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Tune into the unscripted, unfiltered journey of a millennial couple redefining life's playbook.
The NOIRPOISED podcast is where private conversations between hosts, Ruth & Sam, become public wisdom, and intimate conversations meet universal experiences. Join us as we peel back the layers of life and relationships. It’s like eavesdropping on a private chat, but these are the conversations the world needs to hear.
In each episode, we delve into the topics that touch us all – from the echoes of our childhood to the difficulties of relationships. We're not just talking; we're challenging norms, unlearning the outdated, and re-learning truth. This is more than a discussion; it's a journey to reshape our collective understanding of life and love.
We believe wisdom is power, but it's also a currency. As we navigate life’s lessons and learn through its challenges, we share our insights – hoping to enrich your life as we enrich ours. Expect candid, relatable stories that resonate with your experiences and insights that might change how you think and see the world.
So, are you ready to join us? It's time to unlearn to relearn YOU.
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What does it really mean to be a man today—and are we carrying more than we let on? In this first part of our Men’s Series, Sam is joined by two guests and gets real about the silent pressures men face: from money and identity to emotional suppression and validation. If you’ve ever felt like you're building the plane while flying it—or showing up strong when you’re actually drained—this one’s for you. We’re talking legacy, fatherhood, emotional weight, and the unspoken competition men have wi...
Ever feel guilty for drifting away from old friends or family members? You’re not alone. In this episode, we dig into the reality of outgrowing people—and why that doesn’t have to mean cutting them off. We explore how relationships evolve with time, how to recognize when you’re forcing outdated connections, and how to re-imagine what friendship and family bonds can look like in adulthood. If you’ve ever struggled with letting go, setting boundaries, or feeling like you're the only one doing t...
Why do so many mother-daughter relationships feel like an endless tug-of-war? Is it tough love, unhealed trauma, or just history repeating itself? In this episode, we continue the conversation from last week but with a focus on the generational cycles that shape how mothers treat their daughters—from childhood expectations to adult conflicts that never seem to fade. Why do some moms push their daughters so hard while letting their sons slide? Why does criticism sometimes feel louder than love...
Ever feel like your dad was more competitor than coach? Or like your parents raised you with love—but also a load of pressure? In this episode, we get real about the quiet tension that builds between parents and sons as boys grow into men. From tough love that cut too deep, to fathers who saw challenge instead of change, we’re unpacking the real roots behind the drama. Is it generational? Cultural? Or just emotional stuff no one talked about? Whether you’re raising kids now or still working t...
Ever feel like you're parenting your parents? You're not alone. Turns out, millennials are officially the sandwich generation—caught between raising kids and raising... well, their own parents. So why is it that the very people who told us not to stay out late, not to spend recklessly, and not to ignore our health are now breaking their own rules? And more importantly—how do we handle it without losing our sanity? In this episode, we unpack the reality of parenting your parents, how birth ord...
Sibling dynamics: why do some siblings stay close while others drift apart? We're taking a deep dive into the role that family, culture, and even gender play in shaping how siblings relate to each other. Have you ever wondered why your sibling relationship isn’t what you expected? What role does your upbringing play in it? Listen now and see if you’re guilty of the same sibling missteps or if you're nurturing a bond built to last. Send us your questions and/or topic suggestions here Like, sh...
Why aren’t men pursuing women like they used to? In this episode, we dive into the shift in dating dynamics—why some men feel it’s just not worth the effort anymore. Are women setting too many “hoops” to jump through? Or have men simply grown tired of the chase? Tune in—and ask yourself: Are we making it too hard to connect with each other? Send us your questions and/or topic suggestions here Like, share, follow and rate the podcast! Follow the journey: Instagram: @noirpoisedpodcast Youtube:...
We’re breaking down how cultural shifts are redefining relationships. Is the 50/50 mindset killing romance? Can modern men really handle traditional women or is it a fantasy until reality kicks in? Can women truly balance being a boss outside and submissive at home? Let’s talk about it. Send us your questions and/or topic suggestions here Like, share, follow and rate the podcast! Follow the journey: Instagram: @noirpoisedpodcast Youtube: @noirpoisedpodcast
Studies show that year seven is the breaking point for many couples—but why? In this episode, we dive into the stats, the psychology behind the “seven-year itch,” and the biggest reasons marriages fail (hint: it’s not just about love). What’s pulling couples apart? And most importantly—how can you beat the odds and make your relationship thrive long-term? Whether you're married, engaged, or just thinking about the future, this is one conversation you don’t want to miss. References/credits: ...
Does marriage actually affect wealth? We hear it all the time—marriage is just about love, right? But what if we told you it has way more to do with financial stability and long-term success than you think? In this episode, we’re discussing potential reasons why Black marriages are on the decline. 🎧 Tap in. You don’t want to miss this one! Send us your questions and/or topic suggestions here Like, share, follow and rate the podcast! Follow the journey: Instagram: @noirpoisedpodcast Youtube: ...
Millennial parents, let’s talk. Remember when we thought we’d have a village helping us raise our kids? Turns out, that village is looking real different (or nonexistent). Why does it feel like past generations had more support? Is it because we moved away, set more boundaries, or are we just expecting too much? And let’s be real—at what point do you stop hoping and just buy your village instead? In this episode, we’re discussing the realities of raising kids without the village we thought ...
What do women really want? If you’ve ever asked this question (or been too afraid to), this episode is for you. Are women truly as complicated as they seem or are men actually over-complicating things by looking for a “final answer”? We’re breaking down some of the misconceptions about what women desire. And here’s the real question—do women even know what they want? Or are they figuring it out as they go? Whether you're trying to understand your partner or just avoid another “you should kn...
Can men ever truly afford to chase happiness when leading a family—or is it a distraction from their real purpose? In this episode, we’re tackling the saying: ‘Happy Wife, Happy Life’. Are men responsible for creating happiness for their family or does this mindset entirely miss the mark? Tune in. Send us your questions and/or topic suggestions here Like, share, follow and rate the podcast! Follow the journey: Instagram: @noirpoisedpodcast Youtube: @noirpoisedpodcast
Millennials: the most criticized, misunderstood, and, dare we say, resilient generation. In this episode, we unpack why Millennials are seen as lazy, entitled, and overly sensitive—but is that the full story? From navigating crushing student debt to juggling multiple jobs while breaking generational cycles, Millennials are doing more than just surviving—they’re redefining what it means to live. Is the world really tougher for Millennials, or are we finally brave enough to challenge the status...
Is modern feminism missing the point? In this episode, we’re diving into feminism—past and present. Is the term still about empowering women and advocating for equality, or has it shifted into something more divisive? From understanding the original goals of feminism to grappling with its modern interpretation, we explore how the term has evolved—and whether it’s now doing more harm than good. Are we losing the balance between celebrating women’s independence and respecting traditional roles?...
In this episode, we dive deep into the controversial term "toxic masculinity" and unpack what it really means. Are we redefining masculinity in ways that suppress natural traits of men like strength and competitiveness? We reflect on societal shifts, the blurred lines between aggression and confidence, and why men today might feel hesitant to embrace their manhood. Is it okay for men to be unapologetically themselves? Join us as we challenge stereotypes, question societal norms, and explore w...
New year, same goals? We’re talking about the hype of New Year's resolutions and why they often don’t work for most of us. Are we setting ourselves up for failure with unrealistic timelines and overwhelming expectations? Or is it the lack of a clear, tangible plan that trips us up? Whichever it is, you are not alone! Did you know that 80% of people tend to give up on their resolutions by February? Is it time to ditch the resolutions and focus on daily progress instead? Tune in to find out h...
The holidays are here, and so is the joy—and maybe stress—of family gatherings. Ever felt like every conversation is a minefield of unsolicited advice, judgment, or endless questions about your life choices? Whether it’s, ‘When are you getting married?’ or 'Why haven’t you had a kid yet?’, family functions can sometimes feel more overwhelming than festive. In this episode, we unpack the pressure of navigating family dynamics during the holidays. How do you stay sane, set boundaries, and prote...
What does it truly mean to lead in a marriage? Is leadership about making decisions, setting the tone, or something deeper? Can you recognize the ways you lead in your relationship—or the ways you let your partner lead? Does it involve understanding, respect, and partnership or simply whoever is in “charge” calls the shots? First full episode available on video! Watch now on YouTube or continue to listen on your favorite podcast platform. Send us your questions and/or topic suggestions here L...
Are we harder on boys than girls, even as toddlers? Is it necessary for boys to face tough love from an early age, or are we unintentionally creating emotional scars under the guise of strength? In this episode, we tackle the fine line between discipline and emotional neglect. From the differing ways parents handle crying boys versus girls to the long-term impact of societal expectations, we ask: Are we preparing boys for the real world—or holding them back from emotional growth? Is tough lov...
How much of what you believe is truly your own thought? We’re discussing the power of media influence and how it may shape our beliefs, decisions, and even self-perceptions. Do you question what you're told—or are you caught in the web of "programming"? Send us your questions and/or topic suggestions here Like, share, follow and rate the podcast! Follow the journey: Instagram: @noirpoisedpodcast Youtube: @noirpoisedpodcast
Why has it become so easy to label the opposite gender as “trash” or “toxic”, and are these labels just a shield for our own insecurities? In this episode, we have a raw and eye-opening conversation on the modern battle between men and women. Unpacking the blame game on social media, exploring how the past hurts fuel today’s stereotypes, and asking the real question: can we truly thrive without each other? From independence to respect, we’re exploring what it takes to break down barri...
Are traditional men becoming a thing of the past? We continue the conversation on dynamics between modern and traditional roles, but specifically for the man. From emotional vulnerability to old-school gender expectations, we explore what it means to be a man (or woman) in today’s world. Is there room for traditional values, or are we better off moving forward? Is balance possible or are we just stuck chasing ideals that no longer exist? Send us your questions and/or topic suggestions here ...
In this episode, we dive into the tug-of-war between traditional and modern roles in relationships. Are modern men too emotional, or are they finally in tune with their feelings? Do modern women secretly crave the structure of tradition, or are they evolving into something even better? We explore the challenges of balancing roles and managing expectations. If both partners are now breadwinners and caregivers, is tradition still relevant? And how do we maintain harmony when everyone plays both...
What does toxic really mean, and have you ever wondered if you’ve been toxic without even realizing it? In this episode, we dive into how toxic environments affect us—whether it’s at home, with friends, or in everyday relationships. We explore how some situations push us to grow, while others slowly tear us down. How do you know when it’s time to walk away or when staying could lead to growth? And here’s the real question: Are toxic behaviors subjective, or is toxicity something deeper that w...
What does it really mean to maintain your individuality in a relationship? Can two people truly stay true to themselves while building a life together? In this episode, we dive into the balance between love and independence, exploring why men fear losing freedom and why women struggle to keep a sense of self. Are relationships about compromise, or evolution? Let’s explore how to keep you alive while building a we. Send us your questions and/or topic suggestions here Like, share, follow and...
What happens when you stop sitting still while waiting for a miracle and start creating your own opportunities? There’s a shift that occurs when you come to realize that faith isn’t a shortcut. Tune in for a fresh perspective that might just change how you approach your goals, dreams, and prayers. Send us your questions and/or topic suggestions here Like, share, follow and rate the podcast! Follow the journey: Instagram: @noirpoisedpodcast Youtube: @noirpoisedpodcast
Have you ever found yourself wondering, Why does this keep happening to me? Whether it’s in relationships, work, or life in general, sometimes the common denominator is… you. We dive deep into how taking responsibility for the patterns in our life can lead to real change, growth, and healthier outcomes. But the real question is: Are you willing to shift how you move in the world to stop repeating the same cycles? Send us your questions and/or topic suggestions here Like, share, follow and rat...
Is church attendance really declining, or is there a deeper shift happening in how people connect with faith? In this episode, we dive into the surprising statistics showing that nearly half of millennials and Gen Z are skipping out on church. But what does that mean for our spiritual lives? Are we finding God in new places, or are we losing touch with something vital? Send us your questions and/or topic suggestions here Like, share, follow and rate the podcast! Follow the journey: Instagra...
