Better Divorce Podcast

Join Paulette and Hazel for this conversation about Divorce Finances. About Hazel: Hazel Secco is the founder and CEO of Align Financial Solutions, LLC. She brings over a decade of financial industry experience with a passion for advocating women’s financial wellness as a CFP and a CDFA. Hazel's mission is to empower women through education, enabling them to make informed decisions with confidence and clarity. Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Overview 01:19 Definition of a CDFA 02:08 Difference between a CDFA and a CPA 03:17 Different Financial Professionals in Divorce 04:13 Choosing Financial Professionals in Divorce 05:10 Challenges for Female Financial Planners 06:35 Establishing a New Financial Life After Divorce 07:00 Equitable Division of Marital Assets 07:29 Different Laws for Equitable Division 08:23 Personal Money Stories 09:12 The Importance of Financial Documentation 10:09 Personal Motivation for Helping People with Money 11:14 The Journey to Becoming a Financial Advisor 12:08 The Impact of Childhood Experiences on Money Attitudes 13:05 Transitioning to Helping Women Through Divorce 15:09 The Importance of Money Education in Divorce 16:06 Understanding Risk and Gambling 17:31 The Mystery of CDFA Designation 20:16 The Lack of Awareness about CDFAs 21:41 The Importance of Finding the Right Financial Professional 22:41 Creating Different Financial Scenarios 24:08 The Complexity of Financial Affidavits 25:05 The Importance of Organizing Finances 26:05 The Consequences of Incorrect Financial Information 27:13 The Challenges of Filling Out Financial Affidavits 28:08 The Emotional Attachment to the Marital Home 29:08 Creating Scenarios for Financial Decision-Making 30:05 Considering Financial Goals and Priorities 32:18 The Emotional Decision-Making Process 34:00 The Importance of a Holistic Financial Approach 35:19 The Role of Real Estate and Mortgage Experts 36:23 The Impact of Debt in Divorce 37:17 The Takeaway: Finding the Right Financial Professional

Summary:In this episode of the Better Divorce Podcast, Paulette Rigo discusses the complexities of divorce, particularly focusing on coercive control and its impact on families. Joined by expert Sybil Cummin, they explore the nuances of coercive control, its effects on children, and strategies for protective parenting. The conversation emphasizes the importance of understanding the dynamics of high conflict divorces and the need for support systems for those affected.Takeaways:Coercive control is a significant factor in high conflict divorces.The family court system often fails to protect children from coercive control.Children may exhibit different behaviors based on their experiences in high conflict situations.Protective parents can foster resilience in their children through unconditional love.Understanding the dynamics of coercive control can help in navigating divorce effectively.Support groups and mental health resources are crucial for protective parents.Co-parenting can be challenging when one parent uses coercive control tactics.Children's responses to divorce can vary widely based on their personality and age.The court's definition of 'best interest' can be subjective and inconsistent.There is hope for families to navigate divorce positively despite challenges.About Sybil:Sybil is a Licensed Professional Counselor who has specialized in working with victims and survivors of coercive control and domestic violence for the last decade, including the child victims in these families. She owns a small group therapy practice in Colorado and after witnessing the constant ethical issues survivors experience in the family court system trying to protect their children she created Rising Beyond Power and Control (often referred to as The Rising Beyond Community) to help close the gaps in support for this population. Sybil hosts The Rising Beyond Podcast and is active in legislative changes in Colorado for family court reform.SIGN UP FOR my Better Divorce Blueprint PROGRAM: https://betterdivorceblueprint.com/bdbWEBSITE - resources for those in need of Certified Divorce Coaching and Private Mediation Services :https://betterdivorceacademy.com/SOCIAL MEDIA - bit.ly/betterdivorceacademyBuy my book and workbook: Better Divorce Blueprint https://betterdivorceblueprint.com/RESOURCES - https://betterdivorceacademy.com/reso...AUDIOBOOK FROM AUDIBLE - https://www.audible.com/pd/Better-Div...Are you looking for answers and guidance? BOOK a 30 minute assessment consultation: https://calendly.com/betterdivorceaca...#divorce #mediation #coaching #lifeafterdivorce #divorcesupport

Summary:In this episode of the Better Divorce podcast, host Paulette Rigo speaks with parenting coach and psychotherapist Todd Sarner about the complexities of parenting in today's technology-driven world. They discuss Todd's upcoming book, 'The Calm and Connected Parent,' which emphasizes the importance of attachment in parenting. The conversation explores the challenges posed by technology, the significance of secure attachment, and the dynamics of co-parenting, especially in the context of divorce. Todd shares insights on how to balance technology use with parenting, the importance of connection, and the role of parents in fostering resilience in children.Takeaways:Parenting is more about who you are than what you do.Attachment first parenting prioritizes relationships over discipline.Technology can hinder children's ability to form secure attachments.Parents need to agree on technology use for their children.Children benefit from limits and boundaries set with compassion.Connection is essential before setting limits with children.Secure attachment is the key determinant of a child's potential.Co-parenting requires communication and alignment between parents.Children often seek connection through technology when they lack it in real life.Understanding attachment science can improve parenting strategies.About Todd:Todd Sarner is a parenting coach and psychotherapist with over 20 years of experience helping families create more connection, calm, and cooperation at home. A former Faculty Member of the Neufeld Institute, Todd has guided more than 2,000 families through the daily struggles of parenting—power struggles, meltdowns, and family stress—always with an attachment-first lens. He is the Director of Transformative Parenting and the author of the upcoming book The Calm & Connected Parent: An Attachment-First Guide to Raising Resilient Kids in the Age of Screens and AI (November 18, 2025).SIGN UP FOR my Better Divorce Blueprint PROGRAM: https://betterdivorceblueprint.com/bdbWEBSITE - resources for those in need of Certified Divorce Coaching and Private Mediation Services :https://betterdivorceacademy.com/SOCIAL MEDIA - bit.ly/betterdivorceacademyBuy my book and workbook: Better Divorce Blueprint https://betterdivorceblueprint.com/RESOURCES - https://betterdivorceacademy.com/reso...AUDIOBOOK FROM AUDIBLE - https://www.audible.com/pd/Better-Div...Are you looking for answers and guidance? BOOK a 30 minute assessment consultation: https://calendly.com/betterdivorceaca...#divorce #mediation #coaching #lifeafterdivorce #divorcesupport

SummaryIn this episode of the Better Divorce podcast, host Paulette Rigo speaks with Karen Gottlieb, a mental health therapist and author, about life after divorce. They discuss the emotional journey of navigating divorce, the importance of mindset, and the process of self-discovery. Karen shares her personal experiences and insights on helping women find their strength and purpose post-divorce, emphasizing that divorce is not the end but a new beginning. The conversation also touches on the stages of grief, the significance of support systems, and the lessons learned through the process.Takeaways:Divorce is a transition, not the end of life.Having a support system is crucial during divorce.Mindset mastery can help navigate difficult times.It's important to communicate effectively in relationships.Many women lose their identity in marriage.Grief is a natural part of the divorce process.Self-discovery is essential after a divorce.Writing can be a therapeutic outlet.Legal aspects of divorce can be overwhelming.There is beauty and growth on the other side of divorce.About Caryn:Caryn Gottlieb is a clinically trained mental health therapist, author, speaker, and soul strategist who helps women rise from burnout, breakdown, and major life shifts through mindset work, nervous system healing, and intuition. A message from Caryn:"My latest book has just been released and is on Amazon in both paperback and kindle formats. "Beauty Within Divorce: A No-B.S. Guide to Healing, Reinventing, and Loving Life Again," is a compassionate, no-fluff guide for women ready to reclaim their joy, identity, and power. I feel it's a must read for any woman who is navigating divorce or who is on the other side of things and struggling to level up in life to an enjoyable place where she is happy, healthy and abundant in all areas."SIGN UP FOR my Better Divorce Blueprint PROGRAM: https://betterdivorceblueprint.com/bdbWEBSITE - resources for those in need of Certified Divorce Coaching and Private Mediation Services :https://betterdivorceacademy.com/SOCIAL MEDIA - bit.ly/betterdivorceacademyBuy my book and workbook: Better Divorce Blueprint https://betterdivorceblueprint.com/RESOURCES - https://betterdivorceacademy.com/reso...AUDIOBOOK FROM AUDIBLE - https://www.audible.com/pd/Better-Div...Are you looking for answers and guidance? BOOK a 30 minute assessment consultation: https://calendly.com/betterdivorceaca...#divorce #mediation #coaching #lifeafterdivorce #divorcesupport

Summary:In this episode of the Better Divorce podcast, Paulette Rigo and Kate discuss the transformative journey from feeling like a victim to thriving after divorce. Kate shares her personal experiences with trauma, cancer, and the challenges of navigating a difficult marriage. They explore the importance of self-value, the impact of emotional struggles, and the healing power of art. The conversation emphasizes the need for support, authenticity, and the lessons learned through the process of divorce, ultimately inspiring listeners to embrace their own transformations.About Kate:Kate is a board certified nurse coach who specializes in helping people who are navigating a cancer journey. She is a registered nurse and is passionate about empowering people who are faced with some of life’s greatest challenges. She is also a successful artist and uses the profits from her prints to provide pro bono coaching for people unable to afford 1:1 services. Having hit rock bottom 10 years ago, after health crises, long standing narcissistic abuse and years of fear tactics she sought guidance through a domestic violence support center, ended her marriage and has rebuilt her life and career to make the most of this second chance at life and the gift of helping others. Takeaways:Shifting your mindset is crucial for personal growth.Art can be a powerful tool for healing and expression.Navigating cancer and divorce requires immense strength.Self-value is essential in overcoming difficult relationships.Coercive control can deeply impact one's sense of self.Finding support is vital during challenging times.The legal process of divorce can be daunting but manageable.Embracing authenticity leads to a more fulfilling life.Lessons learned from past experiences shape future decisions.Transformation is possible after trauma and hardship.SIGN UP FOR my Better Divorce Blueprint PROGRAM: https://betterdivorceblueprint.com/bdbWEBSITE - resources for those in need of Certified Divorce Coaching and Private Mediation Services :https://betterdivorceacademy.com/SOCIAL MEDIA - bit.ly/betterdivorceacademyBuy my book and workbook: Better Divorce Blueprint https://betterdivorceblueprint.com/RESOURCES - https://betterdivorceacademy.com/reso...AUDIOBOOK FROM AUDIBLE - https://www.audible.com/pd/Better-Div...Are you looking for answers and guidance? BOOK a 30 minute assessment consultation: https://calendly.com/betterdivorceaca...#divorce #mediation #coaching #lifeafterdivorce #divorcesupport

