HIListically Speaking with Hilary Russo

What if it doesn't work? What if I fail? What if they don't like me? We all know the "what if" game. But what if you asked a different question? In this episode of HIListically Speaking, Hilary Russo explores how to embrace uncertainty, reframe negative thoughts, and work with your nervous system when life doesn't come with guarantees. From the "fork in the road" to the brain's negativity bias, Hilary shares simple ways to shift the questions we ask ourselves and move from "What if it doesn't?" to "What if it does?" She also explains how Havening Techniques® can support this process and closes with a short, guided Havening experience you can try for yourself. READ "THE WHAT IF GAME" - MY ARTICLE ON MY SUBSTACK (THE BRAIN CANDY BLUEPRINT) ⁣https://substack.com/@hilaryrusso ⁣ GET THE NEWSLETTER ON WAYS TO BE KIND TO YOUR MIND DELIVERED TO YOUR INBOX⁣ https://www.hilaryrusso.com/braincandy⁣ DISCOVER HAVENING TECHNIQUES TRAININGS & WORKSHOPS⁣ https://www.hilaryrusso.com/training⁣ ⁣ UPCOMING EVENTS YOU DON'T WANT TO MISS! https://www.hilaryrusso.com/events⁣ JOIN ME AT KRIPALU FOR A TWO-DAY RETREAT https://kripalu.org/experiences/heal-your-nervous-system-neuroscience-therapeutic-touch   ⁣ CONNECT WITH HILARY⁣ https://www.linkedin.com/in/hilaryrusso⁣ https://www.instagram.com/hilaryrusso⁣ https://www.instagram.com/hilisticallyspeaking⁣ https://www.youtube.com/hilaryrusso⁣ https://www.hilaryrusso.com/podcast⁣ ⁣ MUSIC by Lipbone Redding⁣ https://www.lipbone.com⁣

For decades, entrepreneur and diabetes advocate Howard Steinberg appeared successful by every measure. But beneath the accomplishments was a relentless inner critic, childhood wounds, intergenerational trauma, and a deep longing to understand who he really was. In this powerful conversation, Howard shares the deeply personal journey behind his memoir, Confessions of a Problem Seeker: My Lifetime Journey from Busy Brain to Loving Heart. Together, we explore childhood survival patterns, the impact of being raised by Holocaust survivors, finding yourself after divorce and career loss, self-compassion, psychedelic healing, and why the path to wholeness begins by learning to sit with discomfort instead of running from it. If you've ever felt stuck in survival mode, join the conversation with host Hilary Russo and her guest and be kind to your mind. Grab Howard's  Book: https://amzn.to/4enzlIE (Amazon associate may earn commission) Connect with Howard https://howardsteinberg.com/ JOIN HILARY ON SUBSTACK - THE BRAIN CANDY BLUEPRINT! ⁣https://substack.com/@hilaryrusso DISCOVER HAVENING TECHNIQUES TRAININGS & WORKSHOPS⁣ https://www.hilaryrusso.com/training⁣ BOOK HILARY FOR YOUR NEXT EVENT OR ATTEND!⁣ https://www.hilaryrusso.com/events⁣ ⁣ CONNECT WITH HILARY⁣ https://www.linkedin.com/in/hilaryrusso⁣ https://www.instagram.com/hilaryrusso⁣ https://www.instagram.com/hilisticallyspeaking⁣ https://www.youtube.com/hilaryrusso⁣ https://www.hilaryrusso.com/podcast⁣ ⁣ MUSIC by Lipbone Redding⁣ https://www.lipbone.com⁣

Many women reach midlife and feel a powerful inner urge to reinvent themselves. But how do you choose a new path when your entire life has been shaped by responsibility, relationships, expectations, or even life in the public eye? On this episode of HIListically Speaking, Hilary Russo welcomes author, activist, philanthropist, Deborah Santana.  From growing up as the daughter of a pioneering interracial couple to spending decades alongside music legend Carlos Santana, Deborah shares the deeply personal story behind her memoir, Loving the Fire: Choosing Me, Finding Freedom. Together, they explore, • Midlife reinvention and identity • Spiritual awakening and meditation • Walking through grief, change, and uncertainty • Learning to trust your inner voice • The courage it takes to choose yourself • Legacy, healing, and freedom on the other side of the fire If you've ever felt stuck between who you were and who you're becoming, this episode is for you.   📕 GRAB DEBORAH'S BOOK https://amzn.to/3Pp9qIi(Amazon associate may earn commission) CONNECT WITH DEBORAHhttps://deborahsantana.com/ https://www.facebook.com/deborah.santana1 https://www.instagram.com/dssantana/   JOIN HILARY ON SUBSTACK - THE BRAIN CANDY BLUEPRINT! ⁣https://substack.com/@hilaryrusso ⁣ GET BRAIN CANDY & WAYS TO BE KIND TO YOUR MIND DELIVERED TO YOUR INBOX⁣ https://www.hilaryrusso.com/braincandy⁣ DISCOVER HAVENING TECHNIQUES TRAININGS & WORKSHOPS⁣ https://www.hilaryrusso.com/training⁣ ⁣ BOOK HILARY FOR YOUR NEXT EVENT OR ATTEND!⁣ https://www.hilaryrusso.com/events⁣ ⁣ CONNECT WITH HILARY⁣ https://www.linkedin.com/in/hilaryrusso⁣ https://www.instagram.com/hilaryrusso⁣ https://www.instagram.com/hilisticallyspeaking⁣ https://www.youtube.com/hilaryrusso⁣ https://www.hilaryrusso.com/podcast⁣ ⁣ MUSIC by Lipbone Redding⁣ https://www.lipbone.com⁣

Do you have the right to die? Hilary sits down with Erica Baccus, author of A Promise Kept, to share the intimate and complex story of her husband John's battle with dementia and the decision they made when faced with what she calls the "dementia catch-22." Together, they explore love, autonomy, caregiving, grief, and the ethical gray areas surrounding end-of-life choices. This is not a conversation about right or wrong, it's about understanding, compassion, and having the conversations most of us aren't prepared for… until the end of our lives is staring us in the face. Grab Erica's Book: https://amzn.to/4usBucm (Amazon associate may earn commission) CONNECT WITH ERICA http://ericabaccus.com/ https://www.instagram.com/ericabaccus/ https://www.facebook.com/erica.baccus/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/erica-baccus-82a60/ JOIN HILARY ON SUBSTACK - THE BRAIN CANDY BLUEPRINT! ⁣https://substack.com/@hilaryrusso ⁣ GET BRAIN CANDY & WAYS TO BE KIND TO YOUR MIND DELIVERED TO YOUR INBOX⁣ https://www.hilaryrusso.com/braincandy⁣ DISCOVER HAVENING TECHNIQUES TRAININGS & WORKSHOPS⁣ https://www.hilaryrusso.com/training⁣ ⁣ BOOK HILARY FOR YOUR NEXT EVENT OR ATTEND!⁣ https://www.hilaryrusso.com/events⁣ ⁣ CONNECT WITH HILARY⁣ https://www.linkedin.com/in/hilaryrusso⁣ https://www.instagram.com/hilaryrusso⁣ https://www.instagram.com/hilisticallyspeaking⁣ https://www.youtube.com/hilaryrusso⁣ https://www.hilaryrusso.com/podcast⁣ ⁣ MUSIC by Lipbone Redding⁣ https://www.lipbone.com⁣

Feeling stuck? You might be closer to flow than you think. In this episode of HIListically Speaking, Hilary sits down with flow and creativity expert Laurie Smith, author of The Flow Habit: Creating Peace, Passion, Purpose, and Everyday Miracles, to explore how everyday moments of joy, curiosity, and presence can become powerful catalysts for transformation. Together, they unpack the truth about flow, not as something you chase, but something you remember. Because here's the shift: You don't need to learn flow… you need to reconnect with it. In this conversation, you'll discover: Why we're all naturally wired for flow How "spark moments" are actually invitations into alignment The role of intrinsic motivation and autonomy in well-being How small, intentional steps can rewire your brain for joy Laurie's FEEL framework: Focus, Engage, Equalize, Listen & Let Go The connection between flow, nervous system regulation, and emotional resilience Hilary also weaves in her HUG it Out Method, highlighting how humor, understanding, and gratitude create space for healing without the pressure to "fix" ourselves.   Grab Laurie's Book: The Flow Habit https://amzn.to/4cb1RvQ (Amazon associate may earn commission) CONNECT WITH LAURIE https://www.lauriesmith.com https://www.Instagram.com/LaurieSmith_inspired https://m.youtube.com/@lauriesmith_inspired https://www.facebook.com/LSInspired https://substack.com/@flowhabit https://www.linkedin.com/in/lauriesmith-inspired/ JOIN HILARY ON SUBSTACK - THE BRAIN CANDY BLUEPRINT! ⁣https://substack.com/@hilaryrusso ⁣ GET BRAIN CANDY & WAYS TO BE KIND TO YOUR MIND DELIVERED TO YOUR INBOX⁣ https://www.hilaryrusso.com/braincandy⁣ DISCOVER HAVENING TECHNIQUES TRAININGS & WORKSHOPS⁣ https://www.hilaryrusso.com/training⁣ ⁣ BOOK HILARY FOR YOUR NEXT EVENT OR ATTEND!⁣ https://www.hilaryrusso.com/events⁣ ⁣ CONNECT WITH HILARY⁣ https://www.linkedin.com/in/hilaryrusso⁣ https://www.instagram.com/hilaryrusso⁣ https://www.instagram.com/hilisticallyspeaking⁣ https://www.youtube.com/hilaryrusso⁣ https://www.hilaryrusso.com/podcast⁣ ⁣ MUSIC by Lipbone Redding⁣ https://www.lipbone.com⁣