Helping Families Be Happy

In this episode, host Christopher Robbins interviews Christopher Mannino about his new book "Making It Up: A Revolutionary Way to Bond with Kids Through Play." Mannino shares how parents, teachers, and caregivers can strengthen their relationships with children through just 10 minutes of daily imaginative play using improv techniques. The conversation explores the two pillars of Mannino's method: improvisation skills for engaging with children and "anchor" techniques from method acting to help adults stay calm and present. Through practical examples and personal stories, Mannino demonstrates how this approach not only deepens bonds with children but also helps adults manage stress and create lasting memories. Episode Highlights 00:00:00: Host Christopher Robbins welcomes listeners to the Helping Families Be Happy podcast and introduces guest Christopher Mannino, author and former theater teacher now living in Malta. 00:01:30: Christopher Mannino thanks the host for having him back on the podcast. 00:02:05: Mannino explains that his book is about strengthening bonds through play, dedicating 10 minutes a day to active imaginative playtime, which builds resilience and emotional regulation for both adults and children. 00:03:52: Mannino provides the tea party scenario as a simple example of improvised imaginative play, explaining how to accept and build on children's ideas using the "yes, and" principle from improv. 00:06:19: Discussion of the two pillars of the method: improv-based techniques and method acting skills that help adults stay calm during stressful moments. 00:08:00: Mannino shares a powerful memory from the first day of pandemic homeschooling when he and his son built an imaginary rocket ship and explored the solar system, creating a song they still sing years later. 00:10:48: Host Christopher Robbins shares a story about his wife teaching violin to their son by dressing up as a different character, transforming the lesson into imaginative play. 00:12:29: Mannino explains the "established pivot" concept, describing how offering a new idea helps children's developing brains get unstuck and transform non-fun activities into enjoyable experiences. 00:14:31: Discussion about setting boundaries with children while maintaining the practice, and introduction to the "anchor" technique for managing parental burnout. 00:16:23: Mannino explains the anchor technique in detail, describing how to use recent positive memories to center yourself and maintain emotional presence with children. 00:18:10: Mannino shares his current anchor memory of seeing polar bears at the Munich zoo with his son, demonstrating how this memory helps him stay present and engaged. 00:19:38: Closing remarks with information about where to find Christopher Mannino online at christophermannino.com Key Takeaways Just 10 minutes of daily imaginative play using improv techniques can significantly strengthen bonds between adults and children while building emotional resilience The "yes, and" principle from improv—accepting children's ideas and building on them—transforms ordinary moments into meaningful play experiences. The "anchor" technique from method acting helps adults manage stress and stay emotionally present by tapping into positive recent memories Pivoting or offering new ideas helps children get unstuck when they resist activities, transforming resistance into engagement. Setting boundaries is acceptable—you don't have to play every time a child asks, but dedicating consistent quality time makes a lasting impact. Imaginative play creates core memories that children carry with them for years, strengthening long-term relationships. Quotable Moments "If you can dedicate that 10 minutes a day to real active, imaginative playtime, and then you try the method and you try these, these new techniques, they're really easy and they're honestly really fun." "It's not just about fun and building, it's also about resilience and emotional regulation for you as the adult." "Kid runs in and their arms outstretched and says, dad, I'm flying. And what's your instant reaction? Because most people in that moment are like, okay, you have fun with that, or, I'm gonna keep cooking, or, eh, are you, but what happens if you say yes?" "Flash forward to today, years later, we still sing the song that we ended up writing from that trip around the solar system." "I never do anything, whether it's an interview or going to work or going shopping or just waking up in the morning without an anchor at the ready." "You're gonna take that same technique and just feel happy. You don't have to tap into like a million different emotions." "Once you start doing it a few times you're gonna realize it can be really fun and b, if you use that, anchor, that memory to get you centered right before suddenly it doesn't feel like work."

In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy Podcast, host Christopher Robbins speaks with Paul Mandelstein, author of "The World's Best Dad During and After Divorce," about navigating the holidays as a divorced or separated parent. Paul emphasizes reframing divorce as creating an "extended family" rather than a "broken home" and stresses that holidays should focus on the children's wellbeing, not parental conflict. He provides practical advice on managing holiday gatherings, creating new traditions, and developing a positive collaborative co-parenting approach. The conversation highlights the importance of putting aside ego and hurt to ensure children feel loved by both parents during what can be a challenging time of year. Episode Highlights 00:00:10: Christopher Robbins introduces the podcast and welcomes guest Paul Mandelstein 00:00:11: Introduction to Paul stein's background as founder of Father Resource Network and his extensive publishing career. 00:01:09: Discussion of Paul's authored books including folk tales and "The World's Best Dad During and After Divorce." 00:01:57: Paul thanks Christopher for having him on the show 00:01:59: Christopher shares his friend's difficult divorce situation and asks for holiday advice. 00:02:34: Paul reframes divorce as creating an "extended family" rather than a "broken family." 00:04:06: Paul discusses choices parents have when invited to ex's house, emphasizing not disparaging the ex in front of kids. 00:05:19: Advice on being flexible with holiday schedules and planning ahead. 00:06:46: Suggestion to have separate holiday celebrations if parents can't get along peacefully. 00:07:40: Christopher asks about the positive collaborative co-parenting plan. 00:07:49: Paul explains men should take the lead in creating new family culture. 00:09:39: Christopher emphasizes advice applies to children of all ages. 00:09:48: Paul discusses how the relationship with an ex continues even after divorce. 00:10:42: Discussion of admitting fault and working on self-improvement. 00:11:02: Paul shares how listeners can contact him for consulting. 00:11:28: Christopher concludes with thanks to Famis and encouragement to subscribe. Key Takeaways Reframe divorce as creating an "extended family" rather than viewing it as a "broken home." Keep holidays focused on the children's happiness and wellbeing, not parental conflicts or hurt feelings. Never disparage your ex-partner in front of the children, as they still love both parents. Be flexible with holiday schedules and plan well in advance to avoid conflicts. Create new traditions in your own home that work for your unique family situation. Take the lead in establishing a positive collaborative co-parenting relationship, even if your ex doesn't initially reciprocate. Put aside ego, blame, and the need to be "right" for the sake of your children. If you can't be civil together, consider having separate holiday celebrations rather than creating tension. Remember that you and your ex once loved each other, and that love created your children The relationship with your ex continues after divorce, especially when children are involved. Quotable Moments "We're not a broken family when we divorce. We're an extended family." "Happy holidays are not about you, they're about the kids. They're not about your ex, they're about the kids." "This is an opportunity for you to learn compassion and to basically grow up." "It's important to never disparage your ex in front of the kids because they still love their mom or their dad." "Just don't be a jerk. Don't look for a way to prove that you were right or you or they were wrong." "If you've never been nice before, some people haven't. Let's face it." "It's an opportunity. And my book lays out a path that if you follow that path, even if your ex is, is not agreeing with you and is still adversary over time, the kids and your ex perhaps will realize that you're not the bad guy anymore." "I'm asking men to take the lead and be the bigger hero. Be the hero. If anything divorces, the hero's security to go through it." "The most important thing is for the kids to feel like they're not in an adversarial relationship where they have to pick one parent over another." "You'll realize even divorce your relationship with your ex is not over, especially if the kids are teen, young kids, teenagers or even young adults."

