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How to Get the Girl: By the Ask Women Podcast
How to Get the Girl: By the Ask Women Podcast
Author: Marni Kinrys & Kristen Carney
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What do a female comic & banter coach and a professional wing girl have in common? The realistically raw and hilarious perspectives on what women ACTUALLY want in a man. Prepare to be offended and awed as Kristen Carney & Marni Kinrys take you through the uncensored and often ridiculous mind of a woman to help you better understand, appreciate, and avoid getting punched by the next girl you come across.
Check out our other dating tools and advice: https://www.winggirlmethod.com and https://www.kristenandchilldating.com
Check out our other dating tools and advice: https://www.winggirlmethod.com and https://www.kristenandchilldating.com
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Dun dun dunnnn. The dreaded friend zone. We have all landed there and it can feel like the Bermuda Triangle of dating. Once you are in it feels nearly impossible to get out.In this throwback episode we break down why the friend zone happens in the first place what mistakes keep you stuck there and what actually shifts attraction so a woman starts seeing you differently. You will learn how to change the dynamic without awkward conversations pressure or gimmicks.If you have ever been told you are such a great guy but felt invisible romantically this episode will help you understand what is really going on and how to finally escape the friend zone for good.>>> Become the most magnetic, witty and attractive version of yourself. Apply for Kristen's transformative coaching here: kristenandchilldating.com/coaching>>> Get A FREE copy of Marni's Flirting Cheatsheet Here: winggirlmethod.com/yousoflirty
Most dating advice is generic outdated and honestly pretty cringey. In this episode Marni sits down with Dr Jennifer Berman New York Times bestselling author and renowned urologist to have an honest conversation about attraction emotional connection and what actually turns women on.They talk about why desire starts in the mind how emotional safety impacts sexual chemistry and what men often misunderstand when it comes to intimacy. This episode also dives into real world topics like sexual confidence aging communication sexual compatibility menopause perimenopause and the insecurities both men and women experience as they get older.If you want real insight into how women think feel and experience attraction without gimmicks or surface level advice this episode will give you a deeper more honest perspective.>>> Become the most magnetic, witty and attractive version of yourself. Apply for Kristen's transformative coaching here: kristenandchilldating.com/coaching>>> Get A FREE copy of Marni's Flirting Cheatsheet Here: winggirlmethod.com/yousoflirty
This episode is a throwback to one of our most powerful conversations on self esteem and it is just as relevant today as ever.Building real self esteem is not something most people are taught how to do. It feels big overwhelming and confusing which is exactly why so many people struggle with it and never fix it. In this episode we break down where self esteem actually comes from and how to start building it in a practical sustainable way.We are joined by a guest who knows a thing or two about developing confidence from the inside out both mentally and physically.Guest: Matt Reynolds, Owner of Barbell LogicBarbell-Logic.comCheck out Tiege Hanley for simple effective skincare programs designed specifically for menhttp://www.tiege.com/askwomen>>> Become the most magnetic, witty and attractive version of yourself. Apply for Kristen's transformative coaching here: kristenandchilldating.com/coaching>>> Get A FREE copy of Marni's Flirting Cheatsheet Here: winggirlmethod.com/yousoflirty
Most men think attraction is built by being polite, respectful, and safe.But that’s exactly why so many women feel nothing, even when the guy checks all the boxes.In this episode, Marni breaks down the biggest misunderstanding men have about attraction with Kurt who is a listener of the podcast. Why logic, effort, and approval seeking quietly kill chemistry before it ever starts. You’ll learn the difference between emotional attraction and emotional safety, why asking permission drains polarity, and how men accidentally skip the flirting phase without realizing it.If you’ve ever heard “You’re a great guy, I just don’t feel the spark,” this episode explains what actually went wrong and how to stop being invisible without becoming arrogant, manipulative, or fake.This is about emotional leadership, polarity, and creating attraction on purpose.>>> Become the most magnetic, witty and attractive version of yourself. Apply for Kristen's transformative coaching here: kristenandchilldating.com/coaching>>> Get A FREE copy of Marni's Flirting Cheatsheet Here: winggirlmethod.com/yousoflirty
Approaching women in public is rarer than ever, which means if you can do it well, you instantly stand out.In this episode, Marni and Kristen break down the real “first impression” stuff that actually matters: your face, your eyes, your smile, your energy, and your tonality. You’ll learn how to fix resting “don’t talk to me” face, how to use subtle push-pull with expressions, and a simple way to practice on camera so women feel safe, curious, and open around you.Then dating coach Patrick James joins to share how to create attraction fast without overthinking your lines. Why being direct works better than “interview questions,” how to start conversations that feel natural, and the secret move that makes you stand out in under a minute: playful rapport breaks.>>> Want Patrick’s exact playbook? Grab his book 107 Proven Ways to Get the Girl here: https://www.howtogetthegirlnow.com/>>> Become the most magnetic, witty and attractive version of yourself. Apply for Kristen's transformative coaching here: kristenandchilldating.com/coaching>>> Get A FREE copy of Marni's Flirting Cheatsheet Here: winggirlmethod.com/yousoflirty
We are throwing it back to a classic conversation about what it really means to be an alpha man today. Our guest Kevin Aillaud breaks down the qualities that make a man grounded, confident, and in charge of his own life. Kevin lives what he teaches, and you can hear that in every moment of this episode. A true must listen.>>> Become the most magnetic, witty and attractive version of yourself. Apply for Kristen's transformative coaching here: kristenandchilldating.com/coaching>>> Get A FREE copy of Marni's Flirting Cheatsheet Here: winggirlmethod.com/yousoflirty
Enjoy this special throwback episode where Marni sits down with seduction coach Vince Kelvin to talk about dating, attraction, confidence, and how men can naturally get better with women. Vince breaks down actionable insights, useful techniques, and surprising truths about modern dating. Listen now and learn something new.>>> Become the most magnetic, witty and attractive version of yourself. Apply for Kristen's transformative coaching here: kristenandchilldating.com/coaching>>> Get A FREE copy of Marni's Flirting Cheatsheet Here: winggirlmethod.com/yousoflirty
Today’s throwback episode of the Ask Women Podcast brings on a single mother who pulls zero punches when it comes to dating past 40. She’s direct, she’s no-BS, and she’s not here to sugarcoat anything for your ego — she’s here to tell you exactly how women in her position actually think, choose, and filter men. If you’ve ever wondered what dating looks like through the eyes of a woman balancing kids, time, self-worth, and a second act — this is the episode you listen to. Not feel-good fluff… actionable truth. >>> Become the most magnetic, witty and attractive version of yourself. Apply for Kristen's transformative coaching here: kristenandchilldating.com/coaching>>> Get A FREE copy of Marni's Flirting Cheatsheet Here: winggirlmethod.com/yousoflirty
We’re taking it way back to a classic 2016 episode! “The Relationship Doctor” himself, Bob Grant, calls in to share timeless insights on attraction, connection, and what makes relationships actually work.Bob’s a renowned dating expert and author of multiple best-selling relationship books — and in this vintage “How to Get the Girl” episode, he drops the kind of grounded, no-nonsense wisdom that never goes out of style. Whether you’re single, dating, or trying to make sense of modern love, this throwback is packed with advice that still holds up today.So grab your stethoscope and listen in as we diagnose what women really want — with The Relationship Doctor in the house. >>> Become the most magnetic, witty and attractive version of yourself. Apply for Kristen's transformative coaching here: kristenandchilldating.com/coaching>>> Get A FREE copy of Marni's Flirting Cheatsheet Here: winggirlmethod.com/yousoflirty
This week, we’re going primal 🧠🔥 Author and evolutionary psychology expert Tim Ash joins us to talk about his new book Primal Dating, a brutally honest guide to understanding the instincts that secretly drive attraction, love, and relationships.We dig into the psychology beneath the surface: what’s really motivating men and women, why certain dating behaviors feel “automatic,” and how our evolutionary wiring still plays out in the modern world of apps, texting, and situationships.If you’ve ever wondered why you (or your dates) do the things you do—even when it doesn’t make logical sense—this episode is your roadmap to decoding human nature in dating.>>> Become the most magnetic, witty and attractive version of yourself. Apply for Kristen's transformative coaching here: kristenandchilldating.com/coaching>>> Get A FREE copy of Marni's Flirting Cheatsheet Here: winggirlmethod.com/yousoflirty
