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In this episode, I am sharing some thoughts from Robin Sharma's latest book, The Everyday Hero Manifesto. In one of the chapters, he spoke about what a difficult day for the ego looks like. Those are the days where we are full of doubt, unsure of our next steps, second-guessing everything, and how it seems easier to stay put where we are. A difficult day for our ego can truly be a beautiful day for our soul, who is literally waiting to soar and fly. In today's episode we discuss: 1) Our ego sits in comparison, and judgment, wants us to stay small and protected, and wants to block us from receiving support from others. This process also interferes with our feelings of worthiness, and that opens up so many other issues of worthiness in our life. 2) Our ego wants things to be perfect, it expects it, and ironically our imperfections are what make us human, allow us to connect with others, and build relationships with people who know, like, and trust us. The difficult day for our ego is truly a beautiful day for our soul who is truly trying to be heard. 3) "We are all in training for life, the more we sweat in training, the less we bleed in war." Robin Sharma. We are always a work in progress, and instead of meeting these days with resistance, what if we ask deeper questions about what are we here to learn, what is this teaching us, and what if the lessons we are learning today make us even better for the challenges or opportunities for tomorrow? Owning Your Story Program (we start in October) https://www.marshavanw.com/offers/SEZQcqh9?coupon_code=OYSPRESALE Blocks to Owning Your Story Quiz https://www.marshavanw.com/story-blocks Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life Coach Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of "When She Stopped Asking Why". She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation. Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to "Own Your Choices" in your own life. She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others.

Today we are speaking with Magical Kids Book Creator, Timothy Stuetz. Timothy has written more children's stories than anyone alive.  Over 86 to date with many more coming.   He's a Certified Self Esteem Coach for Children; Creator of "Power Animal Frolics for Children;" and a Children's and Family Educator who has developed programs for the State of California and private foundations.   He is also a Master of Ancient Arts and Sacred Sciences, including multiple forms of meditation, qigong, t'ai chi, yoga, Reiki and Quantum Energetics which he has been using to help thousands of people to leap over some of life's most difficult challenges to achieve their full potential.  Before all this he was a Certified Public Accountant.In this episode we discuss: 1) Slowing down in our lives, our thoughts, and allowing our brain to work for us as opposed to against us. 2) How staying open to the next step, even when it doesn't make sense, keeps us moving on the path that is meant for us.  We are always learning and growing in the process and this is preparing us for what is meant for us. 3) The power of our choices, knowing that we can create any change in our lives when we take responsibility for our choices. Connect with TimothyWebsite: https://www.timothystuetz.com LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/timothy-stuetz Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Transformations.Timothy/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/timothystuetz YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/TimothyStuetz Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/timothystuetz/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/TimothyStuetz Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/timothystuetz/_saved/ Books for children of all ages and a Unique Book Club. Self Empowerment Courses for Children and Families. Meditation, Qigong, T'ai Chi, Reiki, Quantum Energy Training Certifications Weekly Soul Circle Gatherings Free Webinar For Increasing Children's Creativity, Happiness and Spiritual Connection: https://mailchi.mp/961fc3077dff/3magicwands Freebies (including guided meditations, Fairy Tales & Songs for Children, exercises for the entire family): https://www.timothystuetz.com/freebiesMarsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life CoachMarsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of "When She Stopped Asking Why".  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation. Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to "Own Your Choices" in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others.

In this episode, I share some on choosing to be the bigger person, especially when we are being pushed in a way that is against your values, who you are and what you stand for.  We can always choose how we respond. In this episode, we discuss: 1)  The social media space can really push buttons.  Pay attention to how it makes you feel,who is on your feed, what you are consuming. When it doesn't feel good, what do you choose to do? Learn how to respond vs react. 2) The haters, the negative comments and people, are always there.  They aren't going anywhere. Send them love back, block, delete, move on, and don't let them stop you from being who you are meant to be.  3) Respond with compassion, your behaviour always speaks volumes about you, and the same goes for someone else. Be sad for them, for someone to take time out of their day, to come to my profile, to drop negative or nasty comments, where are they at in their life?  Join the HOW Methodhttps://www.marshavanw.com/thehowmethod Join the Rising Leaders Collectivehttps://www.marshavanw.com/rlcm Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker, and Life Coach Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of "When She Stopped Asking Why".  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation. Through her programs, coaching, and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to "Own Your Choices" in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support, and impact others.