You Deserve Flowers with Devon Blow In this episode, host Adina Oberman interviews Devon Blow, a dynamic artist and illustrator from Los Angeles who specializes in illustration, design, writing, and social justice advocacy. Devon discusses her debut book "You Deserve Flowers," a pocket-sized collection of affirmations and poetry that originated from a therapy assignment focused on self-affirmation. The conversation explores Devon's creative process, her passion for representing diversity and marginalized communities in her work, and her upcoming projects with Familius, including "Life's Best Bits" and a picture book. Throughout the discussion, Devon emphasizes how her art is deeply connected to social justice work and her desire to bring hope and encouragement to people from all walks of life. Episode Highlights 00:00:10: Adina Oberman introduces the Helping Families Be Happy Podcast and welcomes guest Devon Blow, describing her impressive background as an artist working with major clients like Netflix, Oprah's Book Club, and the United Nations. 00:01:42: Devon thanks Adina for having her on the podcast and the conversation begins. 00:01:44: Adina expresses excitement about discussing Devon's new book and their working relationship. 00:01:59: Devon introduces "You Deserve Flowers" as a pocket-sized book of affirmations and poetry designed to provide encouragement whenever readers need it. 00:02:27: Adina asks Devon to share the inspiration behind the book and her creative process. 00:02:37: Devon reveals the book originated from a therapy assignment where she was asked to write affirmations for herself as if speaking to others, since she found it easier to affirm others than herself. 00:03:26: Adina shares several affirming messages from the book, including "Loving yourself isn't arrogance, it's survival" and discusses the beautiful artwork. 00:04:16: Devon identifies the rain/puddles page as one of her favorites from the book. 00:04:19: Adina highlights Devon's artistic signature of including little hearts on characters' cheeks throughout the book. 00:05:14: Devon explains that people and diversity inspire her creative work, and she finds beauty in everyone's unique features and cultural backgrounds. 00:06:00: Adina asks Devon to elaborate on how her work connects to her passion for social justice. 00:06:18: Devon discusses how community and hope are central to her social justice work, citing influences like James Baldwin and bell Hooks, and emphasizing the importance of embracing differences. 00:07:28: Adina asks Devon to share information about her upcoming projects. 00:07:47: Devon announces her second book with Familius titled "Life's Best Bits" featuring over 190 illustrations about simple joys, plus a picture book project and a middle-grade fiction book she's currently writing. 00:08:41: Adina expresses excitement about Devon's upcoming work and asks where listeners can find her online. 00:09:00: Devon directs listeners to her website and social media at @DevthePineapple across all platforms. 00:09:12: Adina thanks Devon for joining the podcast. 00:09:14: Adina concludes the episode by thanking Familius for their support and encouraging listeners to subscribe and leave reviews. Key Takeaways Self-affirmation can be challenging even for those who naturally affirm others, and therapeutic exercises like writing affirmations can be transformative creative outlets. Art can serve as a powerful tool for social justice advocacy by representing diverse communities and providing hope during difficult times. Small, accessible formats like pocket-sized books of affirmations can provide encouragement and support in everyday moments. Embracing and celebrating differences in people's backgrounds, cultures, and appearances is essential to moving forward as a society. Creative work that centers love, community, and inclusivity can have meaningful impact beyond aesthetic value. Finding inspiration in the beauty of everyday people and their unique features can fuel authentic and representative artistic expression. Quotable Moments "Loving yourself isn't arrogance, it's survival" - From Devon's book "You Deserve Flowers" "This rain won't stop you. The puddles remind you, you survived" - From Devon's book "You Deserve Flowers." "Trust your feelings, but don't forget to let the joy in" - From Devon's book "You Deserve Flowers." "I think if we can inspire each other and just be kind to one another, which sounds really cliche, but it's true" - Devon Blow on her approach to social justice work. "I think embracing all of our differences is what will push us forward" - Devon Blow on diversity and community. "I love affirming others, but I struggle with affirming myself" - Devon Blow on the origins of her book. "I think all of our unique features and things makes us really beautiful" - Devon Blow on her artistic inspiration.

Celebrating Christmas Around the World The podcast episode of "Helping Families Be Happy" features host Christopher Robbins and guest Stephanie Campisi, an Australian author based in Southern California. The discussion revolves around global Christmas traditions, inspired by Stephanie's book, "12 Little Elves Save Christmas." The book takes readers on a journey through various countries' unique festive customs, celebrating the diversity and richness of worldwide holiday practices. Through this exploration, the episode highlights the importance of understanding and appreciating cultural differences, fostering empathy and connection in a global community. Episode Highlights 00:00:14: Introduction of the podcast and guest, Stephanie Campisi, an author discussing global Christmas traditions. 00:01:39: Stephanie shares the adaptation of wishing Merry Christmas in Australia with a cultural twist. 00:02:33: Discussion of Stephanie's book and its research into global Christmas traditions, including Australia's practices. 00:04:02: Exploration of similarities and differences in holiday traditions between Australia and the US. 00:05:10: Stephanie shares experiences spending Christmas in Japan, noting unique Japanese holiday practices. 00:06:08: Insight into Venezuelan Christmas traditions like roller skating to church. 00:06:58: Explanation of Lebanese nativity crib traditions, emphasizing cultural nuances. 00:08:00: Overview of countries featured in Stephanie's book and the selection process for representing diverse traditions. 00:09:05: Stephanie discusses her family's Christmas traditions evolving between cultures. 00:13:32: Highlighted favorite global Christmas traditions include German markets and Swedish celebrations. 00:14:23: Discussion on the book's potential to foster cross-cultural understanding and empathy. 00:15:11: Ending remarks and where to find more information about Stephanie Campisi's work. Key Takeaways Understanding global Christmas traditions can enrich holiday experiences by recognizing cultural diversity. Sharing stories through books can foster empathy and a greater appreciation for our global neighbors. Adaptation of traditions when moving to a new culture can create newly meaningful personal celebrations. Christmas traditions worldwide offer varied ways to appreciate the season beyond traditional narratives. Tweetable Quotes "Reading is how we connect and cultivate empathy and understanding among cultures." -Stephanie Campisi "A book is a little olive branch extending a connection to other cultures." - Stephanie Campisi "One great holiday tradition at a time, we can make the world a happier place." - Host, Christopher Robbins

