BraveHeart with Remi Pearson (Formerly Perspectives Podcast)

Together we unpack:  - Creating your own happiness whether or not the rest of the herd chooses happiness. - How dopamine is about getting needs met and the attachment theory. - Awareness and observations around endorphins and our experiences In the podcast we explore together: 12:25 How you have to commit to creating happiness for yourself? 14:58 Why do we want dopamine and how it works for us? 19:07 How do extrinsic and intrinsic rewards work for us? 25:13 The theory of cynicism  28:14 Our oxytocin is wired by our own past experiences 40:40 What are the ways of getting serotonin? 1:01:33 How we get to self-regulation could be harmful or helpful? 1:17:35 Where there is rigidity, there is dysfunction because there is a lack of adaptability

The Art of “Change” Follow @remi.sharon.pearson and @katymilkman and head to the episode on remipearson.com/podcast for more. “The secret to a better life is not to eradicate the impulses that make us human but instead to understand them, outsmart them and wherever possible to make them work for us but against us.” The most important thing to do when we try to achieve our goal is to first to step back and ask ourselves; what are the obstacles that could prevent success and then designing our strategy, ‘strategically’ and not just shortcut our way through it. “Why do we take shortcuts on the things that matter to us?” Have you ever thought about this? Let me know in the comments below!

Joining me on this episode of the Braveheart podcast is author, podcaster, and life and relationship coach Bryan Reeves who has written the book, Choose Her Every Day or Leave Her.If you are someone who is looking to make some sense of the senselessness in your relationship then you would want to watch this episode. Together we unpack...How we can heal and unlearn how we have been taught to suppress emotions in our relationships.The differences in needs between masculine and feminine energies and how this impacts relationships.How to make your partner feel safe and connected through the see, stop, soothe model. In the podcast we explore together:13:00 ‘Boys Don’t Cry’ How we Have Been Taught to Suppress our Emotions from a Young Age17:30 Validating Feminine Energy24:00 Invitation Versus Obligation in Relationships 32:50 What Helps us Feel Safe or Not Feel Safe in Relationships42:50 Getting Out of Our Heads and Into our Bodies50:50 Learning and Earning Relationship Skills54:50 Language Needles1:00:50 The See Solve, See-Saw of Insanity1:04:00 Masculine Energy 1:11:00 Women Do Not Need to Shrink Themselves to Accommodate Their Partner1:17:50 The Three Stages of Love1:30:00 Pathways to Healing CONNECT WITH RemiFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/Remi.Sharon.Pearson/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/remi.sharon.pearson/Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/remi-sharon-pearson/Website: https://www.remipearson.com/Twitter:https://twitter.com/remi_pearsonYoutube: https://www.youtube.com/c/RemiSharonPearson Resources: · Upcoming Events at The International Coaching Institute www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/trainings· Phone The Coaching Institute - 1800 094 927 · Feedback/Reviews/Suggest a topic be discussed - askme@remipearson.com Follow The Coaching Institute:Website: https://www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au

“I will be happy when…” Repeat after @DrJulie “There is no on/off switch for your emotions. The things you do or you don’t do for yourself is a way you can shift your emotional state” Joining me on the Braveheart podcast, Julie is a clinical psychologist with a decade of experience in supporting the community around mental health and cognitive behavior therapy on social media! (As her book is published in over 30 different languages the book has traveled more than she has! How cool is that?) If you’re someone who wants to take even a mini-step towards self-compassion then you would want to watch this episode and learn from one of the best! Subscribe to🎙️#Bravheart podcast for more and share your thoughts on this one with me below! #remipearson #braveheart #podcast #podcaster #juliesmith #mentalhealth #values #ultimateyou #depression #anxiety #selfcare #psychology #selfhelp #selfcare #therapy #therapist #strongerthanyouthink #recoveryispossible #grief #healing #selfhealers #selfhealing #psychologist #itsokaynottobeokay #itsoknottobeok #ptsd #trauma #traumarecovery #traumahealing

Matthew Fray, author of "This Is How Your Marriage Ends", dissects his marriage breakdown and the micro moments that leads to divorce.Matthew and I discuss the ways we show up for our significant other and how we can provide safety and security for them in our relationships, and moreover how to grow into better people and partners for them now and throughout the turmoil of life. I would love to know your thoughts…You can also go tohttps://www.remipearson.com/ or listen to Perspectives podcast on Spotify or Apple Podcast for the full episode.Subscribe to Perspectives: https://tci.rocks/youtube/remi-pearson Other Ways We Can Connect:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Remi.Sharon.PearsonInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/remi.sharon.pearsonLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/remi-sharon.pearsonTwitter: https://twitter.com/remi_pearson  

Tell me if you relate... So many people have a false sense of what loyalty is. We define it as loyalty to others, or loyalty to a situation, but we never talk about loyalty to ourselves... David Richo shared in this deeply vulnerable and powerful episode of #perspectivespodcast, loyalty to ourselves is asking... “Can I remain stable and be myself in this situation, or do I have to ‘pretzel’ and make myself fit into something that is ultimately dissatisfying?” And we’re so used to being dissatisfied, that it often seems selfish to demand satisfaction... What’s your take? Have you ever made the decision to NOT ‘pretzel’ and instead stayed true to yourself? Is doing so “selfish”? Or is it #bravehearted? Comment your #perspective and join us for the deep dive on the Perspectives Podcast ❤️ #remipearson #loyal #truth #davidricho #podcast #podcaster #inspiration #affirmation #mindset #internationalcoachinginstitute #ultimateyou #mindsetmatters #inspirationalquotes #entrepreneur #youareworthit #liveyourdream

Join me on this spectacular episode of the #Perspectives podcast with Dr. Shefali Tsabury as we sit down for a conversation about conscious parenting. We filter through the hierarchical narrative that tends to exist in most homes these days encompassing the traditional top-down approach, and why there is an importance in questioning this. Together we unpack:- What conscious parenting is- The power of taking responsibility for your own relationship with parenting - The different narratives that are available to us if we choose for them to be In the podcast we explore together:05.19 How We Start Our Parenting Journey10.45 How Do We Become Aware of our Egoic Behaviours?14.46 The Point of Conscious Parenting18.05 The Dominant Narrative of Hierarchical Parenting28.08 Embracing a New Narrative32.31 Acknowledging your Inner Child35:56 Creating Less Reactivity Dr Shefali Tsabury's Australian Tour: Perth – Sunday 24th April 2022, 10:00am – 2:00pm AWST BelleVue Ballroom – 21 Mounts Bay Road, Perth WA Adelaide –  Tuesday 26th April 2022, 10:00am – 2:00pm ACST Adelaide Town Hall – 128 King William Street, Adelaide SA Brisbane –  Thursday 28th April 2022, 10:00am – 2:00pm AEST City Hall, 64 Adelaide Street, Brisbane City QLD Sydney – Saturday 30th April 2022, 10:00am – 2:00pm AEST ICG Sydney – 14 Darling Drive, Sydney NSW Melbourne – Tuesday 3rd May 2022, 10:00am – 2:00pm AEST Melbourne Convention and Exhibition Centre (MCEC) – 1 Convention Centre Place, South Wharf VIC  Dr Shefali Tsabury's New Zealand Tour: Auckland, NZ - Wednesday 6th May 2022, 10:00am - 2:00pm NZST Life Venues Auckland 25 Normanby Road, Auckland 1024 

Wow! I love that I get to share this with you... It is all about diving into being #present, being present in the moment and being present to you… As a #coach we need to tolerate our whole person, there is nothing in us to reject, suppress or deny. #Healing is integration. #Wholeness isn’t “I’m fixed” it’s #acceptance of WHAT IS. We #accept it compassionately and sit with it. Your fear isn’t going anywhere, you can’t simply outrun it or get rid of it. #Accept what it is. Sit with it. Feel it. Breathe through the #emotions that come up. Have a go at this... bring compassion to your #emotions Let me know how you go? You can also go to https://www.remipearson.com/or listen to Perspectives podcast on Spotify or Apple Podcast for the full episode. Subscribe to Perspectives: https://tci.rocks/youtube/remi-pearson Connect With Me On Socials: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Remi.Sharon.Pearson Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/remi.sharon.pearson/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/remi-sharon-pearson/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/remi_pearson #remipearson #perspectives #coach #coaching #coachescoach #lifecoach #lifecoaching #positivity #positivemindset #mentalstrength #motivationeveryday #successhabits #growthmindset #goalsetting #progressnotperfection #productivity #breakthrough #mindsetmatters

How To Do Million Dollar Launches in the First Hour with Jeff Walker Join me on my #Perspectives podcast with Jeff Walker; the author of the number-one New York Times bestseller 'Launch'. He has coached and mentored big names such as Bill Glazer, Dan Kennedy, Dean Graziosi, Tony Robbins, Greg Clement. He's had amazing success in the world of launch marketing and fortunately for us, he explains how. We discuss: - How to make an Impact - Product Launch Formula (PLF) - Psychology of Marketing - Wave of Familiarity Throughout the conversation with Jeff, I spoke of the impact his Product Launch Formula (PLF) had on me, finding him in 2005 and all the way till now, implementing his strategies into our own business every single day. We discussed our customer bases and how for us they go beyond selling. Found more impactful when becoming a strong meaningful relationship, connecting on a deeper level. Overall leading to the amazing 97% retention of over 3 years we've been able to have for the past 15 years. Delving into one of my favorite areas of business in the psychology of marketing and how it is targeted in his Product Launch Formula, I give him feedback and address an additional trigger to add to his list. We explore his approach to launch marketing and the 'Gentle Ocean Wave of Familiarity'. What happens next is a thorough breakdown of his step-by-step process to launch marketing on whatever the scale of your business. Finally, Jeff shared some tips on how to implement his Product Launch Formula into your own business to conclude our in-depth launch marketing focussed conversation. You can check it out below :) In the podcast we explore together: 3.06 'Launch' and the PLF System 6.57 How to Make an Impact 14.43 Connecting with the customer on a deeper level 28.25 Psychology of Marketing 33.35 Insane Success Story: Student Anne 51.21 Gentle Ocean Wave of Familiarity 56.59 Three Primary Launches 1:14:45 Jeff's Success Story For more information about Jeff Walker, check out: Website: https://jeffwalker.com/ Book: https://jeffwalker.com/programs/book-launch/ CONNECT WITH Remi Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Remi.Sharon.Pearson/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/remi.sharon.pearson/ Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sharonpearsontcicoach/ Website: https://www.sharonpearson.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Sharon_Pearson_ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC7zP_SmBHzsZG8lmInQBgHQ Resources: · Order Ultimate You Book: https://tci.rocks/order-ultimate-you · Upcoming Events at The Coaching Institute - www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/trainings · Phone The Coaching Institute - 1800 094 927 · Feedback/Reviews/Suggest a topics be discussed - perspectives@sharonpearson.com Follow The Coaching Institute: Website: https://www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au

Cosmic Insignificance with Oliver Burkeman  In the podcast we explore together:3.52 Four Thousand Weeks 9.10 Time is a Tricky Master 20.37 Dealing with Distractions 27.35 Compassion to Ourselves 38.44 Experience Moments vs Remembered Experiences 48.22 Cosmic Insignificance   Join me on my #Perspectives podcast with Oliver Burkeman; the author of the book '4 Thousand Weeks'. He has won the FPA's Science Story of the Year for a piece on the mystery of consciousness as well as the Foreign Press Association's Young Journalist of the Year award.We discuss: - Time as a Tricky Master- Dealing with Distractions- Cosmic Insignificance  Throughout the entirety of the conversation with Oliver we spoke about the relationship we all share with time. His book, '4 Thousand Weeks' speaks of the ways in which we spend our 4 thousand weeks; the average human life span.  I shared with Oliver an instance when I attempted to be present to the creative process and not the outcome. Throughout the exercise I counted a couple hundred distractions within a 3-hour period. I had to stop counting because I realised that we subconsciously start giving other things our attention. Distractions and procrastination are a part of everyday life that we must deal with. Our conversation was deeply philosophical. We unpacked the meaning of life, how we give our own meanings to things because meaning is subjective.  We discovered that there needs to be a balance of both not wanting to waste time but with an attitude of self-friendliness that we give to close friends. You want your friends to happy and enjoy themselves, but you also want them to aim high and not waste the talents and gifts that they've been given. Learning to be compassionate to ourselves is necessary part of life otherwise we will constantly be hard on ourselves for 'wasting time'. We explored 'Cosmic Insignificance' which in short explains how the decisions we make every day are hugely insignificant in the grand scheme of the universe. And that it is liberating to think this way because we can now pursue the things that we find 'meaningful'. Finally Oliver shared some tips on how to tackle your goals and tasks to wrap up how hugely insightful interview. You can check it out below :)         Remi mentions dan gilbert + dean kamen but not any particular work https://www.google.com/search?q=dan+gilbert+experiences+momennts&rlz=1C5CHFA_enAU954AU954&oq=dan+gilbert+experiences+momennts&aqs=chrome..69i57j33i10i160.12400j0j7&sourceid=chrome&ie=UTF-8 https://www.google.com/search?q=dean+kamen+nobel+laureate+remembered+experiences&rlz=1C5CHFA_enAU954AU954&sxsrf=AOaemvJD2vxhdvUXHasax5GVXb6gQg9uFw%3A1637032376612&ei=uCGTYdfKJJb6rQGuqpSYBg&oq=dean+kamen+nobel+laureate+remembered+experiences&gs_lcp=Cgdnd3Mtd2l6EAM6BwgAEEcQsAM6BQghEKABOgcIIRAKEKABOgQIIRAVSgQIQRgAUJ8VWOoyYKw0aABwAngAgAH6AYgB_h-SAQYwLjE4LjSYAQCgAQHIAQPAAQE&sclient=gws-wiz&ved=0ahUKEwjXhqzq9Jv0AhUWfSsKHS4VBWMQ4dUDCA4&uact=5

