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Today we are excited to chat with a “pleasure doula,” Sara Elise: an autistic, Black & Indigenous, queer, femme, who works primarily in the hospitality, well-being, and food industries. She has graduated business school, worked on Wall Street, and has been featured in Playboy, Nylon, Bon Appetit, StyleLikeU, and was one of BK Magazine’s 50 Most Fascinating People of 2022. She has modeled for brands like Sephora, Mercedes Benz, Madewell, and Instagram, and she is the author of A Recipe for More, her debut book which launched May 2023. Wanna go to Switzerland with us? Learn more and book now.Today's podcast is brought to you by Childfree Wealth, a life and financial planning firm dedicated to helping childfree and permanently childless people live their best life without kids. Visit their website to get started — and tell them we sent you!  Support this show.Wanna connect with us on social media? You can find us on Instagram and TikTok at @diypod. If you have a question or comment, email us at dinky@dinkypod.comBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/dinky--5953015/support.

If you’re a Millennial or Gen Z, there’s a good chance you were raised on shows from Disney Channel and Nickelodeon. By now, you’ve probably heard about the documentary ‘Quiet on Set’ which covers the untold story of the abusive environment inside '90s kids' television. So, as two people who love pop culture and aren’t having kids because the planet is awful, we have to talk about it. Wanna go to Switzerland with us? Learn more and book now.Today's podcast is brought to you by Childfree Wealth, a life and financial planning firm dedicated to helping childfree and permanently childless people live their best life without kids. Visit their website to get started — and tell them we sent you!  Support this show.Wanna connect with us on social media? You can find us on Instagram and TikTok at @dinkypod. If you have a question or comment, email us at dinky@dinkypod.comBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/dinky--5953015/support.

“Trad wife” is the new buzzword in pop culture — and we can’t seem to escape it, no matter how hard we try. While it might seem harmless and dumb on the surface, trad wife culture is deeply rooted in pronatalism. If you’re not familiar with the term, pronatalism is the policy or practice of promoting childbirth or encouraging people to have children. Today, pronatalism & pronatalist policies are on the rise all around us — from ads on television to the decisions from the Supreme Court. So, today we’re giving you an introductory lesson on pronatalism — the origins, the consequences, and what we can do about it. To register to vote, visit vote.gov.To read the AITA Reddit thread discussed in Shit People Say, click here.Wanna go to Switzerland with us? Learn more and book now.Today's podcast is brought to you by Childfree Wealth, a life and financial planning firm dedicated to helping childfree and permanently childless people live their best life without kids. Visit their website to get started — and tell them we sent you!  Support this show.Wanna connect with us on social media? You can find us on Instagram and TikTok at @dinkypod. If you have a question or comment, email us at dinky@dinkypod.comBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/dinky--5953015/support.

Today we are honored to be joined by Ali Davis, a cult and childhood torture survivor. Ali grew up under Bill Gothard's teachings (otherwise known as the fundamentalist Christian cult portrayed in ‘Shiny Happy People’). Due in large part to Ali’s childhood experiences, she is now in her early 30s and childfree by choice. Ali is passionate about raising awareness of non-war related childhood torture and is the founder and Executive Director of the pretti graffiti foundation — the first and only nonprofit in the US dedicated to securing humanitarian aid for other survivors. Follow pretti graffiti foundation on Instagram.Visit the pretti graffiti foundation website to learn more or donate. To shop Erika’s mentioned lip stain, visit Wonderskin. (Not an ad.)Wanna go to Switzerland with us? As of publishing, there are only 6 spots left so don’t waste time! Book now.Today's podcast is brought to you by Childfree Wealth, a life and financial planning firm dedicated to helping childfree and permanently childless people live their best life without kids. Visit their website to get started — and tell them we sent you!  Support this show.Wanna connect with us on social media? You can find us on Instagram and TikTok at @dinkypod. If you have a question or comment, email us at dinky@dinkypod.comBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/dinky--5953015/support.

It’s almost spring, so naturally, we’re looking for excuses to DINK ourselves with a 2024 vacation. Your irresponsible, unhinged childfree besties have done the research on all things childfree vacations — including locations, best times of year, and childfree travel groups. Last but not least, we will also be chatting about our Lazy Girls trip, including a deep dive on the itinerary and what we’re looking forward to most. Wanna go to Switzerland with us? As of publishing, there are only 8 spots left so don’t waste time! Book now.Today's podcast is brought to you by Childfree Wealth, a life and financial planning firm dedicated to helping childfree and permanently childless people live their best life without kids. Visit their website to get started — and tell them we sent you! Looking for other travel options? Here are a few recs:WildShe RetreatsThe Philippines with Danni Duncan Greece with Childfree Millennial CF Travel ConnectSupport this show. Wanna connect with us on social media? You can find us on Instagram and TikTok at @dinkypod. If you have a question or comment, email us at dinky@dinkypod.comBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/dinky--5953015/support.

If there’s one thing childfree people hear over and over and over again, it’s that someday we’ll wake up and realize we made a mistake — and be saddled with tremendous regret over our choice to be childfree. So, today we’ll be talking to Marcia Drut-Davis — an 81 year old pioneer of the childfree lifestyle and author of two books: Confessions Of A Childfree Woman and What? You Don’t Want Children? Marcia also revealed her childfree status on national television in 1974 on a segment of ‘60 Minutes.’ We’ll be asking her about her choice to remain childfree — and finding out if she has any regrets today.We wanna go on vacation with you! Fill out our survey to help us figure out where we’re going! Survey closes on February 27, 2023 at 11:59PM PST. Today's podcast is brought to you by Childfree Wealth, a life and financial planning firm dedicated to helping childfree and permanently childless people live their best life without kids. Visit their website to get started — and tell them we sent you! Support this show.Wanna connect with us on social media? You can find us on Instagram and TikTok at @dinkypod. If you have a question or comment, email us at dinky@dinkypod.comBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/dinky--5953015/support.

It’s a mailbag episode!! We had such a blast answering listener questions last season that we’re coming at you with a fresh batch. We’ve pulled some of our favorite questions that listeners like you have sent in over DMs and email — so let this serve as a reminder: if you have a question or a comment, you can always reach us at dinky@dinkypod.com!Cheese Grotto graciously offered us an affiliate code! Use code DinkyPod10 for 10% off any Cheese Grotto order. Click HERE to see the Instagram post discussed about your top reasons to not have kids. To watch the Instagram Reel referenced in Shit People Say, click HERE. Donate to support this show. Wanna connect with us on social media? You can find us on Instagram, Threads, and TikTok at @dinkypod. If you have a question or comment, email us at dinky@dinkypod.comBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/dinky--5953015/support.

Have you ever thought, “Wow, I wish i could just leave everything behind and travel the globe with a community of other childfree women?” Well, then this episode was designed for you. We’ll be talking with the childfree content creator known on social media as @WildShe. Through her work, she’s creating a community for childfree, travel-loving, free-spirited women to unite and challenge social norms. Having traveled and lived globally, mostly solo, for more than 10 plus plus years, she is probably best known for organizing childfree women’s group trips in places like Bali, Sri Lanka, Thailand, Costa Rica and beyond. Tune in to hear her story and a really, truly riveting game of Mad Libs. Wanna learn more about WildShe? You can find her on Instagram and TikTok. Plus, join her Facebook Group and learn more about her childfree adventures and retreats.Donate to support this show.Wanna connect with us on social media? You can find us on Instagram and TikTok at @dinkypod. If you have a question or comment, email us at dinky@dinkypod.comBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/dinky--5953015/support.

It’s a new year and we know fans of Dinky aren’t just childfree — they’re also big fans of true crime. So, our 2024 gift to you is Dinky with a slice of murder. In this episode we’re covering the famous story that made us all think deeply about the ethics of procreation: Gypsy Rose Blanchard and her mother Dee Dee. Plus, we unpack the news that Gypsy plans to have kids post-prison. Donate to support this show.Shop our merch.Wanna connect with us on social media? You can find us on Instagram and TikTok at @dinkypod. If you have a question or comment, email us at dinky@dinkypod.comBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/dinky--5953015/support.

Listeners, strap in for a thriller of an episode. We’re talking to New York Times bestselling author and childfree superstar Andrea Bartz. Andrea Bartz is a journalist and author of her hit novels like The Spare Room, The Lost Night, The Herd, and Reese’s Book Club pick We Were Never Here. Her work has appeared in The Wall Street Journal, Marie Claire, Vogue, and many other outlets, and she's held editorial positions at Glamour, Psychology Today, and Self, among other publications. Tune in to hear her thoughts on the intersection of being childfree by choice, writing childfree characters, coming out as queer during the podcast, and what it’s like to be trolled online for your lifestyle. Please take a moment to leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify!Wanna connect with Andrea Bartz? Find her on Instagram and buy The Spare Room here. Donate to support this show. Shop our merch.Wanna connect with us on social media? You can find us on Instagram and TikTok at @dinkypod. If you have a question or comment, email us at dinky@dinkypod.comBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/dinky--5953015/support.