Summary:In this episode of the Better Divorce Podcast, host Paulette Rigo speaks with Kirk Stange, a family law attorney and expert in military divorce. They discuss the unique challenges faced by military families during divorce, including communication dynamics between clients and lawyers, the emotional toll of family law, and the importance of mental health support. Kirk shares insights from his journey into family law, the complexities of military divorce, and offers advice for clients navigating this difficult process. The conversation emphasizes the need for effective communication, understanding emotional justice, and the role of legal representation in achieving a fair outcome.Takeaways:Kirk Stange's journey into family law was accidental.The emotional toll of family law can be significant.Effective communication between clients and lawyers is crucial.Military divorce presents unique challenges compared to traditional divorce.Mental health support is essential during the divorce process.Clients should be assertive but constructive in their communication with lawyers.Emotional justice is often not achievable in divorce cases.Counseling and therapy can help clients navigate their feelings during divorce.Prenuptial agreements can help mitigate future legal issues.Finding the right attorney is key to a successful divorce process.SIGN UP FOR my Better Divorce Blueprint PROGRAM: https://betterdivorceblueprint.com/bdbWEBSITE - resources for those in need of Certified Divorce Coaching and Private Mediation Services :https://betterdivorceacademy.com/SOCIAL MEDIA - bit.ly/betterdivorceacademyBuy my book and workbook: Better Divorce Blueprint https://betterdivorceblueprint.com/RESOURCES - https://betterdivorceacademy.com/reso...AUDIOBOOK FROM AUDIBLE - https://www.audible.com/pd/Better-Div...Are you looking for answers and guidance? BOOK a 30 minute assessment consultation: https://calendly.com/betterdivorceaca...#divorce #mediation #coaching #lifeafterdivorce #divorcesupport

Summary:In this episode of the Better Divorce Podcast, host Paulette Rigo engages in a deep conversation with Dr. Ursula Lentine about the complexities of divorce, trauma, and emotional awareness. They explore the impact of childhood experiences on adult relationships, the importance of communication, and the role of Internal Family Systems (IFS) in understanding personal dynamics. Dr. Ursula shares her journey and insights on how to navigate the emotional landscape of divorce, emphasizing the need for self-discovery and healing. The conversation highlights the significance of respect and awareness in relationships, offering listeners valuable tools for personal growth and understanding.Takeaways:Dr. Ursula emphasizes the importance of understanding childhood trauma.Many adults are influenced by their inner child during conflicts.Internal Family Systems (IFS) helps in recognizing different parts of ourselves.Communication is key to resolving issues in relationships.Resentment can build up when communication breaks down.Self-discovery is crucial for personal growth and healing.Divorce doesn't mean the end of family; it's about restructuring relationships.Emotional awareness can prevent misunderstandings in marriages.Therapy focuses on parts, but IFS is about healing those parts.Creating a safe space for vulnerability is essential for connection.

In this episode of the Better Divorce Podcast, host Paulette Rigo sits down with real estate expert Edith Espinola for a heartfelt and eye-opening conversation about navigating the emotional and practical challenges of divorce—especially when it comes to property. Edith shares her personal story of loss, resilience, and reinvention, offering hope and guidance for anyone facing this life transition.From breaking emotional ties to a home to understanding the financial implications of selling and buying property, Paulette and Edith explore how the home-buying journey can mirror the healing process itself. Together, they remind listeners that divorce changes every aspect of life—but it also opens the door to new beginnings, empowerment, and the chance to create a beautiful life with intention.Whether you’re just beginning your divorce journey or are in the process of rebuilding, this episode will leave you inspired, informed, and stronger than you know.

