Not Your Average Autism Mom

In this episode of the Not Your Average Autism Mompodcast, Shannon Urquiola talks about the long game of independence and why the little skills your child learns today matter so much for their future.Letting go isn’t easy, but when you nurture their confidence through small, everyday moments, you’re laying the foundation for big freedoms later on.Shannon also unpacks the difference between parentingfor your comfort versus parenting for their future—and why that shift is one of the most powerful things you can do. If you’ve ever struggled with holding on too tightly, this conversation will give you both encouragementand a gentle nudge forward.Tune in for encouragement, strategies, and the reminderthat you’re stronger than you think. 💙🌟 Leave a Review:If this episode resonates with you, share your thoughtsand experiences by leaving a review. Your feedback supports the podcast and creates a space for other parents to find inspiration and connection.We can overcome challenges and create a brighter futurefor our families.P.S. Feeling overwhelmed and ready for a change? Whenyou're ready to take control and see different results, check out our Not Your Average Autism Mom private membership. www.notyouraverageautismmom.com Additional Resources:Join ⁠⁠The Not Your Average Autism Mom Movement⁠⁠ groupon FBIf there is a specific topic that you would like us totalk about on the podcast, email us at ⁠⁠⁠info@notyouraverageautismmom.com⁠⁠⁠Have you listened to these episodes yet?⁠74. You Cannot Fix All the Things ALL the Time⁠133. Beyond Helicopter Parenting, Fostering IndependenceYou’re not alone in this, Mama. We’ll get through ittogether—just like we always do. And above all, remember… YOU are doing AMAZING at this MOM thing!

In this episode of the Not Your Average Autism Mom podcast, host Shannon Urquiola continues her holiday series with a conversation every autism parent needs before the real chaos hits—what to do after you completely lose your lane.Because no matter how hard you work on staying calm, holding boundaries, and choosing your lane… there will still be moments where you snap, shut down, or say somethingyou regret. Especially during the holidays.Shannon also shares a behind-the-scenes update on writing her book and how revisiting the hardest moments of this journey has been both healing and really, really hard.If even one idea from this episode helps you walk into the holidays with a little more grace for yourself and less pressure to “get it right,” that’s a win. 🌟 Leave a Review:If this episode resonates with you, share your thoughts and experiences by leaving a review. Your feedback supports the podcast and creates a space for other parents to find inspiration and connection.P.S. Feeling overwhelmed and ready for a change? When you're ready to take control and see different results, check out our Not Your Average Autism Mom private membership.Access exclusive support, training, and resources to save you a ton of time, and a community that truly understands.Join us and discover how amazing this journey can be!⁠https://www.notyouraverageautismmom.com/⁠⁠⁠Additional Resources:Join ⁠⁠The Not Your Average Autism Mom Movement⁠⁠ group on FBIf there is a specific topic that you would like us to talk about on the podcast, email us directly at ⁠⁠⁠info@notyouraverageautismmom.com⁠⁠⁠Have you listened to these episodes yet?⁠133. Beyond Helicopter Parenting, Fostering Independence212. When Progress Pauses; Regression 101

This week, we’re continuing our holiday series with a conversation that every autism mom needs this time of year — learning how to stay in your lane when everything around you feels like chaos.In this episode, Shannon shares real-life holiday scenarios that trigger overwhelm — the change in school routines, sensory overload, family expectations, and well-meaning relatives who just don’t get it — and walks you through practical ways to protect your peace and let go of what was never yours to control.You’ll learn how to:This season isn’t about doing it all — it’s about knowing what’s yours to hold and what you can release.You’ll walk away with more peace, confidence, and clarity to navigate the holidays your way.Plus, Shannon shares exciting news about her upcoming book — Loving Through The Unexpected: Finding Strength, Surrender, and Acceptance Parenting Autistic Children.Tune in for encouragement, strategies, and the reminder that you’re stronger than you think. 💙🌟 Leave a Review:If this episode resonates with you, share your thoughts and experiences by leaving a review. Your feedback supports the podcast and creates a space for other parents to find inspiration and connection.We can overcome challenges and create a brighter future for our families.P.S. Feeling overwhelmed and ready for a change? When you're ready to take control and see different results, check out our Not Your Average Autism Mom private membership.Want more support from a community of moms who truly get it? Check out our private membership at www.notyouraverageautismmom.com for ongoing guidance, connection, and exclusive resources!Additional Resources:Join ⁠⁠The Not Your Average Autism Mom Movement⁠⁠ group on FBIf there is a specific topic that you would like us to talk about on the podcast, email us at ⁠⁠⁠info@notyouraverageautismmom.com⁠⁠⁠Have you listened to these episodes yet?⁠74. You Cannot Fix All the Things ALL the Time201. Breaking Barriers; Why Low Expectations Hold Our Kids Back

