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Author: Rachel Nielson

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30-minute podcasts with 3 doable takeaways to make your family life a little better each week.

Hosted by Rachel Nielson, a mother, writer, and podcaster
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It is no secret that I love to journal. If you are part of the 3 in 30 community on Instagram, then you might have seen a photo I posted recently of me with a tower of storage bins stacked almost as tall as I am...and every single one of them is filled with journals! When we moved a few years ago, the friends who came to help us were so confused as they carried in boxes. “Ummm here’s another box that is labeled ‘Rachel’s Journals!’” So I may have a bit of a journaling problem, but that is because it has been so helpful to me throughout my life to process my emotions and experiences. I have to admit, though, ever since becoming a mom, I have struggled to consistently make time to journal, even though I know how powerful it is. I just have very little alone time, and when I do, it feels too hard to try to put my pen to paper and make something coherent come out.  On today’s episode, I am going to be interviewing someone who is possibly even more excited about journaling than I am (which is saying something), and she is going to give us lots of tips for how we can make journaling a part of our lives and why it is worth the effort. Kim Christenson is the co-founder of Loom Journals and Chief Product Officer at Promptly Journals, Loom's new home. She is a lifelong writer, journaler, and book lover, and she shares book recommendations for kids and adults, as well as articles on motherhood and mindfulness, on her blog, Talk Wordy to Me. On top of all of that, Kim is a mother of three and a personal friend of mine. I can’t wait for you to learn from her! *** THREE TAKEAWAYS FOR HOW & WHY TO JOURNAL 1. Write what you feel. Let go of the need to document all the events or have perfect spelling and grammar, and just free-write everything that's in your mind and heart.  2. Try Gratitude Journaling. This has been scientifically proven to improve mental AND physical health. 3. Start today. Don’t overthink it, and don’t feel like you have to go back in time and document all of the memories you’ve missed. Just start with today and move forward.  *** Show Notes (Kim’s Instagram) (Kim’s Blog, Talk Wordy to Me) (Kim's Company, Promptly Journals) (Promptly Parent-Child Connection Journals by Loom) (Promptly Gratitude Journal) (Flecks of Gold Journal) Quote from Spencer W Kimball: “Your journal is your autobiography, so it should be kept carefully. You are unique, and there may be incidents in your experience that are more noble and praiseworthy in their way than those recorded in any other life. There may be a flash of illumination here and a story of faithfulness there; you should truthfully record your real self and not what other people may see in you. What could you do better for your children and your children’s children than to record the story of your life, your triumphs over adversity, your recovery after a fall, your progress when all seemed black, your rejoicing when you had finally achieved?...Get a notebook, a journal that will last through all time, and maybe the angels may quote from it for eternity. Begin today.” *** Many thanks to this episode’s sponsors! (Numa, postpartum recover kits for new mothers). Use the code 3IN30 for 10% off! (BetterHelp, the world’s largest provider of therapy, done 100% online). Use the code 3IN30 for 10% off! *** Related...
My friends, today is the day! The Flecks of Gold journal is here, and I am frankly giddy with excitement because I know this journal will transform your outlook on motherhood and help you see the joy and beauty in your daily life. I want every single mother in the 3 in 30 community to have one, and I’m so excited that it is now available to purchase as a pre-order (HERE.) It will be delivered to you before Christmas so you can give it as gifts and be ready to start this new journaling habit for the new year. A few years ago, I was asked to speak at an online conference for moms called the I Am Mom Summit. When I was contemplating a topic for my presentation, I decided to focus on the power of noticing and writing down beautiful moments as a mom, even in our toughest times. FLECKS OF GOLD JOURNALFor today's episode, I am going to share my I Am Mom Summit presentation, which will give you insight into the concepts and gratitude practices at the heart of my new journal. I know that the takeaways will bless your life whether or not you purchase a journal! THREE TAKEAWAYS FOR FINDING JOY IN MOTHERHOOD Use your five senses to absorb a perfect moment. Write down at least one perfect moment in each day, in order to relive it. Don’t forget to include sensory details! Share perfect moments with the people you love the most. Make it a ritual or a habit! Show Notes (I Am Mom Summit ) (Flecks of Gold Journal) Related Episodes (002: How to Journal as a Busy Mom // Laura Webb) (069:Rekindling your Love of Motherhood // Kelly Jensen) (119: How to Fall Back in Love with Motherhood // Tessa Brown) Sponsor Many thanks to this month’s sponsor, BetterHelp, the world’s largest provider of online therapy. Go to ( to get 10% off your first month. Are you excited for the Flecks of Gold journal? What are some of your favorite tips for finding joy in motherhood? Let me know in a comment below!
This time of year is heavy for me because it was three years ago in November that we lost my son’s birth-mother Katie to suicide. Which is why I feel it's so important to know how to talk about suicide. Every year in November, I plan to do something to commemorate Katie in some way--an episode on mental health, adoption, or grief. This year, I wanted to talk more specifically about suicide, and I was so touched to get an episode proposal from a mom who has an incredibly personal perspective on depression and suicide, as she lost her beloved mother to suicide in 2016. Over the last four years, she has tried to process that experience and put into words the lessons that she learned from her mother’s life and death, and I am beyond honored that she would share such a very personal and important message with us today. How to Talk About SuicideSarah Grotenhuis is a mom of two who lives in New England. She calls herself a “reluctant home \-schooler and dance party enthusiast” and goes on to say, “While I love to focus on the happy, light, and fun, I always strive for transparency in my personal struggles - namely, losing my mother to suicide in 2016. Through this experience, I've learned a great deal about forgiveness, compassion, and resilience - topics I try to share with others.” In this episode we discuss… Why it’s important to remember that mental illness is a disease, not a character flaw or lack of willpower How to explain suicide to young children Why we should say “died from suicide” instead of “committed suicide” How to process the complicated emotions that come along with suicide (guilt, anger, betrayal) Why suicidal thoughts as a symptom of a disease, not an ominous prediction  How to move towards healing and joy, even if that feels impossible "The ones we love do not want us to hurt the way that they hurt."  How has your life been touched by suicide? What advice would you add to this conversation? Share your story in the comments. Sponsor Many thanks to this month’s sponsor, BetterHelp, the world’s largest provider of online therapy. Go to ( to get 10% off your first month. Coming Soon! Get on the list to be notified when the Flecks of Gold journal is available on Monday, November 16th! ( Related Episodes (006: Three Messages of Hope for the Darkest Times ) (042: How to Love Someone When It’s Complicated or Hard: Lessons from Open Adoption) (107: Surviving Depression in Motherhood // Sarah McKenna) (108: How to Get Help for Mental Illness // Sarah McKenna)
As parents, we often feel a lot of fear around the topics of social media and smartphones for our children. For that reason, our instinct may be to pull away from it altogether or do our best to forbid our kids from using it. But today’s guest, who is a computer and technology expert, has a bit of a different take on social media safety. (Chelsea Brown) received her degree in computer information technology with an emphasis in networking and security. She is CompTIA Security+ Certified from the world’s leading tech association and was named as a Woman Changing the Tech World Today by Global App Testing in October 2019. Chelsea is also the creator of (Digital Mom Talk), an organization that makes cybersecurity easy to implement for moms and families, and she is passionate about empowering parents with the tools they need to teach their children how to use social media safely, in a way that enriches relationships instead of damaging them. Three Takeaways for Social Media SafetyTeach your children that social media apps run algorithms that learn your preferences based on how you interact with what you are seeing. You will see more of what you engage with and search for–and less of what you don’t. Start by creating a family social media account that your child can run with your approval and help. Have a clear plan to introduce each social media app into your child’s life, in a similar way to how you would slowly take steps to give them independence as a driver.  Show Notes Chelsea’s Website: ( Chelsea’s Instagram: (@DigitalMomTalk)   Signup for a consultation with Chelsea: (“Ask a Hacker Live” Session ) Related Episodes (Episode 089: When Should I Give my Teen a Cell Phone? with Andrea Davis) (Episode 023: How to Stop Looking at your Phone So Much–and Why It Matters with Dr. Katie Penry) (Episode 139: Three Ways to Find a Happy Balance with Social Media) Sponsors -This month of episodes is brought to us by (BetterHelp), the world’s largest provider of counseling, done 100% online. If you have been thinking about counseling for yourself, your marriage, or your teenager, why not give this super convenient option a try? You can get 10% off your first month if you go to ( If you have tried BetterHelp, I’d love to hear how it is going for you! Please send an email to -This episode is also sponsored by our family’s favorite podcast for kids, (Goodnight Stories for Rebel Girls). Their current season features amazing immigrant women who have changed the world in so many ways. To inspire the Rebel Girl in your life, check out (Goodnight Stories for Rebel Girls) on your favorite podcast player! Announcement! Rachel's Flecks of Gold Journal will release on Monday, November 16th! To be the first to know when it's available (and receive an exclusive discount), sign up to be notified as soon as it's released! (
I'm so excited to feature Yvette and Glen Henry today. When my husband Ryan and I first got married, I had no idea how difficult it would be to just talk to each other sometimes. When we were dating, I could pour my heart out to him with ease, but almost 15 years of marriage later, at the end of long days with work and kids, a lot of times we are just tired.  Sometimes during the day, I am literally counting down the minutes to when I can talk to him about a decision I have to make or I struggle I am facing, but by the time our kids are in bed and we have the chance to connect, it just feels too hard to verbalize everything that’s on my mind and heart or to give him all of the background on a decision I have to make for my business, and so I just don’t try. Sometimes there’s just so much resistance to even getting a dialogue started. That’s why I am so excited to have Glen and Yvette Henry on the today from the (“How Married are You?!)” podcast. In their bi-weekly episodes, they talk so openly with each other about their hearts and their struggles, their conflicts with each other and the ways that they are growing and changing, as they raise their young family WHILE building their amazing company, (Beleaf in Fatherhood.) Listen in as we talk about how to reprioritize actually hearing your spouse, even in the busiest stages of life. THREE TAKEAWAYS FOR HOW TO ACTUALLY HEAR YOUR SPOUSE BY YVETTE AND GLEN HENRY:Don’t Postpone the Truth, because on the other side of fear is freedom. Sometimes the person we are afraid to tell the truth to is ourselves. Same Language, Different Dialects. Even though you want the same thing, remember you come from different regions as you communicate and try to get to that same goal. It’s not about total agreement, it’s about alignment. When we come from a place of grace and trust for our partner, even if we don't always agree with them, we will be aligned. -Show Notes- Yvette & Glen's website: ( Yvette's Instagram: (@mrsmelanin) Podcast: (@howmarriedareyou) Glen's Instagram: (@beleafmel) Beleaf in Fatherhood YouTube: ( (7 Principles for Making Marriages Work) by John Gottman -Sponsors- A special thank you to this month’s sponsor, (InfantSEE), a non-profit program of Optometry Cares, the AOA Foundation, that provides comprehensive infant eye exams for babies ages 6-12 months, absolutely free. This episode is also sponsored by our family’s favorite kids’ podcast, (Goodnight Stories for Rebel Girls). This podcast is an expansion of the best selling book which tells hundreds of bedtime stories about the lives of extraordinary women from the past and the present. -Related Episodes- Episode 067: (How to Accept when your Partner Doesn’t Speak Your Love Language ) Episode 017: (Three Keys to a Happier Marriage with Jody Moore) Episode 115: (Why Won’t My Partner Parent the Way I Want Them Too? With Celeste Davis) Episode 050: (How to Actually Listen to...
The birthday celebration continues with part two of our #my3in30 episode where we hear from mothers from the 3 in 30 community who recorded their own unique takeaways. I hope this will inspire you to think of your own and share them within your circle during the month of October. Don't forget to check out (Episode 150), which is part one of this series. THREE TAKEAWAYS FROM 10 MOTHERSDr. Jennie Zolman is an optometrist and owner of the Draisin Vision Group in Charleston, SC and is a mom to three. She serves as a chair of the American Optometric InfantSEE and Children’s Vision Committee. InfantSEE is the October sponsor for 3 in 30, and we are so honored to be partnering with this incredible organization. Dr. Zolman is sharing her top three takeaways about infant and children’s vision:  Early eye exams (between 6 months to 1 year old) get babies’ eyes ready for learning. For school-aged children, be sure to have a yearly comprehensive eye exam with your optometrist. Many learning problems can be attributed to vision problems, yet this is rarely considered.  Give your kids' eyes a break from screens. Remember the 20/20/20 Rule: for every 20 minutes on a screen, take 20 seconds to look at something 20 feet away. ( Instagram: (@infantsee) *** Mary Pugh lives in Draper, Utah with her five kids ages 7-15. She is sharing three key takeaways for how to let your child quit without feeling guilty:  Know what your top values are for your family. Make a list of the things you value most for your family, and see if the activity in question fits in.  Try something else, and remember there is more than one way to accomplish a goal.  Don’t compare your family to any other family.  Related Episode of 3 in 30: (Episode 063: Mothering Children of Different Ages and Stages: Tips from a Mother of Seven with Vanessa Quigley) *** Alicia Schick lives in Colorado with her husband and five boys. She is passionate about helping families get the nourishment they need during the times when it’s also the hardest to make it happen. Here are Alicia’s three takeaways for making healthy food happen even and especially when life gets hard: Adopt the mindset, “I can do this,” one step at a time. A new baby may not be the best time to make any changes, but what can you do?  Invest a little time to learn.  Create your own nourishing minimal meal plan. A list of healthy recipes made from ingredients that are easy to keep on hand. Ex: stir fry, smoothie bowls, or instant pot soup. Alicia’s website: ( Alicia’s Instagram: (@myplantstrongfamily) Related episode of 3 in 30: (Episode 120: How to Teach your Children to Eat with Holly Young) *** Ariel Finlinson lives in Logan, Utah with her 3 children ages four to three months old. Through her Instagram, she provides a safe place for women to talk about sex so they can live up to their privilege of joy and fulfillment in sex. Ariel is sharing three takeaways about how to find more joy and fulfillment in your sex life: Find ways to connect with your spouse or partner. Sex is a combination of the connection we feel on other levels of our relationship: emotional, physical, spiritual, mental.  Know your body. First: know and use the names in your body, and second, start to notice sensations in your body in your everyday life.  Expand the definition of sex to inclue: pleasure, connection, closeness, warmth, tenderness, excitement, joy, laughter, trust.  Ariel’s Instagram:
When I hit publish on the first episode of 3 in 30 three years ago, I never, not in a million years, could have imagined where we would be today; or the lessons on meaningful motherhood that I'd learn along the way. I couldn’t have imagined the people I would meet through this podcast--both the guests I’ve interviewed and listeners I’ve interacted with--, the ways I would develop more emotional resilience as a result of doing this hard work and making mistakes and getting discouraged and continuing to press forward, or the JOY that would fill my life as I’ve been able to teach through this medium. 3 in 30 is about so much more than being a great’s about being a deeper, more whole, more developed human, and It has definitely done that for me. In today’s episode, I am going to talk about three of the major threads that I have seen show up again and again through the 150 episodes I’ve recorded over the past three years...three themes that have emerged and become what I like to call “pillars” of meaningful motherhood. THREE PILLARS OF MOTHERHOOD THAT HAVE EMERGED FROM 3 IN 30:Talk to your kids. Talk to them often and about everything. Everything gets easier with practice. Re-frame every experience within motherhood as an opportunity to practice Apologize to your kids. Show Notes I want to remind you that as part of the birthday celebration of the podcast this month, I am hosting a (#my3in30) campaign where I am inviting YOU to share your own three unique takeaways on social media and within your circle of friends, and when you share you will be entered in some amazing giveaways. All you have to do is share your three takeaways, and if you want all of the specifics on how to participate, you can go to Lauren Skinner's 3 takeaways for for giving a meaningful and healing apology to your kids on her Instagram: (@heartofconfetti_) (Episode 99: How to Talk to Your Kids About Sex) with Kristin Hodson (Episode 100: How to Talk to Your Kids About Pornography) with Dina Alexander (Episode 149: How to Teach Your Children about Disability) with Amy Webb (Episode 30: How to Coach Your Children Through Their Big Emotions )with Georgia Anderson (Episode 28: How to Raise a Confident Child) with Marilyn Faulkner (Episode 101: How (and Why) to Talk to your Kids about Skin Tone and Race) with Dr. Lucretia Berry (Episode 113: Teaching your Kids about Racism and Bias) with Jasmine Bradshaw Sponsors InfantSEE I want to offer my deep gratitude for this month’s podcast sponsor, ( InfantSEE). I LOVE this non-profit program from Optometry Cares, the AOA Foundation. Through the InfantSEE program, 20,000 participating optometrists volunteer their time to provide a FREE infant eye assessment for babies between the ages of 6 and 12 months old. There’s no catch here. The eye assessment is truly free, thanks to this non-profit program. All you have to do is go to ( and enter your zipcode to find a participating provider in your area, and then call and tell them that you’d like to schedule an InfantSEE appointment for your baby. Goodnight Stories for Rebel Girls Podcast One of my favorite tools for bringing up real and important conversations with my kids is (Goodnight Stories for Rebel Girls). Each...
It is the birthday month of 3 in 30, and we are going to party! October 12th will mark 3 years since I launched 3 in 30 into this world. I am so amazed by how the podcast has grown and changed, and how it has changed me as a result. Every year for the podcast birthday, I invite listeners to share their own three takeaways because I truly believe that every single woman in this community has valuable expertise and insight to share. Today we're going to hear from several mothers from the 3 in 30 community who recorded their own unique takeaways. I hope this will inspire you to think of your own and share them within your circle during the month of October! (You can even win some amazing giveaways! Details here: *** Three Takeaways from 7 MothersRachel Nielson is the host of this podcast. ;) She lives in Hailey, ID with her two spirited children (ages 6 and 9) who are best frenemies. Their favorite place to fight is in the car, so Rachel is sharing three ways to get your kids to stop fighting in the car: Turn on a kids' podcast. The Nielson's very favorite is (Goodnight Stories for Rebel Girls), and they also love (Circle Round) and (Grimm, Grimmer, Grimmest). Use silliness to distract them. (Ex: Mrs. Pretzel Face..thanks Ralphie (@simplyonpurpose)!) Turn on a show and don't feel bad about it! *** Sarah Good is a mother of two living in Denver. After her appendix ruptured this spring (while 15 weeks pregnant!) she was stuck in the hospital for two weeks. Sarah is sharing three takeaways for how to ask for help:  Start small. Practice on a small scale, like when you’re hosting friends for dinner and need a hand prepping.  Be specific. The more specific you are, the easier it is for people to help you. Put yourself in the shoes of the helper, and you will realize that people want to help! *** Ashley Salisbury is from South Weber, Utah. She is a math teacher, and has three children ages, 5, 3, and two months. Ashley is sharing three takeaways for how to help your child be more successful at math:  It’s okay to make mistakes. “No one is perfect-- that’s why pencils have erasers.”  Make sure you as a parent have a positive attitude toward math. If you express negative thoughts at home toward math, that will be mirrored in your child.  You can do hard things, it takes practice just like sports.  *** Miriam Torres is the mom to two daughters ages 4 and 2. She is a sexual assault survivor and helps others heal through her company, Because of What Happened. Miriam is sharing three takeaways to help survivors of sexual assault, abuse, or trauma heal in a practical way: Determine what your “tells” are for when anxiety, PTSD and depression are going to act up. Predetermine how you’re going to counteract those things and remedy them.  Validation through affirmations. Emotions that are expressed and validated with empathy can be relieved.  Protect your children from sexual abuse by talking to them openly about their bodies, sex, and abuse. ( (This episode) of 3 in 30 might help!) Also teach them the difference between surprises and secrets. (Surprises are okay, secrets are not.) Miriam’s Website: (Because of What Happened) Miriam’s Instagram: (@becauseofwhathappened)  *** Meggie Hunsinger has three young children and lives in St. Louis. She and her husband met in graduate school for social work, and now she’s a stay-at-home mom.. She is sharing three ways to help kids develop healthy self talk: Model it for them. Acknowledge your...
