Becoming Enough: Empowering Black Sheep to Remember Their Worth

Face the Stillness is now enrolling! Learn more & Sign Up: ⁠https://www.blacksheepexperience.com/facethestillness About this episode: We're wrapping up eclipse season, and the topic heavy on my heart this week is self-abandonment. If you've ever felt completely disconnected from your intuition or lost and purposeless, it may be because you were taught to abandon yourself. Even if you feel rooted in your purpose, you may find it difficult to trust yourself or the world around you when things don't go your way. This immediate shift into fear and self-doubt is another sign that you're afraid you may abandon yourself (again). This episode explores why black sheep have a unique relationship to self-abandonment because of the homes that we were raised in, and how that can manifest in many different ways as adults. You might be the black-sheep-turned-perfectionist, who is constantly seeking control and order and turns to shame and criticism when things go awry. Or you could be the destructive black sheep who defies rules and authority but often tends to cut people off too soon and walks a line of hyperindependence and self-sabotage. You could even be the Fixer-Upper black sheep who is ready to jump into fix-it mode when it comes to everyone else's life, but is way too stubborn to be present with your own issues. This is one of the most important episodes I've released this season, and I hope it inspires you to answer the call within. About Becoming Enough: The Becoming Enough podcast teaches you how to liberate yourself from your limiting beliefs and worthiness wounds.  You’ll find discussions that validate your internal experience as a black sheep and dive deep into the journey of self-actualization and sovereignty.  Roshni, your host, wholeheartedly believes that high self-worth is your ticket to true liberation. If you want to regain your power, this podcast is for you. Ready to leave your low self-worth behind for good? Visit ⁠⁠BlackSheepExperience.com⁠⁠ to learn how you can work with Roshni one-on-one through ⁠⁠self-worth coaching sessions⁠⁠ or ⁠⁠tarot readings⁠⁠ and finally step into the most powerful and confident version of you. ⁠⁠Download the FREE Bye-Bye Binary Thinking Workbook⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Book Self-Worth Coaching with Roshni⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Book A Tarot Reading with Roshni⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Black Sheep Experience Website⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠BlackSheepExperience TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠BlackSheepExperience Instagram⁠ . #selfabandonment #healingjourney #selfworth #selfesteem #blacksheep #blacksheepofthefamily --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/betigrewup/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/betigrewup/support

Face the Stillness is a 5-week, 1:1 coaching program to guide you through the fears, feelings, and beliefs you've been avoiding. As Black Sheep and survivors of trauma, we can hold onto the need to escape. Running away has come easy to me because of my past, but I've never been able to run fast enough to escape my demons. I know how hard it is to face those inner voices. I know how much your life is arranged around avoiding them. The constant music and shows and podcasts (lol) in your ear, the ridiculously-busy schedule, the partying, the effort you put into making sure you're alone or in a silent space truly creeps up on you. Soon enough it's been weeks, months, or even years since you've slowed down long enough to hear your thoughts or feel your feelings. My goal is to provide you with a sense of safety, guidance, and nervous system regulation tools to help you open the door to these thoughts and emotions without feeling overwhelmed. Learn more and complete your application by April 19th. Apply here: https://www.blacksheepexperience.com/facethestillness --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/betigrewup/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/betigrewup/support

Face the Stillness is now enrolling! Learn more & Sign Up: https://www.blacksheepexperience.com/facethestillness Let's talk about how to coach yourself from a place of feeling stuck, stagnant, anxious, or just generally having a breakdown to a lesson that changes your life. It's possible and something I've been doing for years. I walked through this exact process today and uncovered a hidden trigger. Uncovering this truth about myself led me to feel so empowered because now I know how to better advocate for myself and make decisions that support the wounded parts of myself. I break down the entire process for you in this episode - be sure to grab your journal so you don't miss a thing. Get comfy, baddies - we're introspecting! About Becoming Enough: The Becoming Enough podcast teaches you how to liberate yourself from your limiting beliefs and worthiness wounds.  You’ll find discussions that validate your internal experience as a black sheep and dive deep into the journey of self-actualization and sovereignty.  Roshni, your host, wholeheartedly believes that high self-worth is your ticket to true liberation. If you want to regain your power, this podcast is for you. Ready to leave your low self-worth behind for good? Visit ⁠BlackSheepExperience.com⁠ to learn how you can work with Roshni one-on-one through ⁠self-worth coaching sessions⁠ or ⁠tarot readings⁠ and finally step into the most powerful and confident version of you. ⁠Download the FREE Bye-Bye Binary Thinking Workbook⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Book Self-Worth Coaching with Roshni⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Book A Tarot Reading with Roshni⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Black Sheep Experience Website⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠BlackSheepExperience TikTok⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠BlackSheepExperience Instagram⁠ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/betigrewup/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/betigrewup/support

Let's talk about HYPERINDEPENDENCE! Hyperindependence is a survival mechanism for many black sheep. But as we age, it becomes a form of self-sabotage. Your sensitive inner child had to fight for control and learn to survive around people they didn't trust. They had to learn how to rely on themselves - and only themselves - for almost everything. As we get older and escape our troubled homes, we realize that chosen family and community is a new method of survival. But this contradicts almost everything we've learned in our past. This episode dives into hyperindependence, where it stems from, how to recognize it, and how to heal from your wound of isolation and hyperindependence. If you enjoyed the episode, don't forget to leave a review! (Approximate) Timestamps: 1:00 - 12:30 What childhood experiences create hyperindependence? 12:30 - 22:00 How hyperindependence becomes a pattern in adulthood 22:00 - 32:00 Qualities of someone with hyperindependence 32:00 - 36:30 Hyperindependence in my relationship 36:30 - 52:43 Actionable steps to heal from your hyperindependence About Becoming Enough: The Becoming Enough podcast teaches you how to liberate yourself from your limiting beliefs and worthiness wounds.  You’ll find discussions that validate your internal experience as a black sheep and dive deep into the journey of self-actualization and sovereignty.  Roshni, your host, wholeheartedly believes that high self-worth is your ticket to true liberation. If you want to regain your power, this podcast is for you. Ready to leave your low self-worth behind for good? Visit BlackSheepExperience.com to learn how you can work with Roshni one-on-one through self-worth coaching sessions or tarot readings and finally step into the most powerful and confident version of you. Download the FREE Bye-Bye Binary Thinking Workbook⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Book Self-Worth Coaching with Roshni⁠ ⁠⁠Book A Tarot Reading with Roshni⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Black Sheep Experience Website⁠⁠ ⁠⁠BlackSheepExperience TikTok⁠⁠ ⁠⁠BlackSheepExperience Instagram --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/betigrewup/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/betigrewup/support

Welcome to this guest episode with Dominiece Clifton! In this episode, Dominiece and I discuss: How your intuition and nervous system go hand-in-hand in guiding us towards our alignment and manifestations - and how that often comes with feeling a deep sense of fear.  How a feeling of uneasiness or difficulty doesn’t meant that you’re not “healed enough,” it can actually be a sign that you’re challenging yourself and growing in a really beautiful way, and how Working on your nervous system allows you to move past the fear and ‘negative’ emotions to commit to the bigger plan of your life. Dominiece shared so many wonderful nuggets of wisdom with us in this episode, and I hope you're able to take away as much knowledge and inspiration as I did! About Dominiece: Dominiece Clifton is on a mission to guide others to find healing and to re-writing their narratives.  A student of the school of life, she is always learning, evolving, and shedding layers.  Dominiece is a spiritual guide and healing vessel, passionate about inspiring women to live heart-led lives.  As a yoga, meditation, and breathwork facilitator, she promotes an integrated approach to healing that prioritizes emotional well-being for the mind, body, and spirit. Today, Dominiece is the founder of Move And Still, Nourish Wellness Collective, host of The School of Healing Podcast, and author of Hold Space to Heal. Find Dominiece's Instagram here and find her book, podcast, her oracle deck, and more here! Black Sheep Experience Links: Download the FREE Bye-Bye Binary Thinking Workbook⁠ ⁠Book Self-Worth Coaching with Roshni ⁠Book A Tarot Reading with Roshni⁠ ⁠Black Sheep Experience Website⁠ ⁠BSE TikTok⁠ ⁠BSE Instagram --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/betigrewup/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/betigrewup/support

I am so excited for this episode because I brought my partner on the pod for the first time! In this episode we talked about relationship myths, why so much of what we're taught about relationships in media is fake, and how navigating a real, loving relationship will always get messy. Because I researched common relationship myths in society, many of these myths do touch on hetero stereotypes, but much of the advice we shared can be applied to LGBTQ+ relationships as well! We touched on: navigating hyper-independence as a black sheep and why you should feel comfortable needing your partner, being co-dependent vs. being dependent on your partner in a healthy way, the myth that if you're in a long-term relationship and you're not married, that you're not a "real" or valid relationship, why it's important to understand and value your partner's mental health overall and validate their mental health struggles, taking accountability in relationships, and how believing "men are trash" can be a tricky belief when you're actively dating and looking for a male partner. BTW - If you're struggling with believing a lot of the myths we shared in this episode, I highly recommend downloading my FREE PDF titled "Bye-Bye Binary Thinking!" This free workbook will walk you through the all-or-nothing beliefs that you hold, and you can tailor your journaling to the black-and-white beliefs you uphold around dating & relationships. Releasing your black-and-white thinking and creating more room for nuance will make your brain a much softer place to be. All Black Sheep Experience Links: FREE Bye-Bye Binary Thinking Workbook Self-Worth Coaching Tarot Readings Website TikTok Instagram --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/betigrewup/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/betigrewup/support

YOUR BLACK-AND-WHITE THINKING IS KEEPING YOU STAGNANT! Feeling like you won't date someone unless they're perfect, or that you'll get fired for making a single mistake at work, or that your friends hate you because they didn't show up in the way you expected are all examples of black-and-white thinking. This frame of mind holds you back from SO much in your life because you're projecting past experiences on future ones, and the projections are SO extreme (all-or-nothing) that you give up on your desires altogether. But this is NOT what we do around here!! Black Sheep have big goals, and we're only going to reach them if we leave the black-and-white thinking in the past. Download the FREE 'Bye Bye Binary Thinking' PDF! For self-worth coaching sessions, tarot readings, and content, visit www.blacksheepexperience.com/quick-links/ * SOURCES: https://psychcentral.com/health/all-or-nothing-thinking-examples https://www.healthyplace.com/blogs/traumaptsdblog/2019/1/finding-gray-in-black-and-white-thinking-in-complex-ptsd https://psychcentral.com/health/how-does-black-and-white-thinking-impact-us https://themighty.com/topic/mental-health/childhood-abuse-splitting-black-white-thinking/ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/betigrewup/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/betigrewup/support

Why do you hide your personality in public even though you know you have so much to offer the world? Why do we keep making excuses for our parents as if they have no control over their actions? Why do we think that we can just mold and tweak ourselves enough to earn love from our parents, even when it means sacrificing ourselves? These are a few of the questions I explore in this episode, "Your Toxic Parents Raised You On A Diet Of Shame."' If you enjoyed this episode, please don't forget to rate and review so we can reach more black sheep like you! Transform your self-worth: www.BlackSheepExperience.com Book a self-worth coaching session: https://www.blacksheepexperience.com/selfworthcoaching Book a tarot reading: https://www.blacksheepexperience.com/tarot-readings TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@blacksheepexperience.com Instagram: https://instagram.com/blacksheepexperience --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/betigrewup/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/betigrewup/support

In this episode, I'm recapping how the 'ugliest' parts of my year resulted in the highest self-worth I've ever had. I break down my year into three, tangible changes I made and share why self-worth has absolutely nothing to do with your external reality. * Becoming Enough is a podcast dedicated to teaching you how to liberate yourself from your limiting beliefs and worthiness wounds.  You’ll find discussions that validate your internal experience as a black sheep and dive deep into the journey of self-actualization and sovereignty.  Roshni, your host, wholeheartedly believes that high self-worth is your ticket to true liberation. If you want to regain your power, this podcast is for you.Ready to leave your low self-worth behind for good? Visit BlackSheepExperience.com to learn how you can work with Roshni one-on-one through self-worth coaching sessions or tarot readings and finally step into the most powerful and confident version of you. Click here for all other Black Sheep Experience resources. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/betigrewup/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/betigrewup/support

Relationships are mirrors of self-reflection. But relationships will never - nor do they have to - be perfect. In this episode, we’re exploring: What it means to have a good-enough relationship, The difference between expectations and standards with a partner, How to hold high self-worth within a relationship, And how expecting conflict within a relationship is key to thriving together. *(I also touch on Love is Blind episodes 1-4 with Jackie’s storyline specifically. There aren’t many details, but in case you want to avoid spoilers, skip from 11:45 - 12:50 minutes!)* For black sheep AND South-Asian women, relationships can be scary and intimidating. As black sheep, your experience of relationships is likely not one you want to repeat. And for many South-Asian womxn, our value in society is only seen through the lens of maintaining a relationship and family. These complicated dynamics make relationships a source of anxiety and an area where we often struggle to trust our inner knowing. My goal with this episode is to give you a soft place to land and nourish your growth. You’re doing better than you think. 💜 LINKS Book your first sessionBook a session (for returning clients)Review on Apple PodcastsSupport the Podcast (click ‘support’ on this page)BetiGrewUp WebsiteInstagram: @BetiGrewUpTikTok: @BetiGrewUp --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/betigrewup/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/betigrewup/support

This week I'm trying something different with a shorter episode! If you're listening on Spotify, I've included a poll for you to vote on longer vs. shorter episodes!  This episode is focused on how to pull yourself out of a comparison spiral. In the age of social media, it's impossible not to compare your life journey and timeline to others'. But that doesn't mean it's not damaging!  I'll walk you through: regulating your nervous system to help you out of flight-or-flight mode, regaining your personal power after a comparison spiral, journaling about what you can learn from your comparison envy, and how to start recovering your self-worth after a bout with comparison. I hope you enjoy the episode! Check below for links on how to find more content and to book a self-worth coaching session! **Please share any feedback about the podcast, your opinion on shorter episodes, or reach me regarding a payment plan / sliding scale for payments at hello@betigrewup.com! LINKS: Book your first session Book a session (for returning clients) Review on Apple Podcasts Support the Podcast (click ‘support’ on this page) BetiGrewUp Website Instagram: @BetiGrewUp TikTok: @BetiGrewUp --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/betigrewup/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/betigrewup/support

I am SO excited about this solo episode! As much as my podcast episodes cover general information about self-worth and how it affects you, I wanted to get more nitty-gritty and explain HOW to actually start doing the work. I developed an accessible, step-by-step process so you can start to shift your mindset at your own pace. I also created a companion workbook that you can print or download to accompany this podcast! Throughout the episode, I break down each part of the workbook and how it helps you heal your worthiness wounds. The best part of this workbook is that you can return to it time and time again to check in with your mindset and feel less stuck. Your self-worth journey will take you on waves of adding more of what you love into your life and then purging all that no longer belongs. These waves help you shift into your authentic self while releasing parts of the life you built when you felt unworthy. This episode focuses on how to actually do the work of shifting your mindset from feeling overwhelmed and unworthy to feeling good enough to focus on the next step forward (even if it’s imperfect.) Download the companion workbook here! LINKS: Book your first session Book a session (for returning clients) Review on Apple Podcasts Support the Podcast (click 'support' on this page) BetiGrewUp Website Instagram: @BetiGrewUp TikTok: @BetiGrewUp --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/betigrewup/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/betigrewup/support

Welcome to a brand new episode, season, and podcast name! The Is It Worth It? Podcast has rebranded to 'Becoming Enough' and I'm so excited to be back with more content you love! In honor of launching season two on Halloween, I'm sharing the 6 worst fears I've encountered on my self-worth journey. You'll hear me chat about the fear of: 1. Admitting how much my childhood damaged me, 2. Releasing my identity of being an overachiever/perfectionist, 3. Giving up my hyper-independence, 4. Releasing relationship anxiety, 5. Both failure and success (especially in business), and 6. Being behind in life. Your self-worth journey will take you on waves of adding more of what you love into your life and then purging all that no longer belongs. These waves help you shift into your authentic self while releasing parts of the life you built when you felt unworthy. This episode focuses on what I had to let go of to get closer to my authentic self and how that allowed me to start believing in my worth more than ever before. LINKS: Book your first session Book a session (for returning clients) Review on Apple Podcasts Support the Podcast BetiGrewUp Website Instagram: @BetiGrewUp TikTok: @BetiGrewUp --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/betigrewup/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/betigrewup/support

Work With Me: 1:1 THREE-MONTH COACHING PROGRAM INTRODUCTORY SELF-WORTH COACHING SESSION 1:1 SELF-WORTH COACHING SESSION 1:1 TAROT READING MINI TAROT READINGS NOT YOUR BETI: SELF-TRUST COURSE FOR SOUTH-ASIAN WOMXN SHOP MEDITATION BUNDLES AND WORKSHOPS Follow Me + Support The Podcast: ROSHNI'S STORY SUPPORT THE PODCAST GUEST INTERVIEW ON THE LIVING OPEN PODCAST JOIN MY EMAIL LIST INSTAGRAM TIKTOK FEATURED IN… Free Resources: EMPOWERING EMBODIMENT MEDITATION SELF-WORTH & PRODUCTIVITY DOWNLOAD RAISE YOUR SELF-WORTH DOWNLOAD CHILL OUT DOWNLOADABLE PDF DEFEAT SELF-SABOTAGE PDF --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/betigrewup/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/betigrewup/support

I felt called to record a full-length tarot reading for all the black sheep on Mother's Day. This holiday can definitely be triggering and we're swept under the rug. This is a time of year where we get told that our opinions are invalid and that we should 'get over the past' or 'overcome our feelings' in order to make our families (or even outsiders) happy. But this is a safe space for black sheep and there's no invalidating happening here. I hope you remember how special and loved you are. I hope you know how strong you have had to be. And I hope this inspires you to celebrate yourself. Mini-Tarot Readings: https://betigrewup.com/minireadings/ Full-Length Tarot Readings: https://betigrewup.com/selfworthtarot/ View & Book Services: https://betigrewup.com/work-with-me/ Learn about Self-Worth Coaching: https://betigrewup.com/ Read My Story: https://betigrewup.com/roshnis-story/ Instagram: @BetiGrewUp TikTok: @BetiGrewUp --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/betigrewup/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/betigrewup/support

Welcome to a new solo episode! This week we're talking about the Black Sheep Experience! I covered real psychological and sociological studies that have been done on those who identify as the black sheep of the family and the role that plays in our lives as teens and adults. I also discussed how your parents' actions contribute to distrust of others in your adult life, the impact that being a black sheep has on your mental health, why we as black sheep tend to feel unloved and unworthy, how we can embrace our journies as the black sheep and find joy and self-love through our experiences! I'm Not Asking Application Book a 1:1 Self-Worth Coaching Session Join the Waitlist for Not Your Beti (Self-Trust course for South-Asian women & femmes) Empowering Embodiment Meditation Learn more about Roshni's story Support the Podcast Guest Interview on the Living Open Podcast Instagram: @BetiGrewUp TikTok: @BetiGrewUp --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/betigrewup/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/betigrewup/support

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Welcome to another episode! This week I'm recapping lessons I've learned in 2021, so grab a cup of your coziest drink and let's reflect 🥰 2021 taught me how to: stop playing small & begging for my dreams embrace the fluidity in my personality, habits, and beliefs set boundaries with my family relish in my inner rebellious teenager revamp my money mindset become a conduit for abundance recognize and start unpacking my religious trauma  celebrate my nonbinary identity I hope you enjoy the episode! Find all the links I mentioned below: Not Your Beti Waitlist (Self-Trust Course for South-Asian Womxn & Femmes): https://betigrewup.com/how-to-trust-yourself-ecourse/ I'm Not Asking Application: https://betigrewup.com/im-not-asking/ Single-Session Self-Worth Coaching: https://calendly.com/betigrewup Single-Session Tarot Reading: https://calendly.com/betigrewup Empowering Embodiment Meditation: https://betigrewup.sellfy.store/ BetiGrewUp on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/betigrewup/ BetiGrewUp on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@betigrewup?lang=en Living Open Podcast: https://www.living-open.com/blog/roshni-patel --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/betigrewup/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/betigrewup/support