How do you know if you're making choices for yourself or just trying to keep the peace? In a world that often pushes us to conform, we explore being authentic even when it disappoints others or makes you stand out. Is it worth the loneliness it sometimes brings? Are you living for you or for everyone else? Send us your questions and/or topic suggestions here Like, share, follow and rate the podcast! Follow the journey: Instagram: @noirpoisedpodcast Youtube: @noirpoisedpodcast
Life is a series of cause and effect, where every decision—big or small—leads to consequences that shape our lives. From the breakfast we choose to eat, to life-altering moments that come from a seemingly insignificant decision, we dive deep into the ripple effect of our choices. But here’s the question: Are you creating the life you want, or are you letting life happen to you? Join us as we challenge the notion of fate and take control of our destinies. Send us your questions and/or topic s...
Are you living your truth, or just going with the flow? Have you ever felt drained trying to fit into different roles or personas? We’re diving into discovering our identity beyond the labels society gives us—beyond being a parent, friend, or professional. Who are you, really? Let’s find out! Send us your questions and/or topic suggestions here Like, share, follow and rate the podcast! Follow the journey: Instagram: @noirpoisedpodcast Youtube: @noirpoisedpodcast
We’re back! And we’re going right into the hard questions… Ever heard the statement or had the thought: “black communities don’t support one another?” Well, we have and in this episode, we’re diving into the idea of community and what "support" means. Is it just about buying from Black-owned businesses, or is there more to it? We challenge the narrative that Black communities don’t support their own and explore whether our expectations of support are realistic—or even fair. Can we redefine wh...
We're back! Season 2 premieres Thursday, Sept 5th and we're running every Thursday until June. This time, we'll also have short video content during the first half of the season THEN mid-season, we'll start posting FULL EPISODES on video via YouTube! If you know us, you know that going visual is a big deal. But we're committed to those of you that have been following the journey and making the request. We've heard and we're delivering. New deeper conversations but the same motto. If you're...
🎙️It’s the last episode of the first season and whew, did it fly by! In this last episode, we explore the art of "maintenance" for the relationships that enrich our lives. Ever wondered how to keep the spark alive in all your relationships, from friendships to love? Think of your conversations as maintenance check-ups—simple yet profound acts that can transform your connections. What does relationship maintenance look like for you? Is it a quick text to a friend or a deep conversation with ...
Ever wonder how owning up to your mistakes could lead to liberation and growth? We’re diving into the power of accountability. Discover why taking responsibility for both your actions and inactions can lead you towards personal development and deeper connections. We unravel how accountability isn't just about admitting wrongs but embracing the opportunity to respond and improve. Tune in to find out if accountability is the missing piece in your journey to better relationships and self-aware...
Are you keeping your relationship talks in the right circles? Have you ever felt torn between sharing a problem with a friend or keeping it within your partnership? In this episode, we dive into the complexities of advice, trust, and privacy. We’re asking questions like: When is it right to seek advice outside of a relationship, and when should it stay between the two of you? Join us as we explore the difficulties in balancing between seeking guidance and maintaining privacy in your re...
We’re diving deep into the nuances of sensitivity, asking, "Is being sensitive a strength or a weakness?" We explore how sensitivity impacts our relationships and self-perception, challenging societal norms that often equate sensitivity with weakness. Join us as we explore why understanding and embracing sensitivity could be a game-changer in how we interact with the world. Tune in and join the conversation. Send us your questions and/or topic suggestions here Like, share, follow and r...
Ever wonder how relationships withstand the test of time and change? Tune into our latest podcast episode where we dive deep into the dynamics of evolving relationships. From navigating the ups and downs of marriage to maintaining connection amidst personal growth, we discuss the thoughts everyone has when it comes to evolving together without growing apart. Do you think people can truly change for the better together? Join us for a candid discussion on love, unavoidable change, and growth....
