The Powerful Man Show

Episode #1093 A lot of men think they're being grounded by staying calm, staying quiet, or keeping the peace, but what if that's not grounded at all? In this episode, Doug and Tim break down how men often collapse emotionally without realizing it, and why that shutdown is just another form of reaction. You'll hear real stories, including a wake-up call from Doug's own marriage, and how what he thought was self-control was actually stonewalling. This isn't about being more stoic or strong. It's about being real, being present, and learning to lead emotionally instead of withdrawing. They explain how men slip into shame, disconnect from their partner, and unknowingly make it all about themselves. You'll learn how to spot the difference between reacting and being grounded, and how to catch yourself before things spiral. The goal isn't perfection. It's about awareness, ownership, and showing up differently. If you've ever felt like you were doing the right thing only to have it backfire, this conversation is worth a listen. Want to understand exactly where things went wrong and how to fix it? Get access to the free training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. It walks you through what's really going on and how to rebuild connection, leadership, and trust step by step.

Episode #1092  If you're feeling stuck, drifting, or like you've lost your drive, this episode is a reminder that the way out isn't about grinding harder. It's about learning to catch the wins you're already creating and most men miss them completely. Doug and Tim get real about why high-achieving men tend to ignore or downplay their progress, and how that habit keeps them trapped in the drift. They explain why celebrating wins isn't just fluff, it's a muscle. And if you're not training it, you're probably stuck living in the gap between where you are and where you think you should be. You'll hear how ignoring the "small stuff" is wrecking momentum, how to shift from pain-driven success to purpose-driven progress, and what actually changes when you stop dimming your light. This isn't about pretending things are perfect, it's about learning how to notice what's actually working so you can build on it. If you've been in survival mode for a while or stuck in the pattern of always pushing for "what's next," this is the one to tune into. Want to get clear on how you got stuck and how to get out of it? Grab the free training at fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. It'll walk you through exactly what's broken and show you the steps to start turning things around.  

Episode #1091    We're bringing this one back because it's one of the most asked-about topics from men inside The Powerful Man. How do you rebuild connection with your wife when things feel flat, distant, or disconnected? Doug is joined again by his wife, Erin Holt, for a candid conversation on what actually works when it comes to rebuilding intimacy in a long-term relationship. They unpack how most men miss the early signs of disconnection, how emotional safety gets slowly eroded, and why small, ignored moments matter more than you think. Erin shares the perspective from the other side, what women really want, what they wish their husbands would notice, and how masculine leadership plays a key role in getting the relationship back on track. This episode also breaks down simple, real-world actions you can take to rebuild trust, spark attraction again, and create the kind of relationship that doesn't just survive but actually feels good to be in. If you've been feeling like roommates, if the spark is gone, or if your wife has started pulling away, start here. If you're ready to get clear on how things got off track and want a step-by-step plan to fix it, watch the free training at fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. It's a straightforward look at how to rebuild connection without begging, chasing, or forcing hard conversations.  

Episode #1090  Most men don't realize they're drifting until it's already been years. Life feels "fine" on the surface, business is steady, the marriage isn't falling apart, the kids are growing up, but deep down, you know something's off. That fire, that drive you once had? It's gone. In this episode, Doug and Tim break down what "the drift" actually is, how it silently pulls high-performing men into a rut, and why so many stay stuck for years. They unpack how good habits and strong traits can eventually trap you, why predictability is a relationship killer, and what it takes to reset your life without blowing everything up. You'll hear real stories of men who looked successful from the outside but were checked out on the inside. We cover how guilt, routine, and the "nice guy" trap keep men playing small. There's also a clear reason why going it alone rarely works. You need challenge, you need truth, and you need it from other men who've already done the work. This isn't about hype or hacks, it's about getting honest with where you are and what you're actually here for. If you're ready to break out of the drift and want a clear plan to get your passion, power, and connection back, check out the free training at fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. It's a simple first step, but it'll show you exactly what's broken and how to start fixing it.

Episode #1089 We're revisiting this conversation because it keeps coming up. A lot of men struggle with how to ask for what they want in their relationship without feeling weak or sounding needy. The truth is, it's not about the words you use. It's about how you show up when you say them. In this episode, Doug and Chris break down why hesitation kills trust, how your energy shifts the way your wife hears you, and what to do when you're afraid of her reaction. They walk through a simple way to speak clearly, ask directly, and stay grounded even if she pushes back. You'll also hear what most men get wrong when they try to "get it right," and how to stop putting pressure on her to fix what you haven't owned yet. If you've been biting your tongue, playing it safe, or hoping she'll read your mind, this is your reminder to lead the conversation. Want a real plan to start shifting your marriage? Get the free training How to Fix Your Marriage Without Talking About It at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales and learn the first steps to lead with calm, clear action.

Episode #1088 This is one of those episodes we had to bring back. It's a real conversation about what happens when men quietly settle for less in their marriage, their health, or their life in general. Doug and Chris revisit the hard truth: when you stop taking action, you're not pausing, you're choosing. And that choice has consequences. They talk about the trap of tolerating a "not that bad" marriage, the fear that keeps men from speaking up, and how easy it is to lose yourself trying to keep the peace. Doug shares what he's seen happen when guys finally stop hiding, start leading, and take a real step forward. Chris opens up about how hard it was for him to speak his truth and what shifted when he finally did. You'll also hear why your wife may not be checked out from the relationship she may just be tired of waiting for you to show up. The good news? It's not too late to change that. But you've got to stop sitting on the fence. Ready to do something about it? Grab the free training How to Fix Your Marriage Without Talking About It at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales and learn the first few steps to lead with action, not more talk.

Episode #1087 If you keep waiting for the "right moment" to fix your marriage, you're already making a choice and not the one you want. In this episode, Doug and Chris break down what it really looks like to stop spinning your wheels and start leading your relationship. They talk about why indecision kills intimacy, how hesitation builds resentment, and how taking real action imperfect or not is what actually starts to shift things. You'll learn how to evaluate where you're at across what they call the Five Territories: self, health, wealth, relationships, and business. You'll also hear how inaction shows up as victimhood and why it's the fastest way to lose connection with your wife, your kids, and yourself. Doug shares what it means to be the decisive leader in your home, even when you're not sure of the next step. Chris talks about why your wife might not support you at first, and how to rebuild her trust not with talk, but with consistent action. They get into real stories from their coaching experience, with examples of men turning things around by finally stepping off the fence. If your relationship feels stuck, if your energy is off, or if you've been consuming advice but not actually doing anything with it this is the conversation you need to hear. Want a clear starting point? Grab the free training How to Fix Your Marriage Without Talking About It and get practical steps you can take today. Go to https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales to access it.

Episode #1086 Most men create a vision for their business but rarely take the time to do the same for their marriage or family. In this episode, Doug and Chris unpack why that's a problem, and how to start creating a clear, shared vision at home. This isn't about long meetings or forcing your wife to sit on the couch and talk about feelings. It's about finding a way that works, walking, talking, asking the right questions and using that to get aligned. They share real examples from their own lives: how to include your kids, even if they're young or older, how to keep it light and fun, and how small conversations can lead to big shifts. You'll hear what worked, what didn't, and why this kind of planning can deepen connection without pressure. Chris also opens up about his own hesitation around doing this "the right way," and Doug offers simple tools and ideas to make it doable, not overwhelming. They also cover how to set a vision that's not just about logistics or calendars but about how you want your home life to feel. You'll learn how to plan in a way that brings energy, clarity, and direction into your relationship and your role as a father. It's not about getting it perfect it's about leading with intention and creating a future everyone's excited about. If your marriage or family life feels like it's drifting, this episode will help you reset and start fresh. Want help getting your marriage back on track? Grab the free training How to Fix Your Marriage Without Talking About It at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales and start taking action today.

Episode #1085 This episode is a powerful revisit to one of the most important conversations for any man feeling stuck in his relationship or his personal growth. Doug and Chris break down a common trap: spending your time and money on everything but the things that really move the needle your relationships, your mindset, and your growth as a man. They get honest about how easy it is to drop cash on toys, tech, and distractions... while putting off the real work that could actually improve your marriage, deepen your connection with your kids, or help you become a man you're proud of. If you've ever said, "I don't have the time" or "I can't afford it" this one will challenge you to take a hard look at what you're prioritizing. They also dive into why surrounding yourself with men who push you to grow matters more than you think, and how to use your future self as a guide for the choices you make now. This is the kind of episode you'll want to listen to more than once because the questions they ask here can shift everything. If you're ready to stop waiting and start investing in what really matters, grab the free training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. No pressure. No hype. Just real tools to help you get back on track starting today.      

Episode #1084 Ever feel like you've lost your edge at home or like you're walking on eggshells, waiting for your wife to tell you you're doing it right? In this episode, Doug and Chris dig into one of the most common (but rarely talked about) patterns they see in men: the quiet, often unconscious habit of giving up power in relationships. They unpack how this shows up in everyday life from needing permission to make decisions, to becoming another "child" in the household dynamic. Doug shares how even well-meaning guys slip into people-pleasing, indecision, and needing external validation from their partner, all while slowly eroding their leadership. You'll learn why being decisive (even if you're wrong) beats being passive, how routines can help you rebuild internal trust, and what it really takes to stop outsourcing your self-worth. This episode is a wake-up call for any man who's lost touch with his power and a practical guide to getting it back. If you're ready to stop giving your power away and want to lead with confidence again, get the free training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. It's a no-fluff, step-by-step approach to getting clarity, respect, and connection back in your marriage.      

Episode #1083 In this episode, Doug sits down with Andrew to unpack one of the biggest challenges men face in long-term relationships: staying consistent not just for a few weeks, but for the long haul. They get real about why short-term effort isn't enough, why so many guys slip when things start improving, and how old patterns (especially the ones from childhood) keep showing up in marriage. Doug shares a powerful story about a man trying to turn things around after years of being emotionally checked out and why "two and a half weeks of trying" doesn't undo a decade of disconnect. If you've ever felt frustrated because you're doing the work and not seeing results, this is for you. If you're showing up with expectations and getting burned, this is for you. And if you're ready to shift from surface-level fixes to real identity change this conversation cuts straight to it. You'll walk away with practical tools and insights to help you stop the pattern, drop the scorekeeping, and show up in a way that actually builds trust not just today, but consistently. Want the step-by-step roadmap to turn things around in your marriage? Get free access to the powerful training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. No fluff, just clear, actionable tools that actually work.

Episode #1082 In this revisit episode, Doug answers real questions from men trying to figure out how to reconnect with their wives without coming across as needy or making things worse. If you're feeling stuck in a cycle of distance, scheduled sex, or surface-level conversations, this one is for you. He shares actionable tips on how to shift out of the roommate dynamic and start dating your wife again, even if things feel cold or awkward right now. You'll learn why emotional safety matters more than you think, what most men get wrong about communication, and how to stop showing up with needy energy. Doug also breaks down how to reignite passion without pressure, and why honest conversations with zero expectations can lead to the biggest breakthroughs. This isn't theory. It's the exact advice Doug gives coaching clients every week. If you're feeling stuck and don't know where to start, get the free training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. It walks you through what's really going wrong and gives you a proven path to turn things around.

Episode #1081 A lot of guys are stuck in the same loop. You work hard, you provide, and you think you're doing everything right. But deep down, there's frustration. Maybe she's pulling away. Maybe you're walking on eggshells. Or maybe you're just not getting the connection, intimacy, or appreciation you thought you would. This episode is about why that happens and how expectations are often the silent killer behind it. Doug and coach Neil break down the difference between expectations and agreements, and why unspoken expectations build resentment fast. They walk through real examples of how everyday assumptions in marriage who takes out the trash, how often you should have sex, what love is supposed to look like lead to disconnection when they're not talked about. If you've ever thought, "I'm doing my part, why isn't she doing hers?" this conversation is for you. You'll learn how to recognize covert contracts you've probably been making without realizing it, and how to shift your mindset from expectation to possibility. They also share a practical exercise you can do today to start clearing the air and rebuilding real trust and connection. If your relationship feels off, this is where you start doing something about it. Want to fix the problem at the root instead of guessing your way through it? Watch the free training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. It walks you through exactly what's going wrong and how to turn it around. No fluff, just clear next steps.

Episode #1080 Ever feel like you've checked all the boxes career, marriage, kids, success on paper but still wake up wondering, "Is this it?" In this episode, Doug sits down with master coach Neil to talk about why so many high-performing men hit a wall, and what to actually do when you feel stuck, numb, or just off track. They dive into what it really means to look in the mirror and not recognize the man staring back. You'll hear real talk about blind spots, why reading books and listening to podcasts won't cut it, and how coaching can help you finally let go of what's been holding you back. This isn't about hype. It's about truth, accountability, and learning how to lead your life, not just survive it. They'll cover what happens when you stop giving to get and finally drop the weight of expectations. You'll hear why men keep falling into the same patterns, and how to finally break out of them. Neil shares what happens when men step away from daily distractions and into a space where they can actually reset. Doug explains why even the most successful men have coaches, and why trying to do it alone almost never works. If you've been feeling like something's missing, this conversation is your sign to stop brushing it off. Want to finally feel clear, confident, and fully in control again? Get the free training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. It's straight-up tools you can use right now to start making real change.

Episode #1079 If your relationship is on the rocks, it's tempting to go big. A new car, a luxury trip, maybe even building the dream home. But here's the hard truth trust can't be bought. In this episode, Tim and Bruce break down why trying to buy your way out of broken trust never works, and what actually does. They get into the real building blocks of trust: honesty, consistency, and accountability. This isn't about doing grand gestures. It's about showing up every day the way you said you would and owning it when you don't. They also cover a hidden dynamic most men miss: "safety tests." These are moments when your partner is checking if it's safe to open up again, often disguised as conflict. How you respond matters more than you think. Rebuilding trust takes time, and if you're feeling frustrated by how slow it's going, this episode is for you. It's not about being perfect. It's about being steady. And if you've been reacting, getting defensive, or tying your worth to her mood, this is the reset you need. Start small. Pick one thing this week you can follow through on without fail. One consistent action to prove you're serious about showing up differently. If your marriage is in a tough spot, don't wait. Get free access to the training that shows you exactly how to rebuild trust and connection without long talks or therapy. Watch it here: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales

Episode #1078 Most men think of legacy as something they'll leave behind. But what if your legacy isn't about the future? What if it's about how you're showing up today? In this episode, Tim and Bruce dive into the real meaning of legacy. It's not about money, titles, or what people say when you're gone. It's about the emotional footprint you leave on the people closest to you, right now. They walk through three simple but powerful questions every man should ask himself. These are the kinds of questions that cut through the noise and get straight to the heart. You'll also get three micro actions you can take this week to live with more intention, presence, and impact. These aren't big moves that take hours. They're real-life shifts that take just a few minutes but build serious momentum. Think voice notes to your kids, one honest conversation, or a simple new family ritual. It's about consistently showing up, even when life is stressful or busy. Because who you are now is shaping what they'll remember later. If your marriage feels off, don't wait. Get free access to the training that's helped thousands of men reconnect with their wives without long talks or therapy. Watch it here: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales

Episode #1077 Ever find yourself messing things up just when they're starting to go well? You're not alone. A lot of high-performing men struggle with self sabotage, especially when life starts to feel steady. In this episode, Tim and Bruce dig into the reasons behind it, whether it's a deep-rooted self worth issue, a nervous system that craves chaos, or an old identity that just doesn't fit anymore. They explore how some men unconsciously create problems just to feel a sense of purpose or control. From procrastination and emotional withdrawal to overcommitting and burnout, the patterns are often the same. The good news is, once you see it, you can change it. You'll hear what actually works to break the cycle and how to stop bouncing between highs and lows in your personal and professional life. If you've ever told yourself "I know what to do, I just don't do it," this episode is for you. You'll walk away with a clearer understanding of where self sabotage really comes from and how to start shifting out of it. We also break down the role of unconscious identity and why traditional willpower won't solve the problem. The goal here isn't perfection. It's progress with intention. If you're tired of repeating the same patterns and want a clear path forward, check out the free training here: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. It'll help you understand what's not working at home and what to do about it.      

Episode #1076 You know your core values at work. You've built a team culture, held people accountable, and led with purpose. But at home? Things feel off. Maybe you're clear and confident at work but second-guess yourself with your family. You say your family comes first, but your calendar tells a different story. In this episode, Tim and Bruce talk about a pattern they've seen in successful men: strong leadership at work, but little direction at home. They unpack why many guys never define values for their family life, and how that lack of clarity leads to drifting, disconnect, and frustration. You'll hear simple ways to bring intentional leadership into your home, starting with a 15-minute exercise that helps you define how you want to show up with your partner and kids. If you've ever felt like you're failing at home without knowing exactly why, this conversation will hit home. It's honest, practical, and focused on helping you get aligned with the man you want to be, especially when you walk through the front door. You'll also learn how misaligned values can quietly create tension in your marriage. And why setting even three simple core values at home can shift the energy with your wife and kids. It's not about being perfect. It's about showing up with more intention and less confusion. If you're leading everywhere except at home, this is the episode to tune into. If you feel like something's missing at home but you don't know how to fix it, get access to the free training here: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. It's a simple way to start making real changes that matter.

Episode #1075 You'd think selling your business for millions would be the happiest moment of your life. But for many men, it brings something they didn't expect: confusion, disconnection, and a deep sense of loss. In this episode, Tim sits down with Bruce to talk about what really happens after the big win. They share real stories from men who've reached the top only to realize the scoreboard at home looks very different from the one at work. We dig into identity, purpose, the emotional cost of achievement, and why many men feel like frauds even after they've made it. You'll hear why the people at home don't care how big the exit was. Why being respected in the boardroom doesn't always mean being seen in your own living room. And why men often retreat back into work instead of leaning into the harder work at home. We talk about the emotional bank account and what to do when it's overdrawn. If you've ever felt like something's off even when everything looks perfect on paper, this one will hit home. If you're feeling stuck at home, like you're winning at work but failing in your relationship, start by getting clear on what's broken and how to fix it. Watch the free training here: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales

Episode #1074 What happens when success on paper doesn't match how you feel inside? In this episode, Bruce shares the quiet crisis he faced in his 40s, one that wasn't loud or obvious, but deeply personal. He opens up about the years he spent hiding behind work, accomplishments, and a polished image, while quietly carrying a weight he didn't know how to name. Through honest conversation, Bruce and Tim unpack what shame really is, how it can quietly shape your life, and why so many men struggle to talk about it. This isn't about fixing everything overnight, it's about being honest about where you are and starting to move in a better direction. You'll hear about Bruce's journey from pushing people away to finally letting himself be seen. He talks openly about what it took to stop pretending and start connecting in a real way, especially with other men. If you've ever felt like something's off, even if everything looks fine from the outside, this conversation is for you. It's real, it's grounded, and it might be the nudge you need to start showing up differently. The goal isn't perfection, it's authenticity. You don't have to do this alone. If you're ready to stop carrying it all by yourself, we put together a free training that walks you through the exact steps men are using to get unstuck and take their lives back. No pressure, no fluff. Just a clear next step. Watch the free training here: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales