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Jordana is getting ready to have her twiblings, and she and Jared talk about childhood memories and how they were raised! Then they jump into emails, starting with a listener in an ethically non-monogamous relationship wondering if she accidentally sent a hookup coded message when setting up a first date. Next, they offer thoughtful advice on when and how to bring up losing a family member while dating without scaring someone off. Then they dive into an icky or picky where a listener’s boyfriend spits loogies and snot rockets on walks, is it just “man behavior” or a real turnoff? Lastly, J&J get into red flag or dealbreaker, covering dating a great guy with a kid and a difficult ex, partners who speed through 2- to 4-month relationships, and a date who picks up their plate and licks off what’s left at the end of a meal! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are joined by celebrity hairstylist Chris Appleton, known for styling Jennifer Lopez and Kim Kardashian, to talk about hair, confidence and dating as a dad of two. Chris explains how hair can empower you, help you see yourself clearly, and change how you show up in dating and life. He opens up about his past relationship with a woman, raising children together, and navigating marriage and divorce in the public eye. Chris also shares how discovering his sexuality later in life helped him gain a deeper understanding of himself. Lastly, J&J and Chris answer a listener's question about an open relationship that’s getting difficult because one person caught feelings! Be sure to check out this episode and Chris’ new book Your Roots Don’t Define You, out now! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J touch on the Ashley Tisdale friend-group drama and how being quietly dropped by friends feels a lot like modern dating, where things just fade out instead of ending with an honest conversation. J&J dive into listener emails, starting with a listener wondering if dating someone with zero social media in 2026 is normal or a red flag? They debate a messy breakup dog custody case in a classic petty or prudent, breaking down responsibility, fairness, and post-breakup guilt. Advice continues with how to deal with single friends who complain about dating but refuse to actually go on dates?! They end the episode with some fun red flag or dealbreaker about eating fries with a fork, to splitting a pricey bottle of wine and giving big birthday gifts too early. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared’s making new friends in Florida-until a toe gets a little too friendly with his knee, sparking suspicions that one new pal might be part of a swingers couple. J&J dive into a first-date email from a woman whose date keeps a solo, youthful photo of his mom as his iPhone lock screen - sweet, or deeply unsettling? Next, they tackle a listener question about navigating the ticking biological clock on dating apps and whether it’s fair game to talk kids on a first date. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J dive into New Year’s resolutions and float the idea that partners should choose each other’s goals, mostly because Jordana would like to veto Mike’s marathon plans. They get into listener emails, including one from a woman confused about being instantly unmatched for not sharing her number, and Jared explains why jumping straight to “Can I text you?” can backfire. In Petty or Prudent, a listener wonders if she may have crossed a line after throwing a situationship’s forgotten car key into Lake Ontario. Oops! Inspired by Tell Me Lies season 3, Jared and Jordana debate a Red Flag or Dealbreaker where a man performs a song about his ex—while his new girlfriend watches from the crowd. They also unpack a nine-year on-and-off relationship that ends in an engagement ultimatum, and what it all says about boundaries, timing, and whether a relationship is actually right for you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this Friday Feels episode opens, Jared and Jordana get into Jared's very Florida Christmas and whether he really deserved getting called out for taking selfies in public. They dive into whether Happy New Year” is a criminally lazy dating-app opener, how late is too late to send it, and the exact moment “HNY” becomes unforgivable. Then, a listener questions whether her husband’s friends are genuinely uncomfortable or just chaotically harmless, and how much nonsense you’re actually expected to tolerate at the beginning of a relationship. Finally, J and J wonder if a listener should 'tolerate' or 'tap-out' – debating whether it’s worth pushing for a second date or if rejection is just the universe telling you it was never a match to begin with. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana kick off the episode virtual and fully locked in, watching a viral TikTok text where a man ghosts after a great first date, then comes back claiming he was overwhelmed by how good it was. What?! Next, J&J dive into a Petty or Prudent email featuring a cheating fiancé, screen-recorded Instagram DMs, and the very real question of whether exposing him to friends and family is justice… or too far. The episode wraps with rapid-fire red flag or dealbreaker emails—from entitled travel meltdowns to lopsided housework and a boyfriend who treats law school acceptances like a relationship ultimatum. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Happy 2026! It’s the New Year where it is peak breakup time and peak dating app download, and J&J are breaking down why January is when relationships end and downloads surge. They explain Divorce Day, Dating Sunday, and how the fresh start of a new year pushes people to rethink their love life and get back on the apps. Since this is the biggest dating app week of the year, they share their top tips for building a better dating profile, including first photo rules, prompt mistakes, and how to get better dates, not just more matches. The two then review two dating app makeovers, common profile red flags, and advice for starting the year strong on the apps to find love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s New Year’s Eve, and J&J are ringing in the new year with bold and actionable personal dating and relationship resolutions. Jordana and Jared dive into listener emails about a NYE kiss ruined by strict no-PDA rules and jealousy over an innocent peck on the lips from a gay best friend. They also break down a listener’s New Year’s Eve ‘petty or prudent’ move, where she secretly canceled her ex’s reservation after a three-year situationship ended. Comment below telling us your favorite part or your dating or relationship resolutions! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jordana and Jared talk about the strange week between Christmas and New Year when time feels fake, routines disappear, and the pressure to reinvent your life creeps in too late. Jordana’s growing baby countdown is upon us and Jared reacts to becoming an uncle and jokes about parenting prep and unrealistic TV labor scenes! Next, they react to a viral dating influencer who claims his high standards are why he is single, breaking down why the take feels insecure, manipulative, and driven by rage bait. Finally, they debate an icky or picky email about a date who joked that his dog was his child and why the timing made it more uncomfortable than funny. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Merry Christmas Eve from your friendly elf and what seems to be Jared as sexy Santa? Jared talks about a potential gym flirting moment that leads into a deeper conversation about dating burnout, emotional self protection, and why avoiding risk can start to feel safe but sad, with comparisons to Leonardo DiCaprio style dating rules. They break down listener emails about bringing a boyfriend of two years to a family Christmas party, asking when it is actually the right time to include your significant other in family holiday gatherings. J&J read a petty or prudent about getting Christmas ornaments back, an email about a gifting fight over a valuable sentimental book, and multiple fed flag or deal breaker stories involving Christmas cheer, cultural gift rules, and whether believing in Santa at 21 is sweet or concerning. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jordana and Jared celebrate the holidays by sharing gift ideas, including Jared’s new book, Walking Red Flag, which we suggest pre-ordering! Next, a listener asks J&J to weigh in on whether her date’s bragging about delaying climax is an icky moment or just being picky. They answer a question about giving a boudoir photo shoot as a Christmas gift and how it can boost confidence. Would you do a sexy photo shoot for your loved one?? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana kick things off with a little holiday gift exchange powered by Uber Eats, proving last minute gifting doesn’t have to be stressful! Then they tackle a big dating etiquette question: you book a trip together, break up, and suddenly you’re stuck with the bill - do you still split the bill? They then get into an icky or picky where a listener asks if her boyfriend’s top Spotify song of the year being his own, cringe or just a harmless quirk? Lastly, they get into some red flags: a married grown man sharing an Amazon account with his mom, and a boyfriend who still won’t show his apartment after four months of dating! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week on U Up?, Jared asks Jordana if when seeing an ex posting on social media can still hit harder than it should. They celebrate being named to Spotify’s Best Podcasts list, share Jared’s upcoming stand-up plans, and unpack his tradition of spending New Year’s alone. They dive into listener emails, including one about a gifting dilemma with someone who doesn’t celebrate the holidays, sparking a debate on what’s appropriate when you’re casually dating, in a segment sponsored by Uber Eats. Also, they unpack an icky or picky” email that asks whether nonstop talking and essay-length texts are a real ick or just part of modern dating? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared shares a hilarious story about being approached by Hannah Berner’s cousin, including a moment where he is told to look less “miserable” during a mid-Florida night out. They share fun family memories, and Jordana recalls Lindsay Lohan’s BETCHES cameo that was a highlight this year. They then get into listener questions and debate how old is too old to play video games and why it is frustrating when your partner hides their hobby. Next, they tackle an “icky or picky” scenario about a date who brought an overnight bag, which is thoughtful but a little presumptuous. J&J also weigh in on red flags versus dealbreakers, including staying friends with an ex, unsolicited critiques about your apartment, and being asked to pay for a date at the last minute. It is a fun episode you do not want to miss! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J break down the most unhinged celeb “Jump Scare Couples” of 2025. From Jeff Bezos & Lauren Sánchez to Sydney Sweeney & Scooter Braun to Katy Perry & Justin Trudeau. They also dive into the chaotic romance of JoJo Siwa & Chris Hughes and the age-gap spectacle that is Bill Belichick & Jordon Hudson, predicting which pairs will fizzle, which will last, and which should come with a warning label? Then they answer a listener’s email about the weirdest question ever: “Which picture do you actually look like?” Be sure to vote for BETCH of the Year, judge freely, and relive the wildest celeb couple moments of the year 👉 https://betches.com/betch-of-the-year-nominees/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J start off this episode on which TV shows you should binge and the answer is The Sopranos! They get into listener questions quick and debate whether it’s a dealbreaker when a guy sends too many selfies or if someone can come back from an ick. They talk about first-date boundaries and what’s too much to ask before meeting someone: handshake or hug. Then, they discuss whether it’s petty or prudent to call an ex’s job after he cheated. Finally, they close with a wild Red Flag or Dealbreaker about a match who reveals a kink before the first date even happens! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are here the day after Thanksgiving! The hosts talk holiday shopping and gift-exchange fun. They debate an icky or picky scenario with childhood artwork and give advice on ending a long-term relationship before the holidays. Do you think you should wait to break up or do it after the holidays? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

With the holidays here, Jordana & Jared help listeners handle the nosy “Why are you single?” questions from family! They also share survival tips for the biggest drinking night of the year and explain what ladder statements to use to lock in a first date. They also answer a listener’s questions on whether six weeks is too soon to meet someone’s family over Thanksgiving? It’s a fun, relatable episode you don’t want to miss! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J sit down with a former producer of U Up? podcast, Sean! Sean just got out of a 22 year relationship and went on a journey of doing what he missed in his 20s, casually date! Through casually dating, Sean found himself dating a woman who is in a non-monogamous relationship herself. But they fall in love! In this SOS ep, the three explore this rollercoaster Sean has found himself on, monogamy vs. non-monogamy, and the anxiety that comes with choosing stability over excitement. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices