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You don't have what it takes. You're not good enough. It's always going to be this way.
We've heard what trauma has to say– now it's time for the Truth.
Trauma inflicts a wound that allows shame to infect the soul. At its core, shame lies to us about who we are and Whose we are – it tells us we are unloved and on our own.
And I don’t know about you, but I’m SO tired of listening to all of that.
The Truth & Our Trauma is a podcast dedicated to discovering how sacred reconnection breaks the bondages of trauma & shame. We explore ways to practically encounter the Spirit of Truth on the journey to healing, and discuss how to live from our truest identities as daughters & sons of the Living God.
For more on faith + emotional wellness, visit us at www.UncommonValor.co
We've heard what trauma has to say– now it's time for the Truth.
Trauma inflicts a wound that allows shame to infect the soul. At its core, shame lies to us about who we are and Whose we are – it tells us we are unloved and on our own.
And I don’t know about you, but I’m SO tired of listening to all of that.
The Truth & Our Trauma is a podcast dedicated to discovering how sacred reconnection breaks the bondages of trauma & shame. We explore ways to practically encounter the Spirit of Truth on the journey to healing, and discuss how to live from our truest identities as daughters & sons of the Living God.
For more on faith + emotional wellness, visit us at www.UncommonValor.co
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The hurt and loss we experience in life can destroy our dreams, and cause us to think maybe we just have to take what we can get. Stefanie & Caleb Rouse share how brokenheartedness can cause us to shut down our hearts and start to settle for less than what we really desire. Purchase Stefanie & Caleb's book, Wholehearted Love: Overcome the Barriers That Hold You Back in Your Relationship with God and Others-- and Delight in Feeling Safe, Seen, and Loved Learn more about Stefanie & Caleb at stefanieandcaleb.com Tangled in Toxicity? Register for NO|TOX: The Toxic Relationship Healing Intensive Purchase the NEW Ignite: Strategic Prayer Planner & Journal Volume 2 | The Battle to Believe Download Your Free Guide: Over|Thinking: Get Out of Your Head & On With Your Life Follow Michelle on Instagram @themichelledonnelly
Do your relationships seem to be nothing but an endless trail of toxicity? Michelle discusses how we get sucked into the wrong relationships without realizing it, and why we tolerate toxicity when we don't have to. She also shares 4 snares that may be drawing you into toxic and abusive relationships, and reveals how to avoid attracting toxic people in the future. Tangled in Toxicity? Register for NO|TOX: The Toxic Relationship Healing Intensive Purchase the NEW Ignite: Strategic Prayer Planner & Journal Volume 2 | The Battle to Believe Download Your Free Guide: Over|Thinking: Get Out of Your Head & On With Your Life Follow Michelle on Instagram @themichelledonnelly
Culture is full of messaging that tells us we can do anything we put our minds to – and yet somewhere along the line, we begin to see that this is just not true. When the circumstances of our lives leave us feeling like we're falling short, the resulting shame and disappointment can be overwhelming. Becky Beresford shares how common cultural expressions meant to empower us can actually leave us feeling very disempowered. She explains how much of the messaging we hear in culture teaches us to be self-dependent, and how liberating it is when weakness and limitation bring us to God-dependency. Purchase Becky's book, She Believed He Could, So She Did: Trading Culture's Lies for Christ-Centered Empowerment Follow Becky at beckyberesford.com Purchase the NEW Ignite: Strategic Prayer Planner & Journal Volume 2 | The Battle to Believe Download Your Free Guide: Over|Thinking: Get Out of Your Head & On With Your Life Follow Michelle on Instagram @themichelledonnelly For individual support with your faith & emotional wellness journey, visit uncommonvalor.co
For many coming to terms with an abusive relationship, there is often a stage in which you wonder, "How did I get here in the first place?" Michelle discusses the early stages of the abusive dynamic with survivor Tricia Lott Williford and therapist Jana Richardson MA LPC EMDR. They delve into the grooming tactics many abusers use to manipulate and deceive their victims, and highlight what you can do to avoid being drawn in by an abuser again. Purchase You are Safe Now: A Survivor's Guide to Listening to Your Gut, Healing from Abuse, & Living in Freedom Follow Tricia on Instagram or visit her website Purchase the NEW Ignite: Strategic Prayer Planner & Journal Volume 2 | The Battle to Believe Download Your Free Guide: Over|Thinking: Get Out of Your Head & On With Your Life Follow Michelle on Instagram @themichelledonnelly For individual support with your faith & emotional wellness journey, visit uncommonvalor.co
