The Nurturing Father's Podcast

Mark and Corey discuss Kobe’s legacy and the special connection he had with his daughter, Gianna.

001: Welcome to The Nurturing Father’s Podcast   In this debut episode of The Nurturing Father’s Podcast, hosts Mark and Corey Perlman introduce themselves and The Nurturing Father’s Program. As well as what topics they plan to cover throughout the podcast and discuss what it means to be a nurturing father.   Highlights   Introduction to podcast and the hosts Creating the Nurturing Father’s Program What made Mark re-evaluate himself as a father Differences of parenting culture between the 1970’s and now What to expect from this podcast   Resources   Nurturing Father's Program Website Mark Perlman Bio Corey Perlman Bio Nurturing Father's Program on Facebook

002: Fathering History and Breaking the Cycle   Mark and Corey discuss the impact of how your father can influence the way you are as a father and how you should break the cycle of bad parenting. Corey also shares his own reflection of Mark as his father.   Episode Highlights   We tend to parent how we were raised Reflecting on your father When in doubt, play The simple things tend to stick the most with your kids Breaking the cycle of bad parenting

003: Men and Feelings   Mark and Corey talk about expressing feelings and the roadblocks of culture and stereotypes of men expressing their feelings. They share some examples of when they were challenged with having to confront certain feelings and the effects of how you confront those feelings can have on your children.   Episode Highlights   The issue around men and feelings Negative effects of removing yourself from natural emotions Practicing emotions Handling emotions with your children Feelings don’t need to be fixed Benefits of showing emotions

004: Men and Power   Mark and Corey talk about the effects of how you enforce your power as a parent and a spouse. They state the differences between a power over and power to approach toward discipline enforcement and setting an example for your children   Episode Highlights   Bringing home the military authority approach Who’s the loser in the situation? Power over… vs. Power to… Leaving the choice of consequence to your child Setting the roots to your child’s ‘decision-making tree’ Ways to make a power to… approach easier

005: Discipline and Team Sports   In this episode, Mark and Corey talk about what many aspects of The Nurturing Father’s Program revolve around, and that is discipline. They share with you some of the best practices of effective and positive discipline and break it down to what it discipline really means.   Episode Highlights   Origins of the word ‘discipline’ Sports, coaches, and discipline Rules The importance of consistency Encouraging what you want to see How quality connection is key When to provide grace

006: Intentional Attention   In this episode, Mark and Corey ask us a very important question: how much energy are you putting towards positive reinforcement? When your child does something right, are you giving them as much of your attention as you would if they did something wrong? Mark and Corey go through some of the best practices of intentionally giving your child one-on-one attention and the many positive effects it could have on your child.   Episode Highlights   We’re more likely to see what we pay more attention to Acting up to get your attention Best practices to providing intentional attention

007 Part One: Deconstructing Discipline   In this episode, Mark and Corey break down the concept of discipline in detail. They also discuss the best ways to provide the most positive and impactful influence through discipline.   Episode Highlights   Origin of the word discipline What empowers a child Handling your emotions when enforcing discipline Placing the responsibility on your children and their actions When it is best to enforce discipline

007 Part Two: Case Study: No Pow Pows w/ Special Guest: Reginald Dixon   Mark and Corey bring on their first guest on The Nurturing Father’s Podcast to discuss his experience with The Nurturing Father’s Program and how it has affected him both as a father and husband.   Episode Highlights   Reggie’s upbringing and how it affected his view of his parents How The Nurturing Father’s Program affected him as a father and husband.

Mark and Corey are joined by keynote speaker and author Alan Stein Jr. to talk about his experience in going through a divorce with his three children. They touch on handling the relationship with your separating spouse, managing your time to determine custody, and the impact a divorce can have on your children.   Episode Highlights   Setting an example by how you treat your spouse/co-parent Alan as a divorced parent and professional speaker What made Alan’s divorce more amicable and easier There is no normal situation Presenting the decision of divorce to your children Dating after a divorce Maintaining a bond with your children The benefits of seeking professional help   Links and Resources   Alan's Website

009: Staying Connected With Your Kids Through Divorce   Mark and Corey continue the discussion of going through a divorce as a dad by offering their respective points of view as a father and a son during Mark’s divorce. They also discuss the steps that you could take as a parent to not only maintain but improve your relationship with your children while running into emotional roadblocks when experiencing the separation process, logistics, and moving on to new spouses.   Episode Highlights   How divorce has changed in today’s culture Mark’s primary goals for his kids when going through a divorce Choosing to stay near your children or moving away Being physically and emotionally present to answer questions Negating the other parent Creating rituals with your children Dealing with new spouses and becoming a step-parent Time Heals

Corey talks to Mark about the importance and benefits of being a part of a consistent social community. Mark shares his experience in being a part of his own group for three decades.   Episode Highlights   Why it is important to be a part of a community Differences between facilitated and unfacilitated groups Benefits of being in a consistent group for a long period of time Selecting your members Choosing content to discuss Outcomes of participating in a group Doing socials with a group Qualities to look for when starting your own group

In this episode of The Nurturing Father's Podcast, Mark and Corey focus on being a father to daughters and how it can differ from being a father to a son. Corey shares some examples and experiences of being a father to his daughter.   In This Episode, You’ll Learn…   How a relationship with your spouse and other women play a role Creating the Nurturing Father’s Program Establishing equal respect Differing 'currencies' between sons and daughters Resolving conflicts Corey's rituals with his daughter

Mark and Corey discuss their experiences in raising sons and setting an example in dealing with emotions, expressing themselves, showing respect, and much more!   Episode Highlights   Discipline with your son Modeling your emotions Honoring your relationships in life Showing respect to their mother Playing with your son The difference in physicality between raising a son and a daughter

Mark and Corey are joined on the podcast by Haji Shearer, a facilitator of other men’s groups as well as a participant of the Nurturing Father’s Program! They break down the concept of fathering bias and discuss the continued evolution of breaking away from the parenting stereotypes as a father and connecting with your own emotions.   Episode Highlights   Haji’s background and how he became involved with the Nurturing Father’s Program The concept of fathering bias Training yourself to connect with your emotions Stereotypes of dads being a secondary parent

The discussion of fathering bias continues with Mark and Corey Perlman and Haji Shearer. They also talk about their respective facilitation roles within their own groups and how the Nurturing Fathers Program became a self-facilitated group. Haji also shares a couple of fond stories from his experience in working with these men’s groups!   Episode Highlights   How the Nurturing Father’s Program became self-facilitated Creating the Brother’s Healing Circle group Writing a book Some of Haji’s fond memories with the Nurturing Father’s Program

In this episode of The Nurturing Father's Podcast, Mark and Corey talk about the balance of fatherhood and work. They share some of the ways they have made time for being a father while maintaining the needs of their careers and the positive effect it could have on children from just being present!   In This Episode, You’ll Learn…   How work can get in the way of being a father Mark’s experience with his father working long hours There is no right or wrong way to be a present dad Writing a ‘job description’ to be the father you want for your children How Corey handles being a working father and often traveling Making ‘non-negotiables’ Avoiding ‘distracted time’ Positive Parenting Curriculum

In this episode of The Nurturing Father's Podcast, Mark and Corey talk about the importance of establishing and maintaining rituals when raising children, especially during the holidays!   In This Episode, You’ll Learn…   Why rituals are important to your children Some of Mark and Corey’s family rituals The impact of family rituals on Corey  

The guys discuss their special connection with the woods and the many benefits getting out in nature can have on the father/child bond.

Broken down to “zero” by a childhood of abuse and abandonment, Joe Johnson tells a powerful story of finding his passion and purpose.  He now devotes his life and work to helping men become Nurturing Fathers, and, in doing so, he himself has become a “ten”, a Hope Dealer.