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30-minute podcasts with 3 doable takeaways to make your family life a little better each week.

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Welcome back to part two of our conversation with licensed clinical psychologist, Dr. Katie Penry ( ! Dr. Penry recently released her first book, The Parenting Toddlers Workbook ( , and as I read through the book, the portions that jumped out to me the most were about how to set loving limits with our young children–and I really feel that those principles can be applicable to children as they age as well. Obviously the particulars of situations where limits are needed will change and get more nuanced as children get older, but the necessity of parents having loving limits and the ability to hold to them does not change. So I hope these episodes will be helpful to you, regardless of the ages of your children. Last week ( , Katie and I discussed why it’s actually extremely loving to set limits for our children–loving for them AND for ourselves. She went on to explain that the KEY to being able to hold to loving limits for our kids is to anchor them in our unique family values, our individual needs as mothers, and our deepest hopes for our children. In today’s episode, we will be diving deeper into HOW to actually hold to your limits, once you’ve decided what they will be, by remember three principles: Three Takeaways for Holding Limits with your Children 1) Know the template for introducing and supporting limits: -Acknowledge the feeling that is leading to the behavior. (“You are so excited to be here and have so much energy from being trapped in the car all day! Of course you are! But…”) -State the limit clearly. (“In my house, we don’t jump on furniture, even when we’re really excited.”) -Tell them what they can do. (“You are welcome to go outside and jump on my trampoline!) -If needed, help them respect the limit. (“Here let me take your hand and show you where the trampoline is.”) -Validate their feelings if they are upset about the consequence. (“I know it’s disappointing when we can’t do what we want to do. I’ve felt that too.”) 2) Use “consequence couplets” to make natural consequences matter-of-fact and compassionate. (“If you do this, then this will happen.”) 3) Be decisive with your children. Remember that clear and consistent is kind, while flexible and ambiguous is confusing. Friends, I’m so glad you have joined us for this two-part series, and I hope you know that I am cheering you on as you work to set more loving limits in your home.  >>Please join us this Thursday, July 9th at 10:00 a.m. MST for an online book launch party and Live Q&A with me and Dr. Katie Penry! I am so excited to celebrate her and to introduce her to all of you in a Live format. Sign up at ( ) and bring your questions about parenting toddlers!<< Quotes from the Episode "Clear and consistent is kind; ambiguous and flexible is not." "I don't view myself as the enforcer; I view myself as the person who helps them cope with the consequence." "Children need to feel the confident decisiveness of their parents." "When kids can expect the same consequences, that creates safety for them." "The compassion that you show for your child after you make a decision is also a compassion that you can extend to yourself." Show Notes Dr. Katie Penry's website: ( Dr. Katie Penry's Instagram: ( Dr. Katie Penry's book: The Parenting Toddler's Workbook: Manage your Child's Mood, Potential, and Well-Being ( Dr. Penry's Other Episodes on 3 in 30 Ep. 23: How to Stop Looking at Your Phone So Much--and Why It Matters (
From the beginning of my children’s lives, I’ve cared deeply about being a loving, empathetic, positive parent. I’ve read lots of books about parenting without shame and focusing on the good within my kids–and I feel like I do that well–but as my kids have gotten older, I am starting to recognize more and more that an area I struggle with is setting limits with my kids. I like to think that I’m a consistent parent, that I’m not too much of a pushover...but then sometimes I see the ways that my children behave out in the world, and I cringe, realizing that I have definitely been too permissive, and honestly, that’s not fair to my kids. They need a parent who has insisted upon respectful limits. So is it possible to be both a positive parent who guides my children without shame AND a firm parent who holds them to consistent and important boundaries? Of course it is. But it’s so much easier said than done, and I feel like this is an area that isn’t all that clearly flushed out within the literature on positive parenting. That’s why I am thrilled to have my dear friend back on the podcast today, clinical psychologist, ( In this episode, which is Part 1 of a two-part series, Katie and I discuss how to decide on the limits that you want for your children, based on your unique values, limitations, and hopes: Three Takeaways for Deciding on your Limits 1. Define your Values: What are the non-negotiables for our family to protect our kid's physical and emotional health and teach them to be in relationship with others? 2. Identify your Personal Limitations: How much noise, stress, interaction, time in the car, risk, public scrutiny, etc can I handle if I am going to stay in a mental space that will allow me to parent from the best that’s within me? 3. Write out your Hopes for your Child: What do I believe makes a successful and well-behaved child? Which parts of this do I want to hold firmly through creating a thoughtful boundary for my children, and which parts do I want to let go of after considering their temperaments? >>> For a worksheet to go through these three categories, click here ( . <<< Key Quotes from the Episode “Limits are an expression of love." "Just because a behavior is normal does not mean it's acceptable." "Boundaries that are anchored in values are so much easier to enforce.” “When your boundaries reflect your own personal limitations, they can actually protect you from undue stress and help you yell less. "Try to help your kid not trigger you. And you work on your triggers. Let's work on this as a family." “Imagine a narrative about the prototypical, well-behaved child. Go ahead and write it out, as detailed as you can. And then look at it and wonder, ‘Is this actually reasonable?’ Because you will subconsciously attach yourself to those hopes and those expectations.” Show Notes Dr. Katie Penry's website: ( Dr. Katie Penry's Instagram: ( Dr. Katie Penry's book: The Parenting Toddler's Workbook: Manage your Child's Mood, Potential, and Well-Being ( FREE worksheet to brainstorm your limits: ( Many thanks to this episode's sponsor, Goodnight Stories for Rebel Girls ( , an amazing podcast for children! Dr. Katie Penry's Previous Episodes on 3 in 30! Ep. 23: How to Stop Looking at Your Phone So Much--and Why It Matters ( Ep. 42: How to Really See your Children and Help Them See You ( Ep. 60: 3 Facts about Infant Sleep You MUST Know...