How do we teach our children about different types of bodies? How do we teach them not to stare or point at others who look different from them? How do we help them understand the difference between empathy and pity? All of this and more is discussed in this week's powerful episode with Amy Webb, an artist, writer, and special needs mother who advocates for the disability and special needs community through her interviews and writing on her blog and other platforms. She is the author of the award-winning children's book (When Charley Met Emma), and she just released a follow-up entitled (Awesomely Emma )this month! Listen in as we discuss the nuance of teaching our children about the world and the varying types of people in it! Three Takeaways for Teaching Children about Disability by Amy WebbBring disability representation into your home, through media, books, and conversations. (A great place to start is with Amy's books!) Teach your children that being different and having a disability is okay and NOT inherently sad. It’s important to teach our children not to pity others or make assumptions about their lives but to instead listen, learn, and empathize. Remember that “kindness” is not the goal, friendship and inclusion are the goal. Have open conversations with your children and other parents to figure out ways to modify the environment so kids with all types of abilities can build deep friendships. Show Notes Amy's blog, (This Little Miggy Stayed Home) Amy's Instagram, (@thislittlemiggy) Amy's article on Cup of Jo: " (Navigating a Special Needs Encounter)" Amy's books! (When Charlie Met Emma) and (Awesomely Emma) Other Children's Books that Represent Disability **These links are affiliate links, which means that when you purchase, you support 3 in 30. Thank you! (Emmanuel’s Dream) by Laurie Ann Thompson (All the Way to the Top) by Annette Bay Pimentel (Hiya Moriah) by Victoria Nelson (A Kids Book about Disabilities) by Kristine Napper *Use the code 3IN30 for $5 off Related Episodes Episode 141: (Raising Children with Chronic Conditions) // Andelin Price Episode 147: (Teaching Children How to Advocate for Themselves) // Dr. Traci Baxley Episode 140: (Raising Culturally Curious Children) // Preethi B. Harbuck Last Year's Episodes in the "YOU are Your Child's Most Important Teacher" Series Episode 099: (How to Talk to Your Kids about Sex) // Kristin B. Hodson Episode 100: (How to Talk to Your Kids about Pornography) // Diina Alexander Episode 101: (How to Talk to Your Kids about Skin Tone & Race) // Dr. Lucretia Berry Episode 113: (How to Teach your Kids about Racism) //...
I recently asked the (3 in 30 podcast community on Instagram) to help me choose episode topics, like how to navigate friendship, for the rest of 2020 and into 2021. I asked, “If you could hear a 3 in 30 episode about anything what would it be?” (The responses) were amazing and I used them to craft a content calendar that I hope will be incredibly enriching and inspiring for all of you in the next many months. One comment in particular got so many likes from other mothers, that I knew we needed to address it on the podcast ASAP.  This comment from a mom with the Instagram handle “Merecooley” said, “I’d love to hear an episode about how to help children choose and navigate friend groups. It is such a strong outside influence! How much should I guide him/her on choosing friends? How do I explain red flags within unhealthy friendships without judgement for others decisions/difference?” It occurred to me that this could be a great topic for this month’s theme, which is YOU are your child’s most important teacher. What could be more important than explicitly teaching our children how to be a good friend and choose good friends? I’m so excited to introduce you to today’s guests who are going to dive deep into this topic: Kira Dorrian and Deana Thayer are the founders of (Future Focused Parenting) and co-hosts of the popular podcast “ (Raising Adults).” They say that they “aren't all about ‘raising kids’...instead they hope to raise fully functioning, happy, healthy adults and believe that parenting with a long-range view is the key to that.” Between them, Kira and Deana have a background in childbirth, sleep consulting, education and mental health. Dina is a mom and stepmom to five teenagers, and Kira is a mom to 9-year old boy-girl twins. I am incredibly excited for them to share their wisdom on teaching our children to choose good friends and be good friends today. Three Takeaways on How to Navigate Friendship:Remember the acronym PAL: 1) P - Pay Attention. Teach your children to pay attention to their friends’ behavior, how they treat people, and if that matches with what they believe to be the characteristics of a good friend.   2) A - Ask Great Questions. “How do you feel when you are around that friend?” “Do they always choose you, or do they go back and forth on whether or not you are their friend that day?” “Are they happy for you when you are happy?”  3) L - Lead By Example. how your children what it looks like to be a good friend by the way you connect with your own friends and talk about them when they aren’t around.  Show Notes (Future Focused Parenting website) (Raising Adults Podcast) (Instagram for Future Focused Parenting) (FREE Calendar of Character Traits) Related Episodes (Episode 20: How to Be a Friend Instead of Just Being Friendly) with Brooke Romney (Episode 44: Three Strategies for Finding Joy after a Move) with Jessica Dahlquist (Episode 93: How to Change Someone’s Life Without Knowing It) Sponsors: -Many thanks to (Goodnight Stories for Rebel Girls), a fairytale podcast about the extraordinary women who inspire us. Listen in your favorite podcast app! -Many thanks to BetterHelp, the world’s largest provider of online therapy. Use the code 3IN30 for 10% off your first month! Got to (...
YOU are your child’s most important teacher! Especially when it comes to teaching them self advocacy skills! This back-to-school series is back again this year, as we discuss how to have important conversations with our kids that will set them up for success at school, work, and throughout life.  Our guest to kick-off the series is (Dr. Traci Baxley) who has been an educator for over 30 years with degrees in child development, elementary education, and curriculum and instruction. She specializes in belonging, diversity and inclusion, social justice education, race identity, anti-bias curriculum. She is also the creator of Social Justice Parenting™, a parenting philosophy that moves families from fear-based parenting to parenting from a place of radical love, for themselves, their children and humanity.  On top of all of that, Dr. Baxley is a mother to five children, and she is passionate about teaching them how to courageously advocate for themselves and their unique needs. Three Takeaways on How to Teach Your Children Self Advocacy SkillsSpend time getting to know your child and helping them reflect on their strengths and weaknesses.  Support children in articulating their needs by giving them a thorough understanding of their unique needs, whether those are diagnosed conditions that you want them to understand about themselves or simply just personality preferences and learning styles.  Teach children to brainstorm who could be on their support team or what resources might help them and write it out in advance. Show Notes (Dr. Traci Baxley’s website) (Dr. Traci Baxley’s Instagram) Join me for a free class on podcasting this month! ( (How To Podcast with Charles Duhigg) (Bravery Magazine) Related Episodes (Episode 047: How to Respectfully Advocate for Your Children // Emily Orchard) (Episode 141: Raising Children with Chronic Conditions // Andelin Price) Last Year’s Series (Episode 099: How to Talk to Your Kids about Sex // Kristin B. Hods)on (Episode 100: How to Talk to Your Kids about Pornography // Dina Alexander) (Episode 101: Why & How to Talk to Your Kids about Skin Tone & Race // Dr. Lucretia Berry) Sponsor Many thanks to this month’s sponsor, (BetterHelp), the world’s largest provider of online therapy! Use the code 3IN30 for 10% off your first month!
Sarah Stewart Holland and Beth Silvers are mothers and attorneys who are passionate about civic engagement, community, and politics. They believe that we can "choose to respect the dignity of every person, choose to recognize that issues are nuanced and can’t be reduced to political talking points, and choose to listen in order to understand.” Sarah and Beth co-host a podcast called (Pantsuit Politics) where they model how to have grace-filled political conversations. They also wrote a book called, (I Think You're Wrong (But I'm Listening)). Because of the tools these powerful women teach in their book and on their podcast, I have been able to navigate several heated political conversations with family and friends these past few months in a way that lead to deeper connection between us. (Miraculous, right??) I’m thrilled to have Sarah and Beth on the podcast today to teach us their best tools to navigate these sometimes divisive and exhausting exchanges with our friends and family. Three Takeaways for Having Grace-Filled Political Conversations with Sarah Stewart Holland1. Take off your jersey. 2. Exit the echo chamber. ^ (Suggestions of reputable media sources from both sides) 3. Get curious. Show Notes (Pantsuit Politics Website) (Pantsuit Politics Instagram) ( I Think You're Wrong (But I'm Listening) (book)) (Pantsuit Politics on Apple Podcasts) (but it's available everywhere) ("Sources Swap" suggestions from Beth and Sarah) Related Episodes (051: How (and Why) to Get Involved in the Political Process as a Mom // Lacey Parr) (031: Three Easy Ways to Teach your Children about Patriotic Holidays // The American Moms) (133: Answering your Questions about "Colorblindness" and Racism // Jasmine Bradshaw & Dr. Lucretia Berry) Sponsor Info This month's sponsor is (BetterHelp), the world's largest provider of online therapy. Use the code 3IN30 for 10% off your first month! Do you want to learn about podcasting? Join me this month for a FREE class on how to start or grow a podcast! ( What was your favorite thing Sarah Stewart Holland and Beth Silvers had to share? Let me know in a comment below!
Sometimes you need to employ some strategies to enjoy reading with you kids. It’s not a “given” that all kids will love being read to by their parents, just as it’s not a “given” that all parents will love reading to their kids. Which is why I'm so excited to be talking to Janssen Bradshaw today about how to make reading with your kids more fun and less stressful. I'm a former high school English teacher, so it probably comes as no surprise that I love reading to my kids. I always say that books are my secret weapon to get through their hard behaviors. But not all parents feel this way, and that's okay! Whether you love reading to your kids or it’s a real struggle for you, I know you are going to get some amazing tips from this week’s episode. Our guest is Janssen Bradshaw who is a former elementary school librarian with a masters degree in library and information studies. She now stays home with her four daughters and runs the blog (Everyday Reading), which helps parents make reading an enjoyable, simple part of their family life. Three Takeaways from Janssen Bradshaw to Enjoy Reading with Your Kids1) Pick books that are fun for YOU to read with your kids.  -If you enjoy the books, you'll make more time for family reading, and it'll be a better experience for everyone. 2) Don't be afraid to quit a book.  -If you decide to stop reading a book together, you’re not teaching your child to be a quitter - you’re teaching them that you don't have to pour more time into something that isn't working for you.  3) Let your kids move while you read.  -Research actually shows that many children can focus better when their hands are occupied. (ex: LEGOS, coloring, brushing your hair) Show Notes Janssen's Blog, (Everyday Reading) Janssen's (Instagram Account) (List of 100 Children's Books (2020) ) (30 Chapter Books to Read Aloud to Preschoolers & Kindergartners) (Beauty by Robin McKinley) (Read Aloud Revival Podcast, episode 82 "Why Fidgeting is a Good Sign") Related Episodes (Episode 003: Introducing Our Kids to Unexpected Heroes // Jennifer Brimhall) (Episode 125: 3 Tips for the Accidental Homeschooling Mom // Bonnie & Audrey from the Outnumbered Podcast) (Episode 140: Raising Culturally Curious Children // Preethi B. Harbuck) Join us in celebrating the third birthday of 3 in 30 in October! Record YOUR three takeaways and submit them as a voice memo to be aired on the show! All of the instructions to participate can be found at ( If you'd like to hear a sample of a crowdsources #my3in30 episode, listen (here) and (here). What did Janssen Bradshaw share that you found most helpful? Let me know in a comment below!
As summer draws to a close and schools in the United States are starting back up, either virtually or in-person, moms all over the country might be feeling like me and wanting to get some rhythms and routines back into our lives! It’s been over five months since our routines were shaken up when the coronavirus pandemic really hit the United States, and I don’t know about you, but mornings in our house have turned into a bit of a free-for-all – with screen time too early in the day, pajamas too late in the day, and just a general lack of structure for the kids and for me.  That’s why I went into the podcast archives and pulled out this episode with Crystal Paine that originally aired almost two years ago. Because I could use makeover of my mornings right about now...could you? Join me for this conversation with Crystal Paine, a mother, entrepreneur, (blogger), and New York Times best-selling author. In this episode, Crystal explains how deliberate mornings have been a major key to her success. Three Takeaways to Makeover your Mornings with Crystal Paine1. Serve your tomorrow self. What can you do the night before to set yourself up for success the next day? (ex: make a list of to-dos, lay out your clothes, get kids’ stuff packed and ready by the door, or even just going to bed earlier.) 2. Prioritize morning activities that aren't urgent..they are actually more important than that. (ex: connecting with your children, connecting with God, exercising, working a bit on your business, or other long-term goals) 3. Give yourself an incentive. Adults need rewards too, so include some exciting reinforcers as you are build a new morning habit. (ex: social media time while you drink your morning coffee, watching a favorite TV show as you exercise, playing your favorite music) Related Episodes (Episode 096: How to Organize Yourself and your Home for the New School Year // Mika Perry) (Episode 007: How to Create a More Peaceful Home // Cate Johnson) (Episode: 3 Steps to Finding a Happy Balance with Social Media) Show Notes (Make Over Your Mornings: 14-day online course to help you start your day with success) (Crystal’s website, Money Saving Mom) (Crystal’s Instagram) (Crystal and Rachel’s Power of Moms’ podcast) (Gretchen Rubin’s book, The Four Tendencies) (Laura Vanderkamp’s book, What the Most Successful People Do Before Breakfast) >>> Get a worksheet to help you apply the takeaways from this week's episode! Make sure you're signed up for my weekly newsletter at<<< Leave a Review! Leave a Review for the podcast this month to be entered to win a care package! This week’s winner is Aycarumba. Please email to claim your package! How to leave a review: (
Pregnancy, childbirth, and postpartum are incredibly vulnerable times of life. During these seasons, your body is not fully your own, and it can feel disorienting. Especially if you've ever experienced a traumatic birth. Yet we often only hear stories about how beautiful this time is, and when our experience doesn't match up with what we expected, we can feel guilt, shame, anger, and resentment. Today we have a guest on the show who is passionate about talking about the tough and unexpected stuff in motherhood. (Mia Hemstad) is a mental health advocate, a political activist, and mother of two little ones who are four and two years old. She is also the founder of (No Longer Last), a community of women who are on a journey to do one small thing every day to nourish themselves.  As part of her mission to encourage women to care for themselves, Mia decided to share her traumatic birth experience in a (powerful article) she wrote was picked up by, Yahoo, Kids Spot, Cafe Mom, and several other media outlets. The article has helped thousands of women all over the world to move forward after traumatic birth experiences and learn how to advocate for themselves and their wellness in the future. I’m so grateful for her bravery in talking about this very important and not-discussed-enough topic, and I know you are going to love this conversation that I had with her. Three Takeaways for Healing Emotionally after a Traumatic BirthAccept that your birth was traumatic, and it was not your fault. Talk to compassionate friends or family about your experience and if necessary, seek counseling support to process what you went through and how your life is changing as a mom to a new baby. Don’t be afraid to ask tough questions of your medical professionals and speak up about what you want and need. (ex: What's your stance on medical intervention and C-sections? Do you screen for depression and anxiety during pregnancy?) Trust your intuition and act on it. If you need support acting on your intuition, reach out to someone on your support team and ask for it. Show Notes (Mia's article about her traumatic birth) (Mia's Website) (Mia's Program "No Longer Last") (Mia's Instagram) (Mia's Facebook) (Mia's YouTube Channel) BetterHelp Online Therapy: >>>>Receive an email recap of ALL of the takeaways from the month:<<< Related Episodes (Episode 107: Surviving Depression in Motherhood) // Sarah McKenna (Episode 108: How to Get Help for Mental Illness) // Sarah McKenna (Episode 060: 3 Facts about Infant Sleep You MUST Know) // Dr. Katie Penry Leave a Review! Leave a Review for the podcast this month to be entered to win a care package! This week's winner is Mom of 3 Living Abroad. Please email to claim your package! How to leave a review: ( Have you experienced a traumatic birth or know someone who has? What did you do to help things feel better? Let me know in a comment below!
As moms, we’ve got a lot going on all the time. I did a brain dump the other day of everything I’d like to be doing right now with my home, my family, my business, and my personal goals, and it was four pages long! Which is why I'm so excited to be talking to Ceri Payne today! There are only 24 hours in a day, and it is simply just NOT POSSIBLE to do it all all at once. Sadly, it is also not possible to “create” more time–but we CAN maximize on the time we already have and make sure that we are using it wisely and in a way that truly aligns with our highest priorities. Today on the podcast, we have a guest who is an expert in teaching women how to do just that. (Ceri Payne) is a woman who definitely knows how to maximize her time. She went through the rigorous training at the Life Coach School with Brooke Castillo and started her successful coaching business WHILE working full-time as a special education teacher and being a devoted mother to three teenage girls. She now specializes in coaching overwhelmed moms on how to balance the demands of life and motherhood while creating their businesses. Whether or not you are ever interested in growing a business, I know the tips that Ceri has to share today are going to help you discover more time in your days so you can more fully pursue your interests, goals, and relationships. Three Takeaways for Maximizing your Time as a Mom with Ceri Payne 1) Batch like-tasks together within your housekeeping and other life responsibilities, so you’re not wasting time and energy on task switching. 2) Minimize the number of decisions you have to make daily by developing routines and rhythms for as much as you can within your life, like laundry or even washing your hair. 3) Plan time to plan your time. This upfront investment will pay back dividends in the clarity that you’ll feel every day. Show Notes Ceri’s Website: ( Ceri’s Instagram: h (ttps:// Ceri’s Freebie: (24 Ways to Save 24 Hours This Month) (Minimalist Meal Plan by Miranda Anderson) (Brooke Castillo “Throw Away Your To-Do List”) (episode 261) Related Episodes (Episode 59: 3 Tips to Create More Time in Your Day // Lauren Golden) (Episode 14: Getting Out of Overwhelm: A 3-Step Process // April Perry) (Episode 48: How to Find Time for Personal Development as a Busy Mom: The 3 Ps // Mary Jenkins) Leave a Review for 3 in 30! This month, I am going to be putting together some fun care packages for three listeners who leave a review, so if you’re interested in getting some goodies in the mail from me, just leave a review some time in August, and you will be entered.  This little video will show you how, if you aren’t sure: ( Thank you so much for your support of 3 in 30! What tips from Ceri Payne did you find most helpful? Let me know in a comment below!
Parenting is always an all-consuming and emotional endeavor, but it is uniquely intense for parents who are raising children with chronic health conditions. Whether that be a disability of some sort or a medical condition that changes the way that their child must move through the world. I get emails every day from mothers who are raising children with additional needs – physical or mental disabilities, anxiety or depression, severe eczema or allergies, Autism, Type 1 Diabetes, long-term toileting or feeding issues, ADHD, learning disabilities, and more.   Sometimes these lifelong conditions are diagnosed, sometimes they are just something that you sense in your gut is a little different about your child. Sometimes these conditions are obvious to other people, sometimes they are quiet struggles that you and your child navigate privately.  You may or may not consider yourself a parent of a child with additional needs, but I still think you will find many of the takeaways in this episode applicable to the unique children that YOU are raising, so I hope you will listen to the end and consider at least one way that you can better navigate the personalized needs of YOUR children based on the insights shared today.  Today’s guest is Andelin Price, a mother of six who is raising a son with Type 1 Diabetes, a lifelong condition that must be carefully managed every single day. Andelin’s son was diagnosed when he was 7, and he is now 18, so she has been navigating this world of parenting a child with a chronic condition for over a decade and has insights that I believe translate to parenting children with a wide variety of conditions and needs. Three Takeaways for Raising Children with a Chronic ConditionsYour child’s struggles are not your fault, and it is not about you! If you blame yourself for their overall condition or for little missteps along the way as you are caring for them, you are using up precious energy that you could be using to support them better instead.  See your child first. Talk about their strengths and characteristics and humanity first, before defining them by their condition or struggle.  Say yes as often as you possibly can--even if you are scared. If your child has some unique medical, social, or other needs, ask yourself, “How can we make this work?” when presented with an opportunity that will take him or her AND YOU outside your comfort zone.  Related Episodes (Episode 070 How to Help Kids Have a Great Experience at the Doctor // Shannon Tripp) (Episode 047 How to Respectfully Advocate for your Children // Emily Orchard) (Episode 035 Modeling How to Endure With Hope // Ralphie Jacobs and Bob Peters) Please fill out a two minute survey! This will help as I'm finalizing my journal for moms and planning future content for 3 in 30! What did you find most helpful in this podcast about raising children with chronic health conditions? Let me know in a comment below!
It’s always been important to me to raise children who have a broad cultural awareness. I want my children to love themselves, their little community in rural Idaho, their country, their religion, and our unique family traditions--but I also want them to know that not everyone in this world lives like us or believes like us, and that is okay!  Actually, it is more than’s beautiful and amazing and adds to the breadth of what we as humans get to experience on this incredible planet that we call home. Today’s podcast guest, (Preethi ) (B. ) (Harbuck), believes that raising culturally curious children can begin at home, starting when they are really young. Preethi is a mom of 5 young little children and the creator of many incredible educational resources for families which she shares on her blog, (Local Passport Family). She and her husband Dan have prioritized world travel with their children, and she shares many tips for traveling with kids and kid-friendly destination itineraries on her blog–but her work also has a deep focus on teaching our children about diversity and the world from our homes, especially when travel isn’t possible.  In this week’s episode, she teaches us how to use books, everyday conversations, virtual field trips, and real field trips to provide our children with “mirrors” and “windows” into the world, so they can become more culturally curious. “Mirrors” are books or experiences where they see themselves reflected and feel a deeper sense of belonging in the world, and “windows” are books or experiences that help them see and understand new cultures and experiences. Join us for this fascinating conversation! 3 Takeaways for Raising Children with Cultural AwarenessPrepare your kids for broader cultural learning by slowly introducing them to diverse perspectives. A simple and safe way to do that is through children’s books Start by watching author Jane Kurtz (read her book about Ethiopia) called (Trouble) and discuss it with your kids! Teach your kids to be curious by answering their questions, asking your own questions, AND sharing about your day, whether they ask you about it or not.  Start by telling your children one thing that you did today that might spark a deeper conversation. Explore everywhere. Remember that even a little walk close to home can be considered an adventure and an opportunity for curiosity if we CHOOSE to be interested. Start by doing something with your kids that feels mildly inconvenient but that you know will give them a new experience. Show Notes Preethi’s Instagram: (@localpassportfamily) Preethi’s Blog: ( Sign up for the (Global Children’s Book Club)! If you are overwhelmed, just start with (Ethiopia). (Episode with Dr. Lucretia Berry )about the importance of discussing racial differences with children (The Name Jar) by (Yangsook Choi) (Circle Round Podcast) Related Episodes Episode 003 (: Introducing our Kids to Unexpected Heroes // Jennifer Brimhall) Episode 101: (Why & How to Talk...
Do you worry about your social media usage and how it might be affecting your kids? If so, you’re not alone. Most mothers I know struggle to find a balance between being present in their everyday lives and engaging with media that they value online. I struggle with this balance every day, particularly since I started 3 in 30. For a while there, I found that my social media use was getting out of control and it was easy for me to justify as “necessary for my business.” But deep down, I knew that was an excuse–and I also knew that if I was going to use this podcast to encourage mothers to be intentional and present with their families, then I needed to be doing my best to also live that way in my day-to-day life. So over the past several years, I’ve experimented with some concrete strategies to help me balance my social media use with being present in my motherhood, and although I am FAR from perfect at this, it has helped me a lot, and I hope that the three tools presented in today’s episode will help you as well! Three Takeaways for Finding a “Happy Balance” with Social Media UsageDEFINE what you love about social media (and what you don’t) REFINE your feed so what you love is about social media is actually reflected by the accounts you follow and engage with DESIGN your day so you have intentional blocks of social media time >>> For a FREE worksheet to help you apply these three takeaways to YOUR social media use, visit ( <<<  Show Notes (I Am Mom Summit YouTube Channel) (I Am Mom Summit Website) Free PDF to help you find a happy balance with social media: ( Sign up for Rachel’s weekly newsletter and recap of ALL of the takeaways from the month! ( Related Episodes (Episode 114: How to Stop Looking at your Phone So Much – And Why It Matters) // Dr. Katie Penry (Episode 057: How to Document Your Family Without Torturing Them) // Rebecca Sior (Episode 050: How to Actually Listen to your Children) // Kim Jacobs Many thanks to this month’s sponsor, Betterhelp! Betterhelp is the world’s largest provider of therapy, done 100% online. Join over a million people who are taking control of their mental health, and get 10% off your first month. Go to ( to get started! How do you balance social media usage in your life? Let me know in a comment below!
If you have a dream, big or small, that’s been tugging on your heart–or if you’ve allowed your fears to get in the way of you showing up fully in the world–this episode is for YOU. (Brooke White) is a musician and a mother of two. She has recorded nine albums, including her latest incredible release, (Calico). Brooke got her “big break” when she appeared in season 7 of American Idol and finished in the Top 5.  In the midst of this success, when the world saw a beautiful young woman with talent and fame, Brooke faced debilitating anxiety and fears that she wasn’t good enough. In our conversation today, we discuss… how Brooke faced harsh criticism in a very public review in a LA music magazine (she reads it aloud on this episode!) how Brooke made a big mistake in front of 40 million viewers on American Idol how Brooke survived those moments, and many others that have come before and after, and has continued to pursue music with a self-confidence rooted in love, faith, and gratitude In this episode, Brooke and I laugh, we tell stories, and yes, we sing. Well, Brooke does.  You don’t want to miss this truly unique and inspiring episode of 3 in 30. Three Takeaways on How to Show Up With Confidence1) “All you need is love” (not confidence) to get started in pursuing a passion–focus on your love for that thing and the confidence will come in time. 2) Be willing to step into “the ring of fire” and feel all of the feelings–especially the negative ones.  3) “Don’t stop believing, hold on to that feeling” of GRATITUDE for where you are and where you’ve been. Show Notes (Brooke White’s Newest Album, Calico) (Brooke White’s Instagram ) (Brooke White’s YouTube channel) (Brooke’s Spotify List) (Brooke Castillo’s Podcast, The Life Coach School) Related Episodes (Clarifying your Life’s Purpose // Brooke Snow) (How to Find Time for Personal Development as a Mom: The 3 Ps // Mary Jenkins) (What If I’m Jealous? // Monica Packer) (How to Stop Being Mean to Yourself) Many thanks to this month’s sponsor, Betterhelp! Betterhelp is the world’s largest provider of therapy, done 100% online. Join over a million people who are taking control of their mental health, and get 10% off your first month. Go to ( to get started! Do you have any extra tips on how to show confidence? Let me know in a comment below!
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Katie Campbell Bateman

Hey Rachel Nielson, I just want to thank you for creating this podcast. You are doing an amazing job! As a mother of three boys, I have learned so much about motherhood and also just about how to be the woman I want to be through your interviews. Thank you for the many uplifting and inspiring podcasts! You are making the world more lovely through your efforts!

Sep 16th

Emily Durrant

I LOVE this podcast. Helpful, easy to apply, fun. Theres such a variety of topics, even the ones that I don't think I'll he interested in are helpful. And I like the 30 minutes because that's just enough time for a basic household chore or walk, and I can usually (not always) get through it before there's a big enough problem with my kids I have to stop it.

Apr 22nd

Karen Showell

This podcast is one of my absolute favorites! Its done so much to help me be a more intentional mom and find peace in my life. Rachel Nielson is one of the sweetest people and so insightful.

Apr 6th


worth sharing for sure! Harvard implicit bias test - look it up

Mar 1st

Joany Tolosa

Amazing Podcast! We need to be talking more about this topic.

Jan 22nd

Lesli John

I love this podcast so much! So many helpful takeways given in a really useable and easy to remember format. Thank you!!

Jan 7th

Danielle Evans

I love this podcast. 30 minutes seems to be the perfect length for folding laundry or making some other tasks fly by. Rachel always has amazing guests and I love the knowledge shared. This podcast is in my top 3 favorites and I am so grateful for it.

Dec 24th

Brook Bashaw

Thank you for this series on mental health. You are the reason I am currently seeking the help I've truly needed. You are a blessing. BOTH of you.

Dec 7th

Scott Sonderegger

These sound like ideas that might work well for ONE specific couple. I don't think these ideas generalize to all personality types.

Sep 18th
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Jen Anderson

Love these ideas. The only thing i would say is, instead of the mom doing all the night before prep, have the KIDS do the night time prep. They can fill their own water bottles and pack their own lunches (mostly), etc.! Let kids help take responsibility for making the morning better. It's not just mom's job.

Sep 4th
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loved this episode. it's so hard for me to make a list of my strengths. I need to work on that.

Jun 5th

Selina N

Binge listening to these. Such fantastic tips and ideas. so helpful. Thank you Rachel.

Jan 24th

J.D. Barlow

All my friends listen to you almost every week! great information, great guests and you are a great host! Love your podcast. Thanks!

Dec 13th

Randi Oswald

I loved this episode! Thank you!

Nov 29th

Jessica Miller

so very insightful... never 💭 of some of these things. I do put my phone down more often but so many tips to see and connect with my kids and to know them better.

Jul 30th

Mairead McCarthy

I recently went through a change in my life that made me focus on who I wanted to be as a person. This podcast has helped me so much! Often the topics are something I wouldn't think are relevant to me or wouldn't be something I'd usually choose to listen to, but they are the ones I find myself enjoying the most. Rachel seems so genuine and tries to make each episode relatable and way to implement. I've been playing catch up with the episodes as I've only recently stumbled across it and I'm dreading having to wait a week for every episode!! Great concept, great execution.

Jul 24th

Bri Keasbey

This podcast is changing my life. I specifically love that the episodes are shorter than the other 60+ minute channels I often listen to. The topics Rachel chooses to discuss are perfect for mothers from many different walks of life, and the advice and wisdom offered in most episodes is truly helpful in upping my game as a mom and a spouse.

Jun 30th
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