Refocused: Loving God, Loving People

We are such a distracted bunch, focused and centered on serving ourselves and our insatiable desires, but this is not why we are here. We are not just here to get degrees, make money, buy houses, start families and die. We are here on purpose by purpose, and most importantly this Earth is not our home. I’m sorry for the rough intro, but I really want my life to count for Christ. I want to be focused on things that do matter, things of eternal value, sharing the gospel, loving and serving humanity fully. Maybe you can join me on this never ending journey on refocusing on what truly matters, and maybe I can encourage you to do the same :) This is where our focus should have been all along and where it was designed to remain.

Can mothers truly have it all? On this episode co-hosted by the amazing Blessing Ibeafu and our incredible guest Irene Moyaba. We visited the young momma’s club as promised and we are serving the tea piping hot! Love always, Kuku & Blessing

To all the ladies who feel like their ovaries are running out of time... hold your horses! In this extremely hilarious yet very educative episode. We unpacked a lot of controversies surrounding pregnancy and motherhood. Some of the questions that centered the conversation include :- -Is “snapback culture” purely motivated by vanity? -Is it just the young moms who get their bodies back after pregnancy? -Why are we so stressed about stretch marks, are they avoidable? -What happens with sex and intimacy post- partum? -Is it possible to maintain a healthy weight during pregnancy? On this episode co-hosted by the amazing Blessing Ibeafu and our incredible guest Uche Daubry. We visited the young momma’s club as promised and we are serving the tea piping hot! Grab your pens and paper to jot down pregnancy cheat codes ha-ha We highly recommend this episode for everyone…ladies, men, expecting moms, moms, moms to be, expecting dads, dads, dads to be, and even those who have chosen to be child-free. Love always, Kuku & Blessing

Does anything really prepare you for the transformable journey of pregnancy to the destination of motherhood…apparently not! On this episode co-hosted by the amazing Blessing Ibeafu and our incredible guest Mmabatho Mphalele. We visited the young momma’s club as promised and revealed many deep truths. This raw but extremely insightful episode lets us in on something deeper than the physical aspects of pregnancy and motherhood. The conversation was heavy on the emotional side, especially the connection with the child, and taking up a new identity as “mom” We highly recommend this episode for everyone…moms, moms to be, dads, dads to be and even those who have chosen to be child-free. Love always, Kuku & Blessing

I was away for over 2 months and life happened as usual, tune in to find out more, can’t believe I cried ewwww! Love always, Your resilient host, Kuku.

Often times we attribute the action of saving lives to Doctors, but they are many others who may not be at the frontline but are steady saving lives. The Skin friend saved mine, when acne left me with a bruised self esteem and an impaired skin barrier, she swept in with her hydration cape and saved the day. If you’re listening to this episode, I hope you reach out to her, I promise you she knows just exactly how to help. If you’re listening to this podcast, you are two steps away from an amazing give away. Peju and I have teamed up to giveaway a free skincare consultation and free products for a basic and essential skincare routine. To enter, you need to be following @theeskinfriend and @kukumiriamafanga on Instagram and you need to repost this reel on your instasstory tagging us and telling us why you deserve to win. Entries close and the winner will be announced 25/06/21...May the odds be in your favor! Love always, Your acne samurai eventually had the last laugh!

On this weeks episode, we are joined with Edidiong Khloe Umoh “K-Baby”, a lawyer and enjoyment connoisseur. In this very long and very raw episode, we share our stories and the parts of our lives scarred by acne. To many of you, it’s just a skin condition, to us it was so much more believe me. We were extremely vulnerable in this episode as we unpacked our insecurities, discussed our journey to finding beauty and self-worth amidst a broken skin barrier and a wounded self-worth. I love what Khloe always says “Acne may not contribute to your beauty, but it never takes away from it” This episode is one for the books, it’s for those with or without acne, it will teach you how to see yourself again amidst your acne and it will teach others how to treat people with acne. Thank you once again Khloe for sharing your story, I’m forever thankful

Although a great deal of women struggle with acne, many men do so too, but we rarely hear their perspective. On today’s episode we are joined with a good friend of mine, Olasubomi Abduakeeb shares his story on dealing with acne, the insecurities acne left him with and how he’s been overcoming them. He also shared a few skincare tips lol, you’ll have to listen to find out tho...this was a very fun and vulnerable episode. I hope you leave educated and enlightened, and if you’re struggling with acne, I see you, it gets better I promise. Love always, Your fave acne samurai, Kuku

When you have textured and acne-prone skin, do you ever fit into a world where glass skin has become a trend... To begin the docu-series on “my acne, my story” we are joined with the Olotu Funke. Funke started battling with textured skin at the early age of 11. She shares how much what we would deem, a simple skin condition shaped her life and her story. That little girl has grown and blossomed into a popular brand story teller and body positivist. This was an exciting and enlightening episode. And to those who have never known what it is to struggle with acne, I hope you remember to count your blessings twice. Love you always, Your fellow acne samurai, Kuku

On the final episode of the #friendorfoe series and the very first time I’m putting out an uncut episode, we are joined with Boitumelo and Miriam Micheal, lol my name sake. We delved into some brow raising conversations. Like... 📌 Is three a crowd in friendships. 📌What to do when your friend copies your hustle. 📌How to know your place in someone’s life. 📌How to sustain long lasting and long distance relationships. I had so much fun in this episode, so many gems were dropped, although it’s super long so I recommend you listen in the shower or in the toilet if you’re a constipated person, or maybe grab some popcorn and sit in bed 🤣 Love always, Your talkative host, Kuku

The subjective nature of the term “toxic” makes it difficult to define what is toxic and what is quite frankly just human. If no one is perfect, how then do we know what toxic is, do people even know they are in toxic friendships? The amazing Stephanie and Mmabatho touched on so many things that produce toxic effects even though they are done with the right heart, like “the mommy complex” “the messiah complex” we often want to save, fix and rescue lost causes and often find ourselves dragging dead weight! So why then do we stay? Have we been indirectly wired to stick it through? Are we the toxic friend? Are we being managed or managing others, instead of enjoying fruitful and long lasting friendships? I incredibly enjoyed this episode and I hope you do too. Love always, Kuku

In the first episode of the “Friend or Foe” series, we discuss on the topic “Normalizing friendship breakups” Usually when we discuss breakups it’s often in the context of romantic relationships, but this very often happens in the context of friendships. Join Tinashe and Boitumelo as they talk about their friendship breakup experience and how that ultimately shaped their life and their friendships moving on! We also dabbled into rebound friendships, are they a thing? Can making a new friend heal the scar created by an old friend? Well you’ll have to listen to hear more of this tea. They also give us tips on how to let go of dead weights in our friendships.This is an episode not to miss 🥲 Love always, Kuku

Hello refocused hun, The concept of “Arranged marriages” is not new at all. It’s part of a long standing tradition that has declined substantially during the 19th and 20th centuries. It is a super controversial topic loaded with many complex possibilities, pros & cons. On today’s episode we are joined with Lerit Nifesi: a married Wellness & Style Blogger and Joy Otegbayo, popularly known as R-Jay “a relationship enthusiast” They shared their stance on the chosen topic and uncovered a lot of areas not usually spoken about. The recording session was educative and exciting indeed. Anyways thanks for coming to the end of the love series, feel free to go binge if you’ve been naughty, but if you’ve been nice settle down for an amazing conversation. Love always, Your very single host, Kuku

By now we all know that idolizing relationships are a thing, but have we also begun to idolize singleness, have we over glorified the wait? On this amazing yet impactful episode, I was joined by Sharon Mohie (Creative, Blogger & Podcaster: Unashamed and Unafraid, Sport enthusiast) & Sindi Mcata, the heart behind “Devoted with Sindi” as she beautifully put it. We discussed healing, hurt, self-sufficiency, stability prior to a relationship, feminism, societal roles and how our faith intersects it all. I hope it brings you a lot of clarity and direction regardless of the season you’re in. Love always, Your very single host, Kuku

Hey Refocused family, I had so much fun recording this episode and I can only hope you enjoy it. Boitumelo and I shared on some reasons why people may still be single and what to take note of if you wanna get iced 💍 this 2021🤣. Anyways love you and take good care of yourself. Your single host, Kuku

It’s the month of love and I’m sooo excited 💃🏻 In this episode, our amazing guest Caitlyn shares her experience on interracial dating. She opens up about how her ethnic background and family experiences shaped her decision. We delved into colorism, and it’s effect on influencing who we choose to date, and how biracial features are so intensely fetishized in our modern society. So many questions where addressed such as: Is dating outside ones race considered an upgrade or downgrade? Is race a defining criteria for relationshipping? Are your motives central in determining the partners you choose? I hope this episode leaves you inspired, enlightened and helps you focus on what really matters. Love always, Kuku

Have you ever been with a religious person only to find out they actually not that religious. To identify as godly or religious is one thing however, to bear fruits worthy of this label is another. I mean no pressure and all, but where do we draw the line between expecting better from someone cause they are religious but also giving them room to fail because they are human? We talked about so much on this episode and I hope we can all learn a thing or two from it.

Over the last few days, young Nigerians all over the country have come out to peacefully protest in the thousands, demanding an end to police brutality and the disbandment of the “Special Anti Robbery Squad”. On Sunday, The 11th of October 2020 the current DG of police released a statement claiming they were disbanding/dissolving SARS as a unit. First, this is nothing new. In 2015, 2017, 2018, and 2019, the same proclamations and declarations were made and nothing changed. These officials remained on the road; raping, beating, kidnapping and stealing from young Nigerians. Second, there is to be no reckoning according to the plans this administration has. All former SARS officials will be redeployed to other existing departments. That is a gross insult to the very many Nigerians who have died at the hands of these criminals. We demand a public inquiry, investigation and hearing into every death, and every act of brutality. If the police cannot hold itself to account, it does not deserve public trust and funding. Thirdly, PEACEFUL Protesters across the country have been brutalised by the police; arrested, tear gassed, sprayed with water cannons, beaten and over 10 young Nigerians have lost their lives. Our protest has both been peaceful and respectful and well within our constitutional rights. We are not criminals. We are not area boys. We are not hooligans. We are Nigerians who are FED UP and have decided we will do something about it. We inherited a broken system from you, but we want better for the generation after us. Young people know that SARS is rotten fruit of a diseased tree. We want restitution, changes in recruitment and reform. We want investigations into crimes committed by police officials. We also want a psychological evaluation & retraining (by an independent body) of all disbanded SARS officers before they are redeployed. We want an increase in police officers salaries so that they are adequately compensated for protecting lives and properties of citizens. Ways to help:- Educate yourself, Raise awareness & Donate. https://donatebtc.feministcoalition2020.com/

What do we do with those who seem to be “super spiritual?” The ones who seem to pray more, praise louder, get more excited about God than we do? We all know people who even in a five-minute conversation will start giving us their favorite Bible verse or be quick to share a testimony of what they feel God just did or showed them in their lives. What kind of feelings do they arouse in you? Do they freak you out just a little bit? Or, perhaps, on the other hand, does a bit of jealousy emerge? Do you muse, “I wish I knew God like that?” More often, I have found that for most people it’s the former, rather than the later. What should our response be as Christians? If the so-called “super spiritual” people tend to annoy you, check your own heart! Repent and revive your passion for God! Source: The Christian Post

Feminism: One war, Different battles! On today’s episode, Aleks (Slovenian), Randa (Lebanese), expose the inequalities present in their societies. To understand the movement better, it’s important you realise that the fight for the equal rights of women transcends geographical location, ethnicity and race. Hence today’s episode will enlighten you and expose you to the reality of a woman across different spheres of life in Africa, Middle East and Europe. Love always, Refocused