In this episode, I share some thoughts on the meaning that we give to our fear.  "F-E-A-R: has two meanings: Forget Everything And Run or Face Everything And Rise. The choice is yours." — Zig Ziglar "Nothing in life has any meaning except the meaning you give it." ~ Tony Robbins.  Fear can be our guidepost, our compass that something is so big for us that it gets overwhelming or we allow the overwhelm to take over.  In this episode, we discuss: 1)  When we are stuck in fear we are fearing the worst.  We are prepping and planning for the worst thing to happen, and we go to the absolute worst-case scenario, when in fact it is a scenario that rarely happens.  Where do you allow your mind to go when the fear shows up? 2) When fear shows up I check-in.  Am I feeling called to do something out of lack or because I know it can expand me?  If it is the expansion and I am stuck in the but how then do I know I have moved my thinking up to my head and allowed myself to be stuck. 3) Fear means nothing, it doesn't mean you are weak, scared, not strong enough, or believing it is not possible for you.  Get into action and let the movement be the thing that creates a shift.  4) Know that the fear actually never goes away.  I like to call fear my teammate, I don't like to resist her, she is part of the team.  Join the HOW Methodhttps://www.marshavanw.com/thehowmethod Join the Rising Leaders Collectivehttps://www.marshavanw.com/rlcm Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker, and Life Coach Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of "When She Stopped Asking Why".  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation. Through her programs, coaching, and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to "Own Your Choices" in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support, and impact others.

In this episode, I am speaking with Self-Help Hacker James Heppner.  James likes to think of himself as an artist of experience. His passion is to create transformational experiences for himself and others as a way to explore what it means to truly live - FULLY ALIVE. James is a results coach and founder of the Weekly Wins and Losses podcast and weekly global community call. He helps people in their journey to embracing all of life - both wins and losses equally. James helps you firmly establish the mental and physical courage needed to do difficult things while guiding you to activate your ability to leverage the good news that lies at the heart of both a win... AND A LOSS. People from around the world find James when their way of handling losses just no longer works, and when leaving 50% of life on the table is no longer an option. James' current client list ranges from well-known professionals and executives to average ordinary humans - both of which are deeply hungry and curious about the worthy work of breaking into and establishing a brand new dimension of life. Founder and creator of Weekly Wins And Losses, James helps people in their journey to embracing all of life - both Wins and Losses equally.In this episode we discuss:1) The highlight reel, the stages, and experiences that get us to the highlight reel, and how we can learn to hold all of it.  We can learn to feel peace and joy, and be in love with the unknown and the familiar instead of being afraid of them. 2) The definition of pain that James created, PAIN – Please Accept Inner Nudgings.  Our life and our body are always giving us inner nudging, we choose how we see it and interpret it. 3) A deep dive into James' story, empathy, how we empathize with the problems, with the possibilities, and how our experiences are shaping and preparing us for the work that we are here to do. Connect with JamesWebsite: https://www.jamesheppner.comTWITTER:  https://twitter.com/JamesMegHeppner LINKEDIN:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/jamesheppner/ YOUTUBE:  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXg9eAPhuWBPVlEv8qiObvg FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/JamesHeppnerCoach/photos/a.178063967219302/494110768947952/?type=3 Website: www.theSelfHelpHacker.comGIFT - NO CHARGE EXPERIENCE - no charge Friday noon (sign up for the call)www.WeeklyWinsAndLosses.com Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Storytelling Business Coach, 2xs Podcaster, Author, SpeakerMarsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of "When She Stopped Asking Why".  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation. Through her programs, coaching, and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to "Own Your Choices" in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support, and impact others