In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, host Christopher Robbins interviews parenting expert Donna Tetreault about building trust within families. They discuss the foundational importance of trust in parent-child relationships, drawing on insights from Stephen M.R. Covey's work on trust. Donna emphasizes the difference between smart trust and blind trust, explaining how parents can give age-appropriate autonomy while maintaining necessary boundaries. The conversation covers practical strategies for handling broken trust, encouraging self-advocacy in children, and the importance of natural consequences. Donna also stresses the need for parents to trust themselves in their parenting journey and extend grace to both themselves and their children. Episode Highlights 00:00:10: Christopher Robbins introduces the podcast and welcomes guest Donna Tetreault, a national TV parenting journalist, author, and educator who shares parenting strategies on major Los Angeles television stations. 00:01:40: Donna expresses excitement about being on the podcast. 00:01:43: Christopher discusses the importance of trust, referencing Dr. Stephen R. Covey's work and Stephen M.R. Covey's book "The Speed of Trust," establishing trust as the foundation of all relationships. 00:02:48: Donna explains the importance of trusting children in their decision-making process, citing Maria Montessori's quote about never doing for a child what they can do for themselves, while emphasizing the need for boundaries and coaching. 00:03:56: Christopher asks Donna to explain the concept of self-advocacy. 00:04:02: Donna defines self-advocacy as allowing children to build their own lives and make decisions, using the example of choosing friends rather than parents arranging all social interactions. 00:05:16: Christopher introduces the concept of smart trust versus dumb trust, using the humorous example of letting a newly licensed teen drive a brand new Ferrari. 00:06:02: Donna provides practical examples of age-appropriate trust, including bedtimes and technology use, explaining how to gradually increase responsibility as children demonstrate capability. 00:07:13: Donna discusses homework as an example of building trust and autonomy, encouraging parents to step back when children show responsibility rather than hovering. 00:08:02: Christopher introduces the concept of check-ins or mileposts, suggesting a "trust but verify" approach. 00:08:33: Donna agrees with the check-in approach, noting that younger children need more frequent check-ins while older children should require fewer as they build autonomy. 00:09:20: Christopher shares his personal experience as a father of nine, noting that different children require different levels of check-ins. 00:09:30: Donna emphasizes that every child is different and parents should trust themselves to read their children's individual needs. 00:09:53: Christopher asks how to handle situations when children break trust. 00:10:11: Donna advises against harsh reactions, recommending connection and compassion instead, and introduces Tina Payne Bryson's concept of saying children have "bent" rather than "broken" trust. 00:11:47: Christopher appreciates the phrase "bent my trust" as valuable advice. 00:11:53: Donna and Christopher agree on the value of the reframing. 00:12:15: Donna role-plays how to approach a teen who hasn't been attending school, emphasizing getting curious rather than immediately punishing. 00:13:18: Christopher shares his personal story of not attending high school for weeks and how his stepfather handled it with trust and a simple question. 00:13:36: Donna expresses surprise at Christopher's story. 00:13:53: Donna asks why Christopher wasn't attending school. 00:13:56: Christopher explains he wanted to do other activities like skiing and fly fishing, finding school boring. 00:14:29: Donna agrees with Christopher's philosophy. 00:14:31: Christopher emphasizes that parenting is a marathon not a sprint, using the phrase "never judge a man by his youth," and asks about experiencing natural consequences. 00:14:55: Donna discusses the importance of natural consequences rather than arbitrary punishments like taking away phones, allowing children to experience real-world results of their choices. 00:15:37: Christopher notes that sometimes natural consequences can be quite severe. 00:15:44: Donna acknowledges severe consequences and discusses how parents can support children through making up missed work while maintaining appropriate boundaries with teachers. 00:16:41: Christopher asks if there's anything else Donna wants to share. 00:16:48: Donna encourages parents to trust themselves, acknowledging that parenting is difficult regardless of expertise, and emphasizes giving oneself grace as a model for children. 00:17:28: Christopher asks where listeners can find Donna online. 00:17:34: Donna directs listeners to her Instagram account at Donna Tetreault. 00:17:41: Christopher asks Donna to spell her last name. 00:17:43: Donna spells out her name: T-E-T-R-E-A-U-L-T. 00:17:49: Christopher concludes the podcast, thanking Familius for support and encouraging listeners to subscribe, leave reviews, and extend trust one step at a time. Key Takeaways Trust is the foundation of effective parenting and should be extended to children in age-appropriate ways, allowing them to develop autonomy and decision-making skills. Practice "smart trust" rather than "blind trust" by setting appropriate boundaries while giving children opportunities to demonstrate responsibility. When trust is broken, use compassionate language like "you've bent my trust" rather than harsh accusations, and focus on rebuilding rather than punishing. Allow children to experience natural consequences of their actions rather than imposing arbitrary punishments, as real-world results are often more effective teachers. Different children require different levels of oversight and check-ins; trust yourself as a parent to recognize each child's individual needs. Self-advocacy begins early by allowing children to make age-appropriate decisions, from choosing friends to managing homework and bedtimes. Parents should extend grace to themselves and trust their own parenting instincts, modeling self-compassion for their children. Get curious rather than punitive when children make mistakes, asking "what's going on?" instead of immediately reacting with anger. Quotable Moments "Never do for a child what they can do for themselves" - Maria Montessori quote shared by Donna Tetreault "We're trying to tell our kids that we trust you in the process of your life" - Donna Tetreault "Instead of telling your child that you have broken my trust, you can say, you've bent my trust" - Tina Payne Bryson concept shared by Donna "You should never judge a man by his youth" - Christopher Robbins "We want our kids to know that we believe them to be capable" - Donna Tetreault "Trust yourself to know that you're doing the best that you can and honor that and give yourself grace" -Donna Tetreault "It doesn't matter if you've written a book, if you've studied it, if you're a former teacher, if you're a psychologist, it just doesn't matter. It's very difficult parenting in this day and age" - Donna Tetreault

Autonomy-Supportive Parenting with Dr. Emily Edlynn, PhD In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy Podcast, host Christopher Robbins interviews Dr. Emily Edlynn, a licensed clinical psychologist and author of "Autonomy-Supportive Parenting." Dr. Edlynn explains how autonomy-supportive parenting, based on self-determination theory, nurtures three fundamental human needs: autonomy, competence, and relatedness. She discusses how modern parenting culture's intensive approach often leads to controlling behaviors that undermine children's development, and provides practical strategies for parents to foster independence while reducing parental burnout. The conversation covers real- world applications of these principles, including how to help children solve their own problems and develop financial independence. Episode Highlights 00:00:10: Host Christopher Robbins introduces the podcast and guest Dr. Emily Edlynn, highlighting her credentials as a licensed clinical psychologist and author. 00:02:06: Light-hearted exchange about parenting experience with Christopher mentioning he's a father of nine children. 00:02:50: Dr. Edlynn defines autonomy-supportive parenting as a science-based approach that nurtures three fundamental human needs: autonomy, competence, and relatedness. 00:04:07: Discussion of the three core needs, with Christopher seeking clarification on each component. 00:04:40: Dr. Edlynn explains relatedness as the foundational need involving belonging, connection, and feeling understood and accepted. 00:05:14: Connection made to Daniel Pink's book "Drive" and its relationship to motivation theory. 00:06:17: Christopher acknowledges the challenges of parenting, describing it as sometimes being "a grind." 00:06:28: Dr. Edlynn identifies two primary barriers: overwhelming parental stress (declared a public health crisis) and intensive parenting culture. 00:08:10: Discussion of how control is the antithesis of autonomy-supportive parenting. 00:08:33: Dr. Edlynn explains how parents often do too much for their children, preventing skill development and confidence building. 00:09:36: Christopher relates the advice to leadership principles applicable beyond parenting. 00:10:25: Christopher shares his parenting approach of encouraging children to solve problems independently. 00:10:56: Dr. Edlynn validates Christopher's approach based on its effectiveness. 00:11:34: Humorous exchange about background music making parental advice more appealing. 00:11:48: Christopher asks for key autonomy supportive strategies to implement immediately. 00:11:56: Dr. Edlynn provides specific strategies including expecting more independence and expressing trust in children. 00:13:28: Application of strategies to a real scenario involving a child who needs to become more financially self-reliant. 00:13:47: Dr. Edlynn walks through the process of addressing the financial independence issue collaboratively. 00:15:00: Christopher acknowledges learning new parenting approaches after 33 years of experience. 00:15:38: Discussion of how autonomy supportive parenting relates to good leadership principles. 00:16:19: Exploration of short-term and long-term benefits of autonomy-supportive parenting. 00:16:35: Dr. Edlynn outlines benefits including reduced stress for parents and increased confidence for children. 00:17:25: Christopher reflects on accepting that children will grow up to be themselves, not replicas of their parents. 00:17:54: Dr. Edlynn emphasizes the importance of seeing children for who they truly are. 00:18:01: Acknowledgment that parenting is a marathon, not a sprint. 00:18:15: Important clarification that parents don't need to be autonomy supportive every moment to be effective. 00:19:12: Dr. Edlynn shares her contact information and online presence. 00:19:24: Closing remarks and podcast subscription information. Key Takeaways Autonomy supportive parenting focuses on nurturing three fundamental needs: autonomy, competence, and relatedness. Modern intensive parenting culture often leads to controlling behaviors that undermine children's development. Parents should ask children "What are you thinking?" before offering solutions to encourage problem- solving skills. Expecting more independent behaviors from children reduces parental stress while building children's confidence. Approach children's mistakes with curiosity rather than judgment to maintain connection and facilitate learning. Scaffolding approach works best - implementing changes step by step rather than expecting immediate complete independence. Autonomy-supportive parenting leads to higher self-esteem, better academic achievement, and stronger social relationships in children. Parents don't need to be perfect - creating a general environment of autonomy support is what matters most. Quotable Moments "All of us, regardless of our age or where we live in the world, we thrive when we have these three needs met." "We feel like this anxiety that we have to curate this perfect life for our kids. And so what we end up doing is we do too much for our kids as a way to love them." "I want you to pretend that there's no one here to solve this problem and your life depends on solving this problem. And I bet you can solve it." "We just undermine or underestimate our children. We underestimate what they have to offer and they'll feel that over time." "One of the best things we can do is let go of our image of them and really see them for who they are." "Parenting is not a hundred yard dash. It's a really long ultra marathon." "You do not have to be autonomy supportive every minute of every day to be an autonomy-supportive parent."

Kitchen Secrets for the Holidays with Jason "Chop Happy" Goldstein In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, Christopher Robbins hosts food blogger Jason Goldstein. Goldstein, known as Chop Happy, shares insights and tips for preparing stress-free holiday meals, highlighting the importance of creating a positive kitchen environment. He provides innovative kitchen hacks, including using a mason jar to peel garlic and a lint roller for cleanup. The episode also explores creative ways to handle leftovers and suggests easy, no-fuss baking ideas for people who don't enjoy baking, rounding out with ways to contact Goldstein online. Episode Highlights 00:00:10: Christopher Robbins introduces the Helping Families Be Happy podcast along with guest Jason Goldstein. 00:01:11: Jason Goldstein is introduced as a food blogger specializing in comfort dishes and easy recipes. 00:01:57: Jason shares tips for reducing holiday stress and creating a happy kitchen atmosphere. 00:03:45: Discussion about the benefits of garlic and an innovative method for peeling using a mason jar. 00:04:37: Jason shares cleanup tips using butter spray on cheese graters and utilizing a lint roller. 00:06:25: Advice on cooking bacon, suggesting oven baking as the best method for avoiding a mess. 00:07:15: Ideas for handling leftovers, including making vegetable stock and casseroles from scraps. 00:09:28: Suggestions for gifting hosts, like bringing breakfast or prepared foods for the morning after. 00:09:58: Discusses less desirable recipes and how to make baking easier with store-bought mixes and alternatives. 00:12:32: Ways to connect with Jason Goldstein online and learn more about his work. 00:12:59: Conclusion of the podcast with a thank you to the audience and Famis for their support. Key Takeaways The kitchen should be seen as a happy, nurturing environment where cooking becomes an enjoyable activity. Innovative cooking and cleanup tips can greatly reduce holiday meal preparation stress and save time. Effortlessly handling leftovers can save money and make use of the remaining ingredients creatively. For less enthusiastic bakers, simple substitutes and alternative baking methods can make dessert preparation hassle-free. Thoughtful gift ideas for hosts include preparing meals or breakfast items to offer after holiday gatherings. Tweetable Quotes "Think of the kitchen as a canvas and cooking as painting, with every dish nourishing your soul." - Jason Goldstein "Chop Happy: Create a positive kitchen environment for a stress-free, enjoyable cooking experience." - Jason Goldstein "Make an extra casserole from holiday leftovers and save money while reducing food waste." -Jason Goldstein

Language is Fun! The Compound Noun Treasure Hunt with Kimberlee Gard In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, host Adina Oberman interviews award-winning children's author Kimberlee Gard about her newest book "The Compound Noun Treasure Hunt," part of the Language is Fun series. Kimberlee shares her personal journey of overcoming dyslexia and her mission to create engaging books that inspire a love of reading in children, especially reluctant readers. The conversation covers practical strategies for parents and teachers supporting struggling readers, including the use of high-interest low-level books, audiobooks, and incorporating reading into everyday activities. Kimberlee also discusses her collaboration with Familius and illustrator Sandy Sonke in bringing compound words to life through an adventure story that makes learning fun and interactive. Episode Highlights 00:00:10: Host Adina Oberman introduces the podcast and guest Kimberlee Gard, an award-winning children's author who overcame dyslexia to write books that inspire love of reading. 00:01:29: Kimberlee expresses enthusiasm about returning to the podcast and discussing her work 00:01:34: Discussion begins about Kimberlee's newest book in the Language is Fun series 00:01:48: Kimberlee introduces "The Compound Noun Treasure Hunt" featuring new characters going on an adventure while discovering compound words 00:02:21: Adina requests more details about the compound word book and the broader Language is Fun series. 00:02:30: Kimberlee credits Familius founder, Christopher, for the book's concept and praises illustrator Sandie Sonke's work in bringing the interactive story to life. 00:03:38: Kimberlee explains her mission to inspire love of reading, especially for reluctant readers and children with dyslexia like herself. 00:04:19: Adina discusses how the books resonate with families and are available on educational platforms including Netflix, making them accessible in classrooms. 00:05:52: Kimberlee provides comprehensive advice for supporting reluctant readers, emphasizing the importance of recognizing reading difficulties and potential learning disabilities early. 00:07:14: Detailed strategies shared including high-interest low-level books, audiobooks, incorporating reading into daily life, and creating reading routines 00:08:13: Additional tips include using rewards, bedtime routines, car audiobooks, visiting little free libraries, and modeling love of reading 00:09:28: Idina appreciates the practical on-the-go strategies and shares how podcasts have inspired her children's reading interests 00:10:56: Kimberly suggests summer reading challenges and charts as additional motivation for children 00:11:17: Discussion of creative approaches like planning mini-adventures based on books being read 00:12:29: Kimberly teases future books in the series and emphasizes the value of author school visits for engaging students. 00:13:47: Idina asks for contact information and where listeners can find Kimberly's work. 00:13:57: Kimberly provides her website and mentions books are available nationwide, offering to help with reading struggles. 00:14:23: Information about the new book's August release date and availability. 00:14:37: Closing pleasantries and thanks. 00:14:39: Host concludes with thanks to Familius and encouragement for listeners to subscribe and review. Key Takeaways Early identification of learning difficulties like dyslexia is crucial for getting children the resources they need. High-interest, low-level books can help reluctant readers feel capable and accomplished Audiobooks and read-alongs significantly improve fluency and comprehension while reducing reading pressure. Incorporating reading into everyday activities (menus, signs, recipes) makes it feel purposeful and fun. Creating consistent reading routines, whether through bedtime stories or car audiobooks, builds positive associations. Parents modeling enthusiasm for reading directly influences children's attitudes toward books Interactive and engaging educational content can make learning grammar fundamentals feel like entertainment rather than academic work. Author visits to schools can significantly boost student engagement with reading and writing. Quotable Moments "If you can make learning fun and engaging, it just takes the work of reading away and they can get excited about it." - Kimberlee Gard "Reading is hard. It is really hard for children to learn and some children pick it up really quick and others struggle a little bit more." -Kimberlee Gard "If your kids see you excited about books, excited to go to the library, excited to go to the bookstore, excited to have reading time, they can start to enjoy it as well." -Kimberlee Gard "My hope for all of the books in the Learning is Fun series is just to inspire kids to have a love for reading." - Kimberlee Gard

Cooking Up French Cuisine with Your Kids Barbara Beery In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, host Adina Oberman interviews Barbara Beery, founder of Foodie Kids Culinary Center and author of 20 cookbooks, about her newest release "Ooh La La Kids Cook French" launching November 2025. Barbara shares her passion for teaching children French cooking techniques through approachable recipes that emphasize fresh ingredients and family bonding. The conversation explores how cooking with children builds confidence, creates lasting memories, and provides valuable life skills while making sophisticated cuisine accessible to young chefs aged 10-15. Episode Highlights 00:00:10: Host Adina Oberman introduces the Helping Families Be Happy podcast and welcomes guest, Barbara Beery, founder of Foodie Kids Culinary Center and author of 20 cookbooks. 00:01:22: Barbara expresses gratitude for being on the show. 00:01:25: Discussion begins about Barbara's new cookbook "Ooh La La Kids Cook French" and its origins. 00:01:43: Barbara shares her childhood cooking experiences with her German mother and how "Mastering the Art of French Cooking" became her first cookbook inspiration. 00:02:34: Barbara explains how children naturally learn cooking without fear of failure and discusses the target age group (10-15) for her new French cookbook. 00:03:34: Adina asks about favorite recipes and highlights from the cookbook. 00:03:49: Barbara discusses her love for crepes as a versatile and simple recipe, along with French pesto made with parsley and various desserts like cream puffs. 00:05:17: Adina praises how Barbara makes French cuisine approachable for families and mentions the fondue recipe. 00:06:23: Barbara acknowledges forgetting to mention the fondue recipe initially. 00:06:32: Discussion about Barbara's experience teaching fondue in cooking classes. 00:06:42: Barbara describes the popularity of French cooking in summer camps and the herb garden experience that amazed children. 00:08:01: Adina reflects on the importance of hands-on experiences for children and asks about recommended starter recipes. 00:09:06: Barbara suggests soup as the most forgiving recipe for beginners, along with crepes and fondue. 00:10:04: Discussion about chocolate fondue and Valentine's Day traditions. 00:10:30: Adina emphasizes how cooking creates lasting memories and family traditions. 00:11:05: Barbara shares key takeaways about empowering children through cooking and the immediate gratification it provides. 00:12:02: Adina agrees and highlights the focused quality time cooking provides between parents and children. 00:12:27: Barbara emphasizes that cooking with kids is about the journey, not the destination. 00:12:39: Adina asks about how listeners can find Barbara online. 00:12:55: Barbara provides her website (barbarabeery.com) and Instagram information 00:13:21: Information about where to purchase the cookbook when it releases in November 2025 00:13:34: Barbara thanks the host for the interview. 00:13:37: Closing remarks and credits from host Adina Oberman. Key Takeaways French cooking can be made accessible to children through age-appropriate recipes that focus on fresh ingredients and simple techniques. Cooking with children builds confidence and provides immediate gratification, unlike activities that require years of practice to master. Starting with forgiving recipes like soups, crepes, and fondue helps children develop cooking skills without fear of failure. Hands-on experiences, such as cutting fresh herbs from a garden, create lasting memories and deepen children's appreciation for fresh ingredients. Cooking together provides quality family time focused on connection, learning, and creating traditions that span generations. The process of cooking with children is more important than the final product - it's about the journey and shared experience Quotable Moments "Children can learn anything if they're taught and it's done in segments and it's something that's appropriate for their age level, they have no qualms about cooking like a lot of adults do." - Barbara Beery "Doesn't have to be something fancy, it needs to be fresh, and your ingredients are what your meal is about." - Barbara Beery "I don't think there's anything better we can do for our kids than that [providing them with something they can own and feel proud of]." - Barbara Beery "With cooking with kids, it's not about the destination. It really is about the journey." - Barbara Beery "Those are the kinds of things that people remember. You know, that's what you can pass on to your kids." -Barbara Beery

