Lisa A Romano Breakdown to Breakthroughs

What happens when the very people who were supposed to love us, protect us, and cherish us turn out to be the source of our deepest pain? In this revealing episode, Lisa A. Romano, trauma-informed life coach and codependency recovery expert, explores the heartbreaking reality behind why so many children grow up loving the very people who harmed them—and how this sets the stage for adult codependency. From narcissistic parents to emotionally neglectful caregivers, this episode dives into the psychology behind trauma bonding, betrayal blindness, and why our subconscious minds cling to toxic dynamics. Lisa unpacks the emotional and neurological imprinting that causes children—and later, adults—to overlook red flags and remain loyal to harmful people. In this episode, you’ll discover: 🔍 Why the most dangerous people are often the ones closest to us 🧠 How childhood trauma wires the brain for survival, not clarity 💔 The tragic link between emotional betrayal and codependency 🪞 Why children internalize the abuse and blame themselves 🔁 How unresolved childhood wounds manifest as self-abandonment, people-pleasing, and unhealthy adult relationships This episode is for you if: ✔️ You struggle to set boundaries with family or romantic partners ✔️ You feel guilt or shame for distancing yourself from toxic loved ones ✔️ You often feel drawn to fix, rescue, or gain approval from others ✔️ You suspect your past is still impacting your relationships today Resources Mentioned: 🌱 Start your healing journey with Lisa’s groundbreaking 12 Week Breakthrough Program 👉 https://www.lisaaromano.com/12-wbcp 📘 Watch Lisa’s related video: Why You Still Love the Person Who Hurt You 👉 YouTube Channel – Lisa A. Romano #TraumaBonding #CodependencyRecovery #NarcissisticAbuse #InnerChildHealing #LisaRomano #EmotionalNeglect #ToxicFamily #HealingFromAbuse #BetrayalBlindness #12WeekBreakthrough

Why do we cling to people who hurt us? Why does the fear of abandonment feel so unbearable? In this episode, Lisa A. Romano, expert in trauma recovery and codependency healing, unpacks the powerful link between attachment theory and codependency. From early childhood dynamics to the subconscious fears that drive our adult relationships, Lisa breaks down how insecure attachment styles—like anxious or avoidant—set the stage for emotional dependency, people-pleasing, and self-abandonment. If you've ever felt like you're addicted to love, overly responsible for others, or terrified of being alone, this episode will help you trace those patterns back to their origin—so you can begin to heal them. In this episode, you'll learn:  What attachment theory is—and how it relates to codependency  How unmet childhood needs create fear-based attachment styles Why codependents often attract emotionally unavailable partners  How anxious attachment leads to over-functioning in relationships  Steps to begin forming healthier, more secure connections This episode is for you if you: ✔️ Fear abandonment or rejection in relationships ✔️ Struggle to speak your truth or set healthy boundaries ✔️ Feel responsible for other people’s emotions ✔️ Tend to give more than you receive in friendships or love Resources Mentioned: 🌱 Begin healing your attachment wounds with the 12 Week Breakthrough Program 👉 https://www.lisaaromano.com/12-wbcp 🎓 Learn more about attachment theory and recovery on Lisa’s YouTube channel 👉 YouTube – Lisa A. Romano #AttachmentTheory #CodependencyRecovery #InnerChildHealing #FearOfAbandonment #SelfAbandonment #PeoplePleaser #EmotionalNeglect #HealingFromTrauma #12WeekBreakthrough #LisaRomano  

