The Three Wisemen of Divorce: Money, Psych & Law

Discover the transformative power of mental health support in the realm of divorce with the Three Wisemen of Divorce. This episode delves into the emotional complexities of separation and the pivotal role therapists play in steering individuals towards a collaborative divorce. We unpack the stark contrasts between marital therapy, coaching and mediation support, shining a light on how emotional intelligence and self-management can dramatically alter the course of a divorce for the better. This journey isn't just about the end of a partnership; it's an invitation to understand the importance of professional guidance in fostering healthy communication and mutual respect during what can be one of life's most challenging transitions.Navigating the stormy seas of divorce can leave many adrift, but with the help of mental health professionals, couples can find their way to calmer waters. The Three Wisemen of Divorce offer insights on how incorporating therapists into the divorce process can lead to healthier, more strategic outcomes, particularly when children and co-parenting arrangements are involved. We explore the signs that indicate a need for professional help and discuss the concept of 'the good divorce', aiming to transform the post-divorce family dynamic into one focused on the collective well-being. This conversation is a beacon of hope, illustrating that even amidst the heartache of separation, there's an opportunity to emerge stronger and more connected as co-parents.Concluding our episode, we confront the nuanced art of co-parenting and the strategic navigation of divorce mediation. The invaluable perspective of a mental health professional is not to be underestimated, even in the most amicable of separations. The Three Wisemen of Divorce share practical advice on personal growth, self-sufficiency, and the development of new communication skills that are essential in post-divorce life. By embracing these strategies, individuals are empowered to manage their new dynamics with poise and collaboration, always with the best interests of their children at heart. Join us for this profound exploration, and let us guide you toward a future of resilience and cooperation in the face of change.The Three Wisemen of Divorce are divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA®, Financial Divorce Consultant; Peter Roussos, MA, MFT, CST, psychotherapist; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F*, Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney. © 2024 Weber Dispute Resolution. All rights reserved.

Discover how to navigate the complexities of divorce with financial savvy and emotional intelligence as we chat with financial divorce consultant Mark Hill, CFP, CDFA, therapist Pete Roussos, MFT, and attorney Shawn Weber. This revealing conversation is packed with expert advice on the crucial role of financial specialists during divorce mediation. You'll gain an understanding of the emotional weight of assets, how to balance power dynamics, and the subtleties of informed decision-making. Our guests strip back the layers of financial negotiations, providing a clear path to a fair settlement that respects both the past and future financial health of those involved.We also dissect the utility and foresight offered by prenuptial agreements, and why financial planning should be an essential part of marital discussions, with or without the prospect of separation. Mark, Pete, and Shawn debunk the common myths surrounding the involvement of financial experts, emphasizing their potential to simplify and streamline the process, despite initial concerns about cost and complexity. If you're facing the challenges of uncoupling, or simply want to fortify your marital financial planning, this episode is an invaluable guide to protecting your assets and peace of mind.The Three Wisemen of Divorce are divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA®, Financial Divorce Consultant; Peter Roussos, MA, MFT, CST, psychotherapist; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F*, Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney. © 2024 Weber Dispute Resolution. All rights reserved.

Discover the surprising truth behind the role of attorneys in divorce mediation and why you should never underestimate their value in steering you toward fair outcomes. As we navigate the complexities of legal separation, we shatter the myth that mediators can, or should, replace the need for expert legal advice. Their seasoned insights reveal the nuances of choosing a lawyer who doesn't just understand the mediation process but champions it, ensuring your decisions are both informed and align with your objectives.Embark on a practical exploration of how to select an attorney who prioritizes efficiency and cooperation—traits that can not only lower costs but also reduce stress. The Three Wisemen of Divorce explore the vital balance between legal advocacy and the collaborative essence of mediation, a balance that empowers you to maintain control of your divorce journey. Learn how the right legal counsel operates, whether they're offering guidance from behind the scenes or actively participating in mediation sessions, and how they can protect your interests without sacrificing the spirit of cooperation.Finally, we delve into what it means to work with a truly mediation-friendly family law attorney, one who's equipped with specific mediation training and a deep understanding of the collaborative process. We emphasize the strategic value of involving your lawyer early on, particularly when it comes to crafting a robust marital settlement agreement that reflects all parties' voices. Our expert panel lays out the importance of legal expertise in forging a cooperative resolution, ensuring that every decision made in mediation respects your goals and stands up to legal scrutiny. Tune in for an eye-opening discussion that may just change the way you view lawyers in the world of divorce mediation.The Three Wisemen of Divorce are divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA®, Financial Divorce Consultant; Peter Roussos, MA, MFT, CST, psychotherapist; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F*, Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney. © 2024 Weber Dispute Resolution. All rights reserved.