As the holidays approach, you’re probably already feeling the shift — routines change, emotions run high, and suddenly you find yourself “choosing your battles” more than usual. But what if it’s not really about choosing battles at all?In this episode of the Not Your Average Autism Mom podcast, Shannon dives deep into what’s really happening when you decide whether to enforce a boundary or let it go. You’ll learn how to tell the difference between flexibility and avoidance, why boundaries aren’t mean (they’re love in action), andhow to stay steady through the pushback that always comes with change.Shannon shares real-life examples from her own journey with Jordan — from holiday meltdowns and unpredictable routines to learning when to hold firm and when to bend. You’ll walk away knowing that every decision you make isn’t about“getting it right,” it’s about knowing your child, trusting yourself, and choosing what truly matters in the moment.So if the holidays tend to leave you feeling torn, guilty, or second-guessing yourself — this one’s for you. You’re not being inconsistent. You’re being strategic.Stay tuned Next week for Part 2 — Episode 247. Staying in Your Lane: Reducing Holiday Stress and Letting Go of What’s Not Yours to Control. 🌟 Leave a Review:If this episode resonates with you, share your thoughts and experiences by leaving a review. Your feedback supports the podcast and creates a space for other parents to find inspiration and connection.P.S. Feeling overwhelmed and ready for a change? When you're ready to take control and see different results, check out our Not Your Average Autism Mom private membership.Access exclusive support, training, and resources to save you a ton of time, and a community that truly understands.Join us and discover how amazing this journey can be!⁠⁠⁠https://www.notyouraverageautismmom.com/⁠⁠⁠Additional Resources:Join ⁠⁠The Not Your Average Autism Mom Movement⁠⁠ group on FBIf there is a specific topic that you would like us to talk about on the podcast, email us directly at ⁠⁠⁠info@notyouraverageautismmom.com⁠⁠⁠Have you listened to these episodes yet?⁠143. Social Expectations vs Autism Reality⁠215. The Inclusion Debate: What Works, What Doesn't, and Why It Matters

If you’ve ever found yourself snapping, shutting down, or spiraling after your child’s behavior, this episode will help you understand why.In this week’s episode, Shannon unpacks what’s really going on beneath those moments — when your nervous system takes over, your emotions run high, and you react before you can think.You’ll learn how three hidden triggers — identity, social, and loss — show up in everyday life and why your child’s “bad behavior” isn’t the real problem. It’s what that moment triggers inside of you.Shannon shares real-life examples from parents of toddlers, tweens, teens, and young adults, showing how these triggers can hijack your calm — and how to get it back.She’ll walk you through how to name your triggers, calm your body, and respond from your values instead of your fears, so your child hears your guidance instead of your frustration.PLUS — Shannon shares exciting news about her upcoming book, Loving Through The Unexpected; Finding Strength, Surrender, and Acceptance Parenting Autistic Children. Follow along on social media for updates and sneak peeks!🎧 Listen now — and remember, Mama: it’s not the behavior. It’s the trigger beneath it.Together, we can overcome challenges and create a brighter future for our families.P.S. Feeling overwhelmed and ready for a change? When you're ready to take control and see different results, check out our private membership.Access exclusive support, training and resources to save you a ton of time, and a community that truly understands. Join us and discover how amazing this journey can be! ⁠⁠ https://www.notyouraverageautismmom.com/⁠⁠ Additional Resources:Join ⁠The Not Your Average Autism Mom Movement⁠ group on FBIf there is a specific topic that you would like us to talk about on the podcast, email us directly at  ⁠⁠info@notyouraverageautismmom.com ⁠⁠ Have you listened to these episodes yet?143.Social Expectations vs Autism Reality70. What Do You Make Their Behavior Mean 

