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These are the 10 lessons I learned this year that have changed my life AND helped make 2026 the best year of my life in recent memory. It isn’t because everything is perfect. It’s because almost every area of my life got better at the same time, and I don’t think that’s a coincidence!!In this episode, I’m covering:👉🏻 Why you can’t self-help your way out of a chemical imbalance👉🏻 Why my life doesn’t start when I meet someone, and what I did once I stopped waiting👉🏻 Why I was never actually trying to retire early, I was trying to escape a life I didn’t like👉🏻 Why location freedom can feel overwhelming if you don’t have a reason why you WANT to be somewhere👉🏻 Why I let myself spend more this year instead of saving an extra $20K👉🏻 How letting go of all-or-nothing thinking (and my 3 daily minimums) changed my anxiety and my daysReferenced in this episode:👉🏻 157. Why I Changed My Mind About Where I Want to Live | Chicago to LA Q+A (very honest) — https://youtu.be/XZLeorXEGvw👉🏻 6 Life-Changing Nonfiction Books | Habits, Focus, Money & More — https://youtu.be/Ne36piQQBsw👉🏻 Micro Habits That Actually Work | 10 Tiny Changes That Made A Huge Difference — https://youtu.be/GxUSEBYWKvQ👉🏻 The Cleaning System That Keeps My Apartment Spotless in 24/7 Without Constant Resets — https://youtu.be/UTAW61va4KcGET THE PRODUCTIVITY PLANNER!👉🏻 https://breakyourbudget.com/productivity-plannerSubscribe to the Beyond Your Budget Substack:https://breakyourbudget.substack.com/Personal Finance Starter Kit:https://breakyourbudget.substack.com/p/your-personal-finance-starter-kitBREAK YOUR BUDGET RESOURCES:💸 Personal Finance Dashboard:https://breakyourbudget.com/personal-finance-dashboard💸 Basic Budgeting Template:https://breakyourbudget.com/basic-budgeting-template💸 FI/RE Template:https://breakyourbudget.com/fire-template💸 Rent vs. Buy Calculator:https://breakyourbudget.com/rent-vs-buy-calculator💳 TOOLS I USE:💸 Rakuten Cash Back (cash back on purchases you’re already making): https://shorturl.at/w0PcH💸 SoFi HYSA (my fave high yield savings account): https://secure.money.com/pr/pa5344bfc4f2💸 Classpass (try it for a discounted first month): https://classpass.com/refer/UKLV6BN026📚 MY BOOKS:💸 Own Your Money: https://breakyourbudget.com/own-your-money💸 Own Your Career: https://breakyourbudget.com/oyc-bookAll Other Resources:https://breakyourbudget.com/links👩🏼‍💻 Inquiries: [email protected]📸 Instagram (Break Your Budget): https://www.instagram.com/breakyourbudget/📸 Instagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/michela_alloccaa📲 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@breakyourbudget💸 My ShopMy: https://shopmy.us/shop/michelaalloccaTIMESTAMPS:00:00 — Why 2026 is the best year of my life, even after a move that wasn’t the right one06:00 — Why I’m open about meds, and why I couldn’t self-help my way out11:00 — Why I realized I was never trying to retire early, I was trying to escape14:20 — The year I stopped focusing on dating and became the happiest I’ve ever been16:20 — Why most of my anxiety came from trying to control things I can’t, and why everything is going to be fine20:00 — Why moving back to LA worked this time, and why location freedom can be overwhelming28:20 — Letting go of all-or-nothing thinking, and my 3 daily minimums31:00 — Why I stopped treating the present like a waiting room34:20 — Why I’d choose the year I've had over saving an extra $20K43:30 — The small routines that changed my year (and life)

I've worked out my whole adult life and eaten healthy for years, and I always thought that was enough. This year I learned the difference between being generally healthy and actually getting specific about what my body needs. Today I'm breaking down the 4 changes that made me feel (and look!) my best this year, what I was doing before, and what actually made a noticeable difference.In this episode, I'm covering:👉🏻 Why I switched from random workouts to a structured, progressive weightlifting program👉🏻 Why "eating healthy" wasn't enough, and how I figured out my actual protein needs as a vegetarian👉🏻 How I finally fixed my sleep by treating my wind-down as a process, not the last 10 minutes before bed👉🏻 Why I started tailoring my everyday clothes instead of buying a whole new wardrobeReferenced in this episode:👉🏻 How to Become a Morning Person | 6 Tips to Make Your Mornings Better That Actually Stick — https://youtu.be/dIzj2kb9wy4👉🏻 Your Morning Starts The Night Before | My 2026 Full Nighttime Routine as an Early Riser — https://youtu.be/PcbYQ7hTrrYGET THE NEW PRODUCTIVITY PLANNER!👉🏻 https://breakyourbudget.com/productivity-plannerSubscribe to the Beyond Your Budget Substack:https://breakyourbudget.substack.com/Personal Finance Starter Kit:https://breakyourbudget.substack.com/p/your-personal-finance-starter-kitBREAK YOUR BUDGET RESOURCES:💸 Personal Finance Dashboard:https://breakyourbudget.com/personal-finance-dashboard💸 Basic Budgeting Template:https://breakyourbudget.com/basic-budgeting-template💸 FI/RE Template:https://breakyourbudget.com/fire-template💸 Rent vs. Buy Calculator:https://breakyourbudget.com/rent-vs-buy-calculator💳 TOOLS I USE:💸 Rakuten Cash Back (cash back on purchases you're already making): https://shorturl.at/w0PcH💸 SoFi HYSA (my fave high yield savings account): https://secure.money.com/pr/pa5344bfc4f2💸 Classpass (try it for a discounted first month): https://classpass.com/refer/UKLV6BN026📚 MY BOOKS:💸 Own Your Money:https://breakyourbudget.com/own-your-money 💸 Own Your Career:https://breakyourbudget.com/oyc-book All Other Resources:https://breakyourbudget.com/links👩🏼‍💻 Inquiries: [email protected]📸 Instagram (Break Your Budget): https://www.instagram.com/breakyourbudget/📸 Instagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/michela_alloccaa📲 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@breakyourbudget💸 My ShopMy: https://shopmy.us/shop/michelaalloccaTIMESTAMPS:00:00 — Why "eating healthy and working out" wasn't the same as actually training06:00 — Why I swapped pilates for a structured heavy-lifting program13:00 — Why having a system I don't have to plan myself made the biggest difference18:00 — Why "eating healthy" as a vegetarian didn't mean I was eating enough protein23:00 — How I found my protein target by tracking for a month, without turning it into an obsession28:00 — Why I started shopping locally and ordering heirloom beans as part of the food shift30:00 — Why fixing my sleep required treating the whole evening as a wind-down, not just the last 10 minutes37:00 — Why my mattress and sheets were the best money I've spent on my health40:00 — Why I started tailoring my T-shirts and jeans instead of buying a whole new wardrobe45:00 — Getting fitted for a bra at 31 and why it changed how every shirt sits on my body

I've talked a lot lately about breaking up with social media, and today I'm sharing how I developed healthy phone habits that have actually stuck for me long term, not the extreme two-day detox that always falls apart. These are conscious, sustainable changes to my scrolling habits that I've kept up with for months now!In this episode, I'm covering:👉🏻 Why I stopped focusing on screen time and started paying attention to how automatically I reach for my phone👉🏻 The physical setup changes that made the biggest difference (charging outside my room, reorganizing my home screen, going low-notification)👉🏻 Why I created specific windows for social media instead of trying to quit it completely👉🏻 How I got aggressive about who I follow and what I let the algorithm show me👉🏻 How to actually break the automatic reach for your phone when you're bored, anxious, or avoiding somethingReferenced in this episode:👉🏻 112. How I’m Breaking Up With Social Media and Taking My Life BACK!! — https://youtu.be/BYB7y5Fx6g8👉🏻 You're Not Lazy! 7 Reasons You Feel Behind Even When Nothing is Wrong (& How to Fix It) — https://youtu.be/SYNUI1q8Vu0👉🏻 My Fall 2026 State of the Union | Ins, Outs & Full Seasonal Curriculum — https://youtu.be/-vIdIJF7w38GET THE NEW PRODUCTIVITY PLANNER!👉🏻 https://breakyourbudget.com/productivity-plannerSubscribe to the Beyond Your Budget Substack:https://breakyourbudget.substack.com/Personal Finance Starter Kit:https://breakyourbudget.substack.com/p/your-personal-finance-starter-kitBREAK YOUR BUDGET RESOURCES:💸 Personal Finance Dashboard:https://breakyourbudget.com/personal-finance-dashboard💸 Basic Budgeting Template:https://breakyourbudget.com/basic-budgeting-template💸 FI/RE Template:https://breakyourbudget.com/fire-template💸 Rent vs. Buy Calculator:https://breakyourbudget.com/rent-vs-buy-calculator💳 TOOLS I USE:💸 Rakuten Cash Back (cash back on purchases you're already making): https://shorturl.at/w0PcH💸 SoFi HYSA (my fave high yield savings account): https://secure.money.com/pr/pa5344bfc4f2💸 Classpass (try it for a discounted first month): https://classpass.com/refer/UKLV6BN026📚 MY BOOKS:💸 Own Your Money:https://breakyourbudget.com/own-your-money 💸 Own Your Career:https://breakyourbudget.com/oyc-book All Other Resources:https://breakyourbudget.com/links👩🏼‍💻 Inquiries: [email protected]📸 Instagram (Break Your Budget): https://www.instagram.com/breakyourbudget/📸 Instagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/michela_alloccaa📲 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@breakyourbudget💸 My ShopMy: https://shopmy.us/shop/michelaalloccaTIMESTAMPS:00:00 — Why the extreme detoxes never actually worked and what I focus on instead09:00 — Why I reach for my phone even when nothing is happening/the empty Instagram open-close loop16:00 — Why making your phone physically harder to access works better than relying on willpower20:00 — Why I plug my phone in outside my bedroom and what I call "phone office hours"28:00 — Why I turned off every notification except calls and texts34:00 — My "guilt-free scrolling" window and why giving yourself permission actually helps the boundary stick37:00 — Why I aggressively unfollow people, and how your following list quietly reshapes what feels normal46:00 — Why I reorganized my phone's home screen to make distraction require more effort50:00 — What I actually do instead of reaching for my phone when I'm anxious, lonely, or avoiding work57:00 — Why the goal isn't a perfect relationship with your phone, it's making sure it doesn't bookend your day

After the response to my perfect summer weekend episode, I'm back with the fall version! I'm breaking down exactly how I structure the perfect fall weekend, intentionally and without falling into the seasonal overconsumption trap that fall marketing pushes so hard.In this episode, I'm covering how I structure the perfect fall weekend:👉🏻 How I close out my work week on Friday and transition into a cozy, restorative evening👉🏻 Why Saturday is my one "fall experience" day, and why I refuse to pack it with a loaded itinerary👉🏻 Why fall is peak overconsumption season, and how I stay intentional 👉🏻 My Sunday reset, including the farmers market, fall cooking, and my 60-minute Sunday systemReferenced in this episode:👉🏻 The Anatomy of a Restful Weekend | How to Cure the Sunday Scaries and Design a Better Weekend — https://youtu.be/QRUYl4yOb38👉🏻 161. How to Plan Your Week So You Don’t Feel Overwhelmed | My 60 Minute Sunday System — https://youtu.be/QEcDDxqLW0gGET THE NEW PRODUCTIVITY PLANNER!👉🏻 https://breakyourbudget.com/productivity-plannerSubscribe to the Beyond Your Budget Substack:https://breakyourbudget.substack.com/Personal Finance Starter Kit:https://breakyourbudget.substack.com/p/your-personal-finance-starter-kitBREAK YOUR BUDGET RESOURCES:💸 Personal Finance Dashboard:https://breakyourbudget.com/personal-finance-dashboard💸 Basic Budgeting Template:https://breakyourbudget.com/basic-budgeting-template💸 FI/RE Template:https://breakyourbudget.com/fire-template💸 Rent vs. Buy Calculator:https://breakyourbudget.com/rent-vs-buy-calculator💳 TOOLS I USE:💸 Rakuten Cash Back (cash back on purchases you're already making): https://shorturl.at/w0PcH💸 SoFi HYSA (my fave high yield savings account): https://secure.money.com/pr/pa5344bfc4f2💸 Classpass (try it for a discounted first month): https://classpass.com/refer/UKLV6BN026📚 MY BOOKS:💸 Own Your Money:https://breakyourbudget.com/own-your-money 💸 Own Your Career:https://breakyourbudget.com/oyc-book All Other Resources:https://breakyourbudget.com/links👩🏼‍💻 