The Love Doctor

Today on the show, I’m talking to the host of the Rethinking Manhood podcast, Destyn Land. Destyn and I discuss men and sex. Sounds simple but when you start to layer in shame, silence, and how by grade 3 you’re already comparing penis size–it gets a lot more complicated. I first saw Destyn’s work when a friend shared one of his posts on Instagram. It was a beautiful piece about men and how society has created this pressure to prove how “straight” you are. This could be by catcalling women or making homophobic comments. Destyn’s posts are always thoughtful, well researched and when I found out he had a podcast, I just had to listen. Resources from the ShowDestyn Land: @destynforgreatnessRethinking Manhood Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/3bQw3DWTRuCmlGXFvYrVya?si=c26149d4a7474d36Instagram: @rethinkingmanhood Boys and Sex by Peggy Orenstein: https://www.peggyorenstein.com/boysandsexEuphoria on CraveHeartstopper on Netflix and ComicsBi-erasure definition: https://www.glaad.org/bisexualThe Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love by bell hooks

Today on the show, I have brought back a crowd favourite—my husband, Levi Hildebrand. Levi and I talk about our experience of using Fertility Awareness Method over the past 8 months and the impact not being on birth control has had on our sex life. We also do a bit of a deep dive on masculinity and how just now Levi feels like he is choosing what that means for himself. Resources from the show! Levi Hildebrand Instagram: @levihildebrand Levi and Leah YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/LeviHildebrand Boys and Sex by Peggy Orenstein: https://www.peggyorenstein.com/boysandsexCome As You Are by Dr. Emily Nagoski : https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/22609341-come-as-you-are

Today on the show, I am answering your questions about opening up relationships and BDSM. But I’m not answering them alone. I am honoured to share my interview with Registered Clinical Counsellor, Sarah Watson, who helps me navigate your questions surrounding trauma and sexuality. References from the Show!Sarah Watson: https://sarahwatsontherapy.com/Attached by Amir Levine & Rachel S.F. Heller: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/9547888-attachedPolysecure by Jessica Fern: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/52569124-polysecureCome As You Are by Emily Nagoski: https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Come-as-You-Are/Emily-Nagoski/9781476762111Allura Website $50 webinars: Sex and Trauma : https://static1.squarespace.com/static/5b162a5675f9ee6cc62c56b5/t/61a68fc8cdbab21c1afb1d71/1638305736878/Sex+%2B+Trauma+Flyer.pdfSelf Harm Resources: https://www.helpguide.org/articles/anxiety/cutting-and-self-harm.htmSexual Configurations Theory: https://www.academia.edu/37691857/_SCT_Zine_Mapping_Your_Sexuality_From_Sexual_Orientation_to_Sexual_Configurations_TheorySue Johnson: A(ccessible)R(esponsive)E(ngaged) you there for me? Debunking 5 Common Myths About Kink: https://www.slice.ca/sex-sessions-art-debunking-common-myths-about-kink/5 Things Science Has Taught Us About BDSM: https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/2021/8/16/5-things-science-has-taught-us-about-bdsm/B.C.’s Capital City Leads the Country in Trans and Non-binary Representation:https://www.coastmountainnews.com/news/b-c-s-capital-city-leads-the-country-in-trans-and-non-binary-representation/

Today on the show, I am sharing my interview with Farzana Doctor where we talk about non-monogamy, what sexuality looks like in your 40s, and what it means to be a quote unquote “good woman.” We also discuss her new book that is a collection of poetry, You Still Look the Same. I particularly resonated with her poem Boundaries and I know it’s a topic a lot of folks have asked me about. Resources from the Show!Farzana Doctor: https://farzanadoctor.com/You Still Look The Same Discount Code: use DOCTOR20 at check-out at https://freehand-books.comAudiobook link: https://libro.fm/audiobooks/9781778520648Seven Link: https://farzanadoctor.com/seven/Interview with Farzana in Season 2: https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/the-love-doctor/id1519672109?i=1000536137699Burnout by Nagoski sisters: https://www.burnoutbook.net/Internal Family Systems therapy: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapy-types/internal-family-systems-therapyPolysecure by Jessica Fern: ​​https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/52569124-polysecureMetamour definition: https://www.polydictionary.org/metamour/

Today on the show, we are talking about what you missed in your high school sex education and how puppets may be the best way to talk about sex. In our first ever group interview on the podcast, I talk to Hannah Mariko Bell, Sophie Underwood, and Kiley Verbowski, about our experience co-creating the play Going All The Way. We talk about our own experiences with sex education and how creating art has helped us navigate our own sexual journeys. Resources from the Show! Going All The Way Tickets: skam.ca/going-all-the-wayTheatre SKAM: https://skam.ca/What is Intersectionality? Kimberlé Crenshaw: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ViDtnfQ9FHc&ab_channel=NationalAssociationofIndependentSchools%28NAIS%29Schitt's Creek Star Dan Levy on Playing Pansexual: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W4IXXM0A6vg&ab_channel=LarryKingSchitt's Creek Wine Analogy Scene: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VrHYlJTqud0&ab_channel=RozCoreyClarkJapanese Fertility Festivals: https://allabout-japan.com/en/article/4349/

Today on the show, we are talking all about dicks. Like why is erectile dysfunction so common? Can you become dependent on Viagra? And can you still have sex after you ejaculate? To help me answer your questions about dicks, I share my interview with sex therapist and clinical sexual health educator, Paul Nelson. Paul emphasizes that sexual health education should address the entire self and how for many cisgender men, they think it’s only about their dicks. We also talk about how common erectile dysfunction is and the work Paul does as part of Maze Men’s Health. Resources from the Show!Paul Nelson at Maze Men’s Health: https://www.mazemenshealth.com/Instagram: @mazemenshealthFrank Talk: Men Talking About Erectile Dysfunction: https://www.franktalk.org/Maze Sexual and Reproductive Health: mazehealth.comMinx T.V. Show: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt11947418/American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists:  https://www.aasect.org/Boys & Sex by Peggy Orenstein: https://www.peggyorenstein.com/boysandsexThe History of The Man Box: https://remakingmanhood.medium.com/the-history-of-the-man-box-e6eed6d895c4International Index of Erectile Dysfunction: https://www.browardurologycenter.com/pdf/International-Index-of-Erectile-Function-IIEF-Questionnaire.pdfThe Psychology of Human Sexuality: https://nobaproject.com/modules/the-psychology-of-human-sexualityThe Sexual Medicine Society of North America: https://www.smsna.org/

Today on the show, I am talking about the Don’t Say Gay bill in Florida and why not talking about sexual orientation and gender identity is a bad idea for ALL kids, regardless of how they identify. I also share my interview with queer artist, sexual health educator, and doula, Simone Blais. Simone and I discuss the importance of peer to peer education, how we are constantly learning as educators ourselves, and she has basically convinced me that anyone who is wanting to have a child should have a doula. And there are ways to make that happen with support from our communities. Resources from the Show! Simone Blais: https://www.simone-blais.com/aboutBEDucated link: http://beducate.me/thelovedoctorCoupon Code: LOVEDOCTORNesting Doula Collective: https://www.nestingdoulacollective.com/Florida Legislature Passes “Don’t Say Gay” Bill to Restrict LGBTQ Topics in Elementary Schools: https://www.cbc.ca/news/world/florida-bassed-don-t-say-gay-bill-lgbtq-schools-1.6377169What is the US State of Florida’s “Don’t Say Gay” Bill? https://www.msn.com/en-us/news/world/what-is-the-us-state-of-florida-e2-80-99s-so-called-e2-80-98don-e2-80-99t-say-gay-e2-80-99-bill/ar-AAVsjrANative Youth Sexual Health Network: https://www.nativeyouthsexualhealth.com/Sexy Health Carnival: https://www.nativeyouthsexualhealth.com/sexy-health-carnivalOptions for Sexual Health Sex Sense Line: 1-800-739-7367 https://www.optionsforsexualhealth.org/sex-sense/Island Sexual Health Texting Line: https://www.islandsexualhealth.org/British Columbia Curriculum on Sexual Health:  https://www.curriculum.gov.bc.ca/sites/curriculum.gov.bc.ca/files/curriculum/physical-health-education/en_physical-health-education_k-9.pdf