What to Consider when Medicating Children with Doctors Pilar Trelles and Robert Jaffe In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy Podcast, host Christopher Robbins is joined by Dr. Pilar Trelles and Dr. Robert Jaffe to discuss their book, "A Parent's Guide to Starting Psychiatric Medications for Kids: Start Low and Go Slow When Medicating Children." The episode delves into the complexities of pediatric psychiatric medication, addressing common questions and misconceptions that parents might have. Both experts emphasize the importance of having a strong relationship with a psychiatrist and approach psychiatric medication as a part of a comprehensive treatment plan for mental health conditions in children. They stress a methodical approach to medication, aptly summarized by their book's title, "Start Low and Go Slow." Episode Highlights 00:00:10: Introduction of the Helping Families Be Happy Podcast and its host, Christopher Robbins. 00:01:40: Introduction of guests, Dr. Pilar Trelles and Dr. Robert Jaffe, and their credentials. 00:02:00: Discussion about the catalyst for writing the book concerning medicating children. 00:02:41: Acknowledgment of the stigma and misconceptions surrounding mental health medication for children. 00:03:42: Explanation of the role psychiatric medications can play in treatment and improving children's life trajectories. 00:05:35: Emphasis on the importance of a good relationship with a psychiatrist. 00:06:30: Overview of what the book covers, including different issues related to medicating children. 00:08:31: Addressing myths versus facts regarding psychiatric medications for children. 00:09:30: Discussion on a thoughtful approach to medication alongside therapy and good doctor relationships. 00:11:39: The importance of the comprehensive decision-making process in pediatric medication. 00:13:15: Final thoughts from Dr. Jaffe and Dr.Trelles on the key takeaway messages for parents. 00:16:23: Conclusion of the episode with insightful reflections from both the authors. Key Takeaways Establish a strong relationship with a child's psychiatrist to ensure well-informed treatment plans. Mental health medication for children should be considered carefully and is not always required as the sole solution. The book "A Parent's Guide to Starting Psychiatric Medications for Kids: Start Low and Go Slow When Medicating Children." aims to demystify psychiatric medication, guiding parents to make informed decisions. Psychoeducation for parents can lead to better advocacy and more effective outcomes for children in mental health treatment. Tweetable Quotes "Start low and go slow; that's our mantra for medicating kids responsibly." - Dr. Robert Jaffe & Dr. Pilar Trelles "Medications, if prescribed wisely, can be life-changing for children with psychiatric conditions." - Dr. Pilar Trelles "Parents are their children's experts; we're here to provide knowledge and support." - Dr. Robert Jaffe

Celebrate Hispanic Heritage Month with Ericka Sanchez In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, host Christopher Robbins interviews Ericka Sanchez, a Mexican-born recipe developer, food stylist, and creator of the award-winning blog Nibbles and Feasts. Ericka shares her journey from documenting family recipes to becoming a successful cookbook author with four published books. She discusses the deep influence of her grandmother and mother on her passion for Mexican cuisine, the importance of breakfast in Hispanic culture, and meaningful traditions like Día de los Muertos. The conversation explores how food serves as a bridge to cultural heritage and family connection, while Ericka offers practical advice for those wanting to explore Mexican cooking and incorporate its flavors into their own kitchens. Episode Highlights 00:00:10: Christopher Robbins introduces the podcast and welcomes listeners to explore family, love, and relationships. 00:00:10: Introduction of guest Ericka Sanchez, Mexican-born recipe developer, food stylist, and food photographer. 00:00:10: Background on Ericka's immigration from Torreon, Mexico to El Paso, Texas at age eight. 00:00:10: Discussion of Ericka's bicultural life and cooking memories with her grandmother and mother. 00:00:10: Overview of Nibbles and Feasts blog started in 2010 to catalog family recipes. 00:01:18: Mention of Ericka's four cookbooks including Aguas Frescas & Paletas, ¡Buen Provecho!, ¡Buenos Días!, and Spicy Sauces and Moles. 00:01:18: Recognition of Ericka's features in publications like Oprah Daily, Parents, and Eating Well. 00:01:18: Discussion of Ericka's cooking series on Recipe TV Network. 00:01:18: Background on Ericka's 20-year career in marketing and social media. 00:01:18: Christopher shares his personal experience living among Hispanic communities in the 1980s. 00:02:52: Ericka expresses happiness about finally talking with Christopher. 00:02:56: Discussion begins about the origin of the blog name "Nibbles and Feasts." 00:03:08: Ericka explains the blog started during the mommy blogger era as an outlet after her son was born. 00:03:08: The name originally covered all types of recipes before focusing on Latin-inspired cuisine. 00:04:00: Ericka describes wanting to create a recipe catalog for her son to access as he grew up. 00:04:02: Discussion of how the blog evolved from personal project to successful business. 00:04:25: Christopher asks about specific memories that sparked Ericka's passion for cooking. 00:04:45: Ericka shares memories of visiting her grandmother's bodega-style store in Mexico during summers. 00:04:45: Description of helping grandmother prepare and sell food, particularly breaded fish. 00:05:33: Discussion of Hispanic traditions important to Ericka's family beyond cooking. 00:05:50: Ericka explains the importance of Día de los Muertos celebration with altars, flowers, and food. 00:06:27: Christopher shares his observation of brightly decorated Hispanic cemeteries in Central California. 00:07:15: Ericka describes her dream dinner party menu featuring traditional mole with rice and beans. 00:07:15: Guest list includes her grandmother, Mexican President Claudia Sheinbaum, and Frida Kahlo. 00:08:17: Discussion of essential pantry staples in Ericka's kitchen. 00:08:29: Ericka identifies dried chilies as indispensable for adding flavor to dishes. 00:08:58: Discussion of cilantro as both pantry staple and experimental ingredient in sauces and broths. 00:09:26: Brief tangent about people who experience cilantro tasting like soap. 00:09:37: Christopher asks for advice on learning about Mexican cuisine and culture. 00:09:55: Ericka recommends starting with familiar ingredients and asking questions at stores. 00:09:55: Suggestion to compare Mexican cheeses like cotija to familiar options like feta. 00:10:54: Christopher shares his favorite Mexican-inspired breakfast with eggs, avocado, and pico de gallo. 00:11:34: Ericka explains why breakfast is significant in Hispanic culture as family gathering time. 00:11:34: Discussion of breakfast as opportunity for conversation and connection regardless of busy schedules. 00:12:26: Introduction to Ericka's existing cookbooks including Buenos Días and Spicy Salsas 00:12:49: Ericka reveals upcoming taco-focused cookbook currently in progress. 00:12:49: Discussion of future book on Mexican cooking essentials aimed at college students and those reconnecting with roots. 00:13:39: Christopher refers to future project as "Mastering the Art of Mexican Cooking." 00:13:59: Ericka shares where to find her online at nibblesandfeasts.com and social media 00:14:17: Christopher concludes with thanks and encouragement to subscribe and leave reviews. Key Takeaways Food serves as a powerful connection to cultural heritage and family traditions, preserving memories across generations. Starting with familiar ingredients and asking questions is the best approach when exploring a new cuisine like Mexican cooking. Breakfast holds special significance in Hispanic culture as a time for family connection and conversation, not just sustenance. Essential Mexican pantry staples like dried chilies and cilantro can transform everyday cooking with authentic flavors. Cultural traditions like Día de los Muertos help families maintain connections to their roots and honor those who came before. Passion projects that start as personal endeavors can evolve into meaningful careers when they authentically reflect one's heritage. Comparing unfamiliar ingredients to similar familiar ones (like cotija cheese to feta) helps overcome intimidation in trying new cuisines. Quotable Moments "It was just more of just having a recipe catalog for my family" - Ericka on the original purpose of Nibbles and Feasts. "Every time I see breaded fish, I'd always think of her" - Ericka remembering her grandmother's specialty dish. "Hispanic heritage, one in my house, there's, it's an everyday thing" - Ericka on celebrating culture daily. "I feel bad for those people" - Ericka responding to those who taste cilantro as soap "We always eat breakfast, even if it's a Wednesday morning. We sit and we eat breakfast" - Ericka on the importance of breakfast in Hispanic culture. "It's just a way of bringing everybody together and talking about our day" - Ericka on breakfast as family connection time. "You have to experiment and find out how it's used" - Ericka's advice for exploring Mexican ingredients.

