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Are you ready to turn on the light switch of your soul and live an authentic, radiant, unapologetically pleasure-filled life?
I’m Penny van der Sluys, I empower women in their midlife who are struggling to love their body and prioritise pleasure, play and passion, and help them discover their powerful, untapped sensual, sexual and feminine energy so they can feel wild, free, sexy in their body and life.
Journey with me as we explore the aspects of our lives that are taboo and surrounded in shame, and reveal the keys to access to pleasure and joy in your midlife and beyond!
I’m Penny van der Sluys, I empower women in their midlife who are struggling to love their body and prioritise pleasure, play and passion, and help them discover their powerful, untapped sensual, sexual and feminine energy so they can feel wild, free, sexy in their body and life.
Journey with me as we explore the aspects of our lives that are taboo and surrounded in shame, and reveal the keys to access to pleasure and joy in your midlife and beyond!
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Have you ever had a positive relationship with your period?
How about your menstrual cycle?
Did you ever learn to follow your flow, track your cycle, and tune into the wisdom that it offers?
In this podcast episode I explore the importance of understanding and embracing the menstrual cycle as a source of empowerment and health with Liz Gorga, a certified female sexuality and menstrual cycle coach.
Liz shares insightful perspectives on how to celebrate natural rhythms, cycles, and the transformative power of menstrual awareness.
Our conversation covers a wide range of topics, from debunking myths around menstruation, exploring rituals for reconnecting with one's cycle, to practical tips on cycle tracking and embracing the changes that come with different life stages.
Tune in to hear us talk about:
How Liz discovered Menstrual Empowerment
How we can reframe the Menstrual Cycle to understand it better
How we can relate to our cyclic nature, regardless of our life stage or if we have a menstrual cycle.
What our inner and outer seasons are
How our body reflects nature
How cycles create balance in our body and energy
Tips on how you can connect back in with your body when it’s changing or you’ve fallen out of love with it.
How to track your cycle, and not just track your period.
How and why you can follow the lunar cycle
What we can learn from embracing Menstrual Wisdom
What the Red tent and rituals can offer us
How you can navigate your midlife season
References:
Alisa Vitti's book Women Code
The Vulva Gallery https://www.thevulvagallery.com/the-vulva-gallery
Labia Library https://labialibrary.org.au/
Red Tents https://redtentdirectory.com
Connect with Liz via
Instagram - @lizgorga
Website - https://www.lizgorga.com/
Download her Free Cycle Tracker (comes with a how-to-cycle-track video)
https://dashboard.mailerlite.com/forms/58310/82031557974427404/share
Did you know that you're a leader?
Regardless of your experience in leadership roles, this conversation will show you how you're a leader in your own life.
Nikki Domeney, a leadership coach and consultant, explains how we all have feminine leadership qualities, the power they have in our life, and how we can access and embrace them.
Listen to our conversation to hear Nikki share:
Why leadership is a turn on
The difference between leadership and management
How we can be leaders as parents, and in our work
How leadership starts with self awareness and self leadership
How the masculine and feminine show up in leadership
How elder wisdom, reaction and reflection relate to leadership
How to start getting in touch with the leader within
How comparison can impact how you lead and show up as a leader in your own life
How we are all leaders in our own life
What leadership traits we have that we can lean on
How vulnerability and getting in the arena can serve us
You can connect with Nikki via:
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/nikki.domeney/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nikki.domeney/
Linked In: https://au.linkedin.com/in/nikki-domeney-91441058
Are you a good girl?
Do you suffer from perfectionism or procastination?
Is it hard for you to say 'No'?
If so, you're not alone! Even those women who don't relate to being a 'Good Girl' are potentially unaware that they're trapped in belief patterns that underpin the Good Girl Syndrome.
In this episode, I talk with Sophia Elcock, a Life Coach with her Masters in Counselling Psychology, about how we can recognise and overcome the patterns of behavior and thought that keep women from fully embracing their authentic selves.
Sophia shares her insights on slaying the 'good girl' within, moving beyond societal and self-imposed limitations, and stepping into one's power with confidence and freedom.
Sophia shares personal anecdotes, practical advice, and empowering strategies to reclaim one's identity and live a life aligned with one's true desires.
Listen in to hear her share:
What is ‘Good Girl Syndrome’?
How to establish if you are a 'good girl'
What characteristics and patterns are seen in the Good Girl Syndrome
How we can begin to see our blind spots.
What slaying involves!
What your body might be telling you
How we can show up authentically
Tips on how you can slay your good girl
The importance of boundaries, saying No, asking for help, and not taking things personally
The book mentioned was:
The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz
Listen to Sophia's Travel & Transformation podcast on Spotify:
https://open.spotify.com/show/66lr5QzwI3dcVeTzZznTor
You can connect with Sophia
via Instagram @sophia_i_got_IG and @createlifeyourway
Have you considered that your sexual interest, identity, and preference can change and evolve over your lifetime?
During puberty, and now, during midlife, our second puberty, so many influences are impacting how we feel in our body, show up in life, and express ourselves sexually.
In this conversation, with Vanessa Moon, Aunty Priestess, and sexual empowerment guide for women over 35, we delve into how we can explore the world of sensuality, sexuality, and self-acceptance to experience more pleasure and turn on in our midlife.
We explore factors that impact our sexual expression, how kink and tantra are powerful tools for self awareness and expanding pleasure, and tips for navigating changes during perimenopause.
Tune in to hear Vanessa talk about:
How her capacity for pleasure and turn on has been expanded by kink and tantra.
What is sapphic
What is Bi plus, and three aspects to it.
The nuances in women loving women
How our turn on and sexuality can change as we age and transition through perimenopause
How body changes can impact how you relate to yourself
Exploring your sexuality and identity late in life (sometimes referred to as Late in life lesbians)
What is meant by heteronormative, compulsive sexuality and comphet
What is tantric kink
What she calls B.T.S.M
The different aspects of tantra that you can explore and that can expand your experience of pleasure.
What is deamouring and an example of how she dearmoured a part of her body
Womb work and energetic orgasms
Kink is not always sexual and can introduce beautiful ways to play with friends
Getting support when exploring tantra and kink
Exploring kink online, and the possibilities that this opens up.
Reframing and reclaiming experiences using the power of our mind and imagination.
Exploring disgust with kink
How your sexuality evolves during menopause
Disgust you may experience towards your body during perimenopause
Body neutrality and acceptance
Tips for adjusting to the changes in your body and how it may affect you sexually
Investing in yourself
You can connect with Vanessa via:
Instagram: @yespriestess Facebook: www.facebook.com/yespriestessofficialFacebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/yespriestessYoutube: @VanessaChats (no website at this time)Free Offer: "Exploration Elixir" is a FREE weekly Community-Driven Self Care session - join my IG channel https://ig.me/j/AbbMn4WHB9va4YMF/ to vote for each week's self care session and catch me LIVE every Wednesday morning.
The information we've been given about perimenopause is basic at best, horrendously incomplete and misleading at it's worst.
We've been led to believe we need to endure a checklist of symptoms, and we should seek support to survive this stage of our life.
In this episode I talk with Bria Gadd, holistic health coach, functional diagnostic practitioner, and host of the podcast, 'The Period Whisperer', to share a different, empowering, informative message about what happens to our brain, body and heart in perimenopause.
Bria clearly and cleverly provides an easy to understand outline of changes we can expect, relatable analogies, and what you can do to embrace the opportunities and gifts this period of life presents.
Tune in to hear her share:
What turned on living looks like
Her personal journey that led her to focus on understanding what’s happening to our bodies in perimenopause
The reasons why we don’t know much about perimenopause
How social media can stress us and also be an asset and valuable source of support and information
A brilliant Baby Whisper acronym that inspired her
What is menopause and perimenopause, and easy ways to know if you’re in them.
Why it’s helpful to consider perimenopause reverse puberty
Really helpful and empowering analogies and explain the changes we experience in the transition
Healthy signs you’re in perimenopause
Some of the undesirable signs you can experience, especially if your hormones are out of balance.
The gift of perimenopause
The science behind what is changing in our brain, and why things in our past can start to surface.
How estrogen impacts us during our menstrual cycle and why we notice a change when it drops during perimenopause
How our stress levels can impact us in perimenopause
Why we need to adjust the way we exercise, or it can hinder not help us.
Three major areas we source energy that are critical to how we experience stress.
The difference between functional movement and fitness, and when it’s best to focus on each.