When you've been in a long season of spiritual pain, you may begin to wonder if God is punishing you. It's not uncommon in suffering to begin questioning your faith and wrestling with what you believe. Dr. Alicia Britt Chole shares about the experience of disillusionment we experience in dark nights of the soul, and illuminates that the questions we have about God are not a failure of faith, but are a method by which faith grows. She also shares how God works through our tendency to seek answers to bring us into a deeper relationship with Him grounded in honesty, safety, trust, and love. Purchase "The Night is Normal: A Guide Through Spiritual Pain" or follow Dr. Alicia on Instagram Purchase the NEW Ignite: Strategic Prayer Planner & Journal Volume 2 | The Battle to Believe Download Your Free Guide: Over|Thinking: Get Out of Your Head & On With Your Life Follow Michelle on Instagram @themichelledonnelly For individual support with your faith & emotional wellness journey, visit uncommonvalor.co
Do you ever wonder if prayer even matters? In difficult seasons, we may struggle with the feeling that prayer is pointless- we may think, "Isn't God just going to do what He's going to do anyway?" Michelle shares about a dark season when she wrestled with trusting God and how prayer played a huge role in helping her get unstuck. Purchase Ignite: Strategic Prayer Planner & Journal | Vol 2: The Battle to Believe Download Your Free Guide: Over|Thinking: Get Out of Your Head & On With Your Life Follow Michelle on Instagram @themichelledonnelly Learn about my resources and inner healing services at uncommonvalor.co
Hardships and suffering can knock us down so hard that we just get tired of having to get back up again. But what if it doesn't all depend on us? Lina Abujamra shares how resiliency doesn't really depend on us doing more, but rather on simply learning to abide in the love of God for us as He works through our weaknesses. She also talks about how suffering frees us from a dependency on our own performance so we can instead experience what it is to be loved as children of God. Check out Unshakable Moxie by Our Daily Bread Purchase the NEW Ignite: Strategic Prayer Planner & Journal Download Your Free Guide: Over|Thinking: Get Out of Your Head & On With Your Life Follow Michelle on Instagram @themichelledonnelly For individual support with your faith & emotional wellness journey, visit uncommonvalor.co
Waiting seasons can get long and the ache of unmet longing can often be too much to deal with. What do we do when God hasn't answered our prayers? Rachel Miller shares the importance of allowing longings to exist, and how to deal with times when the discouragement is overwhelming. She also discusses what God is doing through these seasons of hoping and waiting, and why God doesn't take the desires of our hearts away (even if we ask Him to). Check out Rachel's book, When it Hurts to Hope: Honest Conversations about Living with Unmet Longing Follow Rachel on Instagram @rachel.s.miller and RachelMillerAuthor.com Purchase the NEW Ignite: Strategic Prayer Planner & Journal Download Your Free Guide: Over|Thinking: Get Out of Your Head & On With Your Life Follow Michelle on Instagram @themichelledonnelly For individual support with your faith & emotional wellness journey, visit uncommonvalor.co
Most of us have a smartphone so we can stay connected, yet they may actually be making loneliness worse. Dr. Darren Whitehead discusses the impact of smartphones on your mental, emotional, & spiritual well-being, and how distraction devices worsen anxiety and loneliness. He shares how a digital fast can recalibrate your attention span, boost the quality of your relationships, and restore your spiritual vitality in the Lord. Grab a copy of Darren's book, The Digital Fast: 40 Days to Detox Your Mind & Reclaim What Matters Most and follow Darren on Instagram @darrenwhitehead Purchase the NEW Ignite: Strategic Prayer Planner & Journal Download Your Free Guide: Over|Thinking: Get Out of Your Head & On With Your Life Follow Michelle on Instagram @themichelledonnelly For individual support with your faith & emotional wellness journey, visit uncommonvalor.co
Unlearning codependent behaviors often means identifying how you learned them in the first place. And while often family of origin issues are a major factor, sometimes our religious contexts can also be part of the problem. Michelle discusses 5 Bible verses that are often misquoted and misapplied that teach us to tolerate toxic and abusive treatment. She discusses why these verses often don't mean what we have been told they do, and points to Scriptures that actually encourage us to avoid harmful people. Register NOW for NO | TOX- The Toxic Relationship Healing Intensive and the LIVE Masterclass "Don't Get Fooled Again: Decoding the Red Flags and Mixed Messages of Toxic People" Purchase the NEW Ignite: Strategic Prayer Planner & Journal Download Your Free Guide: Over|Thinking: Get Out of Your Head & On With Your Life Follow Michelle on Instagram @themichelledonnelly For individual support with your faith & emotional wellness journey, visit uncommonvalor.co
Whether you're in an unhealthy relationship right now or you're worried about being in another one, it's not uncommon to wonder "Is this person toxic or are they abusive?" Michelle discusses the differences and similarities of toxic behavior and abusive behavior, and why we struggle to know the difference. More importantly, Michelle shares how toxicity and abuse differ from healthy relationships, and what you can do to move towards them. Register NOW for NO | TOX- The Toxic Relationship Healing Intensive and the LIVE Masterclass "Don't Get Fooled Again: Decoding the Red Flags and Mixed Messages of Toxic People" Purchase the NEW Ignite: Strategic Prayer Planner & Journal Download Your Free Guide: Over|Thinking: Get Out of Your Head & On With Your Life Follow Michelle on Instagram @themichelledonnelly For individual support with your faith & emotional wellness journey, visit uncommonvalor.co
Many of us have times in our lives when we rely on formulas in our faith, clinging to the belief that, "If I do all the right things, everything will be okay." Yet, when we face a crisis we realize that those formulas don't hold up under the realities of suffering in this life. Kristen LaValley shares how suffering and doubt served to mold her faith, and how a crisis pregnancy developed her ability to trust God. She also shares how to find the courage to deal with doubts, and how to notice God speaking hope over you in times of chaos. Purchase Kristen's book, Even if He Doesn't: What We Believe About God When Life Doesn't Make Sense Follow Kristen on Substack and on Instagram @kristen.lavalley Purchase the NEW Ignite: Strategic Prayer Planner & Journal Download Your Free Guide: Over|Thinking: Get Out of Your Head & On With Your Life Follow Michelle on Instagram @themichelledonnelly For individual support with your faith & emotional wellness journey, visit uncommonvalor.co
When we're in a challenging time of life, it can be hard to imagine that there's much more beyond all of this. Jeff Simmons shares how each of us can not only find life beyond our current circumstances but can live an extraordinary life, available to all of us in Jesus. He shares how the way the world defines extraordinary is different than the way God defines it, and discusses how the devil uses fear to cause us to shrink down from what God has for us. He also gives suggestions for pursuing life beyond what we know right now, and how you can hear God's voice to discern just where He is leading you. Purchase Jeff's book, Finding the Extra in Ordinary: Embracing the Beauty of the Christian Life Follow Jeff at JeffSimmons.org or on Instagram and Facebook Purchase the NEW Ignite: Strategic Prayer Planner & Journal Download Your Free Guide: Over|Thinking: Get Out of Your Head & On With Your Life Follow Michelle on Instagram @themichelledonnelly For individual support with your faith & emotional wellness journey, visit uncommonvalor.co
If you struggle to trust God, you're not alone. So often when you've experienced significant hurt and trauma, it's not uncommon to feel disconnected, distrustful, and maybe even fearful of God. Michelle discusses the value of inner healing prayer in healing this disconnect, and client Rhonda Velez shares her powerful encounter with Jesus during her inner healing prayer session. Rhonda also shares how Jesus helped her to identify blockages to her healing she was not aware existed, and discusses how He guided her through a forgiveness experience that gave her the courage to move forward into the future. Apply for an Inner Healing Breakthrough Session with Michelle Learn more about Rhonda on Instagram @realityoflife02 and RhondaVelez.com Purchase the NEW Ignite: Strategic Prayer Planner & Journal Download Your Free Guide: Over|Thinking: Get Out of Your Head & On With Your Life Follow Michelle on Instagram @themichelledonnelly For individual support with your faith & emotional wellness journey, visit uncommonvalor.co
We all know we are supposed to give, but sometimes it seems like forgiving someone is letting them get away with what they did. Michelle discusses what forgiveness really is and discusses how forgiving someone doesn't require forgetting the truth about what they've done to you. She also gives insight into how forgiveness can help you transcend endless conflicts and power struggles, so you can live free in your heart and mind. She also shares how God can help you rise above the harm you've experienced, that what was meant to hurt you can eventually serve to elevate you. Forgiveness Resources Apply for a Breakthrough Session Episode 117 Forgiveness: What it is, What it's not, and How to do it Made for More: Life Beyond the Wreckage of Hurt, Loss, & Heartbreak Blog Post- Forgiveness, What it is, What it's not, and How to do it Other Links Purchase the NEW Ignite: Strategic Prayer Planner & Journal Download Your Free Guide: Over|Thinking: Get Out of Your Head & On With Your Life Follow Michelle on Instagram @themichelledonnelly For individual support with your faith & emotional wellness journey, visit uncommonvalor.co
While on a healing journey, it's normal to wrestle with doubt. But did you know that doubt is NOT the opposite of faith? That you can doubt well? Alisa Childers gives a deeper understanding of how doubt factors into the growth of faith and explains the differences between doubt vs. deconstruction. She also explains spiritual warfare as a battle of ideas, and shares how honest questioning leads to greater encounters with Jesus– and the truth. Order Alisa's book, The Deconstruction of Christianity and follow Alisa on Facebook and Instagram Purchase the NEW Ignite: Strategic Prayer Planner & Journal Download Your Free Guide: Over|Thinking: Get Out of Your Head & On With Your Life Follow Michelle on Instagram @themichelledonnelly For individual support with your faith & emotional wellness journey, visit uncommonvalor.co
The word co-dependency is often used in ways that suggest a person is to blame for being mistreated and abused (which is NOT the case). Michelle discusses what co-dependency really is, and discusses why patterns of people-pleasing often result in relationships that are one-sided and unsafe. She shares what the Bible says about mutuality in our relationships, and how to learn to say no to situations where you are being taken advantage of. Purchase the NEW Ignite: Strategic Prayer Planner & Journal Download Your Free Guide: Over|Thinking: Get Out of Your Head & On With Your Life Follow Michelle on Instagram @themichelledonnelly For individual support with your faith & emotional wellness journey, visit uncommonvalor.co
You've done all you know to do to heal mentally and emotionally from trauma. Maybe you've been in therapy, you use deep-breathing techniques, or you try to be mindful of your thoughts. But when you hit a wall in your healing, you may wonder- "Is this as good as it's going to get?" While all of these approaches are beneficial to understanding and treating suffering, Michelle shares the reason why they aren't enough to transcend it (and what you can do about it). Purchase the NEW Ignite: Strategic Prayer Planner & Journal Download Your Free Guide: Over|Thinking: Get Out of Your Head & On With Your Life Follow Michelle on Instagram @themichelledonnelly For individual support with your faith & emotional wellness journey, visit uncommonvalor.co
Shame is that nagging little voice that continually tells you that you're not good enough, that you need to try harder to be loved. So how do we tell it to shut up? Michelle shares her journey of discovering hidden shame through the impact it was having on her relationships. She discusses how Jesus' example of facing down shame can help us live above the lies and find freedom from shame in our own lives. Purchase the NEW Ignite: Strategic Prayer Planner & Journal Download Your Free Guide: Over|Thinking: Get Out of Your Head & On With Your Life Follow Michelle on Instagram @themichelledonnelly For individual support with your faith & emotional wellness journey, visit uncommonvalor.co
It seems there's always something that will try to steal your hope, to get you to give up on the idea that things can ever be better. But does it have to be this way? Is there a way to take our hope back? It all starts with realizing hope is not a feeling but rather a perspective – a viewpoint that can help us set our sights above what our thoughts, feelings, and circumstances are telling us. Michelle discusses the side-by-side nature of hardship and hope, and shares a key way you can acknowledge your current experience AND set your sights on what still can be. Purchase the NEW Ignite: Strategic Prayer Planner & Journal Download Your Free Guide: Over|Thinking: Get Out of Your Head & On With Your Life Follow Michelle on Instagram @themichelledonnelly For individual support with your faith & emotional wellness journey, visit uncommonvalor.co
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GREAT episode!
Wow. this is the best episode of any podcast I've ever heard. Once I was at my destination, I sat in my car for 10 minutes until it was done. Thank you I know I'll listen to this again.