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Do you feel alone in your own head when it comes to navigating life’s big and small problems? Do you find self-care language a little too self-focused but know you still need to do the work? Join us on Reframeables and eavesdrop your way into some new perspectives — we promise you'll feel less alone as you listen. We are Nat and Bec, two very different sisters who come together each week to reframe some of life's big and small stuff. Nat's a PhD whose favourite phrase is “let’s reframe that!” Bec's an artist who tends more toward “why me?” Through candid, vulnerable yet entertaining conversations with each other, as well as guests, we find a way to meet in the middle each week and offer you, our listeners, new perspectives along the way. From a painful divorce that still needs processing, to grief that sticks around, to the simple day-to-day problems of managing a grumpy teenager, to a dynamic interview with Giller winner Ian Williams or radio personality and co-star of the Jann Arden podcast Caitlin Green sharing her vulnerable story of loss: Join our intimate conversations with authors, actors, activists, and voices from the crowd — those who inspire us to think differently about the world so we can reframe living in it. 

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Nat did the morning drive before the age of podcasts, and a voice that kept her sane on the road for all those years was the CBC's very own Gill Deacon — the next guest in our series where we reframe resilience. With Gill, we discuss resilience from a number of angles: her health challenges over the years with breast cancer and long COVID, and how she used writing to help her reframe along the way. We also talk about her new Substack and podcast projects, and the many ways in which she's come...
We continue reframing resilience with Dr. Poppy Gibson, a lecturer in education whose key interests involve children’s psychological development and mental health, and wellbeing in education. Nat had actually previously met Poppy when writing for a journal that she edits, and after doing some digging found out some really significant similarities! We talk about how both Nat and Poppy almost died, and Poppy’s children’s book about how to talk about death with kids. All kinds of trauma are navi...
Many famous people have been through the doors of Laurie May, co-founder and president of Elevation Pictures, one of Toronto Life's most influential Torontonians, and this episode's guest. We talked about our mothers and our own experiences of motherhood, what it means to be resilient in the face of hard business decisions as a woman in leadership, manifesting gratitude, and, of course, some celebrities. We could have kept going, to be honest! We love hearing from our listeners! Leave us a v...
Reframeables returns with a new six-episode series on female-focused resilience! Our first guest is Jenn Harper, the founder and CEO of Cheekbone Beauty — a cosmetics company which aims to help every Indigenous person see and feel their value in the world while developing sustainable colour cosmetics that won’t end up in a landfill. Jenn has been featured as Chatelaine’s Woman of the Year in 2019 and was on Canadian Business’ New Innovators list and Entrepreneur Magazine’s Woman of Influence ...
We often have conversations with folks who have written books. In this episode of Reframeables, Nat has a thoughtful conversation with child therapist Niomi Cherney, who’s in the midst of drafting her very own book on how to talk to loved ones with opposing viewpoints — think Trump supporter at one end of the table, and leftist liberal at the other. Essentially, this episode is their attempt to reframe mental health in times of crisis — or what it means to survive and thrive in difficult time...
For this episode of Reframeables, we had the opportunity to speak with award-winning poet and novelist Canisia Lubrin about her new book Code Noir. After the interview, she sent the Reframeables duo an email, calling us both badass and tender, which is probably the best compliment we’ve ever been given — so there’s that. For context about her book, in 1685 France’s King Louis XIV passed a decree consisting of 59 articles meant to govern not only chattel slavery but Black subjecthood throughou...
We are reframing the productivity narrative with Instagram and Substack-famous sketch artist Nishant Jain — otherwise known as the Sneaky Artist. Nishant trained as an engineer, almost got his PhD, and then switched tracks to make art in public — sneakily. Now his full-time gig is sketching with a recognizable yellow fountain pen so that he can’t erase anything — he’s very committed to the line. And if you’re ever in Vancouver, you might just happen upon one of his drawings left behind in a c...
On this episode of Reframeables, we are reframing rage with author Kathryn Mockler. She spoke with us about the despair of writing and editing climate justice work, and how she’s moved forward from rage and exchanged hurt for the earth for human connection. She calls it ‘post-hope,’ though instead of ‘hope,’ her preferred word is ‘possibility’ — a possibility for shared concerns in community, be it in her writing or in her teaching. Kathryn Mockler is a writer, screenwriter, experimental fil...