About Bernardo:Bern Mendez is a neuroscience-based dating and relationship coach with 14 years of experience helping successful women thriving in midlife—but not yet in love—move past hidden emotional barriers into clear, committed relationships.His practical method blends neuroscience, trauma-informed somatic work, polyvagal theory, and attachment research, helping women regulate their nervous systems, clarify what they genuinely want, and choose partners who can truly meet them there.Bern’s YouTube channel has drawn over 30 million views and 227,000 subscribers, making it one of the top 12 dating advice channels for women worldwide. Featured by CNN, HuffPost, Redbook, Univision, and MindBodyGreen, Bern coaches women globally from his home base in Austin, Texas.Summary:In this episode of the Better Divorce Podcast, host Paulette Rigo and guest Bern Mendez explore the complexities of dating and relationships post-divorce. They discuss how personal experiences shape our understanding of love and attraction, the role of the nervous system in partner selection, and the importance of self-awareness and emotional health in creating sustainable relationships. Bern shares his journey from personal pain to helping others navigate their relationship challenges, emphasizing the need for intentionality in dating and the significance of understanding attachment styles. The conversation highlights practical strategies for rewiring attraction patterns and recognizing unhealthy relationship dynamics, ultimately encouraging listeners to seek help and embrace personal growth. In this conversation, Bern Mendez and Paulette Rigo explore the complexities of modern dating, emphasizing the psychological and emotional aspects of connection. They discuss the addictive nature of dating apps, the importance of authenticity, and the pressures women face in the dating landscape. The dialogue also touches on the hero's journey in relationships, the balance between passion and stability, and the significance of flirting and human connection. Ultimately, they encourage listeners to take their time in finding love and to set healthy boundaries in their dating lives.Takeaways:The nervous system plays a crucial role in partner selection.Personal experiences, including loss, can drive one's purpose.Understanding attachment styles is vital for relationship success.Rewiring attraction patterns requires intentional effort.Breathing techniques can help regulate emotional responses.Recognizing unhealthy relationship dynamics is essential for healing.Seeking help is a sign of strength, not weakness.Relationships require ongoing learning and adaptation.Self-awareness is key to navigating post-divorce dating.Daily practices can facilitate personal growth and emotional health. The cycle of connection and addiction is real and affects dating.Modern dating can feel overwhelming due to societal pressures.Authenticity is crucial in finding the right partner.It's important to ask powerful questions early in dating.Healthy love should feel like a safe home, not chaos.Flirting is a lost art that needs to be revived.Dating can be a spiritual journey of self-discovery.Setting boundaries is essential for healthy relationships.Take the time to find the right person for you.You can absolutely get what you want in love if you learn the necessary skills.

Summary:In this episode of the Better Divorce Podcast, host Paulette Rigo welcomes Kim Corven, a divorce expert from Canada. They discuss Kim's journey from a traditional litigator to a mediator and divorce coach, emphasizing the importance of empowering clients through education and innovative approaches to divorce. The conversation covers the emotional and financial impacts of divorce, the historical context of divorce law, and the significance of maintaining healthy relationships for the sake of children. Kim shares insights on how to approach difficult conversations about divorce and the resources available to support individuals navigating this challenging life transition.Takeaways:Kim Corven emphasizes the importance of maintaining a good relationship between children and their parents during divorce.Divorce is often treated as a legal issue, but it fundamentally stems from emotional and relational dynamics.Education and empowerment are crucial for individuals facing divorce, helping them make informed decisions.The historical context of divorce law has shaped current practices, often leading to unnecessary conflict.Innovative approaches, such as rituals for divorce, can help individuals process their emotions and move forward.Mediation can be a more effective and less costly alternative to traditional litigation in divorce cases.Understanding the emotional toll of divorce is essential for both parents and children.The conversation around divorce needs to shift from adversarial to collaborative for better outcomes.Divorce is a common experience, and individuals should not feel isolated in their struggles.Resources and support systems are vital for those navigating the complexities of divorce.

About Zoey:Zoey Charif isn’t just redefining how we think about love — she’s giving us a blueprint for it. As the author of Love Can, In Fact, Be Calculated, Zoey spent nearly two decades decoding the patterns of human attraction, pulling from her background in criminology, data analytics, and a relentless drive to challenge everything we’ve been taught about relationships.Born in Afghanistan, raised in Vancouver, Canada, and now based in Orange County, California, Zoey brings a rare blend of emotional depth, analytical precision, and lived experience to her work. Her framework isn’t just theoretical — it’s coachable, actionable, and designed to help people transform how they choose, build, and sustain relationships.Her work is a wake-up call: love isn’t magic. It’s math, psychology, and emotional mastery.Outside of the relationship space, Zoey is a powerhouse entrepreneur — the founder of Business Plans USA— helping startups and established businesses secure funding and scale with precision.Whether she’s helping people find aligned love or aligned success, Zoey’s mission is the same: to turn hope into mastery and potential into reality.SummaryIn this episode of the Better Divorce Podcast, host Paulette Rigo speaks with Zoey, the author of 'Love Can In Fact Be Calculated.' They discuss the importance of understanding love through a new framework that includes the concept of a 'self score'—a numerical assessment of self-respect and self-love. The conversation explores how this framework can help individuals assess their relationships, choose the right partners, and avoid past mistakes. They emphasize the significance of purpose in life and relationships, and how self-awareness can lead to healthier connections. The episode concludes with resources for listeners seeking further guidance.Takeaways:Understanding love requires a new framework.Self score is crucial for relationship sustainability.You can't love someone else unless you love yourself.Identifying core values is essential for relationship health.The perfect partner should be slightly above your self score.Low self scores can lead to toxic relationships.Purpose in life enhances relationship satisfaction.Self-awareness is key to making better relationship choices.Emotional intelligence plays a significant role in love.It's important to reassess relationships regularly.SIGN UP FOR my Better Divorce Blueprint PROGRAM: https://betterdivorceblueprint.com/WEBSITE - resources for those in need of Certified Divorce Coaching and Private Mediation Services :https://betterdivorceacademy.com/SOCIAL MEDIA - bit.ly/betterdivorceacademyBuy my book and workbook: Better Divorce Blueprint https://betterdivorceblueprint.com/RESOURCES - https://betterdivorceacademy.com/reso...AUDIOBOOK FROM AUDIBLE - https://www.audible.com/pd/Better-Div...Are you looking for answers and guidance? BOOK a 30 minute assessment consultation: https://calendly.com/betterdivorceaca...#divorce #mediation #coaching #lifeafterdivorce #divorcesupport