In this episode, I want to share some thoughts on the doors and how we know when it is time to let them close.  This is a big one, one that I have relearned, experienced, and relearned multiple times in my life.  From small experiences to massive life decisions, we tend to wait far too long to make the decision to open the door or close the door. In this episode, we discuss: 1)  We overanalyze everything, at least I do. We can easily keep doors open for longer than necessary because we don't want to make the wrong decision. That open door is blocking us from other opportunities.  2) We stick a door stopper or a foot in the door hoping we can have it both ways.  3) The meaning that we give to things actually decides our actions and emotions.  The meaning that we give something comes from our past experiences - good and bad, from our fears, goals, failures, successes, and our interpretation of what it all means. We are the ones keeping ourselves stuck in our stories. Join the HOW Methodhttps://www.marshavanw.com/thehowmethod Join the Rising Leaders Collectivehttps://www.marshavanw.com/rlcm Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker, and Life Coach Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of "When She Stopped Asking Why".  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation. Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to "Own Your Choices" in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others.

In this episode, I share some thoughts on the meaning that we give to our stories. "Nothing in life has any meaning except the meaning you give it." ~ Tony Robbins. This is a mantra I continually use in my life.  Our life is composed of multiple life experiences and people that are sometimes strategically placed in our lives to teach us something, or to help us become the best version of ourselves.  In this episode, we discuss: 1)  The truth is the truth, and the story is the story.  Not all experiences will be great experiences and that's ok.  Life is forever giving us what we need to become the best version of ourselves. Whatever we are telling ourselves is the truth we are giving it.  The sooner we can get ourselves back to neutral the better.   2) The moments in our life that may appear to be the closed doors, the stopped opportunities may actually in turn be the doors that change the game for us.  Sometimes we are only a few degrees off, and not as stuck as we think we are.  3) The meaning that we give to things actually decides our actions and emotions.  The meaning that we give something comes from our past experiences - good and bad, from our fears, goals, failures, successes, and our interpretation of what it all means. We are the ones keeping ourselves stuck in our stories. Join the HOW Methodhttps://www.marshavanw.com/thehowmethod Join the Rising Leaders Collectivehttps://www.marshavanw.com/rlcm Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker, and Life Coach Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of "When She Stopped Asking Why".  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation. Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to "Own Your Choices" in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others.

In this episode, I am speaking with Ms. V The Storyteller.   Valeria Elliott, better known as Ms. V The Storyteller, lost her voice at six and didn't get it back until she was twenty-three. Valeria started sharing her personal stories and decided to turn them into a Podcast. Her podcast is for anyone who has lost their voice and wants to get it back. Her stories are personal, and she uses them as a tool to help others who may have gone through similar stories.  In this episode, we discuss:1) How we can find ourselves stuck in a chapter of our lives and then continue to give the story or chapter we are stuck in more meaning than it needs to have. Our stories are the point of connection, and learning to share our stories allows us to build incredible connections with others. 2) We can learn to train ourselves to not live in our stories or to not live in our past.  Our story is simply an experience. 3) The more we put people on pedestals, the bigger the gap we give ourselves for our own growth in our life. We also make it a bigger drop for them to fall from when we finally see their human side. Connect with ValeriaWebsite: https://msvthestoryteller.godaddysites.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/msvstoryteller Instagram: https://www.Instagram.com/msvstoryteller Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/v_storyteller YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/msvstoryteller Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Storytelling Business Coach, 2xs Podcaster, Author, SpeakerMarsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of "When She Stopped Asking Why".  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation. Through her programs, coaching, and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to "Own Your Choices" in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support, and impact others.

