Brown Girl Self-Care

You have your own permission to be the Queen and authority of your ilfe!I read a story about a younger girl who went to have her ears pierced. While there, the piercing artist made sure to let her know that it was safe for her to have autonomy over what happens to her body. How amazing would it have been to know that this was the case for many of us as little Black girls? Life changing for sure because had this been a regular conversation many of us would be ok with disappointing others, saying no, saying yes, changing our minds and the like. Recently I made a post on FB about Black women (and girls) having the right to body autonomy. It brought out the racists and trolls almost immediately. This let me know that talking about autonomy was an important conversation to bring to the show.Join my midlife journey on Youtube!Read my Substack!Our Sponsors:* Check out Chime and use my code Chime.com/selfcare for a great deal: https://www.chime.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Hey, girl, hey! I have some important decisions to make. Do I pivot, pause or completely end the BGSC podcast? Do I archive all my content on social media and start completely over? I've heard that about every seven years, you end up going through major changes in your life. I think I'm at that point right now with BGSC. Let's talk about where things stand as of now. Our Sponsors:* Check out Chime and use my code Chime.com/selfcare for a great deal: https://www.chime.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

This epside is for the eldest daughter who had to put her life and joy on hold to carry the weight of adult responsibilities on her shoulders. Ok, so I stand corrected. The writings shared weren't about "sensuality" per se, but Erotic as Power. I still suggest you read it when you have time to linger this month. Here it is: The Uses of the Erotic by Audre LordeAlso, join me on substack! Upgrade your free membership for $9/month to unlock private audios as well as the bookclub. We are reading Rest is Resistance this month. Our first meeting on Zoom is October 21st. Jon here: Bre's Substack PageOur Sponsors:* Check out Chime and use my code Chime.com/selfcare for a great deal: https://www.chime.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

I have a confession to make. A few days ago, my old survival brain started panicking about business metrics, and I frantically sat down to plan a massive, exhausting 90-day challenge. My plan was to force myself to show up on camera at 5:00 AM every single morning until the end of the year to feed the algorithm. That wasn't how I looked at it initially, but that's what it was.Let's talk about the trap of the "unintentional scramble"—how fear tries to trick us into running back to the hustle when we make space to be still/slow down/do less, and why the most radical thing a Black woman in her midlife can do right now is refuse to be a mule for the system. Put your phone on do-not-disturb, grab your tea, and let's talk about how we are going to unlabor and choose peace for the rest of this year.Join my private paid community on Substack for access to the BGSC bookclubOur Sponsors:* Check out Chime and use my code Chime.com/selfcare for a great deal: https://www.chime.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

I'm writing more about rebuilding my life in my mid-life. Join me on SubstackPutting on my auntie/much older sister hat on for this episode. Got a listener question recently from a young mother. She is working, about to go to school, and raising a young daugher on her own. On top of that the father of her child is "not the nicest." In her question she asks if things will ever get easier.You may be solo parenting, balancing an impossible load, or in the middle of a season where your energy is drained. This conversation is your reminder to remember your value and to also release the guilt you may be experiencing for decisions you made that didn't go as expected. Let's talk about protecting your peace around unhelpful co-parents, and practice practical "micro-self-care" when you have zero free time, Our Sponsors:* Check out Chime and use my code Chime.com/selfcare for a great deal: https://www.chime.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy