3 in 30 Takeaways for Moms

Does holiday stress ever take the joy out of the holiday season for you?  It's November 1st, friends, which, for many of you, might mean that you've officially switched from harvest mode to full-on holiday mode.  And with that switch, you might also feel the beginnings of holiday stress. 😵‍💫 With that in mind, I invited a special guest to do a bonus episode with me. I interviewed my cousin, Dr. Amber Price. Amber is hear to teach us research-based ways to avoid the holiday stress. You will love what she has to say! For full show notes, including takeaways, click here. *** Announcement: Get $5 off Flecks of Gold Journal for the month of November! Join Dr. Amber’s Holiday Challenge!  Related Episodes:  How to Help your Kids Stay Sane this Holiday Season // Carrie Scott, LMFT 210: Simple Holiday Traditions to Connect Generations // Jack & Elaine Westover 325: How to have Less-Stressful, More Meaningful Holidays // Desirae Endres from Minimal-ish Episode sponsors: Earth Breeze: Go to earthbreeze.com/3in30 for 40% off with your subscription now. Quince: Go to Quince.com/3in30 for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. ***

Coming-of-age celebrations are a powerful tool to use when raising teenagers.  If you’re not sure what a coming-of-age celebration is, you are in for a treat! A coming-of-age celebration is a special occasion where you invite all of the important people in your teen's life to come together, celebrate your teen, and offer words of wisdom.  My son Noah turned 13 this past summer, and we hosted one of these celebrations. It was an incredible experience for him. In today's episode, Jennifer Brimhall gives us 3 reasons why we should hold these coming-of-celebrations for our teens. For full show notes, including takeaways, click here. *** Announcement:  Parenting Teens Playlist Related Episodes:  211: Raising Independent Teens and Tweens // Amy and Margaret from What Fresh Hell Podcast 303: How to Talk to Teenagers // Brooke Romney 358: Creating Golden Moments with Teenagers // Saren Eyre Loosli Sponsors: Earth Breeze: Go to earthbreeze.com/3in30 for 40% off your subscription now. Quince: Go to Quince.com/3in30 for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Vionic Shoes: Go to vionicshoes.com and use code 3IN30 for 15% off your order. BetterHelp: 3 in 30 Takeaways for Moms is sponsored by BetterHelp. Go to betterhelp.com/3in30 to get 10% off your first month of online therapy. ***

Do you have a teenager who is struggling, floundering, or fighting with you constantly? My older sister Sarah had a few rough years in high school. My parents worried about her a lot. But then, Sarah found a new story - a story where she knew she was playing an important and meaningful role. She didn’t want to return to her cliché story of struggling teenager rebellion. She wanted to be and do something better. Listen to hear how you can help your teen find and live a better story. For full show notes, including takeaways, click here. *** Announcements: Parenting Teens Playlist: Sign up for a private podcast feed that includes every episode from 3 in 30 on parenting teens. Episode's Worksheet: A helpful worksheet to guide you as you help your teen develop a better story. More Episodes Like This One On Teens: 303: How to Talk to Teenagers // Brooke Romney 358: Creating Golden Moments with Teenagers // Saren Eyre Loosli 362: What to do When You Always Feel Like the “Bad Guy” // Joey Mascio Sponsors: Earth Breeze: Go to earthbreeze.com/3in30 for 40% off with your subscription now. Quince: Go to Quince.com/3in30 for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns.

I recently taught a free masterclass all about mom rage. Toward the beginning of the class, I asked the women in attendance to share something that makes them feel angry on a regular basis. One mom shared: “Feeling rejected by my teen who wants nothing to do with me. This is not the mother-daughter relationship I envisioned.” 💔 This comment stopped my breath for a second. How painful for this mom! No wonder she feels angry about it a lot. I'm guessing she feels a lot of other things, too: sadness, despair, loneliness … I’m guessing she feels tired! Tired of the disconnection with her daughter, tired of the feelings of failure, tired of the nagging and conflict in her home.  And I'm also guessing she's not alone in all these feelings. Parenting a teenager can feel exhausting, grueling, and just plain hard!  If you can relate, today’s conversation with Andee Martineau is for you. For full show notes, including takeaways, click here. *** Announcement:  Parenting Teens Playlist Access Andee's book for FREE! Click here.  Related Episodes:  303: How to Talk to Teenagers // Brooke Romney 358: Creating Golden Moments with Teenagers // Saren Eyre Loosli 362: What to do When You Always Feel Like the “Bad Guy” // Joey Mascio Episode sponsors: Earth Breeze: Go to earthbreeze.com/3in30 for 40% off your subscription now. Quince: Go to Quince.com/3in30 for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. KiwiCo: Get up to 50% off your first crate at kiwico.com, promo code 3IN30. Vionic Shoes: Go to vionicshoes.com and use code 3IN30 for 15% off your order. BetterHelp: 3 in 30 Takeaways for Moms is sponsored by BetterHelp. Go to betterhelp.com/3in30 to get 10% off your first month of online therapy. ***

Protecting my kids from the dangers in the online world is a high priority for me. My son is 13, and I’m still holding off giving him a phone, even though he insists he’s the only one in eighth grade who doesn’t have one.  (And I want to say here that it's okay if you have a different view on what's best for your child, so no judgment on when you decide to make a phone available to them!!)  When he does get a phone in the next year or two, he will definitely have limits and filters to help him navigate his phone safely. But unfortunately, we all know that even the most adept filters and limits aren’t foolproof. In fact, the best internet filter of all will come from Noah! The only way I can fully protect him from online danger is to help him develop his own internal filter.   My guest, Emily Jones, is a writer, speaker, author, and mother of 5. She and her husband Dave co-founded Family Tech University, which is a movement dedicated to helping parents prepare their children for today's tech in new and powerful ways. Emily shares with us today how to help our kids use technology wisely as they develop their own internal filters. For full show notes, including takeaways, click here. *** Related Episodes like this one on Internet Filters for Kids: 207: How do I help my child build a healthy relationship with technology? // Andrea Davis 283: When Should I Give My Child a Cell Phone // Andrea Davis 309: Kids & Screentime: What does the research say? // Dr. Katie Davis Announcements: Navigating Screens & Tech Playlist Internal Filter Workshop from Family Tech University Sponsors: Earth Breeze: Go to earthbreeze.com/3in30 for 40% off your subscription now. Quince: Go to Quince.com/3in30 for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. LMNT: Get your free LMNT Sample Pack with any purchase at DrinkLMNT.com/3in30 BetterHelp: 3 in 30 Takeaways for Moms is sponsored by BetterHelp. Go to betterhelp.com/3in30 to get 10% off your first month of online therapy.

Are you feeling out of your depth as you navigate the teen years? My son, Noah, just turned 13, and I have noticed a definite shift in some of the dynamics of our relationship. That's why I'm so grateful for experts who can help me!   Amie Anger is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and mom of 6 kids ranging from 11-18 years old. She has a Bachelor's in Psychology and a Master's in Social Work and two years of post-graduate fellowship training at the Yale Child Study Center through the Yale School of Medicine. Amie has been a private practice clinician specializing in child and family counseling for the past 17 years. Listen in to hear Amie's 3 takeaways for how to enjoy these tricky teen years! For full show notes, including takeaways, click here. *** Related Episodes: 303: How to Talk to Teenagers // Brooke Romney 358: Creating Golden Moments with Teenagers // Saren Eyre Loosli 367: 3 Ways to Create Lasting Bonds with Your Kids // Mike Westover (Rachel's Dad!) Annoucements: Parenting Advice for Teenagers Playlist Sponsors: Earth Breeze: Go to earthbreeze.com/3in30 for 40% off with your subscription now. Quince: Go to Quince.com/3in30 for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Vionic Shoes: Go to vionicshoes.com and use code 3IN30 for 15% off your order. BetterHelp: 3 in 30 Takeaways for Moms is sponsored by BetterHelp. Go to betterhelp.com/3in30 to get 10% off your first month of online therapy. ***

Are you wondering how to have political conversations with your friends and loved ones without things turning, well... hostile? Election time is here, and the political atmosphere is so divisive that it can feel impossible to have political conversations without things getting heated.  So does this mean we just avoid talking about politics altogether? 🙊 Sarah Stewart Holland & Beth Silvers of Pantsuit Politics say, “No!”  Their book I Think You’re Wrong (But I’m Listening) has helped me so much in my personal life as I’ve learned to navigate tricky political conversations, and I’m so excited to share their three takeaways for how to have grace-filled political conversations. I hope you find it helpful as you navigate this election season! For full show notes, including takeaways, click here. *** Related Episodes:  051: How (and Why) to Get Involved in the Political Process as a Mom // Lacey Parr 031: Three Easy Ways to Teach Your Children about Patriotic Holidays // The American Moms 256: Why Unsexy Elections Matter and How to Get Involved as Busy Mom // Laney Hawe Episode sponsors: Earth Breeze: Go to earthbreeze.com/3in30 for 40% off your subscription now. Vionic Shoes: Go to vionicshoes.com and use code 3IN30 for 15% off your order. KiwiCo: Get up to 50% off your first crate at kiwico.com, promo code 3IN30. ***

Parenting a child with big emotions, big reactions, and a neurodiverse brain can be a real challenge. 🫠 I know this firsthand because my son Noah has always been spicy and spirited, and he was diagnosed with ADHD at the end of 5th grade. His formal diagnosis has been a huge blessing for our family, as it has given us a way to research ways to support him and to help him understand his own unique brain and body. One of our biggest sources of education has been The Childhood Collective, a website hosted by three moms who are experts in child development. Lori and Mallory are both child psychologists, and Katie is a speech-language pathologist. They offer incredibly helpful online courses, social media content, and a podcast called Shining with ADHD. I was honored to be a guest on their podcast earlier this year, talking about what I have learned in my journey as the parent of a child with ADHD, and they graciously allowed me to re-air the audio from that interview here on 3 in 30. For full show notes, including takeaways, click here. *** Related Episodes:  197: How to Advocate for Your Child in School // Emily Orchard 198: Empowering Kids with ADHD // Dr. Mary Wilde 323: Parenting with ADHD // Alex Gilbert Announcements: Click here for my Parenting ADHD episode playlist! Episode sponsors: BetterHelp: 3 in 30 Takeaways for Moms is sponsored by BetterHelp. Go to betterhelp.com/3in30 to get 10% off your first month of online therapy. ***

Living with grief can feel heavy, dark, and confusing. It's a time when it's easy to lose ourselves. Grief looks different for everyone, and if you are in the middle of grieving, my heart aches for you.  I have experienced loss, and I know the deep ache of grief. It's a tender topic that's close to my heart. That's why I'm honored to share Shelby Quinlan's story with you.  Shelby is a former teacher and SAM alumni. She's mom to three girls, and she and her family have been navigating their grief this past year through the loss of a beloved grandparent and also Shelby's sister. I am so impressed with Shelby's courage to share how she's navigating living with grief while being still in the middle of it. I hope you find her story as inspiring and healing as I have.  For full show notes, including takeaways, click here. *** Announcements: Self-Assured Motherhood Program: The doors to SAM are open until this Thursday, Sept 19! It only opens once per year, so join while you can! Related Episodes Like This One: 013: How to Support Those Who Are Grieving // Rachel Gainer 104: How to Move Through Grief Towards Healing // Dr. Anna Packard 155: Talking about Suicide: Insights from a Daughter Left Behind // Sara Grotenhuis Sponsor: BetterHelp: 3 in 30 Takeaways for Moms is sponsored by BetterHelp. Go to betterhelp.com/3in30 to get 10% off your first month of online therapy. ***

I always get asked who my Self-Assured Motherhood program is designed for - young moms? moms with young kids? stay-at-home moms? My answer is always emphatically: it’s designed for all moms!  SAM is for all mothers - all ages, all stages, all walks of life. In fact, I often have the women in my program tell me it should be called Self-Assured Womanhood or Self-Assured Personhood because the principles apply so universally. (However, the acronym SAW and SAP don’t have quite the same ring as SAM. Don’t you agree? 😆)  If you’ve been asking yourself if SAM is a good fit for you, you will love my interview with SAM alumni Wanda Opitz.  For full show notes, including takeaways, click here. *** Announcements: 3in30podcast.com/freeclass: Sign up for my FREE masterclass all about rerouting your mom rage. Come learn how to identify your triggers and become the calm, emotionally resilient mom you want to be.  Self-Assured Motherhood Program: The doors to SAM are open now through Sept 19! It only opens once per year, so join while you can!   Sponsor: BetterHelp: 3 in 30 Takeaways for Moms is sponsored by BetterHelp. Go to betterhelp.com/3in30 to get 10% off your first month of online therapy. ***

What does a spaghetti dinner have to do with my Self-Assured Motherhood program?  Well, in this episode, I tell you! Come listen in! My Self-Assured Motherhood Program is open for enrollment TODAY, and I want you to join! SAM is not like any other parenting education you’ve participated in in the past – where you heard the lessons and felt like you understood them, but then you didn’t actually apply them long-term. This program was developed with your long-term success in mind.    And that’s because the SAM program was designed by a teacher - a professionally trained, extremely experienced, and, at the risk of sounding arrogant, very gifted teacher. 🥰 If you've been on the fence about joining SAM, I hope you'll listen in as I explain why this program REALLY works. For full show notes, including takeaways, click here. *** Announcements: 3in30podcast.com/freeclass:  Sign up for my FREE masterclass all about rerouting your mom rage. Come learn how to identify your triggers and become the calm, emotionally resilient mom you want to be.  Self-Assured Motherhood Program: The doors to SAM are open now through Sept 19! It only opens once per year, so join while you can! Related Episodes like this one on the Self-Assured Motherhood Program: 315: A Word from our SAM Sisters 316: Considering the SAM Program? You MUST listen to this. [Enrollment ends Thursday!] 375: 3 Ways Voicing Your Values will Help Lighten your Mental Load // Rachel Nielson on the Happy Mom Summit Sponsor: Vionic Shoes: Go to vionicshoes.com and use code 3IN30 for 15% off your order.

This bonus excerpt is one I pulled from Eli's full episode that dropped earlier this week. (If you haven't had a chance to listen, I highly recommend it. It's one of the most value-packed conversations I've had on 3 in 30!) Because it was so value-packed, we had to trim it to 30 minutes, and I didn't want you to miss out on this fascinating part of the conversation, so I decided to make it a bonus episode. These thoughts from Eli on co-regulation for parents blew my mind!   I mean, I had heard of co-regulation before, but the scientific evidence behind it is fascinating! I had no idea there were nerve fibers that are activated when I caress my child, and these nerve fibers calm my child's heart down! It takes the old adage "If Mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy" to a whole new level. 🤯  Eli's explanation of the science behind co-regulation helps me understand why it is so vital that moms proactively do soul-care. It literally helps us build a buffer so that we don't dysregulate when our kids are dysregulated. It's so powerful!  (By the way, I just did a mini episode on soul-care! Click below to check it out!) Taking care of ourselves helps us avoid losing our tempers and doing and saying things we regret.  If you want to explore managing your anger so it doesn't negatively impact your children's sense of connection to you, be sure to attend my live online masterclasses over these next two weeks on how to "reroute your mom rage." Click below to sign up! *** Announcements: Sign up for my FREE masterclass to learn all about rerouting your mom rage! Purchase Eli's Book here: Raising Securely Attached Kids by Eli Harwood Related Episodes:  380: Principle #5 // Sanctify Your Soul-Care [Back-to-School Series] 279: Navigating Parenting Triggers // Nat Vikitsreth 340: How to Be a Safe Place for your Sweetheart// Eli Harwood Episode sponsors: MollysSuds: Pick up Molly’s Suds on your next Target run or order through my exclusive URL to get 20% off all Molly Suds products. ***