About John:Today’s guest is John Nachlinger, a divorce attorney, mediator, and founder of Netsquire — a New Jersey law firm redefining how families divorce with peace and purpose. He’s also the creator of Divorce Shield, a coaching platform that helps men navigate divorce without losing their minds, their money, or their kids. Finally, he is the host of the podcast, Get Divorced Without Getting Screwed.Summary:In this episode of the Better Divorce Podcast, host Paulette Rigo speaks with attorney and mediator John Nachlinger about his journey into family law and the creation of his firm, NetSquire, which focuses on mediation and alternative dispute resolution. They discuss the emotional toll of divorce trials, the importance of mindset in navigating divorce, and the launch of Divorce Shield, a program aimed at supporting men through the divorce process. The conversation emphasizes that divorce doesn't have to be traumatic and that individuals have the power to choose a better path for their divorce experience.Takeaways:John Nachlinger fell into family law unexpectedly.He aims to redefine the divorce process with mediation.The emotional aspect of divorce is often overlooked.Many people don't know they can resolve divorce amicably.Divorce trials can be extremely taxing on all parties involved.Divorce Shield supports men in navigating their divorce.Mindset is crucial in approaching divorce effectively.The traditional view of divorce as adversarial is changing.People need to understand the emotional and business sides of divorce.Choosing the right process can lead to a better divorce outcome.SIGN UP FOR my Better Divorce Blueprint PROGRAM: https://betterdivorceblueprint.com/WEBSITE - resources for those in need of Certified Divorce Coaching and Private Mediation Services :https://betterdivorceacademy.com/SOCIAL MEDIA - bit.ly/betterdivorceacademyBuy my book and workbook: Better Divorce Blueprint https://betterdivorceblueprint.com/RESOURCES - https://betterdivorceacademy.com/reso...AUDIOBOOK FROM AUDIBLE - https://www.audible.com/pd/Better-Div...Are you looking for answers and guidance? BOOK a 30 minute assessment consultation: https://calendly.com/betterdivorceaca...#divorce #mediation #coaching #lifeafterdivorce #divorcesupport

About Patrick:Pat spent the first decade of his career litigating high net worth divorce cases and wrote a book on this very subject. He's taken all of those skills and experiences and helps high net worth women going through the divorce process navigate it as strategically and efficiently as possible. Summary:In this episode of the Better Divorce Podcast, Paulette Rigo welcomes Patrick Kilbane, a family law attorney and wealth advisor, to discuss the complexities of divorce. They explore the importance of having a plan, the roles of various professionals in the divorce process, common mistakes people make, and the significance of understanding financial affidavits. Patrick shares insights from his experience in high net worth divorce cases and emphasizes the need for clients to be informed and prepared. The conversation also touches on the emotional aspects of divorce and the legal implications of marriage. Patrick's book, 'Move Forward Confidently,' aims to demystify the divorce process and provide guidance to those navigating this challenging time.Takeaways:Divorce is a complex process that requires careful planning.Having a strategic plan can alleviate fear during divorce.Many people make the mistake of not understanding their financial situation.Clients often procrastinate on necessary paperwork, complicating the process.Understanding the legal nature of marriage is crucial for navigating divorce.Financial affidavits are essential for disclosing assets and liabilities.It's important to work with professionals who understand the divorce process.Communication between clients and attorneys is key to a successful outcome.The emotional aspect of divorce can lead to avoidance of necessary tasks.Patrick's book provides valuable insights and resources for those facing divorce.Chapters:00:00 Introduction to Divorce and Mediation02:16 Understanding the Divorce Process05:51 The Importance of Planning in Divorce11:31 Common Mistakes in Divorce Cases17:34 Navigating Financial Affidavits and Assets22:15 The Legal Nature of Marriage and Divorce23:07 Patrick's Book: Move Forward Confidently28:00 Connecting with Patrick and ResourcesSIGN UP FOR my Better Divorce Blueprint PROGRAM: https://betterdivorceblueprint.com/WEBSITE - resources for those in need of Certified Divorce Coaching and Private Mediation Services :https://betterdivorceacademy.com/SOCIAL MEDIA - bit.ly/betterdivorceacademyBuy my book and workbook: Better Divorce Blueprint https://betterdivorceblueprint.com/RESOURCES - https://betterdivorceacademy.com/reso...AUDIOBOOK FROM AUDIBLE - https://www.audible.com/pd/Better-Div...Are you looking for answers and guidance? BOOK a 30 minute assessment consultation: https://calendly.com/betterdivorceaca...#divorce #mediation #coaching #lifeafterdivorce #divorcesupport

About Daniel:Daniel Ryan is the voice behind That Family Law Guy, a candid and compassionate advocate for parents navigating the storm of separation, custody battles, and domestic abuse conflict.He provides unfiltered expertise with real-world impact. Daniel brings many years of frontline experience supporting families through divorce, custody, and domestic conflict—without hiding behind legal jargon. His no-nonsense, story-driven approach helps audiences truly understand the human cost of family breakdown and what they can do to navigate it more wisely.Summary:In this episode of the Better Divorce Podcast, host Paulette Rigo speaks with UK family law attorney Daniel Ryan about the challenges faced by individuals navigating the family court system. They discuss the importance of accessibility in legal representation, the intimidating nature of the court system, and the need for better communication between attorneys and clients. Daniel introduces his new platform, Family Court Mastery, designed to provide individuals with the tools and knowledge needed to navigate family court without legal representation. The conversation emphasizes the importance of courtroom etiquette and the need for a respectful approach to the legal process.Takeaways:Daniel Ryan emphasizes the need for accessible legal services in family law.The family court system can be intimidating and overwhelming for clients.Courtroom etiquette is crucial for being taken seriously in legal proceedings.Family Court Mastery aims to empower individuals with knowledge about the legal process.Pro bono services are essential for those who cannot afford legal representation.The legal profession often uses complex language that can confuse clients.Respecting the court can lead to a more favorable outcome for clients.Mediation can help couples avoid contentious litigation.Preparation and organization are key to navigating divorce successfully.The future of legal services may include more accessible online platforms.Chapters:00:00 Introduction to Better Divorce Podcast and Guest Introduction03:02 The Role of Accessibility in Family Law06:08 Navigating the Family Court System08:46 The Challenges of Family Court Procedures11:50 The Importance of Courtroom Etiquette15:02 Introducing Family Court Mastery18:09 The Future of Family Court Mastery and Resources

About Cathy:Cathy Eads is a 500 hour Certified Yoga Teacher, Yoga Therapist, Ayurvedic Wellness Coach, and founder of BLISS Yoga with Cathy. After navigating her own high-conflict divorce, she now helps professional women in midlife release stress, recover their power, and rebuild emotionally and physically using holistic tools that are simple, effective, and deeply compassionate.Summary:Divorce doesn’t just change your relationship status—it shakes your nervous system, rewires your identity, and often leaves your body holding the tension, grief, and exhaustion long after the paperwork is filed.In this heartfelt episode, yoga therapist and stress resilience expert Cathy Eads shares how her 29-year marriage—and eventual high-conflict divorce—led her to create a safe, therapeutic space for other women to heal after separation.You’ll hear how yoga, breath, and guided rest can help you release the pain you’ve been carrying, reclaim your sense of self, and rebuild a life that finally feels like yours.Whether you’ve been divorced for 6 months or 6 years, this conversation is your reminder that you are not too late, too broken, or too far gone to begin again.Takeaways:Why traditional therapy may not be enough to fully heal after divorceThe hidden trauma stored in the body after years of “keeping the peace”How yoga, breath, and guided relaxation can soothe the nervous system and restore emotional steadinessThe 3 most common blocks women face in midlife after divorce—and how to gently move through themWhat makes Yoga for Divorce different from regular yoga classes or self-help programsWhy rest is not indulgent—it’s necessary for rebuilding your health, energy, and self-trustWant to Go Deeper?Cathy’s signature 12-week virtual group program, Yoga for Divorce: Heal, Reclaim, Rebuild, is now enrolling.It’s a small-group experience designed for 50+ women navigating divorce recovery who are ready to stop just surviving and start truly healing.You’ll receive: ✅ Weekly live therapeutic yoga, breathwork & guided rest sessions ✅ On demand resources to use anytime (yoga video, breath audio, journal prompt) ✅ A private, supportive community of women going through this with you ✅ Optional 1:1 support for deeper healingEnrollment is now open—spaces are limited to keep the group intimate.👉 Learn more & reserve your spot (option to grab a space for a single class to try it out)👉 Book your free 30-min De-Stress Session if you want to feel what it’s like to work with CathyShare This EpisodeKnow a woman who’s holding it together on the outside—but falling apart on the inside after divorce? Send her this episode. Let her know: she’s not alone, and healing is possible.

Summary:In this episode of the Better Divorce Podcast, Paulette Rigo and Megan Sherer discuss the importance of healing during and after divorce. They explore the role of holistic therapy, the significance of expressing emotions, and the connection between trauma and health. Megan shares her journey and insights on the six types of love, emphasizing the necessity of self-love as the foundation for all relationships. The conversation highlights the importance of understanding childhood wounds and the resources available for those navigating the challenges of divorce.Takeaways:Healing is essential in the divorce process.Holistic therapy addresses the whole person, not just symptoms.Expressing emotions is crucial for mental and physical health.Trauma can manifest in various health issues.There are six types of love that are important to recognize.Self-love is the foundation for all other relationships.Understanding childhood wounds can help in healing.It's important to prioritize the relationship with oneself.Healing allows individuals to reclaim their true selves.Support and resources are available for those navigating divorce.SIGN UP FOR my Better Divorce Blueprint PROGRAM: https://betterdivorceblueprint.com/WEBSITE - resources for those in need of Certified Divorce Coaching and Private Mediation Services :https://betterdivorceacademy.com/SOCIAL MEDIA - bit.ly/betterdivorceacademyBuy my book and workbook: Better Divorce Blueprint https://betterdivorceblueprint.com/RESOURCES - https://betterdivorceacademy.com/reso...AUDIOBOOK FROM AUDIBLE - https://www.audible.com/pd/Better-Div...Are you looking for answers and guidance? BOOK a 30 minute assessment consultation: https://calendly.com/betterdivorceaca...#divorce #mediation #coaching #lifeafterdivorce #divorcesupport

About Andrea:Andrea McGinty, Founder of 33000 datesSummary:In this episode of the Better Divorce Podcast, Paulette Rigo discusses the complexities of dating after divorce with expert Andrea McGinty. They explore statistics on remarriage, the importance of being emotionally ready for dating, and the role of dating coaches. Andrea shares her personal journey and insights on navigating online dating platforms, choosing the right apps, and effective messaging strategies. The conversation emphasizes the importance of self-awareness and preparation in the dating process, especially for those over 50.Takeaways:85% of divorced people are typically remarried within five years.It's important to be emotionally ready before dating again.Your first few dates can serve as practice dates.A dating coach can provide accountability and guidance.Choosing the right dating platform is crucial for success.Messaging should be unique and engaging to stand out.Understanding what you want in a partner is key to dating.Life experience can be an asset in dating after divorce.Online dating has become more accepted and accessible.Taking a quiz can help assess your readiness for dating.Chapters00:00 Introduction to Better Divorce Podcast01:52 The Journey into Dating After Divorce04:20 Statistics on Remarriage and Dating09:47 Understanding Readiness for Dating15:01 The Role of a Dating Coach22:15 Navigating Online Dating Platforms28:18 Choosing the Right Dating Apps35:13 Conclusion and Resources for DatingSIGN UP FOR my Better Divorce Blueprint PROGRAM: https://betterdivorceblueprint.com/WEBSITE - resources for those in need of Certified Divorce Coaching and Private Mediation Services :https://betterdivorceacademy.com/SOCIAL MEDIA - bit.ly/betterdivorceacademyBuy my book and workbook: Better Divorce Blueprint https://betterdivorceblueprint.com/RESOURCES - https://betterdivorceacademy.com/reso...AUDIOBOOK FROM AUDIBLE - https://www.audible.com/pd/Better-Div...Are you looking for answers and guidance? BOOK a 30 minute assessment consultation: https://calendly.com/betterdivorceaca...#divorce #mediation #coaching #lifeafterdivorce #divorcesupport

About Jodie:Jodie Graham is a Divorce Coach, Mediator, Chartered Professional Accountant, University-Trained Coach, and Registered Collaborative Professional dedicated to helping individuals navigate divorce with clarity, confidence, and dignity. With nearly 30 years of financial expertise and firsthand experience going through her own divorce, Jodie combines professional skill with personal understanding to guide her clients through one of life’s most challenging transitions.Jodie’s approach is practical, empowering, and tailored to each individual’s needs. She specializes in helping clients manage the emotional and financial complexities of divorce, avoid common mistakes, and create solutions that work for their unique situations. Whether it’s preparing for negotiations, making informed decisions, or planning for the future, Jodie’s insights and strategies ensure her clients feel supported every step of the way.With a deep commitment to collaboration and positive outcomes, Jodie is on a mission to transform the divorce experience—turning what often feels like an ending into an opportunity for a new beginning.Summary:In this episode of the Better Divorce Podcast, host Paulette Rigo interviews divorce expert Jodi Graham about the collaborative divorce process. They discuss the importance of understanding the collaborative approach, the role of neutrals, and how to find the right professionals to assist in the divorce journey. The conversation also covers the benefits of maintaining control over decisions, the time and cost comparisons between different divorce methods, and the challenges that may arise during the collaborative process. Listeners are encouraged to consider collaborative divorce as a viable option and to seek out the necessary resources and support.Takeaways:Collaborative divorce can be less costly than traditional litigation.Finding collaboratively trained lawyers is essential for the process.Neutrals can help navigate financial and emotional aspects of divorce.The collaborative process allows for more control over outcomes.Time spent in collaborative divorce can vary based on willingness to negotiate.It's important to choose professionals who understand their roles in the divorce process.The emotional toll of divorce can be managed with the right support.Understanding the costs associated with different divorce methods is crucial.Communication and negotiation are key in collaborative divorce.Researching options and professionals can lead to better outcomes. Chapters:00:00 Introduction to Better Divorce Podcast01:52 Jodi Graham's Journey and Expertise04:58 Understanding the Emotional Landscape of Divorce06:50 The Collaborative Divorce Process Explained12:58 The Role of Neutrals in Collaborative Divorce16:54 The Team Approach to Divorce19:45 The Control Factor in Collaborative Divorce22:55 Time and Cost Comparisons in Divorce Processes25:52 Navigating Collaborative Divorce: Time and Cost32:44 Challenges in the Collaborative Process39:46 Choosing the Right Attorney45:59 The Importance of Professional Support in DivorceSIGN UP FOR my Better Divorce Blueprint PROGRAM: https://betterdivorceblueprint.com/WEBSITE - resources for those in need of Certified Divorce Coaching and Private Mediation Services :https://betterdivorceacademy.com/SOCIAL MEDIA - bit.ly/betterdivorceacademyBuy my book and workbook: Better Divorce Blueprint https://betterdivorceblueprint.com/RESOURCES - https://betterdivorceacademy.com/reso...AUDIOBOOK FROM AUDIBLE - https://www.audible.com/pd/Better-Div...Are you looking for answers and guidance? BOOK a 30 minute assessment consultation: https://calendly.com/betterdivorceaca...#divorce #mediation #coaching #lifeafterdivorce #divorcesupport

