Men, Sex, and Pleasure with Cam Fraser

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, Cam chats with Freya, a sex coach and educator and host of The Labia Lounge. They discuss her “Find Freya a Fella” hybrid PR/social experiment aimed at finding a partner while documenting modern dating frustrations like app fatigue, micro-rejections, loneliness, and Australia’s “nonchalance” about showing interest. Boycotting apps, she attends Melbourne singles events and practices meeting people “in the wild” by initiating conversations, being more approachable, and building community to counter scarcity mindset. They explore ethical “practice” in approaching strangers, attunement to cues, reducing pressure by reframing dates, and her idea for a “Mates and Dates” mixer. Freya shares mixed results—some dates but no long-term match—plus stigma women face for openly wanting commitment, and where to follow the campaign online.Key points:07:08 Why Dating Feels Broken11:43 Meeting People Offline15:39 Mindset And Scarcity18:09 Approaching With Respect26:43 Results And Stigma31:21 What Makes A Good Date38:18 Effort, Nonchalance, and Clarity51:23 Where To Follow Along

Is OnlyFans Social Media? Intimacy, Ethics, and On this episode of #mensexpleasure, Cam interviews Monash University research fellow Emily van der Nagel about her research and book on OnlyFans, focusing on media literacy, platform design, and adult content creation. They discuss the centrality of direct messages for intimacy, monetisation, risks of deception, and parasocial harm. They address creator agency, boundary-setting, audience pressure, demographic uncertainty due to platform secrecy, and how AI may reshape authenticity expectations, disclosure, and trust.Key points:01:33 Is OnlyFans Social Media?04:58 Creator Versus Subscriber06:24 DMs And Money08:25 Chatbots And Trust24:53 Ethical Porn Debate29:09 Leaks And Consent33:30 Audience Pressure40:15 AI And The Future

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, Cam chats with Rae Szereszewski, a sexual health educator and relationship coach, to discuss sexual choking/strangulation, noting there is no fully safe way but there are harm-reduction approaches and a need for teen education beyond pregnancy/STIs given porn influence. Rae reframes STI education as “not if, but when,” focuses on non-stigmatizing disclosure and communication, advocates “team disclosure." They also cover sex-positive space etiquette, consent as a spectrum, and aligning words and actions with better check-ins.Key Points:08:12 Why Kink Feels Good16:32 Adult Sex Ed on STIs29:05 Free Testing Access35:11 Kink Scene Etiquette40:51 Consent Beyond Asking

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, we take a trip down memory lane as Cam shares a presentation he gave at Camp Lovehoney back in 2020. He explains how toys and lube can support sexual health and pleasure, including using masturbators to help premature ejaculation and erectile difficulties by retraining stroke patterns and reducing friction, and using edging to prolong arousal. Cam highlights prostate play as a pathway to non-ejaculatory prostate orgasms, multi-orgasmic potential, and greater empathy as a penetrative partner, citing survey findings that partners of men who’ve explored anal penetration report higher satisfaction. He shares Lovehoney study stats on toy use and reviews products including a thrusting masturbator with dirty-talk audio, a vibrating couples ring, and a remote-controlled prostate massager, plus previews upcoming BlowMotion masturbators and answers audience questions.Key points:06:56 Toys For Performance And Control11:10 Edging And Prostate Orgasms19:18 Thrusting Masturbator Demo24:54 Couples Vibrating Ring28:27 Remote Prostate Massager Review30:16 New BlowMotion Teaser32:55 Lube And Toy Care Basics33:32 Audience Q&A

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, Cam discusses how medicine, culture, and commerce intersect in social-media health narratives with Emma Grundtvig Gram, PhD. They unpack Emma's research focusing on “low T” content on TikTok and Instagram. She explains her content-analysis study examining how influencers promote testosterone testing and treatment through narratives rather than evidence, often linking testosterone to confidence, dominance, success, muscles, sexual performance, leadership, and happiness while framing ordinary experiences (fatigue, stress, weight gain, stalled gym progress, sexual fluctuations) as signs of deficiency. The conversation covers regressive gender ideas, disparagement of femininity, manosphere links, optimisation/T-maxing pressures, appeals to fear of aging and masculinity loss, and concerns about young men as long-term consumers.Key Points:03:07 Why Study "Low T"08:05 Disease Mongering Explained16:36 Sexuality Framed As Deficiency27:46 The Optimisation Trap37:30 Homosocial And Homoerotic Ads41:18 Parasocial Trust And Algorithms44:33 Healthier Testosterone Talk