colors get us fucked up sometimes. Why black is underrated.
In the audio attached to this, a friend who has known me long enough said: never met anyone so selflessly pure in my life, trust me. You have no bad energy coming off of you. Like, none whatsoever. And I have met people nigga. I don't know how your parents raised you, but they did a really good job. ā Nalin Sharma those words struck me deeply. taking this moment to celebrate my parents. They may not have been perfect in every place, but they were great in ways that have shaped who I am today. Theyāve taught me values that this friend and others see; selflessness, honesty (at least 85% of the time), simple and noise-less life. shoutout to my parentsāmy backbone, my role models, my sponsors, my pastors, my Oniduros. They've been a solid force in my life, guiding me through these 30 years on earth. Despite anything I may have written or not written about the past, the present is different. Right now, I love them completely, and they love me right back. Weāre in a good and beautiful place, and thatās something Iām grateful for every day. I love you, Mom and Dad.
I have this virtual basketball space where I hang out on the internet with other warriorsā fans to discuss basketball. But what ends up happening is, it usually ends up being about deep meaningful conversations. Todayās episode features Rich, who is also the founder of that virtual basketball space, which is also one of the biggest warriors virtual fan bases with over 169k YouTube subscribers, 3k Substack subscribers, and 133k twitter followers. my comment being displayed - Link to this particular clip And it's always a joy hanging out there. It feels good to connect with someone Like (Rich) who I see myself in. Someone who has done exceedingly well for himself on the internet. And someone who I inspires me to build my own thing on the internet. And it just feels good connecting with such persons and from the podcast that is attached to this write-up. I wish he would be kind enough to listen. In this episode, he shared how that he once was living on food stamps and he couldn't even afford so many things of life. He was trying to get somewhere that he knew his 9-to-5 job couldn't. And so he struggled for years. āyouāre right where you need to beā ā Rich Hearing such people's stories and seeing where my story connects with theirs is motivating and empowering to keep my eyes glued on what I'm trying to do here with Jollof Write and writing, in general. Hopefully, I'm able to create my own stage where I can bring together people who are hungry for the same ideas that I'm hungry about. Exchange ideas and dissect them in real time. And even create articles based off of those conversations. I hope that one day I'm able to get to that place where some of my friends on the internet are right now in their journey. Iām grateful Iām able to document these moments. Shout out to YOU for reading this article and reading all the other articles. It means a lot to me and it gets me one step closer to what I'm trying to achieve with Jollof-Write. So, thank you for always being here and I do hope you listen to the audio. And if you prefer, watch the video HERE https://www.youtube.com/live/uuVQLirwoJE?si=wr2uUnvtjGy7A2m2&t=18226 support the podcast: https://selar.co/showlove/jollofwrite or Buy a Coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/tobitotheworld
A friend (Dare) posted his frustration on WhatsApp Status saying: Procastination is a bitch, becauseā¦ Why did it take me less than ten minutes to do something that I procastinated for two weeks? Itāsā¦.Itās a bitch,Ā really. And I thought to myself, yes, itās a bitch because it makes you do stuff you donāt even want to do. Like doom scrolling on TikTok when thereās an undone assignment and the deadline is in 2 minutes. Now, Iām left channelling my inner Usain Bolt and turning in the assignment at the last second. Procrastination is a sneaky little devil. It lures you in with promises of temporary relief, only to leave you drowning in a sea of regret. The longer you put off a task, the heavier it weighs on your mind like a constant nagging partner reminding you of what you should be doing instead of binge-watching Ice Bucket challenges on YouTube. This happens everyĀ time. But guess what? Just like Dare (audio attached), once I start to tackle that tedious task, I realize it wasnāt as bad as I made it seem. In fact, it probably takes less time to complete than all the hours I spent procastinating. Itās like ripping off a Band-Aidāāāpainful at first, but once itās done, you wonder why you didnāt do it sooner. So, why do we procrastinate? Thatās a question that even God canāt answer for us. My best attempt is: As long as we can breathe, we can procastinate. *procrastinate š¤¦š½āāļø Maybe itās fear of failure or itās just laziness on-the-red-carpet? Whatever the reason, one thingās for sureāāāProcastination is like every other addiction (drugs, sex, scrolling-tiktok-till-3am); you keep going back to it for no reason. But hey, recognizing the problem is the first step, right? Taking action is the second step, but we wouldnāt take that second step anyway, would we?
so this nigga whose voice you're hearing is actually a close friend, and he's one of those people that you don't even expect to distill such wisdom. i had no choice but to record this part of the conversation and share it. I feel itās something we can all benefit from. a man that leaves the 99 to chase the ONE. Knowing fully well that ONE vessel can be so damaged that sometimes he uses them regardless. He knows what he's doing alone, so Itās best to leave it up to him. If youāre reading this, please listen to what my friend (Kenshin) said in this episode. āāāāāāāāāāāāāāāā For the English interpretation: something I realized recently is that someone can be casting out demons, healing the sick, but back home, can be the devil. when God gives gifts, only he knows why he gives them. Good people get the gifts, and bad people get the gifts. He doesnāt select how or to whom he gives it. For example, someone like David in the Bible, the atrocities he committed. If it was someone else, heās probably hell-fire bound. What about Moses? With all the good things that he did, he still messed up in God's presence. My favourite example is Samson. He wasted his gift. So, someone can speak tongues, fight demons, perform miracles, and still be the devil. While God is still fixing them. Both truths can exist.
