Rock Solid Families

No doubt about it, marriage can be difficult.  Anytime we are putting two people with differing ideas and opinions together for one common cause, we are bound to have conflict.  Yes, we can and we should develop our communication skills, build our trust, and treat each other with respect. However, these essential relationship attributes could be meaningless if we have unhealthy individuals. If one has significant past trauma, drug or alcohol addiction, or mental illness, to name a few, the marriage will often be sacrificed. Healthy marriages require healthy people. If it can be identified that one of the people in the relationship is being haunted by an illness or past event, then we must spend the time to heal that person.  We must work to attain the greatest level of health possible within the individual for the good of the marriage.  This can be hard work. All of us have stuff to work on.  Things that keep us from being our best.  If those things are significant enough to negatively impact the marriage, then they certainly require our attention. If you are working on your marriage but find yourself at a stand still. Take some time to think about how you are doing as an individual.  Are you bringing in your best version?  If not, get some help.  You owe it to yourself, your partner, and your marriage. http://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the show#Rocksolidfamilies, #familytherapy, #marriagecounseling, #parenting, #faithbasedcounseling, #counseling, #Strongdads, #coaching, #lifecoach, #lifecoaching, #marriagecoaching, #marriageandfamily, #control, #security, #respect, #affection, #love, #purpose, #faith,

Lots of exciting things going on with Rock Solid Families and the mission!  In this show we introduce the newest employee of Rock Solid Families, Jenna Helton.  Once we decided to have a banquet in 2024, we recognized the need for more help.  Jenna to the rescue!We first brought Jenna on just as a subcontractor to help with the organizing and set up of the banquet. It didn't take long for us to recognize what Jenna brought to the table.  She is an initiator, creative, hardworking, and loves the idea of serving the mission at Rock Solid Families.  Before we knew it, we realized we wanted Jenna for more than a subcontracted project.  We wanted her on our payroll!During this show we introduce Jenna to our audience as she describes the move from corporate to non-profit and what that means to her family.  Ever felt the pull to swap the relentless pace of corporate life for something more meaningful? Jenna Hilton did just that, and she's here to share her compelling narrative with Rock Solid Families. Transitioning from orchestrating events and navigating aviation's heights, Jenna found her calling within our non-profit's embrace, where community service and purposeful work intersect. Together, we celebrate the recent triumph of our banquet, a testament to the solid foundation our supporters provide, and the very people who are the bedrock of our mission.Weaving faith, family, and community into a cohesive force has transformed Rock Solid Families into what it is today—a vibrant beacon of hope and support. The synergy within our community is palpable; every story from our banquet serves as inspiration, urging us to "rise up" and take action. With faith-based coaching at our core, we discuss the crucial role of personal responsibility in societal change and the paramount importance of divine guidance as we join hands with various organizations to enhance unity and create lasting impact.Rounding off this heartwarming episode, we extend our deepest gratitude to everyone who's been part of our journey. Their support fuels our administrative engines and amplifies our message, reaching hearts across the community. As Jenna steps into the whirlwind of her first event with us, her impact is already undeniable. We're reminded that, through resources and support, we all hold the power to strengthen communities—one family at a time. So join us, be moved, and perhaps find your own path to making a difference with Rock Solid Families.https://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the show#Rocksolidfamilies, #familytherapy, #marriagecounseling, #parenting, #faithbasedcounseling, #counseling, #Strongdads, #coaching, #lifecoach, #lifecoaching, #marriagecoaching, #marriageandfamily, #control, #security, #respect, #affection, #love, #purpose, #faith,

So why this topic of Shame Free parenting? As parents, our job is to help our children meet their physical, cognitive AND emotional needs. Physical abuse or neglect is a lot easier to spot and call out. Even cognitive is easier. If the child isn’t getting to school or learning how to walk, talk, or read or socialize….it shows pretty early. But emotional needs are just as important. They give our kids stability, self confidence, and the ability to have empathy and compassion for others. So we want to give you some concrete ways you can parent and discipline your child without shame:#1 Unconditional Love-Your child needs to know starting EARLY on that your love is constant and is NOT withheld if you angry with them or they have disappointed you. #2-Keep the AWE in your home- We’ve used this acronym before and I borrowed it from another therapist but AWE stands for affection, warmth, and encouragement. Our kids can only grow with AWE in the home. #3-As parents, you’ve got to be reliable, consistent, and  trustworthy. Those things in a parent builds security in a child. They know they can count on you. Your word means something.  You are predictable. #4-We need to model acceptance and respect even when we disagree with their ideas or decisions-These two things have to start with us and they can’t be dependent on them giving it back to us. There will be times they don’t like us very much or like our rules. But that doesn't give us the right to stoop to their level and demean them or belittle them. This one has been a huge issue for children struggling with gender confusion. We try and shame the child into complying with OUR values or ideals and instead push them further and further away from them. This is why many children and young adults don’t want anything to do with religion or GOD, Jesus, or church because we as his followers have done an awful job in representing Christ to them.We’ve got to accept their feelings and their decision and respect their right to disagree or say NO.  However, You are still the parent and they also must learn to respect you.  So you don't demean their ways, but you also don't have to agree or permit them under your roof. EX. Kids wanting another dog. Or a phone at age 10 #5-Healthy Boundaries- Boundaries are those invisible barriers we establish early to protect ourselves and our relationships. The word NO is showing a child a boundary. #6-Give them a ton of opportunities to succeed and praise them often. Maybe they went outside their comfort zone and read outloud. Praise that. Maybe they tried out for a team but didn’t make it. Praise their effort. Again, do more praising of the effort and attitude instead of the actual accomplishment. We don’t want to raise people pleasers who feel like the only way to get your time and attention is when they accomplish something. Going back to our very first one. Show them lots of unconditional love…just because.#7-Apologize when you fall short. You’re not going to always get this right. You’re going to have bad days. You’re going to blow it and say something you regret saying. We fall short on a regular basis and when we do…we make sure to apologize to our kids. That shows them grace. That shows them that no one is perfect. https://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the show#Rocksolidfamilies, #familytherapy, #marriagecounseling, #parenting, #faithbasedcounseling, #counseling, #Strongdads, #coaching, #lifecoach, #lifecoaching, #marriagecoaching, #marriageandfamily, #control, #security, #respect, #affection, #love, #purpose, #faith,

