Over The Bridge Podcast

In this episode of the Over the Bridge podcast, the hosts engage in a profound and expansive discussion with Ben Hurst, Director of Facilitation at Beyond Equality and TEDx speaker, on the complex themes surrounding masculinity and the societal constructs that shape male behaviour. The conversation explores the impact of toxic masculinity, the educational challenges in addressing these issues in schools, and the nuances of everyday sexism. The group also delves into parenthood, particularly the role of fathers in shaping healthy masculinity in their sons, and the importance of critical conversations about gender norms, emotional regulation, and accountability. Highlighting insights from the Netflix series 'Adolescence' and the necessity for systemic educational reform, the dialogue provides a comprehensive look at how different societal factors contribute to the development of young men and the collective responsibility to foster change.00:00 Welcome to Over the Bridge Podcast02:07 Special Guest: Ben Hurst04:29 The Impact of the Netflix Series 'Adolescents'06:17 Challenges and Opportunities in Addressing Masculinity09:37 The Role of Education in Addressing Masculinity19:44 The Debate on Showing 'Adolescents' in Schools29:36 Challenges in Addressing Gender Stereotypes30:32 Building Critical Thinking in Kids31:08 Complexity of Nuanced Shows for Young Audiences32:45 Tailoring Conversations for Different Groups37:14 The Role of Facilitators in Education46:08 Importance of Reflective Parenting51:48 Depiction of School Environments in Media01:03:20 Managing Conflict and Teaching Kids01:03:52 Lessons Learned from My Dad01:06:36 Respect and Role Modeling01:13:31 Everyday Sexism and Privilege01:23:35 Accountability and Forgiveness01:30:35 Closing Thoughts and Farewells

In this dynamic and interactive live podcast recording, the guys delve into alternative ways to build community in 2025. They invite two inspiring guests who share their unique experiences and perspectives on community building through sport and fitness. Tanita Blackstock, a seasoned supporter of underrepresented groups in the charity sector, talks about her involvement in the running community and empowering women. Aram Akom, founder of Black Tennis Mentors UK, elaborates on his efforts to grow the black tennis community, mentor young athletes, and create international outreach programs. The conversation covers the importance of safe spaces, the impact of the COVID-19 pandemic on fitness culture, and the role of social media in fostering connections. This episode is an eye-opener on the power of community and the different forms it can take.00:00 Introduction and Welcome00:29 Interactive Q&A Session01:28 Guest Introduction: Tanita Blackstock02:25 Guest Introduction: Aram Akom03:41 Discussion on Community Building04:08 Tanita's Perspective on Community06:53 Aram's Perspective on Community07:59 Health and Fitness in Community08:33 Running Communities and Inclusivity12:54 Creating Safe Spaces14:56 Impact of the Pandemic on Community Sports25:08 Challenges and Learnings in Community Building27:57 Brand Collaborations and Staying True to Purpose34:05 Long-term Goals and Aspirations36:25 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

In the first part of our recorded live show, we have an engaging discussion on trauma and healing with guest speaker Whitney Iles, founder of Project 507. The conversation explores the definition of trauma, the importance of being trauma-informed, and the various ways to manage and heal from traumatic experiences. Whitney shares insights from her extensive experience in youth and community development, emphasizing the significance of relationships, community, and self-care in healing. .00:00 Introduction and Welcome02:52 Whitney's Journey and Early Career05:32 Understanding Trauma09:37 Healing and Therapy Approaches16:34 Community and Generational Trauma19:40 Cultural Perspectives on Emotional Expression20:30 Therapy and Community Healing21:33 The Power of Dance and Movement22:16 Trauma-Informed Approaches23:48 Building Community Through Shared Experiences25:22 Supporting Loved Ones Through Trauma26:12 The Role of Practitioners in Trauma Work30:15 Explaining Trauma to Young People36:16 Self-Care for Practitioners39:43 Final Thoughts and Resources

In this episode of the Over the Bridge Podcast, Kalil and Baker share a special two-person discussion focusing on their careers in the public sector. Kalil elaborates on his current role as a safeguarding and attendance specialist leader of education, detailing his journey from studying law at Cambridge to finding fulfillment in teaching. Meanwhile, Baker, a foundation year doctor, shares his path to medicine, discussing the early influences, challenges, and his desire to contribute to communities in need. Both delve into the intricacies, motivations, and the impactful nature of their jobs, providing a candid look at the realities of working in the public sector. They also highlight key traits that make individuals successful in these fields.00:00 Welcome to Over the Bridge Podcast01:36 Journey into Teaching03:59 From Law to Teaching09:10 The Reality of Teaching11:09 Becoming a Doctor13:13 Balancing Personal and Professional Life17:11 Navigating Social Media as Professionals23:04 Influence of Cultural Expectations25:13 Reflecting on School Experiences27:16 Choosing Medicine29:29 The Reality of Medical School30:49 Public Sector Challenges35:45 Balancing Work and Life in Teaching42:52 Advice for Aspiring Teachers46:28 Qualities of a Good Teacher48:26 Qualities of a Good Doctor52:24 Closing Thoughts and Contact Information

In this episode of Over the Bridge Podcast, Kalil, Bilal, and Baker dive into a discussion inspired by recent personal conversations about the concept of professionalism. They explore the influence of hair, dress code, and the way they speak, especially as black and mixed-race men. The conversation covers personal anecdotes, cultural influences, and how professional norms can differ across various environments like hospitals, schools, and freelance settings. The episode also delves into the subconscious nature of code-switching and its impact on personal identity and professional interactions.00:00 Introduction and Host Introductions01:52 Hospital Dress Codes and Professionalism06:17 Teaching Profession Dress Codes09:42 Freelancing and Dress Codes15:42 Hair and Professionalism35:23 Colonialism and Hair Perceptions36:30 Media Representation and Hair Standards37:22 Generational Shifts in Hair Perception38:13 Professionalism and Natural Hair40:42 Code-Switching in Professional Settings42:05 Accent and Intonation in the Workplace43:21 Language Adaptation and Code-Switching46:29 Cultural Influences on Language56:08 Authenticity in Professional Communication59:02 Future Hair Styles and Personal Identity01:03:24 Live Event Announcement and Conclusion

In this episode of the Over the Bridge Podcast, Kwaku and the squad explore counseling and therapy. They share personal experiences with therapy, discuss the importance of relatable therapists, and tackle the stigma around mental health for Black men. They also address the different modalities of therapy and the financial challenges of accessing mental health services before addressing the question -- do we all need therapy? 00:00 Welcome and Introductions 02:54 Personal Experiences with Counseling 03:40 The Role of a Safeguarding Lead 04:29 The Impact of Trauma 06:43 Seeking Support and Counseling 11:05 Finding the Right Counselor 17:49 Challenges and Reflections on Therapy 27:11 The Role of Counselors in Modern Society 28:07 The Impact of Individualism on Community Support 30:33 The Importance of Vulnerability in Therapy 33:12 Should Everyone Access Counseling? 36:20 Understanding Different Types of Therapy 43:05 Barriers to Accessing Therapy 52:22 Final Thoughts and Personal Reflections 54:45 Closing Remarks and Upcoming Events

In this episode of the Over The Bridge Podcast, the full cast reunites in the studio to discuss Kalil's recent vasectomy. The cast discuss myths and shed light on common misconceptions with Kalil sharing his journey from preparing for the procedure to the aftermath. They detail everything from the surgical process to post-op recovery and family planning to educate listeners and emphasise the significance of informed decision-making. 00:00 Welcome to Over The Bridge Podcast 01:35 Reunion and Reflections 03:09 Fatherhood Journeys 05:21 Vasectomy Part 2: Kalil's Experience 06:04 The Procedure: Step-by-Step 11:45 Post-Procedure Reflections 12:24 Medical Insights and Advice 22:59 Considering a Vasectomy? 25:07 The Movement Against Parenthood? 27:19 A Personal Choice 28:39 Family Planning and Cultural Perspectives 30:51 The Vasectomy Procedure and Aftermath 41:24 Reflections and Reactions 52:47 Final Thoughts and Farewell

In this episode of Over The Bridge Podcast, hosts Patrick, Baker, and Bilal discuss the challenges and dynamics of maintaining extended family ties in contemporary society. They explore how generational shifts, social media, and changing social norms affect the way Millennials and Gen Z engage with their families. The conversation delves into personal anecdotes about holiday traditions, the burden of family responsibilities, and the balance between individualism and community. Through contrasting viewpoints, they debate whether today's younger generations can uphold familial bonds as robustly as previous generations. 00:00 Welcome to Over The Bridge Podcast 02:04 Baker's Busy Life as a Junior Doctor 07:08 Bilal's Car Crash Experience 12:42 Christmas Preparations and Family Traditions 14:11 Maintaining Family Ties in Modern Times 33:52 Impact of Social Media on Relationships 38:47 Generational Differences in Work Ethic 52:15 Family Traditions 01:00:49 Transitioning Family Responsibilities 01:08:03 Final Thoughts and Reflections