The Man behind the E-Myth – Unpacking The E-Myth Success To The Coaching Institute[00:01:00] [00:00:00] So that was our conversation. Michael Gerber is a beautiful, beautiful man, beautiful soul. We've had many conversations since then about business and what we need to be thinking about. And over the years, Just getting to know the way he thinks about it is just wonderful. Now in parallel to,  Michael doing what he does[00:01:32] I was building my business. So I wanted to just talk directly to you about, for those of you who are in business or you work in a business, what the thinking has been  behind building. One of my businesses, which is one that's probably the most well known, which is the coaching Institute and how it's been in parallel with the E-Myth and some of the models and messages that Michael shares.[00:01:57] So if you're into thinking [00:02:00] sustainably scalably replicability about your business and you know, that staying in the practitioner. Zone the technician's zone is probably gonna run out of road. Certainly if you go on holiday, so does your income, if you want to take a break, so does the money, you know, if you realize that there is an inherent flaw in that model, then stick around, I'm going to share with you just some of the ways.[00:02:26] I applied the E-Myth as I built The Coaching Institute. So I started out as a coach, same as literally hundreds of thousands of other people around the world is studied selling my time for money. So I would sell an hour session. For a fee. And I think when I first started, it was a hundred dollars per hour and I would acquire a client.[00:02:48] And in beginning they didn't stay too much because I really didn't. Wasn't very good. That's a very good reason for them not to stay. Ah, then the beginning stay a little bit more. They started perceiving a lot more value in what I was [00:03:00] doing, which is great. And as my skills grew, my experience grew at the number of clients that wanted to stay with me, began to grow.[00:03:07] And in a very short period of time, I had. A very full list of clients. I think I'd moved my fees. It's very difficult for me to remember 18 years ago, but probably around 250 to $400 an hour, again, still an hourly rate for my time. And it was very bespoke. So it was very much as coaches know, and a jeweller would be in the same position.[00:03:30] This is very unique  conversation. So you focus on what the client wants to achieve. You tailor, make your coaching and what you bring to it based on the client's preferences and where they want to head and what they're wanting to attain from an experience in the coaching journey and the coaching initiative.[00:03:48] So it's all very one-off. And of course, as I'm doing it, I can't record the sessions because of very clear confidentiality guidelines, which makes. Perfect sense. So there was no [00:04:00] replicability there, there was no scalability..[00:04:17] And as my fees went up and as I started work with more business coaching clients and leaders in different industries, and my fees were around 400 to 550. Can't really remember now they began to get a recording and they'd get key notes from the session. So I'd go through the recording, make sure I got the keynotes or I'd take them and I'd reflect.[00:04:38] Back to them, the key, not just key outcomes and commitments, but key messages in terms of who they're being and what to maybe reflect on as they go about their day and bring some mindfulness to it. So began to systemize for each client, but still no replicability there. If I stopped doing the coaching, as Michael Gerber says, if I stopped doing the, doing the, doing [00:05:00] the, doing everything stops the whole.[00:05:03] The whole thing is gone. It doesn't exist anymore. And so I became very aware of this very early. And I began to think in terms of having read the E-Myth five times in my first 12 to 18 months, based on the E-Myth, where is the replicability here? Where is it that I can systemize so I can step back. And it isn't me needing to be prison for every single minute of money earned.[00:05:29] How do I leverage what it is I'm learning, what it is I'm creating, what it is I've got experience in now and create a leverage. I don't ever call it passive income. My goodness. There is nothing passive about it. It's earned. How do I create leverage in terms of leveraging my time? How do I leverage my skill?[00:05:49] How do I leverage my testimonials and success stories? How do I leverage my passion? How do I leverage my ability to seem to learn this in a, quite [00:06:00] a delightful, playful way? How, how do I leverage my style as in my style of coaching, all of those questions began to be my priorities. So instead of thinking, how do I get my next client?[00:06:13] My focus a lot of the time was how do I leverage all the criteria I've just listed? And instead of scrambling for the next client, I was thinking in terms of. My next client is, how can I leverage that? So I became about the success story, the testimonial, the referral it always became, this became the stepping stone for some form of leverage.[00:06:38] So I started building my leverage muscle, if you like, because I was really comfortable. I was. Any more money that I'd ever earnt in my life, I was learning so much. I love, love, love working with my clients and everything I was learning was beautiful and just went to the heart of what I believed I was here to do.[00:07:00] [00:06:59] So it wasn't like I've just got to dump on my clients and never work again for time for money. And I just, as long as I can just make money out of what it wasn't ever like, that it was just. This is beautiful, but this is not sustainable. And I knew it wasn't sustainable. I was about 18 months into my journey or probably a little less.[00:07:18] I had. 50 clients. I think it was just under that, that I was working with over a period of a month, some weekly, some fortnightly, some monthly, I had 50 clients on the waiting list who had paid in full upfront. Many of them in full, I remember one day taking $50,000. So $10,000  in deposits from five new clients, all knowing I couldn't work with them for another three to four months and great that they coming and I've leveraged my skill and I'm feeling uncomfortable because I can see the floor I'm leveraging my skill and leveraging my experience.[00:07:58] I'm leveraging my [00:08:00] success stories and it created more work more of me needing to do so. I was becoming more entrenched in what I was doing, more committed to what I was doing because I had clients on a wait list going from months. And the more I leveraged what I was great at, the more success stories, more testimonials, and the more better I got at leveraging marketing.[00:08:23] The greater the wait list. And so I was literally perpetuating me having to sell my time for money. And I was just chasing constantly every single day back-to-back client sessions. And the problem with that I realized, and probably you already have is if you've got back-to-back coaching sessions, where do you work?[00:08:42] On the business. So I had worked on creating more of that, but that in itself, that solution, so to become very successful and economically incredibly successful in that space was creating its own problem. It was creating. And you [00:09:00] problem in that I was getting very time. Poor money was going up. Time was going down.[00:09:04] Whereas when I began, time was up, money was down now had completely reversed. And so there was always a rush every day, a scrambled to seal the clients to try to do the marketing, to Take care of the administration take care of the finance, which I was terrible at at the time there was this constant chasing.[00:09:22] So my success became my number one problem. That's, that's how I view it as I look back on it. And I think I saw that at the time as well, but it was wonderful and it was great working with so many clients. I loved every minute of it. Awesome. And I just remember one Friday afternoon, I'd done back to back clients for solid week.[00:09:39] It was Friday afternoon, my last coaching session. And for the first time ever are a member zoning out of being fully present for my client. I still kind of feel guilty about this. I remember zoning out and actually having a thought this isn't sustainable. I literally thought about myself. In the midst of a coaching session, [00:10:00] whereas right up until then for over a year, if I'm in a coaching session, it's all about the client.[00:10:06] And I just fade away. And here I was having a moment where it's about me and that was really disconcerting for me. And it was quite unsettling. I didn't do anything about it in the session, of course, but over the weekend, It was a lot to process that I had. It was like being at warp speed  if anybody knows Star Trek here or whatever it is you going at warp speed.[00:10:26] And then you drop out a warp. I was coaching to me is warp speed. Is this beautiful other otherness? It's his, the dimension. And I felt out of it into regular dimension and I felt the ickiness I can feel it now. So I thought that's feedback. I need to really think about what it is I'm going to commit to moving forward.[00:10:45] I've now learned I have a skill around this. I have experience around this. Now. I have many, many referrals, many people who love the message who are enjoying my style. So unless I continue to experience the same [00:11:00] problem and maybe more moments falling out of phase. I need to really think about what it is I think working on the business is, and that was the biggest wake up call for me.[00:11:12] It was a wonderful gift at the time and in hindsight. So what I did was I began to figure out how do I do one too many? And you're probably hearing these go well, that's obvious it wasn't obvious to me at the time. So I started figuring out one too many and I started figuring out. This is

Join me on my #Perspectives podcast with Dorie Clark; an author, coach, business person and strategic thinker who is a part of the top 50 business thinkers in the world. We discuss: - The long game- The benefit of thinking long term- The concept of optimising for interesting  Dorie Clark is a human being who has thought strategically about her career and about cutting through the noise to be heard. My favourite topic in the world is learning how to think strategically and more effectively. It's not what to think, it's about how to think, and that's what Dorie has written about in her book 'The Long Game'. My conversation with Dorie was brief but interesting until the end. We discussed how to build and position our brand, how to craft our message and how to get the most strategic leverage possible so we can maximise returns on our effort. We discussed brand building vs revenue profit and the flip side to that coin. How with choosing to build your brand is more costly but results with better long term results. That fed into our discussion of the benefits of thinking long term. How the person we will be in 20 years time will thank us for the decisions we make today. How that you never say "I wish I didn't go to the gym yesterday". I loved our conversation on 'Optimising for interesting' and how we should spend 20% of our time exploring the things that interest you. This is particularly helpful for people who don't know what their passion is and don't love their current work. This can lead to you figuring out more about yourself and how you operate.   In the podcast we explore together: 4.51 Brand building vs Revenue pursuit 5.45 The long game 12.53 The benefit of thinking long term 17.47 Optimise for interesting 25.17 The 4 waves framework 30.00 Strategic leverage 

