Finding Fertility

Topics Discussed • Fertility burnout and the internal countdown • IVF trauma and rushed decision making • Subconscious blocks connected to age and timing • Nervous system responses to waiting • Emotional healing through integration not fixing • Mindset and frequency shifts through steady awareness Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be… This week is not about doing more. It is about letting what you have already seen settle into your body. Over the last few weeks you have noticed how time pressure became personal. How fertility burnout was not just exhaustion but a constant internal countdown. How IVF trauma and waiting can quietly rush decisions and tighten your pace. Maybe something softened. Not perfectly. Not permanently. But enough to feel a little more space in your chest. Time is one of the loudest fears in a fertility journey. Age. Expectations. The story of I should have had this by now. And when that story runs unconsciously it shapes your mindset and frequency without you even realizing it. You start living inside the countdown. “Time pressure loses its power when it is no longer unconscious.” This week we are integrating. Not fixing. Not evaluating your progress. Not measuring how far you have come in your emotional healing. Just noticing how your body responds to waiting. Does urgency still grip the same way. Does your nervous system soften even slightly when you remember you are not behind. When you live outside the countdown even briefly something profound happens. Choices return that are not driven by fear. Presence returns. Trust returns. Not because your circumstances changed but because your relationship with time shifted. “When you stop racing the clock your system remembers how to feel safe.” This is subconscious healing in real time. The simple practice of being the ultimate observer without judgment. No labels. No performance. Just awareness repeated enough that the frequency naturally recalibrates. Next week we move into radical responsibility. Not as effort. Not as hustle. As ownership of how you meet your life. Timestamps 00:00 Welcome and settling into week 15 01:07 Letting awareness integrate instead of doing more 02:05 Time pressure age and the fear of being behind 03:03 Living outside the countdown 04:31 Reminding your body it is safe to slow down 04:59 Transition into radical responsibility If you have been holding your breath for years this episode will feel quiet. Almost too simple. And that is the point. Fertility burnout thrives on urgency. IVF trauma feeds on the countdown. This week we practice something radical. We let it soften. We let the body recalibrate. And we see what choices return when fear is no longer running the show. Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/week-15Subconscious%20Blocks%20Hidden%20in%20the%20Fear%20of%20Waiting%20During%20Infertility%20&%20IVF Let's Do This Together 💚 Monica Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok  🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10 🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Apple: http://bit.ly/FINDINGFERTILITYAPPLE⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Stitcher: http://bit.ly/FindingFertilitySTITCHER Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0BMtwCvdyR4aJyfSfcKh6i 🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon   Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

Topics Discussed Fertility burnout as nervous system time pressure not failure IVF trauma and how urgency imprints in the body Subconscious blocks around waiting and safety Emotional healing through subtle rhythm shifts Frequency changes that happen without force Radical responsibility without self blame Creating new evidence through small regulated moments Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be… This week we are not fixing your fertility. We are not solving your timeline. We are looking at the quiet panic underneath it all. The fertility burnout that feels like exhaustion is often just fear dressed up as productivity. The internal clock that feels biological is usually emotional. And when you slow down enough to notice that time pressure is a story your nervous system has memorized, something softens. You are not behind. You are not late. You are not running out. What if the urgency you feel is not truth but conditioning? What if IVF trauma and subconscious blocks around time have trained your body to believe waiting is dangerous? That is the frequency we are unraveling. Not with force. Not with performance. Just awareness. “If I told you that you would have your dream family by 2028 and it was a hard guarantee, you would finally relax.” That is the gift you are practicing giving yourself. When the body no longer feels threatened by time, coherence begins. When you pause without fear, that is emotional healing in motion. And when you notice even one moment where you did not rush, that is subconscious healing happening in real time. “Your body knows how to regulate pace when it is not driven by fear.” This episode is about noticing those subtle shifts. The breath that deepens. The decision that waits. The moment you choose rest over reaction. Fertility burnout loses its grip when urgency is no longer your identity. And next week we close this chapter by asking one honest question. Has your relationship with time actually changed in your bones? Timestamps 00:00 Opening and the deeper layer beneath fertility burnout 01:32 Awareness creating space around time pressure 02:56 The magic wish and what happens when urgency dissolves 03:55 Recognizing subtle nervous system regulation shifts 04:53 Celebrating moments where waiting no longer feels dangerous 05:19 Feeling the shift in your relationship with time Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/week-14%20Fertility%20Burnout%20Time%20Pressure%20Healing%20Urgency%20at%20the%20Nervous%20System Let's Do This Together 💚 Monica Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok  🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10 🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Apple: http://bit.ly/FINDINGFERTILITYAPPLE⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Stitcher: http://bit.ly/FindingFertilitySTITCHER Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0BMtwCvdyR4aJyfSfcKh6i 🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon   Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.  

Topics Discussed How time pressure reshapes fertility decision making The nervous system response behind urgency and fertility burnout IVF trauma and the fear of waiting too long Subconscious blocks around age timelines and regret The difference between relief based decisions and intuitive alignment How urgency contracts fascia nervous system and frequency Emotional healing through awareness rather than force Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be… This week we are not fixing anything. We are noticing something. The quiet way time pressure starts deciding for you. Not loudly. Not dramatically. Just subtly enough that urgency begins to feel responsible and stillness starts to feel reckless. You can feel it in the body. The contraction. The narrowing. The sense that if you do not choose now you will miss your only window. Fertility burnout often does not come from doing too little. It comes from doing too much too fast because waiting feels dangerous. And sometimes what looks like decisiveness is actually relief. Relief from uncertainty. Relief from the discomfort of not knowing. “Time pressure does not just affect timing. It affects discernment.” There is a difference between intuition and urgency. Between a grounded next step and a subconscious block that whispers you are running out of time. If you have ever rushed into IVF from fear or rushed away from it from panic you know this energy. The body knows the difference even when the mind pretends it does not. “Decisions made under time pressure feel different in the body.” This episode is not about judging your past choices. It is about seeing the pace. Seeing where presence was replaced by pressure. And asking yourself one honest question. What would have happened if I had allowed more space? Next week we soften the pace. But first you get to see it. Timestamps 00:00 Welcome and the shift into week 13 01:14 How time pressure begins narrowing your choices 02:14 Relief based decisions versus clarity 03:12 The fear of waiting and rushing into IVF 04:11 How urgency affects the body and discernment 05:10 Noticing without correcting and preparing to soften pace Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/week-13When%20Time%20Pressure%20Hijacks%20Your%20Fertility%20Decisions%20During%20Infertility%20&%20IVF Let's Do This Together 💚 Monica Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok  🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10 🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Apple: http://bit.ly/FINDINGFERTILITYAPPLE⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Stitcher: http://bit.ly/FindingFertilitySTITCHER Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0BMtwCvdyR4aJyfSfcKh6i 🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon   Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.  

“You are never doing something wrong. You are trying to stay safe inside uncertainty.” Topics Discussed • How fertility burnout subtly becomes identity • The nervous system response to time anxiety and perceived delay • IVF trauma and over identification with diagnosis • Self surveillance tracking and measuring progress • The disappearance of self compassion under pressure • Frequency shifts that begin with awareness not force • Subconscious healing through radical observation “When time pressure feels personal it creates self surveillance.” Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be… There is a moment on this journey where time pressure stops being about the calendar and starts being about you. Your age. Your diagnosis. Your past failed IVF. Your story. And suddenly fertility burnout is not just exhaustion. It feels like identity. You are no longer navigating a season. You are carrying a label. This episode is about that shift. The quiet slide from circumstances into self surveillance. The tracking. The measuring. The way your breath shortens when you think you are behind. The way compassion disappears and the inner voice sharpens. This is not because you are broken. It is because you are trying to stay safe inside uncertainty. And that realization alone changes everything. We talk about subconscious blocks that form when IVF trauma or years of negative tests become personal proof. We talk about frequency and how tension narrows your body without you realizing it. And we talk about noticing. Not fixing. Not performing healing. Just seeing the moment the pressure moves from external to internal. Next week we look at how these identity stories quietly start dictating your choices. And once you see that… you cannot unsee it. Timestamps 00:00 Welcome and the invitation to radical responsibility 01:07 When time pressure stops being about time 02:03 Over identifying with infertility and past IVF 03:02 Self surveillance tracking and nervous system tension 04:30 Letting the body reveal where it is holding pressure 05:55 Consistency intuition and the quiet work of frequency shifts Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/week-12Frequency%20Shifts%20for%20Women%20Tired%20of%20Carrying%20Infertility Let's Do This Together 💚 Monica Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok  🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10 🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Apple: http://bit.ly/FINDINGFERTILITYAPPLE⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Stitcher: http://bit.ly/FindingFertilitySTITCHER Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0BMtwCvdyR4aJyfSfcKh6i 🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon   Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.  

Topics Discussed • The subconscious block of feeling behind in motherhood and life • How fertility burnout is amplified by internal time pressure • IVF trauma and the nervous system pattern of urgency • The frequency of anxiety when you live in future stories • Control patterns inherited across generations of women • Emotional healing through observation rather than force • The difference between clock deadlines and internal urgency • Shifting mindset without performing positivity Timestamps 00:00 Hello beautiful and welcome to the Finding Fertility podcast. 01:03 Ten weeks of awareness around control patterns and overdoing. 01:58 Releasing time pressure and why the real doing may be doing nothing. 03:24 The hidden story of being behind and how it shapes your frequency. 05:13 Noticing how your body responds when urgency shows up. 07:11 Living in the future creates anxiety living in the past creates fear and neither is presence. Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/subconscious-blocks-the-frequency-of-i-m-running-out-of-time-during-infertility-week-11 Let's Do This Together 💚 Monica Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok  🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10 🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Apple: http://bit.ly/FINDINGFERTILITYAPPLE⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Stitcher: http://bit.ly/FindingFertilitySTITCHER Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0BMtwCvdyR4aJyfSfcKh6i 🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon   Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

