Single Mother Survival Guide

Having my son Sebastian this year has brought back so many memories of when my daughter was a baby, and it’s been surprisingly triggering at times. By the time she was five months old, I had already split from her dad, moved interstate, and was in the thick of setting up a new life as a single mum. Reflecting on that time in my life now, with the hindsight of experience, has left me wondering: what would I do differently if I were starting my single mum journey again? In this episode, I share five things I would approach in a new way with the hope that my lessons can help you.  Links mentioned in the episode:  Download the E-book, I'm A Single Mum... Now What? - HERE Click HERE to learn more about the Trauma coaching and support group program.  Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE.  Click HERE to join the free Facebook Group, The Single Mother Survival Guide Support Forum.  Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE. To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com. Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too. Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

In this week’s episode, I’m bringing you Part 2 of my conversation with Annie, a single mum who has walked through immense challenges and come out stronger. In this instalment, Annie opens up about life as a single mum and the reinvention of herself, including the surgery that transformed her quality of life and the importance of surrounding herself with the right people. We talk about the struggles and shifts in self-image, and the unexpected gift of growth that single motherhood can bring. Annie also shares the next chapter of her journey - finding new love! Her story is an inspiring reminder that even after deep pain, there is hope, healing, and the possibility of new beginnings. Links mentioned in the episode:  Download the E-book, I'm A Single Mum... Now What? - HERE Click HERE to learn more about the Trauma coaching and support group program.  Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE.  Click HERE to join the free Facebook Group, The Single Mother Survival Guide Support Forum.  Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE. To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com. Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too. Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

This week, I’m sharing Part 1 of my powerful interview with Annie, a single mum who courageously opens up about her journey. Annie has faced more than her fair share of challenges. Today, she stands as a thriving, empowered woman who has reclaimed her voice and her personal power. In this episode, Annie and I talk about: How she met her ex Navigating difficult times together Coping with his alcoholism Discovering he was gay and the grief that followed Living with the uncertainty around his sexuality His lack of support for their children Facing the ongoing impact of emotional and financial abuse It’s a story of strength, survival, and finding yourself again after deep hurt. Stay tuned for Part 2 of Annie’s journey, coming next week. **Please note this episode and topic may act as a trigger for some people, and this episode is unsuitable to listen to within earshot of children.** Links mentioned in the episode:  Download the E-book, I'm A Single Mum... Now What? - HERE Click HERE to learn more about the Trauma coaching and support group program.  Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE.  Click HERE to join the free Facebook Group, The Single Mother Survival Guide Support Forum.  Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE. To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com. Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too. Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

For many single mums, Father’s Day can feel less like a celebration and more like an emotional hurdle. It can bring up feelings of sadness, frustration, or even resentment (whether your children’s dad is still in their lives or completely absent). In this episode, I share gentle, practical ways to navigate the day: supporting your children’s emotions, caring for your own wellbeing, and finding an approach that works for your unique family situation. This is about allowing yourself to feel what you feel, while showing up in a way that feels aligned for you and your kids. Links mentioned in the episode:  I’ve created a free resource guide to help single mums navigate Father’s Day with confidence and compassion. It’s filled with practical tips, thoughtful prompts, and ideas for making the day easier for both you and your children. Click HERE to download your copy and feel more prepared this year. Download the E-book, I'm A Single Mum... Now What? - HERE Click HERE to learn more about the Trauma coaching and support group program.  Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE.  Click HERE to join the free Facebook Group, The Single Mother Survival Guide Support Forum.  Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE. To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com. Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too. Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

This week, my podcast turns 9 years old – can you believe it?! When I started Single Mother Survival Guide, I hoped it might reach one or two single mums and help them feel less alone. Now, nearly a million downloads later, I’m pinching myself. This episode is extra special because it’s also my first time recording in 2025, after taking some time off to welcome my beautiful baby boy, Sebastian, in February (on my birhday). In this episode, I share big life updates – from moving back to Sydney and celebrating Christmas, to my baby shower, a trip to Tasmania, catching COVID, Sebastian’s birth, the baby blues, and checking in on my mental health. I talk about parenting this time with a partner (and proving to myself I could still do it alone if I had to), relationship curveballs, postnatal anxiety, matrescence, and joining an anxiety group. I also reflect on moments that brought back single mum memories, co-parenting challenges, supporting my daughter through a big year of change, and the lessons I’m still learning. It’s a mix of celebration, honesty, and heartfelt gratitude – and I’d love for you to join me in this conversation. Press play, celebrate with me, and let’s keep walking this journey together. Links mentioned in the episode:  Check out Tresillian, Australia's largest not-for-profit early parenting service offering families guidance in the early years of their child's life.  Download the E-book, I'm A Single Mum... Now What? - HERE Click HERE to learn more about the Trauma coaching and support group program.  Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE.  Click HERE to join the free Facebook Group, The Single Mother Survival Guide Support Forum.  Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE. To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com. Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too. Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

As single mums, life often feels like a balancing act. On one hand, you’re the loving, nurturing parent your children need. On the other, you might feel pressure to become the “fun parent” they want. Throw co-parenting into the mix - especially with an ex who takes on the role of the Disneyland Dad, prioritising fun over routine - and that balance can feel impossible to maintain. But here’s the truth: being the fun parent isn’t all it’s made out to be. In this episode, we dive into why competing to be the “fun parent” isn’t the answer, how the role of a Disneyland Dad impacts co-parenting, and why providing stability is the ultimate gift you can give your children. Links mentioned in the episode:  Click HERE to get our free resource guide for practical tips on maintaining balance and providing stability for your children. Let’s help you focus on what truly matters: building a secure and loving environment for your kids. Download the E-book, I'm A Single Mum... Now What? - HERE Click HERE to learn more about the Trauma coaching and support group program.  Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE.  Click HERE to join the free Facebook Group, The Single Mother Survival Guide Support Forum.  Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE. To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com. Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too. Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

Navigating life as a single mum can feel overwhelming, especially when dealing with the added complexities of a high-conflict relationship. Whether it’s managing co-parenting with a difficult ex or processing the emotional toll of separation, it’s easy to feel stuck. In this episode, we explore how therapy and coaching can empower single mums to reclaim control, build resilience, and create a more peaceful environment for themselves and their children. If you’re curious about whether professional guidance could help you, this episode breaks down the transformative benefits it can offer. Links mentioned in the episode:  Feeling stuck in a high-conflict co-parenting relationship? Click HERE to download our free resource guide to discover how therapy and coaching can help you regain control, build resilience, and create a more peaceful life for you and your children.  Download the E-book, I'm A Single Mum... Now What? - HERE Click HERE to learn more about the Trauma coaching and support group program.  Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE.  Click HERE to join the free Facebook Group, The Single Mother Survival Guide Support Forum.  Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE. To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com. Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too. Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

In a world dominated by social media and its endless stream of "perfect" parenting snapshots, the pressure on single mums to meet impossible standards can be overwhelming. Juggling work, parenting, and emotional well-being often leaves little room for anything else - and that’s okay. This episode breaks down why the idea of the "perfect mum" is a myth and explores how letting go of perfectionism can lead to a more balanced and fulfilling life. Tune in for practical advice on embracing your imperfections and focusing on what truly matters: showing up for your kids and yourself with love and intention. Links mentioned in the episode:  Feeling weighed down by the myth of perfection? Click HERE to download our free resource guide to help you release unrealistic expectations and embrace a more balanced, authentic approach to single motherhood.  Download the E-book, I'm A Single Mum... Now What? - HERE Click HERE to learn more about the Trauma coaching and support group program.  Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE.  Click HERE to join the free Facebook Group, The Single Mother Survival Guide Support Forum.  Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE. To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com. Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too. Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

Divorce and separation can leave us grappling with overwhelming emotions - hurt, betrayal, and anger being just a few. In these difficult moments, blame might feel like a natural reaction, providing a sense of clarity or closure. However, staying stuck in a cycle of blame - whether directed at your ex, circumstances, or even yourself - can act as a barrier to your healing. This episode dives deep into why blame keeps you from moving forward, how to release it, and how to replace it with a mindset focused on growth and resilience. Tune in for practical tips on embracing personal responsibility and thriving in your new chapter. Links mentioned in the episode:  Ready to break free from the cycle of blame and move forward with purpose? Click HERE to download our free resource guide for actionable steps to let go of resentment and build a mindset focused on growth and healing.  Download the E-book, I'm A Single Mum... Now What? - HERE Click HERE to learn more about the Trauma coaching and support group program.  Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE.  Click HERE to join the free Facebook Group, The Single Mother Survival Guide Support Forum.  Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE. To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com. Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too. Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

Co-parenting can feel like an uphill battle, especially when communication with your ex is consistently tense or unproductive. Enter parallel parenting - a strategy designed to protect your peace, prioritise your children, and reduce direct conflict with the other parent. In this episode, we explore the core principles of parallel parenting, how it differs from traditional co-parenting, and practical steps to implement this method successfully. If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed trying to co-parent, this episode is for you. Links mentioned in the episode:  Learn more about parallel parenting - what it is, how to implement it, and the benefits. Click HERE to download your guide and take the first step toward a more peaceful co-parenting experience. Download the E-book, I'm A Single Mum... Now What? - HERE Click HERE to learn more about the Trauma coaching and support group program.  Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE.  Click HERE to join the free Facebook Group, The Single Mother Survival Guide Support Forum.  Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE. To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com. Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too. Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

The middle of the year can feel overwhelming. The initial excitement of new goals has faded, and the reality of juggling work, parenting, and healing from divorce feels heavier. You may even find yourself questioning how you’ll get through the rest of the year. But here’s the truth: a mid-year slump is the perfect moment for reflection and recalibration. In this episode, I share actionable steps to pause, reassess, and recharge your energy, ensuring you approach the second half of the year with clarity and strength.  Links mentioned in the episode:  Don’t let the mid-year slump hold you back - click HERE to grab the free resource guide accompanying this episode! Take that first empowering step toward a stronger, clearer path forward.  Check out the following episodes mentioned in the podcast:  Episode 307 - Asking for help Episode 462 - The top 5 things co-parents argue about and how to manage them Download the E-book, I'm A Single Mum... Now What? - HERE Click HERE to learn more about the Trauma coaching and support group program.  Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE.  Click HERE to join the free Facebook Group, The Single Mother Survival Guide Support Forum.  Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE. To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com. Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too. Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

Co-parenting can be both rewarding and challenging, especially after separation or divorce. While the shared goal is to provide a stable, loving environment for your children, differences in parenting styles, schedules, or communication can lead to conflict. In this episode, I delve into the five most common areas where co-parents often disagree and provide practical tools to manage these issues effectively. By the end, you’ll feel more empowered to approach co-parenting with clarity, confidence, and a renewed focus on what’s best for your children. Links mentioned in the episode:  Ready to take control of co-parenting challenges? Click HERE to download your free resource guide that complements this episode. It’s packed with practical strategies to help you manage conflicts and foster a healthier co-parenting dynamic. Read the blog post - Making parallel parenting work for your family  Download the E-book, I'm A Single Mum... Now What? - HERE Click HERE to learn more about the Trauma coaching and support group program.  Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE.  Click HERE to join the free Facebook Group, The Single Mother Survival Guide Support Forum.  Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE. To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com. Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too. Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

As the middle of the year approaches, it’s a natural time to pause and reflect. Maybe life hasn’t gone as planned, or perhaps the goals you set in January feel more like distant memories. As a single mum, it’s easy to get caught up in the daily grind and lose sight of the bigger picture. This episode is your invitation to embrace a mid-year reset. I’ll guide you through assessing your progress, recalibrating where needed, and reigniting the passion behind your goals. It’s never too late to make a fresh start, find clarity, and finish the year feeling accomplished and empowered. Links mentioned in the episode:  Download our free resource guide designed to help you reflect, refocus, and recharge for the rest of the year. Take control of your year with intention and confidence—click HERE to get your guide today. Check out Episode 436 - Teaching your kids about goal setting for the New Year Download the E-book, I'm A Single Mum... Now What? - HERE Click HERE to learn more about the Trauma coaching and support group program.  Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE.  Click HERE to join the free Facebook Group, The Single Mother Survival Guide Support Forum.  Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE. To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com. Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too. Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

Parenting is always challenging, but when you're healing from trauma, it can feel especially overwhelming. Trauma doesn’t just stay within you; its effects ripple out, often impacting your children in ways that are subtle but significant. As mums, we want to protect our kids from the weight of our struggles, but children are incredibly perceptive—they often sense more than we realise. In this episode, we unpack the ripple effect of trauma on families and explore practical strategies to support your children while prioritising your healing journey. With tools, self-compassion, and intentional steps, you can create a nurturing environment that fosters resilience for both you and your kids.  Links mentioned in the episode:  Download our free resource guide for this episode, packed with practical tips and strategies to help you support your children while prioritising your own healing. Click HERE to get your copy today and take the first step toward creating a balanced, healing-focused environment for you and your children. Download the E-book, I'm A Single Mum... Now What? - HERE Click HERE to learn more about the Trauma coaching and support group program.  Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE.  Click HERE to join the free Facebook Group, The Single Mother Survival Guide Support Forum.  Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE. To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com. Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too. Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

Stress can feel like an ever-present companion, especially during major life transitions such as divorce, single parenting, or navigating career changes. For single mums, the demands of parenting, financial management, and maintaining personal well-being can sometimes become overwhelming, leaving little room to breathe. But stress isn’t just a feeling; it has real effects on both your body and mind, influencing how you show up for your kids, your work, and yourself. In this episode, we uncover the science behind stress, how it impacts your mental and physical health, and share practical strategies to manage it. From small daily habits to powerful mindset shifts, we can bring more calm, balance, and resilience into our lives. Links mentioned in the episode:  Download our free resource guide for this episode, packed with actionable tips and strategies to help you manage stress as a single mum. Click HERE to get your copy today and take the first step toward creating a more balanced life. Download the E-book, I'm A Single Mum... Now What? - HERE Click HERE to learn more about the Trauma coaching and support group program.  Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE.  Click HERE to join the free Facebook Group, The Single Mother Survival Guide Support Forum.  Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE. To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com. Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too. Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

Divorce is one of life’s most challenging experiences, especially for mums navigating the complexities of parenting solo. In this episode, we explore why self-care isn’t a luxury - it’s an essential tool for managing stress, staying emotionally resilient, and being the best version of yourself for your children. From practical tips to mindset shifts, we’ll uncover ways to help you prioritise your well-being while thriving in this new chapter of your life. Links mentioned in the episode:  Download our free resource guide packed with 12 practical self-care tips tailored for single mums navigating life after divorce. This guide offers actionable strategies to help you manage stress, nurture your emotional health, and thrive in your parenting journey. Click HERE to grab your copy now. Checkout Episode 350 - Six ways to manage stress as a single mother Download the E-book, I'm A Single Mum... Now What? - HERE Click HERE to learn more about the Trauma coaching and support group program.  Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE.  Click HERE to join the free Facebook Group, The Single Mother Survival Guide Support Forum.  Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE. To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com. Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too. Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

Anger is a natural part of the healing process, especially during significant life transitions like divorce. In this episode, we discuss how to identify, process, and channel your anger into constructive transformation. By understanding and managing this powerful emotion, you can take steps toward emotional freedom and a healthier mindset. Links mentioned in the episode:  Download our free resource guide that complements this episode. This guide is packed with tips and strategies to help you process and manage your anger constructively after divorce. Click HERE to start your journey to emotional clarity and resilience today. Checkout Episode 436 - Teaching your kids about goal setting for the New Year Download the E-book, I'm A Single Mum... Now What? - HERE Click HERE to learn more about the Trauma coaching and support group program.  Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE.  Click HERE to join the free Facebook Group, The Single Mother Survival Guide Support Forum.  Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE. To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com. Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too. Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

Divorce is a challenging experience, and navigating it often requires guidance and support. But not all advice is created equal. While many divorce coaches provide helpful insights, there are some hard truths they might avoid sharing. These truths, though difficult to hear, can empower you to take control of your life and move forward with clarity and strength. In this episode, I share five things most divorce coaches are too afraid to tell you - truths that will help you approach this journey with empowerment and resilience. Links mentioned in the episode:  Download the free resource guide that accompanies this episode to dive deeper into the five truths most divorce coaches won’t tell you. It’s packed with practical insights to help you navigate divorce with clarity and courage. Click HERE to get your copy now.  Checkout Episode 324 - What is collaborative divorce, with Kurt Chacon Download the E-book, I'm A Single Mum... Now What? - HERE Click HERE to learn more about the Trauma coaching and support group program.  Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE.  Click HERE to join the free Facebook Group, The Single Mother Survival Guide Support Forum.  Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE. To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com. Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too. Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

As single mums, the way we speak to ourselves—shaped by trauma, pain, and fear—can deeply influence not only our lives but also the lives of our children. In this episode, I explore the profound effects of negative self-talk and share practical strategies to help you heal, break the cycle, and prevent these patterns from affecting your children. Let’s create a future rooted in positivity, growth, and resilience. You've got this, my friend! Links mentioned in the episode:  Download the free guide for this episode to learn actionable strategies to stop passing trauma to your children and create a healthier family dynamic. Click HERE to grab your guide now! Download the E-book, I'm A Single Mum... Now What? - HERE Click HERE to learn more about the Trauma coaching and support group program.  Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE.  Click HERE to join the free Facebook Group, The Single Mother Survival Guide Support Forum.  Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE. To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com. Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too. Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

Balancing parenting, finances, household duties, co-parenting, and emotional support as a single mum can feel overwhelming. This week, we’re diving into practical strategies to lighten the mental load and reclaim your energy. From routines to mindfulness, discover how to navigate the chaos with greater ease and peace of mind. Links mentioned in the episode:  Click HERE to download the free guide accompanying this episode and get practical tips to lighten your daily responsibilities and create a calmer, more manageable routine. Download the E-book, I'm A Single Mum... Now What? - HERE Click HERE to learn more about the Trauma coaching and support group program.  Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE.  Click HERE to join the free Facebook Group, The Single Mother Survival Guide Support Forum.  Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE. To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com. Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too. Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.