In this episode of Over The Bridge Podcast, Kalil opens up about his decision to get a vasectomy. The discussion covers a wide range of topics including the stigma surrounding vasectomies, men's health behaviors, emotional intelligence, and responsibility in family planning. The hosts also explore the implications of hormonal contraception for men, the biological and social pressures on male virility, and the societal expectations that contribute to men's reluctance to prioritize their reproductive health. Throughout the episode, Kalil shares his personal journey and thoughts on taking a proactive and responsible approach to family planning. 00:00 Introduction and Host Greetings 01:14 Health Updates and COVID Experiences 04:11 Family Planning Discussion 04:56 Vasectomy: Personal Decision and Procedure 18:07 Men's Health and Responsibility 32:11 Taking Ownership of Decisions 32:50 Understanding Post-Procedure Care 35:05 Addressing Common Misconceptions 37:20 Reversibility and Sperm Freezing 40:41 Male Contraception Options 57:45 Emotional Intelligence and Parenting 01:05:18 Wrapping Up and Final Thoughts

In this episode of Over The Bridge Podcast, Patrick is joined by Kalil and Baker to discuss the responsibilities that come with podcasting. They touch on the negative perception of black male podcasts, examining the influence and impact these platforms can have on their communities. They reflect on their personal motivations for being part of the podcast and how they navigate balancing authenticity with the scrutiny of a public platform. The conversation delves into the digital representation of self and the ethical considerations of the content they produce. 00:00 Introduction and Greetings 00:52 Catch-Up with Baker and Khalil 02:19 Baker's Journey from Medical School to Graduation 06:14 Reflecting on the Cambridge Experience 10:36 The Responsibility of Podcasting 11:55 Challenges and Perceptions of Black Male Podcasters 17:26 The Impact of Podcast Conversations on Community 25:17 Balancing Content and Responsibility 31:19 Navigating the Podcasting Space for Growth 32:58 Navigating Controversy in the Public Eye 36:16 The Impact of Fame and Missteps 38:38 The Purpose and Responsibility of Podcasting 43:11 Personal Reflections and Authenticity 52:20 Balancing Professionalism and Personal Opinions 01:03:31 The Digital Self and Freedom of Speech 01:05:20 Concluding Thoughts and Listener Engagement

In this episode of the Over The Bridge Podcast, hosts Bilal, Patrick, and guest Kalil reconnect to discuss various aspects of male friendships. They delve into the dynamics of their relationships, reflecting on how life changes have affected their bonds. The conversation covers topics such as the importance of intentionality in maintaining friendships, the challenges of making new friends as men get older, and the need for accountability and honesty. The episode also highlights personal anecdotes, revealing how their friendships have evolved over time and ends on a note of appreciation, sharing what they admire about each other. 00:00 Introduction and Greetings 00:51 Catch-Up with Patrick 02:09 Welcoming Khalil 02:26 Fatherhood Updates 03:59 The Nature of Male Friendships 07:09 Challenges of Making New Friends 13:16 Intentional Friendships in Adulthood 27:24 Navigating Male Friendships 27:43 Drifting Apart Naturally 29:10 Accountability in Friendships 30:21 Calling Out Unacceptable Behavior 34:45 Superficial vs. Deep Friendships 36:22 The Importance of Vulnerability 45:36 Expressing Pride and Gratitude 56:34 Concluding Thoughts on Male Friendships

In this episode of the Over The Bridge podcast, hosts Bilal, Kwaku, and Patrick dive into the complex topic of Black British identity. They discuss personal experiences, generational changes, cultural expressions, and the broader factors shaping what it means to be Black and British today. The conversation spans shared cultural markers like music, food, and common experiences, while also touching on how the British environment—including issues like gentrification and globalization—impacts this evolving identity. The episode concludes with reflections on whether being Black British is something to be proud of and the future of Black British ethnicity. 00:00 Podcast Introduction and Hosts Reunion 00:49 Travel Stories and Family Updates 01:56 Funeral Traditions and Cultural Differences 06:28 New Beginnings: Welcoming a New Baby 07:54 Parenting Challenges and Joys 13:23 The Concept of Black British Identity 41:29 Exploring Black British Identity 43:00 The Impact of Environment on Identity 47:49 Cultural Struggles and Middle-Class Blackness 51:06 Black Britishness in Media 59:29 The Future of Black British Culture 01:07:49 Pride in Black British Identity 01:11:11 Mixed Race Identity and Final Thoughts

