Who is the saboteur? The unconscious in everyday life

In 2024, a disgruntled CIA hacker leaked 34 terabytes of secrets to WikiLeaks.He wasn’t paid. He wasn’t blackmailed.He was angry.He felt slighted, unheard, and disrespected.👉 And like many employees—he didn’t leave his emotions at the door.He took them with him. And they exploded.This isn’t just a spy story—it’s a lesson.👉 Emotions don’t stay behind when we log off.👉 Resentment, frustration, shame—these are organisational risks.👉 Ignoring them isn’t neutral. It’s dangerous.✅ Good organisations feel good to work in.✅ Strategy succeeds when it resonates emotionally.✅ Emotional insight = better decisions, better relationships, better results.So ask yourself:– What emotions dominate your team right now?– What signals are you ignoring?– How much of your own leadership style is shaped by old emotional patterns?Emotions are not a distraction from business. They are the business.If this resonates, drop a comment—or share with someone navigating the emotional undercurrent of leadership.🧠 I’ve been using Magic Mind to support mental clarity during high-focus work, like writing my next book. No crashes. No jittery caffeine highs. Just calm, sustained focus.It’s now part of my broader mental wealth toolkit.If you’re ready to boost your focus and clarity, Magic Mind are offering listeners of this podcast a discount. You have a limited offer you can use now, that gets you up to 48% off your first subscription or 20% off one time purchases with code: MICHAELDRAYTON20 at checkout This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit michaeldrayton.substack.com

Who’s most at risk? ✔️ Conscientious perfectionists ✔️ People pleasers ✔️ Hard workers who care deeply3 Quick fixes for burnout prevention: ✅ What Went Well? – List 3 small wins daily. This shifts your focus from stress to progress. ✅ Switch Off After Work – Checking emails at midnight? That’s not dedication—it’s a fast track to exhaustion. ✅ Breathe Like This – Inhale, take a second sip of air, then exhale slowly (Dr. Andrew Huberman’s technique). Instant stress relief.People can endure almost any 'how'—if they have a strong 'why.' Find meaning in your work, and burnout loses its grip.If you’re ready to boost your focus and clarity, Magic Mind has a 45% off trial for you.Here is the code: https://www.magicmind.com/MICHAELDRAYTON20 This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit michaeldrayton.substack.com

💭 Feeling the winter slump? You're not alone.It’s that time of year—cold, dark, and the fun of Christmas feels like a distant memory. The work is piling up, and each day feels like a slog. I wonder if you’re feeling it too?I certainly am. My next book, The Emotional Life of Organisations, is due soon, my coaching calendar is full, and I’ve been teetering on the edge of feeling overwhelmed. That hamster-wheel feeling—lots of effort, not much progress.A few weeks ago, I noticed the warning signs:❌ Poor sleep❌ Struggling to focus❌ Constant busyness, but not much impactSound familiar?This got me thinking about mental wealth—not just mental health, but the psychological resources we build to stay at our best. Think of it like a pension plan for your mind—something you invest in consistently to perform well, even in tough times.👉 Here’s the framework I use with my coaching clients to build mental wealth:🔹 Sleep – The foundation of everything. If you’re sleep-deprived, your brain is, too.🔹 Diet – Your brain needs fuel, not just calories. Good food = better focus.🔹 Exercise – A 20-minute walk can reset your mind and improve clarity.🔹 Stress Management – Chronic stress shrinks the part of your brain responsible for problem-solving. Managing it is not a luxury—it’s essential.🔹 Exogenous Compounds – Tools like adaptogens or nootropics can help, but they support good habits, not replace them.Lately, I’ve been testing a nootropic called Magic Mind—a mental focus shot that’s helped me stay sharp while writing. It’s been surprisingly effective, especially alongside other mental wealth practices.But beyond habits and supplements, mental wealth also depends on energy—four types of it:💡 Physical Energy – Your body fuels your brain. Movement, light, and breaks matter.❤️ Emotional Energy – Strong relationships are a greater predictor of long-term health than cholesterol levels.🧠 Cognitive Energy – Deep, focused work is where real value is created—yet distractions steal it away.🌍 Spiritual Energy – A sense of purpose fuels resilience. Viktor Frankl discovered this in Auschwitz: meaning, not pleasure, is what sustains us.Building mental wealth isn't about perfection. It’s about layering small, intentional habits over time. Start with one thing—maybe it’s a daily walk, maybe it’s trying Magic Mind, or maybe it’s a reflection exercise.These little steps compound over time to create a mental wealth that sustains you.If you’re ready to boost your focus and clarity, Magic Mind has a 45% off trial for you.Here is the code: https://www.magicmind.com/MICHAELDRAYTONJAN  This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit michaeldrayton.substack.com

Feelings are the hidden energy that drives behaviour at work. They shape decisions, teamwork, and culture—whether we realise it or not. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit michaeldrayton.substack.com

Cue the feelings of helplessness and frustration as you question why things seem to go wrong despite your efforts. Maybe you feel like you're unfairly judged or that your career is being held back by external factors.And when you try to find a way through?You end up focusing on the negatives, interpreting neutral actions as personal attacks, and falling into the trap of a victim mindset.Does this sound familiar?If you've ever felt stuck or unfairly treated, you might be experiencing this mindset. But here’s the good news: You can break free from it.Here are three practical steps to help you move from feeling like a victim to taking control:👉 Challenge Your Certainty: When you're convinced you're being treated unfairly, ask yourself, "In what way could I be wrong?" This small shift in thinking opens up new possibilities.👉 Shift Your Perspective: Before reacting, pause and consider the other person’s viewpoint. What might their experience be? Understanding both sides can change the dynamic.👉 Self-Reflect: Ask yourself the tough question: "How might I have contributed to this situation?" Taking ownership of your role gives you power to change the outcome.Remember, the power to shift your mindset lies within you. By breaking free from the victim mentality, you open up new opportunities for growth and success. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit michaeldrayton.substack.com

The Titanic was the greatest ship of its time. It was the Edwardian equivalent of the Airbus 380, designed to transport a large number of passengers quickly and safely across the Atlantic.All of the elements in the story of the sinking of the Titanic can be abstracted out and seen every day in any large organisation. This is particularly true when it comes to communication breakdowns. The Titanic and the events surrounding it serve as a metaphor for the modern hybrid organisation. Like the Titanic, modern hybrid organisations are technologically complex. There is frequently an overreliance on technology to manage systems (resulting in a decrease in developing robust human systems) and a belief that technology will save us. Because everyone had the brief that  the Titanic was unsinkable, they  underestimated the risk. The Titanic was unsinkable... until it sank. Too Big to Fail is a book by journalist Andrew Ross Sorkin about the collapse of the Wall Street bank Lehman Brothers (Sorkin, 2010). Of course, Lehman Brothers (and Barings Bank) were too large to fail, just as the Titanic was too large to sink.The radio operators on the Titanic were overwhelmed by day-to-day tasks, just as we are often overwhelmed by day-to-day tasks at work and struggle to see the bigger picture. We have a tendency to overlook what is important… This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit michaeldrayton.substack.com

Someone asks for help to sort out a problem or situation, and when you offer a few suggestions, they spend ages telling you why your ideas won’t work, how they have tried all of those ideas before, and that they just don’t know what to do. Does this sound familiar? This podcast will give you some ideas to help you effectively manage and support the help rejecting complainer, leading to improved performance, reduced conflict and a smoother work environment for everyone. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit michaeldrayton.substack.com

You were really sure that you were right, but you have found out that you were wrong.How many times have you been in that situation? How many times have you said to yourself, ‘how could I have been so stupid?’Becasue when you feel you are right it does not actually mean you are right.It’s just a perception. It's a belief and a feeling and not a fact. Your feeling of being right could be right - or it could be wrong. This tendency that we all have - to experience our perceptions as facts is one of the biggest factors that our internal saboteur uses to derail us.The next time you know you are right...pause and, just for a moment, accept that you might be wrong. Treat your feelings as being hypotheses - as beliefs rather than objective truth (this is hard but possible). Here are some awkward questions that you can ask yourself that will help you achieve this:What do I believe about this situation?  What evidence do I have for my belief? Is there any evidence to indicate that I’m wrong?In what way could I be wrong? Because even the most intelligent people can sometimes be wrong... This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit michaeldrayton.substack.com

Do you ever feel that you haven’t got time to think? Do you ever feel that life and experiences are just passing you by because you spend much of your day firefighting?By doing this short exercise every day (or at least every week), you will find that when you do, you’ll have far more perspective on life and on your career. Everybody I have spoken to who has tried this exercise, has found it to be incredibly valuable. It’s an exercise I do myself.1.  Sit down somewhere quiet.  Make sure there will be on interruptions, and take a deep breath to quiet your mind. Try and become aware of any tension in your body, let it go. Consciously let the tension go from your muscles.2. Replay your day (or week) in your mind. Think about any strong emotions that you had (either positive or negative). Reflect on those and try and understand what was going on for you.3. Think of all the things you were grateful for. Think of three things that went well that day (or week). Think about why they went well, and what you did that made them turn out well.4. Think about the things you found difficult and struggled with. Think about what you might need help with. Where can you get this help? Who could you ask?5. Think of your family, friends, and colleagues. What do they seem to be struggling with or find difficult. What could you do to help them – to help them have a better day tomorrow? 6. Reflect on anything you did today (or during the week) that you regret. What mistakes did you make? Were you unpleasant to anyone? Do you need to say sorry to anyone? If you could turn the clock back, is there anything you would have done differently? 7. Think about tomorrow.  What is the one thing you could do that might make tomorrow a better day? Maybe you could remember to take a break at lunchtime? Perhaps try and be a better listener? Maybe you could try to be better at saying no to people?And in the words of Bob Dylan..."If you haven't all the things you want, be grateful for the things you don't have that you wouldn't want." This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit michaeldrayton.substack.com

Have you ever felt really exhausted, but at the same time unable to switch off, relax or even sleep? Do you ever feel cynical about your job and wonder what the point of it all is? If you have experienced any of the above, you may be on the road to burnout.This is a book about burnout – the biggest public health crisis of the 21st century. Burnout is a visceral physical experience. It’s the exhaustion, the anxiety, the sick feeling in your stomach. Burnout is also in your head. It’s the cynicism, negativity and detachment from work and people. It’s the inability to think clearly, the absence of mental well-being. People on the road to burnout are often clinically anxious and depressed...This podcast is the introduction to my new book Anti-burnout: How to Create a Psychologically Safe and High-performance Organisation.  Now available from Amazon, on kindle or hardback. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit michaeldrayton.substack.com

How would you feel if one of your colleagues called you scum in front of other people?Recently the deputy leader of the Labour Party, Angela Rayner, was forced to apologise after she called a Tory MP 'scum,' in the House of Commons.Research has shown that rudeness - even witnessing rudeness - significantly reduces people's ability to think clearly, be creative and help their colleagues.  Rudeness and incivility is not just unpleasant, it has a direct and significant impact on performance and productivity. In other words, if you want to lead a great team - a creative team that gets things done…don’t be rude. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit michaeldrayton.substack.com

Would you notice if a partner, friend or work colleague was feeling suicidal?If someone you love or someone you know, takes their own life by suicide, it’s just awful. It feels unbearable.  It's the living who suffer. However, it’s important to remember that it’s not your fault.  This was a decision made by the person who took their life and not caused by something you did or didn’t say, or did or didn’t do.If you are worried about someone, all you can do, is listen, be kind to them, and try and point them in the right direction to get help. If you do this, then you have done enough. It’s important to remember that  there is a big difference between suicidal ideas (which many of us have had) and the act of suicide itself.  Most people who express suicidal ideas don’t actually go on to kill themselves... This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit michaeldrayton.substack.com

Have you got a difficult conversation coming up? One that you can’t (or shouldn’t) avoid?Are you dreading it because the other person might not see things your way?Here are a few ideas that will make the conversation much easier and productive. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit michaeldrayton.substack.com

How was your journey home yesterday?Did you sit in your car, or on the train, going over the events of the day?  Going over and over the conversations you had - what you could have said, what you should have said.   When you got home, did it continue.  Instead of inside your head, you went over things with who ever would listen, "you wouldn't believe the day I have had, and I should have done this and I could have done that..." Do you remember how you were feeling when you replayed these incidents over and over in your head? Upset? Anxious? Angry?  You may have left work hours ago, but the replaying of your day is keeping those feelings alive...The name for this is rumination. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit michaeldrayton.substack.com

Do you work or live with someone who really needs to change - but won't?  Not only do they resist all efforts to help them, but don't even acknowledge there's a problem?  Perhaps it is someone who upsets people they work with.   Or a teenager who ought to do more to get ready for their exams. You can't simply force people to change.... but you can influence their willingness to change.  This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit michaeldrayton.substack.com

Can a belief kill you?  Can something as intangible and ephemeral as a belief, thought or attitude kill you?Well, yes they can - and they do kill millions of people every year. Most deaths from illness are caused by beliefs.  The belief that smoking, drinking too much, eating junk food and not taking exercise only damages the health of other people. These are all pretty obvious examples of beliefs leading to poor lifestyle choices with predictable consequences.  What about something less obvious.  For example, how could holding the belief that stress is bad for your health, possibly harm you?A study carried out in the US in 2012, asked 30,000 people the questions "How much stress have you experienced in the last year?"  And, "Do you believe that stress is harmful for your health?"The researchers then tracked them for eight years, and at the end of the study they used public death records to find out who died...   This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit michaeldrayton.substack.com

Do you know someone who suffers with analysis paralysis?  Someone who always ask for more and more information, rather than make a clear decision?  Or, you might be that person.We'd all prefer to avoid making difficult decisions.  This is because we fear making the wrong decision.  The very anticipation of making the wrong choice is a powerful deterrent.   The bigger the decision, the more the anxiety about taking action. In real life situations, the only decisions we can hope to make are imperfect decisions.  An imperfect decision is better than none because once implemented, they can be monitored, evaluated and modified, whereas inaction simply generates more inaction.If you keep putting off a decision, it will stay bubbling away at the back of your mind, using up mental resources and making other decisions that much more difficult. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit michaeldrayton.substack.com

A passenger boarded a flight, only to discover that she was allocated a seat beside someone who had political views that were different to hers. Feeling virtuous, she went into a full blown rant and demanded that the passenger be moved to another seat.  It didn't help her mood, when the airline crew pointed out that this wasn't something that she could demand.  After a deterioration in her behaviour, the woman was removed from the flight.Wouldn't life be simple if anyone we didn't agree with, could be moved...from the seat beside you, from the office or just out of your life?  Wouldn't that be great?But, would it?  Imagine what life would be like if you spent all day living, working and talking to people who are just like you?  Imagine just talking to people who hold exactly the same opinions as you? This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit michaeldrayton.substack.com

In April 1998, a glittering party was held in a Manhattan art gallery to launch a biography of the American Expressionist painter, Nat Tate. The party was attended by David Bowie, Gore Vidal,  as well as gallery owners and art critics from influential papers such as the New York Times.  Many of these experts in modern American art spoke enthusiastically about Nat Tate, warmly remembering aspects of his life, shows they had attended, and reflecting on the sadness of his premature death. But there is a twist to the story of Nat Tate...Hear the strange story of how Nat Tate, David Bowie and William Boyd hoaxed the New York art establishment - and what it has to do with work today. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit michaeldrayton.substack.com

What do you do when you feel bored?  Do you turn to your mobile phone for distraction or just nod off?There has never been so much to do. Whenever we feel the slightest twinge of boredom, we reach for our smartphone for instant gratification. If you walk around any city you will see people gazing down at their phones, rather than paying attention to what is going on around them. We live in a society where we are chronically over stimulated - 24 hour social media, shopping and TV. We should embrace boredom as a luxury of modern life, rather than fear and avoid it. The next time you feel bored, resist reaching for a distraction and instead turn your attention inwards. Allow your mind to wander. This is when creativity starts to kick in and your mind looks for stimulation from your internal world, not the external world. When you pay attention to boredom it gets unbelievably interesting. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit michaeldrayton.substack.com