Bio:Ashley Milus is a trauma-informed somatic grief and life transition coach who helps people navigate significant losses and life changes, including the death of a loved one, divorce, chronic illness, and other major transitions. Inspired by her own journey through loss, Ashley specializes in guiding clients through their healing process with a compassionate and holistic approach. She helps people process their emotions, feel deeply supported, rediscover their sense of self, and move forward with renewed strength.Website: https://www.ashleymilus.comBook a free one hour consultation with Ashley here: https://www.ashleymilus.com/book-a-sessionSummaryIn this episode of the Better Divorce Podcast, host Paulette Rigo speaks with Ashley Milus, a trauma-informed somatic grief and life transition coach. They discuss the complexities of grief, particularly in the context of divorce, and how somatic healing can help individuals process their emotions and experiences. Ashley shares her personal journey through loss and how it inspired her to help others navigate their own grief. The conversation delves into the methodology of somatic work, emphasizing the importance of the nervous system in healing and the need for a supportive environment. They conclude with key elements for rebuilding after divorce, including support, processing, and rebuilding oneself.TakeawaysGrief can manifest in various forms beyond death.Divorce involves multiple losses, not just the relationship.Somatic healing focuses on the body's experience of trauma.The nervous system plays a crucial role in emotional healing.Support systems are essential during the healing process.Self-support is vital for personal growth and recovery.Processing emotions is necessary for moving forward.Rebuilding after loss requires acknowledging past trauma.Healing is a journey that takes time and patience.No one should navigate grief and loss alone.Chapters00:00 Introduction to Better Divorce Podcast01:57 Understanding Somatic Grief and Life Transitions10:40 The Methodology of Somatic Healing22:34 Transformative Experiences in Somatic Work32:19 Key Elements for Rebuilding After DivorceSIGN UP FOR my Better Divorce Blueprint PROGRAM: https://betterdivorceblueprint.com/WEBSITE - resources for those in need of Certified Divorce Coaching and Private Mediation Services :https://betterdivorceacademy.com/SOCIAL MEDIA - bit.ly/betterdivorceacademyBuy my book and workbook: Better Divorce Blueprint https://betterdivorceblueprint.com/RESOURCES - https://betterdivorceacademy.com/reso...AUDIOBOOK FROM AUDIBLE - https://www.audible.com/pd/Better-Div...Are you looking for answers and guidance? BOOK a 30 minute assessment consultation: https://calendly.com/betterdivorceaca...#divorce #mediation #coaching #lifeafterdivorce #divorcesupport

About Sol:Sol Kennedy is the Founder of BestInterest, the first co-parenting app designed to foster peaceful communication between co-parents using the power of AI. A serial entrepreneur, former Googler, and angel investor, Sol blends his deep tech expertise with a personal mission—to bring more peace and safety to co-parenting, especially for those navigating high-conflict dynamics. Through BestInterest and his podcast Co-Parenting Beyond Conflict, he’s helping parents set boundaries, reduce stress, and keep the focus where it belongs—on the kids.Get 10% off here: https://bestinterest.app/promo/betterdivorceSummaryIn this episode of the Better Divorce podcast, Paulette Rigo interviews Sol Kennedy, founder of the Best Interest app, which aims to improve communication between co-parents using AI technology. They discuss the challenges of co-parenting, the importance of effective communication, and how the app can help reduce conflict and facilitate better interactions. Sol shares his personal journey in developing the app and its features, emphasizing the need for tools that prioritize the well-being of children during and after divorce. The conversation also touches on the role of AI in enhancing communication and the future developments planned for the app.Takeaways:Co-parenting requires a shift in mindset from being a family to being separate.Effective communication is crucial for successful co-parenting.The Best Interest app was created to help co-parents communicate better.AI can help filter messages to reduce conflict in co-parenting situations.Divorce itself doesn't harm children; it's the conflict that does.Setting boundaries in communication can help manage high conflict situations.The app allows for one-way communication to minimize emotional triggers.Best Interest app provides coaching on how to communicate effectively.Reducing the frequency of communication can help lower stress levels.Future developments for the app will include features for expense tracking and calendars.Chapters:00:00 Introduction to Co-Parenting Challenges02:51 The Importance of Communication in Co-Parenting06:00 The Birth of the Best Interest App09:11 Features and Benefits of the Best Interest App12:00 Understanding the Best Interest Concept14:49 Navigating High Conflict Situations17:54 AI's Role in Improving Communication21:01 Future Developments and Resources23:48 Conclusion and Final ThoughtsSIGN UP FOR my Better Divorce Blueprint PROGRAM: https://betterdivorceblueprint.com/WEBSITE - resources for those in need of Certified Divorce Coaching and Private Mediation Services :https://betterdivorceacademy.com/SOCIAL MEDIA - bit.ly/betterdivorceacademyBuy my book and workbook: Better Divorce Blueprint https://betterdivorceblueprint.com/RESOURCES - https://betterdivorceacademy.com/reso...AUDIOBOOK FROM AUDIBLE - https://www.audible.com/pd/Better-Div...Are you looking for answers and guidance? BOOK a 30 minute assessment consultation: https://calendly.com/betterdivorceaca...#divorce #mediation #coaching #lifeafterdivorce #divorcesupport