In this episode of the Over the Bridge Podcast, Bilal and Patrick engage in a candid discussion about personal experiences, cultural identities, and childhood memories. Patrick, back from his travels, shares his experiences about visiting Thailand and reconnecting with a long-time friend. The conversation covers the influence of West Indian culture in the UK, the importance of family connections, and the dynamics of transitioning these familial traditions to future generations. They also explore questions about their younger selves, career aspirations, and personal interests, including Patrick's passion for music and his decision to join an orchestra. 00:00 Welcome Back to the Podcast 00:42 Catching Up with Patrick 01:56 Patrick's Thailand Adventures 04:09 Travel Stories and Reflections 14:16 Q&A 30:45 Active Weekends and Forest Walks 31:59 Gaming and Dining Adventures 33:01 Family Time and Allotment Days 33:58 Family's Journey to London 37:49 Grandparents' Stories and Legacy 42:02 Cultural Identity and Childhood Memories 01:01:00 Music and Personal Interests 01:05:57 Wrapping Up and Future Plans

It's Black History Month in the UK and in this week we re-release a throwback episode from the 2018 archives where we discuss - do we need a Black History Month?

In this special episode of the Over the Bridge Podcast, Thomas Swift joins us to discuss lessons learned from the past and valuable advice for the future. Covering experiences from dating to professional achievements and the importance of community, this heartfelt conversation dives deep into life advice for both younger and older selves. We also touch on themes of vulnerability, resilience, and the significance of having a supportive network. Plus, get a peek into the hosts' personal lives, including recent milestones and celebrations. Tune in for an enriching dialogue filled with insights and reflections. 00:00 Introduction and Special Guest Announcement 01:00 Catching Up with Thomas Swift 01:40 Life Updates and Reflections 03:03 The Importance of Community 08:00 Navigating the Modern World 20:27 Advice to Younger and Future Selves 33:37 The Importance of Ownership and Equity 35:12 Balancing Enjoyment and Monetization 37:09 Generational Wealth and Legacy 38:17 Lessons from Parents 42:18 Navigating Political and Economic Challenges 45:14 The Power of Words and Community 50:24 Consistency and Accountability 58:31 The Value of Rest and Time Management 01:02:27 Final Reflections and Parting Words

In this episode of the Over the Bridge Podcast, hosts Bilal and Kwaku share intimate discussions on their personal journeys with religion and spirituality. They examine the impact of major life events, like the birth of a child, on their religious beliefs and the challenges of practicing faith amidst cultural and familial expectations. Their conversation also explores the complexities of organized religion, the inner struggle of self-perception, and the evolving role of religion in modern society. The episode highlights pivotal experiences that renewed their faith and provides thoughtful insights into exploring one's spiritual longings. 00:26 Podcast Introduction and Hosts 01:28 Kwaku's Life Update and Baby News 07:10 Reflections on Religion and Spirituality 08:06 Kwaku's Religious Journey 13:00 Bilal's Religious Journey 15:52 Exploring Different Worldviews 27:22 Revisiting Islam and Personal Reflections 37:18 Community and Identity in Religion 50:54 Revealing My True Name 51:17 A Complex Religious Background 52:23 Navigating Identity and Faith 53:25 Embracing My Name and Heritage 54:16 Christian Upbringing and Youth Leadership 59:28 Questioning Faith at Cambridge 01:00:27 Drifting Away from Religion 01:07:24 A Spiritual Awakening 01:17:51 The Role of Religion in Modern Life 01:30:56 Final Thoughts and Reflections

In this episode, Bilal and Kwaku have an open and candid discussion about men's healthcare. They delve into their personal experiences with the healthcare system, discussing startling statistics about men's reluctance to seek medical help and the stigmas attached. The conversation covers both physical and mental health, touching on societal norms and the importance of being proactive about health. They also explore the gender disparities in healthcare and the impact of upbringing and socioeconomic factors on health decisions. 00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview 00:47 Personal Healthcare Experiences 01:20 Statistics on Men's Healthcare Avoidance 02:03 Anecdotes and Personal Stories 03:16 Reluctance to Seek Medical Help 06:28 Epilepsy Diagnosis Journey 14:41 Prostate Health and Stigma 21:09 Importance of Regular Checkups 25:19 Surgery and Hair Loss 26:05 Convenience in Healthcare 26:55 The Male Pill Debate 27:18 Gender Differences in Healthcare 29:39 Chronic Illness and Stress 30:35 Socioeconomic Factors in Health 35:48 Personal Experiences with Healthcare 37:45 Mental Health vs Physical Health 46:04 Parenting and Healthcare Responsibilities 49:53 Conclusion and Community Engagement Get in touch: Email: otbpodcastuk@gmail.com Twitter: @otbpodcastuk Instagram: @otbpodcastuk

In this episode, Bilal, Patrick and Kwaku dive deep into the question, 'What does a successful life look like?' They discuss their personal experiences and perspectives on success, contentment, and the ever-changing priorities in life. From navigating professional and family life to understanding self-worth and combating the pressures of social media, this episode offers a thoughtful and introspective exploration of what it means to live a fulfilling life today. Tune in for a conversation that promises to spark thought and inspire you to reflect on your own definitions of success. 00:00 Introduction and Greetings 00:35 Discussing the Concept of a Successful Life 01:13 Reflecting on Personal Experiences and Success 08:56 The Role of Validation in Success 13:26 Defining Success and Contentment 19:06 Family and Prioritizing Success 23:12 Balancing Family and Career 27:13 Exploring the Concept of Success 28:14 Living Life with a Theme 28:43 Creative Expression and Intentional Living 34:51 Challenges and Success 38:23 The Digital Self vs. The Real Self 41:44 Dealing with Comparison and Contentment 50:47 Final Thoughts and Reflections Get in touch: Email: otbpodcastuk@gmail.com Twitter: @otbpodcastuk Instagram: @otbpodcastuk

In this episode Bilal, Kwaku, and Patrick delve deep into the subject of community. The conversation kicks off with some light-hearted introductions and personal stories, but quickly evolves into a profound discussion on what it truly means to belong to a community. If you've ever felt the pang of loneliness in a bustling city or wondered how you could make a more significant impact in your local community, this episode offers invaluable insights and practical advice. Join us for a rich dialogue that might just inspire you to take action in your community. Tune in now and join the conversation! 00:00 Introduction and Greetings 01:01 Current Events and Personal Reflections 04:27 Media Influence and Public Awareness 11:32 Community and Safety Concerns 12:03 Defining Community 13:32 Personal Experiences of Community 18:03 Challenges and Changes in Modern Community 33:13 The Decline of Third Spaces 34:11 Impact of the Pandemic on Social Spaces 34:24 Isolation and Echo Chambers 36:08 The Importance of Local Engagement 39:46 Intergenerational Connections 42:10 Challenges and Efforts in Community Building 47:14 Personal Experiences with Community 57:38 The Role of Digital and Physical Communities 01:00:03 Encouragement to Support Local Communities 01:06:00 Reflecting on the Meaning of Community Get in touch: Email: otbpodcastuk@gmail.com Twitter: @otbpodcastuk Instagram: @otbpodcastuk

In this thought-provoking episode, Bilal, Patrick and Kwaku are joined by special guest Busayo Twins, a passionate political commentator, as they dive deep into the crucial issues facing the UK today. From the recent rise in far-right activity to the underlying socio-political dynamics, they leave no stone unturned. The conversation spans across various topics including the impact of misinformation on social media, the role of capitalism in societal unrest, and the interconnectedness of our global struggles. Tune in for an engaging discussion filled with sharp insights and powerful calls to action. 00:00 Introduction and Greetings 00:47 Book Discussions and Personal Updates 02:48 Introducing the Guest: Busayo Twins 05:02 Current Sociopolitical Climate in the UK 06:32 Personal Experiences and Reflections on Racism 11:56 The Rise of the Far Right 24:05 Capitalism and Class Struggles 38:28 Challenges in Engaging Disenfranchised Communities 39:29 Personal Experiences with Racism 40:37 The Role of Allies in Social Justice 41:10 Class Struggles and Capitalism 46:40 Media's Role in Scapegoating 54:53 Zionism and Global Politics 01:01:55 Political Activism and Community Responsibility 01:13:11 Final Thoughts and Call to Action Get in touch: Email: otbpodcastuk@gmail.com Twitter: @otbpodcastuk Instagram: @otbpodcastuk