When your child says things that hurt—or acts out inways that feel personal—it’s easy to let those moments sink deep.You love them, you give everything you have, and hearing “I hate you!” or watching a meltdown unfold can break your heart.But what if those words and behaviors aren’t about youat all?In this episode of the Not Your Average Autism Mompodcast, host Shannon Urquiola shares how to separate your child’s struggle from your sense of self. You’ll learn how to respond without taking their behaviors personally, and why doing so changes everything—for you andfor them.Shannon shares her own experiences with her son Jordan,plus a story from one of our members that inspired this episode, to remind you that your child’s words in dysregulation are not reflections of yourparenting—they’re reflections of overwhelm.You’ll also learn her simple P.A.C.E. Yourself tool tohelp you stay calm in hard moments: Pause your story, attend to safety, co-regulate, and explain later.Member Bonus: Your printable “P.A.C.E. Yourself” visual guide is now available inside the Member Portal and in the FILES section of the Village Facebook group.And in case you haven’t heard… Shannon is writing abook!Loving Through The Unexpected: Finding Strength, Surrender, and Acceptance Parenting Autistic Children is an honest, hopeful look at what it means to find peace and purpose when motherhood doesn’t go as planned.Follow us on social media for updates, sneak peeks, and release details!🎙️Whether your child is yelling, refusing, or saying things that sting—this episode will help you hold steady, find compassion, and remember… It’s not about you.🌟 Leave a Review:If this episode resonates with you, share your thoughts and experiences by leaving a review. Your feedback supports the podcast and creates a space for other parents to find inspiration and connection. P.S. Feeling overwhelmed and ready for a change? When you're ready to take control and see different results, check out our Not Your Average Autism Mom private membership.🎙️ Want more support in a community of moms who truly get it? Check out our private membership at www.notyouraverageautismmom.com for ongoing guidance, connection, and exclusive resources!Additional Resources:Join ⁠⁠The Not Your Average Autism Mom Movement⁠⁠ group on FBIf there is a specific topic that you would like us to talk about on the podcast, email us at ⁠⁠⁠info@notyouraverageautismmom.com⁠⁠⁠Have you listened to these episodes yet?⁠74. You Cannot Fix All the Things ALL the Time201.Breaking Barriers; Why Low Expectations Hold Our Kids Back

When your child is melting down, your instinct is to fix it. To solve it. To make it stop.But here’s the truth—before you can teach regulation, you have to model it.In this episode of the Not Your Average Autism Mom Podcast, Shannon dives deep into why emotional validation is the foundation for every behavioral strategy that actually works.She explains what “feelings first” really looks like in real life, shares real-life scenarios from Jordan (now 29), and offers concrete phrases and resets to help your child feel safe before you address behavior.You’ll also hear about her upcoming book, When Life Doesn’t Go As Planned: Finding Strength, Surrender, and Acceptance Parenting an Autistic Child, coming in 2026 — written straight from her heart for moms just like you.Because when you learn to see the feeling before the behavior, you begin to change everything — startingwith yourself.🎧 Listen now wherever you stream podcasts.💙 Connect | Coach | Community: www.notyouraverageautismmom.com🌟 Leave a Review:If this episode resonates with you, share your thoughts and experiences by leaving a review. Your feedback supports the podcast and creates a space for other parents to find inspiration and connection.We can overcome challenges and create a brighter future for our families.P.S. Feeling overwhelmed and ready for a change? When you're ready to take control and see different results, check out our Not Your Average Autism Mom private membership.Access exclusive support, training, and resources to save you a ton of time, and a community that truly understands.Join us and discover how amazing this journey can be!⁠https://www.notyouraverageautismmom.com/⁠⁠⁠Additional Resources:Join ⁠⁠The Not Your Average Autism Mom Movement⁠⁠ group on FBIf there is a specific topic that you would like us to talk about on the podcast, email us directlyat ⁠⁠⁠info@notyouraverageautismmom.com⁠⁠⁠Have you listened to these episodes yet?⁠133.Beyond Helicopter Parenting, Fostering Independence212. When Progress Pauses; Regression 101

Advocating is part of everyday life when you’re raising a child on the autism spectrum — but it can also be exhausting. In this episode, Shannon shares how to manageyour energy so you can advocate effectively without burning out. Learn how to protect your peace, choose your battles wisely, and sustain your advocacy over the long haul.Shannon also recommends revisiting Episode 157, “Reframing Defeat; Your Child’s Progressis Closer Than You Think,” for added insight and support.🎧 Listen now and discover how to keep showing up — notjust for your child, but for yourself and your family — with calm confidence and energy that lasts. 🌟 Leave a Review: If this episode resonates withyou, share your thoughts and experiences by leaving a review. Your feedback supports the podcast and creates a space for other parents to find inspiration and connection.Together, we can overcome challenges and create a brighter future for our families.P.S. Feeling overwhelmed and ready for a change? When you're ready to take control and see different results, check out our private membership.Access exclusive support, training and resources to save you a ton of time, and a community that truly understands. Join us and discover how amazing this journey can be!⁠⁠https://www.notyouraverageautismmom.com/⁠⁠Additional Resources:Join ⁠The Not Your Average Autism Mom Movement⁠ group on FBIf there is a specific topic that you would like us to talk about on the podcast, email us directly at ⁠⁠info@notyouraverageautismmom.com⁠⁠Have you listened to these episodes yet?Disconnect to Reconnect; The Impact of Screen AddictionUncharted Territory in Special Education

Life runs on rules—and our kids need practice learning them at home so they can navigate the real world with safety and confidence. In this episode, Shannon shares why rules aren’t harsh or unfair; they’re loving preparation. You’ll learn how to make expectations clear, follow through consistently, and use consequences that teach (not scare). Shannon opens up about Jordan’s electronics story—why she used to give in, how taking devices away at 24 was the hardest season, and the freedom that followed. No judgment here—just encouragement, clarity, and one simple challenge to help you start today.I was honored to join Nichole Berlie on News Nation NOW ahead of the administration's press conference on autism & the search for causes.My hope is that research continues—but without blame or shame for parents. Families deserve support and answers.Watch at the link below:NEWS NATION NOW Interview🌟 Leave a Review: If this episode resonates with you, share your thoughts and experiences by leaving a review. Your feedback not only supports the podcast but also creates a space for other parents to find inspiration and connection.P.S. Feeling overwhelmed and ready for a change? When you're ready to take control and see different results, check out our private membership. Access exclusive support, training and resources to save you a ton of time, and a community that truly understands.Join us and discover how amazing this journey can be ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.notyouraverageautismmom.com/⁠⁠⁠Additional Resources:Join the MOVEMENT on FB⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/thenotyouraverageautismmommovementIf there is a specific topic that you would like us to talk about on the podcast, email us directly at ⁠info@notyouraverageautismmom.com⁠Have you listened to these episodes yet?⁠⁠Episode 146. The Myth of “One Day”; Spectrum of Strengths⁠⁠⁠⁠Episode 149. Parenting Imperfectly; Guilt Free Zone

Pragmatic language is about more than just talking—it’s the invisible set of social rules that help conversations flow and relationships grow. For children on the spectrum, these skills can be tricky, but they’re also essential, especially as they move from elementary into middle school.In this episode of the Not Your Average Autism Mom podcast, Shannon explains what pragmatic language really means, why it matters so much, and how you can practice these skills at home. You’ll walk away with practical strategies, everyday examples, and a new perspective on helping your child build confidence and connection—one conversation at a time. And if you missed it, Shannon was recently featured on News Nation Now with Nichole Berlie, ahead of the administration’s autism announcement on September 22nd. She shares her perspective as a mom raising an autistic son and as the founder of Not Your Average Autism Mom. Every chance she gets to use her voice for families like ours is a privilege—and this conversation was no exception. 💙They talked about what it means to raise children on the spectrum, the challenges families face, and why representation in these national conversations matters so much.If you missed it, you can watch the full interview here ⬇️👉 Watch NowI’m always grateful for opportunities like this to shine a light on our families and children. Thank you for being here and being part of this journey with me. 💙🌟 Leave a Review: If this episode resonates with you, share your thoughts and experiences by leaving a review. Your feedback not only supports the podcast but also creates a space for other parents to find inspiration and connection.Additional Resources:Join the MOVEMENT on FB⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/thenotyouraverageautismmommovementIf there is a specific topic that you would like us to talk about on the podcast, email us directly at ⁠info@notyouraverageautismmom.com⁠⁠Episode 148: Shifting Perspective; Looking Through A Different Lens⁠⁠Episode 48. Differentiating a Speech Delay and/or Autism