Building Routines & Positive Behavior Strategies with "Academically April" In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, host Adina Oberman talks to April, an educator and member of the PBIS team in her California school district. April shares her strategies for building effective classroom routines and the importance of positive behavior interventions. They also discuss how parents can implement similar routines at home to encourage consistency and set clear expectations for their children. April emphasizes the importance of moving from tangible incentives to intrinsic motivation for students, both in the classroom and at home. Episode Highlights 00:00:10: Introduction to the podcast episode and guest April's background. 00:01:39: Discussion on building effective routines and strategies for classroom management. 00:02:56: Techniques for establishing and maintaining classroom routines, emphasizing the initial weeks. 00:03:41: The importance of consistent routines for children, both in school and at home. 00:04:15: Suggestions for parents on implementing effective routines at home. 00:05:28: Tips on using timers and visual schedules to create home routines. 00:06:19: Visual aids as a helpful tool for children to understand daily scheduling. 00:08:10: Explanation of Positive Behavioral Interventions and Supports (PBIS) and its implementation at April's school. 00:10:16: The role of community, including teachers and parents, in reinforcing positive behaviors. 00:11:45: The connection between school and home expectations through positive behavior strategies. 00:13:56: Encouragement to transition from incentives to intrinsic motivation for children. 00:14:48: Discussion on building values and community engagement within children. 00:17:00: Information on how to connect with April online for further insights. Key Takeaways Establishing consistent routines can significantly aid in children's adaptability both at school and at home. Implementing visual aids and timers can help children better understand and follow daily schedules. Positive behavior interventions require collaboration between schools and families to be most effective. Parents should work towards fostering intrinsic motivation in children to encourage self-motivated positive behavior. Tweetable Quotes "Consistency makes kids really successful." - April, Educator and PBIS Team Member "We want those incentives to go away so children act because they feel good about it." - April, Educator "A community approach is essential for positive behavior reinforcement in children." - Adina Oberman, Podcast Host.

Helping Children Learn Sportsmanship with Dr. Frank Sileo In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, host Christopher Robbins welcomes Dr. Frank Sileo, a New Jersey licensed psychologist and author, to discuss sportsmanship as an important value for children. They explore the role of parents, coaches, and teachers in modeling good sportsmanship and the impact of competition on a child's ability to develop empathy and teamwork. The conversation also covers strategies for helping children handle losses gracefully and address struggles with anxiety and emotional regulation related to competition. Dr. Sileo emphasizes the need for parents to observe their children's behaviors and engage in meaningful conversations to foster positive sports experiences. Episode Highlights00:00:10: Introduction of the podcast and its host, Christopher Robbins, who introduces the guest, Dr. Frank Sileo. 00:01:17: Overview of Dr. Sileo's credentials and his work in psychology and literature. 00:02:27: Introduction to the topic of sportsmanship and its importance in childhood development. 00:02:45: Discussion on the significance of parents modeling good sportsmanship behavior. 00:03:13: Insights on how competition can influence children's empathy and teamwork abilities. 00:05:11: Addressing the cultural emphasis on winning and how to nurture graceful losing in children. 00:06:09: The role of adults in framing competition for children to promote healthy behaviors. 00:08:23: Recommendations for helping children handle losses with perspective and humor. 00:11:43: Strategies for effective communication with children struggling with competition. 00:14:51: Recognizing signs of struggle with competition and suggested responses. 00:18:58: Resources for parents to help children improve sportsmanship and emotional regulation. 00:22:08: Announcement of Dr. Sileo's upcoming book, "Meatball Sunday," and its themes. 00:23:17: Information on where to find more about Dr. Frank Sileo online. 00:23:45: Closing gratitude to the podcast's supporters and listeners, along with a call for feedback. Key Takeaways The behaviors parents model have a significant impact on children’s sportsmanship and emotional development. Healthy competition can enhance children's empathy and teamwork if framed positively by adults. Normalize losing and view it as an opportunity for learning and growth rather than failure. Maintain open, supportive discussions with children about their feelings related to competition. Be attentive to a child’s non-verbal cues, as they might indicate stress or discomfort with competition. Tweetable Quotes "You've won if you've had fun." – Dr. Frank Sileo "Sportsmanship lays the foundation for how children treat others beyond the field." – Dr. Frank Sileo "Life is about the process, not just the results." – Episode Discussion "Use your relationship with your child to open doors for important conversations." – Dr. Frank Sileo.

How Lunch Makes a Happier and More Successful Family In this episode of "Helping Families Be Happy Podcast," Christopher Robbins welcomes Bri DeRosa to discuss the importance and benefits of family meals, not just during dinner but also lunch. They highlight research showing that sharing meals improves happiness and mental health across all ages. The conversation delves into the impact of shared meals on children, touching on topics like academic performance, reducing anxiety, and promoting early literacy skills. The episode also offers practical tips on simplifying lunch preparation and encouraging children to pack their own lunches to foster independence. Episode Highlights 00:00:09: Introduction to the "Helping Families Be Happy Podcast," host Christopher Robbins, and guest Bri DeRosa, who discusses the value of family meals. 00:01:48: Bri expresses her enthusiasm for talking about lunches and family meals. 00:01:58: Christopher transitions into discussing research about shared meals and their importance in making people happier. 00:02:20: Brie discusses the global research findings that shared meals, such as lunch, contribute significantly to happiness and well-being. 00:03:29: Christopher asks about the specific benefits of eating together for children, such as reduced anxiety and improved academic performance. 00:03:50: Bri affirms the benefits and elaborates on how shared meals positively impact children's mental health and educational outcomes. 00:05:35: Discussion about introducing vocabulary and literacy through shared meals, emphasizing the benefits of exposing children to novel words. 00:06:13: Transition to the practicalities of packing lunches, with Bri providing simple strategies for meal prep. 00:06:29: Bri advises that lunch preparation need not be elaborate, focusing on what children will enjoy and eat easily. 00:08:39: Discussion about the sensory and social challenges children face during school lunches and tips on mitigating them. 00:09:55: Advice on simplifying school lunches and helping children manage lunchtime stressors with an introduction to self-reliance in meal preparation. 00:13:02: Encouragement for parents to involve children in packing their lunches to foster independence. 00:15:35: Christopher and Bri discuss dinner leftovers as a resourceful way to prepare lunches, offering creative ideas. 00:19:36: Christopher concludes the episode, encouraging families to eat together more frequently and highlighting resources like the Family Dinner Project. Key Takeaways Shared meals, whether breakfast, lunch, or dinner, contribute significantly to individual happiness and family bonding. Family meals improve children's mental health, reduce risky behaviors, and enhance academic performance. Encouraging children to participate in meal preparation fosters independence and builds self-reliance from a young age. Incorporating literacy and vocabulary into mealtime conversations can bolster children's early literacy skills. Tweetable Quotes "Sharing meals with others makes you a happier person, even more so than employment or health status."- Bri DeRosa "Eating with your kids boosts their early literacy skills and reading scores even more than reading to them." - Bri DeRosa "Don't be afraid to give kids responsibility in packing their own lunches; it builds self-reliance and independence." - Bri DeRosa

