Anxiety to Confidence - The Personal Development Unplugged Podcast

Feel Good and Getting Better it me or do we all want everything NOW! Instantaneously or even quicker.I think we've fallen into the trap that instant gratification is the thing. But if we get that then we want the next thing and the next thing and I feel we miss out. Why do we want everything instantaneously? It got me thinking how does this apply to our personal development? Our dreams and desires? Enjoying the adventure and not just the elusive prize. Then I got to thinking about therapy and how I like quick and comfortable change. Is that in conflict with the adventure of developing our true self? If you would, come follow me on this little dive of of discovery of how we can create a practice of celebrating who and where we are and being curious of what's to come. It's really not how fast. It's enjoying how good and getting better. Please share: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/392-feel-good-and-getting-better/   Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I’m a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay,   And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism   Hey, friend, you're back. I'm back. Feeling good, getting better. That might be the title of this podcast or this episode, I'm not sure yet, but just for a moment, just for a moment, while you're here with me, I'd like you to take a breath. Just a breath. And, know that you're blessed because you are. Just take that breath. Because I've been thinking. I do that. I do a lot of weird thinking. And I was thinking the other day, why do we want everything now? And I'm saying we, because I know I do. I know I do. Occasionally, not always, but I get lost in that. But I see it in so many different ways that people, want something right now. Right now at the latest, tomorrow. You know, everything you order has got to be here tomorrow. Can't wait. Got to have it. And it's like a race, even. It's not just getting things to be able to do things to, you know, maybe in this land, this life of personal development, there's a race to get somewhere quicker, to find that hack. And I hate the word hack, you know that. To learn something quicker, to have it now, to be able to do these things instant, bloody taneously. And it's. Is it? Or is it? Or is it. Is that search for instant gratification feeling good right now, no delay. It's got to happen now. And I think when you have that instant gratification, it just doesn't last. Because the thing is, we've got this in our mindset. I'm saying we. Maybe it's all me. I don't know. But I think there's a bit of this in everybody, and there's certainly a lot of it in a lot of people as well. And I think we can learn from others. We can learn the good things about others, and we can learn what not to do from others actions. But that instant gratification doesn't last, because the next thing I want, the next thing I want, the next thing now. I want it now. I want it now. You don't even have time to enjoy, to enjoy what you have, right now, what you've achieved. So that's why I said, let's stop, take a breath, pause for a little while, and just think for a moment, what is the prize that we want? That's a big question. Is it, Paul? And it's totally too vague. I'm thinking about what is the prize that we desire, a dream of for ourselves in our own personal development, because that's what this is, isn't it? It's personal development. Unplugged. so we're going to get into the raw part of this. Let's get naked. Where did that come from? Clubby. But, you know, what is the prize we won? I made a few notes, a few bullet points. I thought, well, there's skills I want to learn skills, different things. I want to improve the skills I've got and build upon them. So my skill base and that foundation gets bigger and stronger to enable me to do even more things. Maybe I want to let go of certain negative emotions, and I want to experience more positive emotions and things like, and they all link together, don't they? Because if I'm learning new skills that I really enjoy and it's making me feel I'm a better, more capable person, more confident, more confident person, my emotions are going to be more positive, aren't they? What will happen to my beliefs? My beliefs will be more positive about me. Probably, have more positive beliefs about other people, but it's all about me, my identity. Chipping away at the stuff that doesn't work. Chipping away the stuff that has been trying to protect me, but is no longer appropriate and, finding the real beliefs and, values of me, my identity, who I really am and who I can grow to be. And it's grow, not instant. It's grow, evolve. What about behaviors? Because they come from skills and emotions and beliefs, don't they? Because it's one thing just knowing stuff, but being able to do stuff, it's be and do and know, isn't it? it's that mastery again, knowing what to do and doing what you know and have that expand, have that grow.     Cloughie says letting go of anxiety and fears can lead to positive change   And ultimately, I guess it's to grow and experience a good life, because a good life will have all the wonderful things that you've done. M and I see that as the prize. We can go deeper into that. I mean, what would it feel like to have that dream come true, knowing that you're going to carry on growing, experiencing a good life even more, more richer, and having the time to wallow in it. And I. Wallow is a weird word, but I love the word to wallow in good experiences, wallowing, good emotions. Why not? We've created them. You've created it. You created your beliefs, your emotions, your skills, your behaviors, because you had the right intention. You know, I see those people who go, oh, I've been around. I've traveled, man. I've traveled. I've been everywhere. I've done this. And you talked. Oh, yeah, I've been there and I've been there. How did you be in so many places? Well, they did, but they only visited for half a day. A day. It was like getting your stamp and moving on. And to me, well, that's not experiencing stuff. That's not wallowing, is it? I love the term, let's just sit down for a spell. And that spell, spellbound, being in the moment and just thinking, yeah, this is good, and I'm gonna do more of this. Now, I've talked about slowing down and really getting into what the desire, what the prize, what the dream is. Not instant gratification, but on the other hand, there's a complete. When I was thinking about this, you're going, okay, Cloughie. That, to me, seems really positive. But on the other hand, what do you talk about when you do your own therapy? Cloughie. And you see, when it comes to change, as in change of letting go of the things that are, stopping us using our skills, our emotions, our values, and growing and evolving in experience, I like to have therapeutic change as quick as possible. In fact, our unconscious mind learns to change quickly. It doesn't like, like one word at a time, one word a day. If you read a book, one word a day, well, after two days, you wouldn't even. Three days, four days, you wouldn't know what's happening. You wouldn't know. Even if you read the whole book, you wouldn't retain anything because it wouldn't make sense. But if you could let go of anxiety and fears just like that, you have time, more time to grow those experiences, to grow those skills, to grow those emotions, to wallow in wonderful things. And, I think that's the dichotomy, really. I want you to have that gratification of quick change, knowing that you can change quickly because your unconscious mind is only trying to protect you. And you can find it in a better way, because if you compare anxiety, fears, unconfidence, any negative emotion, guilt, jealousy, what else can we have? Depression, OCD, aHD, AdHD? I don't believe that. But hey, all that stuff trying to do you some good, but is really stopping you. If you found a better way from developing those skills to developing more positive emotions. Because do you feel safer when you're doing the things that you love, being co

My Reminder To You I don't know if it's just me but I need reminding to use what I know or at least I think I do. Over the years I, and you, have learned a lot and on the most part I think we use that learning unconsciously but every now and then I get a reminder from a podcast, a video, a book or what someone might say and I go "I bloody know that!!!! why aren't I doing it? Doh!!!" So this short muse is just that - a reminder to check that we're using all the skills we have learned to move to the next level. I hope it makes sense and that you feel able to take it in the spirit it is given and maybe share it to https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-445-my-reminder-to-you/ and there's also a visual in the the form of a YouTube video here: https://youtu.be/jk-2XFf4egg Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I’m a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay,     Personal development [self improvement] [self development] [NLP] [Hypnosis]