In this episode, I am sharing an experience that came up for me during a recent coaching session.  As humans, we continually want to plan, map it all out, understand the how, and make it make sense, and while we are planning the best way to open that door of opportunity, opening it no longer becomes an option.  We plan ourselves into a complete blockage.   In this episode, we discuss: 1)  When we look at our past experiences, how many of them have worked out according to plan?  Literally none. We can't think our way out of a problem, it eventually comes down to getting into action. 2) Our body does not have the capacity to overthink.  Only the mind does.  When the mind is heavy, shift your physical body into movement.  Ground yourself, move your body, the more movement your body gets the less the mind receives and the less it can stop you in your actions.  3) The moment we take our ideas to our brain to map out and plan, we block our own unique human design for how we process, experience, and make decisions. Go to https://www.mybodygraph.com to learn more about your human design and how this can be impacting how you learn, integrate, and create change in your life.  4) Break or interrupt the pattern faster.  When our mindset is full of doubt it doesn't take long to search for proof of what we want to see, break the pattern faster and choose differently.  Join the HOW Methodhttps://www.marshavanw.com/thehowmethod Join the Rising Leaders Collectivehttps://www.marshavanw.com/rlcm Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker, and Life Coach Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of "When She Stopped Asking Why".  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation. Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to "Own Your Choices" in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others.

In this episode, I am sharing thoughts on how we put people, mentors, and coaches on pedestals. A couple of things happen when we do that and neither of them helps us to create the change we are seeking in our lives.  In this episode we discuss:  1) When we put people on pedestals, we have no idea what their story is, just what we perceive their story to be. Our perception comes from our experience and has nothing to do with that person.  The bigger the pedestal, the larger the drop when they show their human side, or when they fall below our expectations. 2) A pedestal immediately creates an inferior/superior relationship between the two of you. You will never connect fully with this person you admire because you are not viewing yourself and them as being on the same playing field.  3) This process increases the gap or the stories that we are telling ourselves about what we think we are capable of and only reinforces what we are telling ourselves about why we can't achieve the same thing. 4) One way to stop putting others on pedestals is to focus on cultivating the best relationship possible with yourself, self-love, compassion, feeling good about yourself, your gifts and values, and investing in yourself every single day.  We are all on an equal playing field and the fact that this "mentor" created what she did, shows you what is possible for you too. Join the HOW Methodhttps://www.marshavanw.com/thehowmethod Join the Rising Leaders Collectivehttps://www.marshavanw.com/rlcm Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life Coach Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of "When She Stopped Asking Why".  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation. Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to "Own Your Choices" in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others.

In this episode, I speak with a Yoga Teacher, -Therapist, Spiritual Teacher, Soul Realignment Practitioner, and International Author, Ulrika Karlsson. "Back in 2008, Ulrika was completely burnt out, deeply depressed and suicidal. With only 15 minutes of sleep per night, she woke up at 2:47 from horrible nightmares and in complete panic, which is shared in her autobiography "2:47 The Journey Home to my Heart".  Today she shares her experiences and embodies wisdom from her Heart. With nearly 30 years of experience in traditional Western and Eastern Holistic disciplines, Ulrika works with Holistic Health, personal development, and Inner Leadership. Her work as a Spiritual Teacher, International Author, Public Speaker, Yoga teacher, -therapist takes her around the globe to work with women of different ages from all fields of Life. One of her gifts is to help you to transform old Karma into flow, freedom, and being present with what is. Ulrika's vision is to contribute to a more beautiful, happier, more conscious and loving world. In this episode, we discuss: 1) The breakdown and understanding of the masculine and feminine energies and how an imbalance between these energies changes how we show up in our lives.  2) Akashic records how we can dive into our old Karma to unpack it, see it differently and how Ulrika helps her clients to transform that Karma into flow, freedom and being present with what is. 3) How the healing journey is an ongoing process, and the more we commit to healing ourselves, the more we can step into our gifts to continue to pay it forward and do the work we are here to do. Connect with Ulrika KarlssonEmail: ullis@ulliskarlsson.comFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100000261784102&sk=wall&notif_id=1649063123587678&notif_t=wall&ref=notif Website: https://www.ulliskarksson.comMarsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life CoachMarsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of "When She Stopped Asking Why." She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation. Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to "Own Your Choices" in your own Life. She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others.

In this episode I am sharing an experience dealing with "trolls" or negative people on the internet.  When we are building our businesses online, sharing vulnerable stories, we are putting ourselves out there and it leaves us exposed.  When we get a hater who messages on our post, or sends a dm, we can choose how we respond.  I recently received a nasty one, and wanted to share the experience with you in a podcast episode.  In this episode we discuss:  1) Our haters are always there, people will disagree with us, and they're allowed to.  Their response is not our responsibility.  Our reaction is our responsibility and with practice it gets easier to respond in the moment in a way that best serves us.   2) Do we want to give all of our energy to the 1%, who's reaction says more about them than us?  When we let the 1% stop us, we don't reach the other 99% who are praying for the solutions that we are holding onto.  3) Where can we use that as content, leaving everyone in integrity and physiologically see ourselves letting it go?4)  Sometimes we are meant to be the hero in someone else's story and sometimes we are meant to be the villain in their story and maybe that's the role we are meant to play.  Our growth can trigger something in them that is not healed and it's not for us to heal them, we do the work on ourselves.

Today we are speaking with Author, Speaker and Neonatologist, Dr. Susan Landers. Susan Landers is a retired neonatologist with thirty-four years of experience practicing in the NICU full-time. She also raised three children to young adulthood. Dr. Landers is an expert in NICU medicine, breastfeeding medicine, and donor human milk banking. She served as a national speaker for the American Academy of Pediatrics. After retirement, she published a book about her medical career and motherhood experiences. She actively supports mothers on her social media accounts.In this episode we discuss: 1) The demands on working mothers, combined with the pandemic and juggling all of the demands.  We talk about burnout, how to recognize it and how important it is to ask for and allow yourself to receive support. 2) How important it is for moms to share their stories, to normalize the struggles since the more we share our stories the more we can support others by showing them that they are not alone in their challenges. 3) The concept of fulfillment, seeking joy in our day-to-day, and how to drop or manage the expectations that we continue to place upon ourselves. Connect with Susan LandersWebsite: Https://susanlandersmd.comEmail: susanlandersberry@gmail.comFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/drsusanlanders Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drsusanlanders/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/susan-landersmd/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/susanlandersmd Dr. Susan Landers Book, So Many Babies: My Life Balancing a Busy Medical Career and Motherhood."  is available at https://www.goodreads.com/user/show/45507615-susan-landers Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life CoachMarsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of "When She Stopped Asking Why".  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation. Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to "Own Your Choices" in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others.

In this episode, I want to share some thoughts in response to what do I do when I am in a funk?  There's this weird message (unspoken) in social media, building an online business, of what do I do when I am in a funk? Or even more ridiculously, assuming people in the online space don't have off days or that they're in a funk.  That is when we're not even being fair, reasonable with ourselves.  That is where comparison can be a really slippery slope. In this episode, we discuss: 1)  How to identify when you are in a funk, what does that look like for you, and how quickly can you bring it back to an ownership piece of what do you need that you are not giving yourself. Time, rest, permission, boundaries, self care, fitness, nutrition, habits etc.  It always comes back to me owning what I need to give myself. 2) How fast can we shift, disrupt the pattern and take responsibility for our funk? 3) Give yourself permission for some downtime.  We can only give from overflow to others.  That is it.  We always go first. Join The HOW Methodhttps://www.marshavanw.com/thehowmethod Join the Rising Leaders Collective https://marshavanw.com/rlcmMarsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life CoachMarsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of "When She Stopped Asking Why".  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation. Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to "Own Your Choices" in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others.

Today we are speaking with Mindset & Success Coach, Kelly-Anne Appleton. As a self-proclaimed "seeker" Kelly-Anne has spent the last 20 years of her life on a quest to learn to love and understand herself. After years of personal growth and healing, she finally happened on material that reinforced and solidified her belief that everything she was searching for was inside her. In 2020 she became certified in that work through the Proctor-Gallagher Institute. As an empathetic and intuitive Mindset & Success Coach, she is passionate about helping others to transform their lives through this work, break patterns, uncover their power, create a life they love, and truly know they are worthy of all good things.  Kelly-Anne was one of 47 women who were successful in bringing their abuser to justice in the largest case of non-residential sexual abuse by a Catholic priest in North America. She has spoken at a number of events and her story was highlighted in an episode of the CBC The Fifth Estate entitled "The Good Father".   Kelly-Anne has been an outspoken advocate for the rights of survivors and continues to work to empower and inspire women. Her story will soon be published in the collaborative book, She Is Worthy. As a trained leader through One Circle Foundation, she currently hosts a Women's Circle in her hometown, a space where women's souls are fed and filled up by the love, support and energy of the women around them.In this episode we discuss: 1)  The process, experience and power of shame and how it can be such a block that keeps us stuck in our story. Shame also showed up in the emotions of anger, resentment, and frustration and it affected every relationship in her life.  Kelly-Anne does an incredible job of speaking about shame, the power of our voices, and how our story can truly help one person and that can change everything for that person. 2) Recognizing the difference between advice and council.  Advice tends to come from people who are not doing the things that we want to do or not living the life we want to live. Council represents the people you respect individually, who they are, what they are going through and how we can learn so much from them. 3) Forgiveness is a decision that we are making, not a feeling that we have.  Embracing forgiveness is about us choosing what we get to carry, what is supporting us and how we choose to live our lives.  Connect with Kelly-AnneFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/kellyanne.appleton Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/appletonkellyanne Email: appletonkellyanne@gmail.com   Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life CoachMarsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of "When She Stopped Asking Why".  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation. Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to "Own Your Choices" in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others.

In this episode, I am sharing the go-to question, that I refer back to on a regular basis.  If we are always willing to learn and grow, and if we are asking for growth, then life will be forever teaching us lessons.  What we choose to make that mean is all on us. I have lived and embodied this question and lesson especially over the last month. In this episode, we discuss: 1)  We decide at any time what something is teaching us.  We are a victim of our circumstances or a the victor of our story.  We always get to decide. 2) How we all sign up for our soul contract and how life gives us the challenges and experiences to grow into being able to serve that soul contract.  Life doesn't always give us what we want, it gives us what we need in order to grow into that higher version of ourselves.  3)  When we ask what life is teaching us, we are opening up our subconscious mind to see the possibilities.  Ask a different question, get a different answer. 4) Asking more questions, creates curiosity, helps you to see potential, build emotional intelligence, lending to better soft skills - key in leadership at work and interpersonal relationship building. Join The HOW Method - starting in Mayhttps://www.marshavanw.com/thehowmethod Join the Rising Leaders Collective https://marshavanw.com/rlcmMarsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life CoachMarsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of "When She Stopped Asking Why".  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation. Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to "Own Your Choices" in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others.