Join me on my #Perspectives podcast with Dina McMillan, a sociologist and social psychologist passionate about overcoming domestic violence and racism in the world. We explore:  - Fighting Ignorance with Knowledge- Universal Manipulation Tactics- Critical Race Theory Dina McMillian graduated from Stamford University with a PhD in the nineties and is one of the smartest women you will come across. My conversation with Dina was far reaching. A lot of the work she does now is in programs and discourse around Critical Race Theory and Domestic Violence. We discussed the systemic racism that Dina faced in her time at Stamford University and the empowerment her mother gave her to face ignorance with knowledge. Martin Luther King's 'I have a dream' speech was a pivotal moment in both of our lives. To judge a person by their character rather than the colour of their skin was a value we shared together passionately. We explored everything about domestic violence, from vulnerability, pleasure and pain to the tactics and backgrounds of abusers. Dina set me straight on some of the naive ideas I had around abusers. Finally we finished with Critical Race Theory, the implications it has on our society as a whole and the ramifications of anti racist training and shaming.  In the podcast we explore together: 0:00 Introduction6:00 Social Psychology10:00 Systemic Racism at Stamford in the 90's12:20 Fighting Ignorance with Knowledge21.04 Martin Luther King Jr.28:00 Resilience equals Survival32.16 Domestic Violence from the Social Psychologist Point of View52.10 Telltale Signs of an Abusive/Manipulator.1.12.00 Critical Race Theory1.31.00 - Bias is Natural and Normal For more information about Dina McMillian: • Podcast - Unmasking The Abuser (Podcast)• Book - But He Says He Loves Me: How to Avoid Being Trapped in a Manipulative Relationship (Book)• Contact - unmaskingpodcast@gmail.com (email)• Youtube Channel - Healing The Rift (Youtube Channel)• Youtube Channel - Dr Dina McMillan YT Channel (youtube)• Matin Luther King’s – I Had A Dream Speech - Martin Luther King - I Had A Dream (Youtube)

Perspectives Shownotes – Kristina Karlsson   Today, on the #Perspective podcast join me with Kristina Karlsson; the Founder and Creative Director of global Swedish design and stationery business, kikki.KKristina is an inspirational woman with a lovely story. It was a pleasure to hear from her and the journey of moving country, figuring out what matters most to her. Which ultimately led her to creating kikki.k.  We discussed the importance of starting before you are ready. If you have an idea or a dream, you need to go for it and work it out along the way. You'll never have all the answers in the beginning.That led us to the value of being optimistic and confident in making mistakes and learning. Education is so vital in growth, and you must consistently reinvest in yourself to continue to grow. 'Systems lead to expansion'. We explored how the development of good systems reaps the benefits in the long run and allows for businesses to expand.We finished with a discussion of our values and shared advice to others with aspirations; 'Live your dream!' And act, don't wait, because life is short. In the podcast we explore together:5.40 What Matters Most?10:55 Start Before you’re Ready 26.30 Be Optimistic & Confident in Making Mistakes & Learning From Them 29.00 Systemise to Expand 36.00 Value your Education, Reinvest in Yourself43.15 Embrace your Impatience1.00.36 Live Your Dream 1.05.50 Life is Short, Don't Wait LINKS: YourDreamLifeStartsHere.com  “Your Dream Life Starts Here” – Kristina Karlssonhttps://play.google.com/store/audiobooks/details?id=AQAAAECMYzAjrM&gl=AU&hl=en-AU&source=productsearch&utm_source=HA&utm_medium=SEM&utm_campaign=PLA&pcampaignid=MKT-EDR-apac-AU-1003227-Med-pla-bk-Evergreen-Jul0121-PLA-Audiobooks_HealthandFitness_General&gclid=CjwKCAjwvuGJBhB1EiwACU1Aidb-KAycyvEl1eOwNwu2QzSQNz4zQu1SqFi-P0axpvGCyODP6fy0iRoCmnkQAvD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds “The Wealthy Gardener” – John Soforichttps://www.fishpond.com.au/Books/Wealthy-Gardener-John-Soforic/9780593189740?utm_source=googleps&utm_medium=ps&utm_campaign=AU&gclid=CjwKCAjwvuGJBhB1EiwACU1AiXa_JRVOod3_G3oCzPixE3XvcgqR8nYC_WKGPglgR5p5MgcLnQ9Z7BoCAXMQAvD_BwE “The Power Of Now” – Ed Carrollhttps://www.audible.com.au/pd/The-Power-of-Now-Audiobook/B00FGF9FXM?source_code=M2MORSH051016002X&ipRedirectOverride=true&gclid=CjwKCAjwvuGJBhB1EiwACU1AiRz-xOVK_cYw7XusmRR04tSoWercMo8F5bFeFeEUfg8DKnr2VK7_XhoCVNoQAvD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds Instagram: @KristinaKikkiKhttps://www.instagram.com/kristinakikkik/  

Open Your Inner Channel to Connection with Srini PillayToday, on the #Perspective podcast join me and a Harvard-trained psychiatrist and brain researcher who was voted one of the Top 20 movers and shakers in leadership development in the world, Dr. Srini Pillay.Srini has a naturally inquisitive mind. He is always asking questions, wondering and pondering how and why things happen the way they do. We discussed a vast array of concepts and ideas that are truly inspiring. We explored the power of perspective. Embracing ambiguity; right vs wrong, good vs bad, diving into the concept of naive realism. Opening our eyes to different interpretations. I believe our discussion of the consciousness will be of particular interest to others. The concept of god and the relationship we have with our own consciousness. How we interpret meaning, the decisions we make, the feelings we feel, are all a matter of perspective. How do we decide who we let into our minds and surround our beings? As leaders, who do we keep close and push away? How do we better understand others? In the podcast we explore together:4:15 - Introduction to Srini and the work he is doing.10.09 - Naive Realism and Perception; good vs bad, right vs wrong.15.25 - God & the Consciousness.24.37 - Leaders in the Flow State.29.30 - Embracing Ambiguity.45.18 - Why Good Leaders make Bad Decisions.50.00 3 Star Michelin Restaurant Story about Connection, Understanding and Respect.  MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE: 1. Does Practice Make Perfect? – Brooke Macnamara https://www.parsingscience.org/2019/10/01/brooke-macnamara/  2. Why Good Leaders Make Bad Decisions And How To Keep It From Happening To You https://tci.rocks/srini-podcast-book  3. Business Review on "Why Good Leaders Make Bad Decisions" https://hbr.org/2009/02/why-good-leaders-make-bad-decisionsOpen your mind to this conversation, it's truly fascinating! 

Perspectives - Peter Singer SHOWNOTES[00:09:00] I present to you, Mr. Peter Singer. Thank you for joining us today. Peter: You're very welcome, Sharon. It's good to be with you. Remi: Thank you. So, I'd like to get started. I'm really curious to know what you're currently thinking about and working Peter: on right now, I'm working on a revised edition of Animal Liberation.That's a book that I first published in 1975. It's never been out of print but the most recent edition really is from 1990. By that, I mean, there are, there are editions which looked like this or recent. There's 2009, when I think exactly that's, that's one of the paperbacks, it does have a new preface and it has some additional material at the end, but the basic text in between the preface and the supplementary material at the end.Is pretty much unchanged for 30 years. So that's not good, obviously. If you want to keep up with what's going on in terms of factory farming kinds of experiments that are performed on [00:10:00] animals and of course the impact of climate change and what that's done to our thinking about eating meat.We really, you know, I really need to make some changes, a lot of changes to the book. So that's my current project. Remi: Well, I wasn't going to stop it, but we will. And we'll talk about it. Animal Liberation and your book, you released it in 1975 and the landscape of animal liberation or animal welfare was very different than can you paint a scene of what it was like and what was the impetus for writing this one ended up being a completely transformational book for animal welfare around then.Peter: Well, price is one way of getting people who are listening today to see how much the scene has changed is to say that my interest in animals and my thinking about the ethics of what I was eating got started just a few years before that in 1970 to be precise. When I happened to have a conversation with a fellow graduate students.So, I was 24 [00:11:00] years old. I was, I'd been to university in Melbourne and then I'd gone to Oxford to do my graduate work. And I happened to meet a fellow Canadian who when we went in for lunch, asked if there was meat in the sauce on top of the spaghetti. And when he was told there was, he took a salad plate instead And so after we'd finished our conversation, we were having I asked him what his problem with meat was.And you know, I think this was really the first conversation I'd had with a vegetarian. Maybe he was the first vegetarian that I'd met or perhaps I'd met some Indian vegetarians for Hindu reasons, but certainly the first person who I'd met a vegetarian, who just had a straightforward kind of ethical answer to that question that he didn't like the way we treat animals and didn't really want to be complicit in the way animals were being treated.And so, you know, anybody who. Listening to that. I was been a university. You can hardly get their head around the fact that you can be 24 years old and not have met a vegetarian and not really thought about that. [00:12:00] But that's how it was. And that's pretty much how it was in 1975 when the book came out.And you know, people did find it very strange to see a sort of serious argument about why we shouldn't be eating meat based on concern for the animals. Because you know, if people thought about animal welfare at all, they thought about dogs and cats maybe about horses, but they didn't really think about chickens and pigs and calves.Remi: Yeah. Part of what you described when you talk about that book and why it came about, which I really loved was it was a very sentimental attitude in the movement at the time. And the way you felt that you could contribute to the movement was with. You didn't say clear thinking with rationality. Can you speak a little bit to that for those rare individual, listening to this podcast who doesn't know who you are or the work that you've contributed to our planet and to our thinking, what was the thinking back then that led you to believe this is where I can contribute.And maybe this will be a way to start [00:13:00] introducing consequentialism and utilitarianism and some of your other philosophical bedrock. Peter: Right? So, in terms of, you know, how I can contribute it was sort of somewhat accidental that I ended up doing philosophy. I had gone to university planning to study law and then an advisor thought.Find the law course a bit dry. And why didn't I combine it with an arts course? So, I started doing combined dance law course. Then I got to enjoy the outside of it more and I got offered a scholarship to go on with graduate work in that field Went into philosophy. I enjoyed it. I found it interesting.But you know, it, wasn't going to make a significant contribution to the world. I wasn't, you know, I couldn't say that that was my primary motivation at that time, but this was the late sixties and then early seventies. And of course, there were a lot of radical ideas around and radical political movements including opposition to the war in Vietnam, which I was part of in Australia.[00:14:00] And then there was the civil rights movement, the black liberation movement. And so, there were ethical ideas floating around and it was always more the ethics and political philosophy side of philosophy that I was interested in that was. Where, where it makes a difference, I guess, where it has an impact on the way we live directly.So that's, that's why, when, when I started thinking about this issue of animals and then as you correctly say at that time there wasn't a real animal movement or in so far as there were anti-cruelty organizations mostly appealing to people's sentiments. So, there would be cute pictures of puppies and kittens and asking you to help rescue them, something of that sort.But there was, there was nothing really saying that even if you don't love animals there are still something seriously wrong about the way we are treating animals. And I never did think of myself as an animal lover and I still don't. But I do think that there are things very seriously wrong about [00:15:00] the way we treat animals and on a vast scale.So this is not a small issue, right? When you take account of the fact that there's over 70 billion animals raised and killed for food each year, the great majority of them indoors in factory farms. It's the very major issue. Remi: One of the things I like about sentimentality when it comes to animal welfare is it can get the conversation started.So, you have a very rational and I'd love you to speak more about utilitarianism. Aspect to it, which I really admire, but I didn't get to my 18 years ago, I became a vegetarian and vegan for a while. I didn't get there because of the reasons you've given that it's the right thing to do. And it reduces the most suffering or increases the most pleasure I got there because my health suffered, and I went on an elimination diet and I needed to find recipes for a vegan.And there were barely any 20 years ago. And in reading recipes, I read about animal welfare. So, the way I got there was very indirect. So, what role do you think can be [00:16:00] played in sentimentality or in other roads that get us to the conclusions you've come to?Peter: Well, of course, a lot of people do get to these conclusions through.Love for animals in one way or another. One of the greatest campaigners in the late 20th century for animals was a man. I got to know called Henry Spira. And, and he was a great social activist working for blacks in the American south and for underprivileged people everywhere. But he only started to see animals as underprivileged when a friend who was going overseas, dumped a cat on him.And he never really thought about animals, but basically the cat seduced him. And, and, you know, more or less around that time, he came across some of my writing and that, that did help. But you know, yeah, without the cat, maybe we would have lost one of those great container campaigners.I'm not putting down a love for animals at all. I think it's a, it's a great way to get people to understand that animals are individual beings, that their lives can go well or badly for them. [00:17:00] And that we should be caring about them. We shouldn't just draw the boundaries of moral concern around our own species.So yeah, it definitely plays a good role, but you know, you asked about my utilitarianism. So philosophically I hold the view that the right thing to do is the action that will have the best consequences and by best consequences I, and the classical utilitarian’s mean do the most to promote happiness and reduce suffering.So, from that it straightforwardly follows that given that animals can suffer at least many animals can suffer We ought to be including them within our concerns of, of what we do. And we shouldn't just say, well, morality is only for humans. You know, there are some people who say it, but many more people who think that, but you know,  we certainly think when it comes to humans, that even if you're not particularly rational or nevertheless, you can, we, we still think, we think humans have a certain moral status [00:18:00] that makes it wrong to do things to them, even if they lose or never have the higher cognitive abilities.But when it comes to animals, we say, well, they, you know, they don't think they're not, self-conscious, they're not autonomous, they're not moral agents, all of these things. So, so they don't really can't. But I, I think, I think that's just a mistake and it's, as I say, not something we consistently apply within our own species.So we shouldn't use it as a way of drawing lines between our species and other species. Remi: You speak really eloquently about species ism and particularly around chimpanzees. I remember back in 2014, there was an article you wrote in this book that you've written, which I love the ethics in the real world.And you're speaking about the rights of a chimpanzee and in 2014, I und