Today’s topic is one we have visited before.  But today, we would like to address the topic from a different angle.  As parents we would never want to intentionally hurt our kids.  We desire the best for them and all of the best opportunities to do well in life.  But, over the years we have lost sight of what “the best” really means for our kids. In many cases we have recognized what we have earned or achieved as adults and want to hand that right over to our kids.  This might sound like a nice thing to do as a parent, but it has hurt our kids with the unintended consequences that the world has no problem providing. Life has always been hard, but in these supposed times of life being better and more accommodating to our needs than ever before, we see people hurting; Depression, Anxiety, Suicide, Divorce, Purposelessness, Drug and alcohol use, and the list goes on.  Why in such great times are we having such difficult times?In a nutshell, people’s expectations are not being met.  In other words, they are not getting what they want.  Even as adults, we have become spoiled brats! Philippians 2:3-4  "Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, each of you considering the needs of others."7 Ways to not Handicap our KidsName Your Target, Plan a strategy to hit your target- What do you want for your kids as adults.  (yes, you have heard that said before!!!!!!!)  Don’t Handicap Your Children. Let your mindset be; “don’t do things for them they are capable of doing themselves”. (I’m not talking about the occasion to be kind and doing them a favor.)No Blood, No Foul - Don’t rescue them from every bump and bruise.  Failures, falls, and misfortunes are all part of the learning process.  In fact, they are more important than the successes.  The sting of the failure will impact their life decisions far more than the joy of the win. I Did Not Come to be Served, but to Serve. Service to others is the center of everything we do.  The opposite, service to self, is termed Narcissism.  Never lose an opportunity to have your child serve someone else.  This starts at the age of about 3. What’s Praised is Repeated. Watch what you praise.  If you want more of a certain behavior, be liberal with your praise for that behavior.  If you want less, let them no what it is that you do want so they know what you are looking for, then praise it when they reach it. “NO” is not a Curse Word. Real life has no problem telling us “No”.  Avoiding the negative has become a failed social experiment.  Discipline is the art of knowing how to implement the “NO” in our lives.  The faster our children learn to recognize that “no” does not mean anything against their character, the faster they will not take criticisms and setbacks personally. Teach them who the Real Boss is.  Teach them that all authority comes from God himself.  The way we parent was not our design, but God’s.  We are simply servants of God when we raise our children to His way and His word!  Good leaders must be Great followers of Christ. http://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the show#Rocksolidfamilies, #familytherapy, #marriagecounseling, #parenting, #faithbasedcounseling, #counseling, #Strongdads, #coaching, #lifecoach, #lifecoaching, #marriagecoaching, #marriageandfamily, #control, #security, #respect, #affection, #love, #purpose, #faith,

Embark with Linda and me on an intimate exploration of the complex tapestry of love, from its passionate beginnings to the profound connections we cherish in friendships and family. We're unwrapping the mystery of love's many forms, starting with a look at 'Eros' - the romantic, fiery love that often gets our hearts racing. But we won't stop there; we're threading through the realms of 'Phileo' and 'Storge', illuminating the bonds that fortify friendships and family ties. Together, we'll navigate the emotional landscapes that profoundly influence our daily lives and relationships, shedding light on the true essence of love.Discover the secrets to expressing love in ways that resonate deeply, as we discuss the five love languages that help us connect with others. From the joy of a thoughtfully picked gift to the undivided attention of quality time, we reveal the nuances of each love language through personal stories and reflections. Physical touch, too, is celebrated for its power to bond us beyond words. Our dialogue encompasses the evolution of love languages within our own lives, encouraging you to consider how your past informs your expressions of love and how you can adapt to grow closer to the ones you love.Celebrating Gotcha Day, an occasion dear to our hearts, we share the warmth of expanding our family through adoption and the lessons it taught us about the deeper meanings of love. We don't just stop at storytelling; we provide you with seven actionable tips for nurturing a strong and loving marriage. From the power of the vows  to the necessity of open communication, these pillars stand as a guide for couples at any stage, aiming to fortify the foundations of a thriving marriage. Tune in for a practical and heartfelt  discussion on how to cultivate love in its most sincere and impactful form.http://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the show#Rocksolidfamilies, #familytherapy, #marriagecounseling, #parenting, #faithbasedcounseling, #counseling, #Strongdads, #coaching, #lifecoach, #lifecoaching, #marriagecoaching, #marriageandfamily, #control, #security, #respect, #affection, #love, #purpose, #faith,

In a perfect world I think we could agree that keeping marriages healthy and two parents in the house raising the children is the optimal situation.  But, we live in a less than optimal world.  As this relates to the home we often have marriages coming apart and children being raised by parents or step parents that often desire little to do with each other.  The result can be a devastating environment to raise a child.  In our work at Rock Solid Families we see divorced or separated parents attempting to raise their children on a frequent basis.  We also get a front row seat to the challenges that come between the parents and often resulting in hurt and suffering for everyone involved, mom, dad, child, step parents, etc… In today’s show we are going to tackle this subject head-on.  We are going to give you 5 must-dos if you are going to find success in raising your child that you share. Advice - 7 “Must Do’s” to Raise Healthy Kids Through Co-Parenting1.   Put boundaries on personal attitudes towards each other, especially if they are interfering with the raising of the children. Past hurts can make it very difficult to put aside the hurt and strive towards coming together for the sake of raising a healthy and well adjusted child. 2. Develop a common parenting plan… that consist of -Common ValuesCommon ExpectationsCommon ConsequencesCommon Rewards3.  How do you do that? It’s ok to Start with your dreams and wishes for your child but then you have to Ask the question: What’s best for the family?  Be aware of the Child manipulating parents or parents using the child to manipulate the other parent. (This is dangerous on many levels and especially for the future of the child.)4. Strive for Equal but Flexible Time - Time needs to be equally split between both parents.  Many divorces place the children with one parent a majority of the time while the other receives visits and weekend sleepovers.  This may be convenient, but research has proven it to be detrimental to your children and even the parents. Do whatever you can do to Work toward healthy even if one or more of the parents are not. https://www.statnews.com/2017/05/26/divorce-shared-parenting-children-health/5. Never talk bad about each other  - Communicate necessary messages, not emotions - If you have to use restricted communication such as texts or emails and there is a concern about things taken out of context, consider using a common app such as Our Family Wizard.  Transparency in communication is key.6. Stability and Predictability create Security.  Routines, expectations, and discipline are among the greatest things parents can use to create a stable and secure environment. 7. Get Help!  Mediation, Coaching or Counseling can be the best investment you will ever make in this situation.  Rock Solid Families is able to help! Be mindful of the fruit that your parenting is going to produce. Being in conflict with your ex and then putting the children in the middle is only going to damage and destroy the fruit of the family.  Galatians 6:7-10 Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows. 8 Whoever sows to please their flesh, from the flesh will reap destruction; whoever sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life. 9 Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up. 10 Therefore, asSupport the show#Rocksolidfamilies, #familytherapy, #marriagecounseling, #parenting, #faithbasedcounseling, #counseling, #Strongdads, #coaching, #lifecoach, #lifecoaching, #marriagecoaching, #marriageandfamily, #control, #security, #respect, #affection, #love, #purpose, #faith,

Should I seek counseling or therapy for my child?  Here are some things to considerAdvice - Before jumping into therapy, have you considered that you, as the parent, are likely to have the greatest influence and support in helping your child through many situations.  Oftentimes we suggest that we spend our counseling sessions with the parents to help give them the tools necessary to tend to their child.  The counselor is typically only going to see your child a couple times a month for about an hour.  That’s not much time to make the changes or address the issues.  However, if the parent has the proper tools and approaches, they are with their child so much more than the therapist and can make significantly greater gains in a given period. Seek wise counsel. Teachers, counselors, trusted friends and family. What do they see? Is it out of line for their age? With that being said, sometimes there are situations that are completely beyond the scope of the average parent.  In these times, here are some things to consider when looking into therapy for your child. Your child's needs: What are the specific concerns you have about your child's emotional or behavioral well-being? Are they struggling with anxiety, sadness, anger, social interactions, or academic performance? Identifying their needs will help you find the right type of therapy.Open communication: Talk to your child about your concerns and the idea of counseling. Be open and honest, and assure them that it's a safe space to talk about their feelings and get help. Listen to their questions and fears, and address them honestly and patiently.Things to look for: Pervasive sadness, anger, fears. That are debilitating them. They don’t want to go to school. Abusive or harmful behaviors to themselves or others. Lashing out, hitting, illegal or promiscuous behavior. Sneaking out, underage drinking, illicit drugs, suicide. 988Finding the right therapist: Look for a therapist with experience working with children, especially those facing similar issues to your child. Consider your child's age, personality, and preferences when choosing a therapist. At Rock Solid Families, we typically want to meet with the parents first to learn more about the child and situation and determine if we are a good fit. Commitment and patience: It’s easy to think that a few sessions will “fix” the child and everyone will be good.  Be prepared, depending on the reason why you were seeking help to begin with, to stay committed with the work of therapy.  Beyond the actually presenting problem, it will take time for a therapeutic relationship to build between the counselor and child.  Trust, communication, and program building will take time. Family involvement: In these days family can take on a lot of different looks.  Having the people involved that are in the parenting process can be critical.  This may mean inviting ex-spouses, grandparents, or others that are regularly involved in the the parenting progress. Seeking professional help can be an opportunity for growth and healing for the child and family. It also shows your commitment to your child's well-being and that you are not minimizing the importance of their well-being.  National Suicide Hotline - 988website:  https://rocksolidfamilies.org#Rocksolidfamilies,#familytherapy,#marriagecounseling,#parenting,#faithbasedcounseling,#counselSupport the show#Rocksolidfamilies, #familytherapy, #marriagecounseling, #parenting, #faithbasedcounseling, #counseling, #Strongdads, #coaching, #lifecoach, #lifecoaching, #marriagecoaching, #marriageandfamily, #control, #security, #respect, #affection, #love, #purpose, #faith,

Making difficult decisions can be stressful and even paralyzing.  "Should I take the job or not?  "Where should I live?" " How should I spend my money?" "What should I study in school?" "Who should I marry?" As you can see the list can seem to go on and on.  The "right" answer seems to be hidden and rarely appears to give us that definitive statement that we are searching for. Seeking God's Will can be challenging, but in this episode, Linda and Merrill discuss six things we can do to help us discern God's Will when we are confronted with decisions to be made. Matthew 7:7-87 “Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. 8 For everyone who asks receives; the one who seeks finds; and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened.1. Seek God through Prayer: Prayer is the foundation for any attempt to discern God's will. Humbly approach Him in prayer, acknowledging your limitations and seeking His wisdom. Ask for guidance, clarity, and peace in your decision (Proverbs 3:5-6).2. Align your desires with Scripture: God's word reveals His character and desires for us. Immerse yourself in the Bible, seeking verses that speak to your situation. Align your desires with what God reveals about Himself and His plan for humanity (Psalm 119:105).3. Seek wise counsel: Surround yourself with trusted believers who know you well and understand biblical principles. Seek their advice and prayerful support, considering their insights through the lens of Scripture (Proverbs 15:22).4. Listen for the inner leading of the Holy Spirit: The Holy Spirit indwells believers and guides us in God's ways. Be attentive to nudges, convictions, and a sense of peace about one path over another. Remember, the Holy Spirit will never lead you to contradict Scripture. Romans 8:14  For those that are led by the spirit of God are the children of God.5. Consider the fruits of each option: Evaluate the potential consequences of each choice. Ask yourself which path aligns with God's character of love, justice, and peace. Choose the path that leads towards spiritual growth and the well-being of yourself and others (Galatians 5:22-23).6. Trust God for the outcome. Could you follow 1 through 5 and still make a mistake? YES. That’s because We’re not God we’re HUMAN, but God already knew you would and that may very well be part of his plan…his good and perfect plan. Discerning God's will is a process, not a one-time event. Do not put God on your timeline. Timing is among the most challenging components of seeking God’s Will.  Our vision for the future is limited.  Be patient and trust that He will lead you in the right direction. Ultimately, God desires our obedience to His ways, not our ways.   And remember….Discerning His Will doesn’t mean you're always going to get it right, but it’s important if we want to discern God’s will that we look to His word and his people…it’s a dead end street if we look to the world to steer us. Paul warns us of that in Romans 12:2 Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.We hope these insights are helpful as you navigate your decisions. If you are struggling with discerning God’s way we encourage you to seek Godly counsel.  If Rock Solid Families can help, please reach out atSupport the show#Rocksolidfamilies, #familytherapy, #marriagecounseling, #parenting, #faithbasedcounseling, #counseling, #Strongdads, #coaching, #lifecoach, #lifecoaching, #marriagecoaching, #marriageandfamily, #control, #security, #respect, #affection, #love, #purpose, #faith,