Reviewing The Past To Move Forward Now, I know what you're thinking – why dwell on the past? Isn't personal development all about the future? Well, yes and no. Here's the thing: understanding our past is like having a map. It shows us where we've been, helps us see the patterns in our journey, and guides us toward where we want to go. Think about it – when you look back at your own life, what do you see? Moments of triumph, sure, but also those stumbles and falls. And guess what? Both are equally valuable. Those victories? They remind you of your strengths and capabilities. Those mistakes? They’re not failures; they're lessons in disguise, packed with insights about what to avoid and how to navigate obstacles more effectively. Let's take a practical example: maybe you started a project that didn’t quite hit the mark. Instead of brushing it off, dissect it. What worked? What didn’t? What could you do differently next time? This kind of reflection transforms past experiences into stepping stones rather than stumbling blocks. On a broader scale, societies do the same thing. By studying historical events, we gain a collective wisdom. Economic policies that led to booms or busts, social movements that brought about change – all these offer blueprints. They guide current decisions, helping us avoid past pitfalls and replicate successes. So, here’s your unplugged challenge: take a moment to reflect. Journal about your past year, noting your highs and lows. Identify the lessons hidden in those experiences. Use them as a toolkit for your future endeavors. Remember, reflecting on the past isn't about getting stuck there. It's about equipping yourself with the insights you need to propel forward with clarity and purpose. Until next time, keep learning, keep growing, and as always, stay unplugged.   Please share this episode https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/391-reviewing-the-past-to-move-forward     Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I’m a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay, And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism If you don't review the past, you won't go forward   If you don't review the past, you won't go forward. It's a bit negative, Cluffy. Well, it is and it isn't. We're going to go from regret, guilt, sadness, to passion, doing things that we may have thought about giving up. And now they're going to be the forefront of our mind and create pleasure for us, other people and the whole wide world. Big ask, but it's doable. So please have a listen after this.   Hey, friend. How you doing today? Are you good? Are, you good? I hope you aren't good. And this is not going to be the three special steps, the magical steps, the ten steps, the three keys that, Because that's just bloody clickbait, isn't it? And even I'm getting caught on that because I just want to listen to good stuff. And it's really hard to get into the good stuff. And hopefully this might be quite good. And I've called it something like, I'm not sure what the title of this is going to be until I put it out there, but you don't review. If you don't review the past, you can't go forward. But the thing is, is this just me? I see people doing some really good stuff and I'm, totally impressed. And I'm inspired sometimes. And I just want to think, oh, I'd, love to be like that. And I know I can be. I can be and I can do that stuff if I wanted to. But then I think back. Think back over things I didn't continue. Now that's a. We've jumped a little bit there from. But the things I, Well, you know, you get that bloody thing. Is this the same as you? Where I see something, see somebody doing something, and I know they're really good at it. And maybe I couldn't get to that level. Well, I probably could if I wanted to, but even if I didn't want to, I wanted to get to a reasonable level. I just think, if only, if only I'd spent a bit more time, or I wish I'd. I wish I'd just done, that a little bit extra. I wish I hadn't given up. And I get those, I wish I. And I'd only. And I should have done and all that stuff. And then I think to myself, now it's too late, isn't it? And what happens? I feel down. Do you feel like that. You feel down when you look back at the stuff you could have done, should have done, would have done. If only I'd done. Yeah. And do you know, do you do this? Do you do this? I know I have. We make up excuses why we didn't do it, why we didn't carry on, you know. Well, I wasn't that good at it anyway. I didn't really want to do it, you know. It wasn't for me. I'd never be that good. I haven't got the aptitude. I'm a bit stupid, really. I couldn't do that. It's too difficult. But inside, inside, when we're quiet with ourselves, we go back to, I really wish I'd. If I just spent that little bit more time. And then I get into that feeling of regret when I think about what I could be doing right now, if only then I get guilty for not doing it, for not following through. And then I get sad. And, all I've done is seen somebody who's inspired me, and reminded me. And that's the problem, isn't it? They've reminded me of the things I could have done, would have done, should have done, and I didn't. And I've still got some things that I haven't quite given up on, not quite. And I'm not going to, I've decided, because even if I see someone doing something completely different that I would never do, I'm still inspired by how they got there. Because we all know you need practice. But the thing is, the things I've got are, I parked them, I've given my excuse to park them. They're dormant. I'll give you one little thing on the spur of a moment. Say 15 odd years ago, I bought myself a guitar because I was going to play the guitar and I took lessons and I still got that guitar. And I still can't play much more than I ever did a few years ago. Still got me basic chords. I can do a bar chord, but I don't really know enough to. Well, I know enough to play a song, but I don't know. I haven't done enough to remember how to play a song or what to do. And I go, oh, There's a little bit of that regret, that guilt, but I haven't let it go yet. I have not let it go. So then I thought, I've been thinking about this because I do a lot of thinking about things. And we've got to get from thinking to doing I know, but if you think honestly, really, honestly, do you still, do you really want to do it? Because you have to be honest. Is it peer pressure? Is it something that is ego driven? You know, if I could play the guitar really well, everyone would look up to me and things like that. Now, that's not me. But it could be not. Could be me. It could be somebody else thinking that, you know, doing something to shine, but to be the centre of attention, ego led. Could be that, or it could be just something that you felt that, well, that's what everyone was doing. So you got to do it. You're out of the crowd if you don't do it.     Cluffy: Don't spend time doing things you don't want to do   Or is it something that was so bloody weird and special because you wanted to be weird and special? You know, pretend to be weird and special. I love weird. I love special. But not what people, you know, pretend, to be. They're false, inauthentic. But if it isn't, if you're really honest with yourself and you go, do you know what? I don't want to do that. Then I think you should celebrate. What's that, Cluffy? You're talking about giving up? No, I'm not talking about giving up. I'm talking about not doing the things you don't want to do and then feeling regret, guilt, sadness, or any other bloody negative emotion or the reverse of that, spending a lot of time doing something you don't want to do and get no satisfaction out of it at all. So I think if you get a no, you go, yay, yay, let's celebrate that. No. And you know what? Find something else to bloody do. Something that will give you reward will be. I know, sometimes it's not passionate straight away, but the more you work at it, you get more passionate at it because you get better and

Just One More Equals Success Tony Robbins once asked "of the set of 10 press ups which one is the most beneficial?" the answer "The 11th" :O) To be the best version of ourselves we know we need to stretch ourselves every day but, and I don't like buts, too much leads to overwhelm and giving up that's why 'JUST ONE MORE' works. This is a short 5-minute muse to remind ourselves it's not how much but how consistent we are gets results that build on the last result and build exponentially. Please share: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-444-just-one-more and maybe watch the video: https://youtu.be/Dl7dgtiY2Ig   Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I’m a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay, Personal development [self improvement] [self development] [NLP] [Hypnosis]

Changing Your Attitude To Imposter Syndrome When you look at things differently the things you look at are different, I love that saying. So if we change the way we look at Imposter syndrome, change our attitude, Imposter syndrome changes too if not disappears. And we all suffer from Imposter Syndrome in one form or another, in different contexts, and no one escapes from it - from the rich, the famous to little old you and me. A little warning there is 4 or 5 sort of swear words near the end of the episode but they do make sense So what is it?: Imposter syndrome, a psychological phenomenon, corrodes self-esteem, creating a constant fear of being exposed as a fraud despite achievements. Individuals afflicted often doubt their abilities, attributing success to luck or circumstance rather than competence, leading to chronic stress, anxiety, and depression. This pervasive insecurity hampers professional growth, impeding career advancement and stifling creativity. Relationships suffer as affected individuals struggle to accept praise or connect authentically.  Whoa!!!! So by changing our attitude to all of the above would be a good thing - Right? And if we keep your unconscious mind's positive intention to keep you safe, as well as seeing and feeling differently, that is being competent and confident we should be onto a winner. Come with me and lets find out how. Please share the episode with those you know: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/390-changing-your-attitude-to-imposter-syndrome     Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I’m a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay, And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism This podcast is all about changing your attitude to imposter syndrome   Hey, your heads up to this? Well, it's a longer podcast. It's all about changing your attitude to imposter syndrome. So you have the right attitude, the right attitude to go wherever you want, to learn and ask questions from anybody you want, so you can grow, strive to be the best version of yourself, because it really is possible. It really is. And m. It's so doable, and it's so simple.     Hey, we're back with the longer podcast, and, there is a warning. I am gonna swear, and there's gonna be maybe two swear words ish. And they're at the end. I think they're all gonna be at the end, the two of them, so don't worry about that. But it's all about changing the attitude on imposter syndrome. And a long time ago, way back in March, 2020, hash 165, I, released an episode when I was listening to this lovely lady, so sweet. She is a lovely lady, on how she. She, addressed getting into state. I will have a listen to that because I want to use it and go one step further. But I want to explain all of that near the end. If you're like me, I think, well, I know I have impostor syndrome. Not everywhere. Not everywhere at all. Just occasionally, I think they'll find me out, what am I doing here? I'm, not good enough, all that stuff. I think we all have some kind of impostor syndrome somewhere, and I think we all know what it looks like, you know, we see other people, don't we? And we go, oh, I think they know what they're talking about. They're so far ahead of me. And we listen to them speak and we go, ah, they. They're even speaking in a way that I know they're so much better than me, and they're going to find me out. And I get that feeling. I can even smell and taste like being a failure or being caught out. Have you had that? It's a lot of our b's, really, isn't it? It is, but it doesn't feel that way, does it? It really doesn't feel that way at the time. And you see, everyone feels this way, and I think they do. We hear about it from the very famous people in the world who you would think they're up there in front of loads of people. Loads and loads and loads and loads and loads of people, they're on telly, they're on the screen, they're on the stage, and they get it all the way from them to little old you, little old me. And the thing is, it's in all different contexts, isn't it? All over the bloody place. And you hear those stories of those people that we go, surely not, surely not. You can't suffer that because you are one of the greats. But they do. And, why? Where is it? It's all in the bloody mind, isn't it? And if you're a little bit of an introvert as well, like me. Bloody hell, that comes in, in bucketful sometimes. Sometimes that fear, unconfidence, if that's a word. But where is that fear? Where is that unconfidence? Yeah, it's in our minds, isn't it? That's the only place it exists in our minds. So let's start at the beginning. The very beginning. Good place to start. Cloughy. Yeah. No, why would we get imposter syndrome or feel like a imposter, get that fear, the anxiety, the stress, the loss of confidence. Why would we get that, do you think? Let's have a think about that. Just for a moment. I'm gonna pause. Well, not really pause that much, but I just want you to think for a moment. Because you know as well as I do that every behavior has a positive intention. It does. It's your unconscious mind looking to try to do something for you in a positive way.     Overconfidence can give you anxiety and fear, Emotions expert says   Now, what could that be giving you fear, giving you anxiety, a lot of confidence that, we're going to call impostor syndrome. Call it anything you like, really. But that's what we're talking about, isn't it? So let's muse about this for a moment, shall we? You see, I think one thing could be to make sure that you know your stuff. You see, if I'm your best friend, your unconscious mind, and I give you fear, anxiety, maybe those pictures in your mind of you just being caught out, feeling a dope, feeling, not belonging, you will swat up, you will learn your stuff, you will really get it. And because you then will not have that overconfidence, because you'll be competent. Because if you're overconfidence, you'll get caught out, won't you? And you know that it's a bluff. And you'll try to bluff other people, but you can't bluff yourself. And you won't bluff, bluff other people honestly, it's trying to make you competent also, I guess, to think of what could go wrong. That's one thing, isn't it? That's another one. If I give you a picture in your mind of what could go wrong, like not to look foolish, you could do something to mitigate it. So you know what could go wrong. And, therefore I'm gonna learn or do the stuff that I know that will really mitigate that outcome. I won't look foolish because I'll have. I learnt my stuff, I'll have done this, I'll have done that. But the thing is, we get bloody overwhelmed, don't we? Because there's loads, loads more. They're all positive, all trying to protect you in some way or other. But it's overwhelm. It gets too much. You try to learn too much. You try to think of what could go wrong, and you go to the end of the world. That's never going to happen. But it might. It might. You gotta. Just in case. Just in case, don't look foolish, do we? But it's just overwhelming when you get to, overwhelm things. Like you get that feeling, I'll never know enough. Well, yeah, you won't. You'll never know enough. There's always something else to learn, and therefore you won't do it, because you're one to keep learning and learning and learning forever until you know enough, and you won't. What else might happen? Well, you might get into a freeze. The fear of what could go wrong, and therefore you don't do anything. There's no mitigation now because we're just not going to do it. I'm not going to do it because it's going to be so bad. There is no way to mitigate it. Well, it isn't the way that you've thought about it, because it's got so bad that, well, there's nothing that can help you. Also, you start to remember things and remember things from the past when you felt foolish in front of other people. Or maybe you were caught out because you were over competent. Not over competent, overconfident. You tried to, you know, wing it, and, it didn't wor

Making a Habit of Feeling Great Not all habits are bad   'O) I believe when we cultivate a habit of feeling not just good but GREAT things begin to happen. Your RAS ( reticulated activating system) gets fired to look for more of the same I you believe in the Law of Attraction you frequency goes up to attract more of the same Serendipity happens more often Coincidence happens more often You get lucky So in this 5-minte muse we'll explore a way how to get this all to happen Please share this with everybody so they to can get the benefit of feeling Great https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-443-making-a-habit-of-feeling-great and the YouTube link is here too: https://youtu.be/iW_xnV6OvrU Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I’m a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay, Personal development [self improvement] [self development] [NLP] [Hypnosis]

Creating Yours and My Greatest Moments I overheard someone say "My greatest successes did not come from my greatest successes but from my greatest defeats" Defeats are inevitable companions. They arrive unexpectedly, challenging our resolve and testing our mettle. However, within each defeat lies a profound opportunity for growth and learning. In this podcast episode, we delve into the invaluable lessons gleaned from our defeats and how they shape our paths towards success. Defeats are not just setbacks; they are profound teachers. They teach resilience, humility, and the art of adaptation. When we encounter failure, we are forced to confront our limitations, reassess our strategies, and emerge stronger than before. It is through defeat that we discover the depth of our determination and the power of our perseverance. Moreover, defeats cultivate empathy and understanding. They remind us that we are all fallible beings, prone to mistakes and missteps. By embracing our defeats, we foster compassion for ourselves and others, recognizing that triumph is not always measured by victories, but by the courage to face adversity head-on. So let's see and hear, it is a podcast after all, and learn ways we can learn from the results, not failures, we have achieved to make success a way of life. Please share this episode if you have learned from it or simply enjoyed it:   https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/389-creating-yours-and-my-greatest-moments   Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I’m a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay, And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism This podcast is all about understanding where your greatest moments came from Hey, my friend, I bet you've got some greatest moments, because we've all got greatest moments, haven't we? We've all got some bloody great moments in our lives. If you were to think back, you got some really good ones. I've got some really good ones. And the other day I heard this, this sentence, and, I can't for the life of me think who said it. It was on a podcast, I think could have been in a book, I think. I don't know if you know, let me know. But it says, my greatest moments did not come from my greatest moments. They came from my greatest defeats. And when I heard that, I thought, that can't be right. Surely that's wrong. Can't be right. My greatest moments did not come from my greatest moments. They came from my greatest defeats. And you see, when I looked and thought deeply about that, just in the sentence, it doesn't say they came from my greatest failures. It says the word defeat. And why would that be? And you see there in, I'm, sure it's everywhere else but in NLP land. Neuro linguistic programming, one of the great presuppositions, which is a nice useful assumption, is there is no such thing as failure, just feedback. It's a result. You got something, maybe it wasn't what you expected and you've called it a failure because that's why I didn't want that. But that's what you got. So it's just feedback. But I think sometimes when we call them failures, it means something different. It means we haven't learnt. We haven't learnt the lesson that that feedback gave us. And I think that's where we get negative emotions, or partly negative emotions are still attached to those events. And, that negative emotion there is to remind you, remind you of that result, the one you didn't want. The one you got, you didn't want it, it wasn't positive. And therefore, that emotion is still there, and it's there to remind you and also to keep you safe. Because until you bloody learn, learn the lesson of that moment, that event, and how you could do it differently, then that emotion will stay there. And that's why we work through it. When we work through with a client, or when I work through with a client, I want to know what the positive intention is and what are the learnings from that event. Because the positive intentions of those things is to protect you and not let you do it again. Well, if you haven't got the learnings, then the emotion is the only other thing your unconscious mind can do, give you that emotion. And you go, maybe it's fear, maybe it's jealousy, maybe it's. Well, you name it. Any bloody negative emotion will be doing something for you from an event that you haven't learned from. And that's what we'd call, I guess, then, if there was a failure, failure to learn. And then I thought, well, as we looked at this, my greatest moments did not come from my greatest moments. They came from my greatest defeats. And what's a defeat? Let's have a look at that. And, I think a defeat is. Well, it was bad back then. It's in the past tense, because you can talk about it unemotionally, because you're not there, that emotion is gone. And by learning what you needed to learn by that defeat. Yeah. It wasn't what you wanted. It means you've learnt untrap the resources within that event, the learnings which will allow you to use. To use the learnings that you've learned from that event now, so it doesn't happen again. And also so you could maybe get closer to what you want, your intended outcome. So let's have a look. Let's have a look at ours. You know, look at, the times when you had greatest defeats. They were bad back then. They were bad. Remember? I can remember some of mine. And at the time, I didn't know where I was going to turn in that instant. I can think of a couple straight away, but they were bad back then. I can talk about them till the cows come home. Now, without getting emotional at all, which tells me I've learnt from them, and I haven't re experienced them again either.     What's the gap between a defeat and your greatest moment   So what did you learn? If you just think back now, if you just took a moment or two to think back of a defeat. So not one of your greatest moments, but one of those greatest defeats. And as you bring it to mind, maybe you could just summon up what you learnt or what you learned with a d. Do you spell it with a t or a d? Learnt or learned? I never know. I'm just giving you time to think. And, maybe, maybe, maybe, maybe this is the time when you do get that little puzzle book out. Because sometimes it takes a little bit of time, doesn't it? It takes a bit of time to get your mind and your unconscious mind in sync, your conscious mind, your unconscious mind, so you can delve into these. And, because you're learning and understanding what you're learning, again, the emotions disappeared. You dissociated from that event. Now, because it's been gone, you realize it's in the past and you've learned from it. But understand what you've learned. Learned. And then just think, well, what happened after that? What happened that became a good moment, maybe a great moment, maybe one of your greatest moments. And sometimes you have to go like, what is my greatest moment? What defeat came before that? And, what's the gap in the middle? What's the learning between the defeat and, that greatest moment? I mean, you have to take a moment, really see if you can see the learnings, see in your mind's eye, maybe the picture of the memory and understand what you're looking for. Maybe you can hear it. Maybe you can hear in the voices of other people. But maybe you can hear it in your own internal voice as you talk to yourself about that moment, the way you describe it, just seeking out that, aha, moment of the learnings that came to allow you to have that greatest moment. Maybe there's a smell and taste, or maybe it's just a feeling. You get a feeling of the understandings that you learned back then, and it's good to note them down. Why would you want to do that? Well, we'll go into that in a moment. We will. I promise. You see, I know I've had some small defeats, but I know they've gone on to help me make some better moments, some good moments. Maybe no one called my greatest moments, but I know I can. Just by looking at this, I can see what happened. See, I know there was times when I've had this wonderful bit of inspiration

There Is Always Another Day, Hour or Minute Let's start over If you're like me we can berate ourselves so much worse than we would ever speak to a best friend. I have been known, only to me, to call myself some really harsh stuff. Does it help? Absolutely not!!!! It detracts completely what we were trying to do and what we want to do, yet does that stop us? In this 5-minute quickie I want to muse on how we can stop this with another way of thinking that I think, although terribly simple, re-frames everything. So come with me and press play - let's muse together Oh! If you can share this that would be kind https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-442-there-is-always-another-day-hour-or-minute and then there's the YouTube Video link  https://youtu.be/2i3AzSsuECs Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I’m a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay, Personal development [self improvement] [self development] [NLP] [Hypnosis]

Taking My Last Breath So We Can Live A Good Life If it's possible that we have only one life on this little old planet Earth what a waste to waste any of that time. Knowing you're here, I'm guessing you will feel the same as me too. So............................. What would happen if we were to imagine going to the end of our time line of the future and taking our last breath and look back on what we want to have achieved in that life time? And because it's in our imagination you can do this imagining everything you want to have done, experienced - the sight, sounds and feelings of all your dreams having been truly realized. Oh! and probably a bit more because you can   :O) And it's how we can take notice of those reminders and Ah-Ha moments that will guide us to fulfill this life with amazing times. Please come with me, it's not the longest of episodes, and I think we'll make a difference that makes the difference to a life well lived. If you like what you hear please share this episode: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/388-taking-my-last-breath-so-we-can-live-a-good-life and the podcast itself to all   Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I’m a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay, And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism This podcast is all about your unconscious mind   Hey, this podcast, what's important about this episode? It's all about your unconscious mind. Keep reminding you, keep reminding you what's important. How to stretch and be your best self. So we don't waste a heartbeat, a moment, a minute, an hour. We just make our life rich and, and enjoyable so we can look back at this life and go, it's a bloody good one. Now I think that might be important. So have a listen to this just after the next 15 seconds, okay Personal development is a continual creation, isn't it Hey, we've got, well, a bit of exploring of a sort in this longer podcast. And the thing is, it's about the recurring aha's. and what does that mean? Well, why is this going to be important anyway? Let's do the important thing first, because this is why it's important. Personal development. You're here, you're here to learn and create, I'm going to guess create the best version of yourself. We talk about it so many times and it's a continual creation, isn't it? It's an evolving and the evolution. And we have to stretch, that's how we do it, don't we? We have to stretch ourselves and be consistent in that stretch. And we can't give excuses, can we? We can't give excuses of it was and blame other people, other things. We've talked about that before. We've got to be responsible for our own personal development. Take responsibility, be at cause, because when you're at cause the effects don't come into it. You create those effects, actually. And for me this is why it's important to me, I think, I'm not sure, but we may only have one life, this tiny little pinprick in the whole of the, of the universal time that started when and will finish when we may just have one little life. And what a waste it would be just to waste it, wouldn't it? How bad would that be just to waste this one thing we've got, which is us, your conscious mind, your unconscious mind and all the things you can do with both of them. And to me, I don't know about you, but to me that waste is such a bad thing. And I try to think, why is this really important to me? And I thought, well, I get guilty about wasting time. I get sad. Now, we could call them away from values, couldn't we? Because I want to get away from guilt, because I don't want to feel guilty about wasting time, and I don't want that guilt to cause me to be sad. So I wanted to think about it in a different way. It's, not the nicest thing, but I wanted to realize if I was on my deathbed, taking me last couple of breaths, hopefully a bloody long time away, but taking my last couple of breaths, would I be happy with the Cloughie that I created? Would I be happy with the things that Cloughie's done? Would I be happy with the differences I've made, made to me, made to my family, my friends, and, beyond you? You're my friend. Could I be so grateful that I didn't waste that time? And you have to think about it. How would that make me feel if I knew that I hadn't? Yeah, I know. Along the way, probably, I know I waste time, and that's what really gets me, because that's why I get guilty about it. That's why I get sad about it, because I just think, well, I've only got this one time, but I know if I strive stretch myself, how would it make me feel knowing that I really had done my best, what would I see if I look back over the timeline of my past? What would I see? The things I've done, the things I've created in me, but the effects of being and stretching to be the best version of myself, what would have happened or, what has happened in that timeline of my past? The time in business, the time helping people in therapy, with hypnosis training, people generally, just hopefully, hopefully I'd be able to say I was kind. I was a of kind man. What things could possibly I hear? What would I have heard along the way and how would that make me feel? I think I'd feel a little bit proud and probably a little bit content as well, saying, well, it, was maybe a little bit hard, but it was enjoyable. And there were some sad times, there's some guilty times and things like that. But I did my best. I tried to make something and give something back for that. So what would you do? Just take a moment, if you can, and just think, what are the things you would have liked to have done if you were on or taking your last few breaths and you were to look back over your timeline, that ultimate vision, the ultimate vision of you, what led up to it? What are the things that you did, you created, you caused to happen? And just maybe they'll just pop into your mind every now and again. The things that you did so well. You had to strive for, struggle for sometimes. What did you see? What were the look on other people's faces? What did you hear? What things did you hear yourself say? Maybe an internal voice, the external voice. What did you hear from other people? And how does it make you feel, looking back, all the things you created, striving to be the ultimate vision of you? And you see that hasn't happened. That hasn't happened, not for you, not for me, because I'm still breathing. As an in breath, I have just a little click of the fingers and a tap of my head. I'm still alive and so are you. But when you think about that ultimate vision, what you would like to look back on from that place, what would happen if you wrote that down, the person that you strive to be and created? Because that's a wonderful ultimate vision. Because if you could write that down, you could better it, couldn't you? Because now you've got something to aim for. And, when we aim for it, I think your unconscious mind, especially when you do it, and as you think about it, you feel so grateful, so good, a life well lived, you could probably go, I wonder what I can learn just from that to make it even better A few months ago, I was beating myself up for wasting time And this is where I get this reminder. And, I've noticed I get it quite a lot now, because I did have a real problem with time, I really did. A few months ago, I was beating myself up for wasting time and I kept getting this aha moment, simple ahas, Then they just kept repeating and repeating and as if my unconscious mind was trying to re remind me of what I knew. And all it says is, there's only one source, one source to your ultimate vision. One source every day, one source every hour, one source every breath. And it's your intention, your positive intention. And when you hold that ultimate vision in your mind's eye, that's your intention. And when you do that, it just means then you're not going to waste time. Because as you find yourself maybe wasting time, I know I do, I will suddenly get a kick up the bum. I'll get a reminder. No Cloughie, not this. Let's do somethin

Learning By Not Copying Or Modeling the skills you want to learn Modeling excellence involves observing and understanding the methods, strategies, and mindset of those who excel in a particular field, and then adapting and applying those insights to your own work or life. It's about recognizing patterns of success and distilling the essence of what makes someone or something excellent, rather than merely copying their actions without understanding the underlying principles. When you model excellence, you're not trying to replicate every detail of what someone else does. Instead, you're looking to extract the core principles and approaches that lead to success and applying them in your own unique way. This approach allows for creativity and innovation while still benefiting from the wisdom and experience of those who have achieved excellence in your chosen field. By modeling rather than copying, you can develop a deeper understanding of what it takes to excel and tailor it to your own strengths and circumstances. Lets Muse on this over the next 5 minutes or so and see how we learn what others took years to learn. Please share: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-441-learning-by-not-copying/ ‎ and the video link:  https://youtu.be/PJUSlNcVTLo Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I’m a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay,     Personal development [self improvement] [self development] [NLP] [Hypnosis]  

A Twist To The Act of Gratitude I often feel the act of gratitude, writing those 5 things you're grateful for can end up being a little bit by rote, and the feeling just diluted. This got me thinking of how we can vary this to keep things alive. This is not a replacement just a little spicing up and gets you thinking a little deeper about what you are grateful for. Sometimes just breaking the pattern ( a pattern interrupt) can make all the difference. And feeling grateful, truly grateful makes all the difference to our lives and what we attract in them. Please share  https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-440-a-twist-to-the-act-of-gratitude And there is as usual now a video of this recording here at YouTube https://youtu.be/lguyPPMPYHw Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I’m a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay,     Personal development [self improvement] [self development] [NLP] [Hypnosis]

I'm Scarred and Imperfect PART 2 We've done the talk now it's the walk In the journey of self-discovery and personal growth, embracing imperfections isn't just about accepting them; it's also about engaging in the profound act of self-healing. When we confront our scars and imperfections head-on, we embark on a journey of healing that can lead to greater self-awareness, resilience, and inner peace. Self-healing begins with acknowledging and accepting our imperfections without judgment or self-criticism. It's about recognizing that our scars, whether physical or emotional, are part of our story but do not define us. Instead of viewing them as flaws to be hidden or fixed, we can see them as opportunities for growth and transformation. One of the most powerful tools in self-healing is self-compassion. Just as we would show kindness and understanding to a friend facing challenges, we can offer the same compassion to ourselves. Self-compassion involves treating ourselves with gentleness, patience, and understanding, especially in times of struggle or pain. Another essential aspect of self-healing is forgiveness. This includes forgiving ourselves for past mistakes, letting go of resentments, and releasing the burdens of guilt or shame. Forgiveness doesn't mean condoning harmful behavior or forgetting the past; rather, it's about freeing ourselves from the emotional weight that holds us back from healing and growth. Self-care is also integral to the process of self-healing. This involves prioritizing our physical, emotional, and spiritual well-being through practices such as exercise, mindfulness, creative expression, and seeking support from loved ones or professionals when needed. By nurturing ourselves holistically, we create the conditions for healing to take place. Finally, self-healing requires courage and vulnerability. It's about facing our fears, confronting painful emotions, and being willing to explore the depths of our inner selves. This journey isn't always easy or linear, but it is incredibly rewarding, leading to greater self-awareness, resilience, and a deeper sense of connection to ourselves and others. In embracing imperfections as opportunities for growth and engaging in the art of self-healing, we empower ourselves to live more authentically, wholeheartedly, and compassionately. As we navigate this journey, may we remember that our scars are not signs of weakness but testaments to our strength and capacity for transformation. And that's where we go now - into the process of self-care and that transformation. Buckle up!!! https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/387-im-scarred-and-imperfect-part-2 Shine brightly  Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I’m a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay, And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism Let's dive straight in with a recap. So are you going to be open and honest with me, with yourself   So here's your heads up to this part two. The part two of I'm, scarred. I've got imperfections, and I'm celebrating them because I'm acknowledging them. Let's dive straight in with a recap. Personal, personal. Developer. Developer. Plugged. plugged, plugged, plugged. So you're back for more. Back for more. So are you going to be open and honest with me, with yourself? Are you going to notice? Because let's recap. This is part two. Let's just very quickly recap. We know that all. We're all a little bit broken, we're all a little bit damaged. We've all got a little ism now and again.   We've got a little bit of fear.   We'Ve got a little bit of anxiety.   We'Ve got a little bit of I'm.   Not good enough in different contexts. And we want to bring those out, out into the light and put a spotlight on them and understand how we can learn from them. So you can remember what we talked about, because only a couple of days ago, you might even be putting one and two together. I don't know. But now let's go through the process of what we're going to do with when we acknowledge these imperfections, these little scars. And if for some of you, they are pretty big, just remember, one to one therapy is absolutely awesome, but you'll have done the work.   Listen to this.   You'll have done a lot of the work for yourself and the therapist, because you'll know the one thing, the one thing that, when changed, will make the difference. That's where we're going, by the way. That's where we're going. Little heads up. So, are we going to be good? So, really set your intention now I'm going to find the one thing that when I change it, it's going to affect my life immeasurably in a wonderful way. So, having said that now, and we're all in the same little groove, let's go. Let's go and have the second part of I'm scarred, I'm imperfect. Okay, let's go.     What are your qualities? What are the things that you do well   So. So now what you've made that mind map of some people might call it my faults, my imperfections, my acknowledgement, my mind map of my imperfections. And you will, notice then you're recognizing that you've lived a life, because someone who hasn't lived a life doesn't have qualities or have imperfections. They are a straight liner. So I want you to flip it because you have lived a life, and you've lived a life, and you've experienced other things in your life, the good things, the positive things, and you've learned a bloody lot. You wouldn't be here if you hadn't learned and want more. So what are your qualities? What are the things that you do well? You enjoy? Now? Simple mind map, my qualities. Now, I don't know what number it is.   I'll see if I can find it.   Before the end, but I did a longer podcast on my qualities and how it came about, because it came about when I was really broken, really, really, really broken, and I had to bring it out just to find out whether, you know, find something in my life that had a quality. One thing I think that was, I can breathe. That's how bad it was, you know? Okay, well done, cluffy. You can breathe. So you're here, at least you're still above ground. But that, that's how it came about. But this is now to bring to light the things that you do well, the things that you enjoy.   And you've only got to have done.   It once, because if you've done something well once, that means you could do it well again. And there are things like, have you ever helped anybody? Have you ever, you know, been selfless.   Service, didn't want anything in reply, but.   You just helped somebody. Maybe you've just made someone smile and.   Just took away the.   The edge. Maybe things you've learned, you know, like me, I've learned hypnosis, and then I've learned deeper into all the different processes that I can use. And some I've just, you know, made them my own in some way. And that, to me, was my quality. Now, I know that you have done similar things with the things that you enjoy. You know, maybe it's some type of sport and you don't have to excel.   In it, really, you know, to a top level professional.   No, I did that well. I enjoyed it. I did it with a good intention, and I, you know, I got where. Got to a level, which I'm happy with. I know I can get better. but this is a quality in me. Maybe you just maybe like looking after animals, being with your best friend, telling jokes, making people laugh, telling stories, just being there. So many different things that you can put out or put out onto that piece of paper. And if you want, you also have a hypnosis track for it to use with that mind map of my qualities. And all you have to do where you know where to go. It's paulclufonline.com podcast. And you'll get that email and you get your personal link and you go there and you scroll down and you go, oh, there it is, my qualities.   I'll have a little listen to that. And it's hypnosis.   so it goes in the conscious and unconscious level. Whoa. Because a lot of this is conscious, but your unconscious mind is always listening. Remember Deepak Trop, I can't say his name, Deepak Chopra wrote in one of his books, your unconscious mind is alw

