Boldly Becoming You Podcast

EVERYONE gets overwhelmed occasionally. The difference of getting overwhelmed and STAYING in overwhelm is in these 4 tips. During a recent clubhouse conversation, I offered an artist 4 tips to move through the overwhelm of her new project, including some common misconceptions in the pop-psychology and coaching rhetoric.  Would love to hear what you think and what resonated with you. I mentioned the Regulated AF 10 Day Anti-Challenge at the beginning of this episode and promised I'd link it here.  Share this with people you love and on your social media if you found value in this episode. The Village is open for enrollment through Thurs, July 20. You can join us here. Check out our links page for free resources and on events, as it is updated regularly. Follow on Instagram: @rulesandrebellion Follow on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/rulesandrebellion Follow on Tiktok: @coachtashaskillin And check out all the ways to work with us here: www.rulesandrebellion.com   

Fatigue is the number 1 symptom fo burnout and many chronic health issues that our clients navigate. In this episode, Brandon and I dug into Fatigue on a livestream on FB and IG and it was so well received and we had so many questions and follow up messages, I wanted to share this here with you. Share this with people you love and on your social media if you found value in this episode. The Village is open for enrollment through Thurs, July 20. You can join us here. Check out our links page for free resources and on events, as it is updated regularly. Follow on Instagram: @rulesandrebellion Follow on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/rulesandrebellion Follow on Tiktok: @coachtashaskillin And check out all the ways to work with us here: www.rulesandrebellion.com 

I wish I knew that part of healing and actually creating the life you want to experience - with joy, attunement, connection, authenticity and feeling safe in the space you exist in - wasn't all gamor and ease. There is a period of adjustment that I wasn't expecting and in this episode my intention is to pass along this lesson to you, to enable you to move through it with less overwhelm and more ease. When your perspective filter has been set to "what is the worst possible scenario? and what do I need to do to prevent it or at the least, prepare for it?" ...it's really hard to see and receive the goodness that accumulates as you do the work of boldly becoming you. It takes practice, knowing what to do in the transition period and genuine safe support. This is part of the healing journey humans cannot do alone - it's simply not how we're all wired.  But knowing what's ahead and how you can navigate the swamp of accumulating the new evidence to see how safe, and lovely, your life has become can make it a shorter journey, I believe. I would love to hear if this episode resonated with you. Do you have a hard time experiencing the joy and seeing the goodness, despite it being right there in front of you? Do you find yourself constantly waiting for the other shoe to drop? You're not broken, and it's not that something is wrong with you. You just need some practice clocking the safety in the new reality you've been creating.  Tag @rulesandrebellion if you share this on social, it means a lot to me, and it helps get these ideas to other people, which helps our community grow with more support and attunement. If you want help in navigating this swampy healing journey, you can schedule a clarity call to chat to see if we're a good fit. 

In this episode of The Boldly Becoming You podcast we travel back in time to the dark ages of our relationship.  A time without communication. A time…without boundaries 😱😵😵😱 We cover: How the older you get, the more overwhelming boundaries can become How capacity but also the fear of being a burden, inconveniencing someone else and what we see others do inform our ability and willingness to identify our needs. An important question to ask if you are in a relationship that has a long future 🌞😎 And the life-changing tip we learned in therapy 💃💃 We would love to hear what came up for you. DM us on Instagram Share this episode with a friend or on your stories and tag us @rulesandrebellion…and don’t forget, all month long our Nervous System Regulation mini-course is only $17! Schedule a clarity call if you're ready to put your needs at the top of your list.

This one might hit you right in the trauma. You are sacrificing your time, energy and your future far too often for far too little.  The reality is…you’re a problem, you’re a real problem. But so were we.  In this episode, we talk about: Tasha and Brandon talk about the silent fight in sharing Instagram posts with each other  How I kept telling myself, I just don't have enough time to do all the things I want to do How Brandon’s title as the “perfect husband” was BAD for both of us   You want to follow through, you want to show up for the people you love and you want your life to feel…more better more of the time. The answer is definitely in this episode. (the answer is definitely Nervous System Regulation + Boundaries 🤫)  Schedule a free clarity call to figure out the best way to work together here. Make sure to tag us @rulesandrebellion when you share this episode on your socials!

What started out as a fun, lighthearted exploratory adventure has turned into a journey to trust myself and my body after years of feeling untethered from it.  One of the biggest disappointments in getting sick in 2014 and being officially diagnosed in 2017 with myalgic encephalomyelitis, ME/CFS, was that Brandon and I were told, "It's unlikely you'll get better. And you'll be lucky, you'll be lucky to not get worse." In this episode, I share some of that journey and the bigness of one of my 2024 goals to see 10 waterfalls in 1 day by hiking 8 miles, or 18291 steps.  I have used vision boards every step of the way over the last 6 years to keep me focused and believing in myself. And this next goal is not different. I would love to show you how to create these same beacons of light and inspiration for you in your goals. Register for the Boldly Becoming You Workshop here and join me for a life changing, inspiring and energizing weekend. DM me to let me know what you thought about this episode! Learn more about working together and grab our free resources here: https://www.rulesandrebellion.com/links  

If you’re a list maker, note taker, or a to-do guru then you KNOW that if it’s not on a list, it ain’t happ’nin.  So then why oh why does everyone get all weird when we bring up the topic of Vision Boards? …is it maybe because they have been turned into this big scary expectation of happily ever after or else? Or maybe it’s because no one ever told you how you are actually supposed to use the damn thing.  In this episode we talk about how to unlock the magic of your vision boards so you can fully unlock them as the powerful tool they are (hint: you just move ‘em around)  Ps. it’s not “magic,” it’s nueroscience that makes so much sense. Grab your seat at the Boldly Becoming You Workshop here. If you loved this episode, or have questions, DM us to let us know. Also, copy the share link and send it to your bestie! Thank you for helping us get the word out about Boldly Becoming You!

In this episode, we get into the weirdly challenging concept of Visualization - what it really is, why it feels hard and what to do to make it easier AND more effective. As we battle our self-imposed timer we dig into our respective relationships with visualizing and goal setting…And we talked about goats, and to a lesser extent, chicken. Seats to The Boldly Becoming You Workshop are currently $97. If you’re fed up with trying to figure out a system to make your goals actually happen, this is where you want to be February 24 & 25. Grab your seat here. Visualization mentioned: https://insig.ht/9oLmGUYULGb Make sure you're following us on Instagram @Rulesandrebellion 

In this episode we talk about a concept that is overlooked by almost everyone. Capacity.  Where does it all go? Why do we think we have more of it than we do, and a few ideas that will get you thinking…”oh yeah, that does make me tired”. AND we give you a few tips to navigate this whole “capacity” issue. This is a big deal, because without understanding the capacity you have, setting and achieving your goals is going to be impossible. You wouldn’t go on a 5 hour drive without looking to see if you had enough gas to get there, don’t start on a journey towards your goals without knowing how much energy, time, and ability you actually have available to you. And just in case you missed it, here is the replay link to Tasha’s live masterclass The SHE Method - where you learn the 3 factors responsible for making your goals a reality. DM us on Instagram and let us know what you think about today's episode.  

Earlier this week we asked the question: “What do YOU think is stopping you or standing in the way of you having what you want” In this episode, we dig into your responses and our own relationship with goals, success and how we completely shifted our focus to out of burnout and off the neverending treadmill of letdown and disappointment in ourselves and our results. Specifically: Being too tired and overwhelmed to even think about setting goals past sleep Wanting to want to have the energy to set goals That frustrating feeling of getting started but not having the energy to keep things going This one’s a good one for all of you go-getters out there.  Oh and…we did a new thing on the podcast to keep us “on time”...and it sort of worked…ish DM us what came up for you in this episode! Grab your seat for the Boldly Becoming You Workshop on February 24 & 25 with $100 off And make sure you register for the free S.H.E. Method Masterclass on Jan 31, 2024. Make sure you're following us on Instagram and Facebook so you don't miss a thing!

I don’t know if you’ve noticed, but almost all of the 2024 new year content on social media is basically gone. That’s because all of that “New Year, New You” crap is all based on the idea of having everything PERFECTLY mapped out all before January 1st. At R & R, we know that expecting yourself to have your entire year perfectly planned and ready to go by the end of December is based on a bunch of arbitrary rules that throws perfectionists into anxiety fueled fight/flight survival mode.  You’ve got a real life and rarely, if ever, does it line up with a calendar.  Today's episode is all about picking a word/intention for the year. It came out mid-month because you deserve the time and grace to join the party when you are ready and able.  The intention behind picking a word of the year is to have a mental filter to align yourself and your actions with. With that chosen word, you create a guiding principle to keep coming back to, and make decisions with, no matter what kind of weird shit happens between now and 12 months from now. Picking a word for the year isn’t a brand new concept, but…do you actually know how to use your word of the year so that it's not just some woowoo exercise you forget about in a week? In this episode we talk about what our words are and why we chose them, but also what the hell to do with them next.  DM us on IG with your word so we can celebrate with you! And if you want to use this word as a spring board to create a year that you become the boldest, truest version of you, book your clarity call here today.

2023 was a BIG year for my personal growth and healing. It was a lot of inner work and in this episode I share the big lessons I learned including the new non-negotiable I made a vow to do before I touched anything I care about. As a result of the commitment I made last year to keep facing my fears, and having the support I needed to stick with it, I grew my capacity and am dreaming bigger, attracting more abundance than I ever have as a result. My ability to see a more expansive future for myself feels surreal. I've never felt this calm and confident about such enormous goals for my future. I can't wait to hear what comes up for you from this reflection and what resonates with you. Shoot me a DM on Instagram and let me know which parts stuck out for you. Ready to make 2024 the year you boldly become the YOUEST YOU? Schedule a free clarity call if you 100% committed 🙌  

If you’re like I was, a successful business owner making 6 figures for multiple years, but thinking that one more hour, one more call, one more post was going to be the thing that makes or breaks your business, you need to listen to this episode. I share a very personal story about a distressing couples' therapy session that had me REELING, raging and angry sobbing the rest of the day. But ultimately, was the catalyst for so much growth, healing and expansion into a life I am grateful to live now. Since then, I've learned to stop beating myself up for making the "wrong" decisions, have gotten crystal clear on what, and who, the non-negotiables are in my daily life and allowed myself to explore fun and what play looks like in my life without guilt. If this episode resonates with you, schedule your clarity call to see if our 5 Essential Pivots program is the right fit for you. We can answer your questions and see if we all mesh. And if so, you'll be well on your way to breaking free from that toxic hustle culture to find your joy and inspiration, while still making bank.  

Doom scrolling IG and binge-ing New Girl and Schitt’s Creek are not hobbies or special interests 😉 my friend. But if you're like me, or Brandon, you have a complicated relationship with fun, creativity and "leisure time" because ...like who has time for that? In the long-term, not having activities that are exclusively for your joy or pleasure will 100% land you in burnout. And not just the I’m tired and unmotivated stage, the full-fledged body shutting down, chronic health issues burnout. Research shows that the long-term benefits of hobbies drastically improve your quality of life and longevity. In the short term, you get to bring new energy and inspiration to your relationships, your work, your clients, your art. In this episode, we cover 3 specific signs it is absolutely time to discover some hobbies AND the practicality of having hobbies with your perfectionist dysregulation and limited energy. If you are someone who has a successful business, you know you can make the hard stuff happen - you've been doing it your whole life but the easy stuff like hobbies and enjoying your days feels hard - you need to schedule a clarity call. Whether you want to etch glass, take walks wandering your area, crochet wobbles or write poetry, we're ready to help you make 2024 the year you put YOU back at the top of the to-do list.  

In this episode, Brandon shares part of his journey to create his first 2 originals in his clothing line. You'll hear the story behind the Introvert Hoodie and the power of having art you can wear that speaks to your needs and desires. Plus, how mean girls on the internet started a ripple of love and authenticity to Brandon's self-expression this year adding more validation and affirmation for the genderqueer layer of their identity. "The BB Pullover is a love letter to Tasha" and in this episode, you'll hear why. You can still pre-order your Introvert Hoodies and the BB Pullover here  Check out The Trevor Project And Brandon's viral reel that launched the BB Pullover   Share this with people you love and on your social media if you found value in this episode. Check out our links page for free resources and on events, as it is updated regularly. Follow me on Instagram: @rulesandrebellion Follow me on Tiktok: @coachtashaskillin And check out all the ways to work with us here: www.rulesandrebellion.com 

Being seen, listened to, understood, and validated is a CRUCIAL missing piece from our respective childhoods. And it continues into our adult lives, for many reasons, deteriorating your ability to see how truly brilliant and meaningful you are. In this episode, I share a story about a birthday cookie that made me feel invisible and one of the MAJOR differences between how we coach our clients...based on a lifetime of being treated like just everyone else and one of the super powers we use with every one. Book your complimentary clarity call  to chat about your next season of transformation. Share this with people you love and on your social media if you found value in this episode. Check out our links page for free resources and on events, as it is updated regularly. Check out Habit Magic and the Boldly Becoming You Workshop Follow me on Instagram: @rulesandrebellion Follow me on Tiktok: @coachtashaskillin And check out all the ways to work with us here: www.rulesandrebellion.com 

How a hard conversation led to one small habit and the massive ripple effect a year later. Brandon shares his experience including the adventures and creativity he's been inspired by, as well as the Introvert Hoodie and BB Sweatshirt he launched last month. (you can pre-order yours here) Check out Habit Magic and the new flex pay option through Wednesday, November 15.   Share this with people you love and on your social media if you found value in this episode. Check out our links page for free resources and on events, as it is updated regularly. Follow me on Instagram: @rulesandrebellion And check out all the ways to work with us here: www.rulesandrebellion.com 

Nell was fed up with her business being so hard, waking up with her heart racing, pressure in her chest and flushed with anxiety and panic as she launched into action to get her business WORKING. Her confidence was on a roller coaster, depending on how her social media content was performing, and she was angry, flooded with emotion and was close to throwing in the towel despite having a solid foundation of engaged and aligned followers AND having had genuine success in selling her courses and programs in thepast. Nell's post-concussion syndrome, ADHD, fluctuating hormones from her monthly cycle and chronic dysregulation had her stressed and anxious, operating in full-on masculine energy, draining her and leaving no room for inspiration. But Nell joins us in today's episode to talk about her transformational experience in our 5 Essential Pivots program. She talks about how she found her footing, the new relationship that has her glowing, how she feels about her business today and her exciting next season of expansion. 👉🏼 You can check out Nell here and make sure to follow her on Tiktok and Instagram. Book your complimentary clarity call with Brandon and myself here to chat about your next season of transformation.   Share this with people you love and on your social media if you found value in this episode. Check out our links page for free resources and on events, as it is updated regularly. Check out Habit Magic and the Boldly Becoming You Workshop Follow me on Instagram: @rulesandrebellion Follow me on Tiktok: @coachtashaskillin And check out all the ways to work with us here: www.rulesandrebellion.com 

If you're like me, for most of your life, you've been told to not make excuses for "bad behavior" or when you didn't get something done that you were supposed to. And as a result, you haven't been able to actually give yourself the grace and compassion you deserve for all the times, and all the ways, your good intentions and thoughtful planning didn't turn out the way you had hoped.  In this episode, Brandon and I cover the difference between an excuse and an explanation, specific aspects of your life that are NOT excuses but DO need to be acknowledged if you want things to not be so hard and some challenging things to expect if you've been operating under this "no excuses" gaslighting doctrine for most of your adult life. Habit Magic is open for enrollment and you can join here for early bird pricing still! $297 or 2 payments of $149 for a little while longer. Share this with people you love and on your social media if you found value in this episode. Check out our links page for free resources and on events, as it is updated regularly. Follow me on Instagram: @rulesandrebellion Follow me on Tiktok: @coachtashaskillin And check out all the ways to work with us here: www.rulesandrebellion.com 

TWO HUNDRED episodes and it's been a full evolution. In this episode I share some of the things I have learned, let go of and what's coming up next in this season of expansion, releasing MORE perfectionism to make room for BIG Bold worthiness and joy. Thank you for being on this journey with me and I love how we keep showing up to do this together. Share this with people you love and on your social media if you found value in this episode! Check out our links page for free resources and on events, as it is updated regularly. Check out Habit Magic and the Boldly Becoming You Workshop Follow me on Instagram: @rulesandrebellion Follow me on Tiktok: @coachtashaskillin And check out all the ways to work with us here: www.rulesandrebellion.com