The Vegas Therapist - Ryan Wynder

In this episode I explore the idea of harmony vs authenticity. Many times in our relationships we choose to have harmony over expressing our truth. In her book, Growing Yourself Up, Jenny Brown discusses how as we mature and grow in our relationships we should move towards truth and honesty over keeping harmony. Harmony often results in suppressing our truth or eroding our boundaries we may have set. That creates fusion as opposed to differentiation of self. According to Bowen Family Systems Theory, differentiation should be our goal.Enjoy this short but thought provoking episode: Are you someone that chooses Harmony or do you push through discomfort and choose authenticity.For about me visit my website www.ryanwynder.com You can also email me @ ryanwynder@gmail.com I am also on Instagram @thevegastherapist

In this episode, I share my experience with my second time doing a Ketamine Therapy session. For reference I utilized many of the principles found with IFS Therapy. If you are not familiar with IFS I strongly suggest it, especially if you are interested in doing Ketamine. There is a great connecting aspect to IFS and Ketamine that is very beneficial to the process.My Goal for this session and the intention I set was to work with a protective part I have that often shows up as fear and sometimes paralyzes me or keeps me from making decisions that I know I should make. It is a part that I want to explore and hopefully remove from my pattern of being. I feel like it hold me back at times when its really not needed.Get ready for a tribal council of sorts and some interesting visuals as I share my ketamine journey with you!For more info about my practice, please feel free to reach out.My Website is www.ryanwynder.com you can follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist or email me - ryanwynder@gmail.com

In this episode I reflect on my take aways from the year. The podcast journey was stunted in 2025 with only 4 episodes.. where do I go from here?Main topics - no limits, I found out this year more than ever, age is just a number. We can always be growing and getting better at whatever we put our mind to.Excited for the utilization of KAP (Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy) In my practice, I have already seen great benefits and look forward to continuing to offer this to my clients as needed.Letting go of fear and moving towards our best selves. "Everything you want is on the other side of fear!"Tackling the topic of womens health and well being - a need for awareness of growth.Finally letting go of the moral judgement of right and wrong to reduce shame and promote curiosity.Follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist or visit my website www.ryanwynder.comYou can also email me ryanwynder@gmail.com

In this Episode I discuss the begginning of my Ketamine Journey. I will do this in two parts. I want to share my experience from my first dosing session and then follow that up with my experience of my second dosing session.In addition to discussing my experience in general with ketamine, I will discuss the benefits I have seen so far. I also provide information about the science behind ketamine and the chemicals at work during and after your session.I wanted to share this experience to bring more awareness to the value ketamine assisted pyschotherapy can bring to your healing journey and help debunk some of the myths out there about the drug.One of the main points is that in doing KAP you must do the work alongside the Ketamine to get the most out of it. Ketamine in and of itself is not a magic pill we take and all our problems go away.For more info aboutme or if you want to contact me, go to my website www.ryanwynder.com, you can also follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist

In this Episode I discuss the benefits of Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy. In addition to discussing the benefits of this treatment, I also have a special guest, who is coming on to discuss their experience with Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy. Ketamine has been shown to accelerate the therapeutic process compared to traditional talk therapy. Some people have described it as taking “the express elevator." Ketamine helps uncover insights and address patterns that were previously difficult to access. The gold-standard of care within psychedelic research is that the treatment takes place within the context of psychotherapyThis can allow people to tap into deep emotions andexperiences that might be difficult to access through regular talk therapy. It has been shown to encourage neuroplasticity,which is the brain's ability to form new neural pathways. After listening if you would like to learn more, please contact me @ ryanwynder@gmail.comFor more information about me or my practice, please visit my website at www.ryanwynder.com you can also follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist

The most powerful human need is to be seen and heard. We want to know that we matter. In this episode I explore the impact of not being seen or heard in our lives. The lack of having that type of acknowledgment in our life comes with a variety of consequences, including losing trust in our inclinations and our intuitive needs. I discuss a variety a ways that we try and compensate for this in our lives. Finally, I talk about the ways we can heal this wound in our livesFor more info on me visit my website www.ryanwynder.com or follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist

Here you go! This is the latest installment of my marathon running adventures! What I learned from running my 4th Marathon in a calendar year. This one was my most successful marathon all time and I learned a lot about myself during this race and over all 4 races. Thank you to all my supporters through this last year of training, especially my running mates my son Maddux and my brother Justin.Make sure to check out my website www.ryanwynder.com for more infoHit me up if you are interested in me speaking at an event that you have coming up. Follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist

In this episode I reflect on my recent turn in decades! Living the life of a 50 year old! I present some interesting facts about being 50 and what that may look like for how you want to live the rest of your life! In a timely manner I had a listener reach out who was contemplating her own life and purpose. The following questions were asked: What happens when we realize we have not been living the life we want? How do we get the courage to change and adapt this late in life? How do we embrace the things and people we actually want in our lives and let go of those that no longer serve us.So great questions with some even better answers!For more you can vistit my website at www.ryanwynder.comFollow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist

In this episode I look at concepts that were discussed in Jonathan Haidt's recent book The Anxious Generation. There is much to digest in this book and I am only looking at one part that I feel plays a major role in the development of our kids and the keys to their well-being, mental health, and overall competence. Our kids need to face challenges, obstacles, and have the opportunity for risky play. The lack of these things in their life is creating what Haidt sees as the anxious generation. In addition to exploring the impacts of these things on our kids, I also discuss the impacts on adults. Adults need to continue to grow and push themselves to experience new things or risk facing the same anxiety crippling issues. For more you can visit my website www.ryanwynder.com You can also find my 14 Day Relationship challenge on my site.

In this episode I tackle the topic of goal setting! There are a few key parts for a new way to set goals that I address in the episode. First, there are two types of motivation, "Want-to" and "Have-to" Motivation, the type you have will influence your overall success with achieving your goals! The main part of the episode is dedicated to having goals that are centered in our values. Goals that are value based have lasting power and generates enduring motivation. A value is not something to be achieved, but is something you can only manifest by acting in accordance with it. Being "aligned" in the way we live and want to live helps to reduce pain in life. I draw from 2 articles by Mark Travers and Steven Hayes in Feb. 2023 Psychology Today as well as Steven Hayes book "A Liberated Mind" 1. Rate your Domains - Scale 1-10 (Family, Marriage/couples/intimate relations, Parenting, Friends/social life, Work, Education, Recreation/Fun, Spirituality, Physical self-care, & Art/creative expression 2. Rate your consistency in the areas above - how consistent have your actions been with your values 3.What do I care about in this area? What do I want to do in this area that reflects that caring? What can I do to manifest this value more in my life? Follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist or visit my website www.ryanwynder.com Check out my website as well for a link to my 14 Day Better Marriage Challenge!

In this episode I breakdown the life lessons I learned from running my 4th Marathon, second this year! Overall I go through 4 things I learned that are life lessons for everyone, not just runners. One of the main lessons gained from this race was the importance of purpose. Victor Frankl said, "Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose." Such an important concept for life and for running. Do you have purpose in your goals and in your life? Listen in for the other things gained from this time through the 26.2! For more visit my website www.ryanwynder.com or follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist

In this episode I tackle the dark side of meaning making. As humans we instinctively assign meaning to events or experiences we go through. Some of the info I draw from comes from Dr. Benjamin Hardy's book Personality Isn't Permanent. In the book he says "we can generate a premature cognitive commitment about ourselves" this cognitive commitment can be based on mistaken or misinformed meaning of things. Meaning that begins or helps to shape our self-image and how we see the world. Creating meaning is fundamental to who we are and who we become. As Brene Brown says, "we are meaning makers!" I also reference the Same Love by Macklemore & Ryan. How trauma leads to attaching meaning about ourselves is discussed as well. For more about me visit my website www.ryanwynder.com. You can also follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist and also visit my website for the link to my 14 Day Marriage Challenge.

In this episode I give you the break down of what I learned from running my third marathon. This was to Utah Valley Marathon that started in Provo Canyon. The Race was a challenge to say the least! I wanted to share a few the things I learned and the takeaways for life. Things around preparation, expectations, embracing obstacles, setting goals and accountability, people, and one final lesson you will have to listen for! Be sure to check out my website www.ryanwynder.com for more information about me. Also the link to my 14 Day Marriage Challenge is there.