This past Saturday, June 20th, was World Refugee Day ( , a day when we commemorate the strength, courage and perseverance of millions of refugees around the world. To me, the stories of refugees truly embody the resilience of the human spirit. They remind me that I am capable of hard things and that love and family and community are worth fighting for. As such, I hope that this episode will inspire you during this uncertain time in our nation's history. Today's guest, Nelda Ault-Dyslin, has extensive experience working with refugee communities, first at the Cache Refugee and Immigrant Connection ( or CRIC, as they call it, in Logan Utah. I hope that as you listen, you might get one tiny idea of how you can be a better neighbor ( and community member–or even just one tiny bit of knowledge that will help you to better understand the issues that you hear about in the news about refugees and immigration. Any effort you make to expand your worldview and become more aware of your neighbors matters! I am grateful to be part of a community of podcast listeners who deeply believes that. How to Help RefugeesThree Takeaways for Welcoming and Supporting Refugee Communities 1. Be creative and humble when learning about refugee communities. 2. Before assuming you know what kind of help a community member needs, ask them. 3. Support efforts and organizations that recognize the assets that refugees bring with them, instead of focusing only on the needs. Show Notes - Cache Refugee and Immigrant Connection ( Other Episodes You Might Like Episode 110: How to Compassionately Respond to Homelessness ( Episode 132: Inspiring Bravery in Our Kids Through Role Models ( Episode 21: 3 Easy but Impactful Ways to Deepen Relationships with Others ( Sponsor This month of episodes is brought to us by Yusra Mardini ( . For 10% off, use the code 3IN30 at checkout. Do you have any other questions about how to help refugees? What did you find most helpful? Let me know in a comment below!
A few years ago, I had a phone conversation with a friend that changed my perspective forever. She told me why she never feels mom-guilt. And I loved her wisdom and think of it often. Listen to this week’s episode to hear her advice, as well as three strategies that I use frequently when I feel the mom-guilt sneaking in:   1) List all of the blessings that your kids have in their lives, from you and others. 2) Reject “filtered-thinking.” Zoom out so you can see the big-picture of yourself and your kids’ lives. 3) Examine whether your guilt is beckoning you higher, or dragging you down lower.What situations bring up mom-guilt for you? What are your favorite strategies for fighting against mom-guilt? Show Notes -If you are a graphic designer who wants to work with 3 in 30 on a journal, please email -Organization I worked with in South Africa: ( Related Episodes Episode 12: How to Stop Being Mean to Yourself: 3 Tools I Learned in Counseling ( Episode 16: How to Be the Mom You Are, Instead of the Mom You Think You Should Be ( Sponsor! Many thanks to this month's sponsor, Bravery Magazine ( , an incredible quarterly print publication for girls and boys ages 5-12. Each issue is centered around a strong female role model and includes original stories, fun DIY's, activity pages and more.  Use the code 3IN30 for 10% off.
 It has been a heavy few weeks here in the United States, as our country as been rocked by the murder of George Floyd, and people have taken to the streets and to social media to express their anger – and also to listen and to learn from one another. Maybe you’ve felt anxious, overwhelmed, heartbroken, confused, humbled, frustrated, or scared. Or maybe, like me, you’ve felt ALL of that. That’s why I felt it was so important to continue our conversation about racism on the podcast this week by inviting back two women who have profoundly impacted my life and taught me so much over the past year, Dr. Lucretia Berry of First Name Basis ( podcast.  I got to know these two brilliant mothers and anti-racism educators when they each came on the podcast last year (epsiode 113 ( ), and I’m so grateful that our friendships have deepened since that time and they have continued to teach me "off the air" about these super important topics that are dramatically impacting our country right now. Because we have a relationship of trust, I have been able to ask them my uncomfortable and uninformed questions, and having those heartfelt conversations has taught me so much and, really, changed my life. Today, I am asking them YOUR questions, which I’ve gathered from emails and messages I received after these two ladies came on the show. I grouped similar questions together, and then chose THREE that we will focus on today: 1) If children aren't "color blind," why don't my children ever describe people by the color of their skin? 2) I have a Black friend who says he/she has not experienced racism, so it’s hard for me to believe what I hear about racism in the news. Should I listen to my friend, or should I listen to the voices of the media? 3) Is ‘reverse racism’ real? If you are interested in seeing the video of the three of us talking together and hear our entire conversation, which was actually an hour long, I have posted that on YouTube ( . As you listen to this episode, I hope that you will imagine that I am inviting you into my home to sit with me and be taught by two of my dear friends. That is truly how I think of all 3 in 30 episodes, but especially this one, and I’m so grateful to be part of a community where we genuinely listen, learn, and seek together. Major Takeaways 1) Children won’t discuss what they don’t have the language or the permission to describe. Give them the language by teaching them about melanin and describing the different hues of humanity, and try not to react uncomfortably to conversations about race with your children. 2) Listen to people's experiences and anecdotes, but also dig into the research and the history of systemic racism in this country, and remember that this is not just about overt discriminatory acts; it’s also woven into our country’s major institutions and policies and the way they are enforced. 3) "Racial prejudice" is real and can be harbored by anyone of any race, which is not okay. But the concept of “reverse racism” is not legitimate because racism is "prejudice plus the systemic power to protect or reinforce that prejudice."  Next Actions! Join Dr. Lucretia Berry’s five-week online course “ What LIES Between Us ( ” at Listen to Jasmine Bradshaw’s podcast about teaching children about race, religion, and culture via Patreon community ( to dive in deeper. Further Resources Video of this conversation on YouTube ( Dr. Lucretia Berry's TED Talk: " Children Will Light Up the World, If We Don't Keep Them in the Dark ( "...
What does it mean to be brave? I asked my two kids their thoughts on how to be brave and I loved their answers. Sally, who is 5, said, “It means to fight in a war or something.” Noah, who is 8, said “To stand up for other people and to face your fears.” My heart pretty much exploded when I heard both of their answers because it’s pretty incredible to see their sense of the world and themselves expanding with age and experience. More than anything, I want to raise children who are brave–which, to me, means loving themselves ( and other people enough to do scary and uncomfortable things to bring their unique gifts to the world.  Today I am thrilled to introduce you to two mothers who are doing exactly that.  Just a few years ago, Ashley Aikele and Elyse Beard got the itch to start something after having experiences with their young children that made them realize that they wanted to provide better role model options for kids.  Elyse had studied elementary education in college, and she loves to write; and Ashley studied advertising, business, and photography; so these two close friends brought their talents together to create beautiful children’s publication called Bravery Magazine. Each issue focuses on a different inspirational woman and tells the story of her life, her struggles, and her contributions to the world, big and small.   I cannot say enough about the beauty of this publication and how it has impacted my children, so I reached out to Bravery Magazine ( to see if they would be interested in collaborating with 3 in 30 as our June sponsor because I wanted all of you to know about the work they are doing. I am thrilled and honored that they said yes, and I wanted you to get a personal introduction to their work today by bringing them on for an episode about how we as mothers can use role models to inspire our kids. Three Takeaways for Teaching Your Kids How to be Brave1) Tell your children the stories of inspirational people from history, current events, or even family history. 2) Use the life experiences of these heroes as a vehicle to introduce difficult topics. Ask yourself, “How can I use the challenges that this person faced to introduce this topic to my child in a gentle way?” 3) Introduce your children to new professions, places, and causes through the lens of a variety of role models. Show Notes ( Use the code 3IN30 for 10% off! Related Episodes Episode 003: Introducing our Kids to Unexpected Heroes ( Episode 125: 3 Tips for the Accidental Homeschooling Mom ( Episode 118: How to Raise Confident Children ( Do you have any extra tips on teaching kids how to be brave? What did you find most helpful from this episode? Let me know in a comment below!
**Join me in going through the "STEPS for Everyday Productivity" online course over the next few months! Go to ( for all the details! --- If you often go to bed feeling like you will never get caught up ( on all of your responsibilities, wondering how you could’ve worked so hard all day and still have a massive to-do list, this episode on how to dig yourself out of feeling like and overwhelmed mom is for you. April Perry, the co-founder of the websites  Learn Do Become ( , shares a step-by-step process for digging yourself out of overwhelm as a busy mom. April has spent thousands of hours developing an organization system that helps important people–from business leaders to mothers–control the chaos in their *minds* so they can focus on their true priorities. In this episode, April explains this process in detail: How to Dig Yourself Out of Feeling Like an Overwhelmed Mom1) Make an ACCURATE list of all of the projects you have brewing in your mind.  2) Narrow that list to no more than 7-8 projects to tackle this month. Put that shorter list in a visible place to reference often. 3) Using that list, identify tiny “next actions” that will move each project forward. Show Notes **Join me in going through April's productivity program over the next few months! Go to ( for all the details! **Many thanks to this month's sponsor, Revolution Math ( ! This innovative online math program helps 2nd-5th graders fall in love with math. Use the code 3IN30 to try one month for only $1. Are you an overwhelmed mom? What did you find most helpful about this episode? Let me know in a comment below!
Creating and changing our habits often feels anything BUT “easy as A-B-C.” If you’re like me, you have spent years thinking about habits you’d like to change or create, and yet everything you try doesn’t seem to stick. Nothing is quite as discouraging and undermining of your self confidence than struggling with the same poor habits and “lack of discipline” year after year after year. That is why I am incredibly grateful to have habit experts and humanity cheerleader Dr. BJ Fogg ( on the podcast today to teach us everything we need to know about good habits to have. BJ teaches at Stanford and the founder of the Stanford Behavior Design Lab. He’s studied human behavior for over 25 years and coached over 40,000 on his innovative framework called Tiny Habits. He is also the author of the NYT bestselling book, Tiny Habits: The Small Changes that Change Everything. BJ believes that through the Tiny Habits framework, it really can be as easy as ABC to create our own good habits, as well as to help our children design and master theirs. It’s such an honor to have this world-renowned expert on the podcast. Good Habits to Have3 Takeaways for Habit Formation 1) A is for Anchor: Identify a Reliable Anchor from the routines in your daily life. 2) B is for Behavior: Attach a Tiny Behavior that you’d like to make a habit. 3) C is for Celebrate: Reinforce that new habit with a Small Celebration, like saying, “I’m awesome!” Show Notes BJ’s Website: ( BJ’s Book: Tiny Habits: The Small Changes that Change Everything  ( BJ’s TED Talk: ( Related Episodes: Episode 001: Getting Unmotivated Kids to Help ( with Candi Kidd Episode 11: Setting Goals Without Sacrificing Sanity ( with Monica Packer Episode 85: Three Steps to Rewiring Difficult Behavior ( with Chrissy Austin Sponsor Many thanks to this month's sponsor, Revolution Mat ( h! This company that has a goal to help kids fall in love with math through their interactive, story-based curriculum. Each week, your child meets online with a live teacher and group of three other students for an hour, and they take on the roles of characters in a story and solve different quests using math. It’s very fun and creative, and it all aligns with Common Core math standards based on their grade level. As part of their partnership with 3 in 30, Revolution Math ( is offering listeners a month-long trial for only $1 is you use the code 3IN30. The trial includes four one-hour math classes and a complimentary learning kit which is mailed to your home. Go to ( and use the code 3IN30 at checkout. What do you think are some good habits to have? Let me know in a comment below!
Do you laugh aloud at the thought of having a few minutes to meditate during busy days with your children? What if I told you that you could be meditating THE ENTIRE DAY, even in the midst of chaotic, everyday moments with your little minions? Dr. Leah Weiss ( –an author, a mindfulness expert who studied with the Dali Lama, a professor at the Stanford Graduate School of Business, and a mother of three little children–teaches that this is possible. It just requires that we redefine (or rather, correctly define) the word “meditation.” The word “meditation” is a translation from the Tibetan word “gom.” Dr. Weiss points out that a more literal definition of this word is simply “familiarization” or “getting to know your mind and heart.”  When explained this way, busy moms can let go of visions of silent meditation rooms and burning incense (though those things are great too!) and instead moment ( with their children as an opportunity to “familiarize” themselves with their own hearts and minds. In fact, motherhood itself can become meditation. Join me for this fascinating conversation with a renowned mindfulness expert who teaches us the Tibetan process of “dampa sum,” meaning “good in the beginning, good in the middle, and good in the end.” Meditation for MomsThree Takeaways Follow the three-part Tibetan practice of Dampa Sum in order to achieve Gom, which means “getting to know our minds and hearts.” (Dom is often translated as “meditation.”) 1) Set an intention for a specific and short amount of time (not for the entire day!). 2) Do the activity with your intention in mind. Recalibrate when needed. 3) Reflect on how it went. Practice self-compassion if you made mistakes, and set a new intention (or restart the same one) for the next activity. Show Notes ( ( by Dr. Leah Weiss  “ Motherhood Matters: Are You Willing to Suffer? ( ” by Laura Fanucci Many thanks to this month's sponsor! Revolution Math ( , which is a weekly online class for 2nd-5th graders, aligned with Common Core standards and taught by a live teacher. Class sizes are small, with no more than four students per group, and they always have the same teacher guiding them through an immersive, story-based curriculum. If you would like to try out Revolution Math, you can use the code 3IN30 to get a month-long trial for only $1. This includes four one-hour math classes and a complimentary learning kit mailed to your home. For that price, what’s there to lose? Go to ( , and don’t forget to use the code 3IN30. Do you practice mindfulness? What did you find most helpful about this episode of meditation for moms? Let me know in a comment below!
Over three years ago, long before I’d started 3 in 30 and really headed down the path of diving into parent education resources, I attended a presentation put on by my son Noah’s kindergarten about the importance of children playing outside.  Like most moms, I already believed outdoor play was a good idea for my kids and tried to prioritize it when I could, but the presentation that night honestly blew me away. The presenter was a pediatric occupational therapist named Angela Hanscom ( who explained in detail the ways that different systems of the body develop when kids are allowed to play and adventure outside--to run and jump and carry stuff and climb. She went on to present alarming data on how this generation of children is struggling much more than children in the past with gross and fine motor skills and other essential development of the body’s systems simply because they aren’t playing outdoors as much. I left the presentation feeling determined to make outside play a more central part of our family’s culture, and though we haven’t always been great about this in the years since, her presentation has always stayed with me--and whenever I start to feel like it’s just too hard to convince my kids to go outside and play, I think about Angela’s work and recommit to making it happen. I am so thrilled to have Angela Hanscom on 3 in 30 today to give this community a taste of the presentation that has stayed with me for all these years. How to Get Your Children Playing Outside3 Takeaways 1) Make "loose parts" available to them. Remember, these are materials that can be used in multiple ways, such as sticks, sheets, boards, tires, and buckets. 2) Invite children over to play for the day, not just for a few hours. Give them time outside and loose parts and see what they come up with! 3) Purposefully stage the outdoor environment to invite play. You can place fort building supplies or mud kitchen supplies in an outdoor area and see if it inspires them to come up with something to do. Show Notes Balanced and Barefoot: How Unrestricted Outdoor Play Makes for Strong, Confident, and Capable Children ( by Angela Hanscom Webpage: Timbernook ( Facebook page: @Timbernook ( Episodes You Might Also Like: Episode 88: Are Kids Today Harder Than They Were in the Past? ( Episode 40: How to Adventure As a Family ( Episode 87: How to Find JOY with Your Children This Summer ( Announcement! Many thanks to this month's sponsor, Revolution Math ( , an innovative online program designed to help 2nd - 5th graders develop their math skills and an overall love of learning. You can try out Revolution Math with us this month for only $1 by using the code 3IN30. The month trial includes four one-hour classes and a complimentary learning kit mailed to your home! Do you have any extra tips on how to get your children playing outside? Were their any tips in this episode you found especially helpful? Let me know in a comment below!
We’re back this week with Part 2 in a series on sibling rivalry and kids fighting with parenting expert, Dr. Laura Markham! Much of the common advice that we hear about sibling conflict, even from parenting gurus and experts, is advice like, “Just ignore it when they fight! It’s natural!” While that approach is certainly easier for me as a mom than trying to figure out a proactive solution to helping my kids get along, it didn’t seem to work for my two strong willed kids, and it didn’t feel right in my heart either. Just ignore it when my kids are saying horrible things to each other or physically aggressive with each other? Today on the podcast, Dr. Laura teaches us why we should not just ignore sibling rivalry and how we can coach children to respectfully resolve conflicts instead. Kids FightingWe can use three steps to be an interpreter during our children's arguments, not a referee or a judge: Just state the problem without judgement, empathizing with both sides. If children are ready to talk, encourage them to express to each other what they need, without attacking. Guide the children through a brainstorming session to come up with possible solutions and see if they can find one that works for both people. Don't forget to listen to Part 1 of this series with Dr. Laura Markham: 3 Fail-Proof Ways to Reduce Sibling Rivalry in Your Home ( Show Notes Dr. Laura Markham's website: ( Dr. Laura Markham's book on sibling rivalry: Peaceful Parent, Happy Siblings: How to Stop the Fighting and Raise Friends for Life ( Episodes You Might Also Like: Episode 77: How to Coach Your Children through their Big Emotions ( Episode 84: The 3 Cs to Transformative Discipline ( Episode 37: Teaching Children to Work Without Being a Drill Sargeant ( Have you recently experienced your kids fighting? What did you do? Was there anything from this episode that you think could be helpful in the future? Let me know in a comment below!