Sometimes things are hard with the holidays- especially after a divorce.  In fact, the weather outside can be frightful.  In this episode, Mark, Shawn and Pete discuss the challenges families face when navigating co-parenting during the holidays.The Three Wisemen of Divorce are divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA®, Financial Divorce Consultant; Peter Roussos, MA, MFT, CST, psychotherapist; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F*, Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney. © 2024 Weber Dispute Resolution. All rights reserved.

There are more than one type of mediation.  Every mediator has his own mediation style.  In this episode, The Three Wisemen of Divorce discuss four different mediation styles: transformative, facilitative, informational and evaluative.  Each mediation style has its own pros and cons and it is important to consider what style will work best for your divorce case.  The Three Wisemen of Divorce are divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA®, Financial Divorce Consultant; Peter Roussos, MA, MFT, CST, psychotherapist; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F*, Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney. © 2024 Weber Dispute Resolution. All rights reserved.

On this episode of The Three Wisemen of Divorce, our experts tackle a difficult but important topic: divorce during a financial crisis. Drawing on their extensive experience working with clients during periods of economic upheaval, the Wisemen share valuable insights and practical tips for navigating divorce decisions when finances are at their most precarious. From the lessons learned from the failure of Silicon Bank to strategies for protecting your assets during inflation, this episode is a must-listen for anyone going through a divorce during a financial crisis. Join us and learn from the divorce experts: Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA®, Financial Divorce Consultant; Peter Roussos, MA, MFT, CST, psychotherapist; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F*, Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney. *Certified Specialist – Family Law The State Bar of California Board of Legal Specialization.The Three Wisemen of Divorce are divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA®, Financial Divorce Consultant; Peter Roussos, MA, MFT, CST, psychotherapist; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F*, Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney. © 2024 Weber Dispute Resolution. All rights reserved.

This week The Three Wisemen of Divorce sit down with forensic psychologist and family consultant in complex family law cases, Robert A. Simon, Ph.D.  If you are involved in a divorce with kids, especially litigation, you may have to endure a forensic custody evaluation.  Dr. Simon provides his thoughts and insights about how to prepare for and navigate the forensic custody evaluation and how adversarial family law litigation often causes unintentional and unnecessary damage to kids.The Three Wisemen of Divorce are divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA®, Financial Divorce Consultant; Peter Roussos, MA, MFT, CST, psychotherapist; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F*, Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney. © 2024 Weber Dispute Resolution. All rights reserved.

With the New Year come new resolutions and plans for the upcoming year.  But what if your New Year's resolution is to get a divorce?  Believe it or not, January is known as "divorce season" in the family law business because so many people decide to call it quits after the holidays.Divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA®, Financial Divorce Consultant; Peter Roussos, MA, MFT, CST, psychotherapist; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F*, Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney, talk about divorce in the New Year and things to think about before you take the plunge.*Certified Specialist - Family LawThe State Bar of California Board of Legal SpecializationThe Three Wisemen of Divorce are divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA®, Financial Divorce Consultant; Peter Roussos, MA, MFT, CST, psychotherapist; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F*, Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney. © 2024 Weber Dispute Resolution. All rights reserved.

The first holidays after a divorce can be tough.  We call it the "Year of Firsts."  It's the first Christmas, Passover, Birthday, Fourth of July, and even Super Bowl Sunday while separated.  Questions abound such as:How are the holidays split in a divorce?What will Christmas after divorce be like?Should divorced parents spend holidays together?Surviving the holidays after divorce can be challenging.  Divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA®, Financial Divorce Consultant; Peter Roussos, MA, MFT, CST, psychotherapist; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F*, Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney, discuss legal, financial, and emotional aspects of the first holidays after divorce.*Certified Specialist - Family LawThe State Bar of California Board of Legal SpecializationThe Three Wisemen of Divorce are divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA®, Financial Divorce Consultant; Peter Roussos, MA, MFT, CST, psychotherapist; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F*, Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney. © 2024 Weber Dispute Resolution. All rights reserved.

Sometimes a divorce case gets stuck because the professionals or the clients have not taken the time to prepare the case to be ready to settle.  Impasse is sometimes nothing more than not having the facts or the emotions ready to find a solution.  Learn what it takes to achieve "settlement readiness".The Three Wisemen of Divorce are divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA®, Financial Divorce Consultant; Peter Roussos, MA, MFT, CST, psychotherapist; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F*, Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney. © 2024 Weber Dispute Resolution. All rights reserved.

 In this episode, Divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Peter Roussos, M.A., MFT, CST, Psychotherapist; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F* Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney, discuss why the first two weeks of any divorce is the most dangerous time.  Learn what kinds of situations can make this the most dangerous time and learn strategies for setting boundaries and minimizing conflict.The Three Wisemen of Divorce are divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA®, Financial Divorce Consultant; Peter Roussos, MA, MFT, CST, psychotherapist; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F*, Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney. © 2024 Weber Dispute Resolution. All rights reserved.