“You do not need to earn this moment.” Topics Discussed • Fertility burnout that hides behind productivity and good intentions • The subconscious blocks that make rest feel unsafe • IVF trauma and the nervous system pattern of overdoing • How guilt shows up when movement slows down • Emotional healing through radical awareness not performance • Time pressure stories and the internal fear of being behind • Mindset shifts that support subconscious healing and frequency change • Why rest without guilt softens survival mode “Rest without guilt recalibrates your whole system.” Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be… Last week you noticed how quickly doing replaces feeling. How productivity becomes a shield. This week we stay with what happens when that shield lowers. And usually what shows up first is guilt. Not laziness. Not failure. Guilt. Fertility burnout is rarely about doing too little. It is about never feeling allowed to stop. When rest appears your nervous system may panic. It might whisper that you are behind. That time is running out. That IVF trauma or past disappointments mean you must push harder. And here is the uncomfortable truth. That push is often the very thing keeping your body in survival mode. Emotional healing begins when you pause without earning it. No reward. No justification. Just presence. We are also opening the door to time pressure. Not the clock. The internal story that it is too late. That your fertility journey is on a countdown. You already know age is not the whole story. But your subconscious may still be running a fear based script. And that script shapes your frequency more than any supplement ever could. This is where subconscious healing gets real. Not dramatic. Not loud. Just steady. A sticky note that says you do not need to earn this moment. A breath. A softening. And the quiet realization that safety is not something you achieve through overdoing. Next week we go deeper into those time stories and the subtle ways they shape your choices. For now just notice what happens when you stop performing. It might be uncomfortable. It might also be the relief you have been craving. Timestamps 02:29 When overdoing softens and guilt shows up 03:58 Rest without earning it and what your body feels  05:18 Building awareness as subconscious healing  06:15 Time pressure stories and feeling behind 07:40 Trusting your body and staying committed Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/FertilityBurnoutGuiltRestNoOneTalksAboutDuringIVFInfertility  Let's Do This Together 💚 Monica Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok  🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10 🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Apple: http://bit.ly/FINDINGFERTILITYAPPLE⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Stitcher: http://bit.ly/FindingFertilitySTITCHER Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0BMtwCvdyR4aJyfSfcKh6i 🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon   Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.  

“Stillness removes the buffer. When you stop moving, sensation rises and that can feel uncomfortable AF.” Topics Discussed Why overdoing is often about avoiding stillness, not productivity How autopilot patterns keep the nervous system in motion The link between safety, control, and fertility burnout Why boredom and pauses support creativity and regulation Observing impulses without fixing, forcing, or judging Learning to choose stillness rather than demand it “The body doesn’t avoid stillness without a reason. That reaction is information.” Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be… This episode is for the woman who knows she is tired, but cannot quite slow down. The one who has done all the things. The journals. The planning. The perfect routines. And yet something still feels loud inside. We talk about why stillness can feel unsafe. Not because anything is wrong with you, but because stillness removes distraction. It asks you to be with yourself without a role, without momentum, without identity. And for many women on the fertility journey, that is where the anxiety lives. This week is not about forcing rest or becoming some calm unicorn overnight. It is about noticing. The reaching. The tightening. The impulse to fill space. And realizing that those mundane moments are where the deepest awareness begins. Next week, we soften even more as rest gets re-framed without guilt or shame. Timestamps 01:31 Getting out of autopilot in everyday moments 02:30 Why stillness can feel unsafe 03:54 What boredom teaches the nervous system 05:18 The impulse to escape as information 06:47 Re-framing rest without guilt Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/IVF%20Trauma,%20Stillness,%20and%20the%20Body%E2%80%99s%20Need%20to%20Pause%20During%20Infertility Let's Do This Together 💚 Monica Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok  🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10 🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Apple: http://bit.ly/FINDINGFERTILITYAPPLE⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Stitcher: http://bit.ly/FindingFertilitySTITCHER Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0BMtwCvdyR4aJyfSfcKh6i 🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon   Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

“Urgency is a sensation before it is a decision.” Topics Discussed How overdoing is driven by time pressure, not motivation The nervous system pattern underneath fertility burnout Why urgency feels responsible even when it is dysregulating The illusion of being behind and how it speeds up the body Stillness as a threat when worthiness is tied to action Noticing sensations instead of fighting stories Why slowing down is not indulgent on a fertility journey “Movement feels like progress even when nothing is actually changing.” Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be… This episode is for the woman who cannot seem to stop doing. Reading. Researching. Optimizing. Fixing. The one who tells herself she will rest once this works. The one whose body feels like it is constantly racing an invisible clock. And somehow, slowing down feels irresponsible. We are not talking about ambition here. We are talking about urgency. The kind that comes from the story that you are behind. That you should have started earlier. That age is the most important factor. That time is running out. And when that story takes over, the nervous system speeds up, the breath shortens, and overdoing feels like the only option. This episode is not about stopping or fixing anything. It is about noticing what happens in your body when the rush appears. Because when urgency stops running the show, something very different becomes possible. And next week, we go even deeper into why overdoing is often an avoidance of stillness itself. Timestamps 01:25 Why overdoing did not start with fertility 02:23 Time pressure and the illusion of being behind 03:48 Movement that feels like progress but is not 04:17 Urgency as a body sensation, not a truth 05:46 What your future child will actually thank you for Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/Overdoing,%20Urgency%20&%20the%20Illusion%20of%20Running%20Out%20of%20Time%20During%20Infertility%20&%20IVF Let's Do This Together 💚 Monica Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok  🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10 🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Apple: http://bit.ly/FINDINGFERTILITYAPPLE⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Stitcher: http://bit.ly/FindingFertilitySTITCHER Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0BMtwCvdyR4aJyfSfcKh6i 🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon   Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.  

“If my worth depends on effort, then rest will always feel unsafe.” Topics Discussed Overdoing as identity, not behavior Why slowing down can feel threatening instead of nourishing The nervous system cost of being the capable one How worth becomes tangled with productivity Fertility burnout and emotional depletion Noticing patterns without fixing or correcting them Soft awareness as a form of subconscious healing “Overdoing isn’t just a habit for many women. It’s an identity.” Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be… This episode goes somewhere tender. Not into doing less. Not into fixing anything. But into the moment where slowing down feels uncomfortable because of who you might be without the doing. For so many women, overdoing is not a strategy. It is an identity. Being reliable. Being capable. Being the one who holds it all together. And when that identity carries worth, rest does not feel like relief. It feels threatening. Not because things will fall apart, but because a quiet question surfaces underneath it all. Who am I if I stop? This is not a week for correcting yourself. It is a week for noticing. The guilt. The unease. The urge to justify your time. And what might soften if your worth no longer depended on effort. Listen in and let this one land gently. Something shifts when you see it clearly. Timestamps 01:06 Why slowing down can feel threatening, not restful 02:03 Overdoing as identity and where worth gets tangled 02:33 The quiet fear underneath constant productivity 03:32 How effort-based worth leads to depletion 04:31 When doing becomes a choice instead of a compulsion Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/Fertility%20Burnout%20and%20the%20Identity%20of%20Overdoing%20Everything%20During%20Infertility%20&%20IVF  Let's Do This Together 💚 Monica Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok  🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10 🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Apple: http://bit.ly/FINDINGFERTILITYAPPLE⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Stitcher: http://bit.ly/FindingFertilitySTITCHER Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0BMtwCvdyR4aJyfSfcKh6i 🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon   Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

There is nothing noble about running yourself into the ground to prove you are enough. Topics Discussed How overdoing disguises itself as being responsible, capable, and admired Why slowing down can trigger anxiety, guilt, or loss of identity Movement as a coping mechanism for nervous system regulation The invisible link between fertility burnout, worthiness, and control How awareness softens patterns without forcing change What happens when you stop over-functioning for everyone else Overdoing is not strength. It is often just a nervous system trying to feel safe. Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be… This episode is a pause. Not the kind you schedule. The kind that sneaks up on you when you realize how much effort you are pouring into things that are not actually required. The kind that makes you notice how uncomfortable stillness feels when your identity has been built on being the one who does it all. We talk about overdoing. Not the dramatic kind. The praised kind. The kind that earns compliments while quietly exhausting your nervous system. The kind that looks like leadership, motherhood, fertility dedication, or being the responsible one. And how often that constant motion is not ambition at all, but survival. If you have ever wondered why slowing down feels harder than pushing through, or why letting something be imperfect makes your chest tighten, this episode is for you. No fixing. No forcing. Just awareness. And what starts to shift when you finally let yourself see the pattern. Timestamps 01:42 How overdoing hides behind being capable 03:35 Movement as nervous system regulation 04:27 Noticing patterns without judgment 06:18 Letting go of perfection and control 07:07 The link between overdoing and worthiness Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/Why%20Slowing%20Down%20Can%20Feel%20Unsafe%20During%20Your%20Fertility%20Journey Let's Do This Together 💚 Monica Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok  🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10 🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Apple: http://bit.ly/FINDINGFERTILITYAPPLE⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Stitcher: http://bit.ly/FindingFertilitySTITCHER Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0BMtwCvdyR4aJyfSfcKh6i 🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon   Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

“There is nothing wrong with you for holding on so tightly. For many women, control once meant survival.” Topics Discussed How control quietly disguises itself as safety The nervous system cost of gripping, fixing, and managing Why surrender often feels like loss, not relief Fear patterns hiding underneath overdoing and overanalyzing The difference between effort and force How honesty creates more space than pushing ever could “Surrender is not the absence of action. It is the absence of force.” Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be… This episode is an honest pause. A breath. A moment to look at how tightly you might be holding your life together and why. Not from judgment. Not from fixing. Just from awareness. Because control can feel responsible, productive, and necessary. Until it quietly turns into exhaustion. I share a very real chapter of my own fertility journey where surrender was not chosen. It was forced. No job. No distractions. No fixing. Just waiting. And while it did not magically guarantee an outcome, it changed how my body experienced life. It showed me how much effort I had been carrying without realizing it. This week is not about letting go of everything. It is about noticing where surrender feels dangerous. Where ease feels irresponsible. Where your body is bracing instead of breathing. And what might happen if you stopped fighting long enough to feel what is actually there. Timestamps 00:00 Welcome and setting the tone for noticing control 01:11 How control disguises itself as safety 02:42 Why fear-based effort works against the body 03:35 A personal story of being forced into surrender 07:14 Where gripping shows up in everyday life 08:42 Surrender as honesty, not collapse Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/Why%20Surrender%20Feels%20So%20Threatening%20When%20You%20Want%20a%20Baby%20During%20Infertility%20IVF Let's Do This Together 💚 Monica Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok  🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10 🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Apple: http://bit.ly/FINDINGFERTILITYAPPLE⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Stitcher: http://bit.ly/FindingFertilitySTITCHER Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0BMtwCvdyR4aJyfSfcKh6i 🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon   Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

"There is a difference between being responsible and being regulated." Topics Discussed Control disguised as care, responsibility, and being proactive Why overdoing can feel safe but keep the nervous system stuck The quiet exhaustion of managing everything and everyone How fertility burnout shows up in the mundane moments The illusion of success created by control Becoming the ultimate observer without judgment Why doing nothing for a moment can be deeply regulating Sometimes fixing is not love. It is fear in a more socially acceptable outfit. Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be… This episode is a brutally honest look at control. Not the obvious kind. The sneaky kind. The kind that looks like fixing, managing, improving, optimizing, and being the responsible one. The kind that gets praised. And the kind that quietly keeps your nervous system on edge while your body whispers, or screams, for relief. I share a very real moment where my own control patterns showed up while recording this very series. The urge to do more. Add more. Fix something that was already enough. And how noticing that impulse changed everything. Because the work that actually shifts fertility, burnout, and emotional exhaustion is not flashy. It is boring. It is mundane. And it asks you to sit with discomfort instead of outrunning it. If you have ever felt like you are doing everything right and still not seeing the shift you want, this conversation will land. Especially if slowing down feels like giving up. Next week, we are gently reframing surrender so it stops feeling terrifying and starts feeling safe. Timestamps 01:30 Catching control patterns in real time 03:40 When fixing feels like care but creates burnout 05:10 The illusion of success created by overcontrol 07:45 Why doing less can be deeply regulating 10:50 Becoming the ultimate observer without judgment Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/The%20Illusion%20of%20Control%20in%20Infertility%20IVF%20Why%20Less%20Is%20Not%20Giving%20Up  Let's Do This Together 💚 Monica Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok  🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10 🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Apple: http://bit.ly/FINDINGFERTILITYAPPLE⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Stitcher: http://bit.ly/FindingFertilitySTITCHER Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0BMtwCvdyR4aJyfSfcKh6i 🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon   Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

“You don’t need a new mindset. You need to notice the place you live inside.” Topics Discussed Fertility burnout as a nervous system pattern, not a personal failure How control hides inside efficiency, productivity, and being on top of things Why subconscious healing happens in micro moments, not massive breakthroughs The difference between fixing yourself and becoming aware of how you live Fertility symptoms as information, not punishment What motherhood reveals when old patterns go unchecked “It’s not the big dramatic moments that shape your nervous system. It’s the ordinary ones.” Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be… This episode is an invitation to slow down without forcing yourself to slow down. To notice without fixing. To see how much of your fertility journey is being run on autopilot while you are just trying to survive another day of doing all the right things. If you have ever felt like you need more information, more discipline, more control, this conversation might gently irritate you in the best way. Because the truth is, transformation does not come from tackling the big dramatic moments. It comes from noticing how you move through your day while making breakfast, checking your phone, planning what comes next. This episode is about awareness, not effort. About where your nervous system actually lives. And why fertility healing often asks us to clean up the small invisible patterns before life asks us to mother through them. There is something quietly powerful waiting for you in the ordinary moments you usually rush past. “Presence does not require effort. It requires permission.” Timestamps 01:07 Why slowing down feels unbearable when control patterns are active 02:35 How control hides in ordinary moments, not big decisions 03:35 Why awareness changes reality more than overdoing ever could 05:55 You don’t need a new mindset, you need to notice where you live 08:22 What happens when you stop fixing, pushing, and managing Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/The%20Subconscious%20Patterns%20Running%20Your%20Fertility%20Journey%20on%20Autopilot Let's Do This Together 💚 Monica Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok  🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10 🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Apple: http://bit.ly/FINDINGFERTILITYAPPLE⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Stitcher: http://bit.ly/FindingFertilitySTITCHER Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0BMtwCvdyR4aJyfSfcKh6i 🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon   Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

“Control driven by fear doesn’t create safety. It creates vigilance.” Topics Discussed The subtle ways control hides inside responsibility and maturity Why most women do not experience control as force, but as protection How subconscious control patterns keep the nervous system tense The generational imprint of women holding everything together The difference between true safety and low level vigilance Why doing all the right fertility things can still feel exhausting Noticing control without fixing, changing, or judging Summary Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be… This episode is a quiet one. Not flashy. Not dramatic. And honestly, the most important place to start. We are talking about control, not the loud obvious kind, but the kind that feels responsible. Helpful. Protective. The kind most women were praised for growing up. I share how control once felt like safety in my own body and how that same pattern followed me into fertility and motherhood. Not because I was rigid or difficult, but because my nervous system thought staying on top of everything was the only way to relax later. Spoiler alert. Later never comes. This week is not about fixing control or doing something differently. It is about noticing the moment your body tightens and asking one simple question. Is this safety or is this tension? That awareness alone is more powerful than any checklist. And next week, we go deeper into how this shows up in the most mundane moments of your day. “Control doesn’t feel aggressive. It feels responsible. Mature. Protective.” Timestamps 01:07 When control feels like safety instead of stress 02:34 Generational patterns and the emotional labor women carry 04:49 Why control actually makes motherhood and fertility heavier 06:13 The nervous system difference between safety and vigilance 07:42 Becoming the ultimate observer in everyday moments Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/week-2-fertility-burnout-nobody-talks-about-the-cost-of-quiet-control Let's Do This Together 💚 Monica Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok  🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10 🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Apple: http://bit.ly/FINDINGFERTILITYAPPLE⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Stitcher: http://bit.ly/FindingFertilitySTITCHER Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0BMtwCvdyR4aJyfSfcKh6i 🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon   Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

“You do not need to control your way into safety. You need to notice where control is running the show.” Topics Discussed Fertility burnout and why over-efforting feels safe but keeps you stuck IVF trauma and how control becomes a subconscious coping strategy The illusion of control as protection for the nervous system Subconscious healing through awareness, not fixing Why frequency behind action matters more than the action itself Gut health, mindset, emotional healing, and nervous system regulation as lived experiences Slowing down without losing momentum or responsibility Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be. This episode kicks off a gentle but powerful series that is not about learning more or doing more. It is about noticing what is already happening beneath the surface. Especially the places where control has quietly become your safety net. If you are navigating fertility burnout, IVF trauma, or that constant feeling of having to stay on top of everything just to survive, this conversation is for you. We talk about the mundane moments no one glamorizes. Your to do list. The way you plan your day. The subtle micromanaging that feels responsible but actually keeps your nervous system on edge. I am not here to tell you to stop controlling your life. I am here to help you see where control is driving, and where it might be costing you more than it gives. This is not about judgment or immediate change. It is about radical honesty, awareness, and compassion. The kind that opens the door to real subconscious healing. By the end of this episode, you may realize that the slow, seemingly pointless noticing is exactly where the deepest shifts in fertility, mindset, emotional healing, and frequency actually begin. And next week, we go even deeper into why control feels safe, and how to gently unwind it. “If slowing down feels pointless, that is usually where the real work is.” Timestamps 01:05: Week one begins, why the slow, mundane work is where true shifts happen 02:03: The fertility to do list and how control hides in plain sight 02:57: Control, obligation, and asking whether it actually lights you up 03:54: Frequency behind action, inspired movement versus pushing from fear 05:47: Why the old fast ways did not work, and the invitation to slow down with grace Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/week-one-infertility-ivf-burnout-control-the-slow-shifts-that-actually-change-everything Let's Do This Together 💚 Monica Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok  🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10 🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Apple: http://bit.ly/FINDINGFERTILITYAPPLE⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Stitcher: http://bit.ly/FindingFertilitySTITCHER Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0BMtwCvdyR4aJyfSfcKh6i 🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon   Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.  

“Knowledge didn’t fail you. It just can’t carry you where you’re going next.” Topics Discussed • Fertility burnout after years of doing everything right • IVF trauma and how it lingers beyond the procedure • Why knowledge alone stops creating change • Subconscious blocks that show up as overdoing and overwhelm • The role of frequency in emotional healing and integration • Letting go of fixing, chasing, and constant optimizing • Becoming the observer instead of the manager of your healing “Your body isn’t asking for more effort. It’s asking for coherence.” Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be. This is not a New Year pep talk. This is not a fresh start fantasy. This is a pause. There comes a moment in the fertility journey when learning more stops helping. When gut health protocols, mindset work, emotional healing, even subconscious healing start stacking up instead of settling in. When fertility burnout isn’t loud panic anymore, but quiet exhaustion. The kind where you know what to do, yet nothing feels integrated. This episode is an honest conversation about that moment. The one where information is no longer the issue. Patterns are. Frequency is. The way you relate to your body, your story, your timeline, your expectations. The part where IVF trauma, loss, and pressure quietly shape how safe it feels to slow down. I share why I am shifting this podcast into something simpler, slower, and more uncomfortable in the best way. Short episodes. Less teaching. More space. Invitations to notice how you move, react, strive, and hold control. Not so you fix yourself, but so you stop abandoning yourself in the name of doing it right. If you have done everything and still feel stuck, this episode will meet you there. No rescue. No urgency. Just a truth that might feel sharp at first, then oddly relieving. “Liberation begins when you stop trying to prove you’re doing enough.” Timestamps 00:00 Welcome and grounding into the conversation 01:30 Why New Year energy never resonated for me 03:20 When knowledge became accessible, but embodiment didn’t follow 05:50 The patterns I see women repeating even with all the tools 07:15 Why this podcast is shifting into shorter, quieter episodes 09:30 Fertility burnout, IVF trauma, and the illusion of control 11:40 What real pattern interruption actually asks of you “Nothing new needs to be added. Something old needs to be released.” Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/the-end-of-infertility-overdoing-a-new-frequency-for-fertility-healing Let's Do This Together 💚 Monica Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok  🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10 🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Apple: http://bit.ly/FINDINGFERTILITYAPPLE⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Stitcher: http://bit.ly/FindingFertilitySTITCHER Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0BMtwCvdyR4aJyfSfcKh6i 🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon   Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

