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Author: Tim Matthews & Doug Holt
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The Powerful Man is a show for married businessmen looking to improve their relationships, their health, their businesses, and themselves. Your hosts, Doug Holt and Tim Matthews have decades of experience helping married businessmen step into their power, live up to their potential, and live a life they love. The Powerful Man Show tackles conversations and topics designed to help men become better fathers, lovers, husbands, and leaders in their communities. If this sounds like you, we encourage you to subscribe and also head over to thepowerfulman.com for more information.
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Episode #1068 If you've been cheated on or you're the one who broke the trust, this episode breaks down what to actually do next. Doug and Chris get real about what betrayal looks like inside a marriage, the shame that often comes with it, and how most men either shut down or avoid dealing with it head-on. They talk through how to stop sweeping things under the rug, the exact first steps to take when trust has been broken, and why just moving on doesn't work. You'll hear about the Clean Slate Method, why taking ownership (even when it feels unfair) is key, and what micro-commitments actually look like in real life. If your wife feels distant, if you're walking on eggshells, or if you're the one carrying guilt, this episode will help you see the path forward and it starts with showing up differently than you have before. You'll learn why consistency matters more than big promises. The truth is, most guys try to fix the problem the wrong way and it only pushes her further. Doug and Chris explain what rebuilding trust really looks like day-to-day. They also break down the difference between being needed and being wanted by your partner. And you'll hear why her testing you isn't a bad sign, it's actually your window of opportunity. Want a simple step-by-step breakdown on how to fix what's broken in your marriage? Watch the free training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. It'll walk you through exactly how to get clarity and start turning things around.
Episode #1067 Divorce doesn't usually come out of nowhere. Most guys just don't see the signs until it's too late. In this episode, Doug and Chris talk honestly about what really leads to divorce and why so many men are blindsided by it, especially after the holidays. There's a reason January is known as "divorce season." While you're focused on work or coasting through the holidays, your wife may already be checking out or meeting with a lawyer. This conversation unpacks how good men end up in bad spots, and what to do now if your relationship feels off. Doug shares what emotional safety actually means, how to tell if your wife's already on her way out, and why most divorces that start "amicable" don't stay that way. They also get into why nice guys who avoid conflict often miss the biggest warning signs. If you've ever thought "she'd never leave," this is one you need to hear. The truth is, women usually leave emotionally long before they file papers. And by the time most men realize it, they're in cleanup mode. That doesn't have to be you. If your marriage feels stuck or your wife seems distant, now's the time to act. Not after she's already made up her mind. Want to stop the slow drift before it turns into divorce? Get the free training here: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales You'll get the exact steps thousands of men have used to turn things around. No pressure. No fluff. Just a clear place to start.
Episode #1066 Ever feel like you're switching hats all day? One minute you're the leader at work, the next you're the dad, then the husband, then the problem-solver. And somewhere in all that, you start to lose track of who you really are. In this episode, Doug and Chris talk about something most men never admit: how trying to show up differently in every area of life is draining you. Not just physically, but emotionally too. And the worst part? Most of us think we're doing it for the people we love. This conversation cuts through the noise and gets real about why so many men feel disconnected, anxious, or just plain off. You'll hear practical ways to stay grounded, reset your mindset between roles, and stop hiding behind the story that "this is just what it takes." If you've ever told yourself "I'm doing this for my family" but know deep down you're running on empty, listen in. There's a better way to lead without losing yourself in the process. Want to learn how to lead at home the same way you lead at work—without sacrificing your sanity? Get the free training here: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales It's real, it's practical, and it's where a lot of men start.
Episode #1065 If you've ever felt like you're repeating the same arguments, blowing up or shutting down in your relationship, or avoiding the real conversations that need to happen, this episode will hit home. Doug and Coach Chris talk honestly about how trauma from your past shapes how you show up today. Not in a therapy-session kind of way, but in the real-life stuff—how you react when you're triggered, how you protect yourself, and how easy it is to blame everything on your wife or your situation. They share personal stories about the patterns that used to run their lives and how they started doing the work to shift them. It's not about being perfect or "fixing" yourself—it's about taking responsibility and learning to lead. This is a real conversation about emotional armor, getting triggered, and why most men wait until it's too late. If you're tired of surface-level advice, this is where you start getting honest. If you're ready to stop spinning in circles and start leading at home, go get the free training here: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales It's straightforward, actionable, and where a lot of men begin.
Episode #1064 In this powerful and deeply honest revisit, the men open up about a topic that often goes unspoken—suicide. This isn't theory. It's personal. They've been there. Some have stood on the edge. Some have lost people they love. And they're here to talk about what really goes on in those dark moments most men never share out loud. They break down the real weight of shame, isolation, and the pressure to keep it all together. They share what helped them turn things around and why most guys don't reach out until it's almost too late. If you've ever felt like you're supposed to be the strong one, but deep down you're struggling, this episode is for you. It's not polished. It's not perfect. But it's real. And that might just be what someone needs to hear right now. If you're ready to start shifting things—even just one step—get the free training here: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. You're not alone, and there's a way forward.
Episode #1063 In this episode, we revisit a raw and honest conversation about what happens when masculine and feminine energies get out of sync in a relationship. This isn't about old-school gender roles. It's about energy, leadership, trust, and polarity — and what happens when those things go missing. Doug and Coach Chris unpack why so many men are stuck trying to be the "nice guy" and how that often leaves their partner feeling more like a caretaker than a lover. They dive into what women actually want: leadership, decisiveness, and safety. Most men have stepped back from this role without realizing it. They talk through what it looks like to lead from the heart, how to rebuild polarity, and small moves that shift the energy fast. If your relationship feels flat or disconnected, this conversation will hit home. Want to learn how to lead without trying to fix everything? Get the free training here: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales and take the first step toward real change.
Episode #1062 We're revisiting one of our most talked-about conversations — and it's still just as relevant today. Most men think they're showing up as their real selves. But the truth? We all wear masks. Whether it's to protect ourselves, gain approval, or just keep the peace, those masks slowly become part of who we think we are. In this episode, we get honest about why the masks go on in the first place, how they show up in everyday life, and what it really takes to start peeling them off. You'll hear stories from our own journeys and learn the steps we took to start showing up with more truth, more clarity, and more confidence. If you're feeling disconnected, lost, or like something's just off — this is worth a listen. Want help figuring out what mask you've been wearing and how to let it go? Get the free training here: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales and start the shift today.
Episode #1061 If your wife feels distant or emotionally checked out, you're not alone and it's not random. In this episode, Doug and Erin talk through why so many women pull back in relationships, especially when men start trying to improve themselves. You'll learn what's really going on underneath the surface (hint: it's not about her not caring), and how broken trust and lack of emotional safety can make her retreat even when you're trying to do better. Doug shares a story from a recent men's event where one powerful question helped a husband realize exactly how he'd slipped back into old habits. Erin breaks down the emotional impact this has on women and what makes them feel safe enough to reconnect. They also cover the simple but powerful shifts men can make—things most guys overlook—that create real change in a relationship. No fluff here. Just honest reflection and practical takeaways you can put into action starting today. Want to go deeper? Get our free training to learn how to fix your marriage without begging, talking in circles, or dragging your wife to therapy: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales
Episode #1060 In this episode, Doug sits down with his wife Erin for a real, honest conversation about what happens when women feel like they have to carry everything and what shifts when they start softening back into their natural feminine energy. Erin opens up about her journey from being the "Angry Wife" to creating real connection, trust, and intimacy in their relationship. They talk about the difference between leadership and control, why so many couples get stuck in power struggles, and what actually works to bring the spark back. If you're constantly walking on eggshells or feeling like roommates, this conversation will hit home. You'll hear practical examples of what small changes look like. Things like planning the date night, opening the car door, or even just saying "Come sit with me" can shift the whole dynamic when done from a place of care instead of control. This isn't about playing outdated roles. It's about learning to create a relationship where both people feel safe, seen, and connected. Want to know how to fix your marriage without begging, chasing, or dragging your wife to therapy? Get the free training here: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales You'll learn the real reason things feel stuck and how to turn things around step by step. No guesswork, no games. Just clarity and a plan that works.
Episode #1059 This revisit episode dives into a conversation that hits home for a lot of men. Doug and Master Coach Mark Smith break down the quiet trap of needing validation from women. Whether it's constantly checking in to see if your partner is happy, overthinking every interaction, or looking for approval at work, this pattern often runs in the background without being noticed. They walk through where it comes from, why it shows up in relationships, and most importantly, how to break free from it. You'll hear about what it means to be grounded as a man, how to stop giving your power away, and how to build confidence that isn't based on what others think of you. If you're tired of questioning yourself and want to stop chasing approval, this episode offers real tools and a clear path forward. Want help getting started? Check out the free training for married businessmen ready to lead again without trying harder or fixing everything: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales
Episode #1058 We're revisiting this conversation because it's one of the biggest sticking points for men in relationships. You want to lead, you want clarity, and you want a stronger connection—but when it comes to setting real agreements and holding your partner accountable, things get messy. In this episode, Tim and the team break down how to create accountability in your relationship without turning it into a business meeting or a fight. It starts with you getting clear on what you actually want. If you're not clear, there's no way to communicate it, let alone follow through. They share how to bring up needs in a way that invites conversation instead of conflict, how to assume the best without being walked over, and why most men skip the emotional prep that makes these conversations go smoother. You'll also hear why the energy behind the ask matters more than the words you use. If you've ever struggled with resentment, unmet expectations, or just feeling like your partner isn't on the same page, this is a conversation worth coming back to. If you're ready to lead at home with calm, clarity, and confidence, start with the free training that's helping married businessmen do just that. Watch it here: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales
Episode #1057 We're bringing this one back because it's a topic that keeps showing up. You start making progress, in your marriage, your business, your health and then out of nowhere, you slide back. It's frustrating, and it's more common than you think. In this episode, Tim sits down with Arthur, Andrew, and Austin to dig into the real reason why that keeps happening. It's called upper limiting. Whether it shows up as self-sabotage, complacency, or just falling off the path, there's usually something deeper underneath it. They talk through how identity, validation, nervous system wiring, and past patterns can all work against you when you're on the edge of growth. The guys also share how they've learned to spot the signs early and what you can do to stay on track instead of resetting every few months. If it feels like you're doing the work but something still keeps pulling you back, give this one a listen. And if you want help staying consistent and leading from a solid place, check out the free training that's helping married businessmen break the cycle and create lasting change. Watch it here: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales
Episode #1056 Your wife tells you she needs space, and you're left wondering what that actually means and what you're supposed to do next. Do you back off completely? Do you hold her close? How do you know the difference? In this episode, Doug brings in his wife Erin, a coach who works with married women, to break it all down from her side of the relationship. They talk openly about what's really going on when a woman says she needs space, why those words usually have more emotion behind them than logic, and how to handle it without losing yourself or making things worse. You'll hear how to stay grounded, how to lead with calm strength, and how to know when to give her breathing room and when to pull her back in with love. This one's honest, direct, and full of the kind of insight most men never get. If you've ever felt stuck trying to read her signals or unsure how to show up in these moments, this conversation will give you a solid place to start. Want more clarity on how to lead in your relationship without chasing or shutting down? Get the free training that's helping married businessmen create real connection again. Go here to watch it: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales
Episode #1055 You've been putting in the work. Morning routines are in place. You're communicating better. You're staying calm instead of reactive. But your wife still doesn't seem to notice. Or worse, she says nothing has changed. In this revisit episode, Doug sits down with his wife Erin, a coach for women, to talk about why your efforts might not be landing the way you think. Erin shares what she sees on the other side of the relationship and why some women stay guarded even when their partner is making progress. They get into the fear, hesitation, and uncertainty that can show up and how to lead through it. You'll hear how to show up in a way that feels consistent and grounded, what kind of communication actually helps, and why you need to go all in if you want real change. This is a conversation every married man should hear. Want to take the next step Grab the free training here: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales It gives you the exact process to start shifting your marriage without needing her to go first.
Episode #1054 A lot of men feel like they're doing everything they're supposed to do, working hard, showing up for their families, keeping it together, but still feel empty, burnt out, or disconnected. In this episode, Doug sits down with master coaches Neil and Mark to talk about why so many high-performing men hit a wall and what finally gets them moving again. You'll hear honest stories from men who've spent years in therapy without results, the surprising stats around male loneliness, and why doing more isn't the answer. This isn't a motivational pep talk. It's a grounded, straight-up look at how to reconnect with your power, your purpose, and your people, starting right where you are. We also talk about what most men get wrong about asking for help, the slow death of becoming the nice guy, and how to stop pushing everyone away without even realizing it. If you've ever felt like you're carrying the load alone or just running on fumes, this conversation is for you. Want a better way to get started? Get the free training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. It breaks down exactly why your relationship feels off and gives you the tools to start leading again, without more talking, guessing, or fixing things by force.
