Living In The Third Degree With BPD

This is my FIRST INTERVIEW and it happens to be with my son Matthew who is 26 years old and happens to be an inmate at the NH State Prison For Men in Berlin, NH. He speaks about his childhood through adulthood growing up and having to deal with the turmoil and chaos of having a parent with BPD. This was probably the most interesting episode I've ever done, so PLEASE listen as as stated in the episode that if you are interested in ASKING A SPECIFIC QUESTION for Matthew or if you would like him to touch on a specific subject that you would like me to read on the air and have him answer for you, I will do that in the next episode with him. ALSO... If you would like to write Matthew a letter or become his pen pal, please Email me an I will forward you his information. THANK YOU FOR MAKING THIS ALL POSSIBLE!!!  EMAIL: thirddegreepodcastnh@gmail.com ****** Please feel free to send me an email with questions, comments or feedback to thirddegreepodcastnh@gmail.com ******** AUDIBLE.COM SPECIAL FOR MY LISTNERS ******* Click the link below for a special for our listeners! ONE FREE MONTH of audible.com and 2 FREE AUDIBLE BOOKS which are YOURS TO KEEP FOREVER even if you decide to cancel! https://www.amazon.com/hz/audible/mlp/membership/plus?ref_=assoc_tag_ph_1524216631897&_encoding=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&linkCode=pf4&tag=eggshellpod09-20&linkId=c2ccdbcfbc874edb7e88243891afdc1d

I'd like to give some advice to win somebody with BPD or even doesn't have BPD and when they're accusing you rather than blasting back at them and having an unnecessary argument try to take these tips that I'm giving you it's worked in many times that I've had arguments with my wife about her accusing me of cheating I'm not saying it'll work 100% of the time but even if it works once that's one less fight you have to have with somebody that you love.  ****** Please feel free to send me an email with questions, comments or feedback to thirddegreepodcastnh@gmail.com                                                                    ******** AUDIBLE.COM SPECIAL FOR MY LISTNERS *******  Click the link below for a special for our listeners! ONE FREE MONTH of audible.com and 2 FREE AUDIBLE BOOKS which are YOURS TO KEEP FOREVER even if you decide to cancel! https://www.amazon.com/hz/audible/mlp/membership/plus?ref_=assoc_tag_ph_1524216631897&_encoding=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&linkCode=pf4&tag=eggshellpod09-20&linkId=c2ccdbcfbc874edb7e88243891afdc1d

We dont understands all the time how to communicate with our loved ones and its even harder with BPD! I have put together some facts and personal feelings into making wrongs into rights, it maybe be too late for mem, but I hope it's not for you. ****** Please feel free to send me an email with questions, comments or feedback to thirddegreepodcastnh@gmail.com ****** ** AUDIBLE.COM SPECIAL FOR LISTNERS ***  Click the link below for a special for our listeners! ONE FREE MONTH of audible.com and 2 FREE AUDIBLE BOOKS which are YOURS TO KEEP FOREVER even if you decide to cancel! https://www.amazon.com/hz/audible/mlp/membership/plus?ref_=assoc_tag_ph_1524216631897&_encoding=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&linkCode=pf4&tag=eggshellpod09-20&linkId=c2ccdbcfbc874edb7e88243891afdc1d

no matter how much you speak or write to someone with BPD about anything between the black and white they will ignore due to there is no middle ground with BPD. ****** Please feel free to send me an email with questions, comments or feedback to thirddegreepodcastnh@gmail.com ****** ** AUDIBLE.COM SPECIAL FOR LISTNERS ***  Click the link below for a special for our listeners! ONE FREE MONTH of audible.com and 2 FREE AUDIBLE BOOKS which are YOURS TO KEEP FOREVER even if you decide to cancel! https://www.amazon.com/hz/audible/mlp/membership/plus?ref_=assoc_tag_ph_1524216631897&_encoding=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&linkCode=pf4&tag=eggshellpod09-20&linkId=c2ccdbcfbc874edb7e88243891afdc1d

These are emails that listeners send in to let me know how my show have impacted their lives and relationships. ****** Please feel free to send me an email with questions, comments or feedback to thirddegreepodcastnh@gmail.com ****** ** AUDIBLE.COM SPECIAL FOR LISTNERS ***  Click the link below for a special for our listeners! ONE FREE MONTH of audible.com and 2 FREE AUDIBLE BOOKS which are YOURS TO KEEP FOREVER even if you decide to cancel! https://www.amazon.com/hz/audible/mlp/membership/plus?ref_=assoc_tag_ph_1524216631897&_encoding=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&linkCode=pf4&tag=eggshellpod09-20&linkId=c2ccdbcfbc874edb7e88243891afdc1d

My wife had paranoid delusions and it would be the silliest noise, sound or situation that would send her into a whirlwind and argue sometimes embarrassing us both in public and sparking a stormy fight that sent me sleeping in my car or elsewhere. This will be just one of many collections of stories that I will include in my collection. ****** Please feel free to send me an email with questions, comments or feedback to thirddegreepodcastnh@gmail.com ****** ** AUDIBLE.COM SPECIAL FOR LISTNERS ***  Click the link below for a special for our listeners! ONE FREE MONTH of audible.com and 2 FREE AUDIBLE BOOKS which are YOURS TO KEEP FOREVER even if you decide to cancel! https://www.amazon.com/hz/audible/mlp/membership/plus?ref_=assoc_tag_ph_1524216631897&_encoding=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&linkCode=pf4&tag=eggshellpod09-20&linkId=c2ccdbcfbc874edb7e88243891afdc1d

I figured I would start with Family and children affected by BPD, with the statistics of my listeners age group and emails that I have gotten Im surprised that I mostly hear about a girlfriend/boyfriend or husband/wife but very, very rarely talk about family life and/or children involved and the impact that BPD has had on them or even the fact of listeners who were affected living in a household with BPD affected one of their parents or even one of the children being diagnosed with BPD. ****** Please feel free to send me an email with questions, comments or feedback to thirddegreepodcastnh@gmail.com ****** ** AUDIBLE.COM SPECIAL FOR LISTNERS ***  Click the link below for a special for our listeners! ONE FREE MONTH of audible.com and 2 FREE AUDIBLE BOOKS which are YOURS TO KEEP FOREVER even if you decide to cancel! https://www.amazon.com/hz/audible/mlp/membership/plus?ref_=assoc_tag_ph_1524216631897&_encoding=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&linkCode=pf4&tag=eggshellpod09-20&linkId=c2ccdbcfbc874edb7e88243891afdc1d

This episode surprise of making him feel loved honored sexy beautiful and that you're in love with them not just love them!

This episode is directed and focused on when they have a hallucination one step above a delusion and just make something up out of the blue just to start an argument and it's not merely about what they said it's just merely a title to name their argument.

This episode focuses on rational reasoning when people with BPD don't know how to reason rationally. Some examples of effective ways that has worked in my relationship situation.

This episode has to do with if you have a particular situation that includes something that is similar related to a deep-seated fear with the person with BPD you could possibly jump over the extra situation at hand and late night the deep-seated fiera within the person with BPD and after you fight more about that than the issue than the issue at hand.

These are suggestions that I have used as well as read about and watch videos when it comes to splitting on how to take control of the argument to avoid the person with BPD of them deflecting and getting off track when it comes to the matter at hand but as well as effective ways to show empathy and validate their feelings.

This episode is about people with BPD lying deflecting and not saying sorry for things they say and things they do

This episode deals with people who have BPD and are experiencing anhedonia as well. I talk about what I have learned involving the symptoms what causes antedonia the medical procedures and procedures you can do on your own at home with my suggestions and educating yourself from what you can find online through YouTube videos and podcasts.

This episode is in addition to one I had done last year in regards to somebody with BPD who has a favorite person. This episode is specifically around someone who has BPD and builds their favorite person up to the point of perfection in a distorted way to get them in their life but this might also be helpful for somebody who doesn't have BPD so they might recognize if they are becoming a favorite person.

This episode clearly outlines even if somebody with BPD can do a 180 they still have the instincts embedded in them from BPD where they split and still have the BPD characteristics of an argument.

This episode is about an unconventional approach as far as unconventional in mental health standards for the loving tactic if you have the patience and the love for the person in your life who has BPD you can apply this tactic and approach that I have and have a smooth relationship with a person in your life who has BPD.

Any site that you look up and regards to BPD you always find information about triggers of BPD when it comes to episodes and splitting but very rarely will you find one that involves triggers of love so I want to do this episode involving triggers of love as well as hate.

This episode is about what I've noticed there are certain characteristics of somebody with BPD specifically during an argument so I'm offering my experience with my wife dating back to when she had full blown BPD starting in 2012 and how she reacts now during full blown argumentative since she has done a 180 almost 6 months ago.

This is suggestions on what I tried with my wife which helped turn her BPD 180° but I can also help any relationship that he's become stale....