Borderline personality disorder can be understood as the extreme version of codependency, where, at the core are adult adult children who have suffered from abandonment, rejection, abuse, neglect, and trauma. When an innocent child is unable, through no fault of their own, to connect with their primary caregiver, and especially when that caregiver is actually a source of pain, suffering and instability, the brain of that child is forced to live from the plane of survival. Due to default settings of the personality, brain and nervous system, for the one who has been denied a healthy attachment and who at the same time, also learned that they could not and should not trust the one caring for them, the inner world becomes trapped below the veil of consciousness, living in fear of the love the being so desperately craves.  How Narcissistic Parents Contribute to Borderline Personality Development Children of narcissistic parents often grow up in environments marked by emotional unpredictability. One moment, the parent may be intrusive, critical, or controlling, and the next they may be cold, withdrawn, or dismissive. This creates a push-pull dynamic where the child never feels secure. Over time, this instability fragments the child’s developing sense of self. Because their emotional needs are dismissed or punished, the child learns to fear abandonment while simultaneously fearing engulfment. They internalize the belief that love is unstable, unsafe, and conditional.  As adults, this unresolved conflict can manifest as borderline traits: Intense fear of abandonment Unstable self-image Difficulty regulating emotions Stormy, chaotic relationships These symptoms are not “character flaws” but survival adaptations to a childhood where the parent’s narcissism left no room for stable, secure attachment. How Narcissistic Parents Create Codependency While borderline traits stem from instability, codependency develops from self-abandonment. In a narcissistic home, children quickly learn that their parent’s approval, affection, or even basic safety hinges on meeting the parent’s emotional needs.  The child becomes hypervigilant, scanning the parent for shifts in mood, anticipating outbursts, and adapting themselves to keep the peace. This conditioning teaches the child: “My needs don’t matter.” “I must earn love by taking care of others.” “If I say no, I’ll lose connection.” As adults, these children often: Over-function in relationships Prioritize others’ needs above their own Struggle to set boundaries without guilt Confuse love with caretaking or control This is the essence of codependency: a pattern of chronic self-abandonment rooted in early survival strategies. ✅ Bottom line: Both borderline personality traits and codependency share the same root wound — a lack of secure, validating parental love. One path (borderline) reflects the inner chaos of unstable attachment, while the other (codependency) reflects the learned habit of self-erasure for connection. Both are survival strategies that can be unlearned through conscious healing, reparenting, and building self-trust. Ready to breakthrough these subconscious patterns? Start here with The 12 Week Breakthrough Method #borderlinepersonality #childhoodtraumarecoverypodcast #codependencyrecovery #innerchildhealing #mentalhealthpodcast #lisaaromanopodcast #narcissisticmother #narcissisticparents #selfawareness #selfdevelopment #healingjourney #awakening #higherself #consciousness   

In this powerful episode, trauma-informed life coach and codependency recovery expert Lisa A. Romano explores the hidden dangers of falling for charisma—especially for adult children of narcissistic or emotionally immature parents. If you've ever been drawn to someone magnetic and charming, only to feel emotionally used, discarded, or confused, this episode will help you understand the deeper psychological dynamics at play. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: Why individuals with abandonment trauma and codependent traits are especially susceptible to charm How narcissists use charisma as a tool of emotional manipulation and control The devastating impact of betrayal by someone who once made you feel special, seen, or chosen How to distinguish real connection from performative affection Why ignoring your gut instincts leads to emotional disorientation—and how to start trusting yourself again Why This Matters Charisma is not the same as character. For those who have experienced childhood emotional neglect, the attention of a charismatic partner can feel intoxicating—like love, validation, and safety all rolled into one. But when that charm is weaponized by someone with narcissistic tendencies, it can leave you emotionally devastated and doubting your sense of reality. This episode is for anyone ready to wake up from the spell of manipulative charm and step into a more grounded, self-aware, and emotionally empowered life. Take the Next Step Lisa’s 12 Week Breakthrough Method is a neuroscience-based program designed to help you uncover the subconscious beliefs keeping you stuck in toxic relationship cycles. Learn how to heal from emotional abuse, build a healthy self-concept, and reconnect to your intuition. Explore the Breakthrough Method at 50% Off https://www.lisaaromano.com/12-wbcp