Are you becoming your parents? We’ve been discussing breaking cycles and healing our inner child in previous episodes. But in this revealing episode, we dive into the uncanny ways we inherit traits from our parents, often catching ourselves mirroring their habits and quirks. We're not just exploring the often humorous, sometimes alarming reality of how deeply our parents influence us but we’re focusing on ways to rewrite the negative behaviors we may have unconsciously picked up from them. J...
Ever agreed on something important with your partner, only to find out they had a change of heart? How do you navigate the chills of compromise without losing your warmth? We're tackling the tough questions: How early should you discuss your non-negotiables with a significant other? What do you do when your plans don't align? We’re discussing clashing priorities within relationships. Join us for a candid conversation about finding common ground, or realizing when it's time to let go. Send us...
Do you think your childhood left marks you need to heal from? Dive into an enlightening discussion about the invisible threads that tie our present to our past. We're peeling back layers to reveal how our inner child's needs, joys, and pains subtly shape our adult lives, urging us to explore and heal areas we often overlook. Could embracing your inner child be the key to lasting happiness and fulfillment? Let's discover how to honor and heal our inner selves, reshaping our future by confronti...
Are you ready to challenge the cycles shaping your destiny? In this episode, we dive into the heart of familial cycles, exploring the parallels between our choices and those who came before us. Ever questioned the power of inherited habits or the notion of "coincidences" in your life? We're discussing generational patterns, shedding light on the moments of realization that connect us to our roots in ways we never anticipated. Whether it's finances, traditions, or emotional responses, join us...
Ever ponder if the quest for a perfect partner is blinding us to the joys of the almost-perfect ones? 🤔 Let’s discuss some dating dilemmas! In this episode, we're unpacking the age-old debate: Are men really simpler in love, or are we all chasing fairy tales? Discover why 80% might just be your new 100% in the love equation. Is your checklist for love guiding you to happiness, or is it a recipe for perpetual singlehood? Join us, as we explore the fine line between high standards and u...
How do you share your true self without drowning out the voice of your partner, or vice versa? Dive into a candid exploration of self-expression with us on today’s episode. It’s not just about letting your own light shine, but also about navigating through the other person’s boundaries when expressing yourself. Discover the fine line between expressing your needs and respecting those of the ones you love. Tune in, and let’s find the balance together. Send us your questions and/or topic sugg...
Today, we're unwrapping the layers of communication in relationships, decoding the unsaid, and exploring the power behind the words we choose. Do you think there's a magic formula for conveying your thoughts perfectly? Discover your communication style, learn to read between the lines, and maybe, just maybe, find the key to unlocking a deeper connection with those you cherish. What we thought was effective was actually problematic, and that may be the same for you. Are you ready to become mo...
In this episode, we dive deep into the complexities of love. Have you ever pondered the true essence of love or how it differs from simple care or admiration? Join us as we unravel these mysteries through personal stories, revealing moments of clarity, and an honest exploration of our own experiences with illustrating and receiving love. Discover the nuanced interpretations of love, the impact of societal views, and how personal upbringing shapes our understanding of affection. Whether love...
Have you ever found yourself trapped in the swirling thoughts of "What if?" and "If only I had..."? You're not alone. In this episode, we're diving into the deep, often murky waters of regret. We're discussing the types of regrets that haunt us—from missed opportunities, to the longing for deeper connections and moral dilemmas. But here's the kicker: What if we told you that regret doesn't have to be your enemy? Through this candid conversation and personal revelations, we explore how disting...
This week, we dive into the heart of grace and understanding, essential ingredients for nurturing relationships. Ever wondered why some conversations turn into confrontations while others pave the way to understanding? Have you ever been in a situation where your initial reaction would have made things worse, but choosing grace changed the outcome? We've been there and we’re exploring those fine lines. We’re sharing personal experiences and how these moments have shaped our approach to disag...
This week we delve further into the essential conversation about creating safe spaces for women, continuing from where our last discussion ended. Have you ever pondered what it genuinely means for a woman to feel safe and understood? We unravel the complexities of emotional expression, the societal pressures women endure, and the roles men can assume to nurture a supportive environment. We explore how societal expectations and "programming" from a young age can shape our views on what women s...
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