Real Men Feel: Men's Mental Health, Masculinity and Personal Growth

Divine Masculinity: Eight Choices That Make Men Less Effective Host Andy Grant of Real Men Feel explores “divine masculinity” through a Hermetic framework from his Modern Mystery School training, emphasizing an ideal 70/30 masculine-feminine energy mix for men and judging effectiveness by results. He outlines eight choices that make men less effective: choosing emotions over action, sensitivity over honesty, avoidance over strengthening, easy over honorable, drama over substance, vacillation over commitment, fear over bravery, and giving away decision-making. Using examples from Avengers: Endgame, Everybody Loves Raymond, The Lion King, The Matrix, The Good Place, Saving Private Ryan, and Back to the Future, he distinguishes healthy emotional expression from paralysis, kindness from dishonesty, and collaboration from abdication. Grant warns that men’s ineffectiveness can force partners to overcompensate, and he urges listeners to pick one pattern, take a concrete action, and seek support through coaching or his Authentic AF men’s community.00:00 Action Over Emotion01:14 Divine Masculinity Framework03:44 Emotions Into Action06:44 Sensitivity Versus Honesty10:07 Avoidance Versus Strength11:50 Easy Versus Honorable13:45 Drama Versus Substance15:33 Vacillation Versus Commitment17:04 Fear Into Bravery20:39 Own Your Decisions23:42 Relationships And Balance26:27 Choose One Pattern27:09 Community And Closing CONNECT WITH ANDY:Book a Clarity Call: https://TheAndyGrant.com/alignJoin us in Authentic AF: https://www.realmenfeel.org/groupInstagram: @realmenfeelshow and @theandygrantABOUT REAL MEN FEELReal Men Feel explores men's mental health, modern masculinity, relationships, purpose, authenticity and personal growth. Hosted by Andy Grant.#RealMenFeel #EffectiveMen #Success #Authenticity #MasculinitityReal Men Feel ep 427

Ordinary Mystics: Psychedelics, Faith, and Bringing Spiritual Insight into Daily LifeHost Andy Grant welcomes back author and educator Matt Zemon to discuss Zemon’s book Ordinary Mystics: Psychedelics, Faith, and the Reclaiming of Direct Spiritual Experience and the idea that anyone can have mystical experiences, with or without substances. Zemon explains psychedelics as catalysts rather than cures, shares how career-driven providing left him lonely, and recounts a mushroom “worm food” vision that dissolved credentials and revealed regret, love, and the need for everyday gratitude and connection. They discuss Andy’s life-changing, substance-free mystical experiences through holotropic breathwork, the importance of discernment and integration, and how community support helps turn peak experiences into a “religious life.” Zemon addresses concerns about legalization, medicalization, and “experience chasing,” outlines source-set-setting risk reduction, engages religious objections, and advocates clearer legal protections for sincere ceremonial use.00:00 Feeling Disconnected00:32 Meet Matt Zemon02:07 Ordinary Mystics Defined04:22 Workaholism and Avoidance06:55 Worm Food Ego Death09:48 Breathwork Without Drugs12:26 Many Paths to Mysticism15:49 Legalization and Harm Reduction18:29 Ceremony Versus Party Trips20:39 Faith Objections and Discernment24:07 Experience Chasing and Integration33:45 Policy and Religious Freedom36:03 Resources and Final Reflections39:18 Closing TakeawaysCONNECT WITH MATT:Matt Zemon — https://www.mattzemon.com/Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/matt.zemon/LinkedIn — https://www.linkedin.com/in/mattzemon/“Ordinary Mystic” on Amazon — https://link.amazon/B0aIDMctBCONNECT WITH ANDY:Coaching: https://TheAndyGrant.com/talkReal Men Feel: https://RealMenFeel.orgInstagram: @realmenfeelshow and @theandygrantABOUT REAL MEN FEELReal Men Feel explores men's mental health, modern masculinity, relationships, purpose, authenticity and personal growth. Hosted by Andy Grant.Join other like-minded men in the Authentic AF Community | https://www.realmenfeel.org/group#RealMenFeel #MensMentalHealth #Psychedelics #Mushrooms #DivineReal Men Feel ep 426

Connect with men who actually get it:https://realmenfeel.org/groupWhat Am I Trying Not to Feel? Grief, Shame, and Letting Yourself ExpressHost Andy Grant shares a personal example of emotional avoidance after the death of his longtime friend Steve, whom he’d known since high school and supported with energy work during a 10-month cancer battle. After catching himself repeatedly eating dessert straight from the fridge despite not being hungry, he asks, “What am I trying not to feel?” and discovers grief and shame, including a fear that he hadn’t done enough and had let Steve down. Andy journals, cries, and records a video to normalize men expressing sadness, shame, love, and gratitude rather than stuffing feelings into distractions like food, booze, or porn. He reflects that expressing emotions helped him feel better that day, encourages listeners to get curious, reach out for support, and invites men to join his Authentic AF community.00:00 Dessert Distraction Moment00:32 Loss Of Steve01:11 Shame Question Breakthrough01:50 Journaling And Sharing02:49 Grief Video Begins04:48 Healing Work With Steve06:51 Regret And Letdown Fear08:53 Support After Sharing10:11 How To Express Grief11:33 Questions For Your Own Healing12:15 Gratitude And Invitation13:06 Closing GoodbyeCONNECT WITH ANDY:Book a Clarity Call: https://TheAndyGrant.com/alignJoin us in Authentic AF: https://www.realmenfeel.org/groupInstagram: @realmenfeelshow and @theandygrantABOUT REAL MEN FEELReal Men Feel explores men's mental health, modern masculinity, relationships, purpose, authenticity and personal growth. Hosted by Andy Grant.#RealMenFeel #MensMentalHealth #Success #Authenticity #ChasingStatusReal Men Feel ep 425

Neil Smith on Purpose, Men’s Communication, and the Mettle Mental Fitness App 🔥 Connect with other men who actually get it in Authentic AF:⁠https://realmenfeel.org/group⁠Host Andy Grant interviews TV executive Neil Smith (The Apprentice, Grand Designs) about achieving outward success yet feeling empty, leading him to leave television and pursue purpose-driven work in men’s mental health. Neil shares hiding depression in his 20s for nearly a decade, the shame and fear of vulnerability, and a failed attempt to seek help after a dismissive doctor interaction. He argues the male mental health crisis is largely a communication crisis and that telling men to “talk” isn’t enough; support must meet men where they are. Neil co-founded the men-focused mental fitness app Mettle with Bear Grylls to reduce stigma and friction through outcome-based tools and optional community, citing a user’s recovery from suicidality to renewed family and work life.00:00 Career Peak Question00:53 TV Success Story04:12 Second Mountain Awakening06:21 Meditation And Purpose09:56 Hidden Depression Years12:57 Shame And Asking Help17:17 Tribe And Male Connection19:40 WhatsApp Banter Trap22:22 Building Mettle App26:57 Bear Grylls Partnership27:45 Beyond Help To Hope31:07 Service And Grandfather33:12 How To Find Mettle33:42 Final Takeaway Tribe34:32 Host Closing ReflectionCONNECT WITH NEIL & METTLE:Mettle — https://bemettle.com/Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/be.mettleLinkedIn — https://www.linkedin.com/in/neil-s-smith/CONNECT WITH ANDY:Coaching: https://TheAndyGrant.com/talkReal Men Feel: https://RealMenFeel.orgInstagram: @realmenfeelshow and @theandygrantABOUT REAL MEN FEELReal Men Feel explores men's mental health, modern masculinity, relationships, purpose, authenticity and personal growth. Hosted by Andy Grant.Join other like-minded men in the Authentic AF Community | https://www.realmenfeel.org/group#RealMenFeel #MensMentalHealth #Success #Authenticity #ChasingStatusReal Men Feel ep 424

Connect with other men who actually get in Authentic AF:https://realmenfeel.org/groupQuit the Game: Ryan Vertucci on Success, Validation, and Becoming an Aligned ManHost Andy Grant interviews entrepreneur and author Ryan Vertucci about the hidden cost of chasing money, status, and sexual validation. Ryan recounts feeling trapped in a Walgreens management job, launching a property management franchise, and later “optimizing” himself through fitness, image, social media, and pickup programs, only to remain empty despite wealth, friends, and dating options. MDMA-assisted therapy surfaced childhood wounds tied to his grandmother’s death, his mother’s anger, and a core belief that love must be earned; it also exposed that his girlfriend and best friend had been sleeping together while many friends enabled it. Ryan describes “sexual jail,” lust, pornography, and transactional party culture, then shares how therapy and an impulsive trip to Italy led him back to church and faith in Christ, prompting a shift toward genuine community, purpose, and internal grounding.00:00 Chasing the Wrong Game00:32 Meet Ryan Vertucci01:17 Stuck in Corporate Life04:55 Betting on a Franchise07:25 Success Still Feels Empty08:26 The Pickup and Party Spiral11:00 MDMA Therapy Revelation13:51 Childhood Wound Exposed16:20 Sexual Jail and Lust18:05 Just Another Rich Guy28:54 Quitting the Nightlife31:44 Italy Trip and Vatican35:20 Tomb of St Matthew37:43 Careful with Spiritual Realms41:07 Book and Coaching Links42:01 What Men Need to Know44:02 Final Takeaways and CommunityCONNECT WITH RYANRyan Vertucci — https://quitthegame.com/Quit The Game book — https://amzn.to/3WhgzNzInstagram — https://www.instagram.com/alignedmanmethod/ CONNECT WITH ANDY:Coaching: https://TheAndyGrant.com/talkReal Men Feel: https://RealMenFeel.orgInstagram: @realmenfeelshow and @theandygrantABOUT REAL MEN FEELReal Men Feel explores men's mental health, modern masculinity, relationships, purpose, authenticity and personal growth. Hosted by Andy Grant.Join other like-minded men in the Authentic AF Community | https://www.realmenfeel.org/group#RealMenFeel #MensMentalHealth #Success #Authenticity #ChasingStatusReal Men Feel ep 423