This episode is a result of the thought I had while watching the documentary called Dynasty. It’s about the New England Patriots and in particular the focus on Bill Belichick and Tom Brady and how he came to be the Patriots quarterback. As Fate would have hit a huge hit on the starter at the time, Drew Bledsoe opened the door for Brady to get his opportunity! An opportunity he did not let go of and turned into 7 Super Bowls! It got me thinking about fate and the role it plays in our life. I share some experiences of how fate brought me to the place I am in my career. My challenge is for you to look at how fate has shown up in your life. More about me can be found on my website www.ryanwynder.com or follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist

In this episode I tackle the topic of relationships. It’s Valentines Day so I assume everyone is thinking about their relationships and how they want them to improve! With 20 years of experience in the field and seeing thousands of couples I thought to myself, I should know what are essential components to a successful relationship. Sit back, take notes and enjoy my relationship essentials and see where you can be better with your partner. From Trust to Connection I have you covered and as a special bonus I leave you with the 777 challenge. For more on me go to my website www.ryanwynder.com or follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist

In this episode I break down the concept of mental load. It refers to the invisible burden that is associated with the effort involved in managing your work, relationships, family and household. This is typically associated with woman in a relationship. There are 4 parts to the mental load: anticipate, identify, decide, and monitor. Education and awareness are key to helping to alleviate the burden of the mental load that exists in the relationship. I also share details about my own experiment of helping to alleviate the mental load in my own relationship. For more about me go to my website www.ryanwynder.com and following me on Instagram @thevegastherapist

In this episode I update everyone on what I have been up to and what things have been going on in my life since the last episode. My focus is on the value of time. As we approach this new year how do we want to utilize our time for effectively. Time is the stuff life is made of and our use of it determines many things things in our life. I leave you with 3 questions - 1. What do you want to do with this one wild and precious life. 2. How do you want to show up as a friend, partner, worker, etc. 3. What is important to you and what may be missing in your life? For more about me visit my webpage www.ryanwynder.com or following me on Instagram @thevegastherapist

In this episode Ryan dives into part 2 of 2. This episode will focus more on the Defense Mechanisms we use to keep us "safe" or to keep us feeling more hurt or pain in our lives. "Most of us do not reenact the experience of the trauma itself. Instead we act out the coping strategy (or defense mechanism) we evolved to deal with the trauma. Ryan will discuss a number of different defense mechanisms we utilize, including Terrance Real's adaptive child defense, self-abandonment, disconnection, self blame and shame, victim mentality, and the inability to receive. From this episode you will gain a better understanding of your own defense mechanisms and find out ways you can begin to move away from them and start healing. To follow Ryan on Instagram go to @thevegastherapist or visit his website www.ryanwynder.com Don't forget about his 14 Day Relationship Challenge, the link is available on his website!

In this episode Ryan breaks down the first of a two part episode. The focus for the first episode will be on Triggers. The word trigger itself has become a hot topic and according to MaryCatherine McDonald and her new book Unbroken, it has become a catchall for any occasion in which we have an emotion that is remotely unpleasant or unwanted. This misconception also leads to a misunderstanding of how we deal with triggers when they happen. We have learned to block and avoid instead of adapting and healing! There are three things to be mindful of when it comes to triggers: 1. We are always conscious of our triggers, 2. Triggers are something to be avoided at all costs, 3. Not feeling anything is a realistic goal. Ultimately when it comes to triggers they are a sign that there things that we have not yet processed. Because of that we need to pay attention to them, acknowledge them, and honor ourselves by doing the work to reduce the impact they have on us. You can follow Ryan on Instagram @thevegastherapist or go to his website www.ryanwynder.com Check out my 14 Day Relationship Challenge - link on website

Just in time for Father's Day! In this episode I sit down with David Frey, who is currently a marriage researcher and coach for men who want to be better husbands in their relationships. David himself has been married for 33 years to Ingrid Frey. They met as missionaries in Bolivia and started dating in college. They adopted two children at birth. Their names are Sterling, who is 26 and Alina, who is 21. David has worked as an executive in the business world and as a solo entrepreneur for over 23 years. David has had a genetic disease that has no cure and so he decided to set aside his business career to help men become better husbands. He’s the author of the book titled, “301 Ways to Become a High Value Husband.” Currently he is working on a new book titled - The #1 Rule for High Value Husbands. Our episode will focus on his most recent book and the number 1 rule, which is Taking Ownership - David will define what that looks like in our lives, as well as discuss what happens when men do not take ownership in their relationships. Finally, we discuss the 9 Aspects of creating an Ownership Lifestyle that will produce a more fulfilling and connected relationship with our partner and those around us. To connect with David you can find him on Facebook or Instagram @davidfrey.highvaluehusbands You can find me on my website www.ryanwynder.com or follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist Check out my 14 Day Relationship Challenge as well, the link for that is on my website.