What should we tell the kids?  How much information should we share?  How do we have this conversation?  In this episode, Divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner, Psychologist, Attorney and Mediator; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F* Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney, discuss what should and should not be shared with your children about the divorce.The Three Wisemen of Divorce are divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA®, Financial Divorce Consultant; Peter Roussos, MA, MFT, CST, psychotherapist; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F*, Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney. © 2024 Weber Dispute Resolution. All rights reserved.

We've seen it time and again in divorce cases.  When adultery happens, sometimes the adulterer has no clue what kind of pain they are causing.  It's almost like folks have blinders.  While most states have "no-fault" divorce, the pain of an affair can adversely affect agreement readiness during divorce negations whether courts recognizes fault or not.  In this episode, Divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner, Psychologist, Attorney and Mediator; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F* Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney, discuss the psychology and emotional ramifications of adultery on divorce negotiations.The Three Wisemen of Divorce are divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA®, Financial Divorce Consultant; Peter Roussos, MA, MFT, CST, psychotherapist; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F*, Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney. © 2024 Weber Dispute Resolution. All rights reserved.

Sometimes during a divorce mediation someone makes a proposal that is so off-base it is insulting.  The temptation is to get angry, yell or even storm out of the room.  But maybe there is a better approach.  In this episode, Divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner, Psychologist, Attorney and Mediator; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F* Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney, discuss what happens when someone makes a crazy or even insulting proposal during a divorce negotiation.The Three Wisemen of Divorce are divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA®, Financial Divorce Consultant; Peter Roussos, MA, MFT, CST, psychotherapist; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F*, Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney. © 2024 Weber Dispute Resolution. All rights reserved.

The Three Wisemen of Divorce discuss the strange COVID influenced real estate market and how it impacts the decisions people in their divorce.  Wisemen, financial divorce advisor Mark Hill, CFP, CDFA, psychologist Scott Weiner, J.D., Ph.D. and attorney Shawn Weber, CLS-F chat with realtor and Weber Dispute Resolution mediator Robert Flynn, J.D., SRES.  For more information about Robert Flynn's real estate business, visit https://fairwayresidential.com/agents/robert-flynn/.  To inquire about his mediation practice work with Weber Dispute Resolution, visit https://weberdisputeresolution.com/our-mediators/.The Three Wisemen of Divorce are divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA®, Financial Divorce Consultant; Peter Roussos, MA, MFT, CST, psychotherapist; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F*, Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney. © 2024 Weber Dispute Resolution. All rights reserved.

So, you survived the process of divorcing your ex.  Now you want to remarry.  How do you avoid repeating same mistakes you made the first time around?   In this episode, Divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner, Psychologist, Attorney and Mediator; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F* Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney, discuss how to start the next relationship on the right foot. The Three Wisemen of Divorce are divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA®, Financial Divorce Consultant; Peter Roussos, MA, MFT, CST, psychotherapist; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F*, Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney. © 2024 Weber Dispute Resolution. All rights reserved.

Financial Disclosures are necessary in every divorce.  While the process can be tedious, divorcing parties need to do the financial disclosures truthfully and thoroughly.  We know that money can mean a lot of different things to different people.    In this episode, Divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner, Psychologist, Attorney and Mediator; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F* Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney, chat about the importance of the financial disclosures and the emotional and legal challenges they raise.The Three Wisemen of Divorce are divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA®, Financial Divorce Consultant; Peter Roussos, MA, MFT, CST, psychotherapist; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F*, Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney. © 2024 Weber Dispute Resolution. All rights reserved.

It's very easy to get stuck in a certain way of approaching things, especially during the challenges of a divorce negotiation.  In this episode, Divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner, Psychologist, Attorney and Mediator; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F* Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney, discuss how creative thinking by "thinking outside the box" can lead to better and happier outcomes.The Three Wisemen of Divorce are divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA®, Financial Divorce Consultant; Peter Roussos, MA, MFT, CST, psychotherapist; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F*, Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney. © 2024 Weber Dispute Resolution. All rights reserved.

Originally recorded on March 8, 2023, the Three Wisemen sit down with Massachusetts Attorney and Mediator Beth Aarons, JD, MSW to discuss the multi-dimensional aspects of the marital home and how it hits the emotional, legal and financial aspects of a divorce.  The Three Wisemen of Divorce are Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner, Psychologist, Attorney and Mediator; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney.The Three Wisemen of Divorce are divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA®, Financial Divorce Consultant; Peter Roussos, MA, MFT, CST, psychotherapist; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F*, Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney. © 2024 Weber Dispute Resolution. All rights reserved.

Need to get a prenup?  What about a postnuptial agreement after your already married?   Divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner, Psychologist, Attorney and Mediator; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F* Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney, discuss why formal marital agreements can be good and why pillow talk agreements don't count.  The Three Wisemen of Divorce are divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA®, Financial Divorce Consultant; Peter Roussos, MA, MFT, CST, psychotherapist; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F*, Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney. © 2024 Weber Dispute Resolution. All rights reserved.