The dad is the type of Christian Iām striving to become. One that isnāt afraid to be asked questions, also to question, and understanding that It's okay not to have all the answers. My walk with God has been as slow as a snail but I rather walk my walk than become a pawn in the hand of the religious interpretations of people. Just like the dad letting the son know God the most natural way and not beating it down his throat. au revoir āš½
I always need friends like this because they give me gist that I end up using as material for writing. Like this one: https://jollofwrite.substack.com/p/happy-international-womens-day There are many things that people can hate in this world, but gist is NOT one of them. Everybody wants to know what's going on with this person ABC, every single person wants to know what's the latest news about person ABC. because gist is basically how we run our lives, right? Gist is what made you sign up for Jollof Write, gist is what made you know about that deal, that discount offer, gist is what made you know about that latest movie that dropped, gist is what made you know about the divorce between your favourite artist and their partner, gist is what you always go to church for. Because after service, it's a gist galore, gist is just everywhere, it's like oxygen. Shoutout to that friend that always has gist for us, we need to appreciate them. You can start by forwarding todayās episode to them.
one day in 2020, I ordered a ride going to church. got into the ride, and sat at the front because I hate my riders feeling small by sitting at the back. Usually, I sit in my rides without saying a word till I get to my destination. typical scenario: ME: *enters ride* ME: good, whatever-the-time-of-day-is Rider: hi bro ME: *quiet the entire trip* *reaches destination* Me: thanks Rider: youāre welcome. Abeg no forget give me āļøāļøāļøāļøāļø Me: ok. 9 out of 10 times, I forget to give the āļøāļøāļøāļøāļø because I always leave wondering what that rider dreamed of becoming one day. maybe an astronaut? i bet the Emi Lo Kan economy must have drained the life out of the young manās aspirations. The boy grows up and becomesā¦ā¦ā¦read the rest here: https://jollofwrite.substack.com/p/my-long-lost-uncle-was-my-uber-driver
this ladyās heart cry is so loudāit would literally cause your heart and ears to bleed till you hit your truth. Itās that good 1-minute podcast had to bend the 1-minute rule for it. š„¹
thankfully, Iām not writing this from my cell block cos I was found not guilty and all charges have been dropped. But to think that things could have gone south. like: what if I didnāt have these people to thank for convincing the judge Iāve been a good boy? (https://jollofwrite.substack.com/p/coming-soon) youāll probably never hear from me again and think I broke up with you without saying a word. except I luckily have an inmate who sneaked in a phone I could borrow to write to you every week. youāll eat this Jollof-Write every week without the slightest idea Iām cooking from jail. back to reality, no one is going to jail. this isnāt the first time Iāll get falsely accused. The other day it was Okiki telling the world how I sneaked into her room, without her permission (https://jollofwrite.substack.com/p/1-minute-please-you-were-in-my-room) this time around Ella (the 16-year-old) accused me of killing something so precious to her. If you listened (the audio) to her statement hereās what got her triggered: āTodayās Jollof-Write is a bit bitter, but sometimes life throws us lemons and the best thing to do is to just (forget about making lemonades) suck all the meaning thatās left.ā but who would think a statement I made in what i wrote about my late uncle (https://jollofwrite.substack.com/p/hes-gne-so-what-now ) would be used by Ella (now ex-friend)āto haunt me? Like, really? anyway, Iām good and without waking up to iron bars in front of me. Weād talk soon. cheers to the weekend. have fun, avoid friends like Ella, and do imaginable things. okay?
āI feel sometimes we may be working, doing our best, and we may not be feeling our best, or we might not feel appreciated or we might start to doubt ourselvesāif itās worth it or if weāre good enoughā ā Ridah, 2021 (after 30 mins of doubting if her UI/UX skills would ever get better). Hereās the post that made her make such statement: https://jollofwrite.substack.com/p/1-minute-please-you-made-me-laugh
1 thing Iāll always do as much as I breathe is showcasing my foodie-readers who leave reviews. Itās the least I can do for patronizing my FREE Jollof-Write every week. But donāt eat alone. Share this podcast with a friend today! Thanks Okiki. Ps: the write up she talked about: https://jollofwrite.substack.com/p/job-forms-annoy-me Back to you. Let me know if you also feel the same way when you read it.
If you guessed my woman? Youāre on point šš½ If thereās anything Iām sure of doing with my life other than being with this womanāitās chasing a career in writing. To brag (I know Iām supposed to say ānot to bragā) ā Iāve picked up this writing art faster than my imagination. And now I fart (cos itās bad for my system) when I see writing of people I used to look up to. I now understand that people can be years ahead of me in xyz and still not be as great as I thought. That being said, currently, the hard part is getting people to hire me for their writing headaches. You heard the Queen in the audioāI gotta put food on the table! Counting on you: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1DEdGcybb7O4Ya0bJWYMVTBB2OEblw3bX/view?usp=drivesdk
Iām becoming really lazy about this 1 minute podcast. Iāll leave you with my fav-jollof tune right now. While I head to the market to restock for the new week. Wonāt be long. šØš½āš³āš½ And if youāre yet to join the party - itās happening here: https://jollofwrite.substack.com/welcome
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