Now that the new year is started, have you taken any time to recalibrate your goals? Did you even have any goals?  Often we stop setting goals because we seem to fail at reaching them more than we would like to admit.  This leads us to stop the goal setting process and just let life happen.  How about this year you take a different approach.  How about setting S.M.A.R.T. goals?  In this show Linda and Merrill specifically guide you through the process of making goals more realistic and achievable. S - SpecificM - MeasurableA - AchievableR - RelevantT - Time-boundThe road to success is paved with good intentions, but the road doesn't mean anything unless you actually begin traveling it.  In 2024 let's make it a priority to live and use our gifts in a way that would be pleasing to God.  He is the giver of your gifts.  It's time to show Him some gratitude and respect by reaching our fullest potential. website: https://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the show#Rocksolidfamilies, #familytherapy, #marriagecounseling, #parenting, #faithbasedcounseling, #counseling, #Strongdads, #coaching, #lifecoach, #lifecoaching, #marriagecoaching, #marriageandfamily, #control, #security, #respect, #affection, #love, #purpose, #faith,

Here we are, starting a New Year!  It's hard to believe but great to know that we can take some time to re-prioritize and get back on track in areas that we may have strayed.  In particular, how have you been doing with your relationships?  Do you have your priorities straight with them?  Where do you place your kids relative to your spouse?  How about God?  Where does he rank in the priority list?  Having your priorities right is more than a matter of words, it is a matter of actions.  Do your actions reflect what relationships are most important? We can usually get a pretty good idea of what our priorities are simply by looking at how we spend our time and money.  If you say God is a priority but you are only in conversation with him once a week at church, then it might be time to reconsider how important God is to you.  We all get busy and distracted by the things that are right in front of us and demanding our immediate attention.  In 2024 consider placing the proper boundaries on the things that keep you away from what you say are you priority in terms of relationship.  You will soon see that you are living a much more fulfilling and God-pleasing life. https://rocksolidfamilies.org#Rocksolidfamilies,#familytherapy,#marriagecounseling,#parenting,#faithbasedcounseling,#counseling,#Strongdads,#coaching,#lifecoach,#lifecoaching,#marriagecoaching,#marriageandfamily,#control,#security,#respect,#affection,#love,#purpose,#faith,#priorities,#happynewyear,#2024,#newyearsresolutionsSupport the show#Rocksolidfamilies, #familytherapy, #marriagecounseling, #parenting, #faithbasedcounseling, #counseling, #Strongdads, #coaching, #lifecoach, #lifecoaching, #marriagecoaching, #marriageandfamily, #control, #security, #respect, #affection, #love, #purpose, #faith,

Rock Solid Families EP 267: Mean Girls, Drama Queens, What's Up With All This Stuff?Linda Hutchinson and Meredith ScudderAre you tired of getting caught up in drama and conflict? Ready to break free from the toxic triangle that keeps you stuck? Then you need to listen to this episode of the Rock Solid Families podcast. In this eye-opening conversation, hosts Linda Hutchinson and Meredith Scudder dive deep into the Drama Triangle and its ineffective way of handling conflict. But here's the twist: they also introduce the Empowerment Triangle, a powerful tool for resolving conflict and finding peace.Throughout the episode, Linda and Meredith share personal anecdotes and insights that will resonate with anyone who has ever felt trapped in drama. They discuss the roles of the persecutor, victim, and rescuer, and how these roles perpetuate conflict. But they don't stop there. They offer a refreshing perspective on how to transform these roles into something positive.By becoming a challenger instead of a persecutor, you can build others up instead of tearing them down. By embracing your power as a creator, you can take control of your life and find solutions to problems. And by stepping into the role of a coach, you can empower others to find their own strength and make their own decisions.This episode is a game-changer for anyone seeking healthier relationships and a drama-free life. So don't miss out on the wisdom and practical advice shared by Linda and Meredith. Tune in now and discover how to escape the drama triangle and step into the empowerment triangle. Your relationships will thank you.Quotes:“We are speaking to every adult with an adult child who is in a bad place. And the adults need to be needed, are coming in to rescue and to enable some really bad behavior. because they don't want to see them suffer or struggle, right? And we do more harm than good, don't we, by continuing to come in and rescue, and we provide temporary relief, but no long-term gain.  (14:03 | Linda Hutchinson)“We learn from natural consequences, right? And the only way to do that is rather than rescue, be a coach and step back. Don't try to take over and you can still be supportive and help.” (20:50 | Meredith Scudder)“Just because you've had trauma doesn't mean you have to stay in drama.” (25:45 | Linda Hutchinson)“Being able to be aware of the drama triangle roles and how we are feeding into that is so important. And just like anything, until we can see where there needs to be change, we're not going to be able to make change. ” (29:14 Meredith Scudder) VideogramLinksInstagram: @RockSolidFamiliesWebsite: https://www.rocksolidfamilies.org/Support the show#Rocksolidfamilies, #familytherapy, #marriagecounseling, #parenting, #faithbasedcounseling, #counseling, #Strongdads, #coaching, #lifecoach, #lifecoaching, #marriagecoaching, #marriageandfamily, #control, #security, #respect, #affection, #love, #purpose, #faith,