Raising a Happy and Thriving Only Child In this episode of the "Helping Families Be Happy" podcast, host Christopher Robbins and guest Rebecca Greene, a mental health therapist, delve into the complexities of raising an only child. Rebecca shares insights from her book "One and Done: The Guide to Raising a Happy and Thriving Only Child," addressing common concerns such as loneliness, social skills, and the pressures on an only child. The discussion covers the importance of socialization, balancing extracurricular activities, and the significance of finding solitude over loneliness. The conversation also touches on the positive perspectives of adult only children, emphasizing that a single-child family can indeed thrive. Episode Highlights 00:00:10: Introduction to the podcast and host Christopher Robbins, discussion on family and relationships. 00:01:12: Guest introduction, Rebecca Greene, her background, books, and focus on one-child families. 00:02:19: Host's perspective on being an only child and having nine children; introduction to common concerns of raising an only child. 00:02:50: Discussion on concerns like loneliness, selfishness, social skills, and future caregiving responsibilities of an only child. 00:04:15: In-depth discussion on the myth of the "lonely only" and the findings that only children are not lonelier than those with siblings. 00:05:54: Suggestions for parents on how to reduce loneliness via early socialization and engaging in extracurricular activities. 00:07:17: Benefits of team sports and activities as tools for building family-like relationships outside of school for only children. 00:08:31: Exploring the difference between solitude and loneliness; red flags indicating loneliness in only children. 00:11:18: Tips on avoiding overscheduling and ensuring a balance between structured activities and free play. 00:13:57: Importance of mental respite and moments of creativity found in unstructured time. 00:14:39: decision factors for having one child and insight into therapy for processing this decision. 00:16:18: Positive feedback from adult only children on their childhood experiences and benefits. 00:17:51: Finding happiness in any family structure and information on where to find Rebecca Greene's work. Key Takeaways The stereotype of the "lonely only" is largely unfounded, with research indicating no significant difference in loneliness between only children and those with siblings. Early socialization and participation in extracurricular activities can significantly benefit an only child, reducing feelings of loneliness and improving social skills. A balance between structured activities and free play is crucial for children's development, avoiding potential overscheduling and allowing for creativity. Parents of only children should be attentive to signs of loneliness and should actively create opportunities for social engagement. Many adult only children reflect positively on their childhood experiences, enjoying the benefits of being the sole focus of their parents' attention. Tweetable Quotes "Research shows only children are no more lonely than children with siblings." - Rebecca Greene "Socialization and team activities are key to reducing loneliness in only children." - Rebecca Greene "The difference between solitude and loneliness is crucial for a child's development." - Rebecca Greene "Finding balance in structured activities and free play is essential." - Rebecca Greene "Many adult only children cherish the unique benefits of their upbringing." - Rebecca Greene

The Ten Habits of Happy Families The podcast episode, introduced by Christopher Robbins, co-founder of Familius, focuses on the 10 habits of a happy family. Christopher shares a personal story about his grandfather's influence on his understanding of habits and character. The episode dives into the essential family habits like eating, healing, laughing, learning, loving, playing, reading, talking, working, and giving together, emphasizing their impact on building a successful, happy family environment. Christopher also highlights the importance of serving others, especially during challenging times like the COVID pandemic, to cultivate happiness and improve social connections within families. Episode Highlights 00:00:10: Christopher welcomes listeners to the Familius Weekly podcast and explains the motivation behind the podcast's focus on family habits. 00:01:06: Christopher recounts a memorable vacation with his grandfather and shares a favorite quote by Ralph Waldo Emerson, emphasizing the importance of thoughts and habits in shaping character and destiny. 00:02:02: Christopher discusses the challenges and realities of family life, recognizing happiness and sadness as part of existence and the role of habits in maintaining a happy family. 00:02:55: The first habit discussed is "Eat Together," highlighting the benefits of family meals, including reduced risk of eating disorders and improved self-esteem. 00:03:47: "Heal Together" is introduced as a family habit, focusing on the importance of collective healing through support and kindness during difficult times. 00:04:46: "Laugh Together" is covered, illustrating the health benefits of laughter, such as increased resilience and creativity, and its role in alleviating family stress. 00:05:50: "Learn Together" highlights the lifelong benefits of collective learning, promoting curiosity and expanding knowledge within the family unit. 00:06:47: "Read Together" discusses bonding through reading, citing personal family experiences and the benefits of improved vocabulary and life lessons. 00:07:42: "Talk Together" emphasizes effective communication as fundamental to building trust and resolving issues within the family. 00:08:41: "Work Together" advocates for collaborative efforts in family projects to instill perseverance and character-building. 00:09:35: "Give Together" explores the happiness derived from serving others and how contributing to the well-being of others positively affects family dynamics and personal fulfillment. Key Takeaways The foundation of a happy family lies in cultivating positive habits that foster love, communication, and collaboration. Engaging in activities such as shared meals, laughter, and communal learning strengthens family bonds and improves individual well-being. Serving others as a family not only enhances social connections but also instills a sense of purpose and collective joy. Balancing work and play and maintaining open communication are critical to handling family challenges effectively. Tweetable Quotes "Sow a thought and you reap an action. Sow an act and you reap a habit. Sow a habit, and you reap a character; sow a character, and you reap a destiny." - Ralph Waldo Emerson "The family who eats together stays together." - Christopher Robbins "We work to fall in love, but without work, we can fall out of love." - Christopher Robbins "Losing ourselves in the service of others makes us happy and improves our outlook." - Christopher Robbins

Better Family Photos with Matt Payne This episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast is hosted by Christopher Robbins and features guest Matt Payne, a professional landscape photographer from Colorado. They discuss the intersection of photography, family experiences, and nature, with insights into making photography an integral part of family moments. They explore how to capture authentic family moments, overcome children's reluctance to engage with nature, and create a mindful connection with the outdoors. Matt also shares his insights on the importance of creativity in photography and preparing to publish a book focused on Colorado's natural beauty. Episode Highlights 00:00:10: Introduction to the podcast and today's guest, Matt Payne, with a brief overview of his background and achievements. 00:01:17: Matt's work and passions are discussed, emphasizing his advocacy for family and children engagement in nature. 00:02:02: Conversation on the challenges and joys of parenting, especially with a large family, with humor and personal anecdotes. 00:02:49: Matt explains how his early experiences in nature influenced his passion for photography and shaped his values and ethics. 00:04:06: Discussion of a childhood memory that underscores the powerful lessons of respect and reverence for nature. 00:06:13: Advice on focusing on capturing authentic family experiences in photography rather than technical details. 00:08:19: The value of capturing candid life moments rather than staged photos is discussed. 00:09:42: Strategies for encouraging children to enjoy outdoor activities and engage with nature. 00:11:34: Use of phones for both entertainment and photography in natural settings as a tool for engagement is suggested. 00:12:36: Nature as an analogy for parenting and as a source of lessons and inspiration. 00:14:27: Opportunities for photography in everyday settings right outside one's front door are encouraged.00:15:38: Tips for improving photography by focusing on creativity and dismissing negative self- perceptions. 00:16:46: Starting photography with a smartphone as a practical first step for beginners. 00:17:31: Discussion of Matt's upcoming book celebrating Colorado's awe-inspiring landscapes. 00:18:21: Closing remarks with information on where to find more about Matt Payne's work online. Key Takeaways Photography is about capturing the essence of experiences and emotions, not just technical perfection. Encouraging children to engage with nature can start with simple, fun activities, linking interests like photography and creativity. Allowing children to make mistakes and learn from their experiences outdoors is crucial for developing independence and problem-solving skills. Great photographs can arise from capturing everyday life moments and authentic interactions, not just grand, planned photo shoots. Using a smartphone camera can be an excellent way to start exploring photography without a major investment. Tweetable Quotes "Focus on celebrating those experiences and those magical moments you have with people that you love." - Matt Payne "Nature is an amazing place but it's also a dangerous place and you need to give it respect." - Matt Payne "Let nature be a good teacher and let people make mistakes. You're gonna learn a lot faster from them than just preventing the mistake." - Matt Payne "Nature is providing pretty much everywhere, even in your own backyard, with bugs and plants and weird things you find under nooks and crannies." - Matt Payne  