Episode #1053 In this episode, Drew shares his raw, honest story of what it took to hit rock bottom and why that moment became the turning point that changed everything. You'll hear how he went from nearly losing his marriage to discovering a version of himself he didn't know existed. This isn't about fixing everything overnight. It's about learning the tools to stop pretending, take responsibility, and show up fully, first for yourself, then for the people who matter most. Whether you're feeling stuck, distant in your relationship, or just tired of carrying the weight alone, this conversation offers something different: clarity, connection, and a real way forward. No fluff. No clichés. Just the truth from a man who's been through it. We talk about the gap between knowing and feeling, why "leading with love" isn't soft, and how freedom often comes after facing what you've been avoiding. If you're ready to step into a new version of yourself, this one's worth your time. Want to learn the tools Drew used to get started? Get the free training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. It's built to help men reconnect with their power and start leading again, without begging, blaming, or talking it to death.
Episode #1052 In this revisit episode, Doug sits down with TPM advisor Christopher Hansen to talk about something every married man needs to understand but few are ever taught. What it really means to lead in your marriage. They dig into what happens when a man steps back from leadership and how that slowly chips away at trust, safety, and intimacy over time. You'll hear why emotional safety matters more than you think, why your wife might be spending more as a signal and not the problem, and how to stop trying to fix things by doing more of what already isn't working. Chris also shares what he's learned from thousands of conversations with men who reach out for support. Most guys wait too long, try to figure it out alone, and don't realize their wife has already started checking out. You'll also hear why "being a nice guy" doesn't always help, and how most men unknowingly give away their power by trying to avoid conflict. If you're tired of walking on eggshells or unsure how to take back control without becoming aggressive or passive, this conversation will give you the clarity and direction you've been missing. If your marriage feels stuck or strained, this episode will help you see a clear path forward. No pressure, no fluff. Just practical insight and real examples of how small shifts in how you show up can change everything. Ready to learn how to lead with strength and rebuild connection without long talks or guessing games? Start with this free training: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales It's short, direct, and something you can put to use right away.
Episode #1051 We're bringing this one back because it's one of the most important conversations you'll hear if you're a married man wanting deeper connection and real intimacy with your wife. Doug is joined by his wife Erin, a seasoned coach for women, to talk about something most guys miss. How emotional safety and real presence outside the bedroom shape what happens inside it. If you've ever felt stuck in the same cycle where sex feels like a reward you have to earn or where connection feels out of reach, this is your episode. Erin breaks down what women really want and why so many men unknowingly kill the spark by skipping past the emotional part. They also get into what it means to actually lead in a relationship. Not in a controlling way, but by showing up with consistency, presence, and trust. If your wife doesn't fully trust your leadership, chances are she won't fully open up either. This episode walks through what that looks like in day-to-day life and what to shift starting now. This isn't about becoming someone else. It's about getting back to who you've always been, the grounded, present man your partner deeply wants to trust and be with. Want to learn how to build that kind of connection and leadership in your marriage? Go here to get free access to our training: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales No fluff. No gimmicks. Just straight-up insight and a proven process that works.
Episode #1050 In this episode, we talk about what it actually means to let go and why it might be the one thing standing between you and the life you want. Doug shares a real story about a man whose marriage, business, and family were falling apart. Nothing was working. Then everything changed when he stopped holding onto the stories he believed were true. This isn't about pretending things are fine. It's about being honest with yourself and asking where you might be holding on too tightly. If you've ever thought your wife just doesn't get it or that nothing will ever change, this conversation is going to challenge you. The hardest part for most men is realizing that control and certainty are often just ways to avoid the truth. Letting go isn't weakness. It's leadership. And it takes a level of strength most guys don't talk about. But once you get it, you start showing up differently in your marriage, at home, and in the way you carry yourself every day. Want a real plan to turn things around in your marriage without losing yourself in the process? Get the free training here: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales and see how other men are doing it.
Episode #1049 If you're the kind of guy who puts everyone else first and leaves yourself last, this episode will hit home. Doug and Chris unpack why self care isn't optional if you want to lead well at home, in business, and in life. This isn't about pampering yourself. It's about learning how to consistently show up as the grounded, confident man your family needs. They walk through how putting yourself last often leads to burnout, resentment, and a quiet victim mindset. You think you're doing the right thing by pushing through and putting others first, but over time it starts to wear you down. And your wife, your kids, your team—they feel it too. You'll hear personal stories and examples of what real self care looks like for high performing men. From simple shifts like lifting weights or taking time to reset, to understanding how your wife views your self investment as a signal of leadership. This is about setting a new standard and leading by example. If you're tired of running on empty or just know you're capable of showing up better, this is your call to take action. Want to start now? Get the free training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. It gives you practical tools you can use right away to reconnect, lead with clarity, and get your energy back.




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