How your heart is impacted in perimenopause
What primary and secondary foods are, and why we need to focus on sourcing primary foods to nourish and sustain us.
The discomfort that comes from resisting change and discovering that you’ve been fitting in because of cultural conditioning.
Asking yourself where are you out of alignment
You can connect with Bria via her
Website: https://www.briatheperiodwhisperer.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bria_period_whisperer/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/BriaThePeriodWhisperer/
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@briagadd
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@bria_period_whisperer
Podcast: https://www.briatheperiodwhisperer.com/the-period-whisperer-podcast
Get her FREE Daily Hormone Checklist here: https://www.briatheperiodwhisperer.com/DailyHormoneChecklist
Tantra is the gold star of sexual experiences, and massages are always a favourite.
So what happens when you combine them? What is possible?
In this episode, I chat with Rose, a Tantric masseuse, to explore how she transformed her relationship with her body from one of loathing to one of love and appreciation, and what she loves about tantric massage.
We talk about the importance of creating a connection with your body, and how Tantric massage is a powerful way you can experience sensual connection with your body.
Tune in to hear Rose share:
What turns her on
How an accident early in her life set her up for hating her body and feeling like an outsider.
Her experience disconnecting from her body and experiencing bullying and shame.
What she did to try and love herself
How age has helped her to connect with her body
Her path to becoming a tantric masseuse through sensual massage
What is tantric massage
The difference between sensual and tantric massage
How they create a really safe space for the massage
The different types and ways you can be touched
Tips for creating and cultivating connection with your body
Here are links to some Guided meditations she mentions:
https://youtu.be/dfeZQInZh_k?si=vuE0AVMyeAlkz_yx
https://youtu.be/m0JlPwbN7Ek?si=_sGiIjYtf72C-qYi
https://youtu.be/zYyhs3Whjqo?si=f_Y-5k5vrLEiT1AA
https://youtu.be/DcForKaZPqA?si=f5dN5r4A99iTqEd1
You can connect with Rose via her new socials/brand:
Website: www.houseoftantra.com.au
Email: houseoftantraau@gmail.com
Insta: @house.of.tantra.au
Tiktok: @houseoftantraau
There's so much to discover beyond the many taboos surrounding our bodies, sex and pleasure.
In this episode, I invite Rosie Rees, a pioneer and role model in the sexual wellness and pleasure space, to talk about some unique, powerful and transformative ways to move beyond taboos and create a healthy relationship with your body and pleasure potential.
Listen to our conversation to hear Rosie share about:
What turns her on
How we can be more confident talking about sex and our desires
How the silence around sex is a cause of trauma
Being okay not talking about sex with some people.
Sex positive conversations around our children
How we can unlearn sexual shame
The #stopsuckingitin movement
The part of the body women seem to struggle with the most
How sucking our tummies in impacts women of all shapes and sizes.
The harm that sucking in can cause.
What nude yoga is, and isn’t!
What it is about nude yoga that’s so powerful
The positive flow on effects of getting nude around others.
Tips for how you can start to get comfortable in the nude
How her products can help us to let go, get messy, be wild and free.
How versatile and functional a splash blanket can be - for intimacy and lifestyle - so many practical uses!
Squirting, who can do it and how
How to wake up your G spot
How surrendering, self pleasure, slowing down and making sounds will open up your world
Creating a relationship with your yoni, and listening to her
How important it is to not give up on pleasure or your yoni ever!
How using a Yoni egg can be supportive
Why your sex life deserves to be prioritised.
You can connect with Rosie via Instagram
@rosie.rees
@yoni_pleasure_palace
@splashblanket
@nakedawakening
Use my code SUPERNOVA to get 10% off any products at Yoni Pleasure Palace or Splash Blanket
Yonipleasurepalace.com
splashblanket.com
rosierees.com
Feeling energised in our midlife can be elusive.
For many of us, our awareness and understanding of energy is limited, undervalued or appreciated.
The power that comes from tapping into, and relating to metaphysical and ancient wisdom, is cloaked in mystery and misunderstanding.
In this episode, I explore how energy can support us through menopause with Shari Lillico, a best-selling author, speaker, inner peace mentor and intuitive energy healer.
We talk about how she has delved into spirituality, metaphysics, and Energy Medicine in her midlife and discuss simple ways you can navigate some of the physical and emotional challenges that comes with our bodies transitioning through menopause.
Tune in to hear Shari share about:
How we all have a dragon guide!
How your dragon guide can serve you.
How she found her way into energy medicine.
What is energy medicine, and specifically Eden energy medicine.
Tips and tools to support your body experiencing menopausal challenges
Listening to our body
The triple warmer
Activating our spleen meridian
The power of the forehead hold
The hot flash/flush head hold
Different ways you can support your energy body through midlife
You can connect with Shari via:
https://www.sharilillico.com/
Facebook : facebook.com/Iamsharilillico
and tic tok: Iamsharilillico
To find out more about Eden Energy Medicine, visit:
https://edenmethod.com/
Do you feel like shame, worry or anxiety keeps you stuck?
Have you questioned why you have to deal with pain, suffering and traumatic times?
Are you tired of dealing with your circumstances?
Would you like to be free of these feelings?
If you're open to new ways and spiritual perspectives, this episode with Dr Marcia Martin, a heart healer, Spiritual empowerment counsellor and Founder of The Heart Healing Foundation, will speak to you!
Marcia is a metaphysical minister, bestselling author, public speaker, and clairaudient angel communicator specialising in helping people heal their relationship with themselves. She shares what's possible when we connect with the angelic realm, heal our heart of all past pain and trauma, and get access to a turned on life.
Tune in to hear Marcia talk about:
Feeling turned on by connection with angels
The different 'Clair' ways to connect with angels and the energetic realm
Which 'Clair' is the easiest to discover
Looking at life through a lens of joy
How focusing on age is limiting
What we can do that’s supportive when life is heavy, hard and challenging
Understand that you’re not being punished or deserve the situation you’re in.
What challenges offer us
How we can support ourselves when faced with shame, fear, anxiety & challenges
The value in childlike exploration, trying and giving it a go
Empathic beings and how you know if you’re empathic
The Ho-oponopono prayer - and a slightly modified version to try
How we have been taught to measure our worth
Feeling and expressing pain
Checking in with our heart
How we can ask for Angelic assistance
The worry lane and the possibility lane
Addressing concerns you may have about trusting angelic or divine guidance
How we access freedom
Doing what is best for you - being ok with being where you are
Questions you can ask yourself to help move through stuck, painful, challenging times
Congratulating vs criticising
Our focus and law of attraction
Putting yourself first and the distinction between selfish and selfless
How we relate to God, Mother and Father God/energy
You can connect with Marcia and benefit from her work through:
website -www.thehearthealingfoundation.org
YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/DrMarciaMartintheHeartHealer
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/marciamartinthehearthealer
Linkedin - https://www.linkedin.com/in/mmhearthealer
Twitter - https://twitter.com/MMHeartHealer
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/mmhearthealer
Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/illuminateandtr/spiritual-messages-from-the-heart-healer/
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mmhearthealer
Blog: https://illuminateandtransform.wordpress.com/
To receive your free ebook that explains 11 ways we resist angelic assistance and what you can do to receive their help, go to https://www.thehearthealingfoundation.org/11ways
Wim Hof has made cold water showers and ice baths trendy. And most of us 'know' that time in cold water has benefits.
But what else might open up for us if we embrace time in cold water?
Cat Barratt, my guest in this episode, who began dipping and swimming with her seaside community over 365 consecutive days has discovered lots about the power of a goals, community and connection.
We talk about how this experience helped her to feel at home, have fun, and invigorate her in ways she would never have anticipated.
Tune in to be inspired and hear Cat share:
What a turn on ocean swimming can be
How swimmers swim knowing there are sharks
How creating a goal made a difference
Tips for finding a dip/swim group
Why she ditched the wetsuit
The benefits you get from dipping in community
The ways you can create a pleasurable experience
What keeps her coming back even after reaching her goal
The benefits of cold water on your health and wellbeing
Tips and suggestions for those curious or interested in cold dipping, swimming
The health risks
Signs of hyperthermia that should not be ignored
The temperature of ‘cold’ water.
Tips on how to warm up afterwards, some she picked up from surfers!
Ideas for her next challenge
Creating your own inspiring challenge
Body shape and weight need not be a barrier
The positive impact on her type 2 diabetes
The benefits of cold showers
The challenges of swimming solo and in the dark
What she wishes all women in their midlife knew
The best dipping dress ups and events
You can connect with Cat on Instagram
@catswimswild
@submerge_phillipisland
Getting out into nature and hiking is one of the best ways we can look after our heart, and get to the heart of what makes us feel wild, free & sexy!
As we move through mid life and beyond, it's up to us to understand how we can support our bodies and heart to live life to the fullest and experience what we love.
Jo Cordell-Cooper, an award winning Personal Trainer with a passion for hiking, holistic health and sharing the benefits of hiking, will inspire you, with her passion and knowledge specific to women's health, to get active, outdoors, and in nature in ways that'll feel good for you.
Whatever your relationship is with hiking, you'll discover why so many fall in love with this activity.
Listen now to hear Jo share:
What a turn on hiking is.
How hiking can be a natural stress reliever
The power of having a hiking goal to work towards
The difference between trekking, hiking, bushwalking, walking and stepping
Training for different terrains using what you have access to.
A common muscle that is neglected and needs attention
The best ways to find hiking companions
Ensuring advice you receive is appropriate for your body and life stage
The benefits and barriers to walking in your midlife
The muscles that need a lot of attention and often get neglected
Finding the right adventure and challenge for your body
The wisdom available when you’re mindful in nature
How you can get over barriers to experiencing hiking
Tips for women going through menopause
You can connect with Jo via
web and email - jocc.com.au / jo@jocc.com.au
FB - Jo CC Holistic PT https://www.facebook.com/joccholisticpt
Holistic Hiker
FB https://www.facebook.com/groups/holisticpersonaltraining
Insta https://www.instagram.com/holistic_hiker/
Finally, the education and conversation about sex toys that you never had!
Whether you're new to them, or have been using them for years, this episode with Patricia Schwarz, Self Love & Pleasure Queen, and Pleasure toy reviewer, will expand your knowledge and hopefully inspire you to broaden your experience with pleasure tools and toys!
Tune in to hear me ask all the questions you've always wanted to know, and Patricia passionately and graciously share what's possible for you with pleasure tools and toys.
We cover so much, including:
The best foundation to then build on with pleasure tools and toys
Beliefs and factors to consider before getting started
Do you want solo or partner play?
The different kinds of pleasure tools
The tools you have in your home
The importance of only choosing tools that are body safe
Tips on lubes
Lube use in your midlife to support dryness
How she became a pleasure tool reviewer
Factors to consider when buying dual (‘rabbit’) and cliteral (air pull/wave) stimulation
The best way to approach using new toys
The impact of ovulation and your cycle on your experience
Is there a favourite toy or one she recommends the most
Not all tools are designed to get you to orgasm
A tip for toys you can use doing housework, shopping and outside the bedroom!
Things to watch out for when buying toys online
How to clean and care for your toys
Can you get addicted or too reliant on toys?
Big toys and will they make you loose
Crystal and glass wands
How price and quality usually correlate
How toys are packaged, received in the mail
Tips on storing your toys
Connect with Patricia and get her free ebook via her
Website:
selflovepleasure.com
Follow or message her via Instagram:
@selflovepleasure_
@selflovepleasuretoyqueen
Has your libido taken a dive or disappeared?
Are you wondering where your sex life has gone?
Are you too busy for sex and have no idea how anyone can squeeze it in?
Are libido levels impacting your relationship or desire to find one?
Do you know someone who has a low libido?
This is a hot topic and a very familiar one for Certified Sex & intimacy coach and sexual wellness facilitator, Chloe Mascord.
Chloe has personal and professional experience managing low libido and she joins me to explore the facts and fiction around libido levels. This conversation will inspire you to put sex back on the top of your priority list, whatever the libido levels in your life are right now.
We cover lots in this episode, including:
Feeling turned on in surprising ways
What is libido and how is it different from arousal and desire?
How does horny fit in?
The possibility of experiencing arousal without desire and vice versa.
Should we be concerned about low libido?
One question you need to ask yourself if you have low libido
Once libido is low, will it always be low?
The rates of low libido in women and men
Why you might want to notice and focus on your libido
One thing women often do that impacts their libido
Investing in your libido
Common factors that impact your libido
The mismatch and different libido levels in relationship
The most important ingredient in navigating low libido in a partnership
Why we find it difficult to communicate in a sexual partnership
Tips on how you could introduce a conversation about sex with your partner
The impacts of medication and hormones on your libido and what you can do about that
Connecting with, rather than fighting and resisting, your body
What the research says about the impact of age on sexual desire and libido
Busting myths about what impacts your libido
Men have low libido too
Factors that are known to impact men's libido
Whether Sexual satisfaction and libido are correlated
Getting to know your pleasure profile
Being curious and exploring when you discover what you like, or might like to experience.
Having fun and example of how she has done that with a client.
You get to choose, it’s your life.
The positive impact of self pleasure on your libido
Broadening our understanding of what sex is
Resources mentioned:
Esther Perel and her book ‘Mating in Captivity’
Julie & John Gottman https://www.gottman.com/
Shana James and her book ‘Honest Sex’. Check out our podcast Ep #19
You can get in touch with Chloe on her:
Instagram @thehoneyed.official
website www.honey-ed.com
Download your free guide; Reignite your libido in 15 minutes a day at
www.honey-ed.com/freebie
How do you feel when you look in the mirror? Do you love or loath what you see?
How do you relate to your self image? Are you aware that what you see may be different to how others see you?
In this conversation, Dianne Catterall, a holistic beauty practitioner, and I discuss self image, beauty and how we can feel comfortable with how we are seen and show up in the world.
Listen to hear us talk about:
How the word beauty can be activating for some people.
Her preference for the word glory
Makeup as art and using techniques to enhance features
Being kind to our bodies
HerSTORY and how women’s bodies were revered
Connecting in with, and accepting, parts of your body
Your inner child and what you would say to her.
Our self talk
can we make a difference to the world and have a change if we don't first love ourselves and accept ourselves?
Another’s perception of our beauty
Our unique differences
The messages in how we dress and the clothing we choose
Taking photos to get comfortable with how you look
How playing in my September challenge connected her with her body
How you want to show up
Choosing the people in your life that bring you joy
Connect with Dianne:
Instagram @gladalloverau
website https://www.gladallover.me/
More info on the Wonder Women Club: pennyvandersluys.com/wonder
If you want to be notified about the next 'Bringing Sexy Back' or 'SEXtember' challenge, email me: penny@pennyvandersluys.com
What's your relationship with money?
Do you love and embrace money?
How can you love the money you have - regardless of the amount?
In this episode I talk with Megan Christie, a Money Behaviour Mentor & Certified Money Coach to explore ways you can love your money.
Tune in to hear us discuss:
What is it about money that turns her on
where we learn our beliefs about money
The two sides/aspects of money
The power of fear & scarcity
Noticing generational money habits and lessons
How women haven’t had money role models and been shown how to manage money
The meaning we attach to money
Judgement around money
Questions you can ask yourself to help raise awareness of your money beliefs
How to move past your money beliefs
Neutralising the emotion around money
The importance of feeling safe and getting our needs met
Understanding energy and your nervous system
How you can face your money fears
How you know what is enough
The importance of understanding how you want to feel around money
The biggest money risks for women
The female caring economy penalty
The confronting fact that the face of poverty is a 55 year old female in Australia
Women at the decision making table
References:
'It’s Not My Money' by Tosha Silver
You can connect with Megan on
LinkedIn
www.meganchristie.com.au
hello@meganchristie.com.au
https://www.instagram.com/meganchristie_moneycoaching
Book a seat in our Money Circle in Inner East Melbourne on 5th March, 7-9pm via Eventbrite
https://www.eventbrite.com.au/e/money-circle-with-megan-christie-money-behaviour-mentor-coach-tickets-844664071977
How do you feel about pornography?
Does it turn you on?
Intrigue you?
Or concern you?
Whatever your relationship and understanding of porn, there's so much to we don't discuss about this taboo topic.
And lucky for us, Caitlin Bridgette, a Certified Somatic Sex Coach and teacher of sensual dance, has an interest in shining a light on, and helping us unpack, the impact of porn on us.