Rock Solid Families - EP266 - Teaching Your Kids the Value of MoneyMerrill and LindaAre you tired of feeling like an ATM for your kids? Do you want to teach them the value of a dollar and help them become financially responsible adults? Then you need to listen to this episode of the Rock Solid Families podcast. In this eye-opening conversation, hosts Linda and Merrill Hutchinson discuss the importance of teaching kids about money from a young age. They share personal stories and practical tips for parents of children of all ages, from toddlers to adults. You'll learn how to instill gratitude, self-control, and financial responsibility in your children. Discover the power of setting boundaries and consequences, and how to reset unhealthy habits. Don't wait until it's too late. Start now and give your kids the tools they need to thrive in the real world and enjoy the benefits of a financially savvy future!Key Takeaways:Teach children the value of a dollar from a young age by emphasizing manners, appreciation, and respect for money.Encourage delayed gratification and self-control to help children understand the importance of saving and making thoughtful spending decisions.Set clear boundaries and expectations regarding financial support for adult children, and have open and honest conversations about what you are willing and able to provide.Allow children to experience the natural consequences of their financial decisions, rather than constantly rescuing them from their mistakes.Quotes:“Start very young in helping them understand the value of money, and the appreciation of what they've been given.” (14:45 | Linda Hutchinson) SM Quote“Self-control is what proves out in people's life to be the most successful bearing quality and trait.” (22:58 | Merrill Hutchinson)“This is a great opportunity to talk about where Satan loves to reside and is in all of us. Right. And so especially in our culture, because we're all about comfort and convenience and getting the things that we want. And so the next thing you know, we forget about what's important.” (25:57 | Merrill Hutchinson) Audiogram“Linda and I see situations now where we see parents that are in their 70s and their kids are now in their 30s and 40s and the kids are dictating what the love's going to look like still with material items. All right. And so this is a time where it's not too late. It's going to be a little harder, but it still is possible.” (29:21 | Merrill Hutchinson)LinksInstagram: @RockSolidFamiliesWebsite: https://www.rocksolidfamilies.org/Support the show#Rocksolidfamilies, #familytherapy, #marriagecounseling, #parenting, #faithbasedcounseling, #counseling, #Strongdads, #coaching, #lifecoach, #lifecoaching, #marriagecoaching, #marriageandfamily, #control, #security, #respect, #affection, #love, #purpose, #faith,

Are you tired of the same old family drama ruining your holiday season? Well, in this episode of the Rock Solid Families podcast, hosts Merrill and Linda Hutchinson dive into the topic of navigating family dynamics during the holidays. They discuss the commercialization and disruption of Christmas, as well as the struggles and broken relationships that often arise. But fear not, because they provide practical advice and strategies to help you navigate these challenges and make the most of the holiday season.One key takeaway from this episode is the importance of setting a vision for your holiday season. By defining what you want the season to look like and focusing on the main things that truly matter, you can create a positive and meaningful experience for yourself and your loved ones. The hosts also emphasize the significance of prioritizing relationships, starting with your relationship with God, followed by your spouse and children. By keeping these relationships at the forefront, you can foster a sense of unity and love during the holidays.Additionally, the episode highlights the power of gratitude and giving back. Whether it's practicing gratitude for the blessings in your life or engaging in acts of kindness and generosity, these actions can bring joy and perspective to the holiday season. The hosts also encourage listeners to be respectful, avoid unnecessary conflicts, and show kindness even in challenging situations.So, if you're ready to reclaim the joy and peace of the holiday season, tune in to this episode of the Rock Solid Families podcast. Discover how to navigate family drama, set a vision for your holiday season, prioritize relationships, and cultivate gratitude. Get ready to create lasting memories and make this holiday season truly special.Key Takeaways:Decide how you will handle difficult family members or challenging situations beforehand to avoid unnecessary drama.Keep the main thing, the main thing by prioritizing what is truly important, whether it's family, faith, or creating meaningful experiences.Understand the hierarchy of relationships and prioritize your spouse and immediate family, while still respecting and honoring extended family.Practice gratitude and thankfulness, even in difficult times, and use the holiday season as an opportunity to show your best side and be a witness for Christ.Quotes:set your vision on what you want this holiday to look like. What do you want the season to be about? What do you want your kids and your grandkids to see? Do you literally want them to see yelling across the table and door slamming and people not speaking to one another and just leaving a place early because you're mad? What is the vision you want? I love being with your family, especially because we do a lot of big holiday gatherings together. It's literally just about laughter and fun and making memories. We're not talking about things like politics and religion. We're just enjoying each other's company because we don't get to do it very often. And we have now a whole nother generation. Our grandkids are with each other and there's so many little ones. So what do we want to show them? What's the vision you're setting for your family gatherings? (15:20 | Linda Hutchinson)LinksInstagram: Support the show#Rocksolidfamilies, #familytherapy, #marriagecounseling, #parenting, #faithbasedcounseling, #counseling, #Strongdads, #coaching, #lifecoach, #lifecoaching, #marriagecoaching, #marriageandfamily, #control, #security, #respect, #affection, #love, #purpose, #faith,