As parents, we sometimes feel like we have no control over sibling rivalry and the relationships our children form with each other. And that can feel so discouraging. I know I myself have said things like, “My children are both so strong-willed. Their personalities just clash, and there’s nothing I can do to help them get along!” But there is actually a lot that we can do to make it much more likely that our kids will develop close friendships. And the best news of all is that it has nothing to do with what they are doing and everything to with what we are doing. Today on the podcast, I am thrilled to be interviewing one of THE most renowned experts on sibling rivalry whose book helped me to see the control that I have in the development of my kids’ relationships with each other.  Dr. Laura Markham ( earned her PhD in clinical psychology from Columbia University and is the author of several outstanding books on parenting, including the book that we are going to discuss in-depth today, Peaceful Parent, Happy Siblings: How to Stop the Fighting and Raise Friends for Life. Dr. Laura is also a mother of two thriving young adults, so she has lived what she studies and teaches, and I’m just so honored that she is joining us for not one but TWO episodes on sibling rivalry this month--because this topic is so big and important that it really deserves a series. Come back next week for part two! Sibling RivalryThree Takeaways: You can control your own behavior and the way you model self-regulation to your children by not flipping out and yelling. You can control how much you invest in connecting with each of your children individually, so they don’t feel as much need to rival for your attention and love. You can control how you intervene in your children’s conflicts, as a coach, not a judge or referee. Show Notes: ( by Dr. Laura Markham Dr. Laura Markham's website: ( Announcement! Many thanks to this month's sponsor, Betterhelp, the world's largest provider of online counseling. I’m truly honored to partner with a company whose mission is to make professional counseling accessible, affordable, and convenient to anyone who struggles with life’s challenges. Get 10% off your first month with the discount code 3IN30. To get started, simply go to ( , and fill out the onboarding questionnaire to help them assess your needs and match you with a counselor you’ll love! Related Episodes: 077: How to Coach Your Children Through Their Big Emotions ( 050: How to Actually Listen to Your Children ( 038: How to Get your Teens to Talk to You (And It Starts When They're Young!) ( 084: The 3 Cs of Transformative Discipline ( Have you experienced sibling rivalry with your kids? What did you do? Let me know in a comment below!
A lot of parents are now "accidentally" homeschooling their children. Due to the COVID-19 pandemic, schools are closed and it is now our responsibility to educate our children at home, even if that wasn’t the plan. That’s why I knew I needed a homeschooling how to and some true experts on the show to help us all out in our time of desperation. So today on the podcast, we have two moms who have definitely reached expert status for several reasons: First, they each have nine children--yes, 18 kids between them--and second, they have been homeschooling all of those children for over a decade! That is a truly heroic and superhuman feat in my mind.  And yet, they don’t see themselves as superhuman--they see themselves as normal moms doing their best to love and raise good children, just like all of us. They are on a mission to inspire moms to find joy in the chaos of motherhood through their weekly podcast called Outnumbered--which is such a hilarious and perfect title because they are obviously way outnumbered by their 9 children each. Yet they mother with grace, resilience, and joy every day. I can’t wait to share this conversation about homeschool tips with you. Listen now.  Homeschooling How ToIn this episode we discuss How and why to prioritize self-care during survival mode times How to build in one-on-one time with each child (because it is the most impactful type of "schooling") How to "start small" with learning-rich experiences and build on that.   Announcement! This months’ sponsor of 3 in 30 is Betterhelp ( , the world’s leading provider of online therapy. Their mission is to make professional counseling accessible, affordable, and convenient, so anyone who struggles with life’s challenges can get help. With online counseling, you can get help on your own time and at your own pace. You can schedule secure video or phone sessions, plus chat and text with your therapist.  To get started, simply go to ( and fill out the on boarding questionnaire to help them assess your needs and match you with a counselor you’ll love. 3 in 30 listeners get 10% off your first month with the discount code 3IN30.  Get a ticket to Rachel's online workshop, Declutter your Motherhood! Go to ( for all the details! Links Mentioned in Today’s Show: Outnumbered the Podcast ( Episode 35: Homeschooling 101 ( Episode 59: Family Friendly Activities for All Ages ( @thejohnson files on Instagram ( Other Episodes You Might Be Interested In: Episode 33: How to Get Your Kids to Do Quiet Time ( Episode 83: Are Kids Today Harder Than They Were in the Past? ( Episode 111: Three Simple Strategies to Avoid Mom Burn-Out ( Episode 64: Makeover Your Mornings ( Helpful Blog Posts Biggest gift of homeschooling...
On top of everything hard that’s going on in the world right now with COVID-19, the last thing that we need is to listen to our own negative self-talk and harsh judgement all day long as we try to navigate this new normal.  With that in mind, I pulled 'How to Stop Judging Yourself' from the archives because I think is THE most important episode I’ve ever aired on 3 in 30. Which is a bold claim, but I really do feel that way. I hope the tools I present in this episode will help you to recognize and shut down that mean inner voice when it speaks to you during these strange weeks of quarantine. We really are doing the best we can. How to Stop Judging Yourself3 Takeaways Reject “filtered thinking” and embrace “big-picture thinking.” Talk to yourself the way you would talk to your best friend, sister, or daughter. Use “coping statements” to help you re-center and stay calm in moments when you might spiral into despair. Here is a list of coping statements to get you started! ( Announcement! This month of episodes is brought to us by a company that I am so very excited about, Betterhelp ( , which is the world’s largest counseling service, done 100% online. It’s no secret that I am a huge fan of therapy, and Betterhelp ( makes therapy more accessible to everyone by offering their services online and at an affordable price. Especially during this time of social distancing when most of us can’t go into a counseling office and see a traditional therapist, yet we are feeling overwhelmed and anxious and in need of emotional support, this online counseling is such an incredible solution. To get started, go to Betterhelp ( works with over 3000 licensed professional counselors across the country with a wide variety of expertise, so there is going to be someone who is a great match for you. You can start communicating with your counselor within 24 hours of submitting your questionnaire, and schedule a secure weekly video or phone session, plus you have the option to text or chat with your therapist.  Betterhelp ( is truly an affordable option for therapy, and they’ve been so generous to offer 3 in 30 listeners 10% off your first month with the discount code 3IN30. So if you’ve sometimes wondered if maybe you would benefit from therapy, why not give it a try with this super convenient, affordable, and confidential option? Go to ( for 10% off. Related Episodes: Episode 74: A True Story of Answered Prayers: 3 Essays I Wrote in Therapy ( Episode 97: How to Let Go of Hard Stuff from your Past ( Episode 107: Surviving Depression in Motherhood with Sarah McKenna ( Episode 108: How to Get Help with Mental Illness with
Today is National 3 in 30 Day! (Yes that's made up...but seriously, it's 3/30! We need to do something to celebrate!) In this week’s special episode, my 3 team members each share three takeaways for how they are surviving the weirdness of coronavirus and a family quarantine--how they are managing their kids and their mental health and trying to make it through a really difficult situation. I will also discuss what it has been like for my family after learning that Ryan and I both contracted Covid-19. If you want to feel less alone right now, listen to this episode. I know you will hear from a mom that you can relate to. Three Takeaways from ( on how to enjoy quarantine Try something new   Keep celebrating    Record it    Three Takeaways from ( on coping skills when you're feeling low Add the phrase "...and that’s okay" at the end of a difficult thought. Use "stepladder" thinking to get yourself to a different thought. Loosen your grip on what you MUST do to be happy. Three Takeaways from ( on things your kids can do by themselves.. Creative playtime   1-hour quiet time   Helping with daily cleaning  (zones) Announcement This episode is brought to us by one of my kids' favorite podcasts, Goodnight Stories for Rebel Girls ( . Each episode of this podcast features the story of a different female pioneer, creator, champion, leader, and warrior from history, To inspire the little Rebel Girl (or Boy!) in your life, go and find Goodnight Stories for Rebel Girls ( on your favorite podcast player. Don't forget to write a review for the podcast this week! Here is how: Other Episodes You Might Be Interested In: Episode 33: How To Get Your Kids To Do Quiet Time ( Episode 087: My 3 In 30: How To Find Joy With Your Children This Summer // Molly Callister, Elisa Hunter, Julie Tobi ( Episode 103: “My 3 In 30”: The Happy Birthday Edition ( Show Notes Cake by Courtney ( Brit + Co online classes ( CODE: SELFCARE Jen Kane, life coach ( Art Hub for Kids ( Hannah's podcast, Why Didn't Anyone Tell Me? (
It has been a crazy couple of weeks filled with anxiety and uncertainty all over the world with the spreading of COVID-19. In some ways, the entire world is grieving and processing this together--which is both super comforting and very strange. If you’re anything like me, you have felt a wide range of emotions in the past week, going from feeling like “it’s all going to be okay” one moment to full blown panic a few hours later. Maybe that’s why a post on Instagram from one of my friends and mentors, 5 Things to Do When You Feel Like You’re Going to Spontaneously Combust ( .” And I thought, “Yes, actually, that is how I’m feeling right now. I feel like I might combust." I knew that I needed to get Alison on the podcast ASAP because we all need some serious coping tools right now. Listen in!   Five Takeaways from Alison Faulkner Stop trying not to panic and just panic. Get out of your head by moving your body. Laugh (because contradictory feelings CAN co-exist!) Mediate, only after you’ve done one of these other things. Reach out and help.   Announcement! Today’s episode of 3 in 30 is brought to us by ( , an amazing podcast for kids that you need to know about, particularly in light of the fact that you might be spending a lot of time at home with your kids right now. My kids love listening to podcasts during their quiet time, and this is one of their absolute favorites. It explores the lives of extraordinary real-life women in the form of fairy tales. Each episode features the story of a different female pioneer, creator, champion, leader, or warrior from history, and each episode is also narrated by an inspiring rebel woman who is changing the world today. To inspire the little rebel girl (or boy!) in your life, go and find ( on your favorite podcast player!   Links Mentioned in Today’s Show: Awesome with Alison Podcast ( Ep. 46: Finding a New Normal ( Ep. 24: I'm Freaking Grateful: Gratitude Practice ( Ep. 103: A Gratitude Practice for Loving Your Body ( The Alison Show on Instagram ( Rebel Girls Podcast (   Other Episodes You Might Be Interested In: 116 Transcript: Accepting & Reframing Anxiety // Becky Higgins & Becky Proudfit ( 118: How To Raise Confident Children // Marilyn Faulkner (
One of the most frequently asked questions I receive is, “HOW do I find my purpose?” Women tell me that they feel this tug inside to do something deeply meaningful-- whether that’s to dive into a passion project or hobby, to start a business, or to get a job in a field that they would love...and yet they can’t quite put their finger on WHAT it is that they want to do.  Finding your life’s it just something that sort of happens to you? Or can you actually take steps to figure it out? Brooke Snow is the perfect guest to address this topic! In this episode, you will hear Brooke Snow’s insights on how we can clarify our life’s purpose and pursue it with joy. Brook Snow’s Three Takeaways 1. Pay attention to Curiosity and Desire. 2. Create a timeline of your life-turns, and look for the common themes.  3. Your Life Purpose will always be about helping people.  Click here ( to view the full transcript. Announcement! Podcast U is opening for enrollment again April 1st, and to celebrate, I am teaching 4 free online classes about podcasting this month. Podcast U is an online school for busy moms who want to learn how to start or grow impactful podcasts. My dear friend and fellow podcaster Monica Packer and I founded Podcast U because we know how hard it is to juggle your kids’ needs and your own personal development and dreams. We have created these courses to be step-by-step and reasonable for busy moms who want to share their voice but can’t spend hours and hours on it every week. Whether you haven’t started your podcast yet or you have but you’d like it to grow--we have a course for you! Join us for a free hour-long introductory class this month to see what Podcast U is all about. You can find the dates for those and more information at ( . I can’t wait to see you in one of the classes! Links Mentioned in Today’s Show: Free class ( about starting and growing a podcast Episode 31 ( The Brooke Snow Podcast about Finding Your Life’s Purpose Donald Miller Storybrand ( Other Episodes You Might Be Interested In: ( ( (  
Feeding difficulties with kids can be stressful. From picky eaters to diagnosed biological eating challenges, feeding your family can be harder than anticipated.  On this episode, guest Holly Young teaches us what she has learned from the past 10 years of working diligently to learn how to help her children eat, and overcome many obstacles. Holly’s children have overcome feeding difficulties because she sought tools and education from specialists, and she was consistent in doing what she needed to do at home, day after day, to help them learn to eat.  What a gift to them, and it motivates me to slow down the pace of my life so I can be a bit more deliberate about helping my kids learn to be good eaters.    Three Takeaways (for feeding difficulties) 1) Remember that there are 32 steps to eating. If you have a child who is very resistant to eating, start with a low step and slowly move up. 2) Children are fighting for autonomy, so let your children help make decisions about food.  3) Teach your child basic nutrition. Click here ( to view the full transcript.   Announcement! I’m so excited to tell you that I will be teaching 4 free online classes this month about podcasting with my dear friend Monica Packer, host of the podcast About Progress. Last year, Monica and I founded Podcast U, an online school for busy moms who want to start and grow impactful podcasts, and we have loved it. Did you know that when I started 3 in 30, I had no social media presence, no blog or business experience--I was just a stay-at-home mom who loved to teach and felt drawn to podcasting. Only 2.5 years later, this show has over 1.5 million downloads and is listened to by tens of thousands of mothers every week. I still can’t believe it, and I am so grateful for the journey that I have been on thanks to 3 in 30. If you are a mother who is feeling the tug to start a podcast--or if you already have a show and you’re wanting it to reach more people--please join us for one of our free classes this month. Your voice and message are so important, and I’d love to be your cheerleader and help you learn the skills you need to amplify your voice and get it into homes all over the world. If I can be a podcaster, you can be a podcaster, and I’d love to teach you how. To find out the dates for those free online classes and to reserve your seat, please go to ( . I can’t wait to see you in one of the classes!   Links Mentioned in Today’s Show: Podcast U free classes ( Holly Young on instagram ( Email ( Holly Young: SOS Approach to Feeding ( Food group plates (   Other Episodes You Might Be Interested In: Episode ( Episode ( Episode ( Episode (
"I feel like the joy in motherhood, or really any relationship, kind of ebbs and flows. Some weeks it all feels so happy and easy. Then other weeks it feels like motherhood is hard. In the hard weeks, my kids start to feel like so much work. I almost view them as these big obstacles in my way that I have to use all my strength to pick up and move all day long. It becomes so exhausting. I was in a week like that one time and realized that I truly wasn't looking at my children as relationships, as my little buddies, as humans. I was looking at them as a job, as just a lot of hard work. I was thinking motherhood is hard work. I needed to fall back in love with them.  So now in the hard weeks sometimes I do let myself sit in the "this is hard" for a while; but then when I am done with my pity party, I decide to fall back in love with my kids, and I have come up with some really simple strategies that help me do that.” Three Takeaways (for when motherhood is hard)  "Practice" the love you want to feel for each child through a two-minute meditation. Savor it. Take a sensory snapshot in the midst of a perfect moment. Tell your kids you love them in the moments you feel it the least.   Key Points & Quotes from this episode: Especially when motherhood is hard and I may feel a little or a lot “depressed” with it all, I sit in silence with affirmations and visualization every day.   Motherhood can feel very one-sided on the long days….you doing all the giving, with not much receiving.   Even when motherhood is hard, I have found that when I notice the ways my children are loving me back, I feel that energy and happiness a lot more effortlessly.   When I am really feeling out of sorts emotionally it can feel really hard to even find the energy to “savor” something so instead when motherhood is hard, I simply “Notice it”  Full Transcript For a full transcript of the episode, click here ( . Announcement! This is the last week to get the Early Bird pricing on my spring Declutter your Motherhood workshops. This is a full-day workshop to help you love the job of motherhood as much as you love your children. We all LOVE our children fiercely, right?? So why it is so hard to love the daily grind of motherhood--the day-in-and-day-out realities of it?  I've taken the very best of what I've learned from professional counselors and the 100+ guests I've interviewed on my podcast, and put it all into the Declutter Your Motherhood workshop. We will spend a full day together walking through a three-step process to declutter your motherhood, just like you would declutter a closet, and you will walk away with a written, personalized action plan for how you will find more joy in your unique motherhood. You can go to ( to grab tickets! Links Mentioned in Today’s Show ( Tessa’s Instagram @tessaleeart ( ( ( Other Episodes You Might Be Interested In Rekindling your Love of Motherhood ( with Kelly Jensen 3 Simple Strategies to Avoid Mom Burn Out (
Marilyn Faulkner raised five rockstar children, helped her husband start multiple companies, got a Masters degree when she was 45, and published three books (with her next book due for publication in July). She spreads wisdom and laughter everywhere she goes, and she shares some of both on this week’s episode. (I dare you to listen to the entire 30 minutes without laughing aloud.) She is the mother of Alison Faulkner from ( . She also has three incredibly smart and successful sons who may or may not be able to keep up with their sisters in a dance contest. I’m waiting to see that. I met Marilyn at a branding workshop ( several years ago and immediately loved her. So when a podcast listener asked me to get a grandma on the podcast who could give us some “looking back” advice, I knew just who to ask. I wanted someone who would give us more than the trite “enjoy every minute” advice that we so often hear, and I knew Marilyn would deliver some true wisdom. Three Takeaways This is one of my favorite episodes to date, so listen in as she teaches us how to raise confident children by… 1) Limiting our criticisms. “You can’t build a wall by taking off bricks.” 2) Talking to our kids like they are already the intelligent adults we hope they will become. 3) Living full lives of our own, and modeling happiness for our children. For the full transcript of this episode, click here ( .   Marilyn Faulkner’s books: Back to the Best Books: How the Classics Can Change Your Life (,204,203,200_QL40_&dpSrc=srch) The User-Friendly Book of Mormon: Timeless Truths for Today’s Challenges ( The User-Friendly Old Testament: A Modern Approach to Ancient Scripture ( The User-Friendly New Testament: Finding Ourselves in the Stories of Jesus ( Mentioned in the Episode ( by Stephen Covey (,204,203,200_QL40_&dpSrc=srch) by Judith Martin Alison’s Build an Awesome Brand Workshop: ( Marilyn's second episode on 3 in 30: ( Come to a Declutter your Motherhood Workshop! Saturday, March 21 in Alexandria, VA Saturday, April 25 in Pleasant Grove, UT ( Thank you to our sponsor, InfantSEE! Giveaway details here: ( If you loved this podcast, you'll love listening to these as well: Episode 26: How to Praise Your Children When it Feels Like There is...
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Emily Durrant

