Speaking Light Into Abortion

What I wish I had heard after my abortion:"You get to decide what it means." ☀️💛☀️After abortion our thoughts can swirlcycleand torment us.Birth control can’t be trusted.People can’t be trusted.I can’t be trusted.Brains are always looking for a way to categorize and catalog our experience,but as clever as they are they don’t always have our best interest in mind. We get to decide; we can put our brains to work for us not against us. We get to believe anything we want to believe.We get to decide.Abortion showed us what to trustwho to trustand how to trust. I believe that some things in life pick us…That’s exactly how I feel about my abortion.I don’t just think abortion picked me to teach me a lesson. I believe that my baby picked me so that I could do this work, so that I could help other women find the inner peace and strength I was able to access before, during, and after my procedure.

What I wish I had heard after my abortion:“You couldn’t have been or done any more.”☀️💛☀️Everything that led you here was enough. Including you.You are enough.You did enoughasked enoughconsidered enoughtried enough.I know this to be true because “enough” is a fallacy.Enough is a lie we’re all striving to achievebut the truth isthere is no enough. It doesn’t exist.You couldn’t have been any more enough thenthan you are now.Enough looks like:settling in and beingwithout comparisonwithout judgmentwithout disdain.Only then will you find the freedom you desire for more. I believe that some things in life pick us…That’s exactly how I feel about my abortion.I don’t just think abortion picked me to teach me a lesson. I believe that my baby picked me so that I could do this work, so that I could help other women find the inner peace and strength I was able to access before, during, and after my procedure.

What I wish I had heard after my abortion:“Your thoughts will change over time.”☀️💛☀️Time doesn’t heal all wounds. Emotional pain after abortion is sourced in our thoughts. What we think is what we feel. In time, thoughts change.Changing thoughts, changing feelings.Tend to the gift that is your mind.Your mind is where you will find peace;your mind is where you will find freedom. Your mind is both the simplest,and the most complex tool you have.Use it wisely, or it will use you.Feed it nourishing content,surround it with loving company,be patient with it,but forever diligent.You were programed to survive,but you were born to thrive.  I believe that some things in life pick us…That’s exactly how I feel about my abortion.I don’t just think abortion picked me to teach me a lesson. I believe that my baby picked me so that I could do this work, so that I could help other women find the inner peace and strength I was able to access before, during, and after my procedure.

What I wish I had heard after my abortion:“It’s okay to be uncomfortable.”☀️💛☀️Comfort is a beautiful thing:a resting placea being place.But not a growing place.Comfort doesn’t expand you.Discomfort is where you grow. Discomfort is a feelingand it’s meant to be a part of your human experience. We are designed to break open before we bloom. Abortion cracks us open. It reveals to us —and to the world— a new part of who we are.It shows us new way to lovenew passages to journeynew places to go.Discomfort is never the problem.Our resistance to discomfort is what sabotages our human experience. Everything is here to show you something—discomfort included. I believe that some things in life pick us…That’s exactly how I feel about my abortion.I don’t just think abortion picked me to teach me a lesson. I believe that my baby picked me so that I could do this work, so that I could help other women find the inner peace and strength I was able to access before, during, and after my procedure.

What I wish I had heard after my abortion:“Abortion is how you parented that child.”☀️💛☀️Each of our children are here to teach us something. Our relationship is mutual.Some might tell you that your baby had no voicebut they are mistaken.Souls who choose wombs markedPregnancy NOT Desiredknow exactly what they are here for.Anyone who tells you otherwise does not give enough credit to the spiritual or human experience. Not all pregnancies are meant to deliver breathing babies.Some are testing grounds for souls dipping their feet in the human form. Some are meant to deliver fuller more expanded women.  All pregnancies are opportunities for growth.To be a parent is to choose loveeven when it feels like the hardest thing in the world. Abortion is an expression of love. I believe that some things in life pick us…That’s exactly how I feel about my abortion.I don’t just think abortion picked me to teach me a lesson. I believe that my baby picked me so that I could do this work, so that I could help other women find the inner peace and strength I was able to access before, during, and after my procedure.

What I wish I had heard after my abortion:“You’re not that special.”☀️💛☀️It’s true.And it’s great news.I know you feel alone.I know you feel unique.I know you feel different.But you’re not that special.Not in that way. The complexity of your feelingsthe lonelinessthe confusionit’s all normal and typical and expected.What will make you special is how you rise.Your strengthyour storyyour ability to turn darkness into light—that’s what makes you special. Abortion isn’t specialbut living purposefully and intentionally after abortion is more than special.It’s exceptional.You can choose to be exceptional. I believe that some things in life pick us…That’s exactly how I feel about my abortion.I don’t just think abortion picked me to teach me a lesson. I believe that my baby picked me so that I could do this work, so that I could help other women find the inner peace and strength I was able to access before, during, and after my procedure.

