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Welcome to the Mental Healness Podcast, hosted by yours truly, Lee Hammock. If you're new here I have NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) and I've been in therapy for the last 8 years learning how to deal with it and live a better life. From the start I've offered you the rare POV of a diagnosed narcissist but NOW I'm switching it up a little bit. I'm interviewing others that are dealing with their own mental health journeys and those that have dealt with toxic relationship dynamics as well. I'm still sharing my POV just sharing others as well. Collabs ✉ partnerships@mentalhealness.net
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This video provides honest insights, exploring the psychology behind how narcissists truly feel about themselves. Understanding narcissism and the potential red flags can be a crucial part of abuse recovery and healing from emotional abuse after leaving a toxic relationship. Contact Me - https://link.me/mentalhealnessI'm Lee & I've been diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder ( NPD ). I've been in therapy since 2017 & It has definitely changed my life because without it, I would have lost everything. My platform is dedicated to giving you the WHYs behind the things that Narcissists do. I'm not here to diagnose ANYONE or to tell you to leave your relationship. I'm just trying to give you the information to make your own informed decisions1 on 1's and all my links - https://beacons.page/mentalhealnessRemember, It's not your fault - https://a.co/d/2WNtdKJ Podcast Guest Form - https://tinyurl.com/Mental-Healness-Podcast-Form
2Having a mental illness can truly weigh heavy on you. You feel like you're not in control of your life and circumstances so it's easy to get down on yourself. But right now you are in control of everything... it seems bleak but you got this. Dont suffer in silence.
What is the difference between a narcissistic partner and a cult leader? As it turns out, almost nothing. In this powerful episode, Lee Hammock (Self-Aware Narcissist) sits down with Peter Young, a survivor of a tiny but destructive religious cult led by a man known as "Uncle Robert."Peter’s story is a chilling look at how high-control groups use "The Cult of One" tactics to destroy marriages, alienate children, and turn a person’s life inside out. For 28 years, Peter was trapped in a cycle of psychological isolation and spiritual abuse that cost him everything—including his relationship with his five children. Now, he’s sharing the "unmasking" moment when he finally saw the truth. Whether you are recovering from a group cult or a "one-on-one" cult (a toxic marriage), Peter’s journey from brainwashing to freedom is a masterclass in reclaiming your mind.In this episode, we discuss:The "Uncle Robert" Playbook: How one person can dismantle an entire family.The Slow Brainwash: Why smart, capable people fall for high-control tactics.Narcissistic Parallels: Comparing cult leadership to the "Narcissistic Cycle of Abuse."The Cost of Control: Dealing with the alienation of children and the loss of 28 years.Breaking the Spell: How Peter finally opened his eyes and escaped.About Our Guest:Peter Young is the author of the Amazon best-selling memoir, "Stop The Tall Man, Save The Tiger." He now speaks out about the dangers of small, destructive religious groups and helps survivors find their way back to reality.Connect with Peter:🌐 Website: www.authorpeteryoung.com📸 Instagram: @peterbyoungResources & Support from Lee:📔 Courses/Groups :[https://courses.mentalhealness.net]📞 Book a 1-on-1: [www.mentalhealness.net]
What does it take to finally walk away after YEARS of manipulation and abus3? In this powerful episode, Lee Hammock (Self-Aware Narcissist) sits down with Louella to discuss her harrowing and inspiring journey of surviving a long-term narcissistic relationship.Louella shares the raw truth about the "slow erode" of self-esteem, the confusion of the trauma bond, and the specific moment she realized that the person she loved was never going to change. This isn't just a story of survival; it’s a roadmap for anyone currently feeling trapped in a toxic cycle.In this interview, we dive into:The Long Game: How narcissistic manipulation evolves over the span of many years.The Turning Point: The specific "red flag" that finally broke the spell for Louella.Generational Trauma: How our pasts can sometimes lead us into the arms of a narcissist.Life After the Exit: The reality of healing, helping, and finding peace after the discard.As a self-aware narcissist, Lee provides feedback on the tactics used against Louella, offering a unique "inside look" at why her ex acted the way he did—and why her decision to leave was the ultimate power move.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net Healing Support Group: https://mentalhealness.thinkific.com/products/communities/thementalhealers1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://mentalhealness1on1perspective.as.me/schedule/ec588030Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesss
In this episode of the Mental Healness Podcast, Lee Hammock interviews Dr. Sharon Niv, a cognitive psychologist and co-founder of Joyous PBC, about the transformative potential of low-dose ketamine therapy. They discuss the differences between psycholytic and psychedelic states, the therapeutic benefits of ketamine for anxiety and depression, and the importance of creating a safe space for emotional exploration. Dr. Niv emphasizes the need for accessibility in mental health care and the potential for ketamine to help individuals break through emotional barriers and achieve greater self-awareness and resilience.Sharon Niv, Ph.D. is a cognitive psychologist exploring how contemplative and therapeutic methods can reshape mental wellness. Her work spans mindfulness, cognitive science, and the psychology of consciousness, with a special focus on how altered or expanded states of mind can promote emotional growth and resilience.In 2022, Sharon co-founded Joyous PBC, a public benefit company dedicated to making mental health care more affordable and accessible through low-dose, or psycholytic, approaches to ketamine treatment. At Joyous, she leads clinical research, designs digital therapeutics optimized for the psycholytic state, and developed Joyous for Therapists—a free training and collaboration program helping clinicians integrate these methods safely into their practice.Sharon is passionate about bringing new insight to the conversation on mental health: how lighter-touch, more personalized approaches to psychoactive medicine can unlock self-understanding, compassion, and long-term healing. She hopes to share with your audience how cognitive mechanisms of psycholytic and psychedelic medicine can inform a new era of personalized, evidence-based mental wellness.You Can Find Dr. Niv here:https://joyous.team/therapy sharonniv.substack.comhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/sharon-niv/Want to be on the podcast? https://tinyurl.com/Mental-Healness-Podcast-FormContact Me - https://link.me/mentalhealnessI'm Lee & I've been diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder ( NPD ). I've been in therapy since 2017 & It has definitely changed my life because without it, I would have lost everything. My platform is dedicated to giving you the WHYs behind the things that Narcissists do. I'm not here to diagnose ANYONE or to tell you to leave your relationship. I'm just trying to give you the information to make your own informed decisions
Leah Marone is a psychotherapist, Yale Clinical Instructor, and corporate mental wellness consultant with over 20 years of experience. A former Division 1 athlete, she specializes in high-achievers struggling with imposter syndrome, perfectionism, and performance anxiety. Leah has conducted over 20,000 therapy sessions and contributed to Psychology Today, Newsweek, and The Atlantic. This Episode Will Change You Life as she shares how She works with organizations on burnout prevention, boundary setting, and emotional intelligence. A sought-after speaker, Leah has presented her Support, Don’t Solve framework to leaders nationwide. Her new book, Serial Fixer, exploring the hidden patterns of over-functioning and how to break free.You Can Find Leah here:https://www.instagram.com/leahmaronelcsw/https://www.linkedin.com/in/leahmaronelcsw/https://linktr.ee/leahmaronelcswWant to be on the podcast? https://tinyurl.com/Mental-Healness-Podcast-FormContact Me - https://link.me/mentalhealnessI'm Lee & I've been diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder ( NPD ). I've been in therapy since 2017 & It has definitely changed my life because without it, I would have lost everything. My platform is dedicated to giving you the WHYs behind the things that Narcissists do. I'm not here to diagnose ANYONE or to tell you to leave your relationship. I'm just trying to give you the information to make your own informed decisions
Say Hi To Natalie. She Survived Narcissistic abuse and lived to tell the tale. She joins Episode 1 of Season 3 Of The Mental Healness Podcast to Share Her Journey of escaping a narcissistic relationship and how she finally made peace with the betrayal. You Can Find Natalie at @noisycricket00 On all platforms. Want to be on the podcast? https://tinyurl.com/Mental-Healness-Podcast-FormCheck out my courses "Understanding the 7 Stages of a Narcissistic Relationship" and "Finding Your W.H.Y!" at https://mentalhealness.netContact Me - https://link.me/mentalhealnessI'm Lee & I've been diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder ( NPD ). I've been in therapy since 2017 & It has definitely changed my life because without it, I would have lost everything. My platform is dedicated to giving you the WHYs behind the things that Narcissists do. I'm not here to diagnose ANYONE or to tell you to leave your relationship. I'm just trying to give you the information to make your own informed decisions1 on 1's and all my links - https://beacons.page/mentalhealnessRemember, It's not your fault - https://a.co/d/2WNtdKJ
Tune into these Live Interviews With A Diagnosed NarcissistWebsite- www.mentalhealness.netI'm Lee & I've been diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder ( NPD ). I've been in therapy since 2017 & It has definitely changed my life because without it, I would have lost everything. My platform is dedicated to giving you the WHYs behind the things that Narcissists do. I'm not here to diagnose ANYONE or to tell you to leave your relationship. I'm just trying to give you the information to make your own informed decisions1 on 1's and all my links - https://beacons.page/mentalhealnessRemember, It's not your fault - https://a.co/d/2WNtdKJ Podcast Guest Form - https://tinyurl.com/Mental-Healness-Podcast-Form
Narcissism is so prevalent in today's society. I'm taking a deep dive into Disney characters that I see that may be on the spectrum of NPD. Today's episode is about Hans from the Movie FROZEN. Hans lovebombed, gaslit and manipulated Ana to all ends.
If this is your first video, my name is Lee and I am a self aware narcissist. I've been in therapy for my personality disorder since 2017 and it has definitely changed my life because without it, I would have lost everything. The point of these videos is to help bring awareness from the other side of the narcissistic *buse spectrum. All my videos give perspective on why many narcissists do what they do and the possible different reasons behind them. The *buse victims get validation and the Narcissists (those that are willing) get to see that you can get help and that you are not alone.
1 on 1's and all my links - https://beacons.page/mentalhealness
You can find me on Tiktok at MentalHealness & Instagram at Mentalhealnesss. For more detailed videos find me on www.wisio.com search mental healness. Click the BEACON up top for direct links. Thank you
Today’s PODCAST only episode is about making the narcissist EARN your information. Speed is the weapon of the narcissist so take it slow and make them earn it. Also! Everyone doesn’t deserve a second chance. Tune in for more. All my links — https://beacons.page/mentalhealness
Welcome to the first PODCAST only version of the Narcissists’ Code. Today’s episode goes over my current TikTok “drama” and how consistent change is the only acceptable apology. Check out all my links here — https://beacons.page/mentalhealness
Welcome to my Channel. If this is your first video, my name is Lee and I am a self aware narcissist. I've been in therapy for my personality disorder since 2017 and it has definitely changed my life because without it, I would have lost everything. The point of this series is to point out people that could be narcissists. I'm not calling them narcissists though, I'm just going on the assumption that they are and providing perspective as to why they could be doing what they do. Today's episode is about guru Derrick Jaxn. Derrick was recently exposed for not practicing what he preaches and alledgely cheating on his wife. I go over his actions and my perspective on the entire situation. You can find me on Tiktok at MentalHealness & Instagram at Mental_healness. For more detailed videos find me on WISIO dot com, search mental healness. Click the LINKTREE up top for direct links. Thank you
Why does the narcissist start telling your story before you even realize the relationship is over? In this episode, self-aware narcissist Lee Hammock pulls back the curtain on the most devastating phase of the discard: The Smear Campaign.A smear campaign isn't just "gossip"—it is a coordinated, three-phase attack designed to isolate you, discredit your truth, and protect the narcissist’s public image at all costs.In this episode, we explore:Phase 1: The Pre-emptive Strike – How they start "planting seeds" of doubt with your friends and family months before the breakup actually happens.Phase 2: The Flying Monkey Recruitment – Why your "loyal" friends suddenly start acting like spies and messengers for the narcissist.Phase 3: The Narrative Swap – How they take their own abusive behaviors and "project" them onto you, making you look like the unstable one.Survival Strategy: Why the urge to "clear your name" is actually a trap, and how to use silence to regain your power.You cannot win a war of words with someone who is willing to lie. You win by surviving the storm.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesss
Why is the shame of staying often heavier than the pain of the abuse itself? In this episode, self-aware narcissist Lee Hammock explores the deep, internalized shame that survivors carry long after the relationship ends.If you find yourself thinking, "How did I let this happen?" or "I’m embarrassed by how I acted," this session is for you. Lee pulls back the curtain on why narcissists intentionally use shame as a weapon to keep you isolated and why your "reactive abuse" wasn't a reflection of your character—it was a survival mechanism.In this episode, we break down:The "How Could I?" Trap: Why smart, strong people are often the primary targets for narcissistic manipulation.Reactive Abuse vs. Who You Are: Understanding why you yelled, cursed, or "acted crazy" and why you need to stop blaming yourself for it.The Isolation Effect: How the narcissist cuts you off from your support system so that shame becomes your only company.Forgiving the "Past You": Practical steps to stop the self-inflicted mental beatdown and start the self-love journey.Breaking the Secret: Why speaking your truth is the only way to kill the shame the narcissist planted in you.You didn't choose the abuse, but you can choose to stop punishing yourself for surviving it.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net Healing Support Group: https://mentalhealness.thinkific.com/products/communities/thementalhealers1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://mentalhealness1on1perspective.as.me/schedule/ec588030Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesss
In this episode, we dive deep into the psychological reality of narcissistic abuse recovery and why it takes an average of seven attempts before a survivor leaves for good. We explore the biological and emotional "hooks" that keep you stuck, from the trauma bond to intermittent reinforcement.If you’ve ever wondered why you keep going back or why the "final" break feels so impossible, this session provides the clarity you need to break the cycle.The 7-Attempt Rule: Understanding the statistics and the psychology behind leaving an abusive relationship.The Trauma Bond & Dopamine: Why leaving a narcissist feels like physical drug withdrawal.Intermittent Reinforcement: How the "hot and cold" cycle creates a powerful psychological addiction.Cognitive Dissonance: Navigating the confusion between who they were and who they are.The Hoovering Phase: How to stay firm when they try to "suck" you back into the relationship.Stages of Healing: What the timeline of recovery actually looks like after going No ContactConnect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net Healing Support Group: https://mentalhealness.thinkific.com/products/communities/thementalhealers1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://mentalhealness1on1perspective.as.me/schedule/ec588030Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesss
Headline: They don't scream. They don't brag. They just slowly break you down.Most people think they know what a narcissist looks like—someone loud, arrogant, and demanding the spotlight. But as a diagnosed self-aware narcissist, I’m here to tell you that the most dangerous ones are the ones you never see coming.In this Remix episode, we are diving deep into the "Quiet Narcissist." We explore why this type is so effective at keeping you trapped for years, often without you even realizing you’re being manipulated. Instead of grandiose displays of power, the quiet narcissist uses silence, "victimhood," and passive-aggressive behavior to maintain total control. If you’ve ever felt like you were "losing your mind" in a relationship but couldn't point to any "big" blowups, this episode is for you.In this episode, we break down:The "Nice Guy/Girl" Mask: Why their outward humility is their greatest weapon.Passive-Aggressive Warfare: How they use "the cold shoulder" and subtle digs to punish you.The Professional Victim: Why they always make themselves the "underdog" to keep you in a "fixer" role.The Subtle Discard: How they withdraw affection to make you work harder for their approval.The Path to Clarity: How to stop doubting your reality and see the patterns for what they truly are.Stop looking for the "loud" red flags and start paying attention to the silence.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net Healing Support Group: https://mentalhealness.thinkific.com/products/communities/thementalhealers1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://mentalhealness1on1perspective.as.me/schedule/ec588030Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesss
Have you been waiting months, or even years, for a simple, genuine apology? As a diagnosed self-aware narcissist, I’m here to tell you why you might be waiting for something that is physically and psychologically impossible for a narcissist to give.In this episode, I pull back the curtain on the "Narcissistic Injury." To you, an apology is a way to heal a wound; to me, an apology is a total surrender of power. I explain why admitting fault feels like a "death of the ego" and why we would rather double down on a blatant lie than offer you the closure you deserve. If you’ve been struggling with the "Non-Apology" (like "I'm sorry you feel that way"), this episode will help you understand the mechanics of the narc-brain so you can stop seeking validation from the person who hurt you.In this episode, we break down:The Ego Armor: Why saying "I'm sorry" feels like being physically exposed and defeated.The "Winning" Mindset: Why relationships feel like a zero-sum game where an apology equals a "loss."Decoding the Fake Apology: How to recognize blame-shifting, justifications, and "regret" vs. "remorse."Closure Without Them: How to give yourself the apology they never will, so you can finally break the trauma bond.Stop waiting for them to take accountability. Take your power back by understanding their limitations.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net Healing Support Group: https://mentalhealness.thinkific.com/products/communities/thementalhealers1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://mentalhealness1on1perspective.as.me/schedule/ec588030Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesss
The lack of empathy in today's society, especially in America, is out of control. NO one seems to care when Harm comes to other people. People Literally don't care and I'm fed up with it. It's traumatizing to wake up everyday with something else going on. Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net Healing Support Group: https://mentalhealness.thinkific.com/products/communities/thementalhealers1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://mentalhealness1on1perspective.as.me/schedule/ec588030Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesss
Have you ever received a text from an ex-partner saying they "miss you" or "saw something that reminded them of you" just when you were finally moving on? In this episode of the Mental Healness Podcast, Lee Hammock—a self-aware, diagnosed narcissist—takes the mask off to explain the cold reality behind the "Hoover."Most survivors believe these messages are a sign of reflection or regret. But in this raw confessional, Lee explains why he used to reach out, and it wasn’t because of love. It was a calculated move to check "if the door was still unlocked."In this episode, we break down:The "Nostalgia Trap": How narcissists use your shared memories as a weapon to bypass your boundaries.Supply vs. Connection: Why a reach-out usually means the narcissist’s current "supply" is low, not that they’ve changed.The Boredom Factor: The truth about why "boredom" is a primary motivator for a narcissist to contact an ex.Protecting Your Peace: Why replying to a hoover—even with anger—gives the narcissist exactly what they want.If you are struggling to maintain "No Contact" or wondering if your ex has finally changed, this episode is the reality check you need to stay strong.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net Healing Support Group: https://mentalhealness.thinkific.com/products/communities/thementalhealers1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://mentalhealness1on1perspective.as.me/schedule/ec588030Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesss
Why is your ex still watching your stories from a fake account? In this final episode of "The Narcissist’s Confessionals," we are stripping away the mask to explain the psychological reality behind narcissistic stalking and post-breakup monitoring.Many survivors of narcissistic abuse believe that if an ex-partner is still checking their Instagram or Facebook, it must mean they still have feelings. The truth is much colder: it’s about power, information gathering, and "checking the lock" on the door to see if you are still susceptible to being hoovered.In this episode, we discuss:The Information Gap: Why narcissists need to know if you are happy or hurting after the split.Power & Control: How monitoring your social media allows them to feel like they still own a piece of your life.The "Grenade" Strategy: Why they reach out the moment they see you finally moving on.Protecting Your Peace: Why "Going Dark" is the only way to truly take your power back.If you’ve ever felt like you’re being watched or wondered why they won't just let you go, this episode is the closure you’ve been waiting for.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net Healing Support Group: https://mentalhealness.thinkific.com/products/communities/thementalhealers1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://mentalhealness1on1perspective.as.me/schedule/ec588030Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesss
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Hi Lee. Your podcast is fascinating and has been really valuable to me on my own journey in dealing with a narcissist. I wanted to ask you what your thoughts are on telling a narcissist they are a narcissist? How does a narcissist realise (if at all) that they are one and seek help as you have done?
freaking hilarious 💩
So...you are a narcissist. Wow!!!! Im learning. I attract these people..mlol
thank you so much!! although hard to hear the truth, you do a fabulous job!
This is exactly what happened to me and the way you explain it seems so "silly" but on the receiving end, it's devastating. But, lesson learned by keeping those kinds of details off of social media.
LOL!!! OMG I'm Dying!