In this episode, we’re diving into the topic of codependency. You might be asking yourself, what does codependency have to do with being childfree? Well, with some estimates suggesting that over 90-percent of the American population demonstrates some form of codependent behavior — childfree folks are no exception. So today, we’ll be talking to codependency coach Jo Westood on overcoming people pleasing tendencies in your childfree life, setting boundaries, and most importantly: how to deal with the toxic garbage your family will spew during the holiday season — especially around your choice to not have kids. Please take a moment to leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify!Wanna connect with Jo Westwood? Find her on Instagram, her website, or sign up for her weekly email series Codependency Curious. Donate now to support this show. Shop our merch.Wanna connect with us on social media? You can find us on Instagram and TikTok at @dinkypod. If you have a question or comment, email us at dinky@dinkypod.comBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/dinky--5953015/support.

Today, we’re going to be talking about the commodification of pregnancy. Specifically, we’re taking a deep dive into the complicated world of surrogacy: the process in which a person carries and delivers a child for a couple or individual. We’ll be learning about the different types of surrogacy, how surrogates are compensated (that is, if payment is even allowed in your state!) — and discuss if surrogacy overall is even ethical. It’s a heady one, but a good one. To learn more about surrogacy laws by state, visit THIS site. Donate now to support this show.Wanna connect with us on social media? You can find us on Instagram and TikTok at @dinkypod. If you have a question or comment, email us at dinky@dinkypod.comBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/dinky--5953015/support.

Is it just me, or do we all dream about shirking societal norms and living with our childfree besties in a shared, intentional community — something like the Golden Girls? In today’s episode, Erika and Kristen dive deep into why intentional communities might just be the answer to childfree living we’ve been looking for. We’ll be talking about the broad strokes of the topic: from types of intentional communities that exist, to the logistics around shared property, and more. To learn more about intentional communities, we recommend checking out the Foundation for Intentional Communities website.Donate now to support this show.Wanna connect with us on social media? You can find us on Instagram and TikTok at @dinkypod. If you have a question or comment, email us at dinky@dinkypod.comBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/dinky--5953015/support.

Our first episode on regretful parents was such a hit, we wanted to dive even deeper. In this episode, we’re joined by Orna Donath, a sociologist who probably knows more about parental regret than anyone on the planet. She is the author of the book, ‘Regretting Motherhood’ — which covers her study of 23 women on their experiences with regret over their role as mothers. You can buy Orna’s book HERE to read it yourself.To find the article on orgs to support in Israel and Palestine, visit CharityWatch.Become a monthly subscriber to support this show. Wanna connect with us on social media? You can find us on Instagram and TikTok at @dinkypod. If you have a question or comment, email us at dinky@dinkypod.comBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/dinky--5953015/support.

To celebrate the launch of Season 4 and Halloween in one fell swoop, we’re joined by paranormal historian and expert Sapphire Sandalo. You might recognize her as a co-host on the Travel Channel TV shows like ‘Ghost Town Terror’ or ‘Paranormal Caught On Camera.’ She also has her own award-winning spooky podcast, 'Stories With Sapphire.' Additionally, October is Filipino American History Month, and as a Filipino-American, Sapphire shares her thoughts on the cultural pressures of being childfree as an Asian American.You can find Sapphire on TikTok and Instagram. Become a monthly subscriber to help support the show Wanna connect with us on social media? You can find us on Instagram and TikTok at @dinkypod. If you have a question or comment, email us at dinky@dinkypod.comBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/dinky--5953015/support.

The season three finale has arrived! To celebrate, we’re interviewing Dominique Baker, an award-winning skin and hair expert in her 40s who has been featured in WhoWhatWear, Style Canada, The Guardian and more. Plus, we catch up with Nick, one of the listeners we recently set up on a date via Instagram’s new app Threads, and it’s a WILD story. To shop Erika’s skincare routine: The Wayfair makeup organizer Olay Total Effects Revitalizing Foaming Face WashDr. Andrew Weil Mega-Mushroom Relief & Resilience Soothing Treatment LotionGood Molecules Lightweight Daily Moisturizer Paula’s Choice Skin Perfecting 2% BHA Liquid ExfoliantBlack Girl Sunscreen Broad SpectrumIlia C Beyond Triple Serum SPF 40Tatcha Indigo Overnight Repair Youth To The People Peptides + C Energy Eye Concentrate with Vitamin C and CaffeineOrdinary AHA 30% + BHA 2% Exfoliating Peeling SolutionPond's Cold Cream CleanserFarmacy Green Clean Makeup Removing Cleansing BalmTo shop Kristen’s skincare routine: Vanicream Moisturizing Cream with Pumpderma e Vitamin C SerumColor Science Sunforgettable® Total Protection™ Face Shield Classic SPF 50Sunforgettable® Total Protection™ Brush-On Shield SPF 50The Ordinary Niacinamide 10% + Zinc 1%The Ordinary Azelaic Acid 10% Suspension Brightening CreamDermstore Deep Cleansing Oil CeraVe Foaming Facial Cleanser Midnight Recovery ConcentratePaula’s Choice BHA Supergoop! PLAY Everyday Lotion SPF 50 with Sunflower ExtractTo shop Dominique Baker’s recommendations: dermalogica powerbright dark spot serumLa Roche Posay Hyalu B5 Pure Hyaluronic Acid SerumEltaMD UV Clear Broad-Spectrum SPF 46Become a monthly subscriber to help this show stay ad-free: Wanna connect with us on social media? You can find us on Instagram and TikTok at @dinkypod. If you have a question or comment, email us at dinkypod@gmail.com. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/dinky-podcast/support

Listeners, today is all about YOU. This may be our third season, but it’s also our first season doing a mailbag episode! You all sent in a ton of great questions on Instagram — from how to deal with your childfree status in professional settings, to our best dating advice, to coping with in-laws, and so much more! Become a monthly subscriber to help this show stay ad-free. Wanna connect with us on social media? You can find us on Instagram and TikTok at @dinkypod. If you have a question or comment, email us at dinkypod@gmail.com. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/dinky-podcast/support

I know what you’re thinking: what does artificial intelligence have to do with a DINK lifestyle? Surprisingly, more than you think! In this episode, we explore a common philosophical question in antinatalist circles: Should artificial intelligence be given the ability to experience pain and suffering? Plus, we chat about recent statements from Mo Gawdat, a former Google X exec, on why he’s urging people to hold off on having kids as a result of the rise of artificial intelligence.  You can find the New York Time’s story on if it’s ethically wrong to have kids here.  To learn more about the discussion between Sam Harris and David Benatar, visit here. If you want to fuck around and find out about AI, you can try out ChatGPT here.  Become a monthly subscriber to help this show stay ad-free. Wanna connect with us on social media? You can find us on Instagram and TikTok at @dinkypod.  If you have a question or comment, email us at dinkypod@gmail.com.  --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/dinky-podcast/support

Believe it or not, this episode marks Dinky’s one year anniversary! To celebrate, we’ll be talking to one of the biggest (and favorite) childfree influencers on TikTok. You may know her on the internet as z00mie, but she’s known as Abigail Porter IRL. Tune in to hear us chat with her about the origins of her mega-viral “free birth control” series on TikTok, the craziest things she’s learned about being childfree online, the “girl with the list”, and so much more. Be sure to follow z00mie, aka Abigail, on TikTok and Instagram. Become a monthly subscriber to help this show stay ad-free. Wanna connect with us on social media? You can find us on Instagram and TikTok at @dinkypod. If you have a question or comment, email us at dinky@dinkypod.com. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/dinky-podcast/support

In this episode, Kristen and Erika are joined by Dr. Jay Zigmont, the founder of Childfree Wealth, a financial planning service that supports your life without kids. We’ll be talking about the basics of financial planning as people without kids as well as some out-of-the-box approaches to retiring that are exclusively designed for childfree lifestyles. While millennials may be in a sad state when it comes to financial planning and retirement, this episode is designed to help you feel inspired and ready to think *differently.* We also perform a riveting dramatic re-enactment of our comments section. Trust me when I say, you’ll want to listen until the end.  If you’re interested in contacting Childfree Wealth, visit their website. You can also find Dr. Jay Zigmont and Childfree Wealth on Instagram. To listen to the Childfree Wealth Podcast, visit Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7yC4VzL0yGt757vhXZZQX4  Wanna read Dr. Jay’s book? Download a free copy here. Here are two articles he recommended from his blog, one on long-term care and the other on caring for elderly family members. If you’d like to read the article Kristen cites, visit Big Think for their article on ‘Will Millennials Ever Be Able To Retire?’ To review the top paying jobs we discuss, visit CNBC. Become a monthly subscriber to help this show stay ad-free. Wanna connect with us on social media? You can find us on Instagram and TikTok at @dinkypod.  If you have a question or comment, email us at dinkypod@gmail.com.   --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/dinky-podcast/support