What I wish I had heard after my abortion:“Reunite with your body.”☀️💛☀️You lost touch when your mom told you you shouldn’t eat that third cookie at age ten.You lost touch when your friends in middle school had less belly in their bikinis.You lost touch when you told himNOand he fondled you anyway. You lost touch when all thosefertility treatments failed.  Or maybeyou didn’t lose touch until you were blindsided by the unplanned pregnancy. Now is the time to let all of that go.Not to forget it but to redefine it.Now is the time to reunite.Love her.Caress her.Whisper sweet nothings into every nook and cranny of her miraculous shape. She needs you now more than ever.  She needs you torekindle the flame you had before the world started telling you lies. I believe that some things in life pick us…That’s exactly how I feel about my abortion.I don’t just think abortion picked me to teach me a lesson. I believe that my baby picked me so that I could do this work, so that I could help other women find the inner peace and strength I was able to access before, during, and after my procedure.

It mattered when you chose abortion and it matters now. What you want will always matter.Even when you don’t listen to it—it matters.There have beenand will betimes when what you want gets swept away in other people’s dreamsother people’s fearsother people’s beliefsbut that does not mean anything about you.Be in a relationship with your own desire:get to know herplay with herdance with herhonor her.Communicate with your wants as you would a child in your care. Listen.Negotiate.Collaborate.And eventually see that she is her own energy.You’ve been called here— not to manipulate and manage your desirebut to allow itnurture itand hold space for it to come to life. I believe that some things in life pick us…That’s exactly how I feel about my abortion.I don’t just think abortion picked me to teach me a lesson. I believe that my baby picked me so that I could do this work, so that I could help other women find the inner peace and strength I was able to access before, during, and after my procedure.

For full show notes visit: www.amandastarkingsley.com/speaking-light-into-abortion/242One to one coaching is available for listeners who want to deepen their healing work and build futures they are proud of. If you are someone who chose abortion and find yourself struggling, hiding, or wishing you could move beyond your experience, you can book a 1:1 coaching with me. We’ll talk about how you can start living the life you made your choice for. https://www.amandastarkingsley.com/find-your-way-to-freedomFollow me on the socials @amandastarkingsley I believe that some things in life pick us…That’s exactly how I feel about my abortion.I don’t just think abortion picked me to teach me a lesson. I believe that my baby picked me so that I could do this work, so that I could help other women find the inner peace and strength I was able to access before, during, and after my procedure.

For full show notes visit: www.amandastarkingsley.com/speaking-light-into-abortion/241One to one coaching is available for listeners who want to deepen their healing work and build futures they are proud of. If you are someone who chose abortion and find yourself struggling, hiding, or wishing you could move beyond your experience, you can book a 1:1 coaching with me. We’ll talk about how you can start living the life you made your choice for. https://www.amandastarkingsley.com/find-your-way-to-freedomFollow me on the socials @amandastarkingsley I believe that some things in life pick us…That’s exactly how I feel about my abortion.I don’t just think abortion picked me to teach me a lesson. I believe that my baby picked me so that I could do this work, so that I could help other women find the inner peace and strength I was able to access before, during, and after my procedure.

For full show notes visit: www.amandastarkingsley.com/speaking-light-into-abortion/240One to one coaching is available for listeners who want to deepen their healing work and build futures they are proud of. If you are someone who chose abortion and find yourself struggling, hiding, or wishing you could move beyond your experience, you can book a 1:1 coaching with me. We’ll talk about how you can start living the life you made your choice for. https://www.amandastarkingsley.com/find-your-way-to-freedomFollow me on the socials @amandastarkingsley I believe that some things in life pick us…That’s exactly how I feel about my abortion.I don’t just think abortion picked me to teach me a lesson. I believe that my baby picked me so that I could do this work, so that I could help other women find the inner peace and strength I was able to access before, during, and after my procedure.

For full show notes visit: www.amandastarkingsley.com/speaking-light-into-abortion/239One to one coaching is available for listeners who want to deepen their healing work and build futures they are proud of. If you are someone who chose abortion and find yourself struggling, hiding, or wishing you could move beyond your experience, you can book a 1:1 coaching with me. We’ll talk about how you can start living the life you made your choice for. https://www.amandastarkingsley.com/find-your-way-to-freedomFollow me on the socials @amandastarkingsley I believe that some things in life pick us…That’s exactly how I feel about my abortion.I don’t just think abortion picked me to teach me a lesson. I believe that my baby picked me so that I could do this work, so that I could help other women find the inner peace and strength I was able to access before, during, and after my procedure.

For full show notes visit: www.amandastarkingsley.com/speaking-light-into-abortion/238One to one coaching is available for listeners who want to deepen their healing work and build futures they are proud of. If you are someone who chose abortion and find yourself struggling, hiding, or wishing you could move beyond your experience, you can book a 1:1 coaching with me. We’ll talk about how you can start living the life you made your choice for. https://www.amandastarkingsley.com/find-your-way-to-freedomFollow me on the socials @amandastarkingsley I believe that some things in life pick us…That’s exactly how I feel about my abortion.I don’t just think abortion picked me to teach me a lesson. I believe that my baby picked me so that I could do this work, so that I could help other women find the inner peace and strength I was able to access before, during, and after my procedure.