I LOVE this podcast. Helpful, easy to apply, fun. Theres such a variety of topics, even the ones that I don't think I'll he interested in are helpful. And I like the 30 minutes because that's just enough time for a basic household chore or walk, and I can usually (not always) get through it before there's a big enough problem with my kids I have to stop it.

Apr 22nd

Karen Showell

This podcast is one of my absolute favorites! Its done so much to help me be a more intentional mom and find peace in my life. Rachel Nielson is one of the sweetest people and so insightful.

Apr 6th


worth sharing for sure! Harvard implicit bias test - look it up

Mar 1st

Joany Tolosa

Amazing Podcast! We need to be talking more about this topic.

Jan 22nd

Lesli John

I love this podcast so much! So many helpful takeways given in a really useable and easy to remember format. Thank you!!

Jan 7th

Danielle Evans

I love this podcast. 30 minutes seems to be the perfect length for folding laundry or making some other tasks fly by. Rachel always has amazing guests and I love the knowledge shared. This podcast is in my top 3 favorites and I am so grateful for it.

Dec 24th

Brook Bashaw

Thank you for this series on mental health. You are the reason I am currently seeking the help I've truly needed. You are a blessing. BOTH of you.

Dec 7th

Scott Sonderegger

These sound like ideas that might work well for ONE specific couple. I don't think these ideas generalize to all personality types.

Sep 18th
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Jen Anderson

Love these ideas. The only thing i would say is, instead of the mom doing all the night before prep, have the KIDS do the night time prep. They can fill their own water bottles and pack their own lunches (mostly), etc.! Let kids help take responsibility for making the morning better. It's not just mom's job.

Sep 4th
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loved this episode. it's so hard for me to make a list of my strengths. I need to work on that.

Jun 5th

Selina N

Binge listening to these. Such fantastic tips and ideas. so helpful. Thank you Rachel.

Jan 24th

J.D. Barlow

All my friends listen to you almost every week! great information, great guests and you are a great host! Love your podcast. Thanks!

Dec 13th

Randi Oswald

I loved this episode! Thank you!

Nov 29th

Jessica Miller

so very insightful... never 💭 of some of these things. I do put my phone down more often but so many tips to see and connect with my kids and to know them better.

Jul 30th

Mairead McCarthy

I recently went through a change in my life that made me focus on who I wanted to be as a person. This podcast has helped me so much! Often the topics are something I wouldn't think are relevant to me or wouldn't be something I'd usually choose to listen to, but they are the ones I find myself enjoying the most. Rachel seems so genuine and tries to make each episode relatable and way to implement. I've been playing catch up with the episodes as I've only recently stumbled across it and I'm dreading having to wait a week for every episode!! Great concept, great execution.

Jul 24th

Bri Keasbey

This podcast is changing my life. I specifically love that the episodes are shorter than the other 60+ minute channels I often listen to. The topics Rachel chooses to discuss are perfect for mothers from many different walks of life, and the advice and wisdom offered in most episodes is truly helpful in upping my game as a mom and a spouse.

Jun 30th
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