"It wasn’t until after I got pregnant that I realized my gut health and so many other things had contributed to my miscarriages. My doctor said, 'It just happens.' But I knew there had to be a reason." Topics Discussed Fertility and gut health: How inflammation, processed foods, and nutrient absorption affect conception IVF or medical trauma: The frustration of being told “it just happens” after miscarriage Emotional and mindset healing: Turning discipline into self-love and rebuilding trust in the body Subconscious blocks and energy work: Letting go of instant gratification to create true healing Frequency, coherence, embodiment, and cellular health: How nourishment and awareness elevate fertility "Pregnancy isn’t a sign of health, it’s a sign of reproduction—and those are not the same thing." Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be. In this episode, I sit down with journalist-turned-health-podcaster Natalie Tisdale, whose fertility journey led her deep into the world of gut health, self-discipline, and true nourishment. What began as frustration after repeated miscarriages became a quest for understanding what her body was actually trying to say. Spoiler alert: it wasn’t about age, it was about inflammation, imbalance, and intuition. We talk about the myth of “bad luck” and how the body always whispers before it screams. Natalie shares how ditching processed foods, rebuilding her microbiome, and reconnecting to her body’s rhythm changed everything—from her energy to her fertility outcomes. It’s not about a long list of supplements or complicated biohacks, it’s about simple, nourishing choices made with love and awareness. You’ll laugh, nod, and probably want to grab a cup of bone broth halfway through this one. We also dive into how discipline becomes an act of self-love, why antibiotics wreck more than your gut, and how trusting your inner guidance can transform your fertility journey. The message is clear: healing your gut isn’t just about digestion, it’s about coherence, connection, and creation. "Discipline isn’t punishment—it’s self-love in action." Timestamps 00:00 – Why your frequency matters more than your protocol 01:31 – Natalie’s shift from news anchor to health storyteller 03:20 – The real reason behind her miscarriages and gut health connection 06:24 – The perimeter-of-the-grocery-store rule that changed everything 09:10 – Why self-discipline is the new self-care 14:12 – How to simplify gut healing and stop the overwhelm 18:46 – Organ meats, bone broth, and forgotten fertility foods 22:35 – Small daily habits that reset your gut and your energy "When you feel good from the good things, you stop craving the bad things—physically and emotionally." Full Transcript Over on the Blog: Gut First, Heart Open: Healing Fertility Burnout with Simple Food, Nervous System Care & Soul-Level Trust Natalie Tisdale: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/Healing%20Fertility%20Burnout%20with%20Simple%20Food%20Nervous%20System%20Care%20Soul-Level%20Trust%20Natalie%20Tisdale Let's Do This Together 💚 Monica Message me DREAMS to access your free Fertility Breakthrough Session: Email: monica@findingfertility.co [not .com 🤣] Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok    🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10   🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Apple: http://bit.ly/FINDINGFERTILITYAPPLE⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Stitcher: http://bit.ly/FindingFertilitySTITCHER Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0BMtwCvdyR4aJyfSfcKh6i   🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon   Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

“Information without embodiment keeps you stuck in the same emotional loops that cancel out the physical work you are doing.” Topics Discussed • IVF trauma and fertility burnout • Emotional healing and subconscious patterns • Radical responsibility during the TTC journey • Embodiment vs information overload • Epigenetics and long term cellular health • Victim mindset, inner dialogue, and emotional loops • Stepping into trust, self worth, and nervous system coherence “Your physical body needs time to catch up with your mental reality.” Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be… Today’s episode goes straight to the heart of the fertility journey. If you have been gathering knowledge, listening to every expert, and collecting every supplement like tiny emotional trophies, yet still feel stuck, this one will hit home. I share the honest truth that most women avoid. You might know everything, yet still not be living any of it. You might be doing the physical work while your emotional patterns cancel it out. And I say that with so much love because that was me for years. We explore the real reason embodiment matters, why victim stories feel comforting but keep you looping, and how your body is always trying to catch up with the version of you who knows she is meant to be a mother. You will hear the clip I wish I had on repeat at twenty seven, thirty one, even thirty four. It will probably trigger something. That is exactly where the gold is hiding. If you are ready to shift timelines, collapse old patterns, and stop living in emotional slumps that drain your fertility, this episode will land with a mix of truth, humor, and full body resonance. Press play and let this be your turning point. “Sort the emotion that is keeping you stuck because we do not live in that story anymore.” Timestamps 00:00 Introduction and emotional insight about the fertility journey 01:05 Why most women avoid the real work and stay in research mode 03:27 Epigenetics and why your emotional patterns matter 04:25 The difference between information and embodiment 06:47 The bold clip on radical responsibility 07:44 How victim loops block your fertility progress 10:05 Who is truly ready for a fertility breakthrough session “Thoughts, emotions, and actions create your reality, and that is what will shift your fertility timeline.” Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/breaking-the-loop-of-infertility-ivf-trauma-and-stepping-into-radical-responsibility-fertility-success Let's Do This Together 💚 Monica Message me DREAMS to access your free Fertility Breakthrough Session: Email: monica@findingfertility.co [not .com 🤣] Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok    🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10   🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Apple: http://bit.ly/FINDINGFERTILITYAPPLE⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Stitcher: http://bit.ly/FindingFertilitySTITCHER Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0BMtwCvdyR4aJyfSfcKh6i   🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon   Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

