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When we're wounded in life, we often start to "perform" for love and approval. But when what we do on the outside is rooted in pain, we will always end up with results that are not what we really want. In this episode, I share how pain and woundedness impair the way we relate to others, particularly as it relates to God's design for femininity and masculinity. But I also talk about how, through pain, we learn much about what it is to stop performing and be truly present, and the life-giving invitation to others that our lives become in the process. Check out Advance for Individuals: An Accelerated Program to Repair the Spiritual Damage of Relationship Harm & Trauma Listen ep 196 with Stephanie Rouse- "What if You Don't Have to Just Take What You Can Get?" Learn more about healing painful moments with the free PDF "God Within Us: A Guide to Processing Pain with Jesus" Follow me on Instagram @themichelledonnelly or Facebook @themichelledonnelly Check out my books and services at uncommonvalor.co

Anger is one of the more complicated emotions we have to deal with. Not only does it not feel great, but sometimes it seems to remain- even after you've done the work to forgive someone. In this episode, I share about an experience that caused me to realize that something deeper is often hidden inside of our anger. I also share how thinking differently about your wounds can give you the patience and perspective you need to actually benefit in the aftermath. Check out Advance: A 7 Week Program to Repair the Spiritual Damage of Relationship Harm & Trauma Learn more about healing painful moments with the free PDF "God Within Us: A Guide to Processing Pain with Jesus" Follow me on Instagram @themichelledonnelly or Facebook @themichelledonnelly Check out my books and services at uncommonvalor.co

When it comes to the things we struggle with in life, sometimes we think they are too small for God to care about. Other times, we think they are so big that maybe we are just supposed to learn to take care of things on our own. Neither of those things are true. In today's episode, I share about a very small example of what it looks like to fully depend on God, and how it changes the way we look at challenges in life, both big and small. Check out Advance: A 7 Week Program to Repair the Spiritual Damage of Relationship Harm & Trauma Learn more about healing painful moments with the free PDF "God Within Us: A Guide to Processing Pain with Jesus" Follow me on Instagram @themichelledonnelly or Facebook @themichelledonnelly Check out my books and services at uncommonvalor.co

Have you ever uncovered a lie you've believed about yourself, only to struggle to believe the truth is true? Sometimes you can know something intellectually is true, and yet not believe it because it doesn't match your experience. And sometimes the only way to change that is to change your experience. In this episode, I'm sharing about confronting old ways of doing things and what it looks like to "do it scared." However, I also discuss how that doesn't always mean doing it big and that small steps can have major impact. Learn more about healing painful moments with the free PDF "God Within Us: A Guide to Processing Pain with Jesus" Follow me on Instagram @themichelledonnelly or Facebook @themichelledonnelly Check out my books and services at uncommonvalor.co

Do you feel like God is mad at you? Like He's just "up there," watching and waiting for you to mess up? If so, you're not alone. Many Christians do. But that's not the truth of who God is, and that is not how He feels about you. In this episode, I share about the distorted perceptions we often have of God and how to figure out where they come from. I also share about the difference between condemnation and conviction and how even in your mistakes, you can see that God is SO for you. Learn more about healing painful moments with the free PDF "God Within Us: A Guide to Processing Pain with Jesus" Follow me on Instagram @themichelledonnelly or Facebook @themichelledonnelly Check out my books and services at uncommonvalor.co

While emotional and spiritual healing does involve deep work, it doesn't always have to be that way. Healing also involves the light work of learning to experience goodness again- to see it, savor it, and expect it in your everyday life. In this episode, I share the story behind my middle name and the secret treasure buried within it that I wouldn't unearth for four decades. I also discuss how the Lord leaves these intentional treasures for each of us, and how you can go in search of them too. In This Episode: Episode 111- Believing Who God Says You Are (& How it Changes Everything) with Aubrey Sampson Follow me on Instagram @themichelledonnelly or Facebook @themichelledonnelly Check out my books and services at uncommonvalor.co

You may know what the Bible says about you as a child of God, and yet- you may struggle to actually believe it's for you. In this episode I'm talking about the times when head knowledge doesn't sink down into your heart, and how to identify and stand against demonic torment you may be experiencing in the process. In This Episode: Learn more about healing painful moments with the free PDF "God Within Us: A Guide to Processing Pain with Jesus" For more on forgiveness, check out episode 182, "Why Not Forgiving Them Will Cost You" or purchase a copy of "Made for More: Life Beyond the Wreckage of Hurt, Loss, and Heartbreak" Follow me on Instagram @themichelledonnelly or Facebook @themichelledonnelly Check out my books and services at uncommonvalor.co  

Is what you're seeing a bad habit? Or a red flag? When you're healing from a heartbreak, it can be hard to tell the difference. In this episode, I share about the pitfalls of discerning red flags in friendships and romantic relationships, and how to deal with situations that are not so obvious. In This Episode: Learn more about healing painful moments with the free PDF "God Within Us: A Guide to Processing Pain with Jesus" Follow me on Instagram @themichelledonnelly or Facebook @themichelledonnelly Check out my books and services at uncommonvalor.co

There are times when doing deep emotional processing can create more problems than it solves. In this episode, Michelle shares about the difference between productive and unproductive processing, and what to do when "feeling your feelings" turns into a full-scale spiral. In This Episode: Learn more about healing painful moments with the free PDF "God Within Us: A Guide to Processing Pain with Jesus" Follow me on Instagram @themichelledonnelly or Facebook @themichelledonnelly Check out my books and services at uncommonvalor.co

