U Up?

Fall is for flirting, but dating comes with its own set of challenges, especially when reality TV obsessions, sports fandom, or constant phone use get in the way. Jared and Jordana break down what makes a relationship work, from the perfect season for flirting to navigating jealousy and attention struggles. They explore how being overly attached to your phone can impact intimacy and connection. The hosts also tackle first date ex talk, navigating a partner’s sports obsessions, and even the quirks and turnoffs of vanity plates. Plus, Jordana shares the mix up when she confuses her husband’s favorite football team, the Jets, with the Giants. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Jared and Jordana tackle dating red flags, starting with a listener’s story about a guy wearing obvious shoe lifts, sparking comparisons to push-up bras, stuffed socks, and bald men in hats. They dive into the dreaded height conversation, unpack why “short king” talk is a lose-lose, and share their own insecurities. The duo also dishes out expert advice on solo travel in their “Go Solo?” game, weighing options like hostels, group tours, and adventure spots. Plus, Jared reveals his top tips for celebrating a birthday alone, from breakfast in town to massages and movie marathons, proving that solo days can be just as indulgent and fun! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared reveals a potential red flag: falling asleep to The Golden Girls, and yes, Betty White is involved. In this episode, Jordana and Jared break down texting disasters, from one-word pre-date replies to three-day gaps, and debate whether you’re genuinely excited to see someone or just excited to date. They weigh in on whether meeting the right person at the wrong time is actually real. Plus, they dissect the ultimate minimalist text: the dreaded “thumbs-up” emoji. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Kat Sadler, creator and star of the Hulu series Such Brave Girls, joins J&J on U Up to talk dating, relationships, and her chaotic personal life. She opens up about her disorganized attachment style, stories of making dates cry, and navigating love while dealing with past trauma and parental influence. From comparing the energy of New York versus London to debating whether coworker gossip is a relationship essential, Kat keeps the conversation lively and unfiltered. She also shares behind-the-scenes insights from her show and reflects on what it’s like to grow up with complicated family dynamics! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

From fro-yo runs in his parents’ Neil Sedaka-signed red Jaguar to unexpected parking lot meet-cutes, Jared is enjoying his Del Ray Summer. A listener shares a quirky first-date story where everyone says her date looks like Lil Dicky, and he eventually snaps! Jared and Jordana debate whether his reaction was fair or a red flag. They also tackle tricky dating dilemmas: when it’s fair to ask for a breakup refund after a partner cheats, how to date confidently with an invisible disability, and whether frugal habits in love are charming or a hard pass. Plus, they unpack a first date with an eight-year sex hiatus, weighing the context and what questions matter before moving forward. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Kamie Crawford is on the podcast, and we learn right away how she’s the 1% dater who found her boyfriend on the very first day of swiping! As the eldest of five sisters, she shares their collective conclusion on men and how she gives her sister's advice. She opens up about the unsettling realities of dating while Miss Teen USA and how men reacted to the title. The three also debate whether certain breakup moves are petty or justified, including Kamie’s infamous story of spitting on an ex’s belongings before giving them back! By the end, you’ll understand exactly why she calls it one of her proudest break-up moments. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jordana kicks things off by reminiscing about Billy Joel and a second date she went on, while Jared shares a story about a voice memo mishap that didn’t go as planned. In our listener emails, we dive into issues of cheating, mistrust, and an unemployed boyfriend. Jared and Jordana also dissect an “Icky or Picky?” as one listener discovers their date is a potentially full-blown Disney Adult - yep, it's a thing. Per usual the warps with the signature Red Flag or Deal Breakers covering everything from overly passionate kissers to awkward wedding plus-one scenarios! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, comedian Whitney Cummings joins J & J for a chaotic and hilarious deep dive into everything she’s done once and never again—from Ozempic to dating emotionally unavailable men. She gets into her current relationship, why she’s officially tired of mean girl energy, and her take on what makes a real friend (spoiler: they’ll tell you your outfit is trash). They also get into freezing your eggs and how men vs. women interpret toxic behavior. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week  J  & J dig into Jared’s hilarious origin story as a summer camper in New England, and how it still resonates with his life today. The episode kicks off with listener feedback on Jared’s ongoing Summer Dating Challenge, followed by a laugh-out-loud “Icky or Picky” that’s both “yummy” and divisive. Next, the hosts answer a listener’s question about how to date more intentionally in a world full of people still "figuring out their relationship type." Finally, J+J wrap up with a Red Flag or Deal Breakers, where they dive into travel compatibility, the chronic relationship type, and a bold move from someone handing out their number. 00:00 - Intro 13:00 - Jared's New England Camp Days 20:39 - Summer Dating Challenge 39:12 - More Is Not More 54:01 - Different Vacation Styles in Couples #Dating #Advice #Hinge #Debate #RedFlag #Dealbreaker #DatingApps #Podcast #Summer Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana sit down with Sophie, who’s originally from the UK and now building her life in New York City, to unpack a long-distance love that won’t quite let go. After a whirlwind month together, she and her high school crush tried to make it work across continents, but mismatched communication styles and visa hurdles got in the way. Now he says he’s willing to wait until her “New York chapter ends,” but Sophie’s unsure if that’s romantic or just unrealistic. Is it love, pressure, or emotional limbo? They explore long-distance struggles, the tension of timing, and the culture clash between UK and NYC dating! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana unpack the dos and don’ts of dating in the age of social media. Jared explains why unfollowing your ex immediately after a breakup is a crucial act of self-care and shares the three things you need to consider when managing your breakup posts online. They talk about the subtle ways we use stories to check if someone’s watching and break down which ex photos to keep, edit, or delete to protect your new dating life. We also discuss a listener's question, do you need permission to follow you best friend's new boyfriend? It's a social media themed episode, be sure to listen and take notes! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back with another movie review episode of The Materialists, directed by Celine Song and starring Dakota Johnson, Chris Evans, and Pedro Pascal. Spoiler alert!! J&J break down the film’s portrayal of matchmaking as cold and transactional, and ask whether Song set out to take down the matchmaking industry altogether. From red flag roommate situations to Coke-and-beer drink orders, J&J debate every messy decision and chaotic romance. Is it a rom-com, a satire, or something much darker? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jordana shares her firsthand experience at a concert when she witnessed the viral moment Mr. Met fell off stage at Citi Field, breaking it down with Jared as pure comedy gold. Jared and Jordana read a listener’s email about a guy’s shy hopscotch move on a first date and debate when quirky crosses into “icky.” They dive into a friendship dilemma about hooking up with a best friend’s college fling years later, exploring honesty and boundaries. Plus, Jared calls out the major red flag of guys asking for selfies before the first date: “If a woman asks me for pictures, I’m opting out.” This episode covers hilarious fails, dating deal breakers, and navigating complicated friendships! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dating in your 40s? Jared and Jordana break down why it actually gives you the upper hand, less game-playing, more clarity, and faster exits from the wrong situations. A listener writes in about a promising new connection and a big reveal, prompting a convo on knowing what you want as you get older. Then, they react to a jaw-dropping first-date horror story involving a drunk, naked sleepwalker and a ruined mattress. The debate continues: is peeing the bed a dating red flag... or just a funny story? Modern dating, relationship boundaries, and chaotic hookups, this episode has it all! full ep here 👉https://youtu.be/wOrL4kV0bSQ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Would you go to a concert solo? In this episode of U Up?, Jared and Jordana play “Would You Go Alone?” and debate when flying solo feels empowering versus just sad. They break down the “casual clock” - the timeline guys follow to keep things casual while still reaping relationship benefits. Then, a listener's email sparks a debate: is groaning at helping an elderly woman a red flag or just bad timing? They also run through a list of mama’s boy behaviors, from outfit picks to dentist appointments, and ask: is it icky or just picky? If you’ve ever wondered why he keeps coming back without committing, or how much mom-involvement is too much, this episode has answers! Watch full ep here 👉https://youtu.be/xi2KPzZAAfs Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Jordana and Jared welcome Brooke Miccio and Danielle Carolan, co-hosts of the popular Gals on the Go podcast. They dive into their journey as college influencers and how social media shapes modern dating and relationships, especially across Gen Z and Millennial cultures. Brooke and Danielle open up about living with their boyfriends, relationship boundaries, and how to navigate shared spaces without losing your mind! Jared reacts to Brooke’s viral TikTok claiming she’s been “single since birth,” questioning if that’s a real thing, sparking a fun debate about dating timelines and how men and women perceive time differently.  Full episode here 👉https://youtu.be/uqr_cPhgdxc Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, J&J debate whether FaceTiming your mom every night on a romantic weekend is sweet or a total ick. A listener writes in about her boyfriend buying Sydney Sweeney's bath water soap, and the hosts weigh in on whether that’s quirky or cringe. They dig into whether dating an anonymous internet troll is ever okay (spoiler: nope). Jordana’s pool is open, so they break down the unspoken rules of hosting outside vs. inside in the summer. Plus, someone in an ENM (ethically non-monogamous) relationship gets ghosted before the first date, and Jared reminds us that nothing counts until you’re actually face-to-face. Watch episode here 👉https://youtu.be/aKH7wyMgbMw Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Comedian Atsuko Okatsuka joins J&J this week for a hilarious and heartfelt deep dive into dating, breakups, and family drama. They kick things off with a wild listener email about a broken engagement, and whether you owe the entire ex-family an apology. Atsuko shares the story of a third date turned trauma bond after her now-husband paused foreplay to sing to his mom on the phone. The trio explores how vulnerability, cultural differences, and mental health shape our relationships. They also unpack a front-row breakup at Atsuko’s comedy show and debate whether the full moon really messes with your mood (and your mom). It all wraps up with a petty game of “Apology or Nah?” that exposes just how messy post-breakup etiquette can be. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of U Up? , hosts Jordana Abraham and Jared Fried unpack the toughest parts of dating, from breakups and body image struggles to spotting red flags versus deal breakers. They dive into an eye-opening conversation about Hinge’s new note feature, sharing expert tips on writing playful, effective messages that keep the vibe light while weeding out the wrong matches. Plus, they discuss real listener dilemmas including “Is multiple cat Instagrams a deal breaker?” and how to handle forgetfulness on dates. Whether you’re navigating relationship closure or crafting your dating profile, this episode delivers honest, funny, and relatable advice. Perfect for singles eager to improve their dating strategy and avoid common pitfalls in today’s dating apps. Tune in for candid insights and laughter-filled stories that will change the way you date! Watch full ep here 👉 https://youtu.be/Pv_Msu2Qp6o Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week’s Friday Feels episode gets deep and personal with special guest Case Kenny, author, mindfulness expert, and the man behind the viral quotes shared by Oprah, SZA, and Selena Gomez. Jordana and Jared sit down with Case to talk about his new book The Opposite of Settling and explore why the best relationships amplify who you already are. They dig into what it means to have “out of town confidence,” how optimism and trust shape our dating lives, and why independence is the real secret to intimacy. Then, it’s time for Settling or Settling Up? where J&J get Case’s take on real listener scenarios, from stingy tippers to partners who still text their ex. Can love survive political differences or a forgotten birthday? Case shares why playfulness, clarity, and self-worth matter more than a perfect love story. This episode will shift how you think about dating and maybe even yourself! Watch episode here 👉 https://youtu.be/kfP_MN82co4 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices