Optimising Leader Brilliance: Enabling Calm, Confident, Strategic Leadership

Are you the "rock" that everyone else relies onwhile you're secretly struggling? In this episode, we explore the "Be Strong" pattern and why hyper-independence isoften a survival response to childhood patterns that demand emotional stoicism. Learn why suppressed emotions manifest as physical pain - like frozen shoulders and chronic fatigue - and how to reclaim your resilience by choosingvulnerability over the trap of "toughness."In this final part of our miniseries on Adrienne Lee’s “Drowning Person” model, I share the deeply personal story of my father’s battle with vulnerability and the moment a mentor’s simple question broke through my own stoic mask. We’ll discuss the "Fixer" mentality at work, the mental health crisis caused by emotional bottlenecks, and practical tools like EFT (Tapping) and journaling to help you finally ask for help without guilt. What You Will Learn:💡 The Cost of Hyper-Independence: Why the most reliable people are often the ones "drowning" in silence.💡 The Somatic Connection: How to listen to your body’s "dashboard warning lights"- from frozen shoulders to digestive issues.💡 Breaking the Fixer Cycle: How to move from fierce self-reliance to a more connected, sustainable leadership style. Whether you are a firstborn child, a parentified professional, or a leader feeling the weight of the world, this episode offers a roadmap to true emotional strength. Here’s to your leadership development and personal growth! Estelle Read  Bestselling Author, Executive Coach & Speaker Timestamps:00:00) Introduction: The Be Strong Pattern - Final Episode in the Miniseries(01:42) The Drowning Man Metaphor (02:38) The Person Everyone Turns To: Stoicism vs. Empathy(03:08) The Moment I Burst Into Tears: Why Don't You Ask for Help?(04:22) Core Fear: Vulnerability Makes You Weak or Burdensome(04:50) The Stigma of Stoicism: Why we hide our feelings(05:20) A Tortured Soul Who Wouldn't Open Up(07:06) The Phone Call: My Dad's Final Vulnerability(08:00) Where Be Strong Comes From: Don't Be Vulnerable, Power Through(08:28) Why Men Struggle More: Suicide Rates and the Secret Club(09:38) Childhood Examples: Pull Yourself Together (10:28) The Parentified Child: No Room for Your Own Feelings(10:52) Adult Problems at Work: Difficulty Asking for Help(11:20) Emotional Bottlenecks: Quietly Seething Until You Leave(11:51) Fierce Independence: Why high-achievers refuse help(12:31) Birth Order and Independence: Both Firstborns(13:17) Mental Health Problems: Burnout and Somatic Symptoms(13:43) Frozen Shoulders: Bearing the Responsibility(14:16) Somatic Symptoms: How your body signals suppressed emotions(14:36) The Dashboard Warning Light Metaphor: Listen to Your Body(15:39) The Parentified Child Fixing Her Parents' Divorce(16:14) Becoming the Fixer at Work: Filling Responsibility Gaps(17:02) Almost Off With Burnout: The Exhaustion Breaking Point(20:03) Strategies, Tools And Resources To Overcome the Be Strong Pattern(27:48) EFT Videos on My Channel⭐Follow, Access Resources or Book a Free Discovery Call:⁠https://linktr.ee/EstelleAtBeee⁠ ⭐Help Us Keep Growing & Going:If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe wherever you listen or watch, leave a review or share it with someone who might benefit. Thank you ❤️.  ⭐Estelle Read’s Coaching Programmes:🌟⁠The Resilient Leader Programme: SHINE⁠🌟⁠The Optimised Leader Programme: NEXT LEVEL⁠ ⭐Buy Estelle Read’s Bestselling Book:⁠Inner Brilliance, Outer Shine: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism and Stress ⁠ ⭐Subscribe to Estelle Read’s Blog: ⁠Receive my free workbook: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism & Stress, when you sign up. ⁠ ⭐Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and shouldnot be considered professional advice. Please consult a qualified professional for specific advice.

Are you stuck in analysis paralysis? In this episode, we explore how perfectionism fuels Imposter Syndrome and reveal my proprietary LAR Method to break the cycle once and for all. Learn why the pursuit of perfection is holding your career back and how to use the "10% Strategy" to reclaim your time, energy, and authenticity.As part of our miniseries on Transactional Analysis drivers, I’m diving into the childhood origins of the "Be Perfect" pattern. From the "Owl Story" to the pressure of high-stakes leadership, we discuss why the fear of being "exposed" as imperfect is your biggest barrier to growth—and how even Steve Bartlett uses imperfection as a superpower.What You Will Learn:Whether you're a leader avoiding a promotion or an entrepreneur hiding behind a mask of perfection, this episode will help you choose progress over perfectionism.Here’s to your leadership development and personal growth! Estelle Read  Bestselling Author, Executive Coach & Speaker Timestamps:(00:00) Introduction: Quit Perfectionism By Doing This(02:08) What is Perfectionism and Why It Matters(03:37) The Perfectionism Trap: Red Crosses and Self-Doubt(05:05) The Core Fear: Being Exposed as Imperfect(06:31) Origins of Perfectionism: Critical Parents and Childhood Trauma(10:20) The Owl Story: How Shame Creates Perfectionism(12:49) When Perfection Crumbles: The Cost of Mistakes(14:28) The Perfectionism Mindset(17:38) The Mental Health Impact: Anxiety and Imposter Syndrome(18:18) How to use the LAR Method to stop Perfectionism(20:05) Error-Friendly Experiments: Practicing Imperfection(22:28) Productivity Tip: The 10% Time Reduction Strategy(24:15) Steve Bartlett's Imperfect Posts: Embracing Authenticity(25:53) Resources: Books, Journals, and Free Tools(27:13) Preview: Next Episode on the Be Strong Pattern⭐Help Us Keep Growing & Going:If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe whereveryou listen or watch, leave a review or share it with someone who might benefit. Thank you ❤️. ⭐Listen or Watch on YouTube:🎧Listen on your favourite podcast platform here: https://estelleread.com/podcast/📺Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@EstelleRead/podcasts ⭐Follow Estelle Read: https://linktr.ee/EstelleAtBeee ⭐Access Resources or Book a Free Discovery Call:⁠https://estelleread.com/resources/⁠ ⭐Estelle Read’s Coaching Programmes:🌟⁠The Resilient Leader Programme: SHINE⁠🌟⁠The Optimised Leader Programme: NEXT LEVEL⁠ ⭐Buy Estelle Read’s Bestselling Book:⁠Inner Brilliance, Outer Shine: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism and Stress ⁠ ⭐Subscribe to Estelle Read’s Blog: ⁠Receive my free workbook: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism & Stress, when you sign up. ⁠ ⭐Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and shouldnot be considered professional advice. Please consult a qualified professional for specific advice.