Inquiries: [email protected]📸 Instagram (Break Your Budget): https://www.instagram.com/breakyourbudget/📸 Instagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/michela_alloccaa📲 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@breakyourbudget💸 My ShopMy: https://shopmy.us/shop/michelaalloccaTIMESTAMPS:00:00 — Why my perfect fall weekend looks completely different from my summer one07:00 — Why I treat Friday as sacred and close out my work week the same way every time13:00 — Why I brick my phone on Friday nights and why staying in has to be intentional, not accidental22:00 — Why Saturday only gets one anchor activity, not a full itinerary28:00 — Why fall is peak overconsumption season and how I avoid defaulting to shopping every Saturday33:00 — Sunday: why it feels completely different from Saturday, and my farmers market ritual37:00 — Why cooking on Sunday became a fall and winter ritual, not meal prep41:00 — Why I plan my week on Sunday night

I've been spending extra time this year focusing on the tiny details of my everyday routine, and it's made a huge compounding difference! Today I'm sharing 10 micro habits (most take 5 minutes or less) that have genuinely changed how I feel about myself, my body, and how I operate day to day.In this episode, I'm covering:👉🏻 Why I stopped believing in the "all or nothing" mindset👉🏻 The phone habits that changed my sleep and my mornings (plugging in outside my bedroom, phone office hours)👉🏻 My tiny self-care rituals that take less than a minute (ice rolling, eye patches, 'finishing touches')👉🏻 The planning habits that stopped me from constantly reacting to my day (task time estimation, planning the night before)Referenced in this episode:👉🏻 112. How I’m Breaking Up With Social Media and Taking My Life BACK!! — https://youtu.be/BYB7y5Fx6g8👉🏻 WEEKLY VLOG: Spend a Week on Cape Cod With Me! a little work, family time, antique haul & more — https://youtu.be/fW46fT0NPXQGET THE NEW PRODUCTIVITY PLANNER!👉🏻 https://breakyourbudget.com/productivity-plannerSubscribe to the Beyond Your Budget Substack:https://breakyourbudget.substack.com/Personal Finance Starter Kit:https://breakyourbudget.substack.com/p/your-personal-finance-starter-kitBREAK YOUR BUDGET RESOURCES:💸 Personal Finance Dashboard:https://breakyourbudget.com/personal-finance-dashboard💸 Basic Budgeting Template:https://breakyourbudget.com/basic-budgeting-template💸 FI/RE Template:https://breakyourbudget.com/fire-template💸 Rent vs. Buy Calculator:https://breakyourbudget.com/rent-vs-buy-calculator💳 TOOLS I USE:💸 Rakuten Cash Back (cash back on purchases you're already making): https://shorturl.at/w0PcH💸 SoFi HYSA (my fave high yield savings account): https://secure.money.com/pr/pa5344bfc4f2💸 Classpass (try it for a discounted first month): https://classpass.com/refer/UKLV6BN026📚 MY BOOKS:💸 Own Your Money:https://breakyourbudget.com/own-your-money 💸 Own Your Career:https://breakyourbudget.com/oyc-book All Other Resources:https://breakyourbudget.com/links👩🏼‍💻 Inquiries: [email protected]📸 Instagram (Break Your Budget): https://www.instagram.com/breakyourbudget/📸 Instagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/michela_alloccaa📲 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@breakyourbudget💸 My ShopMy: https://shopmy.us/shop/michelaalloccaTIMESTAMPS:00:00 — Why the "all or nothing" mindset kept me stuck for years06:00 — Why plugging my phone in outside my bedroom has changed my sleep and my mornings09:00 — My "phone office hours"11:00 — Ice rolling my face every morning, and why it's the thing that actually gets me out of bed14:00 — My eye patch habit and the "vacation theory" of making everyday moments feel special17:00 — Why I switched from background TikTok noise to music while I get ready20:00 — My three finishing touches — lip gloss, perfume, and hand cream — and why I splurge on them24:00 — Why I plan my to-do list the night before instead of starting from scratch each morning27:00 — The task time-estimation habit that completely changed how I structure my day31:00 — Why I stopped keeping social media on my phone's home screen