It’s Not Normal It’s Toxic: Rid Your Life of Toxic People

Dr Heidi knows it can feel extreme to ask for help, at least it did for her. As one who has been where you are now, perhaps one of her service offerings would feel less extreme, and would be totally confidential. Let her experience be your secret weapon.https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/In this episode of "Fake and Tired," Dr. Heidi engages in a heartfelt conversation with her client Christine, who shares her transformative journey through the Freedom Me program. The discussion revolves around the emotional toll of toxic relationships and the importance of self-awareness and healing. Christine reflects on her past experiences, revealing how she felt trapped in unhealthy dynamics and the steps she took to reclaim her life. Dr. Heidi emphasizes the significance of recognizing toxic behaviors and the power of self-validation, encouraging listeners to confront their own struggles with authenticity and self-acceptance.The episode also highlights the practical tools and insights gained from the program, including the use of a flowchart to identify toxic behaviors and the importance of setting boundaries. Christine's candid reflections on her progress serve as a beacon of hope for those feeling lost in similar situations. The conversation culminates in a powerful reminder that healing is a journey, and it's essential to prioritize oneself in the process of recovery from emotional exhaustion and toxicity.Apply to be the next Exclusive Freedom…Me! Private client:https://drheidischeduleme.as.me/freedom

Take the Toxicity Profile Analysishttps://coachingwithdrheidi.base44.app/ Apply to become an exclusive “Freedom…Me!” Client:https://drheidischeduleme.as.me/schedule/dddd1d6eToday, Dr. Heidi continues to explore the dynamics of toxic relationships, particularly focusing on how individuals with toxic personalities view others as mere resources for emotional support. She introduces the concept of the 'vending machine' dynamic, where the toxic person only engages when they need something, leading to emotional abuse and control. Dr. Heidi emphasizes the importance of recognizing these patterns and taking steps to protect oneself from falling into the vending machine trap. Dr Heidi knows it can feel extreme to ask for help, at least it did for her. Maybe one of her service offerings would feel less extreme, and would be totally confidential. Let her experience be your secret weapon.https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/

Take the Toxicity Profile Analysishttps://coachingwithdrheidi.base44.app/Apply to become an exclusive “Freedom…Me!” Client:https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/freedom-me-exclusive-private-coachingIn this episode, Dr. Heidi explores the concept of the 'glass house' as a metaphor for the toxic personality's fragile self-image. She discusses the role of the 'chief editor' who manages the narrative to protect this image, the unpredictability of toxic behaviors, and the intense need to be right that drives these individuals. The conversation emphasizes understanding these dynamics to regain personal power and clarity in relationships with toxic individuals.Here is the link to Dr Heidi’s other podcast: Fak’n Tiredhttps://open.spotify.com/show/0IGMxKcGNPOPDQMrCmfs8a?si=pYah9QsXTduaaGOEUzsCTA

Take the Toxicity Profile Analysishttps://coachingwithdrheidi.base44.app/ In this conversation, Dr. Heidi explores the concept of emotional math in toxic relationships, where positive experiences are often met with negativity. She explains how the toxic individuals in these relationships operate under a scarcity mindset, leading to insecurity and competition over emotional resources. Dr. Heidi emphasizes the importance of recognizing one's own successes and not minimizing them due to the reactions of others. The discussion also highlights the predictability of toxic behaviors, allowing individuals to better navigate their relationships and own their happiness.Also check out her sister podcast, 'Fak'n Tired' where she talks all about the after affects and emotional wreckage that is left over after the toxic relationship has ended.Here is the link to Dr Heidi’s other podcast: Fak’n Tiredhttps://open.spotify.com/show/0IGMxKcGNPOPDQMrCmfs8a?si=pYah9QsXTduaaGOEUzsCTAApply to become an exclusive “Freedom…Me!” Client:https://drheidischeduleme.as.me/schedule/dddd1d6e

Take the Toxicity Profile Analysishttps://coachingwithdrheidi.base44.app/In this episode, Dr. Heidi discusses the complexities of toxic relationships, and how we often second guess ourselves when attempting to find answers. She emphasizes how important both validation and understanding are in moving forward . She shares her personal experiences and insights on recognizing toxic behaviors, the predictability of such patterns, and the necessity of observing and documenting these behaviors for personal growth. The conversation aims to empower listeners to differentiate between normal and toxic dynamics in relationships, ultimately guiding them towards healing and self-awareness.Apply to become an exclusive “Freedom…Me!” Client:https://drheidischeduleme.as.me/schedule/dddd1d6e

Here is the link to the new sister podcast, 'Fak'n Tired'.https://open.spotify.com/show/0IGMxKcGNPOPDQMrCmfs8a?si=pYah9QsXTduaaGOEUzsCTAIn this episode, Dr. Heidi discusses the unseen complexities of toxic relationships and the journey towards healing and self-acceptance. She introduces her new podcast, 'Fak'n Tired,' which aims to provide support for those challenged by life after toxic relationships. Dr. Heidi emphasizes the importance of understanding the nervous system's role in our reactions and behaviors, and encourages listeners to strive for the element of understanding the residual effects that you may be experiencing. Her wish is that you too can find independence and peace. The conversation highlights the need for sustainable support, the recognition of internal changes, and understanding things that may show up after leaving toxic environments.Take the Toxicity Profile Analysishttps://coachingwithdrheidi.base44.app/I know it can feel extreme to ask for help, at least it did for me. Maybe one of my service offerings would feel less extreme, and would be totally confidential. Let my experience be your secret weapon.https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/

Take the Toxicity Profile Analysis https://coachingwithdrheidi.base44.app/ In this conversation, I discusses the complexities of emotional abuse and its long-lasting effects on individuals. I am choosing to emphasize that there are no truly good days in emotionally abusive relationships, as the perceived good days are often manipulated by the abuser to control the victim's feelings and reactions. I explain the difference between emotions and feelings, and how emotional abusers use language and behavior to distort their victims' perceptions of their own feelings, leading to confusion and dependency.Dr Heidi knows it can feel extreme to ask for help, at least it did for her. Maybe one of her service offerings would feel less extreme, and would be totally confidential. Let her experience be your secret weapon.https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/

Listener question: My former has turning himself into the victim & it seems to be getting worse as negotiations move forward.

As I share more & more of my personal journey of healing, I see how even the everyday events, the ups and downs of just normal life have been affected by my past. Today, I am telling you a story & discussing the importance of understanding one's reactions and the impact of past experiences on current behaviors. Through an upsetting but non emergency life event, a flood in my basement, I reflect on the lessons I have learned about loss, change, and personal empowerment. The self growth is becoming so much more evident, even in the little things. The importance of making my own decisions, finding strength in adversity, & seeing the reason bad stuff sometimes happens, has given me a confident feeling of both self acceptance & inner peace.

Take the Toxicity Profile Analysishttps://coachingwithdrheidi.base44.app/In episode #243 I reminded you that YOU are the one that decides who in your life is healthy for your wellbeing and who may not be so healthy for you. In this episode I take it one more step, let's explore why it is confusing and why your mind becomes clouded when looking at your relationships. Toxic relationships are complex and because of that you seek validation as you begin recognizing unhealthy behaviors. Part of the reason you are seeking such validation is because the traits of toxic personalities become "normal" to you as you spend each day within the cycle. Let's jsut take one of the many traits that I teach today and expand on it a bit. Self-centeredness is a trait of many toxic personalities, and the impact that can have on those around them can lead to low self-worth and compromised emotional health. I encourages you to reflect on your behavior & patterns too as they may be adaptive to avoid conflict or confrontation within the relationship you are seeking validation for. Dr Heidi knows it can feel extreme to ask for help, at least it did for her. Maybe one of her service offerings would feel less extreme, and would be totally confidential. Let her experience be your secret weapon.https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/

Take the Toxicity Profile Analysis https://coachingwithdrheidi.base44.app/In this episode, I reflect on my personal journey towards peace and self-acceptance after years of navigating the long term effects of my toxic relationships. I share my experiences of anxiety and stress related to vacations and how my perspective has shifted over time. Through self-awareness and understanding of my past, I now know the importance of prioritizing myself and recognizing the value of my personal growth. My overall mission has always been to educate others on the inner workings of toxic relationships but now, as I have personally learned, it is also about understanding ourselves and how the toxic relationships may have changed us.Dr Heidi knows it can feel extreme to ask for help, at least it did for her. Maybe one of her service offerings would feel less extreme, and would be totally confidential. Let her experience be your secret weapon.https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/

Do Not Skip Over this Short Episode! Take the Toxicity Profile Analysishttps://coachingwithdrheidi.base44.app/ As you find yourself listening to my podcasts, knowing I've been where you are, be reminded of the one thing we miss in seeking validation of our situations. This is the most important thing I will teach. It is the most important thing for you to learn, grasp, accept, and act upon if you are seeking inner peace. Dr Heidi knows it can feel extreme to ask for help, at least it did for her. Maybe one of her service offerings would feel less extreme, and would be totally confidential. Let her experience be your secret weapon.https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/

Take the Toxicity Profile Analysishttps://coachingwithdrheidi.base44.app/In this conversation, I explore the complexities of emotional wiring and how it affects relationships, particularly with toxic personalities. The importance of understanding different personality types to navigate your future decisions effectively is imperative. Your relationship will remain confusing causing self doubt until you know them as well as you know yourself.Announcing the "You've Got To Be Kidding Me - Validation Session is now open to all who are seeking to find answers to why "they can't just act normal". The validation session, aims to provide clarity and insight for individuals struggling in their relationships, helping them to recognize their worth and make informed decisions about their future.Book your Validation session:https://drheidischeduleme.as.me/schedule/dddd1d6e

