PSR Podcast

What does "waking up" look like for a husband who is recovering from sexual sin habits? And how can this waking up cause him to respond radically different to his wife and marriage? In this episode, we get to share a "thank you" letter that a repentant husband wrote to his wife, and what his words can reveal about the kinds of changes that need to happen in a husband if restoration is even to be possible.Excerpt from the letter:"Thank you for fighting for me, for yourself, for us. Even today you are still trying to save me. I fought you, I fought God, I fought myself. I hurt me, I hurt you, I hurt the heart of God. Through it all, you never stopped fighting for me. How can I thank you?"For the full text of the letter, go to TYLetter.PureSexRadio.com. Resources for Men: Men.Bebroken.comResources for Wives: WivesCare.Bebroken.com

All of us have a broken emotional system. There are many factors that contribute to such brokenness. And friends and family might recognize this brokenness, but how can they help you see this brokenness for yourself? In this episode, we offer specific insights and practical tools to help your loved ones see their brokenness so that greater intimacy and emotional health can result. We hope this conversation will open new chapters of emotional intimacy in your most valued relationships.Book: Untangling Emotions by Groves and Smith

Register for Xposed Conference!When: THIS Saturday, February 24th (join in person or online)Xposed is an annual event to help pastors, ministry leaders, counselors, and individuals navigate sensitive sexual issues and equip them to care for their communities regarding God’s design for sex.Register Online (use coupon code XP24-BBM for discount)-----------Many men struggle deeply with their godly responsibilities of leadership, especially in the home, because they aren’t even managing themselves very well. In this episode, Stephen brings a letter from a leader that is meant to be representative of most men who struggle with this internal conflict of leadership calling and poor self-management. This letter addresses issues like: Dividedness and hypocrisyWearing masks to cover fear and shamePoor or non-existent emotional skillsWeariness and hopelessnessFor any man who can relate to what is shared in this letter, there is hope for transformation. You can become the man and leader God designed you to be. For helpful resources to enhance your godly manhood and marriage skills, visit DoctorMarriage.org.More Resources:Gateway to Freedom 3-day intensive49 Days of Growth by Stephen Cervantes*Daily Thoughts from Doctor MarriageRelated Podcasts:Helping Men Navigate Between Logic and EmotionA 7 Day Challenge for Emotional GrowthAre You Open or Closed to Emotional Growth*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.

Today’s guest is Matt Wenger, the clinical director of Boulder Recovery in Boulder, Colorado. Matt has a heart for helping men overcome all kinds of unwanted sexual behaviors by addressing the whole man, including trauma from his past. In today’s episode, we talk about recovery as a means and environment for addressing all aspects of a man: his emotions, spirit, intellect, and body. True recovery is far more than just stopping negative behaviors; it is addressing the overall person to affect healthy personal growth and loving relationships. Matt shares common elements that often lead a man toward sexually compulsive behaviors and how to heal and discover a thriving life of freedom and joy. To learn more about Matt and their programs and resources, visit BoulderRecovery.com.More Resources:Sexual Integrity Webinar for MenMen.Bebroken.com40 Days of Purity Online CourseRelated Podcasts:Why Men Struggle to LoveOvercoming Shame and Embracing Your True IdentityRecovery by the Power of God's Word----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries.Year-End Matching Gift Opportunity!Now through December 31, 2025 your gift will be DOUBLED, up to $71,500! Please help us reach this match in order to keep all our programs and services running strong into the New Year.Partner with us at BeBroken.org/donate.Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, I sit down with my good friend and colleague Dr. Stephen Cervantes—Doctor Marriage—to explore the vital roles of empathy, attunement, and responsiveness in relationships. We share personal stories and practical tips for husbands who want to connect more deeply with their wives. Dr. Cervantes explains how empathy means “practicing sadness with someone,” and we discuss how attunement and responsiveness help build emotional closeness. Whether you’re new to these skills or looking to grow, this conversation offers encouragement and real-life tools for nurturing a more compassionate, Christ-centered marriage.To get daily insights from Stephen, visit DoctorMarriage.org. Topics Covered in this Episode:Importance of empathy, attunement, and responsiveness in marriage counseling.Definition of empathy as "practicing sadness with someone" and its role in emotional connection.The significance of being present with a partner during their emotional struggles.Clarification of empathy in a Christian context, equating it with compassion.The necessity of having the right emotional tools for genuine connection in relationships.The concept of attunement as matching a partner's mood and emotional state.The role of nonverbal communication in attunement and emotional connection.The importance of responsiveness after attuning to a partner's emotional state.The impact of emotional presence on healing and deeper connection in relationships.The ongoing nature of learning and practicing these skills for emotional growth in marriage.More Resources:Daily Thoughts from Doctor MarriageBuilding True Intimacy* by Drake and RaabsmithHelp Her Heal* by Carol J. SheetsRelated Podcasts:Early Recovery Couples Empathy ModelEmotional Insights for MenThe Three Phases of Couples Recovery*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn referral fees on purchases through this link.----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsFollow us on our Vimeo Channel.

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries.Year-End Matching Gift Opportunity!Now through December 31, 2025 your gift will be DOUBLED, up to $71,500! Please help us reach this match in order to keep all our programs and services running strong into the New Year.Partner with us at BeBroken.org/donate.Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, our guest is Amber Albee Swenson—mom, Bible teacher, and author—to talk about her book, The Key to Confidence. Amber shares her personal journey from shame and brokenness to finding true confidence in Christ. We discuss the importance of understanding our identity as God’s children, the power of honest confession, and the vital role of prayer and community in healing. Amber’s transparency and wisdom offer hope for anyone struggling with feeling “not enough.” Join us for a raw, real, and uplifting conversation about grace, faith, and walking confidently in God’s love.To learn more about Amber and her book, visit AmberAlbeeSwenson.org. Topics Covered in this Episode:Amber Albee Swenson's personal journey and struggles with shame and sexual brokenness.The role of faith and identity in overcoming feelings of inadequacy.The distinction between self-confidence and confidence in God.The importance of understanding one's identity as a child of God.The significance of prayer in building confidence and healing.The concept of confession and its role in breaking the power of shame.The idea that past mistakes do not define one's identity in Christ.The transformative power of communal prayer and support within the Christian community.The focus of Amber's book as a spiritual resource rather than a self-help guide.Encouragement to trust in God's faithfulness and power, regardless of personal limitations.More Resources:The Key to Confidence* by Amber Albee SwensonGetting Past the Past* by Amber Albee SwensonThe Bondage Breaker* by Neil T. AndersonRelated Podcasts:PSR Podcast Bundle: Overcoming ShameYour True Identity: The Journey from Head Knowledge to Heart Belief in ChristHow to Embrace Jesus-Centered Sexuality in a Broken World*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn referral fees on purchases through this link.----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsFollow us on our Vimeo Channel.

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries.Year-End Matching Gift Opportunity!Now through December 31, 2025 your gift will be DOUBLED, up to $71,500! Please help us reach this match in order to keep all our programs and services running strong into the New Year.Partner with us at BeBroken.org/donate.Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, I sit down with Sean Maney, director of First Light in St. Louis, to discuss sexual recovery ministry. Sean shares how First Light supports men and women struggling with compulsive sexual behavior through community, therapy, and discipleship. We then explore the importance of holistic healing and transformation, the cultural normalization of pornography, and how the church’s response has changed over the years. Sean offers hope and encouragement for anyone feeling stuck or ashamed, reminding us that real transformation is possible through grace, community, and a multi-dimensional approach to recovery.To learn more about Sean and his ministry, visit FirstLightStLouis.org. Topics Covered in this Episode:Overview of First Light, a sexual discipleship ministry in St. Louis.Comprehensive recovery programs for individuals struggling with compulsive sexual behavior.Importance of community support and accountability in recovery.Role of therapy and counseling in addressing deeper emotional wounds.Discussion on the normalization of pornography in society and its impact on individuals and the church.Cultural shifts in attitudes towards pornography over the past 15 years.The progression of sexual behaviors from pornography to more severe actions.The need for a multi-dimensional recovery approach combining groups, counseling, and intensive care.Challenges faced by the church in addressing sexual brokenness and providing adequate support.Encouragement for individuals struggling with sexual issues to seek help and embrace community.More Resources:Help for MenHelp for WivesHelp for Church LeadersRelated Podcasts:Can the Church Be a Safe Place for Healing and Transformation?Going Deeper: How Your Inner Child Impacts Your Sexual AddictionThe Power of Vulnerability: How Group Support Transformed Mike's Recovery Journey----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsFollow us on our Vimeo Channel.

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries.Year-End Matching Gift Opportunity!Now through December 31, 2025 your gift will be DOUBLED, up to $71,500! Please help us reach this match in order to keep all our programs and services running strong into the New Year.Partner with us at BeBroken.org/donate.Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, I sit down with Drew Boa to discuss his new book, Outgrow Porn: Find Lasting Freedom Without Fighting an Exhausting Battle. Drew shares his personal journey and explains why traditional purity culture and military-style approaches often fall short. We then explore his compassionate, holistic method that focuses on healing childhood wounds, understanding emotional triggers, and embracing inner child work. Drew encourages viewing relapses as feedback, not failure, and highlights the importance of grace and self-compassion in recovery. If you’re a man seeking hope and lasting change, this conversation offers fresh insight and encouragement.To get the book, visit OutgrowPorn.com. To learn more about Drew and his ministry, visit HusbandMaterial.com.Topics Covered in this Episode:Discussion of pornography addiction, particularly among men.Critique of traditional purity culture and its limitations.Introduction of the "outgrow porn" approach to recovery.Emphasis on healing childhood wounds and inner child work.Exploration of core emotional triggers such as fear, shame, and loss.Importance of viewing relapses as feedback rather than failure.Promotion of a growth mindset in the recovery process.Connection between triggers and childhood experiences.The role of grace and self-compassion in recovery.Resources and support available through Husband Material Ministries.More Resources:Outgrow Porn* by Drew BoaHusband Material ResourcesGateway to Freedom 3-Day Intensive for MenRelated Podcasts:Outgrowing the Porn PacifierNavigating the 3 Stages of Recovery from Porn AddictionThe Key to Real and Lasting Freedom from Porn*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn referral fees on purchases through this link.----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsFollow us on our Vimeo Channel.

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Year-End Matching Gift Opportunity!Now through December 31, 2025 your gift will be DOUBLED, up to $71,500! Please help us reach this match in order to keep all our programs and services running strong into the New Year. Partner with us at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, I sit down with returning guest Ashley Jameson, a sex educator and author of the new book "Girl Talk." We dive into why it’s so important for moms to have honest, ongoing conversations with their daughters about sex, even when it feels awkward or scary. Ashley shares personal stories, up-to-date research, and practical tips for starting these talks early, addressing common fears, and becoming a safe, trusted source for your kids—especially as they face pressures from peers, social media, and early exposure to pornography. If you’re a mom of a daughter, you won’t want to miss this conversation.For more info on Ashley and the book, go to PureDesire.org. Topics Covered in this Episode:Importance of open communication between mothers and daughters about sexuality.Challenges and fears mothers face when discussing sex with their daughters.The risks of not addressing sexual topics early in a child's life.Insights from personal experiences and research on youth exposure to pornography.The role of parents as primary sources of information regarding sexual topics.The significance of starting conversations about sex at a young age.The impact of societal pressures and media on children's understanding of sexuality.Strategies for creating a safe environment for discussions about sex.The need for resources like the book "Girl Talk" to guide these conversations.The universal nature of curiosity and struggles related to sexuality among youth.More Resources:Girl Talk* by Ashley JamesonCritical Conversations FREE online course7 Tips for Parents (free download in English and Spanish)Related Podcasts:Helping Your Kids Apply the Gospel to Sex and SexualityParenting in a Hypersexualized and Identity Confused CultureHelping the Next Generation Navigate Healthy Relationships*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn referral fees on purchases through this link.----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsFollow us on our Vimeo Channel.

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, I sit down with Stephen Cervantes to explore why so many of us feel stuck in our personal growth, especially men facing addiction and relational struggles. We share honest stories about excuses, limiting beliefs, and the deep fears that hold us back—like failure, rejection, and not feeling good enough. Together, we unpack how faith, hope, and community can help us move forward, break old cycles, and embrace the growth God has for us. We were created for “abundant life” and this means we all need a growth mission throughout life.To get daily insights from Stephen Cervantes, visit DoctorMarriage.org. Topics Covered in this Episode:Theme of personal growth and overcoming feelings of being "stuck"Emotional, spiritual, and relational growth, particularly for men in recoveryCommon barriers to growth, including self-doubt, comparison, overwhelm, and confusionThe role of personality and perspective in personal developmentConnection between past experiences and current strugglesThe significance of community and accountability in the growth processExploration of limiting beliefs and excuses that hinder progressDiscussion of core fears that contribute to feeling stuck, such as fear of failure, rejection, and abandonmentEncouragement to embrace growth through curiosity, faith, and taking action despite discomfortMore Resources:49 Days of Growth* by Stephen CervantesEmotionally Healthy Spirituality* by Peter ScazzeroPersonal Ministry ConsultationRelated Podcasts:PSR Bundle for Men: Emotional GrowthHow to Turn Emotional Triggers Into Opportunities for GrowthFor Men Who Want to Finish Strong*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn referral fees on purchases through this link.----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsFollow us on our Vimeo Channel.

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, I reconnect with KathyGrace Duncan, who briefly shares her remarkable journey of living as a man for 11 years before finding transformation and true identity in Christ. The bulk of our conversation focuses on what it means to move from “head knowledge” of identity in Christ to “heart belief,” exploring how God renews our minds and hearts through Scripture, prayer, and community. KathyGrace offers practical wisdom on embracing our true identity in Christ, overcoming old patterns, and living as those who are permanently loved by God. It’s an honest, hope-filled conversation about ongoing transformation and the freedom found in God’s love.For more info on KathyGrace and navigating identity issues, visit PortlandFellowship.com and ChangedMovement.com. Topics Covered in this Episode:Testimony of living as a man for 11 years despite being biologically female.Transformation and redemption through faith in Jesus Christ.Involvement in ministry work, particularly in women's and transgender ministry.Exploration of identity in Christ and its cultural and spiritual significance.Biblical perspectives on identity, referencing scriptures from 1 Peter, Ephesians, Galatians, and Romans.Concepts of the "old man" and the "new man" in relation to personal transformation.The process of renewing the mind and its importance in spiritual growth.Distinction between intellectual knowledge and heartfelt belief in God’s truth.The role of prayer and community in facilitating ongoing transformation.Encouragement to embrace one's identity in Christ and live out that truth.More Resources:Identity: What Foundation Are You Building On?* by John FortIdentity in Christ* by Neil T. AndersonLove Thy Body* by Nancy PearceyRelated Podcasts:Embracing God's Image in GenderChanged: The Amazing Transformation of a Former Lesbian PastorOvercoming Shame and Embracing Your True Identity*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn referral fees on purchases through this link.----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsFollow us on our Vimeo Channel.

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, I welcome back Matthew  and Joanna Raabsmith to dive into their “Three Phases of Couple Recovery” model for healing from sexual addiction and betrayal trauma. Together, we explore the Recovery, Restoration, and Renewal phases—discussing how couples can move from crisis and individual healing to rebuilding trust, intimacy, and shared purpose. Joanna and Matthew share practical tips, emphasize the importance of trauma-informed support, and encourage patience with the non-linear journey of recovery. Whether you’re just starting in recovery or seeking restoration and renewal for your relationship, their insights offer hope and guidance for every step of the process.To learn more about Matthew and Joanna and their marriage resources, visit RaabsmithTeam.com. Topics Covered in this Episode:The three phases of couple recovery: Recovery, Restoration, and Renewal.The Recovery phase focuses on individual healing and establishing safety after betrayal or addiction.The importance of trauma-informed support during the Recovery phase.The emotional intensity and relational work involved in the Restoration phase.The concept of "couple grieving" as a unified process for both partners.The role of forgiveness in the Restoration phase and its timing.The ongoing nature of the Restoration phase and the potential for revisiting earlier work.The Renewal phase as an opportunity to build a new relationship and shared purpose.The significance of designing rituals of connection and exploring shared dreams in the Renewal phase.The non-linear nature of recovery, emphasizing patience and awareness throughout the process.Read Blog Post: The Three Phases of Couples Recovery - and What Kind of Help You Need in EachMore Resources:Renewing Us Couples Retreat (Nov 14-16)Couples and Individual CoachingCouples Group ProgramRelated Podcasts:Rebuilding a Healthy Marriage After BetrayalThe Role of Boundaries in Marriage RestorationHelping Couples Walk the Path of Restoration After Sexual Betrayal----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsFollow us on our Vimeo Channel.

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Juli Slattery to talk about sexual discipleship in parenting. Juli shares insights from her new book, "Surrendered Sexuality," and explains how sexual discipleship is an ongoing, grace-filled journey—much deeper than traditional sex education. We discuss the unique role parents play in shaping their kids’ understanding of sexuality, the importance of modeling both truth and grace, and how surrender, not perfection, is the goal. Juli encourages parents to embrace their own growth and trust God’s grace in the process. It’s a hopeful, practical conversation for every parent.To learn more about Juli and get her resources, visit AuthenticIntimacy.com.Topics Covered in this Episode:Definition and distinction between sexual discipleship and sex education.The role of parents as primary influencers in their children's understanding of sexuality.Importance of integrating biblical truth and grace in parenting.Goals of parenting from a biblical perspective, including passing on a godly heritage.The significance of daily life moments in teaching children about sexuality.The impact of cultural views on sexuality and the need for a biblical worldview.The concept of surrender in the context of sexual discipleship and parenting.The necessity for parents to engage in their own sexual discipleship journey.The importance of transparency and humility in parenting.Resources available for parents to support their journey in sexual discipleship.More Resources:Surrendered Sexuality* by Dr. Juli SlatteryRethinking Sexuality* by Dr. Juli SlatteryCritical Conversations (FREE online course)Related Podcasts:What is Sexual Discipleship?The Sex Talk You Never GotParenting in a Hypersexualized and Identity-Confused Culture*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn referral fees on purchases through this link.----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsFollow us on our Vimeo Channel.

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Stephen Cervantes to talk about the lifelong journey of emotional growth, especially for men. We introduce a practical tool—the phrase, “The God in me is bigger than the fear in you”—to help you stay centered and respond thoughtfully when facing criticism or negativity. We explore how compassion and faith can transform tough interactions, and encourage you to make this simple tool a habit for deeper emotional growth. Remember, you’re not alone on this journey. We’re here to support you as we all grow stronger and more resilient, together.For daily insights from Stephen, visit DoctorMarriage.org.Topics Covered in this Episode:Emotional growth as a lifelong journey, particularly for men.The significance of practical tools for handling criticism and negativity.Introduction of the phrase: "The God in me is bigger than the fear in you" as an emotional growth tool.The importance of centering oneself and regulating emotions in challenging situations.Recognizing fear as a root cause of negative behavior in others.Encouraging compassion over combativeness when faced with attacks.Application of the emotional growth tool in various scenarios of criticism and insults.The effectiveness of the phrase as an internal statement rather than a verbal response.The role of faith in managing difficult interactions and emotional responses.Building a habit of emotional regulation through repetition of the phrase.More Resources:Emotionally Healthy Spirituality* by Peter ScazzeroSeven Desires* by Mark & Debra LaaserFind a CounselorRelated Podcasts:50 Things to Do When Your Fear Gets TriggeredHow to Learn (and Respond to) Your Fear SystemUnoffendable: How Your Response to Criticism Affects Your Emotional Maturity*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn referral fees on purchases through this link.----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsFollow us on our Vimeo Channel.

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, I sit down with Garrett Kell, pastor and author of Pure in Heart: Sexual Sin and the Promises of God. Garrett opens up about his journey from struggling with sexual sin—even as a pastor—to finding freedom through confession, restoration, and God’s grace. We discuss the biblical meaning of purity, the importance of honesty and community, and practical ways to pursue God’s pleasures over fleeting temptations. Garrett’s story is honest and hope-filled, reminding us that real change is possible when we rely on Christ and walk in the light together.You can get a copy of Garrett’s book, in English, Spanish, or Thai, at Crossway.org or Amazon.com*.Topics Covered in this Episode:Personal journey of faith and struggles with sexual sin, including pornography.The process of confession, restoration, and ministry in pastoral leadership.Importance of honesty and transparency in overcoming sexual sin.Biblical foundation of purity and its definition as a heart orientation.Distinction between abstaining from sin and actively pursuing God.Practical examples for pursuing God's pleasures in daily life.The role of accountability and faith in God's promises.Understanding God's design for sex and its significance in marriage.Identifying and combating the enemies of purity: the flesh, the world, and the devil.The connection between identity in Christ and living a life of purity.More Resources:Pure in Heart: Sexual Sin and the Promises of God* by Garrett KellHelp for MenHelp for WomenRelated Podcasts:Reframing How the Church Views Sexual PurityFrom Porn Pastor to Pure DesireThe Heart Cry of an Old Saint: I Want to Be Clean!*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn referral fees on purchases through this link.----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsFollow us on our Vimeo Channel.

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, I sit down with Emmanuel and Samridh, two amazing ministry leaders from India, to talk about their personal journeys of overcoming pornography addiction and how they now help pastors and young church leaders find freedom. We discuss the unique cultural challenges of shame and secrecy around sexuality in India, and how their Celebrate Freedom seminar, which is based on our Gateway to Freedom intensive for men, is breaking new ground by creating safe, supportive spaces for honest conversation and healing. Emmanuel and Samridh share practical insights, stories of hope, and invite anyone struggling to reach out for support and community.To connect with Emmanuel and Samridh, visit their YouTube channel @unaddressed.podcast or Instagram @unaddressed.crew. Topics Covered in this Episode:Personal stories of struggle with pornography addiction among ministry leaders.The cultural challenges of discussing sexuality and pornography in India, including shame and honor dynamics.The lack of practical counseling and support for pastors dealing with sexual sin.The importance of creating safe spaces for open discussions about struggles with pornography.The adaptation of recovery programs to fit the Indian cultural context, including the use of personal stories and relevant examples.The role of community and accountability in the recovery process.The impact of societal expectations on pastors' willingness to admit struggles.The need for ongoing support and follow-up after initial recovery programs.The significance of addressing both male and female perspectives in discussions about pornography and sexual exploitation.The message of hope and encouragement for those struggling with addiction, emphasizing connection and transparency.More Resources:Gateway to Freedom 3-day intensive for men40 Days of Purity for Men online course40 Days of Purity for Women online courseRelated Podcasts:Restoring Broken Pastors for Kingdom UseNavigating the 3 Stages of Recovery from Porn AddictionCan the Church Be a Safe Place for Healing and Transformation?----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsFollow us on our Vimeo Channel.

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, I welcome back Vern Tompke to discuss the evolving challenges men face in recovering from pornography addiction. We dive into this concept of “edging”—using social media  or other kinds of media for arousal without fully acting out—and how today’s digital landscape complicates recovery. Vern shares his personal journey, practical strategies, and the importance of daily connection and removing triggers. Together, we explore the biological, emotional, and spiritual sides of addiction, emphasizing that true recovery isn’t just about avoidance, but about pursuing a richer, more connected life.To learn more about Vern and the resources he has, visit BandofBrothers.care.Topics Covered in this Episode:The concept of "edging" in relation to pornography addiction and recovery.Vern Tompke's personal journey with pornography addiction and his transition into helping others.The impact of social media platforms on recovery and the new challenges they present.The biological, emotional, and spiritual dimensions of addiction and recovery.The importance of daily connection and accountability in the recovery process.The distinction between "red," "yellow," and "green" behaviors in the context of recovery.The role of dopamine and intermittent reinforcement in addiction and recovery.The necessity of replacing unhealthy behaviors with positive activities.The misconception that recovery is solely about avoiding pornography.The long-term journey of recovery and the importance of pursuing a fulfilling life beyond addiction.More Resources:Finding Traction CourseFinding Traction PodcastIntegrity Webinar for MenRelated Podcasts:Navigating the Three Stages of Recovery from Porn AddictionThe Stopwatch Acting Out CycleA 3-Year Roadmap of Recovery and Emotional Growth----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsFollow us on our Vimeo Channel.

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, I welcome back Tammy Gustafson, a licensed counselor and betrayal trauma coach, to explore two really tough situations wives face after sexual betrayal: the “roommate scenario,” where the husband isn’t working on recovery, and “incomplete recovery,” where progress is inconsistent. Tammy shares heartfelt advice on setting boundaries, focusing on self-care, and shifting attention from the husband’s actions to the wife’s own healing. We discuss the importance of deep character change, not just behavior, and offer practical steps for finding support and reclaiming joy. If you can resonate with either (or both) of these scenarios, we want you to know that healing and thriving are possible, even in the midst of these challenging recovery circumstances.To learn more about Tammy and her resources, visit BetrayalHealing.com. Topics Covered in this Episode:Discussion of the "roommate scenario" where a wife remains in a marriage despite her husband's lack of commitment to recovery.Emotional challenges faced by wives in limbo due to financial dependence, children, or personal beliefs against divorce.Importance of establishing healthy boundaries and focusing on self-care for emotional well-being.The concept of "incomplete recovery," where the husband shows some effort but remains inconsistent, causing confusion and pain for the wife.The emotional toll of navigating uncertainty and mixed signals in the recovery process.Distinction between sobriety and deeper character transformation necessary for true healing.Encouragement for wives to set high expectations for their husband's recovery, looking for genuine changes in behavior and character.The role of curiosity and new language from husbands as indicators of real progress in recovery.Practical advice for wives on maintaining clarity, protecting their hearts, and seeking support from safe individuals.Resources and support available for women dealing with betrayal and navigating their healing journey.More Resources:Betrayal Healing Coaching with TammyWives Care Groups for Betrayal Trauma HealingBasics Webinar for WivesRelated Podcasts:The Need for Safety in Betrayal Trauma HealingIdentifying and Meeting Needs in a Betrayed WifeThe Recovery Process for Couples----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsFollow us on our Vimeo Channel.

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!----------In today’s episode, we welcome back Karla Downing for an insightful conversation about healing relationships. Together, we dive into practical ways couples can improve communication, rebuild intimacy, and navigate challenges like addiction and dysfunctional patterns. Karla shares wisdom on speaking the truth in love, managing emotions, and fostering empathy and curiosity. We discuss the importance of patience, seeking outside support, and grounding our efforts in grace and compassion. Whether you’re facing tough seasons or just want to grow closer, this episode offers hope, encouragement, and actionable steps for building a healthier, more connected relationship.To learn more about Karla and her resources, visit ChangeMyRelationship.com.Topics Covered in this Episode:Practical advice for couples facing relational strugglesImportance of communication in building intimacyManaging emotions and maintaining patience during healingSpeaking the truth in love and expressing personal truthsChallenges such as defensiveness and reactivity in communicationRole of mutual curiosity and understanding between partnersEmotional maturity and its impact on relationship dynamicsStrategies for effective communication and conflict resolutionThe significance of seeking outside help and supportThe process of healing and restoration in relationships affected by addiction and dysfunctionMore Resources:Nine Keys to Successful Marital Conflict ResolutionWhen Love Hurts: 10 Principles to Transform Difficult RelationshipsSpeaking the Truth in LoveRelated Podcasts:Eight Practical Steps of ForgivenessIntimacy in Marriage: Why Being Fully Known and Loved MattersWorking Through Emotional Disconnection in Marriage----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsFollow us on our Vimeo Channel.

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, Dr. Steven Cervantes and I explore the lifelong mission of personal growth, blending both spiritual and emotional development. We discuss how a vibrant relationship with God brings peace, rest, and joy, and why emotional health is just as vital as spiritual growth. Together, we unpack the impact of childhood wounds, the roles we play to cope, and the importance of self-care. Our conversation is honest and encouraging, inviting you to embrace growth as a lifelong journey marked by grace, healing, and authentic connection with God and others.For daily insights from Stephen, visit DoctorMarriage.org. Topics Covered in this Episode: Exploration of the concept of "mission" in personal growth, integrating spiritual and emotional development.Importance of a relational connection with God over rigid religious structures.Challenges of maintaining spiritual and emotional health and their interconnectedness.The impact of loneliness in modern society and the role of faith communities in fostering connection.Definition of a spiritual mission rooted in faith, teachings of Jesus, and community participation.Recognition of emotional struggles that can undermine spiritual commitments.The idea of a "growth mission" as a continuous journey rather than a fixed goal.Discussion of emotional wounds from childhood and their impact on present life.Examination of coping mechanisms and roles that may hinder genuine emotional growth.Emphasis on the importance of self-love and care as foundational to loving others and spiritual growth.More Resources:49 Days of Growth: Growing in Emotional Skills* by Dr. Stephen CervantesGateway to Freedom 3-Day Intensive WorkshopGrace-Based Recovery Online Study GroupsRelated Podcasts:What Can Stunt Your Emotional Growth Mission?Why Must I Learn Me?Men's Emotional Self-Awareness Test*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn referral fees on purchases through this link.----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsFollow us on our Vimeo Channel.