“New Frontiers of Psychedelics” with Tania de Jong [00:00:00] Hey and welcome to this week's episode of Perspectives I am your host Sharon Pearson, and we are joined today by an extraordinary guest who has done some remarkable work in a field that is maybe to some of us, a little left of center. Her name is Tania de Jong and she is the founder and executive director of Mind Medicine Australia.And she has done some phenomenal work in moving forward, ensuring that some psychedelics and MDMA may becomes legalized within Australia for therapeutic purposes. This is a topic that I find truly fascinating,  Tania is  executive director and co-founder and board director of Mind Medicine Australia. And it is a registered charity acting as a central node for regulatory approved and research.[00:01:00] Psychedelics. She is identified in the psychedelic invest top 100 influential people in psychedelics, and she became interested in the resurgence in psychedelic research field after searching for ways to manage your own mental health and her own wellbeing. And we talk about this in the episode, she explains and walks us through her first psychedelic experience and how it transformed her with the support of her partner, Peter, she set out on a quest to have a therapeutic experience, but being able to do this in a safe and legal setting, which as you probably know around the world, isn't that easy to accomplish, have to experiencing this life-changing experience.She realized the potential of these medicines and she very clearly and distinctly calls them a medicines, not an illegal substance. And she also makes it clear here that MDMA and the psychedelics we talk about are not addictive, despite what we may have heard in the moral panic that can be attached to conversations like this.So she's on a mission to help [00:02:00] alleviate the suffering caused by mental illness in Australia that she truly believes is not necessary. And when you hear us have this conversation and you hear about the stats and what's been achieved in clinical trials around the world, right now, there are over a hundred clinical trials taking place around the world, including at John Hopkins, one of the most renowned research facilities in the world.And when you hear these results and we'll include in the show notes, links for you to get more information and maybe to some research as well. So you can see for yourself how profound an impact. that  these medicines combined with therapy can have on people who are suffering from PTSD, depression, anxiety, even eating disorders.It is, mind-blowing what I've been learning. She also is part of my Mind  Medicine Australia helps to and has phenomenal facilitators, helping to train the facilitators of tomorrow, the psychiatrists and psychologists and the therapists who will, when this becomes legislated within Australia [00:03:00] guide people who want to experience a transformation from the depression or their anxiety or their PTSD, and the team is training them entire process of how you can go through this therapeutic process.This is not an advocacy program for taking drugs. illegally is not an advocacy program for going to a rave, getting smashed and not drinking water and becoming a statistic. This is a conversation based on current research in 2021, and it is really exciting what the future holds. It's so great that you're joining us today.Tania thank you so much. I'd love for you to share with our audience a little bit about your journey as to how you got here to having that as your backdrop, Mind  Medicine Australia, if you would please. Sure. Look that's a really long story, but I mean to cut a long story short well my drug of choice has always been singing.So I have always [00:04:00] loved singing and it's been a wonderful form of meditation relaxation. There'll be entertainment connection, so many things for me. therapy  so I've never felt the need to have any drugs of any kind. And I've never, in fact, I've always been quite anti-drugs. And so it is, it is surprising that I do have this as my backdrop, but I guess to cut a long story short, you know, I'm the daughter and granddaughter of Holocaust survivors.My grandmother invented the foldable umbrella in Vienna in 1929. So you know, innovation is very much in my blood and I have founded two previous charities to Mind Medicine Australia, plus about six other creative businesses as well. And I've been a performer before, you know, all of, all of my sort of adult life, even though I was told, never double that having singing lessons at the age of 14 and.But I also, I did a law [00:05:00] degree and I've always been extremely entrepreneurial. And so, you know, I sort of, I guess, become the serial entrepreneur and as I've evolved and growing I become interested in different things and there's just sort of been this yeah, I mean to where I am today, where I'm, you know, a co-founder and executive director of Mind  Medicine Australia, and those still you know, I'm very passionate about my work as both a performer singer and speaker, and some of the work that I do for collective healing.A lot of the event production work I do as well is tied in to  this. So in a sense, it's bringing together a whole lot of different things that I do. But Mind Medicine  Australia is, is certainly all consuming. Like it's taking a lot of time up for me and my husband. We do this pro bono and we also do, that's the question I get that you do all these other things, [00:06:00] but why that is the backdrop, that's what I'm interested in.How did you arrive at a place where make getting, helping and facilitating the movement for psychedelics to become legal for medicine? Or how did that happen? Yeah, so that really happened because I've always been interested in hacking myself. So, you know, I've, I've tried lots and lots of different things, different dietsyou know, I tantra   mantra cryotherapy my therapy, you know, hyperbaric oxygen all sorts of different retreats, relationship, work personal development. And physical sort of stamina sort of modalities that I've always been really interested in. And I never heard about psychedelic assisted therapies until about five and a half years ago.When I read a blog of Tim Ferriss, who's one of the great donors and investors in this field and he announced that he was donating a [00:07:00] hundred thousand US dollars to impure colleagues to trial of psilocybin   assisted therapy to treat depression. I'm not, I don't suffer from depression myself, but I certainly know a lot of people who are suffering with depression.I've worked with a lot of people who are suffering with depression. And so I clicked on the link was to an article by Michael Pollan in the New Yorker magazine called the Trip Treatment  and I read this article and it was about, in fact,  profiling, a Jewish man who was going to an end of life, probably had a terminal diagnosis, but he had been experiencing, I think, some transgenerational trauma.And I had also. Being experiencing that I didn't really know what it was. You know, I'd have some strange dreams from time to time where maybe I was, and this was awful, you know, where I standing in front of a Nazi firing squad and things like that. And I'm thinking, well, where is this coming from? You know, this is, [00:08:00] I wasn't there for that.And so I felt that there was, you know, parts of my psyche, I guess, that were still carrying some of this ancestral trauma. And so when I read, you know, about this guy's sort of remission conditions and things, I thought, all this sounds amazing, you know, like amazing. And so I said to my husband read this article, I think we should, don't do this treatment.Hey, read it. And he said, oh, you know, it sounds interesting, but he didn't take any more interested in it, but he said, well, if you want to organize it, just go ahead. And he generally does say that about a lot of things. And so I then reached out to Dr. Robin Carhart Harris. Who's one of the leading researchers in this field who was mentioned in the article and asked him if there were any healthy patients trials that we could participate in because we don't have a mental illness diagnosis, but there weren't any taking place in the, in, in Europe at the time.And so we were eventually referred to a [00:09:00] guide in the Netherlands and we then flew to the Netherlands where we worked with that guide and had a massive medicinal dose of psilocybin yeah, I've been pure psilocybin, which was preceded by Syrian Rue, which is a MAOI inhibitor. So the protocol was called silhouette, Cisco, which was a combination really of psilocybin and some of the effective well scope because of the Mio inhibitor Syrian ruined.This was. A huge experience. Like we were literally shot out of   our bodies into other dimensions, into the multi-verse you know, journeys, this journey that we went on. And of course our journeys were entirely different. Peter's his father had committed suicide when he was thirteen  also. So, wow. You know, we all carry trauma either directly or indirectly.I think we're all carrying a lot of angst and grief along with us. And particularly now I've never felt so much [00:10:00] that way, carrying as a, as a collective and disconnected and huge disconnection and, you know, wonderful thing about these medicines is the enormous sense of connectivity that they bring, you know, the sense of being connected to yourself, to others, to the planet.I really is very profound and the healing that waits. Was enormous. And it's not that we were really ill or that we weren't not functioning or anything like that, but we became much better functioning. You know, I thought I was creative before, but you know, like I've been able to join the dots and understand things that I previously was not able to understand as well.Yeah, it's, it's really a profound effect. And it's improved our relationship, enormously, our relationships without familie

Coming up on #Perspectives next week – Tania de Jong, founder and executive of Mind Medicine Australia. Tania is one of the 100 most influential people in psychedelics today, an extraordinary woman who has done some remarkable work in a field that is maybe to some of us, a little left of centre. We talk about her work to move forward the progress of ensuring ensuring that some psychedelics (MDMA and psilocybin) becomes legalized within Australia for therapeutic purposes. This is a topic that I find truly fascinating. *NB this is a research-based conversation. Remi Pearson and #Perspectives in no way advocate for the use of illegal drugs. Mind Medicine Australia does not encourage or facilitate illegal use of psychedelics or plant medicine. Their focus in wholly clinical.