This week, we are reframing fiction as truth-telling with novelist, playwright, and clothing line creator Claudia Dey. You’ll hear our conversation filled with so many truths born of fiction, creating constraints to create, and the companionship of language. We talk about Claudia’s newest novel Daughter, and Hamlet, and theatre school memories of Claudia’s play Trout Stanley. We also get into how we can’t waver from value systems in terms of what we put out in the world. For Claudia, that sho...
Is reframing burnout even possible? According to Emilie Aries, the founder of Bossed Up, it is — sort of. Emilie is a speaker and author whose company is committed to closing the gender leadership gap. In this episode, you’ll hear our conversation about the systemic nature of burnout culture, particularly for women. We unpack “role overload,” try and take a really realistic look at boundary setting, and learn the difference between active and passive rest. These and other important ideas will...
This week on Reframeables, we spoke with author Lisa Whittington-Hill about her new book Girls, Interrupted: How Pop Culture is Failing Women. With Lisa, we jumped right in with a discussion about female rage, considered the failings of media for middle age women and teenage girls, and shared some nostalgic memories of Courtney Love — who Lisa has defended loudly enough to get her thrown out of parties. We are unhappy with the misogyny that is baked into pop culture and social media, but we a...
Pop culture is supposed to be light — downright breezy. Or, as we discovered in our conversation with celebrated Canadian author Jen Sookfong Lee, it can be something more: a bridge to navigating the complexities of intergenerational trauma, reckoning with one’s place in the world, and, perhaps most poignantly, facing the self. We hope you are able to take Jen’s pop culture wisdom and use it to help you reframe some of your own self-work — we did! Jen Sookfong Lee describes herself as one wh...
This week we are reframing pop culture as self-care (or reframing the inside joke) with author R. Eric Thomas. In a wonderfully meandering conversation we talked about faith, office cake, gardening, hiking up (and then running down) mountains, looking to Oprah as a way to prepare for big feelings, and using Chekhov for life metaphors. Finally, we landed on using pop culture references as bridges to help us connect with others. We really hope you enjoy this conversation as much as we did. R. ...
This week, we are reframing friendship — or more specifically, the friendship fail. To find out how a deep friendship has the potential to be rehabilitated, we talk with friendship expert Shasta Nelson, who has been called the Brené Brown of friendship. We talk about reframing loneliness, qualities every friendship needs, not downplaying our successes, and so much more. Listen for all the goods — your friendships will thank you. Shasta Nelson has been studying friendship, both personally and...
This week, we are reframing vegetarian eating with food writer Alicia Kennedy. We talk all things vegetarian — politics, the meat industry, how food and relationships are connected, and (in Alicia's words) her desire to make vegetarian food both compelling and delicious. We walked away from this conversation with a lot of new ideas to chew on. Alicia Kennedy is a writer from Long Island now living in San Juan, Puerto Rico. Her work on food and culture has been published in The New York Times,...
We're joined by author L'Oreal Thompson Payton to reframe all things perfectionism — breaking streaks, embracing shitty first drafts, or learning to stop waiting for the right moment. We take a hard look at how our own perfectionist tendencies show up in ourselves, where this pressure comes from, and how it impacts others. L'Oreal also treats us to insights on her own practice as a writer, struggles with fertility and postpartum feelings, and the non-linear path she has followed towards succe...
This week, we are chatting with Vanity Fair contributing editor Leah Faye Cooper. We met Leah at South by Southwest, where she was facilitating a panel of influencers that went down the road of Botox and fillers and the external work one can do on oneself. That prompted us to ask Leah to come on Reframeables and talk about the more holistic work that we can do on ourselves and in the world, but through the eyes of a fashion writer. We talk all things fashion and culture (and what we may or ma...
This week, we are talking all things momfluencers with author Sara Petersen whose new book Momfluenced comes out this month. We reminisce with Sara about some of our favourite momfluencers, and why they also irritate us. We discuss the weight mothers carry to perform a certain kind of motherhood online, and some examples of mom culture getting it really right that you'll want to check out. Sara has written about motherhood and feminism for The New York Times, Harper's Bazaar, The Washington ...
We’ve gone back to the beginning dear Reframeables! Back to where it all began — because sometimes you have to look back to move forward. In this episode Nat and Bec introduce their “exceptional” details — who, what, where, including the frenemy relationship between their cats. Then they dive into some place-based memories that need reframing. For Nat it’s their childhood shed that Bec locked her in (she made Rebecca do it!); for Bec it’s the Starbucks at SickKids Hospital in Toronto w...
We joined writer and chef Sang Kim for a conversation around reframing trauma. We were thrilled to get Sang's perspective as one who has lived life from so many different vantage points — there is so much here in this interview! We touch on the search for "home," crossovers between art forms, cooking as a source of joy, what it takes to be a great improviser, and reframing trauma through daily practice. Sang Kim is a regular food contributor on CTV's The Social, The Marilyn Denis Show, Your ...
While in Austin for South by Southwest, we're reframing the walking meeting. We're taking in the streets of East Austin, and working our way through big feelings (some brought on by messages out of the blue) — all at a brisk pace! Link: The Matinee episode with Nat We love hearing from our listeners! Leave us a voice message, write to the show email, or send us a DM on any of our socials. If our conversations support you in your own reframing practice, please consider a donation on our Pat...
This week, we're examining missed moments because we're interested in reframing everything — even moments we've never had! For many of us, there's a temptation to get stuck in the feeling of "what if I had just done that differently..." We bring our reframing energy to an assortment of our own missed moments, in addition to ones from previous guests Jessica Hiemstra and A.J. Schneider, and a poem from Colin James. Links: Being More Than One Thing with Jessica Hiemstra Reframing Money Talks...
We've all heard the adage "money talks." Well, today we're reframing how money talks, and how to change the kinds of conversations we have with it. With A.J. Schneider from Beyond the Green Coaching, we talk strategies, we talk budgeting, we talk money in relationships — and then she encourages us to go one step further and really dig deep into our potential traumas (which we may not have known about!) that we have with money. Link: Check out the Debt and Savings Bundle from Beyond the Green...
This week, in celebration of Black History Month, we are coming back to one of our favourite interviews with poet, essayist, and novelist Ian Williams, whose brain we really connected with. His book of essays, Disorientation: Being Black in the World, is thought-provoking and beautiful — all the things a book of essays should be. Ian Williams is the author of six books of fiction, nonfiction, and poetry. His latest book, Disorientation, considers the impact of racial encounters on ordinary ...
We're here to reframe Valentine's Day with an episode that's short and sweet (because maybe you have chocolate to eat). Some people love the holiday, some folks hate it — we’re not opposed to what Valentine’s Day represents, but are definitely here for a new perspective on what it could mean! Is it just a sentimental “love day” or possibly a new take on freedom? Or is it better if we just think of it as another day that ends in Y? Link: The Myth of Saint Valentine's Day by Sophie Strand We ...
Today we're reframing how we talk about sex with kids with sex-positivity communicator Emily Roach — whose loyal and growing following on TikTok suggest that we're not the only ones looking for this conversation. We talk about creating spaces for judgement-free conversations, healing our own relationship to sex, and ways of speaking about consent. Listen in and we hope you learn some new words — we did! Links: Hey Sweetie Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski Jessica Valenti For more from Emily, ...
Today we are chatting with author Jason Roeder, former senior editor and senior writer at The Onion. We get into his new book Griefstrike!, a hilarious how-to for getting through grief that features Grieving Visualization Power Postures (all beginning with standing nude in one's sunroom), grief archetypes, sincerity corners, and so much more. Jason's also a contributor to The New Yorker and McSweeney’s Internet Tendency, so essentially his job has been to lean into funny. It might seem a litt...
This week we feature a vulnerable conversation with actors and creators Heidi Lynch and Perrie Voss, who delve into amplifying underrepresented stories in their new web series Avocado Toast. Perrie shares with us about her mental health struggles and Heidi talks about impact of endometriosis and how their health struggles make their way into their art making. Reframing takeaways that emerge: mental health hygiene as a full-time job, the practice of joyful actions and making ugly art to find o...
We're kicking off a new year of Reframeables with guests Juno Rinaldi and Jenny Young, who have launched new web series, My Special Guest. You might know them from other roles: Juno played Frankie for five years on the Emmy-nominated Netflix series Workin' Moms, and Jenny had a long time role on CBC's radio drama Afghanada and more recently on Amazon Prime’s The Lake. Now they want you to experience them together in something new that they have written and we love women taking risks! So we’re...
Today we are reframing the holiday list. We're seeing lots of lists out there right now, most of them about getting people the perfect gift for Christmas and other winter holiday celebrations. Since we also like lists (we do biweekly lists for our Patreon subscribers — what we like to call Life Hacks and Enhancers), we thought we would make a holiday list of our own. It's a behind-the-scenes look at what our Patreon friends get on the regular, but with our own holiday-philosophical flavour. L...
With author Marianne Apostolides we talk about her newest book I Can't Get You Out Of My Mind. This episode of Reframeables is the book launch she never got (thanks a lot, Covid!). The story is about Ariadne, a writer who is navigating a divorce, an affair with the arrogant Adam and two angry teenage children. As a way to make some extra money she enters into an academic study that involves bringing an AI machine named Dirk into her home. The book asks how we enter big questions and confront ...
This week, we're looking back on our October challenges from episode 53 (no complaining, no saying sorry) and reframing our commitments to language and what we really mean when we set self-care goals. Yes, this is coming out of some failed attempts! Listen in as we take a deep dive into our 30-day challenges (that went off the rails) and how we're trying to get back on track. In the second half of the episode we examine the language we use with our children in a discussion with child and fam...
Nat's done a lot of commuting in her days as a teacher, and certain voices on the radio always grabbed her attention on the long trek up the 400. One of those voices is the smart, understated voice of Chum 104.5's Caitlin Green, who is reframing her influencer life right now - off stage with a new baby. We sat down for a vulnerable conversation with her, where she opens up about the loss of her son and her experience in publicly navigating that grief. She talks about being co-host of The Jann...
Today we're excited to launch a new series on women in transition. We've made some pretty big life transitions lately, and other people making big transitions have also been reaching out to us through Reframeables — so we decided it would be fun to feature their stories from time to time. Our guest today, Maggie, is a woman who quit teaching to work at Costco and built a popular TikTok account of close to 40,000 followers through sharing that story. We talk about why she thinks the transition...
We are joined by author (and literary festival director) Jael Richardson to reframe all things self-love through the angle of kids lit. We talk about competition, faith, families, self-acceptance in our forties and, of course, books. Jael is the author of the YA hit Gutter Child and the memoir The Stone Thrower, which was so popular it was eventually reformatted as a children's picture book. Her most recent book for kids is Because You Are. She is also the executive director of two lit...
Dear Reframeables, Welcome to our podcast. We are Nat and Bec, two very different sisters who like to use art and conversations to reframe more than ourselves — one might say we practice socially conscious self-help. Sometimes we do it through conversations with the two of us, sometimes we bring in artists, thinkers and creators to help us along. Always we like to leave you with some new reframeable to chew as we work through life’s big and small stuff together. Love, Nat and Bec We love ...
Today we're reframing the parental push — Bec shares a story of navigating goal-setting with her eldest, who is now in high school, and Nat offers some retrospective thoughts brought forward from her time as a high school teacher. We're also pleased to bring you our latest installment of Life Hacks and Enhancers, normally an exclusive for our Patreon subscribers. Take in five things that are making our lives better right now. We love hearing from our listeners! Leave us a voice message, wri...
This week, we're reframing wellness with Princess Owens, otherwise known as Multiple Mom — a family wellness coach who has a lot to say about reframing wellness for moms, for Black women, and for children. She gives insights into the origins of Pilates, her business Be Well Zara, and how she opted for community over fashion. Links: Lori Harvey Is Just the Start of a Black Pilates Legacy, the article by Princess mentioned at the start of the episode Hey Fran Hey and Dr. Amber Thornton, two we...
Nat and Bec unpack an issue shared with them from Reframeables listener Ann: what should you do if you've given a gift to the wrong person, and now want to give it to someone else? We look at the dilemma from all sides so that Ann can close a relational loop and put this issue that's been tickling her brain to rest. We also wanted to show some love for Pam Uzzell and her podcast Art Heals All Wounds. Each week, she interviews an artist and talks about their work because she believes that as ...
This week we’re joined by Supernova Momma (otherwise known as Natasha Nelson), an autistic mom blogger who is the parent to two autistic children. She’s got a lot to teach us about neurodiversity, sharing insights and hilarious stories from her life as a veteran, building a business as a neurodivergent parent, and being real at all times. We also wanted to show some love for Pam Uzzell and her podcast Art Heals All Wounds. Each week, she interviews an artist and talks about their work becaus...
We also recorded this episode as a video, which you can watch here. This week we're launching a new series: Reframing in Seven Minutes. For this one we check in on our October challenges from episode 53: no complaining, and no saying sorry. Reframing is always an ongoing process, so we wanted to pull back the curtain on how it's going for us in working through to the other side of something. A great episode for those of us short on time! We also wanted to show some love for Pam Uzzell...
We also recorded this episode as a video, which you can watch here. Inspired by a line from the great Native American novelist Louise Erdrich, this week we're taking a look at times in our lives when we lost ourselves. We open doors on some raw moments of failure, forgiveness, and loss in our lives, and ask if we can reframe these in a loving way. Can we use them to propel self-discovery? Links: Love Medicine by Louise Erdrich Dusk, Night, Dawn by Anne Lamott We love hearing from o...
We're joined by Giller-winning author and professor Ian Williams to reframe community — or what we’re summing up as connections and collisions in both writing and living. He shares with us about the community he finds in his writing, while we share with him about community that we find in his characters. Through Ian’s lens we also explore the nature of disappointment as ambitious people, failure, loneliness, reaching out into the world, and giving yourself away. Buddhism and the search for an...
This week we're reframing ambition — we've got lots of it, and so there is much to unpack! We examine differences in our own ambitions, and how our outlooks have evolved over time. Can we disconnect ambition from other things that might be more unhealthy or negative, like jealousy and competition? Also, is ambition a triangle or some other shape? We ponder this too with our usual deep dive energy. We love hearing from our listeners! Leave us a voice message, write to the show email, or send...
We joined writer and chef Sang Kim for a conversation around reframing trauma. We were thrilled to get Sang's perspective as one who has lived life from so many different vantage points — there is so much here in this interview! We touch on the search for "home," crossovers between art forms, cooking as a source of joy, what it takes to be a great improviser, and reframing trauma through daily practice. Sang Kim is a regular food contributor on CTV's The Social, The Marilyn Denis Show, Your ...
We also recorded this episode as a video, which you can watch here. To finish up our summer series, we're discussing all things growth. We get personal with a discussion of new paths we're taking, and how things are going with our own progression as we move into the fall — the next season of growth. We've also got some items to bring with us on the journey: some poems, some chia pudding, some books, and some bathing suit bottoms. As uncomfortable as growth can be, we're determined to reframe...
This week we're taking a moment to pause, reflect, and celebrate — while leaving you with a couple big questions to ponder. Link: Know Yourself prompt cards from The School of Life We love hearing from our listeners! Leave us a voice message, write to the show email, or send us a DM on any of our socials. If our conversations support you in your own reframing practice, please consider a donation on our Patreon — where you can also hear bonus episodes. Subscribe to the Reframeables Newslet...
This week we're putting a spotlight on a conversation from Art Heals All Wounds, a podcast hosted by our friend Pam Uzzell. We feel connected to her in our shared love of art and its reframing power, and bring to you a conversation Pam had with poet Preeti Vangani on mothers, loss, and the reframing power of poetry to heal. We hope you find this episode as enlightening as we did. Pam's episode description: Today, I’m joined by writer, poet, and educator Preeti Vangani. Preeti’s work covers t...
We also recorded this episode as a video, which you can watch here. We continue our summer series riffing on all things lists. This week’s dive: nostalgia — despite it being a feeling that doesn't come easily for either of us. We explore the early blog days, weeding and podcasts, returning to books read at a young age, candy in plastic cups, and other thoughts all tinged with nostalgia in one way or another. Links: Knoxville, Tennessee by Nikki Giovanni Tomato salad with currants and serran...
Nat sits down with Lloyd Rose (aka @plantcrazii), a vegan content creator who's been doing amazing things on Instagram and has a new cookbook coming out at the end of the summer. We're putting good vibes out into the world with this conversation, talking about Lloyd's journey from meat-eater to living a plant-based life, pushing back on how veganism is portrayed in the media, building mutual spaces online, and the vulnerability of being an influencer. Links: 4 Vegan Influencers To Follow On ...
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