A Couple's Guide to Happy Retirement and Aging The Helping Families Be Happy podcast, hosted by Christopher Robbins, features Dr. Sara Yogev, an experienced clinical psychologist. They discuss the effects of retirement on personal identity and relationships, emphasizing psychological and emotional preparation in addition to financial planning. Dr. Yogev highlights the common issues retirees face, such as changes in relationship dynamics, communication challenges, and the need for meaningful engagement in retirement. Key strategies for maintaining healthy relationships include open communication, understanding, and compromise. Episode Highlights 00:00:09: Introduction to the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, hosted by Christopher Robbins, highlighting its focus on family, love, and relationships. 00:01:19: Introduction of guest Dr. Sara Yogev, her background as a clinical psychologist, and work on dual-career couples and retirement. 00:02:12: Discussion on the topic of gray divorce and how divorce rates have increased for those over age 50. 00:02:28: Introduction of personal anecdotes, noting changes in family dynamics as children leave home. 00:02:53: Exploration of how retirement affects relationships and the importance of psychological and emotional preparation. 00:04:30: Discussion on the individual impact of retirement and the necessity to find a new purpose post- retirement. 00:07:00: Emphasis on preparing psychologically for retirement and planning how to spend time during this stage of life. 00:08:24: Analysis of retirement’s impact on marital relationships and the need to renegotiate time spent together and apart. 00:10:19: Importance of maintaining good communication to navigate retirement transitions. 00:12:45: Negotiating time with friends and family as another domain of focus during retirement. 00:14:06: Potential issues related to division of household work post-retirement. 00:16:15: Discussion on changing financial dynamics and spending habits in retirement. 00:18:21: Highlight of real-life examples where expectations differed within retirement plans. 00:19:07: Importance of successful communication, listening, and understanding in retirement relationships. 00:22:40: The potential beneficial role of therapy in retirement for better communication and relationship management. 00:23:13: Personal insights from Dr. Yogev on her own experiences with retirement negotiations. 00:23:41: Conclusion with advice on the importance of flexibility and continuously adapting within relationships. Key Takeaways Psychological and emotional preparation are as crucial as financial planning for retirement. Retirement can drastically change relationship dynamics, requiring open communication and renegotiation of roles. Finding a purpose post-retirement is vital to maintaining mental health and personal fulfillment. Therapy can be a valuable tool for couples to navigate the challenges of retirement successfully. Tweetable Quotes "It's important to prepare not just financially, but psychologically and emotionally for retirement." - Dr. Sara Yogev "In retirement, find a reason to get up in the morning to feel more fulfilled." - Dr. Sarah Yogev "Good communication is the cornerstone of a healthy relationship, especially in retirement." - Dr. Sara Yogev "Remain flexible; the dynamic of your relationship will evolve as you navigate retirement together." - Dr. Sara Yogev

What You Need to Know if You Live Abroad with Melissa Dalton Bradford This episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast features Christopher Robbins in conversation with Melissa Dalton Bradford. Melissa, an experienced global citizen, shares insights into the intricacies of living abroad and raising a family across multiple countries. They discuss practical aspects such as learning the local language, understanding legal regulations, education options for children, and the emotional impact of frequent relocations. Melissa reflects on the personal growth and resilience developed through her family's international experiences, while also acknowledging some challenges and solutions learned along the way. Episode Highlights 00:00:10: Introduction to the podcast and host, Christopher Robbins. 00:00:41: Introduction of guest, Melissa Dalton Bradford, and her background. 00:02:02: Melissa talks about adjusting to Germany's weather and nature. 00:03:22: Discussion on the importance of learning the local language for integration. 00:04:18: Overview of the countries Melissa's family has lived in and the languages they speak. 00:06:40: Challenges and considerations of living abroad with children. 00:10:23: First experiences of moving internationally and encountering language barriers. 00:15:19: Strategies for helping children adapt to new school systems and environments. 00:21:55: Considerations for deciding the duration of living abroad and integration level. 00:24:40: Necessity of healthcare coverage and other financial aspects for expatriates. 00:25:08: Personal reflections on the benefits and challenges of living abroad. 00:29:59: Information on where to find Melissa Bradley online. Key Takeaways Learning the local language is crucial for true cultural integration and building meaningful connections. Research legal regulations, health care requirements, and residency permits before moving abroad. Understand educational options for children to ensure their smooth transition and academic success. Balance commitment to new cultures with maintaining psychological stability for children and adults. Tweetable Quotes "You can get by in English, but you can't get in." - Melissa Dalton Bradford "For every author, there's never enough publicity and the royalty checks are never large enough." -Christopher Robbins "I know how to make this work. I'm gonna make it work." - Melissa Dalton Bradford

The Nature of Color with Kimberly Collins Jermain In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, host Christopher Robbins introduces Kimberly Collins Jermain, a painter, teacher, and architectural color designer. They discuss Kimberly's new book, "The Nature of Color," which serves as a field guide for exploring color in the natural world. The conversation delves into the science of how humans perceive color, differences in color perception between men and women, and the emotional and relational impact of color. Kimberly emphasizes the importance of being outdoors to truly appreciate and learn from nature's palette. Episode Highlights 00:00:10: Introduction to the Helping Families Be Happy podcast and Christopher Robbins. 00:00:10: Christopher introduces guest Kimberly Collins Jermain and her work as a painter, teacher, and author focused on color. 00:02:03: Kimberly shares her journey of creating a more engaging approach to color theory for her students. 00:03:09: Discussion on how humans perceive color through the eyes' rods and cones. 00:04:44: Differences in color perception between men and women are explored. 00:06:01: Understanding that individuals may perceive the same color differently and its impact on art and architecture. 00:07:15: How color influences mood and family dynamics is discussed. 00:09:06: Kimberly explains why nature is crucial for learning about color. 00:10:07: Insight into using "The Nature of Color" book as a field guide for personal exploration in nature. 00:11:41: Kimberly's approach to appreciating different artists and how personal interests guide artistic exploration. 00:13:02: Christopher shares his admiration for Van Gogh's unique painting style and its possible origins. 00:14:48: Kimberly's hopes for what readers will gain from her book. 00:16:45: Discussion on experiencing vibrant fall colors and the natural world. 00:17:00: Encouragement to engage with nature and use the book as a simple guide. 00:17:32: Kimberly provides information on where to find her work online. 00:17:55: Conclusion encouraging subscription to the podcast and exploring books from Familius. Key Takeaways The perception of color is subjective and can vary between individuals, genders, and environments. Nature serves as a rich, diverse palette that can teach us about color theory and its application in our lives. Color significantly affects human emotions and should be consciously used in personal and architectural spaces. Kimberly's field guide offers a practical method for documenting and understanding color experiences in nature. Tweetable Quotes "Nature is the source for everything, and that's where we learn the most about what's important to us as humans in this great cosmos." – Kimberly Collins Jermain "Explore outdoors and find where your interests lie and how color makes those interests more lively and important to you." – Kimberly Collins Jermain "It doesn't really have to be called a hike if you don't wanna call it a hike. Just find ways to enjoy using the resources that we have in our environment." – Kimberly Collins Jermain