We may use or hear the phrase "doing the work" but what that means can be somewhat unique for each of us. Champion Forward co-founder and retired professional baseball player Ben Zobrist opens up about his experiences with "doing the work" in his own life. We also talk about the role of pain in becoming emotionally aware, the benefits of processing emotions within safe community, and how to pass on the benefits of doing the work (even if imperfectly) with the ones you love.  In This Episode: Learn more about Champion Forward Follow me on Instagram @themichelledonnelly or Facebook @themichelledonnelly Check out my books and services at uncommonvalor.co

Sometimes you may become so overwhelmed by a distressing experience that figuring out where to begin your healing process seems too daunting. In this episode, I'm discussing the role of resources & support in initiating the process of repair, and how to incorporate spiritual "scaffolding" into an approach that invites not just repair in the present, but also restoration of the past. In This Episode: Download the workbook guide for this podcast series, "Rebuke Rest Repair: A Holistic Framework for Moving Through Emotional & Mental Distress" Learn more about healing painful moments with the free PDF "God Within Us: A Guide to Processing Pain with Jesus" Follow me on Instagram @themichelledonnelly or Facebook @themichelledonnelly Check out my books and services at uncommonvalor.co

Triggered traumas and intrusive thoughts can leave you feeling profoundly fearful and alone. Regulation techniques can help calm the nervous system, but an underlying sense of loneliness and vulnerability may remain. In this episode, I share about the role of relationships in regulating emotions, and how an early lack of support can cause distress into adulthood. Also, I share ways to incorporate your relationship with God into a regulation experience that not only deepens your sense of peace, but invites healing into wounds of emotional misattunement, abandonment, abuse, and neglect. In This Episode: Download the workbook guide for this podcast series, "Rebuke Rest Repair: A Holistic Framework for Moving Through Emotional & Mental Distress" Follow me on Instagram @themichelledonnelly or Facebook @themichelledonnelly Check out my books and services at uncommonvalor.co

We often think of the spiritual part of ourselves as being separate from our body/mind/emotions; but the truth is we are experiencing spiritual realities in our natural being – And that includes spiritual warfare. In this episode, I share about the role of spiritual warfare in mental and emotional distress, and what it looks like to incorporate spiritual care into a holistic approach to addressing triggers and intrusive thoughts. In This Episode: Download the workbook guide for this podcast series, "Rebuke Rest Repair: A Holistic Framework for Moving Through Emotional & Mental Distress" Follow me on Instagram @themichelledonnelly or Facebook @themichelledonnelly Check out my books and services at uncommonvalor.co  

When you feel hopeless, it may seem like there's no way you'll ever find hope (and there's definitely no way you'll figure out how to "make it happen." But what if that's exactly where hope is found? In this episode, I'm sharing about a time when I felt like I was coming apart at the seams, and how God helped me to understand this is exactly the place where He unties us from our pain and tethers us to His never-ending goodness. In This Episode: Learn more about healing painful moments with the free PDF "God Within Us: A Guide to Processing Pain with Jesus" Follow me on Instagram @themichelledonnelly or Facebook @themichelledonnelly Check out my books and services at uncommonvalor.co

We've all made choices that we regret, and sometimes those choices have hurt the people we love in ways that seem to be beyond repair. In this episode, I'm sharing about a situation just like this, and the unexpected way God revealed He truly is bigger (and better) than our mistakes. In This Episode: Check out my Bible study,  Made for More: Life Beyond the Wreckage of Hurt, Loss, & Heartbreak Visit Champion Forward's Website Follow me on Instagram @themichelledonnelly or Facebook @themichelledonnelly Check out my books and services at uncommonvalor.co

Okay, so last week I talked about learning to be vulnerable with safe people- but for me, that's not really where learning to be vulnerable started. It didn't start with friends or family- it started with my Father. This week I'm sharing about what it looks like to be vulnerable in a relationship with God, and the healing that comes when we are really honest with Him. In this episode: Download "God Within Us: A Guide to Processing Pain with Jesus" Follow me on Instagram @themichelledonnelly or Facebook @themichelledonnelly Check out my books and services at uncommonvalor.co

Do you hate asking for help? Asking for help can be a humiliating experience, and receiving it can feel even worse. In this episode, I share an experience where I had to face the shame of opening myself up to receive help, and what it taught me about the beautiful way God pours out His love on us through safe people. In this episode: Safe Haven: A Devotional for the Abused & Abandoned Follow me on Instagram @themichelledonnelly or Facebook @themichelledonnelly Check out my books and services at uncommonvalor.co

"God, I need people." I prayed this desperate prayer in a season of loneliness and isolation, when NOTHING I did to find community was working out. I asked- and God answered (and NOT in the way I expected). In this episode, I'm sharing how God used a 1600-mile move to change more than just my zip code, and what He did to teach me more about hearing (and being heard by) Him. In This Episode Purchase access to my devotional, What Are You Waiting For? A Raw & Real-Time Journey Through Longing, Surrender, & Desires Fulfilled Follow me on Instagram @themichelledonnelly or Facebook @themichelledonnelly Check out my books and services at uncommonvalor.co

How involved do you think God is when it comes to what you need? Or what you want?  In this episode, I share what God showed me about our needs and wants, and how much more we gain when we trust Him to provide. Follow me on Instagram @themichelledonnelly or Facebook @themichelledonnelly Check out my books and services at uncommonvalor.co In This Episode Purchase access to my devotional, What Are You Waiting For? A Raw & Real-Time Journey Through Longing, Surrender, & Desires Fulfilled

Okay, you may know you need a break, but you might not be sure how to get one. With all you have going on, it may not seem possible (or responsible), and even if you got a break, you may not feel like you'd be in the headspace to actually enjoy it. In this episode I want to share with you a little bit about what I learned about rest during my podcast hiatus, and how you can sneak in special moments of rest- even when you can't get away. Follow me on Instagram @themichelledonnelly or Facebook @themichelledonnelly Check out my books and services at uncommonvalor.co