Perspectives Podcast - Tony Nash[00:00:00] Hey, everyone. Welcome to this episode of  Perspectives. It's such a pleasure to join you. And I want to thank you for being with us. I really appreciate you. I got interviewed the other day and I got to brag about our view is, and I think you're fantastic. So it's great that you're here today. We have a very special guest, especially if you're Australian centric.So his name is Tony Nash. You may know him as the man who co-founded Booktopia. It is a very large online book seller here in Australia. It's massive. It's where I do my business, which I didn't get to tell Tony in the interview, but Tony is just a great guy. He's a real pragmatist. You're going to enjoy.He's very down to earth approach and nature. When it comes to building such a successful business, it is the world's largest online and offline book retailer. In the world, which is quite the achievement. I think it's fantastic because obviously everybody's minds go to Amazon, but Amazon's focus as Tony reveals is an inbox now.So they've [00:01:00] carved out this phenomenal niche themselves with some entrepreneurial thinking, pragmatism seeing gaps in the market and just figuring out obsessing about what the customers want. He created the business with his brother, Simon and friend, Steve. And they're starting budget on Google ads was $10 a day.They deliberately did not make a profit until 2016. They started in 2004 did not make any profit to two 16. We talk about that in the interview, and that was deliberate because what they wanted to do was to keep funding the growth that was required to take care of their customer demands. It turns over in exists.I think it's over $200 million a year. Now it's been listed in the AFI Bow's fast hundred, eight times the only company ever to achieve this feat from 2009 to 2017, it's been voted bookstore of the year. They've moved into publishing as well. We didn't get to talk about that as much as I'd liked, but that's a really interesting new niche they're carving out for themselves.It has [00:02:00] won the New South Wales Telstra Business  of the Year the Australian Telstra Business Award People's  choice Award we were a finalist in that. I remember that. They've been a finalist seven times in the Telstra business awards and they are state, it stated that Australian authors and titles are a key focus for this company.And you'll hear that come through. When we talk with him, they completed an IPO in 2020 during the first year. Did you believe he'd ever say this the first year of this global pandemic and our response to it? They did an IPO. So initial public offering, they went public and their capital raised successfully.They did an 11 week launch from decision to IPO, which I think is fantastic. They hold nearly 200,000 books in stock, ready to ship. They sell an item every 4.8 seconds. Their warehouses in excess of 10,000 square meters. Their main rival apparently is Amazon. Even though Amazon is in Australia, Booktopia is just doing gangbusters, going from strength to [00:03:00] strength.We talk about teams, culture. We talk about what it takes to build a business very much this theme of pragmatism and keeping your head and focusing on the customer and figuring out where the sale is going to be made because everything else up until then is talk and with no further talk from him.Here is Tony Nash. So you've been going now, you began in 2004. How would you say if you were to describe right now, how you got here? Rather than telling me what you did. How did you get here to be in this position where you are now with Booktopia mostly, for me, it feels like one thing led to another. So I'm very horizon point driven.That means that I have a clear picture of where I want to get to. And I may not necessarily know that that's. How to get there, but by having that horizon point to me it's more like a mountain range beyond the mountain range that I can see in the [00:04:00] distance and going, right. We've got to get to X and at the moment we're turning over 200 million.So therefore, what have I got to do to get to 300 million? But before that, of course it was getting from 100 to 200, from 20 to a hundred and so on and so forth. So if you work your way back then that's that's quite often when I think about the driving force, it's like, if someone said to me, come on, let's, let's get on a boat and go for a trip.And, and, and where do you want to go? And I say, look, let's go east. Well, we can end up in Alaska. We could end up in Antarctica and you got, what can you be a bit more specific? And it's like, well, New Zealand, north or south island and north, so Wellington or Auckland, Oakland, Ryan and I were in Oakland.Well, you know, the where the marina is, where we're going to where they had the America's cup, that's where we're going. And all of a sudden everything gets clear. And, and that to me is a lot about having that destination that then creates a level of [00:05:00] thinking, which gets you into action. Okay. So you start with the end in mind, which is what anybody who's an entrepreneur who's successful and not successful starts with that's.I imagine that's part of it, but there must be more to the soup because. It's not as simple as just set the intention and the horizon line cause a new horizon line keeps presented itself and that horizon line is always further away and to get to their new horizon line, the challenge is always unique because the once you've conquered one horizon line, you've conquered those challenges.The next horizon line is completely different. Challenges are required for you to overcome. Can you talk about that? Yep. So where the Where the engine sits in terms of how we fire up and what we do comes from asking one question every day, what do our customers want? So even though there's an end point in mind, it's still coming from the point of what do they want, because that will determine what we do to get where we need to get to, to the horizon point.So that's how it feels to me. In [00:06:00] terms of, I guess, if you were to use the New Zealand metaphor, it's kind of like, oh, we're going to go in a cruiser or you're going to go on a sailing boat. Are we, how are we going to get there? And, and so that, that would be the next unpicking of the, you know, taking the layers of the onion away.There are many, many other things though that make up the. You know, who who's on your crew what sort of roles do you need to have or the other we can't afford to have passengers. So who's doing what that comes, that comes into play. If I think about it I've never really used it in this kind of metaphor before, but that makes sense to me.How are we funding it? So are we, do we want to have more month left at the end of the money or do we want to have more money left at the end of the month? We focused more on cashflow statements in the beginning that we did in profit and loss. There was a very clear growth strategies that I had in mind in terms of, in terms of getting, you know, I didn't want to overgrow.I didn't want to under, but I didn't want to grow too quickly. So it's slow down there. So it's talking about capital raising [00:07:00] or not capital raising. How did you decide what your sweet spot was for over or under growing? How did you, was it an intuition? Did you have numbers to base it on? How did you go?Yeah, kind of felt to me, like by growing at around 25 to 30% a year was was a, a stretch that was manageable. But not exhaustive. And so, and what I liked about that, it wasn't lumpy. So every year people were used to beat in the distribution center and customer service, sales, marketing, whoever, like, they just knew that we were growing at a very steady, right.And I found that to be really helpful in terms of people getting used to, if we were jumped, like. 80% one year with the pandemic, which some companies would have. And then it's only 10% the next year. Overall over two years, you've increased by about 40% a year, 35% a year. But for us having that steady growth all the time, Pru proved that we could bring on [00:08:00] people that we could fulfill the orders that we were getting, that we can manage our cashflow, that we weren't spiraling out of control.That's how it felt for me. And I imagine if you had overreach, you would have been in danger of not getting the capital funding you needed to bail you out of the overreach. So it wasn't as simple as finding the sweet spot, really the business relied on it because you were profit net, nothing for how many years.That was extraordinary. Part of the story. Yeah, that was, that was intentional. So to me it was about pushing, putting back into the business, everything that we were accumulating. So having started the business off a $10 note back in. 2004. We we had another business at a time and when I say we I've been in business with my brother and my sister and my brother-in-law and we had another business, internet marketing.So we were doing consulting work and Booktopia was a little side project for me that got bigger and bigger. So it was about, it was just about getting old that And the beautiful thing for us, of course, it customers paid upfront. [00:09:00] So they, they transacted, they gave us their money. We then hustled as hard as we could.And then our suppliers, mostly in the book industry is, is that it's 30 days end of month. So in some instances we may have sold the book on the first, second, third, fourth of the month. We didn't have to pay that for, you know, almost 60 days later. So there was an aspect of using our customer's money. They were our investors, they, they handed over their money and we, we worked hard to hire more people hold more stock, write more software, buy more automation.Yeah. But there were times when we when we moved, when we change facilities, we invested in automation and our suppliers were, were stretched to we, we were late in paying them. We had to conti