Letting go is one of the hardest things we face as moms, and when you’re raising a child on the spectrum, it often feels impossible. In this episode, Shannon opens up about her own struggles with overprotection—why she did too much for too long, and how it actually stalled Jordan’s independence. She explains why stepping back, even when it feels uncomfortable, is one of the greatest gifts you can give your child, and how safe struggles (like we talked about in last week’s episode) not only build confidence for your child, but resilience for you as their mom.You’ll learn practical strategies to manage your own anxiety in the moment, reframe those fearful “what ifs,” and begin creating opportunities for your child to try, grow, and succeed on their own terms. If you’ve ever thought, “It’s just easier if I do it myself,” this episode will challenge and encourage you to pause, breathe, and remember that easier for us doesn’t always mean better for them.Join Shannon for an honest, heartfelt conversation about why letting go matters—and how both you and your child can grow through it.🌟 Leave a Review: If this episode resonates with you, share your thoughts and experiences by leaving a review. Your feedback supports the podcast and creates a space for other parents to find inspiration and connection. Together, we can overcome challenges and create a brighter future for our families.P.S. Feeling overwhelmed and ready for a change? Want to work with me?  When you're ready to take control and see different results in your life, check out our private membership at ⁠Not Your Average Autism Mom⁠Access exclusive support, training, and resources to save you a ton of time, and a community that truly understands. Join us and discover how amazing this journey can be! ⁠⁠⁠⁠Additional Resources:Join ⁠⁠The Not Your Average Autism Mom Movement⁠⁠ group on FBIf there is a specific topic that you would like us to talk about on the podcast, email us directly at ⁠⁠⁠info@notyouraverageautismmom.com⁠If you’ve ever found yourself wondering, “Why can’t they just remember what I said?”—this episode is for you.Because sometimes, holding it together means understanding why their brain can’t always hold on.Have you listened to these episodes yet?⁠157. Reframing Defeat; Your Child’s Progress is Closer Than You Think⁠⁠83. Assessing Your Child’s IEP

Struggle isn’t something most moms want to see theirkids go through — but what if I told you that safe struggles are one of the greatest gifts you can give your child?In this episode, I’m breaking down why stepping back(instead of swooping in) matters so much for kids on the spectrum. You’ll also hear a few Jordan stories that show how these lessons play out in real life.If you’ve been caught in rescue mode, this episode willencourage you to loosen your grip just enough to let your child learn, grow, and surprise you.Real progress isn’t about perfection—it’s aboutpracticing real life, one small step at a time.Tune in, breathe deep, and let’s keep building theirbright, independent futures together!🌟 Leave a Review:If this episode resonates with you, share your thoughtsand experiences by leaving a review. Your feedback supports the podcast and creates a space for other parents to find inspiration and connection.We can overcome challenges and create a brighter futurefor our families.P.S.- Feeling overwhelmed and ready for a change? Whenyou're ready to take control and see different results, check out our Not Your Average Autism Mom private membership.Access exclusive support, training, and resources tosave you a ton of time, and a community that truly understands.Join us and discover how amazing this journey can be!⁠⁠⁠⁠  ⁠⁠Get Details HERE⁠⁠ ⁠ Additional Resources:Join ⁠⁠⁠The Not Your Average Autism Mom Movement⁠⁠⁠ group on FBIf there is a specific topic that you would like us totalk about on the podcast, email us directly at ⁠⁠⁠⁠info@notyouraverageautismmom.com⁠⁠⁠⁠Have you listened to these episodes yet?  222. Locked Pantries and Naked Kids; Autism Parenting Chronicles223. What to do When They Say No (Special Education Edition)⁠

In this special Listener Q & A episode, Shannon answers real questions from moms, a grandmother, a para, and even a special education teacher. From after-school meltdowns and silent shutdowns to IEP meetings, repetitive questions, friendships, independence, and handling judgment in public — these are the real struggles happening in homes just like yours.You’ll hear practical strategies, the exact questions to ask yourself (and your child or team), and ways to handle these challenges without feeling so alone. Shannon also points you back to past episodes for deeper dives into some of the most asked-about topics.If you’ve ever thought, “Is it just me?” — this episode will remind you it’s not. These questions could have come straight from your living room.🌟 Leave a Review:If this episode resonates with you, share your thoughts and experiences by leaving a review. Your feedback supports the podcast and creates a space for other parents to find inspiration and connection.We can overcome challenges and create a brighter future for our families.P.S. Feeling overwhelmed and ready for a change? When you're ready to take control and see different results, check out our Not Your Average Autism Mom private membership.Access exclusive support, training, and resources to save you a ton of time, and a community that truly understands.Join us and discover how amazing this journey can be!⁠⁠⁠ Get Details HEREAdditional Resources:Join ⁠⁠The Not Your Average Autism Mom Movement⁠⁠ group on FBIf there is a specific topic that you would like us to talk about on the podcast, email us directly at ⁠⁠⁠info@notyouraverageautismmom.com⁠⁠⁠Have you listened to these episodes yet? ⁠⁠129. Getting a Grip on Escalating Behaviors⁠⁠⁠⁠124. What to do When They Say No (Special Education Edition)

Bullying is a fear every parent carries — but for thoseof us raising children on the autism spectrum, there’s a deeper layer. What if it happens… and they can’t tell us?In this episode, I’m talking about why our kids are morevulnerable to bullying, the signs you might see (especially if your child is non-speaking, minimally verbal, or non-communicative), and how to move from that gut-punch emotional reaction into clear, confident action.We’ll cover:Why autistic children are more likely to be targetedThe signs that something might be happening —even when they can't tell youThe role that the desire for friendships plays in bullying riskHow to document, report, and advocate effectively Strategies for prevention, self-advocacy, and building confidence If this is one of your biggest fears — I see you. AndI’m here to help you protect your child and give you the tools to act, even in the face of the unknown.Tune in for actionable advice and heartfelt encouragement, because you are not alone on this journey!🌟 Leave a Review:If this episode resonates with you, share your thoughtsand experiences by leaving a review. Your feedback supports the podcast and creates a space for other parents to find inspiration and connection.We can overcome challenges and create a brighter futurefor our families.P.S. Feeling overwhelmed and ready for a change? Whenyou're ready to take control and see different results, check out our Not Your Average Autism Mom private membership.Access exclusive support, training, and resources tosave you a ton of time, and a community that truly understands.Join us and discover how amazing this journey can be!⁠⁠⁠ Get Details HEREAdditional Resources:Join ⁠⁠The Not Your Average Autism Mom Movement⁠⁠ group on FBIf there is a specific topic that you would like us totalk about on the podcast, email us directly at ⁠⁠⁠info@notyouraverageautismmom.com⁠⁠⁠Have you listened to these episodes yet? ⁠⁠129. Getting a Grip on Escalating Behaviors⁠⁠⁠⁠124. What to do When They Say No (Special Education Edition)

In this episode, Shannon breaks down why “just stay calm” is one of the most misleading pieces of advice parents of autistic children hear—and what to focus on instead. Calm and regulation are not the same thing, and confusing them can leave you feeling like you’re failing.Shannon explains how kids pick up instantly when your words and your body don’t match, why chasing calm can backfire, and how your regulation—not your calm—becomes the anchor your child needs. You’ll learn co-regulation strategies and discover simple tools to create space before reacting.If you’ve ever felt like you can’t keep it together during meltdowns, this episode will help you shift your focus from perfection to connection, and from chasing calm to building true regulation.🌟 Leave a Review:If this episode resonates with you, share your thoughts and experiences by leaving a review. Your feedback supports the podcast and creates a space for other parents to find inspiration and connection.We can overcome challenges and create a brighter future for our families.P.S. Feeling overwhelmed and ready for a change? When you're ready to take control and see different results, check out our Not Your Average Autism Mom private membership.Want more support from a community of moms who truly get it? Check out our private membership at www.notyouraverageautismmom.com for ongoing guidance, coaching, and exclusive resources!Additional Resources:Join ⁠⁠The Not Your Average Autism Mom Movement⁠⁠ group on FBIf there is a specific topic that you would like us to talk about on the podcast, email us at ⁠⁠⁠info@notyouraverageautismmom.com⁠⁠⁠Have you listened to these episodes yet?⁠74. You Cannot Fix All the Things ALL the Time201. Breaking Barriers; Why Low Expectations Hold Our Kids Back

In this Best of Summer favorite, Shannon returns to one of the most raw and relatable topics in autism parenting—behavior.From meltdowns and aggression to sensory challenges and emotional outbursts, this episode is for every mom trying to stay calm in the chaos while figuring out what their child’s behavior is trying to say.With heartfelt honesty, Shannon shares her personal stories as Jordan’s mom and brings in the lived experiences of other moms inside the NYAAM community. You’ll learn practical, real-world strategies to teach replacement behaviors, set boundaries with love, and manage your own emotions when things feel out of control.This episode is a reminder that you don’t have to have it all figured out—and that grace under pressure is a skill we learn, one step at a time.In this episode of Not Your Average Autism Mom, Shannon dives into one of the most challenging aspects of raising a child on the spectrum—managing behaviors. With heartfelt stories from her own journey as Jordan’s mom and insights from moms in the NYAAM community, she explores how to balance understanding and validating your child while setting clear boundaries and expectations.Shannon shares practical strategies for managing meltdowns, teaching replacement behaviors, and building your resilience muscle along the way. You’ll learn why it’s okay not to have all the answers and how every twist and turn is an opportunity for growth—for both you and your child.Whether you’re navigating aggression, sensory challenges, or emotional outbursts, this episode reminds you that you’re not alone. Together, you and your child will figure it out, one step at a time.Tune in for encouragement, strategies, and the reminder that you’re stronger than you think. 💙🌟 Leave a Review:If this episode resonates with you, share your thoughts and experiences by leaving a review. Your feedback supports the podcast and creates a space for other parents to find inspiration and connection. P.S. Feeling overwhelmed and ready for a change? When you're ready to take control and see different results, check out our Not Your Average Autism Mom private membership.Access exclusive support, training and resources to save you a ton of time, and a community that truly understands.Join us and discover how amazing this journey can be!⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.notyouraverageautismmom.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠Additional Resources:Join ⁠⁠⁠The Not Your Average Autism Mom Movement⁠⁠⁠ group on FBIf there is a specific topic that you would like us to talk about on the podcast, email us directly at ⁠⁠⁠⁠info@notyouraverageautismmom.com⁠⁠⁠⁠Have you listened to these episodes yet?⁠⁠110. Have You Ever Secretly Hated Autism?⁠⁠181. Impulse IQ; The Maze of Impulsivity

We’re revisiting one of the most talked-about episodes in our Best of Summer series—and for good reason.High energy in autism can look a lot like manic behavior—impulsivity, intense pacing, non-stop movement, pressured speech, and stimming that just doesn’t let up. And when you're in it, it can feel like you're holding on for dear life.In this episode, Shannon breaks it all down with real-life examples from her own journey raising Jordan. She shares practical strategies for managing those intense moments—from helping your child calm down at bedtime to creating safer spaces when they’re overwhelmed by energy they can’t regulate.If you’ve ever felt like your child is operating at a level 10 and you’re just trying to survive the day—this one’s for you.Join Shannon as she navigates the highs and lows of manic episodes, helping you better understand and support your child's unique needs. Whether you're dealing with constant pacing, pressured speech, or intense irritability, this episode is packed with valuable information to make your parenting journey a bit smoother. Tune in and remember, you're not alone on this journey—Shannon is here to support you every step of the way.🌟 Leave a Review: If this episode resonates with you, share your thoughts and experiences by leaving a review. Your feedback supports the podcast and creates a space for other parents to find inspiration and connection.P.S. Feeling overwhelmed and ready for a change? When you're ready to take control and see different results, check out our private membership at Not Your Average Autism Mom.comAccess exclusive support, training and resources to save you a ton of time, and a community that truly understands.Join us and discover how amazing this journey can be ⁠⁠⁠https://www.notyouraverageautismmom.com/⁠⁠⁠Additional Resources:Join ⁠⁠The Not Your Average Autism Mom Movement⁠⁠ group on FBIf there is a specific topic that you would like us to talk about on the podcast, email us directly at ⁠⁠⁠info@notyouraverageautismmom.com⁠⁠⁠Have you listened to these episodes yet?⁠Episode 146. The Myth of “One Day”; Spectrum of Strengths⁠⁠Episode 149. Parenting Imperfectly; Guilt Free Zone

Loving our autistic children through their struggles isn’t always simple — and it’s definitely not always easy. In this heartfelt episode, Shannon opens up about the complex emotions many parents face when their child can’t or doesn’t express love in typical ways.Maybe your child doesn’t say “I love you.” Maybe they don’t come to you for comfort or push you away during meltdowns. Maybe you’ve quietly wondered, "Why does this feel so one-sided?" or "Am I the only one who feels this way?"You are not alone.As summer begins — a time that can feel overwhelming for families like ours — this episode is a soft place to land. It offers you an alternative perspective for those long, unstructured days when everything feels harder than it should. Come back to it whenever you need a reminder that you’re not alone, and your love still matters — more than you know.You’ll hear stories, strategies, and compassionate insights about what it means to love your child through their hardest moments — not despite them. You’ll learn why their love may look different (but is still real), why grief and love can exist side by side, and how to hold space for both hope and heartache on this unexpected parenting journey.And don’t forget — next week kicks off our BEST OF Summer Series! We’ll be spotlighting some of our most downloaded episodes to make sure you haven’t missed any favorites. With over 230 episodes, there’s so much to take in, and what didn’t apply when it aired might be exactly what you need today. Be sure to scroll through and find the episodes that speak to where you are now. We’ll be back with brand new episodes later this summer!🌟 Leave a Review:If this episode resonates with you, share your thoughts and experiences by leaving a review. Your feedback supports the podcast and creates a space for other parents to find inspiration and connection.P.S. Feeling overwhelmed and ready for a change? When you're ready to take control and see different results, check out our Not Your Average Autism Mom private membership.Access exclusive support, training, and resources to save you a ton of time, and a community that truly understands.Join us and discover how amazing this journey can be!⁠⁠⁠https://www.notyouraverageautismmom.com/⁠⁠⁠Additional Resources:Join ⁠⁠The Not Your Average Autism Mom Movement⁠⁠ group on FBIf there is a specific topic that you would like us to talk about on the podcast, email us directly at ⁠⁠⁠info@notyouraverageautismmom.com⁠⁠⁠Have you listened to these episodes yet?79. Uncharted Territory in Special Education⁠⁠133. Beyond Helicopter Parenting, Fostering Independence

In this episode of the Not Your Average Autism Mompodcast, host Shannon Urquiola explores the often-overlooked challenge of working memory in autistic children and young adults.From missed steps in routines to emotional overload andsocial struggles, weak working memory can show up in ways that leave both you and your child feeling frustrated. Shannon breaks down the difference betweenworking memory in neurotypical vs. autistic individuals, shares relatable age-specific examples, and offers practical strategies you can start using today to support your child more effectively.🌟 Leave a Review: If this episode resonates with you, share your thoughts and experiences by leaving a review. Your feedback supports the podcast and creates a space for other parents to find inspiration and connection. Together, we can overcome challenges and create abrighter future for our families.P.S. Feeling overwhelmed and ready for a change? Want towork with me?  When you're ready to take control and see different results in your life, check out our privatemembership at Not Your Average Autism MomAccess exclusive support, training and resources to saveyou a ton of time, and a community that truly understands. Join us and discover how amazing this journey can be! ⁠⁠Additional Resources:Join ⁠The Not Your Average Autism Mom Movement⁠ group on FBIf there is a specific topic that you would like us totalk about on the podcast, email us directly at ⁠⁠info@notyouraverageautismmom.comIf you’ve ever found yourself wondering, “Why can’t theyjust remember what I said?”—this episode is for you.Because sometimes, holding it together meansunderstanding why their brain can’t always hold on.Have you listened to these episodes yet?157. Reframing Defeat; Your Child’s Progress is Closer Than You Think83. Assessing Your Child’s IEP

In this episode of the Not Your Average Autism Mom podcast, Shannon explores a powerful and often overlooked topic in autism families: parentification — when children, especially siblings of autistic kids, take on adult roles far tooearly.Are they helping… or quietly carrying too much?Shannon shares real-life stories, signs to look for, and strategies to ensure your typically-developing child doesn’t lose their childhood in the chaos of caregiving. She opens up about her own intentional journey as a mom, how sheprotected her daughter Maddie from taking on that “third parent” role, and how the sibling relationship between Maddie and Jordan beautifully unfolded later in life — on their own terms.You’ll walk away with greater awareness, practical ways to shift emotional weight back to where it belongs, and a gentle reminder: there is no perfect sibling bond — only what’s right for your family.Whether your children are close or distant, growing together or still finding their way — this conversation is for you.Tune in for encouragement, strategies, and the reminder that you’re stronger than you think. 💙🌟 Leave a Review:If this episode resonates with you, share your thoughts and experiences by leaving a review. Your feedback supports the podcast and creates a space for other parents to find inspiration and connection.We can overcome challenges and create a brighter future for our families.P.S. Feeling overwhelmed and ready for a change? When you're ready to take control and see different results, check out our Not Your Average Autism Mom privatemembership.🎙️ Want more support from a community of moms who truly get it? Check out our private membership at www.notyouraverageautismmom.com forongoing guidance, connection, and exclusive resources!Additional Resources:Join ⁠⁠The Not Your Average Autism Mom Movement⁠⁠ group on FBIf there is a specific topic that you would like us to talk about on the podcast, email us at ⁠⁠⁠info@notyouraverageautismmom.com⁠⁠⁠Have you listened to these episodes yet?⁠74. You Cannot Fix All the Things ALL the Time⁠133. Beyond Helicopter Parenting, Fostering IndependenceYou’re not alone in this, Mama. We’ll get through it together—just like we always do. And above all, remember… YOU are doing AMAZING at this MOM thing!