Take the Toxicity Profile Analysishttps://coachingwithdrheidi.base44.app/As I celebrate yet another year of life & reflect on my growth journey, I particularly want to celebrate the understanding and managing my own emotions. In the context of toxic relationships having and owning your own feelings is very difficult to do. The impact of emotional control by others was very significant in my life, even long after the toxic relationship had ended. The full understanding of emotional abuse, and the importance of taking control of one's feelings is true freedom. I cannot emphasize enough the significance of naming your feelings/emotions, setting boundaries, and recognizing your right to emotional freedom. The conversation serves as a challenge and guide for listeners to reclaim their emotional independence and navigate their feelings authentically.Dr Heidi knows it can feel extreme to ask for help, at least it did for her. Maybe one of her service offerings would feel less extreme, and would be totally confidential. Let her experience be your secret weapon.https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/

Take the Toxicity Profile Analysishttps://coachingwithdrheidi.base44.app/You have been there, you probably still are. When you get a message you "feel" the need to respond no matter what the message says. You have learned that by responding quickly, in a way they will get what they want you have been able to keep the peace better than if you delay your response or do not respond. Here are a few tips on knowing if a message even needs a response, & how to respond if it does.Dr Heidi knows it can feel extreme to ask for help, at least it did for her. Maybe one of her service offerings would feel less extreme, and would be totally confidential. Let her experience be your secret weapon.https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/

A great explanation from one of my exclusive clients.

Welcome to yet another “New Year”Take the Toxicity Profile Analysishttps://coachingwithdrheidi.base44.app/I remember when I was in an unhealthy marriage each time the "New Year" came around and 'Old Year" passed my world became smaller & my outlook became more and more hopelessAll I could see was my life. Ug! It was nothing to reflect on. All the wasted years just scrolling by and me not having a say or remembering any of it. Now I knew I should have been grateful, I should have been able to embrace my "all my blessings". I was just way too deep in it to really know why, I was frustrated because I did not, in the past or presently do ABSOLUTELY ANYTHING to change my situation, and frankly I was too exhausted to think about the mountain I would need to climb in order to make a change. MY VIEW OF THE "F...ING NEW YEAR" HAS CHANGED SIGNIFICANTLY! If you or someone you know is experiencing emotional, verbal, or mental abuse.... please share my podcast. You may change someone's life.https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/

No one wakes up one morning and thinks... "That's it, I need a coach!" Rather you wake up and immediately start solving the problems that are already surfacing and its not even 8:00am.Take the Toxicity Profile Analysishttps://coachingwithdrheidi.base44.app/I needed someone to understand and meet me for daily discussions on the problems of the day so I could come away with a solution and a skill that I could use the next time it happened. I would have NEVER thought about hiring a coach, mentor, or guide. Well even though I am a coach, I give you just what I mentioned above, answers and strategies for you to handle today's crisis, and tomorrow's crisis and understand why things are happening that you yourself do not understand. I did not realize that so many knew about this podcast but did not know about my work. Here is a little insight to what I can offer, and aside from the name, it is NOT coaching, it is listening, solving, and working with you and your unique situation. I did not choose this mission this mission chose me so "selling" does not come easy. One asked me one day, "Why are you not telling EVERYONE what you do? You have paid dearly for the gift you have so get out there and let people know you have it!" Your goals are not to life a life of peace (well maybe ultimately) your goal is to get through today. That is what I can do for you, leaving you with the ability and skills to do it too. It's about baby steps and stacking them up. It's about one fear at a time and doing it together.Dr Heidi knows it can feel extreme to ask for help, at least it did for her. Maybe one of her service offerings would feel less extreme, and would be totally confidential. Let her experience be your secret weapon.https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/

Take the Toxicity Profile Analysishttps://coachingwithdrheidi.base44.app In my search to find a gratitude practice that fit me and my personality I ran across something I did not realize had been happening. In the years I spent in a toxic relationship I was always positive, people told me so, but was I? Turns out I was using "toxic positivity" to trick myself into being grateful for very very negative things. The article that was most helpful to me in my research was written by Ashley Laderer. HOW TO MAKE A GRATITUDE PRACTICE THAT DOES NOT FEEL LIKE TOXIC POSITIVITY - Stop Looking At The Bright Side. (find article here:https://www.wondermind.com/article/gratitude-meaning/Reflecting on this, and knowing how I was altered by survival mode I have been able to see how I was tricking myself and thus altered my reality of how unhealthy the relationship truly was for me. I encourage a healthy and healing gratitude practice for everyone.Dr Heidi knows it can feel extreme to ask for help, at least it did for her. Maybe one of her service offerings would feel less extreme, and would be totally confidential. Let her experience be your secret weapon.https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/

Thanksgiving brings out the worst in our toxic partners.  Here's a helpful explanation of why they act this way, and how you can handle it better.Take the Toxicity Profile Analysishttps://coachingwithdrheidi.base44.app/Dr Heidi knows it can feel extreme to ask for help, at least it did for her. Maybe one of her service offerings would feel less extreme, and would be totally confidential. Let her experience be your secret weapon.https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/