“What if I stop judging myself and let the pieces fall so something better can be built.” Topics Discussed • The messy middle of TTC and IVF recovery • Emotional healing during fertility burnout • Subconscious patterns and self judgment • Frequency shifts and embodied surrender • Radical honesty with yourself during the journey • Letting go of control and rebuilding from a grounded place “You cannot light switch your body. You cannot snap your fingers and erase decades of patterns.” Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be… This episode takes you straight into the heart of the messy middle, that uncomfortable space between who you were and who you are becoming. If you feel like life is a wobbly tower of blocks and you are using every toe, finger, and nose hair to hold it together, you are not alone. This is the moment where surrender feels impossible and control feels safer, yet your body is quietly asking for stillness, honesty, and trust. We explore the deep emotional patterns that rise when everything starts to fall apart, the subconscious urge to fix what is not fixable, and the beauty that comes from letting yourself “do nothing” for a moment. Yes, I even talk about my husband sleeping his way to genius and how your soul babies probably wish you would slow down long enough to hear yourself think. This conversation invites you to soften. To witness the chaos without judgment. To release the frantic Googling and the need for the next perfect plan. And to remember that the void is not punishment. It is power. The version of you on the other side of this episode is clearer, calmer, and more aligned. Press play and feel the shift begin. “Judgment only comes from the mind. No one is judging you but you.” Timestamps 00:00 Opening insight on intuition and fertility 01:28 The truth about the messy middle of TTC 04:40 Why letting go of control changes your emotional frequency 07:29 The radical honesty required for real transformation 10:25 How doing nothing can create the biggest breakthroughs 12:47 Reframing setbacks, miscarriages, and slow progress 14:46 Understanding judgment, frequency, and emotional alignment “Sometimes the greatest healing comes from sitting in the void and doing absolutely nothing.” Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/when-your-infertility-ivf-journey-feels-like-it-is-falling-apart-even-when-you-re-doing-everything-right Let's Do This Together 💚 Monica Message me DREAMS to access your free Fertility Breakthrough Session: Email: monica@findingfertility.co [not .com 🤣] Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok    🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10   🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Apple: http://bit.ly/FINDINGFERTILITYAPPLE⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Stitcher: http://bit.ly/FindingFertilitySTITCHER Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0BMtwCvdyR4aJyfSfcKh6i   🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon   Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

“I think what I've discovered in the last few years is that you can be doing everything right on the energetic side of things.” • Feeling like it is the end when you have one embryo left or one last IVF transfer • Obsessing over fertility numbers and treating them like destiny • Subconscious gender stories, boy mom identity and beliefs about women • Spirit babies, soul contracts and staying grounded in your own joy • Cellular health, frequency and trusting fertility as innate • Nervous system safety, emotional release and facing hard feelings instead of staying positive • False surrender, discipline as self love and choosing to live your life while TTC “Those are just stories we're making up.” Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be… In this intimate, behind the scenes coaching session, we walk into the tender place so many women land on this journey. The place where you are staring at your labs, your age, your one embryo left and your brain is screaming, this is the end. I share how I went into my own last frozen embryo transfer with the twins convinced it was my final shot, miscarried, and truly believed I would only have one child. Looking back with the eyes I have now, I can see how much of that was a story, a protection pattern and a total disconnect from the truth that fertility lives in your cells, not in your fear. We explore gender anxiety, boy versus girl stories, and the sneaky subconscious beliefs many of us carry about women, mothers and ourselves. I talk about growing up with a deeply masculine mother, realizing I subconsciously thought all women were bitches, and why my mentor once told me I literally could not hold the woman frequency yet. We fold in spirit babies, soul contracts, and the very human temptation to outsource our power to readings instead of doing the unsexy work of cellular health, nervous system safety, emotional healing and actual joy. If you are tired of trying to stay positive, secretly terrified of another failed transfer, or spinning in false surrender while saying you have “let it go,” this conversation is your loving interruption. You will hear practical tools, real stories and a deeply truthful reframe that might finally let your shoulders drop and your heart exhale. Press play if you are ready to believe that this is not the end and that your baby is far more interested in your frequency than your perfection. “Anyways, that's why it's all about you. The baby doesn't want anything. It wants the same frequency, so coming home to yourself is the best thing you can do.” Timestamps 00:00 - When you are doing everything right energetically and still stressed before IVF 02:51 - Thinking this is the end after loss and why those stories are not the full truth 10:21 - Boy mom identity, feminine wounds and subconscious beliefs about women 17:57 - Spirit baby readings, soul contracts and not outsourcing your power 26:36 - Facing hard emotions instead of forcing positivity before an IVF transfer 32:45 - Written in the stars, miscarriage guilt and what really affects pregnancy 36:29 - Client story of failed IVF, natural conception and releasing TTC timelines “This is just a chapter. It is not the end. I'm done trying to conceive. I'm going to live my life.” Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/one-embryo-left-ivf-transfer-anxiety-spirit-babies-letting-go-of-fertility-numbers-as-destiny Let's Do This Together 💚 Monica Message me DREAMS to access your free Fertility Breakthrough Session: Email: monica@findingfertility.co [not .com 🤣] Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok    🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10   🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Apple: http://bit.ly/FINDINGFERTILITYAPPLE⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Stitcher: http://bit.ly/FindingFertilitySTITCHER Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0BMtwCvdyR4aJyfSfcKh6i   🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon   Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.