In this powerful episode, Lisa A. Romano explores how codependency erodes authenticity and keeps people trapped in the exhausting cycle of people-pleasing. If you struggle to speak your truth, constantly seek approval, or fear setting boundaries, this episode will help you understand the deeper root of why you hide your authentic self—and how to begin unmasking the people pleaser within. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: Why people-pleasing is a trauma response rooted in childhood survival How codependency develops when authenticity is punished or ignored The difference between genuine kindness and compulsive approval-seeking Why suppressing your needs leads to resentment, burnout, and emotional confusion Practical steps to reconnect with your true self and honor your voice Why This Episode Matters Many adult children of emotionally immature, narcissistic, or unavailable caregivers learn early on that being “the good one” is the only way to feel safe. Over time, this coping mechanism becomes a false self—one that performs for acceptance while abandoning its truth. But healing is possible. By understanding the connection between childhood emotional neglect and adult codependency, you can begin the courageous journey back to your authentic self—one boundary at a time. Take the Next Step Lisa’s 12 Week Breakthrough Method is a neuroscience-informed system designed to help you unlearn codependent behaviors, reclaim your voice, and build a self-concept rooted in worth and truth. Learn more: https://www.lisaaromano.com/12-wbcp #CodependencyRecovery #PeoplePleasing #AuthenticSelf #ChildhoodTrauma #InnerChildHealing #EmotionalNeglect #SpeakYourTruth #BoundariesMatter #HealingJourney #LisaRomano

If you grew up feeling emotionally unsafe, unseen, or like your feelings didn’t matter, you may have unknowingly developed codependent behaviors rooted in childhood emotional neglect. In this powerful episode, Lisa A. Romano, codependency recovery expert, breaks down how early life experiences shape your nervous system and self-worth—and why the "invisible child" often becomes an adult trapped in patterns of people-pleasing, self-abandonment, and toxic relationship cycles.  In This Episode, You’ll Learn: How childhood trauma, emotional instability, or neglect programs the brain for codependency Why feeling unsafe as a child rewires your nervous system to seek external validation How beliefs like “I’m not enough” become subconscious blocks to self-esteem The hidden link between early emotional trauma and compulsive rescuing or caretaking How to start reclaiming emotional safety through boundaries, self-awareness, and nervous system regulation  Why This Episode Matters Codependency is not just about behavior—it’s about the emotional blueprint you were given as a child. If no one ever mirrored your worth or made space for your needs, you may now unconsciously look to others for permission to feel safe, lovable, or whole. But healing begins with visibility—recognizing your patterns and rewiring the beliefs that keep you stuck.  Take Action: Journal Prompt: When was the first time you felt emotionally unsafe or invisible? How is that experience still influencing your relationships today? Self-Awareness Practice: Next time you feel the urge to fix or please someone, ask yourself: “Is this about honoring me—or avoiding rejection?”  Continue the Journey: Discover Lisa’s neuroscience-based system for codependency recovery in the 👉 12 Week Breakthrough Method: https://www.lisaaromano.com/12-wbcp    

Are you constantly hurt by a spouse who struggles to prioritize you? Do they avoid setting boundaries with their parents—even when it damages your marriage? If your partner was raised in a toxic or emotionally immature home, their nervous system may have been wired for survival—not connection. That early programming can lead to deep-rooted abandonment wounds, emotional shutdown, and a fear of conflict that puts your relationship at risk. In this episode of Breakdown to Breakthrough, Breakthrough Life Coach and creator of The Conscious Healing Academy, Lisa A. Romano, unpacks the hidden trauma behind emotionally unavailable partners and explores why some spouses can’t put their significant other first—despite their best intentions. You’ll learn: Why your spouse might feel safer pleasing their parents than protecting your marriage How unhealed childhood trauma impacts adult intimacy and emotional prioritization The subconscious fears that drive people to abandon their partner to avoid being rejected themselves What you can do to begin shifting this painful dynamic in a healthy way 👉 Ready to start healing the patterns that keep you stuck? Explore Lisa’s 12 Week Breakthrough Coaching Program: Healing Starts Here

In this powerful episode, Lisa A. Romano explores the emotional aftermath of being raised by a vulnerable narcissistic parent—the type who manipulates your compassion, guilt-trips you into forgiveness, and demands loyalty over authenticity. If you were raised in a home where emotional manipulation, mood swings, and emotional neglect were the norm, this episode will help you understand how these early wounds manifest as codependency, self-abandonment, and chronic anxiety in adulthood. Lisa breaks down how children of emotionally immature parents learn to suppress their truth to survive—and how that programming carries over into relationships, careers, and the way we see ourselves. In this episode, you’ll learn: What a vulnerable narcissist is and how they condition children through emotional manipulation How forced forgiveness becomes a form of control Why emotional invalidation leads to codependent behaviors How childhood trauma impacts the nervous system and self-worth What it takes to begin healing and reclaiming your authentic self This episode is for you if you: Were raised by a parent who guilted or manipulated you emotionally Feel responsible for others’ emotions or avoid conflict at all costs Struggle with people-pleasing, low self-esteem, or fear of rejection Are beginning to awaken to your own trauma history and want tools to heal Begin Your Healing Journey: Lisa introduces her signature 12 Week Breakthrough Method—a trauma-informed, neuroscience-based coaching program created specifically for adult children of narcissistic, neglectful, or emotionally immature caregivers. Inside the program, you'll be guided through: Brain retraining techniques rooted in neuroscience Inner child healing and self-concept reorganization Journaling prompts and assessments to increase self-awareness Tools to stop subconscious self-abandonment and start living from your true self This method has helped thousands heal from complex trauma and break toxic generational patterns, with tools to rewire limiting beliefs and build authentic self-worth. 👉 Learn more: here #CodependencyRecovery #InnerChildHealing #NarcissisticParent #EmotionalNeglect #TraumaInformedHealing #ComplexTrauma #SelfAbandonment #NeuroscienceBasedHealing  

What happens when the very people who are supposed to love, nurture, and protect you are also the source of your deepest emotional wounds? In this powerful episode, Lisa A. Romano, Certified Breakthrough Life Coach and trauma-informed expert in codependency recovery, explores the devastating impact of narcissistic parenting and how it lays the foundation for lifelong codependency. Children of narcissistic parents are often emotionally neglected, manipulated, and made to feel responsible for the moods, needs, and approval of their caregivers. This can set the stage for an adult life of self-abandonment, low self-worth, and an unhealthy need for validation. In this episode, you’ll learn: 🔹 The key traits of narcissistic parents: — Grandiosity, lack of empathy, control, and chronic invalidation 🔹 The emotional toll on children: — Feelings of never being good enough — Suppressed emotional needs — Growing up believing love must be earned through performance 🔹 How this creates the perfect storm for codependency: — Emotional enmeshment and learned helplessness — A compulsion to please, fix, or rescue others — Difficulty identifying one’s own needs or setting boundaries 🔹 Why this toxic cycle is hard to break without trauma-informed support This episode is for you if: ✔️ You grew up with a narcissistic, controlling, or emotionally unavailable parent ✔️ You constantly feel responsible for others’ emotions ✔️ You struggle to say “no” or prioritize your own needs ✔️ You’re tired of repeating painful patterns in your adult relationships Resources Mentioned: 🌱 Begin your recovery journey with Lisa’s 12 Week Breakthrough Coaching Program 👉 https://www.lisaaromano.com/12-wbcp 📚 Learn more about how childhood trauma shapes adult codependency 👉 YouTube Channel – Lisa A. Romano #CodependencyRecovery #NarcissisticParent #ChildhoodTrauma #LisaRomano #ToxicFamily #InnerChildHealing #EmotionalNeglect #SelfAbandonment #12WeekBreakthrough #TraumaInformedHealing

If you’ve ever found yourself stuck in a one-sided relationship—where you're the fixer, the rescuer, the peacekeeper—this episode is your wake-up call. In this powerful episode, best-selling author and codependency recovery expert Lisa A. Romano uncovers the invisible thread between childhood emotional neglect and codependent behaviors in adulthood. If you: Feel overly responsible for other people’s emotions Stay in toxic relationships hoping things will change Obsess over your partner’s moods Feel like you've lost your sense of self ...you're not broken. You're running survival patterns wired into your nervous system long ago—when love meant self-abandonment, and your feelings didn’t matter. This isn’t your fault. But now that you know, it becomes your power. Lisa explains how codependency is a subconscious trauma response rooted in unmet emotional needs and a lack of safety in childhood. We mistakenly learn that love must be earned through fixing others—especially the ones who hurt us. But this only perpetuates the pain and draws us toward emotionally unavailable or narcissistic partners. In this episode, you’ll discover:  How early childhood trauma wires your brain for codependency  Why rescuing others is a subconscious survival strategy  Why narcissists and toxic partners are drawn to codependents  How to spot the thinking traps of codependency  Actionable steps to reconnect with your authentic self Whether you're healing from a codependent marriage or waking up to your past for the first time, this episode will help you break free from emotional enmeshment and start living from a place of empowerment and emotional clarity. 🌱 Begin your healing journey with Lisa’s step-by-step system: The Groundbreaking 12 Week Breakthrough Coaching Program 👉 https://www.lisaaromano.com/12wbcp 🎓 Want to go at your own pace? Self-Study Version — 50% Off 👉 https://www.lisaaromano.com/12-wbcp   #CodependencyRecovery #ChildhoodTraumaHealing #EmotionalNeglect #FixingPeople #InnerChildHealing #SelfAbandonment #ToxicRelationships #HealingFromNarcissisticAbuse #LisaRomano #CPTSDRecovery #PeoplePleasing #RescueFantasy #TraumaBonding #ConsciousHealing #NeuroscienceBasedHealing #CodependentNoMore

To thrive after narcissistic abuse, you will need to change your entire mindset toward narcissistic people in your life. The key to maintaining your sanity is not to take their attempts at baiting you into circular conversations where they get to act out their need to persecute others with self-righteous indignation. If you confuse love with guilt and obligation, and especially if you have high empathy and struggle to end toxic relationships due to abandonment issues, letting go can trigger complex trauma symptoms such as a burning brain, heart palpitations, brain fog, mental confusion, and emotional paralysis. One of the most difficult things in the world to accept is that sometimes the people you love are built to not hear you, although their words may say otherwise. When dealing with a high-conflict person, you will notice that they escalate drama, problems, and issues in relationships instead of de-escalating them. Narcissists need flying monkeys, and the more they have, the more emboldened they are to attack, confuse, persecute, vilify, diminish, and discard you or any feelings or opinions you have.  In this episode, Lisa A. Romano, Breakthrough Life Coach, explains why changing your mindset toward the narcissistic people in your life can preserve your sanity, no matter how tough it might be to accept and let go.  What is your peace of mind worth to you? If you are ready to take the journey within to heal the core issues that result in you're being entangled in narcissistic relationships, join Lisa and her team of seasoned life coaches this July for The 12 Week Breakthrough Journey back to the divine self.  Register early and save $500  Register Early and Gain Exclusive Access to Lisa

It's a significant test of emotional and mental resilience when someone you love attacks you through gaslighting, projection, moral superiority, subjective morality, innuendos, and storytelling, all of which downplay their actions and focus entirely on your reaction to their behavior or words. Loving those with high conflict personality means you are investing your emotions, time and energy toward a relationship wish a person who is not as invested as you are. In time, you will notice the one-way nature of the relationship. Through an enormous painful event, if you are lucky and wise, you will let go of those whose false mask, grandiosity, and tremendous insecurity prevent them from taking accountability for how their narcissism affects those who love them. In this podcast episode, you will hear from Lisa A. Romano Breakthrough Life Coach and Award Winning Author, creator of the 90 Day (12 Week ) Self Love Recovery Breakthrough Program, share how when you speak to a narcissist with certain words, sentences and phrases, you successfully hold onto your energy and prevent them from dragging you onto the dark stage in their minds.  Embark on the path to conscious awakening, emotional healing, and transformation with Lisa's Conscious Healing Academy, which includes a 3-tier coaching system that assists with one's awakening, emotional intelligence, and mental and emotional mastery.  12 Week Breakthrough Program (Level One - The Awakening) 8 Week Master Your Reality (Level 2 -- Deliberate Creating) Soul School - (Level Three -- Ascending Ego) To learn more, contact Lisa and her team members here; Contact Website Spotify Award Winning Books  Facebook Support Group

When it comes to narcissism, there are physical signs that help you spot narcissistic behavior sooner rather than later. Narcissists often reveal their true nature through their eyes—cold, unfeeling, and devoid of empathy. This chilling stare is a red flag, signaling a lack of emotional connection and a potential for manipulation. According to FBI profilers, such individuals prey on those with high empathy, low self-worth, and a strong desire to please. Codependents, in particular, may overlook these warning signs due to blurred boundaries and a history of emotional neglect.​ If you've experienced cognitive dissonance in a toxic relationship, it's crucial to recognize these signs and prioritize your well-being. Understanding the dynamics of narcissistic abuse can empower you to break free from trauma bonds and embark on a healing journey.​ Take the first step towards self-discovery and recovery. Our codependency quiz can help you identify areas needing attention and guide you towards inner healing. ✨ Take my FREE Codependency Quiz 🔗 Quiz If you are codependent, lack a sense of self, struggle to know who you are and generally find your balance in the taking care of others, please know this is not your fault. Codependency is a manifestation of complex trauma, and simply means you are stuck living below the veil, operating through the survival coping mechanisms of your inner child. The miraculous news is, you can heal and live an empowered life, this I promise you! This July 13th, join me for the groundbreaking, proven 90 day roadmap that is helping adult children heal from the cognitive dissonance, low self worth, and dis-contentment in thief lives.  Register early and save $500 with the early bird discount. https://www.lisaaromano.com/12wbcp     

The best way to stop focusing and ruminating about narcissists in your life is to close your eyes and fall in love with the self. Ancient Persian Philosopher Rumi is an excellent example of how to break up with, let go of, divorce, and go no contact with narcissists in your life. In this lesson, you will learn what Rumi has to say about releasing narcissists from your life, and why doing so is terrifying yet brings emotional freedom at the same time. Healing from narcissistic abuse, requires that you release resistance to the pain manipulation, gaslighting, triangulation, smear campaigns and discard have created. Through radical self awareness, and acceptance, we discover the power of sacred wisdom as it pertains to choosing nonresistance. A narcissist will never follow you into solitude. When you embrace solitude, narcissists will run away because in solitude their masks fall. And that's why you must travel into the silence within. Codependency is akin to spiritual death. It implies you are living in denial of what is, and running from reality. The answer lies in climbing the ladder of the mind, from the subconscious to the higher conscious realms. But first, we must figure out where you are now and at what level of awareness do you reside. Feel free to take my FREE Codependency Quiz to discover more. ✨ Take my FREE Codependency Quiz 🔗 https://www.lisaaromano.com   "I know it's painful", Rumi says, yet he says, "Walk this way anyway." That's how I feel about The 12 Week Breakthrough Program.  Let's peel back decades of layers of the subconscious mind and teach you the skills you need to live emotionally free, unbound by the chains of the past. Work with me this July, 2025 Join early and save $500  https://www.lisaaromano.com/12wbcp  📞 Work With Me One to One ✉️ coach@lisaaromano.com  It is not you, it is only your programming. Your higher self is free, but your inner child is stuck. All you need are tools, an experienced guide, and the grit to stick to this healing journey when the going gets tough. Remember, steel is forged through fire, and diamonds appear only when enough force is applied. You can develop a stainless steel spine, and my three-part healing framework helps you achieve unbound emotional freedom. The 12 Week Breakthrough Program The 8 Week Master Class Soul School, a 10 Week Course in the Quantum Science of Love Consciousness. We got this. New to the inner voyage of transformation? No worries, read The Road Back to Me to activate higher consciousness. Follow that up with My Road Beyond the Codependent Divorce, Codependent Now What? Codependency Manifesto, Quantum Tools to Heal Your Life Now and then Loving the Self Affirmations volumes 1 and 2

The most dangerous people in our lives are not strangers, they are people we know and love. For a child, the most dangerous people are their parents and step-parents, and for adults, the most dangerous people in their lives tend to be their partners. In this eye opening podcast, you will learn about the statistics that suggest that while we teach children about stranger danger, w are neglecting to fully comprehend the totality of the abuse that occurs simply because adults have access to powerless children. This is not to suggest that all parents and all step-parents are abusive; however, statistically speaking, one of the contributing factors to child abuse and neglect tends to be associated with a nonbiological step-parent.  This podcast comes with a trigger warning, because it speaks the truth, a truth that many may not be ready to accept has occurred to them, a truth that a parent may not be ready to face about their choice in a spouse that had access to their children, or it may sting the eye of the one who has neglected and abused a child, or spouse.  The intention of this conversation is to fully acknowledge what is statistically true, so that we can all become more aware and responsible for who has access to our children, in addition to becoming more conscious of the fact that our partners are the most dangerous people in our adult lives. It's not the guy hanging out on the street corner at 3:00 am we need to worry about. It's those we love who may associate love with control, dominance, and power. Once we become entangled with them, we need to be more cognizant of the quality of the relationships we engage in.  If you're codependent, you are at great risk for becoming entangled in toxic relationships dynamics and that is not your fault.  Breakthrough with me here, with the 12 Week Breakthrough Coaching Program.  

In this podcast, learn about the codependent communication struggles no one talks about. In codependency, the focus is usually on keeping the peace, avoiding conflict, and managing someone else's emotions, at the expense of your own truth. This makes authentic communication feel dangerous, especially if you grew up in a toxic environment where speaking up led to punishment, rejection, or emotional withdrawal. Poor communication is one of the defining features of toxic relationships, especially when one or both partners are codependent. Rather than say what they mean, codependent people tend to hint, people-please, or stuff their emotions down to avoid being abandoned. Over time, this leads to resentment, confusion, and emotional disconnection. Without clear, honest communication, even the strongest connection can break down under the weight of unspoken expectations and unmet needs. Healing from codependency means learning how to communicate with clarity, courage, and compassion. It requires unlearning the belief that your needs don’t matter and developing the inner safety to speak your truth.  Whether you're in recovery from a toxic relationship or just starting to recognize codependent patterns in your life, learning how to communicate effectively is essential if you want to build real intimacy and self-respect. The first step, is telling the truth, and learning to take accountability for poor communication skills, while understanding with self compassion, it could literally be no other way.  Today, if this resonates with you, you have a shot at healing your life by unlearning the survival patterns that kept you feeling safe, that also kept you stuck repeating the faulty patterns from the past. Are you codependent? If so, you probably have an insecure, anxious attachment style, and the good news is, we can fix that!  Calling all serious, ready, willing and able souls who have the time and can invest in themselves at this time to finally take their lives back. 💥 12 Week Breakthrough Codependency Program starts July 13. The first lesson will be delivered to members library on July 13th, and our first live group call will be on Saturday July 19th. It is an honor to help you breakthrough codependency, reparent and heal your inner child and find your authentic self.  🔗 https://www.lisaaromano.com/12wbcp   \

Socrates once said,“The secret of change is to focus all of your energy not on fighting the old, but building the new.” If you've ever wondered how long it might take you to heal from narcissistic abuse, emotional neglect, codependency, or even addiction issues, you're in the right place. When emotionally, financially, and spiritually abused, the amygdala takes over and life can become minuscule. All we can focus on, when being abused, persecuted, judged or gaslit, is the moment. And although this is a sacred design created to help us avoid threat and harm, the human brain can become stuck in fight or flight. In this episode, Lisa A. Romano, a Breakthrough Life Coach, uncovers a simple yet profound mindset shift that can help you heal sooner rather than later. As a survivor of narcissistic abuse and an adult child of two unrecovered, emotionally abusive, and neglectful alcoholic parents, Lisa has relied on self-discovery work focused on healing at the subconscious level, compassionately embracing her inner child every step of the way to become an international advocate for adult children everywhere. Her research and nearly 30 years of self-healing work have established her as a prominent global voice in mental wellness, personal healing, and transformation.  Begin your healing and transformation journey with Lisa's groundbreaking approach, which is grounded in the latest trauma research, neuroscience, and cognitive science. Heal your inner wounds in 12 Weeks of Less: Click here To learn more, contact Lisa and her team members here; Contact Website Spotify Award Winning Books  Facebook Support Group

In this episode, you will explore 10 distinct forms of narcissistic manipulation tactics and the true agenda of a narcissist with whom you must engage, communicate, parent, and resolve issues. Those who display narcissistic traits often do not recognize themselves as narcissists. Instead, they tend to hold on to their grand illusions of themselves or see themselves as the victims of others. When they are up, it is because they believe others see them as the best, smartest, most beautiful, creative or talented. When they are down, that is because they feel victimized by evidence that someone, maybe you, no longer feed into their grand illusions of themselves. Lisa A. Romano Breakthrough Life Coach, Award winning author, meditation teacher, course creator, and podcast host, is on a mission to awaken those who live below the veil of consciousness, and who are in toxic, enmeshed, codependent, subjugating relationships with those who are either narcissists, or who have high narcissistic traits. As an adult daughter of narcissistic and codependent parents, and as someone who escaped the undertow of a toxic marriage herself, she understands that the first step in healing from a narcissistic relationship is recognizing the signs that you are actually in a narcissistic relationship.  Ready to begin your healing journey?  Embark on the path to conscious awakening, emotional healing, and transformation with Lisa's Conscious Healing Academy, which includes a 3 tier coaching system that assists with one's awakening, emotional intelligence, and mental and emotional mastery.  12 Week Breakthrough Program (Level One - The Awakening) 8 Week Master Your Reality (Level 2 -- Deliberate Creating) Soul School - (Level Three -- Ascending Ego) To learn more, contact Lisa and her team members here; Contact Website Spotify Award Winning Books  Facebook Support Group  

In this episode, we’re breaking down the subtle but dangerous ways narcissists use coercive control in conversations to manipulate, destabilize, and maintain dominance over others. If you’ve ever walked away from a conversation feeling mentally foggy, emotionally drained, or questioning your own thoughts, you may have been subjected to narcissistic coercion without even realizing it. Coercive control is a form of psychological abuse that narcissists use to undermine your confidence, distort your reality, and keep you second-guessing yourself. Unlike overt aggression, these tactics often fly under the radar, making them difficult to recognize until the damage is already done. What You'll Learn in This Episode: How narcissists use rapid-fire questioning to overwhelm you, keep you off balance, and push you into emotional dysregulation. Why gaslighting is a core tool in coercive conversations and how it causes you to doubt your memory, perception, and even your sanity. The subtle way narcissists withhold information, distort facts, or contradict themselves to create confusion and maintain power over the narrative. How guilt, shame, and fear are weaponized in conversation to manipulate you into compliance and emotional submission. Why they interrupt, talk over you, or shift blame to prevent you from asserting yourself and setting boundaries. The Psychological Impact of Coercive Control Research shows that victims of coercive control often experience chronic stress, anxiety, low self-esteem, and cognitive dissonance—the mental discomfort caused by holding contradictory beliefs. Over time, these conversations can leave you feeling powerless, disconnected from your own thoughts, and emotionally dependent on the narcissist for validation and approval. But knowledge is power. Once you learn to recognize these tactics, you can stop engaging in their games and take back control of your own mind. Breaking Free from the Cycle Healing from narcissistic coercion requires self-awareness, emotional detachment, and boundary-setting. In this episode, we’ll discuss practical strategies to help you: Stay grounded and recognize when a conversation is designed to manipulate you. Trust your own perception rather than seeking validation from the narcissist. Respond with clarity and confidence instead of falling into the trap of emotional reactivity. Use gray rock and other disengagement techniques to limit their control over your thoughts and emotions. If you’ve ever struggled to hold your own in conversations with a narcissist, this episode is for you. Understanding their tactics is the first step to reclaiming your voice, your confidence, and your emotional independence. Tune in now, and let’s expose the mind games so you can break free from the cycle of coercive control once and for all! Become immune to narcissists by healing the unhealed wounds that make so many of us more vulnerable to their abuse. The 12 Week Breakthrough Coaching Program is the healing method and modality that has helped thousands stop falling for narcissists. https://www.lisaaromano.com/12-wbcp To learn more, contact Lisa and her team members here; Contact Website Spotify Award Winning Books  Facebook Support Group        

How often do you look within and hear yourself asking the only questions that have any real potential to change your life, such as, "Who am I?, or "Why do I feel not good enough?" If you're like most people, you may never question whether or not you question the quality or validity of your thinking. That's why Lisa A. Romano Breakthrough Life Coach wants to activate higher consciousness within you so that you have a chance at changing your life outcomes.  While going through the early stages of recovery, Lisa realized she had an authenticity problem.  Being raised to fear her mother's gaslighting, rejection, and emotional neglect, conditioned Lisa to feel as if her authentic self needed to be abandoned.  Learn why it is essential to stop apologizing if you are truly serious about becoming a cycle breaker and healing from codependency. Lisa A. Romano Breakthrough Life Coach Online Codependency Recovery Program Facebook Support Group Free Codependency Quiz