For full show notes visit: www.amandastarkingsley.com/speaking-light-into-abortion/237One to one coaching is available for listeners who want to deepen their healing work and build futures they are proud of. If you are someone who chose abortion and find yourself struggling, hiding, or wishing you could move beyond your experience, you can book a 1:1 coaching with me. We’ll talk about how you can start living the life you made your choice for. https://www.amandastarkingsley.com/find-your-way-to-freedomFollow me on the socials @amandastarkingsley I believe that some things in life pick us…That’s exactly how I feel about my abortion.I don’t just think abortion picked me to teach me a lesson. I believe that my baby picked me so that I could do this work, so that I could help other women find the inner peace and strength I was able to access before, during, and after my procedure.

For full show notes visit: www.amandastarkingsley.com/speaking-light-into-abortion/236One to one coaching is available for listeners who want to deepen their healing work and build futures they are proud of. If you are someone who chose abortion and find yourself struggling, hiding, or wishing you could move beyond your experience, you can book a 1:1 coaching with me. We’ll talk about how you can start living the life you made your choice for. https://www.amandastarkingsley.com/find-your-way-to-freedomFollow me on the socials @amandastarkingsley I believe that some things in life pick us…That’s exactly how I feel about my abortion.I don’t just think abortion picked me to teach me a lesson. I believe that my baby picked me so that I could do this work, so that I could help other women find the inner peace and strength I was able to access before, during, and after my procedure.

For full show notes visit: www.amandastarkingsley.com/speaking-light-into-abortion/235One to one coaching is available for listeners who want to deepen their healing work and build futures they are proud of. If you are someone who chose abortion and find yourself struggling, hiding, or wishing you could move beyond your experience, you can book a 1:1 coaching with me. We’ll talk about how you can start living the life you made your choice for. https://www.amandastarkingsley.com/find-your-way-to-freedomFollow me on the socials @amandastarkingsley I believe that some things in life pick us…That’s exactly how I feel about my abortion.I don’t just think abortion picked me to teach me a lesson. I believe that my baby picked me so that I could do this work, so that I could help other women find the inner peace and strength I was able to access before, during, and after my procedure.

For full show notes visit: www.amandastarkingsley.com/speaking-light-into-abortion/234One to one coaching is available for listeners who want to deepen their healing work and build futures they are proud of. If you are someone who chose abortion and find yourself struggling, hiding, or wishing you could move beyond your experience, you can book a 1:1 coaching with me. We’ll talk about how you can start living the life you made your choice for. https://www.amandastarkingsley.com/find-your-way-to-freedomFollow me on the socials @amandastarkingsley I believe that some things in life pick us…That’s exactly how I feel about my abortion.I don’t just think abortion picked me to teach me a lesson. I believe that my baby picked me so that I could do this work, so that I could help other women find the inner peace and strength I was able to access before, during, and after my procedure.

For full show notes visit: www.amandastarkingsley.com/speaking-light-into-abortion/233One to one coaching is available for listeners who want to deepen their healing work and build futures they are proud of. If you are someone who chose abortion and find yourself struggling, hiding, or wishing you could move beyond your experience, you can book a 1:1 coaching with me. We’ll talk about how you can start living the life you made your choice for. https://www.amandastarkingsley.com/find-your-way-to-freedomFollow me on the socials @amandastarkingsley I believe that some things in life pick us…That’s exactly how I feel about my abortion.I don’t just think abortion picked me to teach me a lesson. I believe that my baby picked me so that I could do this work, so that I could help other women find the inner peace and strength I was able to access before, during, and after my procedure.

For full show notes visit: www.amandastarkingsley.com/speaking-light-into-abortion/232One to one coaching is available for listeners who want to deepen their healing work and build futures they are proud of. If you are someone who chose abortion and find yourself struggling, hiding, or wishing you could move beyond your experience, you can book a 1:1 coaching with me. We’ll talk about how you can start living the life you made your choice for. https://www.amandastarkingsley.com/find-your-way-to-freedomFollow me on the socials @amandastarkingsley I believe that some things in life pick us…That’s exactly how I feel about my abortion.I don’t just think abortion picked me to teach me a lesson. I believe that my baby picked me so that I could do this work, so that I could help other women find the inner peace and strength I was able to access before, during, and after my procedure.

For full show notes visit: www.amandastarkingsley.com/speaking-light-into-abortion/231One to one coaching is available for listeners who want to deepen their healing work and build futures they are proud of. If you are someone who chose abortion and find yourself struggling, hiding, or wishing you could move beyond your experience, you can book a 1:1 coaching with me. We’ll talk about how you can start living the life you made your choice for. https://www.amandastarkingsley.com/find-your-way-to-freedomFollow me on the socials @amandastarkingsley I believe that some things in life pick us…That’s exactly how I feel about my abortion.I don’t just think abortion picked me to teach me a lesson. I believe that my baby picked me so that I could do this work, so that I could help other women find the inner peace and strength I was able to access before, during, and after my procedure.