Lala's old podcasts

In this episode Lala is joined by Sarah Smith and Mark Harrington from Breck Foundation. Breck Foundation was created by Breck Bednar's mother Lorin following Breck's tragic murder by the person who groomed him online. www.breckfoundation.org.uk

This podcast is sponsored by www.beducated.com - with my code: LALALA you can get 70% off the annual fee! I could not recommend them more highly. In this episode Lala is joined by ex Love Islander Kaz Crossley. Kaz is an amazing influencer who has recently fundraised to build a house for disadvantaged children in Thailand. This podcast covers dating dilemmas sent in by followers and discussions around experiencing domestic abuse.

In this episode Lala is joined by fat rights activist Danica Marjanovic (@danica_marjanovic) and Life Coach Kayleigh Dixon (@kdlifecoach) to discuss fatness and dating. We discuss questions from followers including: What is fat? Thickness is a trend but where is the line? Is the word fat OK or offensive? Is it wrong to utilise angles and lighting to hide your weight on dating apps? How do you differentiate between being someone’s type and being fetishized? The worry that they have underestimated your size in photos and how they will react in person and feeling the need to alert them to the fact that you are fat before meeting? Is it fatphobic to not find fat people attractive? How do I get rid of the feeling that I am not thin enough to be attractive to men? I internalise thoughts like ‘I can start dating again when I’ve lost a bit of weight’ Do I need to decrease my standards after gaining 15kg? Handsome men feel out of my league now. Men are definitely less interested in me now that I am larger. Lack of confidence during sex due to weight. Especially being on top.

In this episode Lala is joined by Lucy Whittaker from Alpha Vesta CIC training to discuss some less commonly spoken about aspects of domestic abuse, including spiritual abuse, pet abuse, BDSM and abuse, and employer's responsibilities for training and supporting staff.

In this episode Lala is joined by author and founder of the Everyday Sexism Project Laura Bates to answer questions sent in by followers including, how can we change the minds of misogynistic men in our lives, how can we educate the young men in our lives, how to spot a fake feminist man, how to deal with sexism in the workplace, how can we shift the negative perceptions of feminism, how to keep the faith in good men existing......and much more.

This week Lala is joined by US based singer, dancer, and actress Mila Jam to answer questions sent in by followers including, how to stay authentic in a world full of fakes, dating as a trans woman, dealing with bullying at school and trolls online, dismantling the patriarchy and much more.

In this episode, Lala is joined by Kate Sanger from Jo's Cervical Cancer Trust to discuss HPV. There is so much confusion around the subject of HPV so we have answered followers questions to try to give more clarity on the issue.

In this week's episode Lala is joined by the amazing Lemar! Lemar rose to fame after staring in BBC's Fame Academy and went on to release 5 platinum albums. Lemar now has his own podcast 'The Lemar Show' where he delves into the music industry highs and lows with a range of special guests. This week Lemar and Lala discuss: Adjusting to fame Gender and race equality in the music industry Can you suggest tips for approaching a guy who isn't interested What will you be telling your daughter about boys and your son about girls? I've been with my boyfriend for 10 years but we haven't met each other's families or friends because he says he isn't ready. Am I being too demanding by trying to push it? Would it matter to you if a woman had been with one of your friends before you?

This week's podcast is a dating and disability special featuring journalist and disability activist Cathy who has dwarfism(Insta @thatsinglemum) and podcaster Joy who has visual impairment (@joysworldthepodcast). In this podcast we discuss questions sent in by followers on the topic of disability and how that impacts on dating. Including: I have an invisible disability. When is the right time to bring it up when dating, and how? How do you calm anxiety when dating? How do you have conversations with disabled people, about their disability without being offensive? What should we not say to disabled people? Ableism is so rife. Can we discuss people feeling sorry for disabled people, and how they think we are sexless? Is fetishization a fear of yours? Is there anything that a person could do to allay those fears when starting a relationship with a person with a disability? How do you date as a single mum? Men always ask to come over when my child is asleep and I get called boring if I say no. I don’t get a lot of free time so it’s hard to navigate.

For this episode Lala was joined Robin and Claire, two ex child abuse investigation detectives who are experts in the field of child safeguarding to discuss child sexual exploitation and sexual abuse. Robin Watts is a specialist trainer and you can hire him to deliver training to your organisation www.rawtrainingltd.com This podcast will give you the tools to understand how to protect your own children and children around you. I just listened back to it and I thought that there were a few bits that we missed out so I wanted to add them here.⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ If you suspect that a child has been the victim of sexual abuse do not ask leading questions. If it's proven that you asked leading questions it can impact the outcome in court. So don't ask "Did Daddy touch you?" ask "Can you tell me what happened with Daddy?"⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ Have professional curiosity. If your gut tells you that something is wrong then hang on to that. Keep that child on your radar. Talk to other professionals in that child's life. Try to connect the dots. If a child is acting out and behaving in ways that make you dislike them then make an even bigger commitment to show up for that child. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ Sometimes victims become abusers, but that doesn't take away from their abuse. For example, sometimes gangs do 'line ups' where they will have one girl in a room who has to have sex with a line of boys. We might look at all of those boys as abusers, but a 13 year old boy who is forced to lose his 'virginity' in this way in a room full of his friends is also experiencing trauma. Sometimes female victims of CSE recruit friends for abuse, again, we need to see the bigger picture. They are all victims. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ When talking to victims of CSE we need to be careful about the language we use about the perpetrator. Calling him a disgusting piece of shit and saying he doesn't love you might be true, but the child has been groomed and feels loved. It might make them feel more defensive and less likely to listen. If you are a health care professional look for signs such as frequent hospital attendances. Ensure that you speak to the patient alone, if their boyfriend/girlfriend/alleged relative is always with them, then find a way to see them alone. If you need to report then contact the police or the children's service based in the area where the child lives. Google the child's local authority. Even if you don't have a lot of evidence it is still worth having a chat with a social worker. You can report anonymously to NSPCC too.

In this podcast Lala is joined by Eve from the We Can't Consent To This campaign @wecantconsentto. They are campaigning for the law to be changed so that the rough sex defence can no longer be used to get lighter sentences when women are murdered and seriously harmed. They are also campaigning for choking. spitting and hurting women during sex to not be normalised in popular culture. This podcast includes graphic discussion about rough sex, murder and rape, but we also hope that it is an empowering conversation that will help women to feel more confident about expressing their needs in the bedroom and that will also inspire listeners to fight for change.

In this episode Lala is joined by Actor and Writer @t1official and self proclaimed 'Dating adviser' @thewayofthealpha_ This podcast features lots of shouting, interrupting and going round in frustrating circles. It's interesting but very jarring so be prepared for it's annoyingness.

In this episode Lala is joined by sexual harassment lawyer Deeba Syed from The Rights Of Women to discuss sexual harassment in the workplace. We answer questions from followers including: Can you report bullying/non-sexual harassment years after you have left the job? My boss has made several comments about me probably getting pregnant in the future during meetings. I feel uncomfortable with this. Do I have the right to be? My senior boss at work said that my Insta posts were too saucy and that men will start assuming that on my days off I get up to a certain kind of thing and that I should avoid bikini pics . What could I have done in this situation? I didn’t report it as I was scared of repercussions. What can you do if it’s a co-worker but if it’s outside of work? What do you do if there is no HR department at work? One guy from work gets handsy (arm around back or hand on knee) with females at the Christmas party every year. Everyone knows about it and even warn newer female employees to watch out for him but no one will do a single thing to stop him or even speak on his behaviour. He has never touched me or actually assaulted anyone else but is there anything I can do to make it stop? Is it sexual harassment if someone asks you out at work? My manager is a narcissist and now someone is leaving because of him. How do I deal with him? What is your advice to people who don’t think that they will be believed? I work in a male dominated environment – they have never been directly nasty with me but I hear the way that they speak about other women. They will talk about women they have slept with in really nasty ways and they often make sexualised comments about female customers. Do I have the right to say something even if it’s not directed at me? How do you deal with little ‘banter’ comments. For example – my manager spilt a bit of water on my foot and said ‘Sorry did I get you wet?” I knew what he meant but I know that if I had complained he would have been able to justify it because technically he did get me wet. How do we deal with things like that?

In this episode Lala is joined by @natashakbenjamin from the wonderful charity Free Your Mind @Freeyourmindcic. Natasha is an abuse survivor who now provides therapy to children who have suffered parental violence. Natasha's vital work with children has earned her the title of Lorraine Kelly's Woman Of The Year 2019. In this episode we answer questions from followers including: Can you ever fully recover from witnessing abuse in childhood? How does DV in childhood impact on us as adults? How do we spot the signs that a child is living in a violent household? How do we speak to children about abuse? And much much more! Please follow on your preferred platform, like, comment, and share if you enjoy x

For this episode, we are looking at controlling and abusive relationships. Domestic abuse is often hidden behind closed doors, but for this episode we are joined by the charity Women’s Aid to bring it out into the open. We are joined by Sian Hawkins, Head of Campaigns and Public Affairs at Women’s Aid and Alex, a support worker on the National Domestic Violence Helpline which the charity runs in partnership with Refuge. Just to clarify, the charity does not endorse any products featured on this podcast or the podcast’s sponsors. In this episode we discuss Lala's followers topics including: What are the red flags for an abuser? How do you move on from someone who won't let you go? I am struggling with different information from social services and housing about what my rights are? My partner hurts me but I am dependent on him financially and emotionally. Do perpetrators programmes work? My friend is in a violent relationship, how can I make her leave him? My violent ex has a new girlfriend - should I warn her about him? I miss my abuser even though things were awful when I was with him. How do I handle mutual friends and family who have been charmed by the abuser and victim blame? Can an abuser change without professional help? My ex always put me down, how can I stop his words ringing through my head now I'm dating again? How do you help children who have witnessed DV? I have had 3 abusive partners - how do I break the cycle? What legal support is available? Why do survivors stay for so long? How can you ever trust anyone again after an abusive relationship? If a guy is really jealous and wants to control your every move is that domestic violence? Is it abuse if it is physical but non-serious like slapping, pushing, grabbing etc? Is it normal to suffer from PTSD after an abusive relationship? I am scared to leave my abusive partner because he has threatened to commit suicide if I do. And much more!!

This week Lala is joined by comedian and presenter Cassandra Maria and 3 shots of Tequila podcaster and promoter Tazer Black to answer questions sent in by followers including: Do you think we should stop listening to R Kelly’s music because of his behaviour? Should a man always pay on the first date and if he doesn’t does that mean he’s not interested? I’ve been seeing a guy for a few weeks now, he’s REALLY nice, he’s literally everything I’m looking for in a man, the nicest guy I’ve ever met. He told me the other day that he’s not ready for a relationship right now but wants to continue seeing me and getting to know me and hopes it will blossom into a relationship in the future. I’m confused, do you think I should keep seeing him? How can you tell a man that he doesn’t make you cum without hurting his feelings? Where are all the men? Where is a good place to meet single men outside of dating apps? My boyfriend wanks every morning while I’m in bed, even after sex the night before. Is this normal? I went on a date with a guy, it went well. We spoke again after the date about meeting up and he said ‘It’s my turn to buy the round next time” and now he just won’t reply. Why is he doing this? Are there any men out there who don’t get violent when they are stressed? This podcast is brought to you in collaboration with www.thesway.co.uk themed pleasure packages.

This week Lala is joined by Dan Mosaku @danagram_ from Channel 4's reality show The Circle and Gamer, presenter and Youtuber @elzthewitch to answer questions from followers including: Is it OK to date someone my ex friend dated 3 years ago? I see a guy on the train all the time on my way to college and we always make eye contact. I've recently seen that he has got a girlfriend, do I leave it alone or pursue it? Why do fuckboys say they don't want you but keep contacting you periodically? Is it true that men can stop themselves from cumming to quickly if they train their brain? Why don't men take condom usage seriously? If you invite a man over to hang does he automatically assume it means sex? Do men care what their friends think of their partners? If you get the ick can you un-ick? And much more....This podcast has been bought to you in collaboration with The Sway subscription pleasure package www.thesway.club

This podcast comes to you in collaboration with www.thesway.co.uk - Themed Pleasure packages, products and prompts for you and your partner, check them out to ignite a bit of new passion into your bedroom! In today's episode we answer the following questions sent in by followers - should dick pics be illegal? Due to a bi-polar disorder I had manic phases as a teen and slept with a very large number of people, will any man ever take me seriously? I work in porn and webcamming - how can I tell future partners what I do? What are you limits, what have you said no to? Best sex tips? Do you family and friends know what you do? How do I bring up with my partner that I want to be a lifestyle dominatrix? What do you do if you find a client really unattractive? Have you ever had any frightening experiences? Do you enjoy sex for work as much as you enjoy sex in your personal life?

This week Lala is joined by sex and relationship therapist Dr Karen Gurney (Instagram: @thesexdoctor) to answer questions sent in by followers - unfortunately due to having to edit out the third guest this podcast does sound a bit weird at times and some bits don't make sense at all so keep that in mind when listening!! In this episode we discuss - whether a spark is needed to keep a relationship alive, monogamy and whether it works, porn and it's impact on young people and sex, the female orgasm gap, vaginismus, myths around labia size and shape, and why some people can only orgasm when they are in one particular position! Enjoy! And Please rate and review if you do!

This week Lalaletmexexplain is joined by Radio presenter @elzthewitch and Vlogger @vanillatrilla to answer questions and topics sent in by followers, including - do women care if men are dating multiple people at once, advice on writing a dating profile bio, how to feel confident wearing sexy lingerie if you are not body confident, what to do if your partner lied about being tested and then gave you an infection, is it worth talking to a guy in prison, how do you not take ghosting personally, and am I paranoid for being suspicious about my partner's facebook activity. Enjoy!