  AND also like me you probably get stuck in wanting to make things PERFECT.  These two questions have helped me gauge when something is complete, and also how to get my creation out to the world.  The first question is "Am I Proud of It?" and the second "Is it Good Enough, For Now?"  these have helped me find balance between releasing something I am really proud of, and knowing that I can always update, add to, or change something in the future without getting stuck in the procrastination of ideation. 

Your experiences and the emotions that you have will shape and mold the person you become.  It's important to know that it's ok to feel sadness, anger, hurt, AND it's important to know that if you don't process these thoughts or emotions then these thoughts will become our emotions, these emotions will become our mood, our mood will become our temperament, this temperament will become our personality, over time our personality will shift our personal REALITY. If your personality isn't serving you, know you have the opportunity to create change.  This change will occur when you can go through a process of UNDERSTANDING what has shaped the stories you tell yourself, the experiences that shaped your personality, and the environment that molded your personal reality.  with this understanding you get to rewrite the stories you tell yourself. 

Our stories are what shape our life, they provide meaning to our experiences and lessons learned and they help connect with others at a deep level, through true authenticity, vulnerability, and our own meaning... we can move audiences, shape the trajectory of our life and get people to take action.  The problem is most of us don't know how to share our stories, we think others won't want to listen, and we think don't know how to share in a way that motivates or inspires others.  In this episode I share the POWER of story, how I will continue to let my grandpas legacy live on through story telling and how YOU can harness the power of your own stories!

Many of us often let our emotions "get the best of us", or we regret the way we reacted to a given situation.  By being able to build our emotional intelligence and emotional health we can choose how we want to respond in the moment to certain situations or triggers, and by doing so we will be able to present ourselves to the world in a way we want, appropriately to the given situation and build deeper more meaningful connections with others.  I break down a 4-Step process to identify our feelings, choose how we want to respond, and reflect later to make sure we don't get stuck in states of feelings that no longer serve us. 

If you feel like you have just been putting in the work, going through the motions, or lost sight of where this is all going. You have a need for reconnecting to where it is all going.  If you can sit down and set a clear intention of where each piece in your life is going you'll be able to know what the steps are to get there and where you'll need to hustle and when you can flow.  In your business, relationships, personal life, it can be easy to feel overwhelmed or stuck if you lose sight of how all the pieces fit.  Make sure to take a moment to write down why you're doing everything, and where its all going, so that you can revisit it when you feel the fatigue of the day to day grind. 

For many of us who have been feeling tired, worn down, or stuck in a cycle of just going through the motions, and sleep hasn't been helping you feel more rejuvenated... the reality is you probably don't need more sleep, what you need is to be actually doing the things that bring you purpose, self-love, joy, and where you feel at home. By taking, or making the time to do these things you will most likely feel more energized and whole.  In this podcast I share how by NOT doing the things that give us energy, self-love and joy you are doing a disservice to those around you. In this podcast I share how even if you feel like you don't have the time, you have other responsibilities, or you don't know what to do to bring yourself energy... you can get to understand what it is you need to do and why it's important to make the time for some self care. 

"And now, how do I want to show up in this moment?"  This one question will allow you to be the creator of your life in the moment, rather than responding to life you will start to notice, you have a choice.  How you hold your posture, your eye contact, presence, tone, words, actions, inactions, facial expressions, etc. All of these are choices that we can consciously control; and when we choose how we want to present ourselves and respond to the world we will notice how the world tends to respond how we might hope.  In this episode I share exactly HOW I have been using this question, at what parts of my day and how you can use it to start to create your reality.  Excited for you to list, subscribe and share if you found it valuable.  Dr. Jordan Fairley 

I recently heard from someone who said "wow, I can't believe all of these bad things happen to you, that must be how you've grown so much"  yes, I have shared some of the hardships that have happen to me, AND i think the best way to GROW is to KNOWINGLY CHOOSE the challenges we can place ourselves in on a daily basis with a specific goal in mind. In highschool and college for me this was distance running... not easy!  but I knew I wanted to get faster and the suffering was worth it. In chiropractic school this was pushing myself continuously outside of my comfort zone to become a better public speaker.  What is that for you? What is it that you want?  and what is it going to take to get there? it probably won't be easy, you will be challenged over and over and over... and that is how we grow. 

On chiropractics 124th birthday I reflect on how I currently use chiropractic care, compared to most people.  We talk about how typically it is some type of pain or symptom that brings people into the chiropractic office, however when we think about it we know it's some type of dysfunction in our body that leads to Pain and Symptoms.  I also share strategies for improving the 4 Pillars of Health: Eating Healthy Moving Healthy Thinking  and Recuperation. and with these strategies our body can better adapt to stress and allow for more moments of clarity and presence. I also shared how I just released the new Neck Pain Relief Program called "Release and Relief" Neck Pain Program at https://www.neckpainprogram.com 

Yes you do, whether you believe it or not.  You hold your emotions physically. You can probably imagine what a person who is SCARED or DEPRESSED look like, but do you know how to recognize it in your own body?  In this episode I talk about going into the San Quentin Prison to adjust inmates. and how I know I hold a PTSD stress response in my own body at times.  Here is how you can recognize it and how to ask the question... is this serving me in this moment? 

"How to Recognize When You're Stepping Into Your Next Phase of Growth & 3 Tips to Actually Do It" - Dr. Jordan Fairley Podcast Ep. 6 My voice is somewhat gone from a full weekend of transformation and growth, I am in my car on the way home from Dallas TX. I want to share my biggest takeaway from the weekend which is "How to recognize when you're stepping into your next phase of growth" and my 3 Tips for How to ACTUALLY DO IT! 1.  Awareness 2. Willingness 3. Community Listen to this episode for how to recognize it and the 3 tips to get out of your comfort zone and become the YOU, you have been missing, or wanting to  become. for more information about Kairos Training Culture check out https://www.kairostrainingculture.com

Today I went for a bike ride! 3 weeks after tearing my medial meniscus in my knee.  and as I was riding I started to think about how there are really "2 Types of People Who Are Looking for Change In Their Life"  There are the hungry ones who are ready and willing to implement things immediately.  and there are the people who are wanting to be FIXED.  Now I recognize that there is a portion of the people who are willing to be a part of their healing process, AND for the majority of the people what I believe they need to do first is take a step back and look at how does this actually make me feel, and AM I WILLING to create the change, knowing that ONLY I can create the change I'm wishing to see in my life.  Welcome to Episode 5

As a high achiever I imagine you like to set goals, BIG LOFTY GOALS, and I imagine it's easy for you to set a goal, achieve it and then go on to the next goal.  I want to encourage you to instead start to look at what are the underlying feelings, needs and desires, associated with your goals... and can you experience those feelings, have those needs met and more fully understand the desires NOW.

What do you do when your self-worth is so tied up around one specific thing... and that thing keeps getting taken away from you?  Just recently I tore my meniscus in my knee or tore my MCL, dancing.  This started to bring up feelings of depression, anger, irritability towards my friends and wife, and it all is tied up around my inability to perform, and be active, physically.  So I started to ask the question, Why?  In this episode I share the 3 action steps im currently taking to overcome these feelings and start to change the pattern that has been engrained  in me.  Enjoy.

"Have you ever wanted something so badly, trained, worked, tried so hard for... and never achieved it? What did you do? in this episode I share with you the three lessons I've learned from never becoming an All-American and how regardless of the situation you are in you can implement these three things to improve your current situation, feel ease with what is and prepare for the future."

"I thought no better place to start than to share with you that one incident that truly changed my life forever... so here it is the story about how I drove off a 60ft cliff." This show is for entrepreneurs and people who are ready to implement immediate actionable strategies and insights in health, business, and life... to get out of stuck patterns and achieve more. Learn from Dr. Jordan Fairley, Artful Chiropractor, Athlete, and Business Strategist for multiple 6 and 7 figure health businesses. Inside each episode, Dr. Jordan shares his biggest "a-ha moment", stories and key insights for getting more out of life. From suffering heartache, loss and losing sense of self to learning new ways to reframe your current situation and reclaim your life!