The Courageous Mumma

I'm back! I hope you've had a fun summer.  I'm launching this term with a fun book, perfect for your friends for Christmas. It's snippets of overheard conversations to make you titter, raise your eyebrows, question yourself and/or the quotee. How would you respond to this one?  "Why does everyone suddenly need a second screen? It's a post-Covid thing...You know, we're not all operating air traffic control from home!" Open to conjecture on that one.  We also chat about the anxious side of early motherhood and how Natasha coped. Snippets of conversation from Emphatic Middle-Class Women, by Natasha May can be found at Waterstones.com, Amazon and for a signed copy, message Natasha.t.may on Instagram.    

Our children need 9 affirming messages for each negative one - whether that's a negative from you, a peer, a teacher... or anyone.  That's a lot of affirming? How do we get that into a day and how can it be so magical?   For the text for this week's podcast, pop here For your copy of Parenting For Life, pop here For information on consultations, pop here

The first information your child receives about sex with form their life-long perspective. Who is best equipped to do that?   For the book, pop here For the script to this week's podcast, pop here For information about a consultation, pop here

Do you ever find yourself in an argument or debate with your child? Do you wonder how you got so engaged and how to get out of it? Are you made to feel guilty for holding a boundary, then frustrated when it slips? You’re not alone. In this episode, we’ll unpack why these patterns keep repeating and how to step out of the emotional back-and-forth that leaves everyone drained. You’ll learn what’s really happening beneath the surface when you feel blamed, bad, or backed into a corner — and how to bring calm, clarity, and courage back into the moment. If you’re ready to stop reacting and start leading with confidence, this one’s for you.   I'd love you to leave a review 😀   Contact Madeleine: madeleinestani@icloud.com Order the book: https://www.thecourageousmumma.com/parenting Read the script from this episode: https://www.thecourageousmumma.com    

How do you tether a child with an insatiable appetite for adventure without curbing their enthusiasm? In this last of our season on Parenting through the different character types of the Enneagram, we're looking at that child who is always chasing the next thrill, activity, adventure....they love the dazzle of life and seem to have boundless enthusiasm. But facing the minor keys of life is a gift too! I'm talking today about how to help them to embrace emotions, disappointments and acknowledge their feelings so they can truly connect with people, but without losing that zest for life. If you have a child who fits this description, or a partner or friend, or even if it's you - this podcast is for you...     Resources & Links: 📖 Get Madeleine's parenting book: Explore Madeleine’s practical, grace-filled guide to raising resilient children — from toddlerhood to young adulthood. click here  🗓️ Book a session with Madeleine: Want to go deeper? You can book a one-to-one parenting session with me click here 📬 Contact Madeleine: Have a question or comment Email me at madeleinstani@icloud.com — I’d love to hear from you. Connect with me on Instagram: @thecourageousmumma

The Enneagram Type Six is a wonderful character type, a great friend, a competent, compassionate disciplined achiever, but they can get themselves in an anxious muddle which stops them from progressing with confidence.  Come and hear five ways that you can help them to flourish - to keep those strong, healthy character traits without tipping into overdrive.   Pop here for the book Parenting For Life Pop here for a consultation Pop here for the blog Pop here to email Madeleine: Madeleinestani@icloud.com

Today we talk about pooh and wee and what happens for children emotionally and physically when there are difficulties. Rachel Thomas is the lead specialist nurse for Children's Bladder and Bowel Team for Gloucestershire.  She talks us through the early and late interventions. There are lots of laughs but lots of great info too.   She recommends: https://eric.org.uk to answer all your questions. and the book, Amy Gets Eaten, by Adam Kay Email me if you're thinking about the day or evening course: Madeleinestani@icloud.com For your copy of Parenting For Life, pop here For a parenting chat/consultation, pop here Find me on IG @thecourageousmumma    

What should you close before you doze? Do your kids know what to do if there's a fire? What are a credit card and cling film doing in with your Meds? A gripping tour of first aid and how to support your children (or anyone) in common difficulties. Come and learn new things and examine your existing perspectives. To Contact Meg Sawford: sawford@hotmail.co.uk Meg signposts to these two  Choking Jelly babies How to use a Defibrillator For your copy of Parenting For Life, pop here For a consultation, or a chat about a consultation, pop here Find me on IG @thecourageousmumma or pop me an email... Madeleinestani@icloud.com    

 Coming to you from my convalescence after an op  - with the Enneagram type 5.   The fives have some great strengths; Firstly, their intellectual capacity and their ability to think deeply and critically are admirable. They are excellent researchers and often good problem solvers. They are naturally curious and have a thirst for knowledge. They can often see connections and patterns that others miss. They’re fabulous in a pub quiz, though sometimes their knowledge is specialised, so then they’re just fabulous in certain rounds.   See if you recognise yourself, your child or your friends or partner...         Introspective Analytical Curious Independent Thoughtful Reserved Cerebral Detached Perceptive Objective Focused Reclusive

Do you have a child who has a deep need to be understood? I know all children do, but it discombobulates some more than others. Are they creative, expressive, sensitive to criticism and often feel misunderstood? If so, you might have an enneagram type 4 - come and find out.... here are some great ways to help them to thrive. to contact me; madeleinestani@icloud.com ig: thecourageousmumma blog: thecourageousmumma

May is Mental Health Month. This week I'm introducing you to Louise Williams. She has overcome the ADHD battle. She blogs about it and today she's sharing her journey with us.  ask a question or contact me; Madeleinestani@icloud.com   Book on ADHD: Scattered Minds - pop here  Adult guide to diagnosis - pop here  Louise's blog Pink Pear Bear - pop here  Get your copy of Parenting for Life find out about parent coaching/book a chat here Book mentioned: Gifts of Imperfection pop here 

Do you have a child or someone in your life, who finds it hard to let others to see their flaws and is keen to project a winning image? Do they find it hard to let people see when they're failing or appearing to underachieve? Can they be a little competitive at times? They might be an Enneagram type 3 - Sometimes called The Achiever Come and hear about their superpowers and how to parent them well so their strengths shine and they manage their potential pitfalls. For your copy of Parenting For Life, pop here For a consultation, or a chat about a consultation, pop here Find me on IG @thecourageousmumma or pop me an email... Madeleinestani@icloud.com        

Does your child get anxious? Can they go from 0-100 in a second? Alison Core's full time mission is teaching children why their brains react the way to do and how to manage them. This is a tool for the here and now and for their future too.  Send your children into with a way to manage their emotions. Life is tough, but here are tools to regulate kids in those difficult moments... So one day, they'll be adults that regulate themselves in the tough times. Great tools for them - and for us! Get your copy of Parenting for Life find out about parent coaching/book a chat here ask a question or contact me; Madeleinestani@icloud.com contact Alison here     

Do you have a child who's always supporting everyone around them and making sure everyone else is happy? The HELPER can take their significance from what they can be for others and sometimes get their needs lost in the process. Come and see what motivates the Enneagram Type two and hear five ways to build up their self-esteem.     

Sex and relationship therapist, Emma Waring has popped back on speak insightfully and, candidly about what our children may see and how it will influence their view of sex. But most importantly, to be the voice they listen to on this important topic. Here are some useful links  Pick up a copy of my book, Parenting for Life Find out information on Parent support here  I highly recommend Emma's book , Seasons of Sex and Intimacy      

Sex and relationship therapist, Emma Waring has hopped on this week to share many gems on that subject which is easier to 'do' than talk about! Fortunately, she's unabashed and and speaks into the many areas that can interfere with intimacy. Emma also shares some surprising stats and helps to open the curtain on what's really going on out there, compared to what film, tv and other screen options portray.  When you're busy raising a family it's possible that sex and relational needs are given a low priority. But emotionally healthy families are healthy in all aspects - the relationship between parents will suffer if intimacy is put on hold or if issues are avoided.  This podcast will clear up misinformation and hopefully start some good conversations.  Here are some useful links  Pop to the blog for a summary of Last month's Enneagram 8 Pick up a copy of my book, Parenting for Life Find out information on Parent support here  I highly recommend Emma's book , Seasons of Sex and Intimacy Further reading by Esther Perell      

Do you have a child who is strong and assertive, but finds it hard to follow instruction sometimes?   This season I'm exploring the 9 different types on the Enneagram because it gives such insights and clues as to what motivates different character types. We're not boxing, we're being curious - understanding what makes them tick.   This week, I'm focussing on 'The Challenger' They're assertive, straight talking, decisive, resourcesful and upfront. But they're also loyal, honest and can be protective too.   There are ways to respond to this child that will result in clashes, stand-offs and disconnect. But there are also ways that can build bridges, harness their great strengths and help their super-powers not to be over-powering.   Here's the link to parent-coaching Here's the link to the book, Parenting For Life - discounted for listeners  

This week I'm chatting to Helen Calder who is a life coach using the tool of the Enneagram. She walks us through the 9 different ways that people can see the world and how to understand the perspectives of others as well as their motivations, their hurdles and their opportunities for growth. As parents it can be transformative to understand these different characters and their motivations so that we can ensure we're using the right tools to help our children to grow. it's a fascinating tool and I'll be using this podcast as a springboard to go on and do further podcasts on each type so that we can recognise our children (partner/friend/colleague/neighbour) in the different types and use approaches that will help our connection with them and in turn help them. It's priceless! This is Helen's email address: hello@helencaldercoaching.co.uk To get a copy of Parenting For Life (and a free 15 min consultation) Link to book To book a consultation Link to Chat  

When our children resist our well-intentioned boundaries, it can be the beginning of the battles. What if resistance was an opportunity? Could it be a place to grow trust and bond?   Come and find out! It's great to be back and welcoming you to Season II - I have so much in store for you. I love hearing your feedback: Madeleinestani@icloud.com

There's always a clue behind the angst - but have we got time to explore it? One little micro-change in how you respond to your kids will take you on a trajectory towards good relationship: Where there is understanding there can be empathy - Where there is empathy there is connection. It's easy when you know how.  The alternative? - missing the vital clues and teaching our kids to keep their feelings to themselves - that causes disconnect!! Nobody wants that.  Come and explore...   And for: The Book, pop here  A consultation, pop here