Hosts - Merrill and Linda Hutchinson"Conflict in marriage is not about winning or losing, but about finding a resolution that honors both partners," says Merrill Hutchinson.In this episode of the Rock Solid Families podcast, hosts Merrill and Linda Hutchinson dive into the topic of conflict resolution within marriage. They explore the different points that can lead to impasses in a relationship and discuss the common subjects that often spark arguments, such as money, sex, responsibilities, and family issues. The hosts emphasize the importance of staying calm and respectful during conflicts, as well as focusing on the specific issue at hand rather than bringing up past grievances. They also touch on the essential elements of trust and the need for compromise in order to find resolution.Throughout the episode, Merrill and Linda provide practical tips and insights for handling conflicts constructively. They stress the significance of actively listening to one another's perspectives and understanding each other's points of view. The hosts also highlight the importance of trust, both in terms of trusting each other's motives and abilities, as well as having a positive track record in resolving conflicts. They encourage couples to prioritize their relationship by giving each other undivided attention and avoiding distractions, such as screens, during important discussions.Listeners of the Rock Solid Families podcast will find valuable guidance and tools for navigating conflicts within their marriages. The hosts' personal anecdotes and relatable examples add depth and authenticity to the discussion. By addressing the common subjects that often lead to impasses, Merrill and Linda provide listeners with practical strategies for resolving conflicts and strengthening their relationships. Whether it's learning to stay calm and respectful, focusing on the issue at hand, or building trust and compromising, this episode offers valuable insights for couples seeking to improve their conflict resolution skills.Key Takeaways:Stay calm and respectful during conflicts in your marriage. Emotions can run high, but it's important to remain calm and avoid name-calling or hurtful language.Focus on the issue at hand and avoid bringing up past grievances or unrelated topics. Keep the discussion centered on the specific conflict or impasse you are trying to resolve.Listen to your partner's point of view and try to understand their perspective. Avoid interrupting or formulating your response before they have finished speaking.Be willing to compromise and find a solution that works for both partners. It's important to prioritize the well-being of the marriage and the family as a whole, rather than seeking individual wins.Build trust in your relationship by demonstrating reliability, honesty, and consideration for your partner's needs and feelings. Trust is essential for effective conflict resolution and a healthy marriage.Quotes:"If a win is one of you getting your way at the expense of the other, that's actually not a win for the marriage." (20:44 | Merrill Hutchinson) Audiogram“You've gotta listen to understand, you've gotta sit in that so that they feel heard, and that's the very first essential that's gotta be there for trust.”  (24:03 | Linda Hutchinson)LinksInstagram:Support the show#Rocksolidfamilies, #familytherapy, #marriagecounseling, #parenting, #faithbasedcounseling, #counseling, #Strongdads, #coaching, #lifecoach, #lifecoaching, #marriagecoaching, #marriageandfamily, #control, #security, #respect, #affection, #love, #purpose, #faith,

Rock Solid Families - EP260 - Should I Home School My Kids?Lisa Cox - certified teacher that chose to bring her craft into her homeConsidering homeschooling your kids? In today's episode, we're unpacking the world of homeschooling, an educational path that's gaining traction among many Christian families. Lisa Cox, an experienced homeschooling parent, offers a firsthand look into the dynamics and decisions surrounding this approach to education. Key to the conversation is the unity of parental values, a foundation ensuring cohesion and mutual commitment to the child's education. While some children might champion the idea of homeschooling, it's essential for parents to discern their underlying motives. Is it truly in the child's best interest or merely a means to bypass challenges of traditional schooling? For parents contemplating this path, diving into homeschooling communities, conventions, and co-ops can be enlightening. This exploration helps in discerning the right homeschooling style that aligns with the family's core values.Transitioning into the role of a primary educator goes beyond curriculum choices. It demands dedication and a hands-on approach, ensuring lessons resonate with the child's unique needs. Many parents worry about the perception that homeschooled children don’t have enough social opportunities. Lisa shares that contrary to popular belief, homeschooling offers a wealth of socialization avenues. From community engagements to co-op activities, children can foster friendships and social skills. Parents play a pivotal role in facilitating these opportunities.Lisa offers reassurance that with a faith-driven perspective and thorough preparation, homeschooling offers a transformative educational journey, nurturing children into the well-rounded Christian individuals that God intended them to be.Key Takeaways:Homeschooling requires a strong commitment and willingness to put in the hard work.It is important for both parents to be on the same page and make the decision together.Doing thorough research and talking to other homeschooling families can help in making an informed decision.Homeschooling allows for individualized education and flexibility in scheduling.Providing healthy opportunities for socialization is crucial for homeschooled children.Quotes:"I wanted my kids to have the opportunity to be who God intended them to be without all the expectations and peer pressure that gets put on them to be like everyone else." (10:31 | Lisa) Audiogram"There's a difference between what I would say is home education and school at home." (13:06 | Lisa) SM Quote"It has to be parent-driven, and parents have to be extremely involved." (22:17 | Lisa)"If you feel called and you and your spouse feel called to do this, God's going to give you what you need." (35:45 | Linda)LinksInstagram: @RockSolidFamiliesWebsite: https://www.rocksolidfamilies.org/Support the show#Rocksolidfamilies, #familytherapy, #marriagecounseling, #parenting, #faithbasedcounseling, #counseling, #Strongdads, #coaching, #lifecoach, #lifecoaching, #marriagecoaching, #marriageandfamily, #control, #security, #respect, #affection, #love, #purpose, #faith,

Guest Host - Meredith ScudderWaiting is not a passive act, but an opportunity for growth. In this episode of the Rock Solid Families podcast, the hosts delve into the topic of waiting and the challenges it presents in our fast-paced, instant gratification society. They discuss how the younger generations, particularly millennials and Gen Z, struggle with patience due to growing up in a culture of convenience and immediate access to information and resources. The hosts emphasize the importance of aligning oneself with the biblical view of waiting, which calls for patience and trust in God's timing. They also explore the idea of using the waiting period as an opportunity for personal growth, refining character, and deepening one's relationship with God. The episode concludes with practical steps to navigate the waiting season, including seeking God's guidance, taking action, and trusting in His plan.Key Takeaways:Waiting is a common experience in life, regardless of age or stage, and it can lead to feelings of frustration and questioning.It is important to turn to God and seek His guidance during seasons of waiting, rather than relying solely on our own desires and plans.Waiting can be a time of growth and refinement, where we learn important lessons and develop patience, self-discipline, and trust in God's timing.Taking action and being proactive during the waiting period is crucial, as it allows us to make progress and continue growing, even if it's not in the exact way or timing we had hoped for.Trusting in God's plan and His faithfulness is essential during times of waiting, as He knows what is best for us and is working behind the scenes to prepare and guide us.Quotes:"When you're in those seasons of waiting and confusion, we're not ready for what we're asking for." (00:41 | Meredith)"We have to train our mind and our body and our emotions for that self-regulation, that self-discipline, and allowing hard things to really grow us." (10:22 | Linda) Audiogram"If you feel like you're not hearing from God or, you're asking and and you are spending time with him, but you're not hearing anything, I wanna encourage you. God will still give you peace. And sometimes what he's speaking to us, when we don't hear it, it's like, hey, just like rest in me.” (33:31 | Merrill)"Trust that God knows best and He's protecting and preparing you." (35:43 | Meredith) SM QuoteLinksInstagram: @RockSolidFamiliesWebsite: https://www.rocksolidfamilies.org/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/search/top?q=rock%20solid%20familiesSupport the show#Rocksolidfamilies, #familytherapy, #marriagecounseling, #parenting, #faithbasedcounseling, #counseling, #Strongdads, #coaching, #lifecoach, #lifecoaching, #marriagecoaching, #marriageandfamily, #control, #security, #respect, #affection, #love, #purpose, #faith,