I'm Scarred and Imperfect Part 1 Let's celebrate just how we are and then learn how to we can change to be who we wish to be and have what we wish to have. We do need to acknowledge where we are in this striving to be the best version of ourselves so we can build on it, start and continue to build from a firm and stable foundation. To me - We're all a ikkle bit broken or a little bit damaged, we've all got a few 'isms' and we carry a little bit of baggage and that's great! Because when we do truthfully acknowledge this to ourselves we can begin to make meaningful changes, which I guess is why you listen hear. When we try to deny that imposter syndrome ism, guilt ism, anxiety ism and every other emotional ism you can think of we will continue the internal conflict and waste that valuable energy we have. Let's use it to create a life we can be proud of. As usual I'll share some personal stories and insights. In this episode we'll lay all the ground work for the changes you want to make ready for part 2. I won't keep you hanging for part 2 so get your skates on and DO THE WORK, which isn't hard but you have to do it if you want the results - and I know you do  :O) Please share the episode so others may learn too https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/386-im-scarred-and-imperfect-part-1     Personal development [self improvement] [self development] [NLP] [Hypnosis] Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I’m a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay, And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism Heads up to the longer podcast. It'll come on in the next few days   So here's your heads up. Heads up to the longer podcast. I'm scarred. I'm imperfect. Yay. I say, yay. Yay. Yeah. I'm celebrating. I'm celebrating and acknowledging that we're all a little bit broken, we're all a little bit damaged, we're all a little bit ism'd. And that's great because that means when we acknowledge it, we are going to change our world in such a wonderful way. And if you'd like to do that, have a listen after the little 15 2nd intro.   So, just to let you know, before we get into the whole of this podcast, when I recorded it, it just went on in a good way. And I felt there's a time when we should split it up in the middle so we can let things just integrate the thoughts, get together, and then hit the second half where we really get deep into the process of being able to look at these imperfections, these scars, and, make a difference to our lives. So look out for that. I'm not going to leave you hanging and have you hanging days and days and weeks and weeks. It'll come on in the next, I think the next three or four days. Okay, so listen to this first half, get into it, and then following few days will come that second half. But I think that'll give you time to really, I don't know, get your mind processing what we can do.   We're back with a longer podcast. I'm scared. He's not scared   Okay, here we go. Boom. And we're back with a longer podcast. I'm scared. He's not scared. I'm scared. I'm imperfect. That was a title.   You have to be honest about what you're thinking about, m   And, I have a question for you. I've got a question. Are you open? Open to what? Cloughie open. To be honest. maybe you might think. Honest about what? Well, let me tell you, m, I'll go through a few things. Have you seen that t shirt? The t shirt is advertised on a lot of social media. And it says, I'm broken with the okay in the middle is brighter, so you see it looks like I'm okay. But then you read it a little bit closer and it says, I'm broken. With that funny smiley face with a bandage or two and a cut and things like that, and a little plaster. I love it. I bought one. I thought about it for such a long time because I just loved that. Just love the emoji of it all. I'm broken. And let's admit it, we're all a bit, aren't we? We're all a bit broken. Somewhere. Some people maybe think they're broken more than others, but we've all got a little bit inside us, I think. Just, a little bit broken. Here's another one for you. Hear it. Hear it being talked about. Other people saying they're damaged. But I'm damaged. Yeah, that could be you speaking, couldn't it? And I hear you. I'm damaged. You are damaged. So am I. And so is every other bugger. Everyone. He's just a little bit damaged. I don't care what they say. I, know they're damaged. Yeah, we do. We are. We're a little bit broken. We're a little bit damaged. Everyone's got a bloody ism. They have. I've got an ism. Perfectionism. Knowing I can never be perfect. I mean, that's a real conflict in itself. And it comes from. Yeah, I'm not good enough. And, we've all got one of those, haven't, we. We've all got that. We've all got the other isms. Depression. Depression. Ism. Fear of missing out ism. I'm an imposter ism. We've all got those. We've all got them in bits, you know, we got little bits of it. Different criteria. Not different criteria, different context. I, may be as confident as anybody in the world in one context, and I could be a scared little mouse. Maybe in another context, maybe not quite.   Scared.   But we all think we're an impostor somewhere along the line, in a context or other. But you have to be honest. You have to be open to be honest. Somewhere we have these things going on, maybe not, you know, so they're massive, massive, massive. But if you go through your life and the things you've done maybe yesterday or the week, in the week, and just notice when you just felt a little bit m. that wasn't good. Oh, I felt a bit scared. Felt a little bit broken. Maybe I thought I was missing out. Maybe I thought, buck and me, they'll find me out here.   You know.   Shall I go on? Shall I go on? Yes, I will go on. I will. I want to get personal. Not with you. Not with you, of course. Well, I will. But this is about me, you see. I'm an introvert. Now, is that broken?   Maybe.   M maybe sometimes when it'll be better to be not extrovert, but be open and connected as opposed to sitting in the corner or it feels like I'm sitting in the corner, even when I'm, in a room with people, sometimes I think, I think too much. They are thinking about thinking too much, and it bogs me down. I wonder why I do that. We don't ask why here. I wonder, what could I learn from that? But on the other hand, I know sometimes I don't think enough.   Do you ever get lonely? Do you ever feel isolated   So again, we've got another dichotomy, we've got another conflict. I get lonely. Do you? Do you ever get lonely? And I don't necessarily mean, like, the big pandemic of loneliness that we're experiencing in the world now, but there are times when I just feel quite lonely now, whether that's because I'm an only child. And when you're an only child, what do you do? You think a lot. You talk to yourself. There's no other bugger around to talk to, to play with. And, maybe sometimes that's good, but other times feel I might be missing out, you know, from siblings, people who maybe protect you, maybe push you up, support you, maybe they knock you down. I don't know. We're all a little bit like that, are we? Or is that just me? Does any of this resonate with you? What else? What about you? I've been open. I've been honest. I mean, I get angry too much. I'm working on that, and it's gone down a lot, at least I think it has. So all these things I'm working at, and working on with myself, some of them aren't m quite. They're not very comfortable. But I do know each one of those is just a little bit broken. He's just a little bit damaged. He's a little bit, you know, an ism of some kind. But I know they're all trying, you know, each one is trying to do something for me. It just doesn't feel that way sometimes, does it? You know, if you're feeling a little bit scared, not scarred this time, but scared, a bit fearful, bit anxious.   So.   Can you say, you know, you don't go through the week and you're not a little bit anxious, if you don't, that's awesome. You crack that code. But is there something else? Maybe a lit

Be Careful What You Practice You might forget what you are practicing and find the results not to your liking. This little 5-minute FMQ muse was inspired by listening to Denzil Washington correcting a reporter if he practices telling untruths that's what you will end up doing as a habit. You see, we often get confused thinking practice makes perfect and it certainly doesn't. Also, we have to practice consciously - which we don't. All the more reason to be careful if you want the results you dream of and I know you do because you wouldn't be here. Let's go make this clear by pressing play and then sharing to help others practice what they desire https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-439-be-careful-what-you-practice There's a video of me for the FMQ here at YouTube  https://youtu.be/nBSvUt1Zq1o Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com  If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I’m a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay,       Personal development [self improvement] [self development] [NLP] [Hypnosis]

But I Don't Know Where To Start We've all cried this at one time or another - Or is it just me? And every reason I give seems so valid. The harsh truth is every reason you give is an excuse or a whiney reason to get us out of doing the thing and in a lot of cases the thing could be just the thing you need to do to make your life GREAT. So let's go make a difference and find out what stops you and what will make you start. I'll share a couple of personal stories and even a way when you really don't know what step to take so there will never be an excuse or reason ever. I hope this episode makes a real difference to your success, which is why I do this, and in that spirit please share this episode and the whole Personal Development Unplugged podcast: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/385-but-i-dont-know-where-to-start/ Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I’m a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay, And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism How to find the first step of anything you want to do   Hey, your heads up to I don't know where to start and you don't. And, maybe you do, but I bet you give all the blooming reasons and excuses why you can't. And this is the antidote to that. How to find that first step, the middle step, the last step of anything you want to do, because it'll be so important to you, so compelling, you'll be motivated the hell to do it. Okay, have a listen after this.     Paul Clough: Reasons why you can't do anything are simply excuses   Hey, friend.   The longer podcast.   And I, hear this from so many people, I even hear it from myself sometimes.   And it's that thing, I don't know where to start.   I know what I want to do.   Ish, but I can't start because I.   Don'T know where to start.   And even that, that is thought to.   Be a valid reason. I don't know where to start. So that's a valid reason. No, it's a bloody excuse because reasons why you can't do anything are, simply excuses.   It's a bit harsh, clothy. Yeah, but they are.   There's always something to blame, as it were.   There's always somebody blame so that more.   Clearly somebody to blame. Oh, I can't do that because they need my time. Well, I've got to do this. I've got to do that for them first. I've got to look after them first. I can't do it myself. Oh, the weather's in the way. Oh, the economy's in the way. Oh, there's every bloody excuse under the.   Sun in the way.   So what was a valid reason? Isn't. There is no such thing as a valid reason for. I don't know where to start. But the thing is, we also say.   Why?   Why me? It seems so right to ask, why me? Why can't I find this thing? Why has it always happened to me that I can't do this thing I want to do? Why are these people always in the way? Why are these things, I've got different responsibilities. Why have I got these excuses, basically. And the thing is, asking that why.   Question like that, why me?   Why is it always happening? Will give you a brilliant answer.   It'd be false, by the way, but.   It'D be a brilliant answer because it'll be one of your limiting beliefs. Well, because I've got to do this or I can't do that. It's all bullshit. I remember years and years and years and years ago on my, I think it was the second week of my hypnotherapy training and we were learning something called the meta model, which I later found out was, even goes into even more detail when I did my NLP work, the meta model. And it's really a way of getting specific about an issue. So to clear away those excuses, those reasons, and find out what's below the surface. And the thing is, if we were.   To ask why in, because what would.   Happen is we would go away to do an exercise and talk to somebody. And in that talking we would look to go beneath the surface of whatever they said. And sometimes it got so interesting, you just go, oh, why did you do that?   Boom.   you were fined. You were fined at that time, 20 p. It wasn't a lot of money, but it was 20 p. But it stuck. It was like an anchor, it was like a pattern interrupt.   It suddenly stopped you because you would.   Then go, oh. It's because I think this a belief. Whereas a meta model to go beneath the surface would ask questions like, well, how do you want to be? How would you like to feel? What resources do you have? Who do you know?   Where would you like to be in so much time?   How long do you want to be doing this? How much time have you got? What are the real restrictions to that time? What do you know? What don't you know? Do you know? Somebody who knows this has done it before. Now they're real good questions because you start to go below the surface to find out information, to find out the facts. You want to try it, keep asking yourself those questions as you write the answer.   Yeah, write the answers down, but just.   Put how, what, who, where? And cross out a big capital w h y.   Because we don't know why, not yet.   That's going to come in a short while. You see, I think this is so important, so important because it removes the excuses. And those excuses stop us taking action and they'll probably put thoughts in your head to stop it, to stop taking that action.     Even questions like how do you know you can't do it make you think   And we want positive thoughts from these questions. How, what, who, where. Even questions like how do you know you can't do it?   Now that makes you think, doesn't it?   Well, how do I really know? It makes you go to the data, makes you go to the real facts.   Makes you become honest with yourself.   And you certainly know if you're dishonest with yourself or if you tell yourself a little fib, you say, oh, well, how do I know it's because, oh, no, no, no, I'm telling a fiber. That's another excuse. That's another reason. Cloughy told me about that. Here's my 20 p. And in fact, you're fine. You're fine today. Just thought about this. If you ask yourself the question why?   Or you answer a question why you have to share this podcast to two people. There you go.   Not 20, not 20 p for 20 people. But that's a UK money, by the way, sterling. But you have to pass this information forward. Share it forward.   There you go.   Pay it forward. Literally, pay it forward. And you see, what happens sometimes is we all fall for this. We all fall for making excuses, making reasons which we think and feel so.   Valid at the time.   I mean, I've fallen for this so many times, too. And then I catch myself because I, I find it's a little bit, maybe a self pity moment.   Oh, poor me, poor me.   I can't do it because of this, this and this.   Poor, poor Cluffy.   And then I have to kick myself up the ass and go, what are you doing? You know better than this. Let's look at it again. Where do you want to go?   Where are you now?   What do you know? what do you know about the subject now? What do you need to know to get where you want to go? What would you need to do?   And we're going to come to that.   Who do you know, Cluffy? Who do you know has done it before? What are your resources you could find? What time have I got available? Real time. And, as soon as I get into that mode, that self pity, poor clothy mode disappears.   Really does.   You're going to try it.   It really does. And the thing is, the wonderful reframe.   Of this is if you go.   So I don't know where to go.   I don't know where to start. Or if I was to ask you. Okay, so you don't know where to start. The answer to that is, good.   Good.   That's a jocko willink.   Good.   Because you get to do it one, for yourself to find out this, that is really empowering because it's bringing you back to. Cause you're going to create the effect, you're going to create the steps along the way. You're going to get this result, this success, and it's going to build confidence.   Competence, everything, because you're starting new.   It's like a beginner's mindset starting anew, but beginner's mindset with a lot of resources in your little toolbox in your.   Back, backpack, something like that.   But anyway

Hypnosis - What It's Really Like Let's take away any fear you might have If you ask 1000 hypnotists what is hypnosis you will probably get a 1000 different answers - And as a client why would you care? Yet I get clients who come to me with deep emotional problems, and some not deep, wanting help but are afraid, scared of what hypnosis feels like. Will be out of control? Will I remember any of it? Will you click your fingers and I'll be out of it- unconscious? Valid as those questions are, the facts of what hypnosis or some say trance is so different and is quite the contrary. Come listen and find out for yourself how I explain this to my clients Then please share with anyone who has those misconceptions https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-438-hypnosis-what-its-really-like And now the link if you want to see this in video form too  https://youtu.be/3R3GkdbOH4U Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie I’m a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay,

The Direct Debit Of Investing In You And Your Success What a mouthful and seems very technical It's a metaphor   :O) In the financial world, people talk about capital and compound interest In the networking world, people talk about social capital And it got me thinking 'What about our world, the world of our personal development?' -you and me. How can we use the principles of financial investing and networking that work on ourselves? Digging the well before you are thirsty (that's not my phrase by the way I've borrowed it. And I have got some 'How too's' in this episode that I think make sense, are simple (we like simple) and if you do them they will increase your success and confidence compoundly (if that's a word- it is now). So come with me on this not too longa dive and let's learn ways to make our lives better. Please share all that you learn so you learn even more deeply https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/384-the-direct-debit-of-investing-in-you-and-your-success Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie I’m a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay,     And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism This is personal development unplugged with Paul Clough   You.   Hey, your heads up for the direct debit of your success. I've gone into the financial world and found within the financial world and its setup there are things that we can learn. I've gone to the connection world networking world and found there's something we can use there and put them both together for our own better selves, our own personal development. Have a listen. I hope it makes sense.   This is personal development unplugged, with Paul Clough. I want to talk to you about investments. Can you believe that? Investments. Hey friend, how we doing today   In simplicity there is genius.   In simplicity there is genius.   Hey friend, how we doing today? And I want to talk to you about investments. Can you believe that? Investments. And no, it's not an advert.   You see, it's all about capital. Investing your capital, creating your capital.   And we all know, don't we?   We all know that if you invest the right way, you get things like.   Compound interest, don't you? It's interest on interest and interest on interest on interest.   And I think a lot of people.   Get a bit confused by that. And no, I'm not going to explain it because I get confused by it too. I just know it works.   But I was listening to other people.     Social capital is giving service, selfless   Talk about it, about this, you see, because there was a term and I think it's still used, called social capital and what social capital, because it was a buzword and maybe it still is, I don't know.   But social capital was I guess brought.   In around the term networking. Networking in business, especially for entrepreneurs.   But that's BS anyway, because the social capital of an individual didn't matter whether.   You'Re an entrepreneur, if you're working.   Just by yourself, or whether you're just.   Working with other people.   As an employee, you all required social capital. We all do.   And what is social capital?   Well, it's your contacts, your contacts in your career.   This is where it came from, the networking. But obviously there's social contacts as well. And I remember the very, my early days of touching this networking. And it used to be like 1 minute networking, five minute networking.   And it used to just be like hot tables.   You go in there, hand a card over to somebody you did not want to do or give work to other people, you really just wanted work for yourself.   It was so self centered, really was.   There was no social capital at all.   In that.   It was win, not win win. You had to win at all costs, you had to get one up on everything. And that really didn't work because everybody knew it. And you used to get all those cards and used to put them in.   The bin, you really did.   Apart from the OD, one that you thought a guy was nice. And that's where the social capital comes from, because you made contacts. And then it changed. And it's changed. Well, it's changed for some. And I know the people who make it work.   The social capital is giving service, selfless.   Service for others, to create a network of friends. Not necessarily friends, but business friends, business colleagues, people who you could help. And, maybe one day, one day.   They could help you.   But that isn't the reason. The reason is just to get this social network. So you just get to, in times of crisis, I guess that's the real reason for it. You can call upon people just to reciprocate the help that you gave them. So there is a little bit of reciprocation there, I guess. But there is so much more giving than receiving. And it just works. Because what happens is people give back without you asking for the things. Because they feel good about it too. They want to, reciprocate. They want to do things selflessly. And therefore it's called digging the well before you're thirsty. Dig the well before you need it.   The law of reciprocity.     Capital and compound interest and social capital all apply to personal development   And you see, you've got all of that, and you're probably thinking now, you are probably thinking, and quite rightly so, where's he going with this?   What's Cloughie doing now?   And what the hell's this got to.   Do with personal development? Self improvement and,   Being better today than yesterday? All that stuff he's talked about. Where is he going? And that's exactly what I thought. No, sort of. Because I, listening to all this thing.   About capital and compound interest and also social capital, I thought to myself, this.   Really does apply to our personal development.   To being better today than yesterday. Because it got me thinking, how could we direct these thoughts of capital, compound.   Interest with capital that creates in a, compound interest in us, in our personal development? How could it be directed to creating a better me? How could it be directed to me.   Being a better me?   And, when I say me also.   Mean you, because you're my mate.   So us, how could this thing about social capital and, if we.   Could model it, what well would we need to dig to invest in us?   Because that's what it is, isn't it? We all said it's investment. Investment in a career, maybe.   Contacts, connections, compound interest. How could we dig a well that actually created something better in us? Good metaphor, I thought, because it's all about investing in who? Absolutely. Ourselves. But then I thought about it.   It's not investing in ourselves, in big dollops. I love the word dollop today. Not in big dollops, but in small deposits. I don't know which one sounds better after when you talk about that, but investing in small deposits that add up over time. So I suppose you could call them regular small dollops.   And I thought, well, how could we invested ourselves over time in regular small dollops that would then create a capital in us and create compound interest, create a network of learning, maybe. Oh, see, I thought learning small investments every day with obviously an intention, got to have a.   Why?   Why is it important to you to learn? It's no point in just saying, oh, I just want to, learn something because I know people, and I know you do, and I've talked about it before, who know a bit about everything.   They know stuff that will never, ever be used. But I do think sometimes, on the.   Flip side of that, it's good to learn lots of different things as well, to keep your interest going, to keep that muscle going, because like this, if.   I wasn't thinking about capital, compound interest.   And this social capital, I wouldn't have.   Got this into my head about investing.   In ourselves and creating a capital in ourselves. But actually, just sitting down and maybe reading for ten minutes a day could be something difficult. Because if you. If you read something a little bit more difficult than you can normally handle, your brain starts to wor

Making Success Simply Achievable The way we speak, and the words we use can change the way we feel. Now I know that's completely left field and never been said before  NOT Yet in this 5-minute quickie episode, I want to share one word that when used changes everything Change everything on the outside and even more importantly on the inside. Please share https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-437-making-success-simply-achievable Oh! there's a video to this too  https://youtu.be/f_ef_kTnUK8 Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie I’m a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay,  Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay,  

How Do I Compare To Others And why is it so BS when I do (it wrong)? Another listers question having trouble with this - comparing ourselves to others and feeling bad. And an apology there are a couple of swear words in this episode - sorry they just slipped out and I do think keeping them in is appropriate and deliberately a little shocking I think we all have issues with comparing to others and I want to share my personal experiences, yup plural, and what happened. The thing is we only see the outside of people, their showreels, and I know you and I never get to compare against how they really are. and if we did it might be a different result to our emotions. I will take you on an audio adventure of who to compare to and use that comparison to make your life better every day, week, month, and year. I'll also share how to compare to others that work too. Oh, am I a sharer.   :O) Talking of sharing here's a link to share this episode with others if they haven't a podcast app https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/383-how-do-i-compare-to-others/ I hope you enjoy and if I have shared something you didn't know that's GREAT! If you know all this 'stuff' hopefully I have encourage you to use what you know a little bit more. Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie I’m a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay, And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism Hey, my friend, how do I compare to others?   What's this all about? Well, it's a question that was raised by one of you about comparing to others and feeling bad. And, that is so bs. And I want to show you how, why and what to do about it and to feel the joy and love in the world. And, I know feeling joy and love in the world is so important to everyone to have a listen after these next 15 or so seconds.   Warning, warning. Warning. Warning. You are entering into the unplugged mind of Paul Clough. Clough. Too late. Personal development unplugged.   So you're back for a bit more. Hey, pleased to have you with me.   And I compare thee to a summer's night, summer's dream. I don't know what that was, but.     It's all about comparing ourselves to others. Isn't that what we do   Since I put the shortest newsletter out I could the other week, I got a question from one of the listeners. One of the, one of our listeners, one of you, one of the three of you out there asked another question.   And it's all about comparing ourselves, to others. And guess what?   Feeling bad.   Isn't that what we do?   Isn't that what we do? So I want to tell you a couple of stories.     First, about comparing. I attended trainings in NLP when I was a practitioner   First, about comparing.   About comparing. Now, I might warn you now, I might swear a little bit in this. Maybe not.   Maybe I'll be so articulate that I won't swear. But who knows?   We'll see.   Anyway, back in the days of my trainings in NLP, not the ones I did or I gave, but the ones.   I attended when I was a practitioner.   Or learning to be a practitioner and learning to be a master practitioner.   And you see, at the end of.   One room, of the room we were.   Doing the training in, there was a table. And it was the table I loved.   The most because it was the book table. And, when you're into hypnosis and.   NLP, as much as I was, you.   Just wanted to read and take in everything you could, especially the yellow books. I don't know why yellow books, but yellow books always seemed to be more attractive to me. And they just did.   They just did. And I bought a book every month.   Every month. But then I'd talk to a few people and they go, oh, I've read that. Oh, it's a really great book. Yeah, I've read that too.   Oh, I know all about that one.   I know that one and I know that one. And they would come out with all these, and that's the one side of NLP I'm not 100% with sometimes is the bloody wording. Sometimes the wording is a bit complicated, sometimes I think it's a little bit.   Up our ass, but I know what.   It's trying to do.   But, hey, but they were using words.   That just didn't make sense. And I used to sit there thinking, they know so much. Compared to me, I know nothing. They know so much.   I'm going to tell you what happened to them in a minute, but not yet.   You see, also in those trainings, and not just those trainings, even my hypnosis training, the trainings, I've gone to see other people watching demos and, a demo is. We're going to show you a process. We'll talk through a process. Now, has anybody got this type of problem?   Come up on the stage and we'll.   Get rid of it by using this process and we'll demonstrate the process. And, then you're all going to go away as practitioners and go and practice that as an exercise. And I used to watch those demos with the biggest eyes and a mouth dropped open, watching the skill of that trainer. And it was every trainer they just.   Seemed to master being able to find a root cause, be able to, I.   Don'T know, it was like, steer their way through.   It was if that process just homed in. And I used to think, compared to me, I, don't know if I'm.   M even going to be able to do the process.   I would never, never, ever in a.   Million, million bloody years be able to do that.   I never would. And, also in my clinic have.   These lovely clients come in, lovely people.   And some of them, when you look.   At them and you see them drive up in their bloody great big cars.   Huge cars, lovely cars, and you just.   Know they're in brackets, whatever that bracket is, successful. They look like they have it all. And I'm thinking other, bloody hell, you.   Come in here, you've got it all. But I knew that.   I know that's just silly self talk.   Because yet inside they were racked with.   All sorts of emotions, trauma, maybe they.   Were suffering from emotions, but from a deep grief, guilt and the anxiety and the fears that came from that, the effects were there, but it was like as if they didn't show it on the outside, they didn't show it.     Paul says he often compares himself to famous people on social media   See, another thing, another thing. You might believe this or you might.   Not, but I've got some friends.   I got a couple of friends.   And yes, I do. I'm not fibbing, I'm not bragging, I'm not bragging, I'm not bigging myself up because I've got a couple of friends.   But I've got a couple of friends.   And on the outside they seem so confident. They always seem bloody happy. They're laughing and they're joking, and they always seem to be flittering around and just having a great time with lots of different people. Always having a, having a joke, always.   Having a bit of a laugh.   They look absolutely as if they're killing.   It in a good way. But when we talk by ourselves, one to one, they admit to being anxious.   About things, anxious about their business. They're scared of, things that are happening in their life. They're worried.   Isn't that strange? Yet I compare them myself to them.   They tell such wonderful stories. They're always alive and soul of the party. And there's me old, little old introvert in that corner. Yes, they're my friends, but I'm the little one in the corner. And I'm big boy little one in the corner. I'm not big. I'm,   Tall.   Not big big, but tall, tall, tall.   Paul. And I compare.   I wish.   But then when I do hear them.   Talk about their anxieties, their fears, what they're scared about, m kept that hidden.   And there's a lot of funny people. I don't mean funny, weird funny.   I would keep making myself laugh this morning, and it is this morning. And I don't know why I said that either. But there's a lot of comedians, people who make people laugh for a living.   You hear about them being so depressed.   So depressed when they close the doors.   And become alone and you compare yourself.   To them, you think they're having a lovely, they're having such a great life, always seeing them laughing, joking, being interviewed.   Yeah, I wish I could be like that.   You think?   But then it's only when they

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