Perspectives Podcast Lisa Forrest - Your Show Notes[00:00:00] Hey everyone. Welcome to this epiSo,de of perspectives. I am going to be your host today. I am Sharon Remy PearSo,n and today we're going to be chatting with ex former Olympian, Lisa Forrest. Who's written a wonderful book called Glide I hope you've had a chance to read it. So, you may remember the Moscow Olympics in 1980 were ground to a hold or had So, much controversy, , because it was the Olympics that the politicians wanted to boycott.And Lisa swam at the Moscow Olympics and subsequent to that in the Commonwealth games here in Brisbane in Australia, she became a household name because of that shoe in not, she was 14 years old when she did her first Commonwealth games, what a remarkable human being. She was captain of the Moscow Olympic team, a small band ofathletes that went in the face of death threats, controversy, news [00:01:00] headlines going either way, slamming them or supporting and celebrating them. Her family was receiving death threats during this time. And after that, as I mentioned in, I think it was 1982, she swam and won gold two gold medals in the Brisbane Commonwealth games with the home crowd, just going crazy for her after her retirement, from swimming at the ripe old age of, I think, 19, she went on and had an amazing career as a journalist.She was on the midday show. I think it was with Ray Martin set afternoon football. She had her own shows. She went on to a show called everybody on the ABC TV and So,me other shows as well. She alSo, trained as an actor in New York, but all the way through this, there was another narrative going on. So, the external looks amazing and shiny and filled with success and applause and gold medals.And under the water, there was So, much more going on. I mean that metaphorically within Lisa and So, in Lisa's book glide she talks about the challenges she was facing [00:02:00] going on within her, within facing her emotions. , What it meant to be mentally tough as a 14 or a 16 year old, not wanting to feel that tough.She talks in glide about how to be mindful and filled with compassion. When it seems everything around you, all the stimuli coming your way is telling you to be any other way. And now she works as a mindfulness coach and a mindfulness trainer teaching the principles of compassion and mindfulness. As she describes, it's two wings of this beautiful bird and how to navigate life in a way other than being a perfectionist, other than being tough, other than never facing her vulnerability.And seeing as weakness, she paints a very different landscape about how we can be and how we can navigate the beauty and the joy of life. And her message is very inspiring. I must say reading the book, there were times I was thinking when, when this hero being Lisa find within her, that it was always within her and I won't give you the [00:03:00] punchline, but the epiSo,des worth hearing about how she transformed her internal dialogue, her internal narrative, So, that she felt as beautiful on the inside as her life looked on the outside.And here she is Lisa forest. So, where are you? Are you in Sydney? Yes, I'm in Sydney. Yeah. And we live in the inner city and Redfin. So,. We've been here for oh, more than 20 years. So, you could buy a place under half a million in Redfern. We did back then notI grew up in the Northern beaches in Sydney, but my mom grew up in the inner city. So, my Nana was living here all her life. So, we were, we went between the two all the time. Yeah. Yeah. Fantastic, great stories from Sydney. I felt, I don't know Sydney really, except as a tourist. So, you introduced Sydney and there was a lot of, a lot more heart to it.The way you wrote about it than I've imagined it to be, which was beautiful. I really enjoyed that. Thank you. You mean in terms of the eDee Whyladies growing up [00:04:00] by the beach? Yeah, I was very lucky. I mean, it is a charmed, you know, way to grow up and I was just lucky, like dad was the Bondai lifesaver. And then, then at a certain point he decided that he'd rather rather board ride, , or ride a board.And So,, yeah, he, they had a place at Newport. , before, long before I was born and back then there was no sewage or anything. It was just a holiday place. So, mumand dad would drive the caravan up there for this block of land. And then once I decided to get married and have kids, they moved So,rt of back towards  where there was a school and a bus route and, you know, all that So,rt of stuff feel.In So,me ways you, you, your parents were sung heroes in your book, but I think even more So, they were an unsung hero. A theme in the book was their heroism in how they were just So,, self-sacrificing and placing you center in your dream center to their world. So, I thought that was. Beautiful the way they've done that.And my hat goes off to them. That kind of parenting. It's [00:05:00] interesting, isn't it? Because we talk about helicopter parenting now, and yet they were, you know, when you use the word self-sacrificing they just cause certainly for dad. , I think we were his world. Like my, my dad was a shy kind of, you know, he was really happy in his own world.He's a surfer, he was a swimmer. He didn't really need a lot and loved where I grew up and obviously loved mom. And then we came along and he was, he worked on building sites and we just were, you know, we were his world and we still aren't really like, you know, he will say if I go to visit him and be like, you know, see you next week and he'll say, can't come So,on, enough love at the same time, they weren't helicopter parents.And it's just more, if I was interested in swimming, which, you know, I showed an interest from that first day down at the DUI ladies, then, you know, he'd helped me do it. And likewise. , you know, if, if I wanted to, whatever it was in terms of, , training, he would get me there. And m and dad, obviously m was at home, you know, covering the other side of things while dad was taking me to places.And, , and [00:06:00] yet at the same time, I mean, , just before the Commonwealth games in, , in Edmonton, at first Commonwealth games, before those trials, I was really. Like exhausted this one particular night, we were training very hard. We, we trained back then in the way that no athlete would train now. But, , but I said to him, I got out of the pool and I was in tears.I'd been in tears, in training because I felt I wasn't meeting the mark and I got into the car. I said, I'm retired. It's not worth it. This, this is no fun. And he dropped me off at home. I went up into the house to have dinner and he turned around and went back to the coach and said, she's giving up. There was no trying to talk me into it.It was just okay. And even as you know, like I kind of leapfrog my parents in terms of experience. Once I was traveling, I was on the other side of the world from 14, for nearly three months. And they were back here all the time. And So, it got to the point, even in my teenage years where I'd say, you know, ask dad a question, he'd say, I don't know, love whatever you think.You know, he wasn't, he just was, he was like, I don't know. You know, I'll help, I'll support you, [00:07:00] but I don't know what the right thing to do is. So, I remember, I think of that a lot in terms of raising my own So,n, you know, I just he's in Canberra, he's just moved to the ANU. And, , I certainly miss my parents a lot.So, I said to him, we'll come down. As often as you need us, there'll be a point where you don't need us. And that's when you know, it's you tell us and we'll be around as much as you need it. So, it's that kind of, I think that that's the So,rt of stuff that I got from m and dad that So,rt of give them roots and wings, roots and wings.That's what we've got to give to them. So,me wings. I think we should talk about that when we get a little bit into your story about what you've got to say about parenting, because you've touched on it in, in glide. And I really enjoyed that. There was a little pieces of narrative. I thought you want to go further there.That's the next book? Well, it's funny. Cause I've told a lot. I mean, now I'm the, I'm a parent of an adult, right. Is 18. He's in Canberra and I've often is So,mething that's always fascinated me. I I've watched people in my time. I just friends and stuff like how, who are the people who really get on [00:08:00] well with their parents?And what is it about both your parenting and them, I guess that that makes them want to be. Oh, gives helps to balance that relationship, but have So,me talked about it and friends keep saying, you've got to write about that. You've heard about events because everybody is having that challenge. Oh yes. I've heard So,me stories.So, Lisa let's do the formal part. You're extraordinary. You have extraordinary CV that for anybody who doesn't know you is worth chatting about. So, congratulations on your successes. And I hope I trust. I'm sure you look back with a feeling of. Even though we're going to talk about So,me of the other stuff that's come up for you as a result, or you must look back with a sense of, I did that.I did that at 14. That was me. I'm remembering me at 14 to you. It's one of those things that it hits you at different times. You know? , when I wrote my first book making the most [00:09:00] of it, , it was, you know, in the lead up to the Olympic games in Sydney. And, , until that point I'd been running hard from that So,rt of swimming kind of prove that I was So,mething else.And So, suddenly in this lead up to Sydney, I had a whole lot of friends. I lived in the inner city, nothing to do with my sport life at all abruptly. So,, you know, I'd done that. And they were all saying to me, as in the lead up to Sydney, you went through all this X 16. And at that point I was like, yeah, I did.And even the, I mean, m and dad, they were, , Because the boy, you know, the Olympic games, my Olym