We all know how important it is to raise securely attached kids, but how to do it can be the tricky part!  It's true what they say about parenting: The days are long but the years are short. I feel like the years are flying by with my two kids, who are both now in double digits, and I often find myself wondering how I can parent them in a way that will keep our bonds strong through their teen years and into adulthood - and in a way that they will thrive in their adult relationships after they leave my care. This is why I've been drawn to the work of therapist and author Eli Harwood, who has dedicated her career to studying research on attachment theory and making it applicable to everyday humans trying to build secure relationships, whether that's the clients in her private practice, the hundreds of thousands who follow her on social media, or the people across the world who read her books.   Eli's newest book, Raising Securely Attached Kids, will be released on September 3, 2024, and it was a thrill to have her back on the podcast to discuss this important topic.  For full show notes, including takeaways, click here. *** Announcements: Sign up for my FREE masterclass to learn all about rerouting your mom rage! Purchase Eli's Book here: Raising Securely Attached Kids by Eli Harwood Related Episodes:  367: 3 Ways to Create Lasting Bonds with Your Kids // Mike Westover (Rachel’s Dad!) 279: Navigating Parenting Triggers // Nat Vikitsreth 340: How to Be a Safe Place for your Sweetheart// Eli Harwood Episode sponsors: KiwiCo: Use code 3in30 for 50% off your first month on any crate line! ***

Here we are! It's the final day of our two-week-long series on how to become more peaceful, confident, and happy in motherhood.  I have loved this series, and it's also been a ton of work--more work than I had anticipated! (Though I don't know why I didn't anticipate that airing a podcast episode every weekday for two weeks 🫨 would be a huge challenge. Sometimes things sound easy before you do them, and that was definitely the case with this series!) But, despite the hard work, I'm so glad I persevered to give you a little deep dive into each one of my nine principles of Self-Assured Motherhood. My goal for every woman who listens to my podcast or participates in my SAM program is this: I want you to feel more fully yourself as a result of the work that we do together - more deeply accepting of who you are and more able to nurture the best that's already within you, instead of wishing you could be different or "better."   Friends, if you want to do this work with me, I hope you will join my Self-Assured Motherhood program, which opens for enrollment on Monday, September 9th. *** Announcements: Self-Assessment for Moms: Click here to download my FREE self-assessment to go along with each of the 9 principles we'll be discussing through the mini-series. **Everyone who downloads this assessment will receive a special discount for SAM! AND, one lucky mama will get SAM for FREE!** Self-Assured Motherhood Program: Doors to SAM will be opening soon! Join the waitlist! Related Episodes like this one on Self-Assured Motherhood: 262: 3 Ways to Recover from Mom Burnout 314: How to Feel like Yourself in Motherhood // Aleisha McKean 030: How to Coach Your Children Through Their Big Emotions // Georgia Anderson

My kids are headed back to school soon, and they will be doing all sorts of assessments to see how they're doing in math and reading and writing. And this got me thinking: I need to do a series of mini-podcast episodes during this back-to-school season for moms to assess how they are doing, not with balancing equations or diagramming sentences (because I have a feeling most of us would fail those assessments 🥴), but to assess something way more important: our own levels of emotional wellbeing. Just like last week, this week, Monday-Friday, I will be publishing a mini-episode to introduce you to each of the principles I teach in my Self-Assured Motherhood course, a framework I created for overwhelmed moms. Each principle is an important part of emotional well-being and can help you in your personal assessment of how you're doing. Today's principle is: Support Their Struggles. As you go along with this mini-series, you can use this self-assessment I've created to visually assess how you're doing in each of the principles we discuss. I hope you find this mini-series helpful as you take time to consider your own emotional well-being. I'm rooting for you! *** Announcements: Self-Assessment for Moms: Click here to download my FREE self-assessment to go along with each of the 9 principles we'll be discussing through the mini-series. **Everyone who downloads this assessment will receive a special discount for SAM! AND, one lucky mama will get SAM for FREE!** Self-Assured Motherhood Program: Doors to SAM will be opening soon! Join the waitlist! Sponsor: Paleovalley: Go to paleovalley.com/3in30 for 15% off your first order. Related Episodes like this one on Support Their Struggles: 262: 3 Ways to Recover from Mom Burnout 314: How to Feel like Yourself in Motherhood // Aleisha McKean 030: How to Coach Your Children Through Their Big Emotions // Georgia Anderson ***