The Stella Rae Podcast

When you start investing in yourself, working on your appearance, building confidence, and really stepping into your glow-up era, you might notice that people's behavior toward you starts to change. And sometimes… things get WEIRD.In this episode of The Stella Rae Podcast, we're getting into pretty privilege, jealousy, projection, dating dynamics, and the unexpected social experiences that can come with becoming more confident and comfortable in yourself.We're talking about why people sometimes feel threatened by your growth, how insecurity can show up in friendships and romantic relationships, the pressure to be the “baddest in the room,” and why I think the real glow-up is about so much more than how you look.In this episode:- Pretty privilege and the reality of being conventionally attractive- Why people can project their insecurities onto you when you start glowing up- Female friendships, jealousy, and feeling like you can't share your wins- Dating dynamics and why insecure partners may try to dim your light- The “baddest in the room” mentality and why comparing yourself is a losing game- Building confidence, social skills, and getting out of your comfort zone- Why manners, class, and making people feel seen matter just as much as appearance- Knowing when to walk away from people who don't celebrate you- Self-reflection: are you showing up for others the way you want them to show up for you?My biggest takeaway? Invest in yourself, but don't make your entire identity about being better than someone else. Build a life and a sense of confidence that don't depend on comparison or outside validation.I'd love to hear your thoughts on this one!Shop Prozis: http://prozis.com/1LMJG- Use code STELLA10 for 10% off- Black Friday sale throughout November, with rotating offers and discounts up to 50%Thanks for listening and being here! 🤍🌟Follow me! Instagram: http://instagram.com/stellaraepodcastTikTok: http://tiktok.com/@thestellaraepodcast🌱 Apply for 1:1 Health & Wellness Coaching! https://forms.gle/s3zprpWj8VE5Bkvm8🛍️ Shop my Poshmark: https://poshmark.com/closet/realstellarae📚My Goodreads: https://www.goodreads.com/user/show/10449999-stella-rae▶️ Subscribe to my main channel!http://youtube.com/@StellaRae🌿Get $1000 off the mindbodygreen NBHWC acredited Health & Wellness Coaching program I did with promo code STELLACOACHING https://www.shareasale.com/u.cfm?d=1281553&m=96296&u=1030263💬Join my discord server to chat with the community!! https://discord.gg/3nsk8vvf🛒My Amazon storefront! all my fav products listed in one place:https://www.amazon.com/shop/stellarae💪 Get 10% off PROZIS fitness & health supplements & workout clothes & accessories with code STELLARAE10 http://prozis.com/1LMJG 💻For business & PR opportunities, please email: [email protected]: Some affiliate links may be used. All opinions are my own.00:00 When you're a baddie, things get weird01:02 Pretty privilege and the glow-up conversation02:03 Why investing in yourself can trigger people04:02 Dating, aging, and the myth that women lose their value06:00 When men feel threatened by your confidence07:00 Being objectified vs. being genuinely appreciated08:30 The weird dynamics of attention and attraction10:00 When people want access to you but don't respect you12:00 Why being seen as attractive doesn't mean being seen as a person13:00 Female jealousy and not feeling celebrated14:14 Choosing secure friends and relationships15:03 The problem with needing to be the baddest in the room16:13 Building social confidence and getting out of your comfort zone17:02 Stop comparing yourself to other women18:00 Don't let insecure people dim your light19:00 Manners, class, and making people feel seen20:28 Process Black Friday sale + favorites21:13 The real glow-up: confidence, self-respect & self-reflection

Have you ever gone through a season of life where you feel like you've completely lost yourself? Maybe it was a toxic relationship, a major life transition, burnout, or just a period where you feel disconnected from the person you used to be.In this episode, we're talking about how to find yourself again, rebuild your confidence, and start creating a life that actually feels like YOURS.After moving to New York, navigating difficult relationships, leaving situations that no longer served me, and spending a lot of time figuring out who I wanted to become, I've learned that finding yourself again isn't necessarily about becoming a completely different person. Sometimes it's about getting back to your own needs, building a life outside of other people, and slowly learning to trust yourself again.**CHAPTERS**00:00 How to find yourself when you've lost yourself00:50 Welcome to the podcast01:02 What wellness actually means to me02:25 My experience with losing and finding myself03:20 What I wish I had done differently03:38 Moving to NYC & navigating a difficult transition05:13 Codependency, toxic relationships & finding stability06:44 Rebuilding your routine and setting smaller goals08:00 Creating a social life and putting yourself out there09:14 Why structure, goals & routine matter10:20 Learning to do things alone11:35 Taking time to heal and rebuild your identity12:01 Building healthier friendships and relationships13:33 A lesson in independence from a pasta-making class14:21 Why being comfortable alone changes what you tolerate14:57 Becoming NBHWC board certified15:59 Giving yourself time to find yourself again16:19 Getting out of your comfort zone and saying yes to life17:05 Choosing the feeling you want to experience18:18 My solo trip to Porto & a reminder to change your energy19:41 The power of choosing to feel good20:48 Putting yourself out there and connecting with people22:01 Being the person who brings the energy23:17 Choosing yourself, even when it's uncomfortable24:00 Trusting yourself enough to walk away24:40 Life updates: fitness, the bulk & trying Pilates27:14 Final thoughts**RESOURCES & LINKS**Interested in becoming a certified health and wellness coach? I completed my NBHWC-approved health coach certification through MindBodyGreen.Use code **STELLACOACHING** for $1,000 off tuition: https://www.shareasale.com/u.cfm?d=1281553&m=96296&u=1030263 If you're experiencing a mental health crisis or need additional support, please seek help from a qualified mental health professional. This episode shares my personal experiences and is not a substitute for professional mental health care.Thanks so much for listening! 🤍🌟Follow me! Instagram: http://instagram.com/stellaraepodcastTikTok: http://tiktok.com/@thestellaraepodcast🌱 Apply for 1:1 Health & Wellness Coaching! https://forms.gle/s3zprpWj8VE5Bkvm8🛍️ Shop my Poshmark: https://poshmark.com/closet/realstellarae📚My Goodreads: https://www.goodreads.com/user/show/10449999-stella-rae▶️ Subscribe to my main channel!http://youtube.com/@StellaRae🌿Get $1000 off the mindbodygreen NBHWC acredited Health & Wellness Coaching program I did with promo code STELLACOACHING https://www.shareasale.com/u.cfm?d=1281553&m=96296&u=1030263💬Join my discord server to chat with the community!! https://discord.gg/3nsk8vvf🛒My Amazon storefront! all my fav products listed in one place:https://www.amazon.com/shop/stellarae💪 Get 10% off PROZIS fitness & health supplements & workout clothes & accessories with code STELLARAE10 http://prozis.com/1LMJG 💻For business & PR opportunities, please email: [email protected]: Some affiliate links may be used. All opinions are my own.

As we wrap up the fall arc and head into the winter arc, I've been rethinking what it really means to be healthy, disciplined, and live your best life.After my solo trip to Spain, I've been reflecting on loneliness, independence, connection, and how easy it is to become so focused on optimizing your routine that you forget to actually enjoy your life. In this episode of The Stella Rae Podcast, we're talking about letting go of perfectionism, being more flexible, putting yourself out there, and building a version of wellness that feels as good on the inside as it looks on the outside.We're getting into:♡ Why having the perfect routine doesn't automatically mean you're happy ♡ What solo travel taught me about loneliness and human connection ♡ Learning to be more spontaneous and say yes to new experiences ♡ How to stop letting past experiences dictate your future relationships ♡ Rethinking wellness beyond food, fitness, sleep, and aesthetics ♡ Building healthy habits that support the life you actually want to live ♡ My mindset going into the fall-to-winter arc ♡ An unexpected phone call with one of my most loyal followers! Babe x My reminder going into this next season: you can be disciplined and ambitious while still making room for fun, connection, and spontaneity. Your routine should support your life, not become your entire life.I'd love to hear what wellness means to you and what you're bringing into your winter arc. Let me know in the comments!Thanks for being here and listening ♡🌟Follow me! Instagram: http://instagram.com/stellaraepodcastTikTok: http://tiktok.com/@thestellaraepodcast🌱 Apply for 1:1 Health & Wellness Coaching! https://forms.gle/s3zprpWj8VE5Bkvm8🛍️ Shop my Poshmark: https://poshmark.com/closet/realstellarae📚My Goodreads: https://www.goodreads.com/user/show/10449999-stella-rae▶️ Subscribe to my main channel!http://youtube.com/@StellaRae🌿Get $1000 off the mindbodygreen NBHWC acredited Health & Wellness Coaching program I did with promo code STELLACOACHING https://www.shareasale.com/u.cfm?d=1281553&m=96296&u=1030263💬Join my discord server to chat with the community!! https://discord.gg/3nsk8vvf🛒My Amazon storefront! all my fav products listed in one place:https://www.amazon.com/shop/stellarae💪 Get 10% off PROZIS fitness & health supplements & workout clothes & accessories with code STELLARAE10 http://prozis.com/1LMJG 💻For business & PR opportunities, please email: [email protected]: Some affiliate links may be used. All opinions are my own.00:00 The Fall Arc, the Winter Arc & What I'm Rethinking 00:38 My Solo Travel Realizations 01:07 Am I Contradicting What I've Said About Being Single? 02:01 Treating Life Like a Solo Trip 02:29 Why Enjoyment Matters More Than a Perfect Routine 03:17 When Productivity Gets in the Way of Living 04:05 You Don't Need Perfect Balance 05:00 Making Room for the Life You Want 06:00 Learning to Adapt When Your Goals Change 07:30 Putting Yourself Out There & Building Connection 08:00 Why Loneliness and Community Matter 09:00 How to Make More Room for Connection 10:00 Saying Yes to New Experiences 10:55 Learning to Be More Open While Trusting Your Intuition 12:13 Opening Yourself Up After Being Hurt 13:16 Building Connections While Protecting Your Safety 14:00 The Emotional Reality of Solo Travel 15:00 What Happens After the Initial Excitement Wears Off 16:28 Why No Trip Is Ever a Waste 17:16 My New Philosophy on Wellness 18:24 Wellness Is More Than Your Routine 19:01 Building a Healthy Foundation Without Missing Out on Life 20:02 The Problem With Wellness as an Aesthetic 20:42 What Feeling Good Actually Means to Me 21:50 My Mindset Going Into the Winter Arc 22:25 The Unexpected Story of My Most Loyal Follower 23:32 Calling My Longtime Instagram Commenter 24:33 The Story Behind “Babe X” 25:52 Final Thoughts & Winter Arc Reminders

this one goes out to all my eldest daughters, oldest siblings, and anyone who's become so independent that they've forgotten how to let other people in. 🤎after another solo trip to spain, i came home with some realizations about my independence, relationships, dating, and the way i've been approaching life. i've spent so much time learning how to optimize my routines, protect my peace, and do everything on my own — but what happens when those same habits start keeping you from the connection and experiences you actually want?in this episode, we're getting into the eldest daughter experience, fear of rejection, why asking for help can feel so uncomfortable, and how past relationships can affect your ability to trust people again. i'm also sharing what i've been reflecting on after a difficult relationship, why i want to start saying yes to more things, and how i'm learning to balance my love for wellness and self-improvement with actually enjoying my life.because maybe the next chapter isn't about becoming even more productive or creating an even better routine. maybe it's about being a little less guarded, making room for other people, getting out of your comfort zone, and allowing yourself to have fun.in this episode:the eldest daughter experience + hyper-independencewhat solo travel taught me about connectionfear of rejection, loneliness + letting people inwhy asking for help can feel harder than doing everything yourselfhealing after a toxic relationship + learning to trust againdating, boundaries + being open to healthy relationshipswhen self-improvement and optimization become limitingmy “year of yes” + embracing a little YOLOreducing screen time and getting out of your own headspirituality, manifestation + visualizing the life you wantletting go of regret and taking small steps toward your ideal lifethe reminder i'm taking into this next chapter: life is a solo trip. take care of yourself, build the life you want, but don't forget to actually live it. ✨🎙️ The Stella Rae Podcast — new episodes every Tuesday.subscribe for more conversations about wellness, personal growth, relationships, and becoming your best self without forgetting to actually live.#TheStellaRaePodcast #PersonalGrowth #EldestDaughter #SoloTravel #SelfImprovement🌟Follow me! Instagram: http://instagram.com/stellaraepodcastTikTok: http://tiktok.com/@thestellaraepodcast🌱 Apply for 1:1 Health & Wellness Coaching! https://forms.gle/s3zprpWj8VE5Bkvm8🛍️ Shop my Poshmark: https://poshmark.com/closet/realstellarae📚My Goodreads: https://www.goodreads.com/user/show/10449999-stella-rae▶️ Subscribe to my main channel!http://youtube.com/@StellaRae🌿Get $1000 off the mindbodygreen NBHWC acredited Health & Wellness Coaching program I did with promo code STELLACOACHING https://www.shareasale.com/u.cfm?d=1281553&m=96296&u=1030263💬Join my discord server to chat with the community!! https://discord.gg/3nsk8vvf🛒My Amazon storefront! all my fav products listed in one place:https://www.amazon.com/shop/stellarae💪 Get 10% off PROZIS fitness & health supplements & workout clothes & accessories with code STELLARAE10 http://prozis.com/1LMJG 💻For business & PR opportunities, please email: [email protected]: Some affiliate links may be used. All opinions are my own.