Did you know your brain processes a 'social rejection'exactly like physical pain? That's why saying 'no' to your boss feels like a survival threat. Today, I'm showing you how to re-wire that response.In this miniseries episode, I explore the Please Me Patternand why people-pleasing behaviour keeps you trapped in cycles of overcommitment, resentment, and burnout. I share the neuroscience behind why rejection feels like physical pain, reveal a powerful client breakthrough with a narcissistic boss, and give you practical tools to set boundaries without guilt. Whether you struggle to say no at work or find yourself constantly organising everything for everyone, this episode will show you how to break free from people-pleasing for good. What You Will Learn:💡 Why your brain treats rejection like touching a hot stove - and how this survival mechanism keeps you saying yes when you should say no 💡 The exact moment a people-pleasing lawyer stood up to her manipulative boss and what happened next (spoiler: no consequences, just respect) 💡 A simple four-letter framework for giving difficult feedback that protects your boundaries while maintaining relationships Here’s to your leadership development and personal growth! Estelle Read  Bestselling Author, Executive Coach & Speaker Timestamps:(00:00) Introduction: This Stops People Pleasing(02:47) The Please Me Pattern: Why saying no feelsterrifying(03:27) The lawyer who couldn't stop pleasing people(03:51) The drowning man analogy(04:41) Core fear: Rejection and abandonment(05:10) Why we can't survive without parental love(06:13) Rejection activates the same brain area as physicalpain(07:18) Childhood origins of people-pleasing behaviour(09:16) How people-pleasing shows up at work(10:11) The imbalance in relationships and resentment(12:28) Developing your inner captain vs inner critic(15:01) Client story: The people-pleaser at flight risk(16:15) Using havening to find the root cause(17:48) The breakthrough: Standing up to the narcissisticboss(18:48) How boundaries transformed her friendships too(19:39) The mindset shift: Self-validation and journaling(20:41) Assertiveness training: Ken and Kate Back(21:16) Getting rid of people-pleasing triggers withhavening(22:00) The SBI+R model for difficult feedback(23:20) Setting clear boundaries and raising awareness(24:32) Micro action: Assertive phrases for your back pocket(25:12) Resources: Run a Tight Ship chapter(25:58) Next episode: The Be Perfect Pattern(26:10) Subscribe and connect with me⭐Help Us Keep Growing & Going:If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe whereveryou listen or watch, leave a review or share it with someone who might benefit. Thank you ❤️. ⭐Listen or Watch on YouTube:🎧Listen on your favourite podcast platform here: https://estelleread.com/podcast/📺Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@EstelleRead/podcasts ⭐Follow Estelle Read: https://linktr.ee/EstelleAtBeee ⭐Access Resources or Book a Free Discovery Call:⁠https://estelleread.com/resources/⁠ ⭐Estelle Read’s Coaching Programmes:🌟⁠The Resilient Leader Programme: SHINE⁠🌟⁠The Optimised Leader Programme: NEXT LEVEL⁠ ⭐Buy Estelle Read’s Bestselling Book:⁠Inner Brilliance, Outer Shine: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism and Stress ⁠ ⭐Subscribe to Estelle Read’s Blog: ⁠Receive my free workbook: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism & Stress,when you sign up. ⁠ ⭐Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and shouldnot be considered professional advice. Please consult a qualified professional for specific advice.

Do you catch yourself rushing through tasks or finishingother people's sentences? In this episode, we explore why your brain equates speed with safety and how the "Hurry Up" habit is quietly sabotaging your productivity, relationships, and mental health.As part of our miniseries on Adrienne Lee’s “DrowningPerson” model (Transactional Analysis), I’m sharing my personal journey from a high-speed HR leader to reclaiming my peace. Discover the childhood origins of your need for urgency, recognise the warning signs of "Rush Mode,"and learn practical strategies to slow down to speed up yourresults without sacrificing success.What You Will Learn:💡 The Biology of Speed: Why your brain treats slowness as a "danger signal"and keeps you trapped in a constant fight-or-flight state.💡 Childhood Programming: How early messages equating speed with competence create adult patterns of anxiety and hurried decisions.💡 Practical Tools for Calm: From the "School Run Walk of Shame" to the 7-11 Breathing Technique and the 4-3-2 Sensory Exercise.Whether you're balancing a career, family, or personalgrowth, this episode reveals why doing things quickly often backfires - and how to finally break the cycle. Tune in for next week's episode on how to overcome the ‘Pleasing’ patten. Here’s to your leadership development and personal growth! Estelle Read  Bestselling Author, Coach & Speaker Timestamps:(00:00) Introduction (01:55) The Hurry Up Pattern Explained(03:12) Core Fear: Missing Something Crucial(03:41) Personal Example: Balancing Retirement & Business(04:33) Origins: Urgency as a Safety Signal(05:01) Childhood Patterns from Parents(05:21) My Confession: Creating This Pattern in My Daughter(06:02) Parenting Stress: The School Run "Walk of Shame"(07:13) How This Pattern Affects Children(08:19) Problems in Adulthood: Rushed Decisions & Mistakes(09:30) DISC Profile Connection(11:15) Mental Health Impact: Baseline Stress(12:37) Warning Signs(13:02) Example: HR Leadership: Breaking the "Rush Mode" Cycle(14:23) How Coaching Transformed My Hurry Up Pattern(14:47) Six Weeks in a Mindfulness Shed(15:35) Learning to Eat Mindfully(16:48) Philly the Pheasant: Slowing Down at Lunch(17:59) Speaking Career: From Horse Commentator to Impactful Presenter(18:44) The Transformation: Disconnecting "Slow = Bad"(19:33) The Opposite Truth About Speed & Intelligence(20:20) Strategies for Overcoming in Adulthood(21:13) Tools: Micro Pauses (22:07) 7-11 Breathing Technique forInstant Calm(22:28) Mindfulness: The 4-3-2 Sensory Exercise(25:20) Scheduling Buffer Times(25:46) Resources: Mindfulness Apps & Havening(26:11) Next Episode Preview: The Please Me Pattern(26:28) Outro & Call to Action ⭐Help Us Keep Growing & Going:If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe whereveryou listen or watch, leave a review or share it with someone who might benefit. Thank you ❤️. ⭐Listen or Watch on YouTube:🎧Listen on your favourite podcast platform here: https://estelleread.com/podcast/📺Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@EstelleRead/podcasts ⭐Follow Estelle Read: https://linktr.ee/EstelleAtBeee ⭐Access Resources or Book a Free Discovery Call: ⁠https://estelleread.com/resources/⁠ ⭐Estelle Read’s Coaching Programmes:🌟⁠The Resilient Leader Programme: SHINE⁠🌟⁠The Optimised Leader Programme: NEXT LEVEL⁠ ⭐Buy Estelle Read’s Bestselling Book:⁠Inner Brilliance, Outer Shine: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism and Stress ⁠ ⭐Subscribe to Estelle Read’s Blog: ⁠Receive my free workbook: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism & Stress, when you sign up. ⁠ ⭐Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and shouldnot be considered professional advice. Please consult a qualified professional for specific advice.

Are you stuck in a cycle of relentless effort but feel likeyou're never doing enough? In this episode, we explore how the "Try Hard" habit fuels chronic overworking, perfectionism, and burnout.Discover the exact childhood messages driving your need toprove your worth today and learn how this unconscious pattern, (part of Adrienne Lee’s “Drowning Person” model in Transactional Analysis), might actually be sabotaging your professional success.What You Will Learn:💡 Discover why trying hard might be sabotaging your success and pushing people away instead of impressing them 💡 Learn the childhood origins of the "try hard" pattern and how unconscious messages from your past are driving your overwork today 💡 Get actionable strategies to break the cycle including delegation techniques, time-blocking methods, and the gold standard approach for automatic behaviour change Tune in next week for the Hurry Up pattern.  Here’s to your leadership development and personal growth! Estelle Read  Bestselling Author, Coach & Speaker Timestamps:(00:00) Introduction - Why trying hard is your enemy(01:45) The try hard pattern explained(03:30) Core fear of being deemed lazy or inadequate(05:05) Where the try hard pattern comes from(06:09) Childhood drivers and unconscious messages(07:32) Adult problems caused by trying hard(08:00) Client story: Academic inadequacy and imposter syndrome(10:53) Client transformation results(12:25) Strategies for overcoming try hard(13:22) Mindset shift: Define what good enough is(14:18) Practical tools(18:18) Why willpower isn't enough: The role of Havening and EFT in burnout(18:52) Setting boundaries (19:44) Micro action(20:22) Resources (21:26) The next episode: The Hurry Up pattern⭐Help Us Keep Growing & Going:If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe whereveryou listen or watch, leave a review or share it with someone who might benefit. Thank you ❤️. ⭐Listen or Watch on YouTube:🎧Listen on your favourite podcast platform here: https://estelleread.com/podcast/📺Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@EstelleRead/podcasts ⭐Follow Estelle Read: https://linktr.ee/EstelleAtBeee ⭐Access Resources or Book a Free Discovery Call:⁠https://estelleread.com/resources/⁠ ⭐Estelle Read’s Coaching Programmes:🌟⁠The Resilient Leader Programme: SHINE⁠🌟⁠The Optimised Leader Programme: NEXT LEVEL⁠ ⭐Buy Estelle Read’s Bestselling Book:⁠Inner Brilliance, Outer Shine: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism and Stress ⁠ ⭐Subscribe to Estelle Read’s Blog: ⁠Receive my free workbook: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism & Stress,when you sign up. ⁠ ⭐Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and shouldnot be considered professional advice. Please consult a qualified professional for specific advice.

Irini Tzortzoglou is a UK MasterChef winner, author, olive oil and honey sommelier, and retreat host. In this episode, she shares her unlikely leap from the banking world to culinaryexcellence - and the mindset shifts that made it possible. You’ll learn how to recognize your sacred gifts, overcome limiting beliefs, and build a life aligned with purpose, even under high pressure. What you’ll learn:  💡 The real driver behind Irini’s MasterChef win (it’s about more than the food) and what that means for success in any field💡 Reframing praise and overcoming imposter syndrome: a practical technique to accept recognition without self-doubt💡 Emotional intelligence under pressure: how Irini stays calm, connected, and focused in high-stakes moments Ideal for professionals in high-performance roles who want to:Break through performance ceilingsLead with confidence under pressureCultivate resilience, clarity, and compassionate leadershipHere’s to your leadership development and personal growth! Estelle Read  Bestselling Author, Executive Coach & Speaker Timestamps:(00:00) Introduction to Irini Tzortzoglou(00:48) What makes Irini's days exciting and unpredictable(04:35) The reality behind social media influence(06:46) How Irini approaches content creation authentically(08:54) When did things take off? The algorithm and word of mouth(11:11) The story behind "Under the Olive Tree"(14:18) How childhood curiosity shaped emotional intelligence(15:50) From banking to MasterChef: Connecting the dots(17:45) Life-changing moments and pivotal decisions(20:34) Overcoming limiting beliefs during MasterChef(21:13) The "sacred gifts" revelation(24:27) Learning to accept praise and acknowledge others(27:57) The moment her name was called as MasterChef winner(29:23) From MasterChef to meaningful retreats(38:30) The transformational power of connection(39:54) MasterChef lessons on teamwork and trust(41:58) Why emotional intelligence matters for success(42:00) Three lessons for career success(43:15) The importance of doing the work(44:24) Never resent where you are - it's preparing you(46:03) Practice gratitude behind the wheel(48:12) If you could invite three people to dinner...(52:06) The one belief that shaped you(54:46) Closing thoughts and staying connected⭐Help Us Keep Growing & Going:If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe whereveryou listen or watch, leave a review or share itwith someone who might benefit. Thank you ❤️. ⭐Listen or Watch on YouTube:🎧Listen on your favouritepodcast platform here: https://estelleread.com/podcast/📺Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@EstelleRead/podcasts ⭐Follow or Find Out More: Irini Tzortzoglouhttps://irinicooks.com/https://www.facebook.com/Irinitzortzoglou/https://www.instagram.com/irinitzortzoglou/https://www.linkedin.com/in/irini-tzortzoglou-aab9114/ ⭐Follow Estelle Read: https://linktr.ee/EstelleAtBeee ⭐Access Resources or Book a FreeDiscovery Call:⁠https://estelleread.com/resources/⁠ ⭐Estelle Read’s Coaching Programmes:🌟⁠The Resilient Leader Programme: SHINE⁠🌟⁠The Optimised Leader Programme: NEXT LEVEL⁠ ⭐Buy Estelle Read’s Bestselling Book:⁠Inner Brilliance, Outer Shine: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism and Stress ⁠ ⭐Subscribe to Estelle Read’s Blog: ⁠Receive my free workbook: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism & Stress,when you sign up. ⁠ ⭐Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and shouldnot be considered professional advice. Please consult a qualified professional for specific advice.

Yesterday I auditioned for TEDx and honestly, it didn't goas planned. I'm sharing what happened because the best learning comes from moments like these. In this episode, I walk you through my TOP ACT method - a powerful tool I use personally and with clients to process failure, silence imposter syndrome, and transform disappointment into growth. This isn't about perfection; it's about learning how to bounce back stronger. What You Will Learn:💡 A framework to stop spiralling after setbacks – Learn the exact journaling method that helps you process negative emotions and move from rumination to action 💡 Why your brain sabotages you in high-pressure moments – Discover how to identify the hidden triggers that derail your performance (even when you're fully prepared) 💡 The secret to turning failure into fuel – Find out how to extract powerful lessons from disappointing experiences without getting stuck in self-criticism Here’s to your leadership development and personal growth! Estelle Read  Bestselling Author, Coach & Speaker Timestamps:(00:00) Introduction (02:37) Welcome to the Optimising Your Brilliance Podcast(05:17) Yesterday's TEDx Audition Experience(08:19) My Four-Year Journey to Become a TEDx Speaker(11:37) The Reality Check: 30 Applications on Average(14:39) Stage Three: The 10-Minute Audition(19:11) When Things Went Wrong: The Moment I Got Triggered(23:59) Post-Audition Feelings: Disappointment and Frustration(27:05) Introducing the TOP ACT Journaling Process(29:27) The Science Behind Journaling for Emotional Processing(32:00) The TOP ACT Method(65:57) Final Reflections: Learning, Growing, and Sharing(68:26) Outro and Resources⭐Help Us Keep Growing & Going:If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe wherever you listen or watch, leave a review or share it with someone who might benefit. Thank you ❤️. ⭐Listen or Watch on YouTube:🎧Listen on your favourite podcast platform here: https://estelleread.com/podcast/📺Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@EstelleRead/podcasts ⭐Follow Estelle Read: https://linktr.ee/EstelleAtBeee ⭐Access Resources or Book a Free Discovery Call:⁠https://estelleread.com/resources/⁠ ⭐Estelle Read’s Coaching Programmes:🌟⁠The Resilient Leader Programme: SHINE⁠🌟⁠The Optimised Leader Programme: NEXT LEVEL⁠ ⭐Buy Estelle Read’s Bestselling Book:⁠Inner Brilliance, Outer Shine: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism and Stress ⁠ ⭐Subscribe to Estelle Read’s Blog: ⁠Receive my free workbook: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism & Stress, when you sign up. ⁠ ⭐Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and shouldnot be considered professional advice. Please consult a qualified professional for specific advice.

If you’ve followed me a while, you will know that I’ve gonefrom not being able to climb the stairs to climbing Wainrights for fun, (well, sometimes fun – sometimes the hills are hell).I burnt out and got ME from overdoing life and work. Theoverdoing came from not feeling good enough and the urge to prove my worth. But when is enough, enough? The bar just keeps rising.This is an interactive episode. You’ll hear real-timeaudience scepticism and the changes they experience after applying the technique I share. They were fab, and they ask the questions you probably want answered about overcoming imposter syndrome.What You Will Learn:💡 The hidden childhood pattern that's making you overwork - and the 7-minute technique that can ‘erase’it from your nervous system💡 Why your brain keeps you trapped in the same stress cycle - and the neuroscience-backed method that creates lasting change in minutes, not 66 days (which is how long it takes the average person to change)💡 The five imposter syndrome types sabotaging your success - discover which one is driving your burnout and how to stop the domino effect before it damages your health,happiness and wellbeingHere’s to your leadership developmentand personal growth! Estelle Read  Bestselling Author, Coach &Speaker Timestamps:(00:00) Introduction (01:50) What is Imposter Syndrome?(02:08) Today's Agenda - Strategies to Regain Control(03:39) Meet the Parents - Estelle's Personal Story(04:51) Growing Up Different - Feeling Like an Imposter(06:06) Working as Head of HR - Still Feeling Like a Fraud(07:42) Chronic Fatigue & Recovery Journey(08:10) Writing a Book - Procrastination & Self-Doubt(09:03) Becoming a Bestselling Author(10:16) The Message of Not Being Good Enough(11:24) The Imposter Syndrome Domino Effect(13:32) The Five Types of Imposter Syndrome(18:31) Audience Poll - Which Type Are You?(19:48) How Imposter Syndrome Causes Workaholism & Stress(20:45) Case Study: The Perfectionist Lawyer(23:55) Where Imposter Syndrome Comes From(24:43) Personality Formation - Ages 0-7 Imprint Period(28:45) Why Change is Challenging - Neural Pathways(29:49) Antidote #1: Havening Technique(30:14) Havening Small Print - Does It Work?(32:26) Live Havening Exercise Begins(35:54) How Havening Works - The Neuroscience(39:51) Havening Results - The Lawyer's Transformation(44:26) Client Results - Million Pound Conversation(45:04) Resilient Leader Program SHINE Overview(48:55) Antidote #2: Inner Captain vs Inner Critic(50:15) The Science of Journaling(51:53) TOP ACT Journaling Process(55:11) Learning to Accepting Yourself(56:50) Q&A from the audience(61:42) Q&A - Estelle's Personal Phobias Story⭐Help Us Keep Growing & Going:If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe whereveryou listen or watch, leave a review or share it with someone who might benefit. Thank you ❤️. ⭐Listen or Watch on YouTube:🎧Listen on your favourite podcast platform here: https://estelleread.com/podcast/📺Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@EstelleRead/podcasts ⭐Follow Estelle Read: https://linktr.ee/EstelleAtBeee ⭐Access Resources or Book a Free Discovery Call:⁠https://estelleread.com/resources/⁠ ⭐Estelle Read’s Coaching Programmes:🌟⁠The Resilient Leader Programme: SHINE⁠🌟⁠The Optimised Leader Programme: NEXT LEVEL⁠ ⭐Buy Estelle Read’s Bestselling Book:⁠Inner Brilliance, Outer Shine: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism andStress ⁠ ⭐Subscribe to Estelle Read’s Blog: ⁠Receive my free workbook: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism & Stress,when you sign up. ⁠ ⭐Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and shouldnot be considered professional advice. Please consult a qualified professional for specific advice.

My next guest’s work reshaped my understanding ofpersonality, why we are the way we are, and what birth order has to do with it. Dr. Linda Blair is a Chartered clinical psychologist, writer, speaker, and broadcaster who has authored five self-help books. She’s also appeared ontelevision programs such as The One Show, The Vanessa Show, and Child of Our Time.We dive into family dynamics, birth order psychology, and sibling relationships - exploring how your place in the familycan influence personality, career choices, and leadership style. Linda shares insightful findings from her research on mother–infant bonding, her surprising collaboration with Professor Stephen Hawking, and practical strategies for lasting happiness. What You Will Learn:💡 Discover why your birth order position (firstborn, middle child, or youngest) influences your career success, stress levels, and relationship patterns - and how understanding thiscan transform your self-awareness💡 Learn the surprising research finding about what truly makes a "good mother" (hint: it's not what you think) and how this applies to leadership and knowing when to step in versus let go💡 Uncover the exact age when you were most authentically yourself and how revisiting that period can help you rediscover your passion, purpose, and what brings you into "flow" Here’s to your leadership development and personal growth! Estelle Read  Bestselling Author, Coach & Speaker Timestamps:(00:00) Introduction - Birth order insights preview(02:02) Introducing Dr. Linda Blair & her morning routine (07:49) The four-hour creative focus principle(08:05) Grounding practices and mindfulness(08:11) Linda's origin story - from Kansas to Cambridge(12:03) Working with Professor Stephen Hawking(13:12) Studying mother-infant relationships in monkeys(15:44) How broadcasting and writing opportunities emerged(15:36) The privilege of being a psychologist(17:28) Lessons from Stephen Hawking(18:31) What makes a good mother - research findings(21:32) Family dynamics fascination and finding your passion(22:56) The age when you're most truly yourself(25:00) How adolescence disrupts authentic self(28:57) The concept of "flow" and being fullyengaged(29:51) Birth order book origins and Linda's three firstbornchildren(32:02) Firstborn characteristics and burnout(35:01) Middle child characteristics (38:08) Youngest child characteristics(40:48) Child of Our Time television experience(42:49) Steps to lead your best life - saying yes to opportunities(44:00) Treating everyone as equals(47:12) Linda's workshops and how to connect(49:09) The "real Linda Blair" story(49:29) Closing thoughts ⭐Help Us Keep Growing & Going:Please subscribe wherever you listen or watch, leavea review or share it with someone who might benefit.Thank you ❤️.⭐Listen or Watch on YouTube:🎧Listen on your favourite podcast platform here: https://estelleread.com/podcast/ 📺Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@EstelleRead/podcasts  ⭐Follow or Contact Linda Blair:https://www.linkedin.com/in/linda-blair-15187a31/https://lindablair.co.uk/ ⭐Follow Estelle Read: https://linktr.ee/EstelleAtBeee ⭐Free Discovery Call & Resources:⁠https://estelleread.com/resources/⁠ ⭐ Estelle Read’s Coaching Programmes:🌟⁠The Resilient Leader Programme: SHINE⁠🌟⁠The Optimised Leader Programme: NEXT LEVEL⁠ ⭐Buy Estelle Read’s Bestselling Book:⁠Inner Brilliance, Outer Shine: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism and Stress ⁠ ⭐Subscribe to Estelle Read’s Blog: ⁠Receive my free workbook: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism & Stress, when you sign up. ⁠ ⭐Disclaimer:This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered professional advice. Please consult a qualified professional for specific advice.

Do you wake up tired, feel less sharp than you used to, orhave aches and pains? Explore the critical connection between brain health,chronic pain, and the aging process in this eye-opening episode featuring neurologist Dr. Fawad Mian. Discover how "inflammaging," a slow, chronic inflammation associated with aging, silently impacts your brain and body, contributing to symptoms like brain fog, aches, and memory challenges. Dr. Mian shares powerful insights into regenerative medicineand how it can offer alternatives to surgery for managing chronic pain and injuries. Learn practical strategies to optimise your wellbeing and reclaim your health as he recounts his personal journey of overcoming failed surgeriesand embracing innovative treatments.  What You Will Learn:💡 Discover the silent health threat affecting your brain and body – Learn what "inflammaging" is and how this slow-smouldering inflammation could be accelerating your aging process, affecting everything from memory to chronicpain. 💡 Uncover surprising connections between sleep and serious health risks. Find out why your snoring or frequent bathroom trips at night could be warning signs of acondition that increases your risk of stroke and heart attack. 💡 Learn practical strategies to reclaim your health without surgery. Hear Dr. Mian's personal story of overcoming multiple injuries and discover the regenerative medicine approaches that helped him avoid the operating table.Here’s to your shining! Estelle Read  Bestselling Author, Coach & Speaker Timestamps:00:00) Introduction and welcome(01:32) What is a neurologist?(02:49) How neurologists help stroke patients(05:24) Understanding inflammaging and chronic inflammation(07:33) Signs you're aging faster due to inflammation(09:57) The truth about weight loss medications like Ozempic(12:53) Why muscle mass matters more than you think(14:30) Exercise recommendations for women in perimenopause(17:00) Key health metrics to monitor(18:32) Understanding heart rate variability(20:39) Sleep apnoea: The hidden health threat(23:46) Solutions for sleep apnoea(25:04) Dr. Mian's book: Getting to Pain Free(27:12) Dr. Mian's personal injury journey(31:05) The emotional component of physical pain(34:38) Mindset strategies for managing chronic pain(36:00) Pattern interrupts and positive anchors(40:35) Reclaim Your Mind memory course(41:54) Top three health recommendations(43:46) Final question and closing thoughts⭐Help Us Keep Growing & Going:If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe wherever you listen or watch, leave a review or share it with someone who might benefit. Thank you ❤️. ⭐Listen or Watch on YouTube:Listen on your favourite podcast platform here:https://estelleread.com/podcast/ or watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@EstelleRead/podcasts  ⭐Find Out More About Dr Fawad MianLinkedInInstagramYouTubeWebsites: https://prolohealing.com/& https://www.advocareneurowellnessmd.com/ ⭐Follow Estelle Read: LinkedIn   YouTubeInstagramTikTokFacebookX ⭐Access Resources or Book a Free Discovery Call:https://estelleread.com/resources/ ⭐Work with Estelle Read:Find out more about our coaching programmes:🌟The Resilient Leader Programme: SHINE🌟The Optimised Leader Programme: NEXT LEVEL ⭐Buy Estelle Read’s Bestselling Book:Inner Brilliance, Outer Shine: 10 Antidotesto Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism and Stress  ⭐Subscribe to Estelle Read’s Blog: Receive my free workbook: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism & Stress, when you sign up.  ⭐Disclaimer:This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered professional advice. Please consult a qualified professional for specific advice.

In this episode, I unpack the real reasons we self-sabotageand introduce the science-backed CLEAR framework - designed to counteract it and help you break through barriers to your biggest goals in 2026. Whether you’re setting personal milestones or leading a team, you’ll find actionableinsights to help you and your team shine brighter. This recording was longer than usual 😂, because there’s lots of great content to share, so it’s delivered in two shorter episodes.Part 1️⃣ (last week): The Top 5 Goal Self-Sabotage Mistakes that even the most driven people make - and how to avoid them. Part 2️⃣ (this week): The CLEAR Framework for setting and achieving goals to elevate your work and life. What you’ll learn in Part 2️⃣: 💡The 5-step CLEAR framework that top performers use to overcome self-sabotage and accelerate success. 💡Practical, science-based strategies to boost energy, align actions, and stay motivated all year. 💡How to set meaningful goals, build durable habits, and rise to the next level - at work and in life. Here’s to your leadership development and personal growth in 2026! Estelle Read  Bestselling Author, Coach & Speaker Timestamps:(00:00) Welcome to the Optimising Your Brilliance Podcast(01:04) Support the show: Like, subscribe, and share(01:30) Recap of part 1 of this episode and what’s ahead(02:17) Why we self-sabotage and how to break the cycle(03:44) Who this episode is for: leaders, professionals, and goal-setters(04:04) The science behind self-sabotage and transformation(05:12) Introducing the CLEAR framework(10:47) Step 1: Get clear on your vision and goals(11:06) Step 2: Let go of identity threats and limiting beliefs(12:15) Step 3: Energise: plugging energy leaks and boosting motivation(13:46) Step 4: Take aligned action and build success habits(15:57) Step 5: Rise: review, refine, and recognise your progress(45:58) Final thoughts, how to connect, and closing ⭐Help Us Keep Growing & Going:If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe wherever you listen or watch, leave a review or share it with someone who might benefit. Thank you ❤️. ⭐Listen or Watch on YouTube:Listen on your favourite podcast platform here:https://estelleread.com/podcast/ or watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@EstelleRead/podcasts  ⭐Follow Estelle Read: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/estelleatbeee/   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/EstelleRead/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/estelle.at.beeeTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@estelleatbeeeFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/EstelleAtBeee/X: https://x.com/EstelleAtBeee ⭐Access Resources or Book a Free Discovery Call:https://estelleread.com/resources/ ⭐Work with Estelle Read:Find out more about our coaching programmes:🌟The Resilient LeaderProgramme: SHINE: https://estelleread.com/the-shine-coaching-programme/ 🌟The Optimised LeaderProgramme: NEXT LEVEL: https://estelleread.com/next-level-leadership-programme/  ⭐Buy Estelle Read’s Bestselling Book:Inner Brilliance, Outer Shine: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism and Stress: https://amzn.eu/d/67dE4CH  ⭐Subscribe to Estelle Read’s Blog: Receive my free workbook: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism & Stress, when you sign up: https://mailchi.mp/a0cfa5a8a10c/8chmrywh3r ⭐Disclaimer:This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered professional advice. Please consult a qualified professional for specific advice.

How’re those New Year’s resolutions going? Most peoplegive up their New Year's resolutions by the second Friday inJanuary, a day dubbed "Quitter's Day," with studies showing over 80% abandoning goals by mid-January due to unrealistic expectations and waning motivation. If you want to understand why we self-sabotage and masterthe steps to stop it, these two episodes are for you. I’m sharing the science and stories behind why we self-sabotage - and, more importantly, how you can break free and achieve your boldest goals in 2026. Whether you’re aiming for personal growth, business breakthroughs, or simply want to feel more fulfilled, this episode is packed with actionable insights and real-life examples to inspire your next steps. This recording was longer than usual 😂, because there's lots of great content to share, so it’s delivered in two shorter episodes. Part 1️⃣: The Top 5 Goal Self-Sabotage Mistakesthat keep even the most driven people stuck and how to avoid them, (today’s episode).Part 2️⃣: My CLEAR Framework, forsetting and achieving goals to take your work-life to the next level, (next week’s episode). What You Will Learn in Part 1️⃣:💡The science behind self-sabotage mistakes that could be keeping your goals out of reach. Overcome procrastination, perfectionism, and the hidden ceilings that limityour success and performance.💡 The four goal categories to consider when creating your plan for 2026. 💡Get inspired by real-life stories and actionable tips that will empower you to take control, set meaningful goals, and accelerate your progress. Here’s to your leadership development and personal growth in 2026! Estelle Read  Bestselling Author, Coach & Speaker Timestamps:(00:00) Welcome to the Optimising Your Brilliance Podcast(01:04) Introduction: Meet Estelle Read and the mission of the show(01:30) Why we self-sabotage: Setting the stage for 2026 goals(06:24) The science behind self-sabotage and performance ceilings(07:49) Real-life examples: Overcoming setbacks and achieving breakthroughs(13:20) The four goal categories(18:59) Finding the real reason (and motivation) for your goals in 2026(23:51) Estelle’s personal journey: Lessons from the Lake District(31:51) The 5 self-sabotage mistakes revealed(47:06) How we delay our dreams(48:33) Invitation to connect and next steps(49:33) What’s coming in Part 2: The CLEAR Framework for transformation(50:00) Outro and how to stay connected⭐Help Us Keep Growing & Going:If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe wherever you listen or watch, leave a review or share it with someone who might benefit. Thank you ❤️. ⭐Listen or Watch on YouTube:Listen on your favourite podcast platform here: https://estelleread.com/podcast/ or watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@EstelleRead/podcasts  ⭐Follow Estelle Read: https://linktr.ee/EstelleAtBeee ⭐Access Resources or Book a Free Discovery Call:https://estelleread.com/resources/ ⭐Work with Estelle Read:🌟The Resilient Leader Programme: SHINE: https://estelleread.com/the-shine-coaching-programme/ 🌟The Optimised Leader Programme: NEXT LEVEL: https://estelleread.com/next-level-leadership-programme/  ⭐Buy Estelle Read’s Bestselling Book:Inner Brilliance, Outer Shine: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism and Stress: https://amzn.eu/d/67dE4CH  ⭐Subscribe to Estelle Read’s Blog: Receive my free workbook: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism & Stress, when you sign up: https://mailchi.mp/a0cfa5a8a10c/8chmrywh3r ⭐Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered professional advice. Please consult a qualified professional for specific advice.

In this episode, I reflect on the highlights of Season 4,sharing the most inspiring moments and lessons from my brave guests. We explore the mindsets, habits, and stories that can help you lead an even better work-life. After recording each episode, there was always a takeaway that made me reflect or take action - like doing my first wild water swim with my guest Philippa Hardy , a triathlon coach and HR veteran. What You Will Learn:💡 Discover the surprising common threads among high achievers - from overcoming fear to embracing vulnerability and setting bold goals.💡 Hear raw, honest stories that will inspire you to reframe setbacks, build resilience, and pursue your ambitions with renewed energy.💡 Get practical takeaways you can use to optimise your performance, productivity, success and wellbeing. Here’s to your leadership development and personal growth! Estelle Read  Bestselling Author, Coach & Speaker Timestamps:(00:00) Welcome to the Optimising Your Brilliance Podcast(01:04) Season 4 Highlights: The Experiment That Became aMovement(02:05) The Power of Shared Experience: You’re Not Alone(03:17) What Guests Have in Common(06:08) Facing Fears and Setting Ambitious Goals(09:15) Mindset Shifts: Reframing Negative Thoughts(11:40) Discipline, Obsession, and Purpose(13:17) Honest Conversations: Moments That Change Everything(15:21) Resilience and Real Life Beyond Instagram Perfection(18:18) Breaking Out of Comfort Zones: Personal Stories(22:06) Tools and Ideas to Help You Lead Your Best Life(24:58) Thank You to the Guests and Listeners ⭐Help Us Keep Growing & Going:If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe wherever you listen or watch, leave a review or share it with someone who might benefit. Thank you ❤️. ⭐Listen or Watch on YouTube:Listen on your favourite podcast platform here:https://estelleread.com/podcast/ or watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@EstelleRead/podcasts  ⭐Follow Estelle Read: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/estelleatbeee/   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/EstelleRead/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/estelle.at.beeeTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@estelleatbeeeFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/EstelleAtBeee/X: https://x.com/EstelleAtBeee ⭐Access Resources or Book a Free Discovery Call:https://estelleread.com/resources/ ⭐Work with Estelle Read:Find out more about our coaching programmes:🌟The Resilient LeaderProgramme: SHINE: https://estelleread.com/the-shine-coaching-programme/ 🌟The Optimised LeaderProgramme: NEXT LEVEL: https://estelleread.com/next-level-leadership-programme/  ⭐Buy Estelle Read’s Bestselling Book:Inner Brilliance, Outer Shine: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism and Stress: https://amzn.eu/d/67dE4CH  ⭐Subscribe to Estelle Read’s Blog: Receive my free workbook: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism & Stress, when you sign up: https://mailchi.mp/a0cfa5a8a10c/8chmrywh3r ⭐Disclaimer:This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered professional advice. Please consult a qualified professional for specific advice.

I dive into the fascinating parallels between familydynamics at the Christmas table and the behaviours we see in meetings and the boardroom. Drawing from real-life coaching experiences and powerful psychological models, I’ll help you recognise old patterns, understand your triggers, and give you practical tools to handle difficult people both at homeand at work. What You Will Learn:💡 Discover the hidden connections between your childhood roles and your professional life - insights that will change how you see yourself and others.💡 Learn practical, science-backed strategies to handle challenging family or workplace dynamics, so you can stay calm, confident, and in control.💡 Unlock actionable coaching models that empower you to break free from old patterns and create more positive, productive relationships Wishing you a very merry Christmas. Estelle Read  Bestselling Author, Coach &Speaker Timestamps:00:00) Welcome to the Optimising Your Brilliance Podcast(01:00) Meet your host and coach, Estelle Read(01:30) Why family and boardroom dynamics are so similar(03:00) Classic roles at the Christmas table - and what they mean(05:00) How childhood experiences shape adult behaviour(08:00) Real-life coachingstories: triggers and transformation(12:00) Why is this person behaving this way? Discover what lies beneath the surface.(15:00) How we get caught up in ‘drama’ and how to get out of it(18:00) Why people try to control you and other throws a ‘tantrum’(21:00) Giving feedback that works - at home and at work(24:00) Practical tips for a stress-free Christmas (and career)(27:00) Final thoughts and how to connect with Estelle⭐Help Us Keep Growing & Going:If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe whereveryou listen or watch, leave a review or share it with someone who might benefit. Thank you ❤️. ⭐Listen or Watch on YouTube:Listen on your favourite podcast platform here: https://estelleread.com/podcast/ or watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@EstelleRead/podcasts ⭐Follow Estelle Read: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/estelleatbeee/   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/EstelleRead/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/estelle.at.beeeTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@estelleatbeeeFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/EstelleAtBeee/X: https://x.com/EstelleAtBeee ⭐Access Resources or Book a Free Discovery Call:https://estelleread.com/resources/ ⭐ Work with Estelle Read:Find out more about our coaching programmes:🌟The Resilient Leader Programme: SHINE: https://estelleread.com/the-shine-coaching-programme/🌟The Optimised Leader Programme: NEXT LEVEL: https://estelleread.com/next-level-leadership-programme/ ⭐Buy Estelle Read’s Bestselling Book:Inner Brilliance, Outer Shine: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism and Stress: https://amzn.eu/d/67dE4CH ⭐Subscribe to Estelle Read’s Blog: Receive my free workbook: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism & Stress, when you sign up: https://mailchi.mp/a0cfa5a8a10c/8chmrywh3r ⭐Book Recommendation: Birth Order: What Your Position In The Family Really Tells You About Your Character: https://amzn.eu/d/5Fp271J   

The first time I saw Andrew Whitehead, he was accompanying Sarah Walker-Smith, on the piano. It was lockdown and Sarah was singing from her office cabin she affectionately called the ‘shed’. As Senior Partner and CEO of Shakespeare Martineau, they were lifting the spirits oftheir colleagues.What struck me was the bravery, beauty and authenticity of their performance. Doing something totally different, putting themselves out there, and demonstrating poise, calm and leadership during stressful times. So, it was great to chat with Andrew where we got under the surface of leveragingwhat makes you different to advance your leadership career.What You Will Learn:💡 Discover the Power of Serendipity - How chance encounters shaped Andrew’s career and how you can spotand seize similar opportunities.💡 Overcome Fear and Embrace Challenge - Strategies for stepping outside your comfort zone, fromleadership to public speaking.💡 The Value of Being Different - Why standing out and authenticity can be your greatest asset in anyfield.💡 Resilience Through Adversity - Lessons from personal and professional challenges, including ahealth scare, on focusing what matters.💡 Actionable Growth Advice - Practical tips for building strong teams, finding renewed purpose, andthriving on your journey. Here’s to your shining! Estelle Read  Bestselling Author, Coach &Speaker Timestamps:(00:00) Introduction to the Optimising Your BrilliancePodcast(01:04) Meet Andrew Whitehead: Career Highlights & Background(03:11) The Role of Serendipity in Career Development(06:24) Overcoming Fear and Embracing Challenges(09:40) The Value of Being Different in Law and Life(13:00) Building Teams and Avoiding Self-Sabotage(16:40) Resilience Through Health Challenges(20:00) Advice for Facing Adversity and Finding Purpose(23:45) Pearls of Wisdom & Final Thoughts(24:35) Outro and How to Connect ⭐Help Us Keep Growing & Going:If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe wherever you listen or watch, leave a review or share it with someone who might benefit. Thank you ❤️. ⭐Listen or Watch on YouTube:Listen on your favourite podcast platform here:https://estelleread.com/podcast/ or watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@EstelleRead/podcasts  ⭐Follow Andrew Whitehead:https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrewwhiteheadmartineau/ https://www.shma.co.uk/   ⭐Follow Estelle Read: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/estelleatbeee/   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/EstelleRead/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/estelle.at.beeeTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@estelleatbeeeFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/EstelleAtBeee/X: https://x.com/EstelleAtBeee ⭐Access Resources or Book a Free Discovery Call:https://estelleread.com/resources/ ⭐ Work with Estelle Read:Find out more about our coaching programmes:🌟The Resilient LeaderProgramme: SHINE: https://estelleread.com/the-shine-coaching-programme/ 🌟The Optimised LeaderProgramme: NEXT LEVEL: https://estelleread.com/next-level-leadership-programme/  ⭐Buy Estelle Read’s Bestselling Book:Inner Brilliance, Outer Shine: 10 Antidotesto Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism and Stress: https://amzn.eu/d/67dE4CH  ⭐Subscribe to Estelle Read’s Blog: Receive my freeworkbook: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism & Stress, when yousign up: https://mailchi.mp/a0cfa5a8a10c/8chmrywh3r ⭐Disclaimer:This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered professional advice. Please consult a qualified professional for specific advice.

You know those people who seem to do it all? My next guest does just that: five children, a partner, four dogs, and three books, plus she’s built a beautiful home on Lake Windermere. She now runs The Heaning Estate, a beautiful collection of dwellings she renovated, which you can stay in. How does she make it all possible? Deborah shares the secrets to her success: bravery, dream-driven ambition, and the discipline to take consistent steps – even when fear or doubt shows up. Deborah’s daily routine and wellbeing priority prove you can do it all. In this episode, she pulls back the curtain on life as an author and businesswoman.What You Will Learn:💡 Deborah’s daily habits that boost productivity while safeguarding wellbeing.💡 Real-life lessons from building a business, writing books, and balancing family life.💡 Learn how embracing fear and discipline, can unlock newlevels of creativity and business success. Here’s to your shining! Estelle Read  Bestselling Author, Coach & Speaker Timestamps:(00:00) Meet Deborah Lyon: Introduction and background(01:27) The Heaning Estate and the art of doing it all(06:46) How Estelle and Deborah met: A story of connection(14:56) Daily routines, discipline, and the 20/20/20 rule(24:21) Overcoming fear, imposter syndrome, and building belief(35:17) Writing, business, and the power of passion and purpose(47:19) Advice for aspiring writers and entrepreneurs(62:00) Reflections, regrets, and advice to your 18-year-old self(65:00) Closing thoughts and where to connect with Deborah⭐Help Us Keep Growing & Going:If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe wherever you listen or watch, leave a review or share it with someone who might benefit. Thank you ❤️. ⭐Listen or Watch on YouTube:Listen on your favourite podcast platform here: https://estelleread.com/podcast/ or watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@EstelleRead/podcasts  ⭐Follow Deborah Lyon or Buy Her Book:https://www.linkedin.com/in/deborahannedone/Timewaif & The Roman Road: https://amzn.eu/d/cUADYiEhttps://timewaif.com/https://www.theheaning.com/ ⭐Follow Estelle Read: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/estelleatbeee/    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/EstelleRead/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/estelle.at.beee TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@estelleatbeee Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/EstelleAtBeee/ X: https://x.com/EstelleAtBeee  ⭐Access Resources or Book a Free Discovery Call:https://estelleread.com/resources/ ⭐ Work with Estelle Read:Find outmore about our coaching programmes:🌟The Resilient Leader Programme: SHINE:https://estelleread.com/the-shine-coaching-programme/ 🌟The Optimised Leader Programme: NEXTLEVEL: https://estelleread.com/next-level-leadership-programme/  ⭐Buy Estelle Read’s Bestselling Book:Inner Brilliance, Outer Shine: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism and Stress: https://amzn.eu/d/67dE4CH  ⭐Subscribe to Estelle Read’s Blog: Receive my free workbook: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism & Stress, when you sign up: https://mailchi.mp/a0cfa5a8a10c/8chmrywh3r  ⭐Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered professional advice. Please consult a qualified professional for specific advice. 

Content warning: This episode discusses suicide &mental health challenges. Leadership coaching often raises one tough question: How doI handle this difficult conversation & what do I say because I fear rejection?Imagine the courage it takes to tell your family you’re gay.I’m joined once again by the inspiring Neil Jinks. Following the overwhelmingly positive response to his last podcast, we connected again to talk more deeply. Neil opens up about the challenges he’s faced coming out asa gay man, including moments when suicide felt like the only way out. He shares his pivotal identity moments & how he learned to belong & become the best version of himself. He offers hopeful, practical tips for leading a happy & successful work-life. What You Will Learn:💡 Discover how childhood experiences & family expectations can shape our adult lives and how to breakfree from limiting beliefs.💡 Hear a powerful, honest account of embracing true identity, overcoming isolation, & building asupportive community. Neil’s brave and candid conversation with his father will touch your heart.💡 Actionable strategies for resilience, self-acceptance, & redefining what success means to you. If you’re affected by these subjects, please don’t sufferalone. Reach out to a mental health professional or confidential helplines. UK: Samaritans 116 123; US: 988. If you’re in another region, please contact your local crisis line. Here’s to your health & wellbeing ❤️.  Estelle Read  Bestselling Author, Coach &Speaker Timestamps:(00:00) Welcome & Introduction by Estelle Read(01:04) Neil Jinks Returns: Why This Conversation Matters(01:23) Highlights: Identity, Belonging, & Overcoming Adversity(03:13) Diving Deeper: Childhood, Family, & Self-Discovery(06:40) The Emotional Journey: Coming Out & Finding Acceptance(13:23) Turning Points: Seeking Help & Embracing Change(19:44) Building the Alliance Network: Creating Community(24:03) Limiting Beliefs, Success, & Taking Risks(33:04) Practical Tools: Anchors, Affirmations, and Growth Mindset(44:16) Giving Back: Philanthropy, Minimalism, & the Power of Support(52:48) Final Thoughts & How to Connect⭐Help Us Keep Growing & Going:If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe whereveryou listen or watch, leave a review or share it with someone who might benefit. Thank you ❤️. ⭐Watch on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@EstelleRead/podcasts ⭐ Follow Neil Jinks: https://www.linkedin.com/in/neiljinks/Neil is the Brand Ambassador for Broadriver Group: www.broadrivergroup.co.ukThe group includes:www.controlaccount.com www.datatraceuk.com www.sinclairtaylor.co.uk www.identeco.co.uk www.harpsoftware.co.ukNeil is also Chair or President of:www.cicm.comwww.ccua.org.ukwww.irrv.net/associations ⭐Follow Estelle Read: https://linktr.ee/EstelleAtBeee⭐Access Resources or Book a Free Discovery Call:https://estelleread.com/resources/ ⭐Strengths Profileshttps://store.gallup.com/h/en-gb https://www.16personalities.com/https://www.viacharacter.org/ ⭐ Work with Estelle Read:📈The Optimised Leader Programme: NEXT LEVEL: ⁠https://estelleread.com/next-level-leadership-programme/⤴️The Resilient Leader Programme: SHINE: https://estelleread.com/the-shine-coaching-programme/⭐Buy Estelle’s Bestselling Book:Inner Brilliance, Outer Shine: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism and Stress: https://amzn.eu/d/67dE4CH ⭐Subscribe to Estelle's Blog: Receive my free workbook: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism & Stress, when you sign up: https://mailchi.mp/a0cfa5a8a10c/8chmrywh3r ⭐Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only & shouldnot be considered professional advice. Please consult a qualified professional for specific advice.

As a leader or business owner, do you ever find yourself running out of ideas for driving business growth? And are your bored of, or in need of, some non-AI, business development inspiration? Daniel Jarvis, a Product Group Manager at Plastribution, anorganisation renowned for their innovation, have ripped up the rule book on how to develop deeper client relationships, which ordinarily take months to nurture.What Daniel and his fellow leaders created, sounded like so much fun! Not only that, but they also saved time and money.Dan’s insights underscore the importance of human connection but also how agile his business is when it comes to decision making. He shares practical tips on how to do this. We did discuss AI too – it’s hard to avoid it, but it’s alwaysinteresting to hear how other businesses are adapting and using it. Finally, Daniel was candid about how he overcame a fear,which created a mental shift and transformed his life in an instant. What You Will Learn:💡 Practical innovative strategies which drive business performance💡 The importance of not letting a fear fester and how to overcome it, so that you lead a better life💡An alternative approach to self-care for leaders, which returns you to a state of mind akin to child-like wonder Here’s to your shining! Estelle Read  Bestselling Author, Coach & Speaker Timestamps:(00:00) Welcome & Podcast Introduction(01:04) Meet Dan Jarvis: Early Life and Influences(02:16) Music, Bands, and Team Dynamics(10:00) Conflict, Feedback, and Decision-Making(20:00) Retirement, Purpose, and Planning Ahead(30:00) Overcoming Fear of Flying(38:00) Driving Business Growth, Innovation & Having Fun (45:00) AI in Business and Everyday Life(52:00) Balancing Work, Self-Care, and Childlike Wonder(58:00) Advice to Your Younger Self(79:39) Outro and Resources ⭐Listen or Watch on YouTube:Listen on your favourite podcast platform here:https://estelleread.com/podcast/ orwatch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@EstelleRead/podcasts ⭐Follow Estelle Read: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/estelleatbeee/   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/EstelleRead/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/estelle.at.beeeTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@estelleatbeeeFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/EstelleAtBeee/X: https://x.com/EstelleAtBeee⭐Access Free Resources & Work With Estelle Read:For free resources, book a discovery call or join The Resilient Leader Programme: SHINE, or The Optimised Leader Programme: NEXT LEVEL, visit https://estelleread.com/⭐Subscribe to Estelle Read’s Blog: Receive my free workbook: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism & Stress, when yousign up: https://mailchi.mp/a0cfa5a8a10c/8chmrywh3r⭐Buy Estelle Read's Bestselling Book:Inner Brilliance, Outer Shine: 10 Antidotes to Imposter Syndrome, Workaholism and Stress: https://amzn.eu/d/67dE4CH⭐Follow Daniel Jarvis:https://www.linkedin.com/in/daniel-jarvis-5493022b/https://www.instagram.com/danielljarvis/His band is called: Dropping Like Flies⭐Help Us Keep Growing & Going:If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe wherever you listen or watch, leave a review or share it with someone who might benefit. Thank you ❤️.⭐Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered professional advice. Please consult a qualified professional for specific advice.

In this episode, I sit down with my own coach, Simon Edwards- a PGA performance coach, tournament director, and all-around expert in helping people unlock their true potential. We dive into the mindset, stories, and strategies that have shaped Simon’s journey from playing in the OpenChampionship to coaching winners and transforming lives, including my own.Whether you’re a golfer, a leader, or just someone looking to be your best, you’ll find inspiration and practical wisdom in this conversation.Summary:💡 Get an insider’s look at what it’s like to compete in the Open Championship and share the practice range with golf legends.💡Learn how the “Kaizen” philosophy of continuous improvement can elevate your performance in any field.💡Discover practical coaching strategies and mindset shifts that help both elite athletes and everyday people achieve their goals.  Here’s to your shining! Estelle Read  Bestselling Author, Coach & Speaker Timestamps:00:00 – Introduction to the Optimising Your BrilliancePodcast00:40 – Meet your host, Estelle Read01:04 – Introducing Simon Edwards: PGA coach &tournament director01:55 – Simon’s journey: From player to coach, and the OpenChampionship02:25 – The power of coaching, process, and continuousimprovement02:52 – Estelle’s personal golf story and lessons with Simon05:25 – Imposter syndrome and the “natural genius” mindset09:00 – The importance of process, Kaizen, and learning fromfailure13:30 – Family, switching off, and the value of obsession21:10 – Simon’s origin story: Family, values, and the loveof golf28:15 – Parenting, pressure, and building good humansthrough sport36:00 – Visualisation, performance, and the “zone” in golfand life45:00 – What makes someone brilliant? Simon’s checklist forcoaching and playing55:00 – Book recommendations and closing thoughts55:14 – Outro: Subscribe, share, and connect with Estelle Listen on your favourite podcast platform or watch onYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@EstelleRead/podcastsConnect with Estelle Read: https://www.linkedin.com/in/estelleatbeee/    Access Free Resources:For free resources, book a discovery call or join TheResilient Leader Programme: SHINE, or The Optimised Leader Programme: NEXTLEVEL, visit https://estelleread.com/  Connect with Simon Edwards:https://www.facebook.com/simon.edwards.581525https://www.instagram.com/sedwardsgolf/https://www.linkedin.com/in/simon-edwards-49a9441b/ Please Help Us Grow So We Can Continue:If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe, leave areview or share it with someone who might benefit. Thanks for listening to the Optimising Your Brilliance Podcast! Disclaimer: This podcast is for informationalpurposes only and should not be considered professional advice. Please consult a qualified professional for specific advice.

Why is it that we must be taken to the very edge of asituation to wake up and realise we need to make a change, before it’s too late? In this episode, I open up about two life-changing wake-upcalls - one that nearly ended my marriage and another that resulted in a trip in an ambulance. I share the lessons these moments taught me about perspective, resilience, and the importance of consciously choosing how to move forward – because let’s face, most of the time we walk around on autopilot.Also, what if we could have the clarity of thought to makechanges before it’s too late? That was my intention with this podcast ep. I’ll guide you through a powerful coaching exercise to help you reflect on your own work-life and set a new course for tomorrow or the next 5 years. Today, I amyour coach ❤️. Summary:💡 How my partner’s health scare stopped us from separating.💡The shock of a paramedic telling you they suspect you are having or have had a heart attack. Spoiler alert: the cause was laughter. I share what happened next and the learnings.💡A step-by-step coaching exercise to help you assess your work-life and identify changes that you will feel motivated to make, without having to go to worst case scenario. Here’s to your shining! Estelle Read  Bestselling Author, Coach & Speaker Timestamps:Key Timestamps0:00 – Welcome & Introduction1:04 – The holiday incident: a wake-up call2:33 – Two life-changing moments: marriage crisis &health scare4:29 – Discovering a lump: facing the fear of cancer6:44 – The power of perspective and rebuilding trust9:15 – The second wake-up call: laughter, chest pain, and atrip to the hospital12:27 – The ambulance ride and confronting denial19:57 – Using NLP and self-hypnosis to manage anxiety25:32 – The “Three Chairs” coaching exercise: assessing yourlife47:00 – Reflecting on the past, present, and future1:10:00 – Lessons on resilience, letting go, and embracingchange1:12:00 – How to work with Estelle: coaching programs andnext steps1:13:45 – Final thoughts, resources, and how to connect Listen on your favourite podcast platform or watch onYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@EstelleRead/podcastsConnect with Estelle Read: https://linktr.ee/EstelleAtBeee  Access Free Resources:For free resources, book a discovery call or join TheResilient Leader Programme: SHINE, or The Optimised Leader Programme: NEXTLEVEL, visit https://estelleread.com/  Please Help Us Grow So We Can Continue:If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe, leave areview or share it with someone who might benefit. Thanks for listening to theOptimising Your Brilliance Podcast!  Disclaimer: This podcast is for informationalpurposes only and should not be considered professional advice. Please consulta qualified professional for specific advice.