In this episode I am talking about perfectionism and how it is a 20-ton block that we hold onto to keep ourselves "safe, protected and we believe unaffected by the potential opinions and judgements of others."  As Brene Brown says, "If I look perfect, live perfect, work perfect, I can avoid or minimize criticism or blame." Perfectionism is a learned behaviour that typically comes from childhood and a lot of times it is a block that we use to keep ourselves from being hurt, yet all it is doing is keeping us from being seen.  In this episode we discuss: 1) I am a recovering perfectionist and perfectionism/fighter is one of the 4 blocks I refer to when it comes to owning our stories.  The others are victim, hider and people pleaser. If you want to take the free Blocks to Owning Your Story Quiz, https://www.marshavanw.com/story-blocks 2) I used to wear perfectionism as a badge of honour, thinking it was because I was a striver, I worked hard, I had a level of excellence that I expected of myself.  When actually healthy striving is self-focused in "how can I improve", whereas perfectionism is other focused, "what will they think"?  I wanted others to see that I could do x,y,z, and it also allowed me to fly under the radar from a young age, and not be the source of issues, problems, or growing up long before I needed to.  I thought this pressure was helping me and it did for many reasons, until it didn't 3) This became a very self-destructive pattern of behaviour that literally blew up once we started dealing with teen substance abuse and I was living the complete opposite of a perfect life.  "When perfectionism is driving us, then shame is riding shotgun and fear is that annoying backseat driver." Brene Brown. I was living in shame, feeling not good enough, feeling that I didn't want to be seen, yet all I deeply craved was connection and being seen 4) This pattern went on repeat until I couldn't do it any longer.  It no longer worked and I was blocking myself from being seen, from receiving support, from connection, from the people who have since impacted my life, and from setting up for the work I am doing now.  I learned how to shift this through the writing process.  There are no authors published who are perfectionists, it's not doable. As soon as I set down my shield, I was able to live my life, truly live it. I am not sure where I would be if I didn't because the research shows that perfectionism is the path to depression, anxiety, addiction and life paralysis. Join the HOW Methodhttps://www.marshavanw.com/thehowmethod Join the Rising Leaders Collective https://www.marshavanw.com/rlcm Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life Coach Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of "When She Stopped Asking Why".  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation. Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to "Own Your Choices" in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others In this episode I am talking about perfectionism and how it is a 20-ton block that we hold onto to keep ourselves "safe, protected and we believe unaffected by the potential opinions and judgements of others."  As Brene Brown says, "If I look perfect, live perfect, work perfect, I can avoid or minimize criticism or blame." Perfectionism is a learned behaviour that typically comes from childhood and a lot of times it is a block that we use to keep ourselves from being hurt, yet all it is doing is keeping us from being seen.  In this episode we discuss: 1) I am a recovering perfectionist and perfectionism/fighter is one of the 4 blocks I refer to when it comes to owning our stories.  The others are victim, hider and people pleaser. If you want to take the free Blocks to Owning Your Story Quiz, https://www.marshavanw.com/story-blocks 2) I used to wear perfectionism as a badge of honour, thinking it was because I was a striver, I worked hard, I had a level of excellence that I expected of myself.  When actually healthy striving is self-focused in "how can I improve", whereas perfectionism is other focused, "what will they think"?  I wanted others to see that I could do x,y,z, and it also allowed me to fly under the radar from a young age, and not be the source of issues, problems, or growing up long before I needed to.  I thought this pressure was helping me and it did for many reasons, until it didn't 3) This became a very self-destructive pattern of behaviour that literally blew up once we started dealing with teen substance abuse and I was living the complete opposite of a perfect life.  "When perfectionism is driving us, then shame is riding shotgun and fear is that annoying backseat driver." Brene Brown. I was living in shame, feeling not good enough, feeling that I didn't want to be seen, yet all I deeply craved was connection and being seen 4) This pattern went on repeat until I couldn't do it any longer.  It no longer worked and I was blocking myself from being seen, from receiving support, from connection, from the people who have since impacted my life, and from setting up for the work I am doing now.  I learned how to shift this through the writing process.  There are no authors published who are perfectionists, it's not doable. As soon as I set down my shield, I was able to live my life, truly live it. I am not sure where I would be if I didn't because the research shows that perfectionism is the path to depression, anxiety, addiction and life paralysis. Join the HOW Methodhttps://www.marshavanw.com/thehowmethod Join the Rising Leaders Collective https://www.marshavanw.com/rlcm Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life Coach Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of "When She Stopped Asking Why".  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation. Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to "Own Your Choices" in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others