Most men think women already know how to access that deeply sensual, turned-on version of themselves, but the truth is, a lot of women have never actually been guided into their own bodies before. They’re in their heads, second-guessing, performing, or trying to “do it right”… instead of actually feeling anything.In this episode, we’re joined by Amy Rowan from The Suburban Intimacy Project to break down:Why so many women don’t even know what they’re supposed to feel during intimacyThe hidden reasons women shut down or go numb in the bedroomWhat men can do before anything physical ever happens to help her open upHow safety and attunement create way more sexual intensity than “technique”How to help a woman get out of performance-mode and into real arousalThis isn’t about pressure or “getting her to do more.”It’s about helping her drop from her mind into her body - which is where her actual sexuality lives.If you want the kind of connection that turns into real passion, this conversation is the roadmap.>>> Become the most magnetic, witty and attractive version of yourself. Apply for Kristen's transformative coaching here: kristenandchilldating.com/coaching>>> Get A FREE copy of Marni's Flirting Cheatsheet Here: winggirlmethod.com/yousoflirty
We’re throwing it back to one of our most powerful Ask Women episodes — where we explore why being happy isn’t just good for your soul, it’s magnetic. Studies show that the happier you are, the more attractive you become to the opposite sex. That’s why we brought on happiness coach Robert Mack, a man who had it all - looks, success, intelligence, a great family — but still felt miserable inside.Robert opens up about how he completely turned his life around and discovered that true happiness comes from within, not from validation, success, or relationships. Now he teaches thousands of people how to do the same — and how being genuinely happy can transform your confidence, energy, and dating life.Get ready to learn how to attract from abundance, not desperation - and why joy might just be your best pickup strategy yet.>>> Become the most magnetic, witty and attractive version of yourself. Apply for Kristen's transformative coaching here: kristenandchilldating.com/coaching>>> Get A FREE copy of Marni's Flirting Cheatsheet Here: winggirlmethod.com/yousoflirty
We’re throwing it back to the Ask Women days! Comedian Nick Guerra joins Marni and Kristen for a classic “Over Analyze This” episode where we dive into listener letters and answer your biggest dating questions. From how to handle jealousy to dealing with flakers and c*ck blockers, nothing’s off limits. We also dive into our classic segment, Help Another Brother Out, where we give one listener some direct, no-BS advice to get his dating life back on track.Tune in for some laughs, some raw truths, and a little nostalgic chaos from the Ask Women archives — now under the new How to Get the Girl banner.>>> Become the most magnetic, witty and attractive version of yourself. Apply for Kristen's transformative coaching here: kristenandchilldating.com/coaching>>> Get A FREE copy of Marni's Flirting Cheatsheet Here: winggirlmethod.com/yousoflirty
On this week’s How to Get the Girl, we’re joined by Adam Woolard — husband to Bachelorette star Hannah Brown, VP of Business Development at Joi+Blokes, and a guy who knows firsthand what it’s like to feel intimidated by a woman.We dive into two huge areas that can make or break your dating life: • Confidence around women you actually like — why guys hold back, don’t fully express themselves, and how to flip that script so women feel more attraction. • Your health and dating success — how small diet changes and preventive care can boost testosterone, sharpen focus, increase energy, and make you more magnetic.Adam shares his own experience and expertise to show you how much your inner game and your health work hand in hand to make you more attractive.This episode is packed with practical insight you can use right away. Keep listening, because this conversation might be the one that finally changes how women see you.>>> Become the most magnetic, witty and attractive version of yourself. Apply for Kristen's transformative coaching here: kristenandchilldating.com/coaching>>> Get A FREE copy of Marni's Flirting Cheatsheet Here: winggirlmethod.com/yousoflirty
Moving to a new city can feel like hitting the reset button—new streets to explore, new friends to make, and a whole new dating scene to figure out. In this throwback episode (originally aired 6.15.16, Ep. 67), Marni and Kristen talk with east-coast transplant PJ about how to rebuild your social life, boost your confidence, and navigate dating when you’re starting from scratch.We also dive into:The challenges of dating in a brand-new cityHow to create your own social circle from the ground upBuilding confidence and finding comfort in unfamiliar places>>> Become the most magnetic, witty and attractive version of yourself. Apply for Kristen's transformative coaching here: kristenandchilldating.com/coaching>>> Get A FREE copy of Marni's Flirting Cheatsheet Here: winggirlmethod.com/yousoflirty
This week, we’re bringing you a throwback episode that’s just as valuable today as when it first aired. We sat down with Abby — a hot, young, single twenty-something — to get the unfiltered inside scoop on what dating in your 20s is really like. From the shifts COVID created in the dating landscape to what’s stayed exactly the same, Abby pulls back the curtain on what works, what fails, and how to approach with confidence. She even shares what makes her (and her friends) take notice when a guy walks in — spoiler: a killer smile still wins the day.>>>Join Kristen along with the founder of Limitless Brave for an in-person workshop in LA September 27th and 28th. >>>SEATS ARE LIMITED! Get them here:https://www.kristenandchilldating.com/day1https://www.kristenandchilldating.com/day2>>> Get A FREE copy of Marni's Flirting Cheatsheet Here: winggirlmethod.com/yousoflirty
In this bonus episode of How to Get the Girl, Kristen sits down with Dave Stultz from Limitless Brave to talk about something that can completely shift your dating life: the power of working with a coach in person.We break down why nothing compares to the energy of being in the room, where body language, presence, and confidence can be seen, felt, and fine-tuned in real time. You’ll hear why workshops create an environment where skills stick faster, nerves get rewired into confidence, and accountability goes through the roof.And here’s the big news: Dave and Kristen are hosting a live in-person workshop in Los Angeles this weekend, September 27th & 28th. If you’ve ever considered coaching, this is the chance you don’t want to miss. It would behoove you in more ways than one to be there because there’s simply nothing like learning face-to-face.Seats for the intensive are very limited so if you'd like to be part of it, sign up below ASAP!>>> To join the Intensive, sign up HERE >>> To join for the Day 1 Seminar, up here HERE
This episode is anything but a lecture. In fact, we kick things off with a totally candid 10-minute conversation between me, Kristen, and our guest Dr. Kayte about our own porn patterns - genres, likes, dislikes - proving that yes, we ALL watch porn.From there, Dr. Kayte breaks down what’s actually healthy versus harmful when it comes to porn, plus what’s real and what’s pure camera trickery that should never, ever be tried in real life.We also dive into Dr. Kayte’s own dating life as a woman in her mid-30s, where she shares surprising insecurities that so many women in that stage of life can relate to. Even if you’re a woman listening, you’re going to love this one.In this episode, we also overanalyze and unpack:The best questions to ask on dates to instantly put your date at easeWhat to avoid saying to women when you’re on a dateHow excessive porn can absolutely kill your real-life sex lifeThe traits women secretly find attractive (that will probably surprise you)...and so much more.>>>Join Kristen along with the founder of Limitless Brave for an in-person workshop in LA September 27th and 28th. >>>SEATS ARE LIMITED! Get them here:https://www.kristenandchilldating.com/day1https://www.kristenandchilldating.com/day2>>> Become the most magnetic, witty and attractive version of yourself. Apply for Kristen's transformative coaching here: kristenandchilldating.com/coaching>>> Get A FREE copy of Marni's Flirting Cheatsheet Here: winggirlmethod.com/yousoflirty
Dating at 49 isn’t about playing games — it’s about knowing who you are, what you want, and not being afraid to say it out loud. On this episode of How to Get the Girl, we sit down with Rachel Birch, host of the award-winning podcast Love Before 100.Freshly divorced and unapologetically back in the dating scene, Rachel opens up about what she’s looking for, what turns her on, and the mindset of a sophisticated, strong woman who’s not settling for less. We dive into attraction, desire, confidence, and the little things that make a big difference when dating a woman who truly knows herself.If you’ve ever wanted a window into the mind of an empowered, grown-up woman navigating modern dating — this conversation is it.>>>Join Kristen along with the founder of Limitless Brave for an in-person workshop in Los Angeles September 27th and 28th. >>>SEATS ARE LIMITED! Get them here:https://www.kristenandchilldating.com/day1https://www.kristenandchilldating.com/day2>>> Become the most magnetic, witty and attractive version of yourself. Apply for Kristen's transformative coaching here: kristenandchilldating.com/coaching>>> Get A FREE copy of Marni's Flirting Cheatsheet Here: winggirlmethod.com/yousoflirty
When it comes to men’s health, your penis might be saying more than you think. On this episode of How to Get the Girl, we sit down with Dr. Elliot Justin — physician, innovator, and creator of the world’s first smart penis ring — to talk about not erectile dysfunction, but erectile fitness.Dr. Justin shares why sexual health is more than performance — it’s a vital indicator of your overall well-being. We dig into the critical need for data-driven solutions in medicine, how technology is changing the game for men’s health, and why paying attention to your erections could literally save your life.He also opens up about keeping intimacy alive with his wife of decades — proving that long-term relationships don’t have to mean long-term boredom in the bedroom.If you’ve ever wondered what your erections reveal about your health (and your love life), this is a conversation you don’t want to miss.>>>Join Kristen for an in-person workshop in Los Angeles September 27th and 28th! >>>SEATS ARE LIMITED! Get them here:https://www.kristenandchilldating.com/day1https://www.kristenandchilldating.com/day2>>> Become the most magnetic, witty and attractive version of yourself. Apply for Kristen's transformative coaching here: kristenandchilldating.com/coaching>>> Get A FREE copy of Marni's Flirting Cheatsheet Here: winggirlmethod.com/yousoflirty







what's up with the background music ?
magical tool? SERIOUSLY? ..i like the idea of NOT attach self to result n just do the right thing.
41:10 Great way to end a date and plan for the future
Poughkeepsie? Man, he's a train ride away. It ain't like he's going to Albany, Syracuse or Buffalo.
I've noticed that any information, data, services, or non-physical items involving relationships that have to be purchased to "work" tend to be filled with Oil of Serpentes.
Love you girls. Have a good vacation! ❤️❤️
I love this show. Marni is an amazing host. She is HIGHLY skilled at interviewing guests! Also, it is beautifully unique how Marni and Kristen can feed off one another. These two together create a fun, witty, and creative atmosphere that keeps you coming back. If women are a part of your life, you should absolutely check out this show!
Ep 298 wow, I've known this my whole life, but this particular podcast confirmed to me that I'm not loony, and that some women have serious issues with recieving genuine love thank you
this guy is clearly a soy boy beta cuck. terrible guest, had to make it stop when he continued speaking.
NLP is a pseudoscience and has no proper evidence to back it up. It is a short term placebo and a sham: https://rationalwiki.org/wiki/Neurolinguistic_programming
Ugh....
Great episode.
This show has totally gone down hill. ugh
The blogger sounds like he's part of the shy boy movement which is the vibe I'm getting. Not a good look.
What do women want? Is it what do women TRULY want or is it what society says what women SHOULD want?
So women fall in love with the behavior of Prince Charming instead of the actual man. That's how women get played. Y'all just spent about an hour saying it
This whole episode shows why both men and women cannot be their real aunthentic selves. I'm single because I'm transperant and very honest which is exposing a lot of women who fall in love with facades and not actual human beings
Disappointed that you didnt tweet a response. you're being part of the problem.
I think these types of issues really depend on the individual... Also, for Damien's sake, it seems he may have been getting frustrating because I believe he was trying to say, in a very confusing and ineffective way, that he has tried the suggestions you were mentioning and that they don't work. Personally, I'm a little worried for him because it felt like he couldn't really put together a complete thought or idea at all and it was difficult understanding what his thought processes were. it seems like his wife was not willing to play ball when he was communication his needs and that Damien is having a hard time defining and protecting his boundaries with her. If he communicated what he needs to her and they are ignored, "It's obvious you are very upset sweetheart and I am feeling ignored and unimportant as well and it is not ok for us to feel this way..." what he is doing is masking and numbing his anger and other emotions by using a form of rage with his over-the-top sarcasm towards y
Kristen seems so vile. She seems really angry, needy, demanding, and insecure. She like what can men do for me. It like she thinks she is the centre of the universe and that men owe her everything. I wouldn't date her if she was the last female on earth. Don't listen to her advice guys it's nonsense. If you meet a girl like her than run the other way.