in this episode, we’re talking about the reality of being a “locked-in” girl...from staying consistent with your fitness goals and prioritizing your health, to navigating dating, gym crushes, and finding someone who actually respects your lifestyle.why do some people love the results of a disciplined woman but not the habits that get her there? and why should we ever feel guilty for having goals, boundaries, or priorities outside of dating?we’re also getting into the ever-changing beauty standards around women’s bodies, the pressure to look a certain way, and why getting stronger should never be something we apologize for.🎧 welcome to another conversation about fitness, confidence, dating, and becoming your best self without forgetting to actually live.#stellarae #stellaraepodcast #fitnesspodcast #womenwholift #gymgirl #beautystandards #datingadvice #selfimprovement #fitnessmotivation #lockedin🌟Follow me! Instagram: http://instagram.com/stellaraepodcastTikTok: http://tiktok.com/@thestellaraepodcast🌱 Apply for 1:1 Health & Wellness Coaching! https://forms.gle/s3zprpWj8VE5Bkvm8🛍️ Shop my Poshmark: https://poshmark.com/closet/realstellarae📚My Goodreads: https://www.goodreads.com/user/show/10449999-stella-rae▶️ Subscribe to my main channel!http://youtube.com/@StellaRae🌿Get $1000 off the mindbodygreen NBHWC acredited Health & Wellness Coaching program I did with promo code STELLACOACHING https://www.shareasale.com/u.cfm?d=1281553&m=96296&u=1030263💬Join my discord server to chat with the community!! https://discord.gg/3nsk8vvf🛒My Amazon storefront! all my fav products listed in one place:https://www.amazon.com/shop/stellarae💪 Get 10% off PROZIS fitness & health supplements & workout clothes & accessories with code STELLARAE10 http://prozis.com/1LMJG 💻For business & PR opportunities, please email: [email protected]: Some affiliate links may be used. All opinions are my own.00:00 Why women are constantly told not to lift weights00:42 My 10-year fitness journey01:38 Being skinny-shamed and internalizing comments about your body02:40 How moving to NYC changed my activity levels04:16 Fitness becoming a lifestyle, not just going to the gym05:20 My history with restrictive eating and learning to fuel my body06:45 The return of the “skinny is in” beauty standard07:25 Taking control of the things you can change08:20 Why lifting weights won’t automatically make you bulky09:00 Muscle, bone density, mobility, and aging well10:15 The “cardio girl vs. muscle mommy” conversation12:18 Why long-term health matters more than other people’s preferences13:57 Trying a new strength-training gym back home15:00 Gym crushes and the “hot bro” saga16:40 Gym clothes, confidence, and unsolicited opinions18:07 Should men approach women at the gym?19:05 The best way to build rapport with someone21:00 A gym crush who only spoke Spanish22:15 Future-faking and empty promises while dating23:38 Gym couples, strength goals, and admiring other women24:47 My fall lock-in goals25:06 Closing thoughts