In this episode I am speaking with the Founder, Doctor of physical therapy, nervous system and breath coach, author, and speaker, Dr. Amy Novotny.  Dr. Amy Novotny founded the PABR® Institute with the mission to provide pain, stress and anxiety relief to those who seek a naturalistic form of treatment when other treatment methods have fallen short.  Her methods have helped countless people reduce and eliminate pain, stress, anxiety, orthopedic surgeries, sleep issues and the need for medications while improving focus, attention, energy, strength and performance. She co-authored two Amazon #1 Best-Selling books Don't Quit: Stories of Persistence, Courage and Faith and Success Habits of Super Achievers, which share her journey on how and why she developed the PABR® Method. Her ability to speak French and Spanish has allowed her to communicate with and help various clients from all around the world, including France, Mexico, Central America and South America. She has a variety of interests including running 40+ marathons, running 10 ultra marathons (including two 100 milers), completing an Ironman triathlon, and photographing wildlife and landscapes all over the world which has led to several of her images being chosen as Photos of the Day, most notably National Geographic Your Shot World Top Photo of the Day. In this episode we discuss: 1) Learning to understand our nervous system, how to see when it is regulated and when it isn't, what that looks like, the effect it has on all of our relationships and how to take the small, consistent steps to learn how to regulate it. 2) The pain our body can trap for years, the inability of the body to pull back from our nervous system responses and how persistent increasing stress levels, only exacerbates our body's response to pain. 3) The process of learning how to let go, allowing our body to stabilize, then let go again and stabilize. This process of letting go and creating stability also allows our body to find a neutral state to return to instead of constantly rebounding between the two extremes.  Connect with AmyEmail: amy@pabrinstitute.comFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/dramynovotny/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-amy-novotny/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/anovotn/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/amynovotnyaz Website: https://pabrinstitute.com/Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/c/DrAmyNovotny One-on-one coaching: https://pabrinstitute.com/appointments Online live cohort-based group course: https://pabrinstitute.com/online-course Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life CoachMarsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of "When She Stopped Asking Why".  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation. Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to "Own Your Choices" in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others

The Power of Your VoiceIn this episode, I am sharing some thoughts and misconceptions when it comes to "finding your voice".  You actually don't need to find your voice.  You haven't lost it or never had it, you haven't used it because you are waiting to feel confident, to trust it or to find a way to avoid criticism or judgments from others who might disagree with your message. In this episode, we discuss: 1)  Action breeds confidence.  The only way to start to build confidence is to get into action.  Let it be messy, not perfect, this is how you let others see you, how you build confidence, create feedback and then re-ajust and course correct. 2) Your voice is unique.  Your message is unique.  When we give into the fear, we are honestly playing a story and making it about us.  When we can step outside of ourselves and see what we can do, how our message can help others, we can work through our fears of what will others think. 3)  I have to bring HD (human design) into this conversation.  If you have not had an HD assessment, I strongly encourage you to dive in.  The throat center is all about expression and manifesting. I will be diving into more content on the throat and the spleen (our center for intuition) because as we are diving into all of the content for the HOW method, Healing, Owning and Writing your story, it has become more apparent how we have to learn more about who we are and find our own unique way to work through our fears of using our voice. Join the Using Your Voice MasterclassLINK Wednesday, June 15th, 12 pm ESTJoin The HOW Method - starting in Mayhttps://www.marshavanw.com/thehowmethod Join the Rising Leaders Collective https://marshavanw.com/rlcmMarsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life CoachMarsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of "When She Stopped Asking Why".  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation. Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to "Own Your Choices" in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others.

Today we are speaking with Youth Advocate, Donovan Taylor Hall. Donovan Taylor Hall is a youth advocate and educator that teaches kids how to build positive self-identity. He has been featured on the Today Show, NowThis and several podcasts to talk about the importance of positive youth development. Donovan teaches his self-skills curriculum through youth coaching, speeches, and online content. He is currently working on creating an educational entertainment show to help reach an even bigger audience of kids.   In this episode we discuss: 1) The power of the process of learning to trust ourselves, to listen to what we need and to choose to be the hero of our own stories.  These lessons at this time in our world are so important for kids to find and create that inner safety within themselves.   2) How much of a gift vulnerability is and what we can experience when we learn to put the armour down, even when it is scary, and learning how to put the armour down with the people that we trust and the people who have earned the right to hear our stories.  3) The difference between being in our stories and in our stories and learning how to let go of shame, stories that don't serve us, being connected to our why's and the power of allowing ourselves to simply be in this present moment.  Connect with Donovan Website: https://donovantaylorhall.com/ Tiktok: https://vm.tiktok.com/TTPdMjNrbb/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/donofriend/ Email: donovantaylorhall@gmail.com Work with Donovan: He offers individual coaching for kids on building a positive relationship with themselves, as well as speaking events and workshops for kids and adults.  https://calendly.com/donovantaylorhall/youthservices Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker, and Life Coach Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of "When She Stopped Asking Why".  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation. Through her programs, coaching, and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to "Own Your Choices" in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support, and impact others.