20 THINGS ADOPTION PODCAST with Sherrie Eldridge

<p>Many adoptive, foster, stepmoms, and grandmothers are suffering in silence. No one in the world of adoption is giving them the tools for recovery. No one is teaching them how to handle adoptee pushback and rejection. No one is wrapping arms around them and praying when all they can do is cry.</p><p><br /></p><p><b>When moms realize the unknown depth of their child’s trauma, a common reaction is self-doubt. If she doesn’t know what happened, how can she find words to help her child process it? It’s terrifying, like climbing Everest without ropes.</b></p><p><br /></p><p><b>She's so self-doubting that she almost always concludes that she doesn't have what it takes to parent her child. Truth be known, she looks over the cliffs of depression more times than she'd care to admit.</b></p><ul><li><b>I’m a loser mom.</b></li><li><b>I can’t self-regulate, let alone teach my child to do the same.</b></li><li><b>I can’t attach with my child...and I never will have it.</b></li><li><b>I am inept as a mom.</b></li><li><b>I can’t even decide whether to have a peanut butter sandwich.</b></li><li><b>I’m a mess.</b></li><li><b>I don’t have what it takes.</b></li><li><b>I’m a lousy mom.</b></li><li><b>I hate myself.</b></li><li><b>I’ll never be able to meet my child’s need for mothering.</b></li></ul><p> </p><p>The good news is that the dream can be reshaped, and in that painful space, God does His most sacred work by meeting us in our brokenness, holding our hearts, and gently replanting hope.</p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p> </p><p><br /><br /></p><p>Stay tuned for upcoming podcasts and updates about my upcoming book. </p>

Author Karen Springs Encourages Parents Who Adopted Children Internationally

Send us a text Karen Springs provides cutting-edge research about how adoptive families wit kids adopted from overseas have progressed. In her new book—THE BACKSEAT OF ADOPTION, she shares How the families she worked with in Europe are currently progressing. Are the children thriving? Are the parents thriving?What are the joys of parenting?What are common obstacles?How many children are searching for their roots?Are the parents involved in their adult children’s lives? All R...

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Adoptee Julie Ryan McGue's Search for Origins

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Navigating Adoptee Birthdays

Send us a text Hi, my friends. Well, we're going to visit the subject of adoptee birthdays again today. I just recently had one. I'm well into my seventh decade of life, and I look back and I realize that there are so many things that I couldn't say or explain. About adoptee birthdays in my younger years, but I'd just kinda like to share with you the new thoughts that I have about birthdays so that maybe the whole triad adoptees, my fellow adoptees, birth parents, adoptive parents, foster par...

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Sherrie Encourages Younger Fellow-Adopted Children

Send us a text Sometimes, adopted children get discouraged about numerous meltdowns and need encouragement from someone who's been there--author Sherrie Eldridge. Eldridge crafted this short message just for the children by sharing the reason for meltdowns, which is trauma. Children are taught that because of the repercussions of trauma, oftentimes love from others and from God doesn’t translate as love. Eldridge shares several personal examples and encourages children to: 1...

07-18
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Dafna Lender LCSW, Describes Adoptee Loss

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Ron Nydam Ph.D. Revisits Adoption and Relinquishment

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03-09
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Derek Clark Urges Fostered Teens to Never Give Up

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One Mom's Story about Adopting Internationally

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The Trauma Wound of Adoptive and Foster Moms

Send us a text Not only must adoptive and foster moms understand the depth of their child’s pre-adoption pain, but also their own trauma wound. “What wound?” they may say. “My child is the one with the deep wound, not me. Don’t be ridiculous.” Adoptive moms may be offended or defensive when told they have a trauma wound. Adoptive mom says—I think many people can experience defensiveness or protectiveness about our woundedness. To be comfortable disclosing ourselves authentically require...

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Adopted Kids May See Adoptive Mom As An Enemy

Send us a text Sometimes, adopted kids see their adoptive moms as an enemy. Does that mean there's something wrong with them? Bad genes? Bad character? A million times, no! Adoptees have been deeply wounded, first through the loss of their first mothers, and second, by being placed into the arms of strangers. Learn four reasons adoptees see their moms like this and what moms can do to gain hope and endurance. All Rights Reserved. @sherrieeldridge

08-03
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What Kind of Love Adoptees Really Need

Send us a text This podcast reveals how adoption's parent/child relationships oftentimes become strained and explains that the strain is not the fault of parent nor child. Five adoptive moms give real-life examples of strain. Sherrie Eldridge reveals the greatest gift parents can give their kids in every situation--the gift of a non-abandoning heart. The pre-requisite to a non-abandoning heart is "risky love"--choosing to remain in the meltdown with the child, trace current-day strain ...

06-28
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Preparing for Adoptee Push Back

Send us a text Relationships between adoptive moms and their kids will involve more stress than bio kids and parents. If an adoptive mother isn't educated about this reality, she may conclude that her parenting is inferior--"I thought it was me and my inability to nurture and support them properly." Sherrie Eldridge proposes a bootcamp within her new book that would prepare parents well. As a result, they won't enter the battlefields without being seasoned warriors. The first step is to lear...

05-12
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The Dance of Adoption

Send us a text There are many adoptive parents whose adopted children can't receive their love. If we liken it to a dance, the adopted child may delight in stepping on the parent's toes. Sherrie Eldridge explains why this happens from an adoptee perspective, as well as sharing adoptive parent thoughts about the rejection they experience. Hopefully, parents will come away with new ideas about how to dance effectively with their adopted children. All Rights Reserved. @sherrieeldridge

01-13
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Junk Transforms to Treasure

Send us a text Podcast #2 Many adoptees and foster children haven't been told that it's possible to find freedom from their painful past. Sherrie reviews the literature that's been available, especially that of Nancy Verrier's THE PRIMAL WOUND. The case is made that in physical healing, validation of the wound is just the beginning. Most adoptees want more--more growth, more steps to take toward freedom, and more self-worth. Sherrie shares her story of how this reality transpired in her life....

09-08
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Good News for the World of Adoption!

Send us a text Sherrie Eldridge introduces herself as a veteran adoptee and adoption author, but enthusiastically invites adoptive, birth, foster, step parents and her fellow adoptees to join her in discovering wonderful new research and experience in the world of adoption: 1. The child's brain records parental acts of love even though child's level of receptivity is low. 2. Parents can be assured through brain research that their acts of love won't be forgotten. 3. Adoptees can be free from...

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Praying for the Wounded Child: A Conversation with Virginia Wells

Send us a text In this episode, we sit down with Virginia Wells—author, licensed social worker, and adoptive mom—to explore the intersection of faith, adoption, and healing. Virginia shares wisdom from her powerful book Praying for a Wounded Child, offering real-life encouragement and deeply spiritual insights for parents navigating trauma, loss, and complex family journeys. Through personal stories, scriptural guidance, and practical tools like journaling and prayer, Virginia invites us to e...

06-22
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Speaking the Heart Language of Adopted and Foster Children

Send us a text In this heartfelt episode, adoption author Sherrie Eldridge shares deeply personal insights and practical advice for adoptive and foster parents seeking to connect with their children truly. Drawing from her book 20 Things Adoptive Parents Need to Succeed, Sherrie explores how well-intentioned words can be misinterpreted by adopted children—and offers better ways to communicate that honor both the child and their birth family. From reframing statements like “You were chosen” to...

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Becoming Yourself in the Middle of Motherhood with Emma Fulenwider

Send us a text On this episode, we sit down with Emma Fulenwider—author, literary agent, TEDx speaker, and mother navigating the complexities of modern parenting—to explore what it truly means to belong in a world full of pressure, perfectionism, and plastic toys. Emma shares her personal journey from being an "odd kid" who learned to mimic others to fit in, to rediscovering herself in her thirties by embracing authenticity. She opens up about the quiet crisis many moms face today: the loss o...

05-22
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When Love Isn’t Enough: Amy VanTine on Parenting Through RAD

Send us a text In this deeply moving episode, Sherrie Eldridge welcomes Amy Vantine, a mother, educator, and co-founder of RAD Advocates, to share her harrowing and inspiring journey of parenting a child with Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD). From her early dreams of motherhood to the trauma, confusion, and eventual heartbreak of dissolving an adoption, Amy opens up about the realities few talk about—and the healing mission she’s now embraced to support other families walking a similar path...

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Breaking the Cycle: Tova J. Kreps on Trauma, Adoption, and Building Resilient Families

Send us a text In this episode, Sherrie invites Tova J. Kreps, licensed social worker and co-founder of Wellspring Counseling, to discuss the complexities of adoption, trauma recovery, and the power of faith in navigating these challenges. Tova shares her inspiring journey, shaped by her upbringing in a missionary family, her personal experience with adoption, and her decades of professional work helping families navigate the complexities of trauma and mental health. Together, they explore th...

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