Rock Solid Families -  EP258 - Inviting God to School "Bringing God into our schools and homes is not about pushing an agenda, but about equipping our children with the tools to defend their faith and stand for what they believe. It's about instilling in them a strong identity and purpose in Christ, so that they can navigate the confusion and challenges of the world with confidence and hope." - Rock Solid FamiliesIn this episode of the Rock Solid Families podcast, hosts Linda and Merrill Hutchinson discuss the importance of bringing God into schools and homes. They emphasize the need for parents to help their children understand their identity and purpose in Christ, regardless of whether they attend public, Christian, or homeschool. The hosts debunk the notion that God has been pushed out of schools, highlighting the opportunities for religious activities and expressions that exist within the education system. They also encourage parents to support their children in defending their faith and standing up for their beliefs, as well as to be proactive in bringing God into their communities and schools.The hosts provide practical tips for parents, such as being cooperative with schools, initiating and supporting religious activities, and teaching children to be bold witnesses of their faith. They also stress the importance of understanding one's own faith and why it is meaningful, rather than simply going through the motions. Additionally, they remind listeners of the power of voting and influencing legislation to support religious freedom in schools. The episode concludes with a call to action for parents to take an active role in bringing God into their homes, schools, and communities, and to support positive initiatives that promote faith and values.Key Takeaways:It is important to involve God in our homes and schools to help children understand their identity and purpose in Christ.Parents should provide tools for their children to defend their faith and stand for what they believe, regardless of whether they are in public schools, Christian schools, or homeschooling.Rather than blaming schools for pushing God out, parents should focus on bringing God into their own homes and teaching their children about faith.Parents should support their children's schools and be cooperative with the staff, volunteering and getting involved in positive activities.Voting and supporting legislators who align with Christian values can help influence the presence of God in schools and society.Quotes:"Regardless if they're in the public schools, a Christian school, homeschool, we've got to help our students and our children understand what it means to have that identity and purpose in Christ." (00:53 | Linda Hutchinson) "We are seeing a resurgence of faith and hope and trust in the Lord because this world has been getting very dark, and our students are so desperate for hope that they're seeking it, they're searching for it." (08:26 | Linda Hutchinson) "If you can get them around healthy, positive community, everybody wins. And that is just what we want for our students and our families." (37:13 | Linda Hutchinson)LinksInstagram: @RockSolidFamiliesWebsite: Support the show#Rocksolidfamilies, #familytherapy, #marriagecounseling, #parenting, #faithbasedcounseling, #counseling, #Strongdads, #coaching, #lifecoach, #lifecoaching, #marriagecoaching, #marriageandfamily, #control, #security, #respect, #affection, #love, #purpose, #faith,

"Men are not less than, they are different. Understanding their needs and meeting them where they are is the key to bringing them back into the church and empowering them to lead their families." - Merrill HutchinsonIn this episode of the Rock Solid Families podcast, hosts Merrill and Linda Hutchinson discuss the importance of men's involvement in the church and the home. They highlight the concerning trend of fewer men attending church and being actively engaged in family life. Drawing from the book "Why Men Hate Going to Church" by David Morrow, they explore the reasons behind this phenomenon and the need to address it. The hosts emphasize the significance of meeting men's physical, emotional, and spiritual needs in order to engage them in church and family life. They provide practical suggestions for creating a more inviting and inclusive environment for men, such as avoiding judgment, open communication, and prayer.Throughout the episode, Merrill and Linda stress the importance of understanding and meeting men's needs in order to encourage their involvement in the church and as leaders in the home. They discuss the hierarchy of needs, as outlined by Maslow, and how it applies to men's engagement in church and family life. The hosts also address the feminization of the church and the need for a more male-friendly environment. They encourage women to pray for wisdom in their approach and to avoid comparing their spouse to others. The episode concludes with a challenge for listeners to have open conversations about faith and church involvement with their partners, and to pray for guidance and unity in their spiritual journeys.Key Takeaways:Men are leaving the church at a greater rate, and it is important to understand why and address their needs.The hierarchy of needs (physical, emotional, and spiritual) plays a role in men's involvement in the church.Men may feel disconnected or undervalued in the church, and it is important to create an environment that meets their needs.Avoid nagging, guilting, or comparing men to others when it comes to church attendance.Quotes:"The research tells us that there is less men, and we've seen that, whether it be going to church, whether it be… Even our Thursday morning Bible study, at the middle school level, it's a two-to-one ratio when it comes to girls to boys." (00:00 | Linda)"And so this is no new conversation. Where are all the men in the church? Why have men sort of fallen off the table when it comes to a lot of healthy families and keeping marriages together?" (03:09 | Merrill)“A lot of times churches will connect with men to maybe work on projects. Maybe they're helping fix the roof, or maybe they're helping them cut the grass, or maybe them helping widows that are in need of winterization or something like that, where men feel like, I am putting my faith into action, and that's how I worship. And so, yeah, we've gotta help men meet those physical needs. That's why your Strong Dads has a workout component to it. You have Bible study, but half of it is getting up, getting sweaty, working out, and meeting those physical needs.” (16:10 | Linda) "Pray for yourself. Pray for wisdom to know how to handle this man of yours. Pray for an understanding of how a man works and stop trying to think that he should work more like you, okay? Support the show#Rocksolidfamilies, #familytherapy, #marriagecounseling, #parenting, #faithbasedcounseling, #counseling, #Strongdads, #coaching, #lifecoach, #lifecoaching, #marriagecoaching, #marriageandfamily, #control, #security, #respect, #affection, #love, #purpose, #faith,