Today on the show, we are talking all things polyamory. But hey, monogamous folks don’t feel like this isn’t also for you! Regardless of relationship orientation, we all have a lot to learn about communication, boundaries, and living authentically from the polyamory community and I have the perfect guest to guide us in this conversation. I share my interview with polyamory expert, relationship anarchist, and one of the main faces of PolyPages, Claire Travers. Claire and I talk about whether or not polyamory is right for you–or rather, why are you questioning monogamy? We also dive into a very important question: is polyamory queer?Resources from the Show!www.polypages.org Poly Pages (@polypages) • Instagram photos and videoswww.clairelouisetravers.co.ukPolysecure: Attachment, Trauma, and Consensual Non-Monogamy by Jessica Fernhttps://www.goodreads.com/book/show/52569124-polysecureAmatonormativity: https://elizabethbrake.com/amatonormativity/Sexual Configurations Theory Zine: Mapping Your Sexuality https://www.academia.edu/37691857/_SCT_Zine_Mapping_Your_Sexuality_From_Sexual_Orientation_to_Sexual_Configurations_Theory

Today on the show, I’m giving you my perspective on the Freedom Convoy (I’m so sorry, it’s a whole thing and I have received a ton of questions about it!) and answering your questions on how to not compare yourself to past lovers. It can be a real buzzkill in the bedroom if you’re like “oh, how did they do it? Am I doing it as well as them?!” I also share my interview with social worker, host of Allyship is a Verb podcast, and LGBTQ+ educator, Chris Angel Murphy. Chris Angel and I get vulnerable in this episode and also share advice on how not to be an asshole on dating apps. Resources from the Show!BEDucated Link: http://beducate.me/thelovedoctorBEDucated Coupon code: LOVEDOCTORChris Angel Murphy: https://www.chrisangelmurphy.com/Instagram: @gendersexualityinfoAllyship is a Verb Podcast: https://www.allyshipisaverb.com/Sissy: A Coming-Of-Gender Story: https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/40984365-sissyFreedom Convoy Article: https://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/trucker-freedom-convoy-new-normal-1.6355574

Today on the show, I’m talking about what it’s like to come out as queer on YouTube (yup, I got some texts from the family!) and what it means for me to be queer and bisexual. I also share my interview with Fertility Awareness Educator and host of the Fertility Awareness Project podcast, Nathalie Daudet. Nat is an inclusive FAM expert who shares how FAM works and guides people to decide if it’s the right choice for them. Resources from the show! Fertility Awareness Project: https://fertilityawarenessproject.caNat’s FAM Instagram: @fertilityawarenessproject FAM Fundamentals: https://fertilityawarenessproject.ca/fam-fundamentalsRead Your Body App: https://www.readyourbody.info/Levi & Leah: 6 Things I Wish I Knew In My 20s: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rBfXpE21cgs&t=618s&ab_channel=Levi%26Leah

Welcome to Season 3! Today on the show, I’m answering your questions about IUDs, libido, and cramping–are they all related? Are they happening because of the IUD? I also share my interview with Dallas Barnes where we do a deep dive on contraception methods. In particular, we answer your questions about what it’s like after having an IUD removed, our initial journeys with fertility awareness methods and addressing the pros and cons of hormonal versus non-hormonal birth control.  BEDucated Link: http://beducate.me/thelovedoctorCoupon Code: LOVEDOCTORResources from the Show! Dallas Barnes @reyahealthReya Health: https://www.reyahealth.ca/Options for Sexual Health Contraception Guide: https://www.optionsforsexualhealth.org/facts/birth-control/methods/iud/#1550008055259-d77f52cd-09ee4323-f0d5Debunking Desire: https://www.debunkingdesire.com/A Survey of Young Women’s Perceptions of the Influence of the Levonorgestrel-Intrauterine System or Copper-Intrauterine Device on Sexual Desire: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/31395237/The Sexual Acceptability of Intrauterine Contraception: A Qualitative Study of Young Adult Women: https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1363/47e4515?sid=nlm%3ApubmedCounseling about IUDs: A Mixed-Methods Analysis: https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1363/46e0814Association of Short-term Bleeding and Cramping Patterns with Long-Acting Reversible Contraceptive Method Satisfaction: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4275360/In The Flo book by Alyssa Vitti: https://intheflobook.com/

Today on the show, I’m answering your questions that I received on Instagram about why I got my IUD taken out, what it’s like having a period again after 11 years, and how my body is adjusting to not being on birth control. This is also the last episode of Season 2!! As we prepare for Season 3 coming out in the new year, what topics do you want me to cover? Are there some amazing guests I need to have on? Let me know! Resources from the ShowInstagram Post: @dr.leahtidey Website: www.leahtidey.com Email: thelovedoctorpodcast@gmail.com We Had a Bit of a Whoopsie YouTube Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-2KtkYO5LBo&ab_channel=Levi%26LeahIsland Sexual Health: https://www.islandsexualhealth.org/IUD Fact Sheet at Options for Sexual Health: https://www.optionsforsexualhealth.org/facts/birth-control/methods/iud/A Qualitative Study of Young Women's Beliefs About Intrauterine Devices: Fear of Infertility: https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/jmwh.12425Your IUD May Last Longer Than Your Doctor is Telling You (feat. Dr. Jen Gunter): https://www.insider.com/mirena-lasts-7-years-paragard-lasts-12-years-iud-2017-5Do menstrual cups increase risk of IUD expulsion? A survey of self-reported IUD and menstrual hygiene product use in the United States: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/31335218/Emergency Contraception Fact Sheet: https://www.optionsforsexualhealth.org/facts/emergency-contraception/Pregnancy Testing: https://www.optionsforsexualhealth.org/facts/pregnancy/testing/Why Male Birth Control Doesn’t Exist Episode with Dallas Barnes:Cycle Awareness with Crystal Kennings:Crystal Kennings YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/c/CrystalKenningsRead Your Body App: https://www.readyourbody.info/The Body Agency (Ovulation Kit, Menstrual Cups, Vulva Puppets, etc.): https://www.thebodyagency.com/Menstrual Cup Info: https://putacupinit.com/Alida’s Comment: Ooh not sure how to phrase any of this as a question, but I was really devastated after I got my IUD and found out there were side effects I wasn’t informed could happen. I also felt like I was really pushed to get an IUD after I had a pregnancy scare, I think that’s always an interesting topic re: any kind of birth control. How people (mainly women) are pushed really hard to do it and are told that they are irresponsible if they are hesitant for whatever reason no matter how legitimate the reason for hesitation may be - almost as if an unplanned pregnancy is still a symbol of personal moral failure after all these years.I also had terrible experiences with my insertion, very clear to me that the doctor was not at all trauma informed or aware of how triggering cervical pain can be for assault survivors.I’ve been reflecting a lot recently on how people with vulvas (at least in my experience) are taught from an young age to just expect discomfort with pelvic health care or anything vulva related (eg. that periods are bad, tampons hurt at first, that pap smears are something to dread) and how that...

Today on the show, I’m answering your questions about accessing inclusive sexual health care and what to do if your doctor has very different values than you. Like will they still offer you an IUD if you’re single and queer? I also interview social media personality and YouTuber, Rachel Leary. We talk about what it’s like sharing your life online as a woman, the struggles of trying to date as an influencer, and what she has learned about sexual health from starting her own podcast, Rated R with Rach Leary. Resources from the Show!Rachel LearyYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/rachelleary6Instagram: @rachleary Podcast: @ratedrpodcast My interview on Rachel’s Podcast! https://open.spotify.com/episode/73GtlRnok3dyVkUpBtUqhh?si=63013ec67e884923Dan Savage Revolutionized Sex. Then the Revolution Came for Him: https://slate.com/human-interest/2021/09/dan-savage-advice-savage-love-criticism-interview.html@decolonizemyself @zapatistarising ‘One-size doesn’t fit all’: Understanding healthcare practitioners’ perceptions, attitudes and behaviours towards sexual and reproductive health and rights in low resource settings’: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7316327/How to Talk To With Your Doctor about Sex: https://www.healthgrades.com/right-care/sexual-health/how-to-talk-with-your-doctor-about-sexOnline STI Testing:https://getcheckedonline.com/Pages/default.aspx

Today on the show, we are switching things up by bringing on my husband and business partner, Levi Hildebrand, to answer your questions about jealousy and TikTok, coming out to your partner after 11 years of marriage, and setting boundaries before your first sexual experience with someone. Like, is asking someone whether or not they’d get an abortion crossing a line or is it just strong communication? We also talk about the evolution of our relationship, some of our learning from the world of ethical non-monogamy and what it’s really like being married to a sexual health educator. Resources from the Show!Levi & Leah YouTube Channel:https://www.youtube.com/c/LeviHildebrandInstagram: @dr.leahtidey and @levi_hildebrandPokemon Evolution Database: https://pokemondb.net/evolutionBig Mouth Has Nailed It’s Raunchy Limits in Season 5: https://decider.com/2021/11/05/big-mouth-season-5-leah/Sexual Debut versus ‘Virginity”: https://nypost.com/2021/09/24/woke-writer-attacks-the-word-virginity-suggests-sexual-debut/FAQ: The Abortion Pill Mifegymiso: https://www.actioncanadashr.org/resources/factsheets-guidelines/2019-04-06-faq-abortion-pill-mifegymisoHow To Access A Safe, Self-Managed Medical Abortion:  https://www.scarleteen.com/article/pregnancy_and_parenting_sexual_health/how_to_access_a_safe_selfmanaged_medical_abortionOptions for Sexual Health (Including Referrals for Pregnancy and Abortion Care): https://www.optionsforsexualhealth.org/

Today on the show, I’m answering your questions about queer representation in the media and how to maintain independence in a relationship. As someone who literally works 10 feet away from their partner all day, it’s something I have thought about a lot! I also share my interview with the one and only, Joan Price. This 78 year old Senior Sexpert - by the way, happy birthday Joan! - spends her time talking out loud about senior sex. We talk about the myths that people have about sexuality and aging, share advice on how to navigate conversations with new sexual partners, and how humour is essential to great sex. Resources from the Show!Find Joan and her books, webinars, and blog at https://joanprice.com.Naked at Our Age with Joan Price Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/JoanPriceAuthor/Twitter: https://twitter.com/JoanPriceInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/thejoanprice/ View Joan Price Talks Out Loud About Senior SexAuthor of award-winning books Naked at Our Age: Talking Out Loud about Senior Sex and Sex after Grief: Navigating Your Sexuality after Losing Your Beloved.Co-creator of “jessica drake's Guide to Wicked Sex: Senior Sex,” winner 2019 AV award, AASECT (American Assn. of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists)Resident Senior Sexpert for Hot Octopuss Senior Sex HubFor senior sex news and views, subscribe to my newsletter: http://eepurl.com/cx2Nab.The Pervasive Reality of Anti-Black Racism in Canada: https://www.bcg.com/en-ca/publications/2020/reality-of-anti-black-racism-in-canadaBill 2 is “the most transphobic bill ever proposed in Quebec” activist says: prohttps://montrealgazette.com/news/local-news/bill-2-is-the-most-transphobic-bill-ever-proposed-in-quebec-activist-saysPetition: Withdrawal of Certain Sections of Bill 2:  https://www.assnat.qc.ca/en/exprimez-votre-opinion/petition/Petition-9319/index.htmlReality TV and Queer Identities: https://link.springer.com/book/10.1007%2F978-3-030-14215-5But How Many Are We? LGBTQ+ Stats and Stigmas: https://yr.media/identity/but-how-many-are-we-lgbtq-stats-and-stigmas/LGBTQ Stats: https://www.lgbtqstats.org/about

Today on the show, I’m answering your questions about jealousy and what to do if you’re feeling insecure about your partner watching porn. I also share my interview with Dr. Amy C. Moors where we debunk some major myths about consensual non-monogamy. Like how many people are doing it? And is everyone jealous all the time?! Amy shares the most up to date research and practical advice on how to navigate romantic relationships, monogamous or non-monogamous. References from the show! Dr. Amy C Moors: moors@chapman.eduwebsite: www.amycmoors.comPerceived Effects of Pornography on the Couple Relationship: https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s10508-016-0783-6Polyamory is more common than you think: https://www.publichealthpost.org/research/polyamory/Prevalence of previous engagement in consensual non-monogamy: https://www.amycmoors.com/publications/prevalence-of-experiences-with-consensual-nonmonogamous-relationshipsPrevalence of the ideal type of relationship: https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/10.1080/00224499.2019.1580667Comparisons of relationship quality among people engaged in consensual non-monogamy and monogamy: https://www.amycmoors.com/publications/the-investigation-of-consensually-non-monogamous-relationshipsNew language people create to describe "jealousy": https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/1363460706069987?casa_token=L7A3je_LtVAAAAAA:65czk8sF5lUr9AHgAADj4qkPbVENdnq78MFEGoLgbkGvYcvD_xPbNwe2G5_eHCXJCnlbkAjYXuE5WooSafer sex practices among people engaged in consensual non-monogamy and ostensible monogamy: https://www.amycmoors.com/publications/unfaithful-individuals-are-less-likely-to-practice-safer-sexSTI rates among people engaged in consensual non-monogamy and monogamy: https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S1743609515344222Willow Smith Opens Up About Being Polyamorous: https://www.bbc.com/news/newsbeat-56852099State of Affairs by Esther PerelPolysecure by Jessica FernOpening Up by Tristan Taomino

Today on the show, I’m answering your questions about whether gay men can donate blood here in Canada  and how to feel like you’re part of the LGBTQ2S+ community as a bisexual. I also share my interview with the Halal Sexpert, Dr. Shaakira Abdullah. We talk about the workshops she teaches, such as Get Cliterate and What That Mouth Do? Oral sex, Fellatio, and foreplay, and if there is space in the sexual health world for educators from very different perspectives. Resources from the Show! Dr. Shaakira Abdullah: ​​https://linktr.ee/thehalalsexpert https://the-halal-sexpert.myshopify.comInstagram @thehalalsexpertWhere To Get A Vulva Puppet: https://www.thebodyagency.com/collections/all-productsLEAH10 for 10% everything on the Body Agency’s websiteUnderstanding general population impact and opportunities from changes to blood donation deferral screening and criteria for men who have sex with men: https://www.blood.ca/en/research/understanding-general-population-impact-and-opportunities-changes-blood-donation-0About Men Who Have Sex With Men: Why We Talk About This Screening Criterionhttps://www.blood.ca/en/blood/am-i-eligible-donate-blood/about-msmLegality of Eligibility to Donate Blood: https://www.tcwalkerlawyers.com/legality-of-eligibility-requirements-to-donate-blood/Men Who Have Sex With Men: https://www.blood.co.uk/who-can-give-blood/men-who-have-sex-with-men/How To Be A Bisexual+ Ally By Challenging these Bi+ Myths Everyday https://www.forbes.com/sites/jamiewareham/2020/09/16/how-to-be-a-bisexual-lgbtq-ally-and-challenge-these-top-bi-myths-everyday/?sh=704e970f10eaScarleteen Website: www.Scarleteen.org

Today on the show, I’m answering your questions about whether folks with vulvas mature more quickly than folks with penises and how what we’re watching on Netflix is impacting how we behave in the bedroom. I also share my interview with author, activist, and therapist, Farzana Doctor. Farzana and I talk about her new book Seven and how fiction is a powerful tool to address taboo topics in a pleasurable yet impactful way. In particular, we discuss khatna, a form of female genital mutilation (FGM) and what we can do to raise the profile to end its practice. Resources from the Show!Farzana Doctor: https://linktr.ee/farzanadoctorInstagram: @farzanadoctor Seven promo code for Canadians at www.dundurn.com with code DOCTOR25End FGM Canada Network: https://www.endfgm.ca/Dear Maasi: https://sahiyo.com/2020/09/13/dear-maasi-a-new-sex-and-relationship-column-for-survivors-of-female-genital-cutting/The Practice of Khatna or Female Genital Mutilation Amongst the Dawoodi (Daudi) Bohra Shia Muslim Community: https://sahiyo.com/2016/01/19/the-practice-of-khatna-or-female-genital-mutilation-amongst-the-dawoodi-daudi-bohra-shia-muslim-community-part-1/World Health Organization Key Facts about FGM: https://www.who.int/news-room/fact-sheets/detail/female-genital-mutilationThe Lost and Lonely Clitoris: Why Can So Few People Find It?: https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2021/may/31/the-lost-and-lonely-clitoris-why-can-so-few-people-find-itLabia Liberation: The Movement to End Vulva Anxiety for Good: https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2021/sep/13/labia-liberation-the-movement-to-end-vulva-anxiety-for-goodThe Vulva Gallery: https://www.thevulvagallery.com/the-vulva-galleryIda Applebroog Monalisa (vulva drawings) ​​https://www.hauserwirth.com/publications/9351-ida-applebroog-monalisaHow TikTok is Reclaiming Outer Labia in a Humorous and Non-Judgemental Way: ​​https://www.refinery29.com/en-gb/2021/08/10638396/tiktok-female-body-confidence-labiaMeat Curtains by @ella.watkins on TikTokS.E.X. The All-You-Need-To-Know Sexuality Guide to Get You Through Your Teens and Twenties by Heather Corinna Science Explains Why Women Are Faster To Mature Than Men: https://www.mic.com/articles/111226/science-explains-why-women-are-faster-to-mature-than-men

Today on the show, we’re talking all things birth control - like why is there no male birth control (other than condoms), how do you choose one that’s right for you, what are the side effects, and who should be thinking about using contraception? I also share my interview with Dallas Barnes, the founder and CEO of Reya Health. Dallas and I talk about our journeys of trial and error with different types of birth control and answer your questions about hormonal versus non-hormonal methods and how to talk to your doctor about contraception.Resources from the show! Dallas Barnes @reyahealthReya Health: https://www.reyahealth.ca/What Does the Pope Have to Do with Birth Control Pills? https://www.simplehealth.com/blog/the-pope-and-your-birth-controlCombined Hormonal Contraception and Its Effect on Mood: A Critical Review https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/13625187.2016.1217327?journalCode=iejc20This is Your Brain on Birth Control by Sarah Hill https://www.sarahehill.com/your-brain-on-birth-control/Does the Pill Really Cause Mood Swings? https://www.bustle.com/articles/118631-does-the-pill-cause-mood-swings-how-hormonal-birth-control-affects-your-moodMale Birth Control Study Killed After Men Complain of Side Effects: https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2016/11/03/500549503/male-birth-control-study-killed-after-men-complain-about-side-effectsWhat Hormones Are In Nexplanon? https://gynraleigh.com/what-hormones-are-in-nexplanon/A Qualitative Study of Young Women's Beliefs About Intrauterine Devices: Fear of Infertility: https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/jmwh.12425Nexplanon-Arm Implant Birth Control: https://www.theguardian.pe.ca/opinion/national-perspectives/nexplanon-a-3-year-birth-control-implant-is-now-approved-for-use-in-canada-456342/CBC News: Texas Abortion Ban Now Law: https://www.cbc.ca/listen/live-radio/1-9-cbc-news-the-world-this-hourTexas Law That Bans Abortion Before Many Women Know They’re Pregnant Takes Effect: https://www.npr.org/2021/09/01/1033171800/texas-abortion-ban-supreme-court-

Today on the show, I’m answering your questions about how to clean your penis and genitals in general and is it possible for women and men to be friends? Or really, be friends with anyone of the gender we are attracted to? And what does that mean for bisexuals - can we be trusted to have any friends at all?I also share my interview with bisexual content creator, Marcus Territory. Marcus and I get into all things bisexual, such as is it harder to come out as bi as a man? And what sort of assumptions have people made when they find out you are bisexual. Resources from the show! Marcus Territory Instagram: @marcusterritory TikTok: @marcusterritoryThe Scientific Quest to Prove Bisexuality Exists: https://www.nytimes.com/2014/03/23/magazine/the-scientific-quest-to-prove-bisexuality-exists.htmlThe Bisexuality Dating Dilemma: https://www.bbc.com/news/uk-49753820Bisexual Identities and Resources: https://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/if_i_only_want_to_have_sex_with_women_but_not_date_them_am_i_bisexual#MythMonday: Anal August: https://positivesexuality.org/myth-monday-anal-august/August Celebrated as Anal Pleasure Month: https://thepridela.com/2020/08/august-celebrated-as-anal-pleasure-month/Anal Sex 101: https://www.thesexed.com/blog/2018/9/4/anal-sex-101Age of Consent for Anal Intercourse (Canada): https://www.justice.gc.ca/eng/rp-pr/csj-sjc/jsp-sjp/c75/p3.htmlExamples of Sodomy Laws Used To Discriminate Against Lesbian and Gay People: https://www.aclu.org/other/examples-sodomy-laws-used-discriminate-against-lesbian-and-gay-peopleKeeping Your Genitals Clean! https://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/my_clitoris_is_an_innie_how_can_i_keep_it_cleanOut, Out Damn Smell! https://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/out_out_damn_smellMen and Women Can’t be “Just Friends”: ​​https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/men-and-women-cant-be-just-friends/Benefit or Burden? Attraction in Cross-Sex Friendship: https://www.bleske-rechek.com/April%20Website%20Files/Bleske-Rechek%20et%20al.%202012%20Benefit%20or%20Burden.pdfCan Men and Women Be Just Friends? https://onlinelibrary-wiley-com.ezproxy.library.uvic.ca/doi/epdf/10.1111/j.1475-6811.2000.tb00008.x