Tune in to hear her share about:
What does turned on living look like
How she developed an interest in the impact of pornography on us
What is pornography and the scope of this topic
The cultural context of social media, influencers, and movements like NoFap (obtaining from masturbation) & Booktok (tiktok content about books)
Censorship
Accessibility of porn, particularly for young children
Lack of consent conversations modelled in porn
What is considered violent and degrading content
How unrealistic the sex is that is being portrayed in pornography and mainstream content
How you can support ethical content creators rather than big industry sites
Ethical pornography
What to do if your partner is consuming pornography you don’t likely
Anonymity and personas are key to protecting performers
Separating what is real from what is fiction
Where to get quality sex and consent educational content
The difference between an enthusiastic yes and an enthusiastic maybe
What you desire in fantasy vs reality
Monogamy and sexual satisfaction
Being responsible for your own pleasure
The porn industry is built for male fantasy and sexual desire
Tips for where you can find porn options that are tailored for female fantasy and desire, and your age/life stage
You can connect with Caitlin via her socials:
Business instagram - @a_s_school
Personal/performer - @caitlin_catastrophe
Some of the references and resources mentioned include:
Consent Laid Bare - written by Chanel Contos
https://onlyfans.com/
Consent Labs @consentlabs on Instagram
Sluts and Scholars is @slutsandscholars on Instagram
The podcast episode she referred to with guest Alex Fawx is number #263, listen on your preferred podcast platforms
Ersties for porn consent conversations is @erstiesofficial on Instagram and Tik Tok
Other ethical porn production companies with educational resources include:
Erika Lust - Instagram @erikalustfilms https://erikalust.com/
Make Love Not Porn - Instagram @makelovenotporn https://makelovenotporn.tv/
Emily Nagoski - https://www.emilynagoski.com/
What is your purpose?
Do you know your purpose?
Are you on a mission to find your purpose?
Or does the whole idea of having a purpose stress you out?
If you've ever thought about or sought out to find your purpose, our your curious about what the fuss is all about, this conversation is for you!
My guest is Rachael Pickworth, is a Business woman, Coach, mother of three, and Founder of Woman on Purpose. She's passionate about supporting conscious women to create aligned, authentic and fully expressed lives that are intentional, spirit-led and on purpose.
She has also been recently diagnosed with ADHD and knows what it is to juggle and balance life while living on purpose.
Tune in to hear us talk about:
Turned on living
What is living on purpose
What living on purpose looks like
How states, frequency, alignment & thoughts are critical to living on purpose
Daily rituals and practices to elevate your frequency and state
Actions you can take over 7 days to make a tangible transformation in your life.
What you focus on grows
Connecting with a higher purpose
When things derail you and you feel challenged
Surrendering, trusting and Unconscious beliefs
The what’s my purpose epidemic
Energetic hygiene
Balancing our feminine and masculine energy
Planning from our higher energetic state
What is ADHD and what is happening in your brain when you have it
Qualities and benefits of having ADHD
The liberation of an ADHD diagnosis
You can connect with Rachael:
http://womanonpurpose.com/
https://www.instagram.com/womanonpurpose.rachael
You can find the playlist she mentions here:
https://open.spotify.com/playlist/3bLPkbGeq6pCALxfsXw0SR?si=q32UJ3-ZTGyITotDufsGvQ&pi=a-cvj15q1EQVOK&nd=1&dlsi=8cf83d04bcc842b7
When life gives you lemons, do you make lemonade?
Does life happen to you, or for you?
In this episode, my guest, Katrina Andrew and I explore the gifts and opportunities that appear when we consciously face challenges and make big life changes.
Katrina is a Mum to 3 teens and a pro at life pivots. She left a life in corporate finance and recruitment to learn and lead in an online clean online clean beauty and wellness business, removed gluten from her diet when she was diagnosed with coeliac disease and stopped drinking alcohol to live a life that exemplifies health and empowerment, and motivates others to follow suit.
Listen to hear us discuss:
The four themes explored in Moulin Rouge that guide her to turn on.
Facing fears and difficult situations - including miscarriage and birth
Accepting and acknowledging changes and being open to new opportunities
The catalysts for change
The symptoms of coeliac disease (that many are unaware of)
The lifestyle challenges faced when diagnosed a coeliac
The number one thing to do to support you when faced with a challenge (or a coeliac diagnosis)
The importance of sleep hygiene
Tips to support you if you’d like to change your relationship with alcohol
What you gain when you don't drink alcohol
What you can do when faced with challenges to help you experience the gifts
The surprising way to get to know yourself and discover gifts when making a lifestyle shift
Connect with Katrina:
https://www.instagram.com/kat_andrew__/
https://www.instagram.com/the_empoweredcoeliac/
www.katrinaandrew.arbonne.com
www.theempoweredcoeliac.org
If you'd like support with life challenges:
Lifeline Australia: Phone: 13 11 11 Lifeline Australia
Beyond Blue 1300 22 4636 Beyond Blue
Suicide Call Back Service 1300 659 467 Suicide Call Back Service
Headspace (for ages 12-25): 1800 650 890 Headspace
QLife (LGBTI+ support): QLife
1800RESPECT: 1800 737 732 1800RESPECT
Rape & Domestic Violence Services Australia (RDVSA):1800 211 028 Rape & Domestic Violence Services Australia
Sexual Assault Support Services (SASS) Sexual Assault Support Services
Blue Knot Foundation - National Centre of Excellence for Complex Trauma 1300 657 380 Blue Knot Foundation
Bravehearts: 1800 272 831: Bravehearts
Outside of Australia:
Befrienders Worldwide provides a directory of helplines worldwide.
Crisis Text Line provides free, confidential support via text messaging. Available in the United States, United Kingdom, Canada, and Ireland.
International Association for Suicide Prevention (IASP) offers resources and information about suicide prevention worldwide.
Mental Health Europe provides information and resources for mental health support across Europe.
Do you know what you desire?
Do you feel desire?
Are you able to access your sexual desires?
For many women in their midlife, desire is not an area of their life they've had a lot of experience expressing and cultivating.
And it's time this changed!
This conversation with Jenny Braxton, Sex, love & relationship coach, and Founder of the School of Pussy-centered Living, is a super resource and reminder of what is possible for us in our midlife and beyond.
Tune in to hear valuable tips, validation, and information to help you prioritise your desires in your life.
In this conversation we cover:
How she discovered pleasure.
How yoni massage changed her
How taking Self responsibility for pleasure was a game changer
Desire and the desire to have desire
Why desire can feel like it’s fizzled out in a long relationship
The different types of desire we can have - that are normal!
Having a personal practice to cultivate desire
One of the biggest things stopping people from feeling desire
Why she doesn’t use the word masterbation and prefers self pleasure practice
Tips for cultivating our desire
A woman’s struggle to desire
Simple practices to help you unlock what you desire
Planning sex
How being embodied is a key ingredient
Our brain as an erogenous tool
The role fantasy, and Jamie from Outlander can play
Desire in our midlife
The benefits of cultivating and rediscovering desire
Recommended resources:
Wild Feminine by Tammy Lynn Kent.
Jamie in Outlander
Jenny's links:
FB: https://www.facebook.com/jenny.braxton.3
IG: https://www.instagram.com/pusssy.centered.living/
Website: https://www.jennybraxton.com/
https://jennybraxton.mykajabi.com/spcl-jan-turn-on-event-opt-in
How well do you know your Yoni? (do you know what it is?)
Is it a part of your body that you love, honour and respect?
Do you know the benefits of connecting intimately with your yoni?
Whether you're curious, indifferent, or inspired to hear from others who know the value in being informed and connected with their vulva, vagina and womb space, there's much to learn from and share in this conversation with Kiki Marie. (I think it's a must listen for women and vulva owners!)
Kiki is a sexologist, and Founder of the Yonilicious Academy, where she offers high quality, internationally recognised certified training in therapeutic yoni massage and somatic sex coaching.
Tune in to hear our conversation and Kiki share:
What turns her on
How and when she connected with her turn on
The conditions she found helped her connect with Yoni
What is a Yoni, vulva and vagina.
About her vulva line up analogy
The misuse of the word vagina and the confusion it causes.
The benefits of creating a relationship with your Yoni
How can you create a relationship with your Yoni
The shame and suppression that has impacted our relationship with our yoni's
Yoni Eggs
Yoni massage and mapping
The changes we can expect in our yoni in our midlife
How we can support our yoni through life changes
Self exploration
Removing expectations
You can connect with Kiki:
Insta: @Yonilicious or @kiki.maree
Website: yonilicious.com.au/pleasure-portal
Vulva Resources mentioned include:
https://www.all-vulvas-are-beautiful.com/
https://www.labialibrary.org.au/