Rock Solid Families - EP256 - Thanks for 5 Years! Merrill and Linda HutchinsonIn this heartfelt 5 year anniversary episode, Linda and Merrill reflect on half a decade of their dedicated ministry, Rock Solid Families. They recount the myriad of lives they've impacted: from young adults, parents, and teens, to empty nesters and couples facing challenges. They open up about the inspiring tales of renewal and healing they've seen, attributing these changes to the profound influence of the Holy Spirit and the timeless teachings of God's Word. The duo also takes a moment to convey their deep appreciation for the unwavering support they've received and reiterate their pledge to persistently serve families and individuals grappling with various challenges.As the conversation unfolds, the two spotlight the significance of being in sync with God's essence and consistently seeking His wisdom in every life facet. Sharing the Bible verses that have guided their paths, they emphasize the transformative role of the Holy Spirit in ushering hope and healing. Recognizing the myriad hurdles their clients face, from personal traumas to heart-wrenching losses, they extend a comforting hand of hope and solace. Unwavering in their mission, Linda and Merrill underscore their dedication to consistently offering aid and resources to those in need, all the while inviting listeners to join hands with them in fortifying and rejuvenating families.Quotes“Yeah, so there's thousands and thousands of people who have been reached through those downloads and through those podcasts, not to mention the classes we've taught. Just today, just today, we got an email through someone who heard us speak over a year ago, and they looked at their spouse at the time and said, we need to get help. And today, they messaged and said, ‘we are reaching out for help and it's long way overdue.’” (15:10 | Linda). Audiogram“I have to constantly remind myself that God, He is able to do more than I could ever dream of. that I can ever imagine, and I'm going to trust in Him to do that.” (36:50 | Linda) SM Quote“When people come into us and they're challenged, right? They're on that last string of hope. right? And sometimes people come in to us and they'll say, you are our last hope. And right away we're going, no, no, no, no, no. Okay. But really they're saying, man, we don't know what else could happen, what could work here. And so for me, it really is, man, we, we get aligned with the way of Christ. Okay. Which is God's way. We align ourselves and seek it out, learn it…it’s how we start getting blessed. So that would be my takeaway that I really wanna run into in the next years.” (39:26| Merrill)LinksInstagram: @RockSolidFamiliesWebsite: https://www.rocksolidfamilies.org/Support the show#Rocksolidfamilies, #familytherapy, #marriagecounseling, #parenting, #faithbasedcounseling, #counseling, #Strongdads, #coaching, #lifecoach, #lifecoaching, #marriagecoaching, #marriageandfamily, #control, #security, #respect, #affection, #love, #purpose, #faith,

God's truth has the power to shatter the lies we believe about ourselves and replace them with the value and worth He has bestowed upon us. In this episode of the Rock Solid Families podcast, hosts Merrill and Linda Hutchinson delve into the topic of the lies we believe about ourselves, others, and God. They share personal experiences of the lies they believed growing up and how those lies shaped their self-perception. While certain facts may be true, it is the value we attribute to those facts that can lead to harmful beliefs. They discuss the importance of recognizing and challenging these lies, replacing them with the truth found in God's Word. Merrill and Linda stress the significance of understanding where our value truly comes from. They address the lies we believe about God, such as viewing Him as distant or uncaring, and emphasize the truth of His love and involvement in our lives. Seek healing and replace these lies with the truth of God's Word, recognizing that our value lies in being His creation and living out His purpose for our lives.Key Takeaways:The lies we believe about ourselves and God can have a significant impact on our lives and relationships.It is important to recognize and challenge the lies we believe, replacing them with the truth of God's Word.Our value and worth do not come from external factors or achievements, but from our identity as children of God.Healing and growth require acknowledging our mistakes and taking responsibility for them, seeking forgiveness and making amends where necessary.Community and support are crucial in the process of healing and replacing lies with truth. Seeking help from others who are on a similar journey can provide encouragement and accountability.Quotes:"The thing that you may struggle with is not necessarily a lie. You may just be the B/C student. You may be a little more clumsy or taller than the average person, but it is us that attributes that characteristic to giving us value or not. And that is the lie." (08:16 | Merrill) Quote“If your children make a mistake, you’ve got to be really, really careful that you don't say you're a bad kid - because they hear that - and they internalize that as ‘There's something wrong with me,’ versus ‘You made a bad decision.’ And so it's funny how when you may say ‘You made a bad decision’ and they'll come back at you with, you mean I'm a bad kid, or you think I'm a bad kid. And it's really important that we hear that lie and we correct that.” (9:08 | Linda) Audiogram"I am a valuable person. I am a good person because I am of God and I'm here to do God's purpose, not my own." (32:06 | Merrill)“The Bible says that he disciplines those he loves. And so sometimes he allows us to have consequences for our own bad actions and decisions. And so that's just the reality of how he loves us to show us what it looks like when we step away from his truths.” (32:48 | Linda)"Please share our shows. We desperately need your help getting these kind of messages out, especially when it comes to the lies we believe. And so share this with your kids. Talk about the lies maybe they believe, and reiterate the truths of God's Word so that they can have peace and joy and a long-lasting life with God the Father.” (00:34:58 | Linda)LinksInstagram: @RockSolidFamiliesWebsite: https://www.rocksolidfamilies.org/Worksheets/Resources Mentioned In This Episode:Are You BelievinSupport the show#Rocksolidfamilies, #familytherapy, #marriagecounseling, #parenting, #faithbasedcounseling, #counseling, #Strongdads, #coaching, #lifecoach, #lifecoaching, #marriagecoaching, #marriageandfamily, #control, #security, #respect, #affection, #love, #purpose, #faith,